Correct and incorrect approaches

Good afternoon perverse miscreants,minions,and mindfucked meat. It appears to me that it is time to revisit a few points as I continue to receive undesirable communications in the form of email and IM,which needs be addressed in order to set straight the errors many of you are committing. Do save yourself from the shame of being deemed an absolutely detested dumbass in my eyes. Take careful note of the do's and do not's listed.

I shall enlighten you with a few examples.

"Hey babe I would luv ta worship dat pussy heres a pic of my cock lemme know when you are down to play"

"I aint got no money but I would do anything for you to serve you good"

"I do not pay to serve but I will clean your home buck nakeed and your pantys with my tongue every day"

"I gots 20 for cam play"


Now fuckfarts do you grasp why I display such marked reserve when speaking with most of you? If those above whom contacted me had taken the time to peruse my FAQ section,then they might not have made asses of themselves contacting me with their chosen sentiments and requests now would they?

"I have enclosed a tribute Goddess for your time,and would enjoy nothing more than learning best how to please you"

"Upon reading your blog Mz Sydney I am floored by your beauty and intellect and wanted to convey my appreciation in the form of an amazon gift card and beg an audience with you at a time of your choosing"

The above males were ones whom were given the opportunity to speak further with me as they displayed respectful sincerity. Which category shall you fall within I wonder?

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"He's a little runaway"

It is phenomenally abyssal when you take the time to add up the number of boys whom bolt when it comes time to commit to serving. I see females asking all of the time "why, why, why?" It tends to knock at the ego if it is a repeating cycle of concurrence. The self doubt will creep in beseeching for an answer in order to alleviate the fear that she is doing something wrong. I mean it is human nature to blame another when possible right, so it could not conceivably be the woman at fault could it? Not entirely accurate, atleast not each and every time.

Reasons and explanations as to why this action occurs vary and merge at times in each case, so in order for me to convey the truth which I myself estimate to be feasible, then the blinds must be raised, and the curtains thrown wide open for public viewing.

Studies and research have proven to us that there is an entire segment of males whom suffer from a commitment phobia, and that my reader is reflected well within the scene by the sheer number of "sluts" and "community whores" which we see daily. They cannot or consciously will not remain under a Domme's thumb when they begin to feel as if they could become attached. The rules for engaging this type of male are a tricky road to tread. The most prudent course of action is to recognize the signs early within the interaction which should be revealed when questioned as to past service length and an accounting as to why their term was severed,and by whom. (hint) They tend to place the disintegration of the relationship squarely upon the Domme's shoulders they were in service to rather than upon their own actions or lack thereof. This class of boy may indeed be fun to play for a limited interim, but beware if you harbor presumptions that you may be the one to change them, for unless you are a therapist, then you are slamming your head against a brick wall (ouch).

Another scenario is the one where things are moving at a speed rival to the arrival of light. I am sure that all know what I am referring to. How easily a male falls in lust, not love mind you (entirely different animal for flogging). Their wank flapper gets riled and we are off to the races so to speak. One minute they are promising eternal devotion,and voila the next day they have flown away with puff the magic dragon. This sort is best handled in a calm and detached manner sans allowing their desires to spiral the situation out of your control, otherwise they will behave in future towards you as they would a blind date their mother sat up (polite, distant, and unequivocally uninterested).

Onto the next type. Hard to believe that a certain set of boys actually seek out a D's relationship which is not based solely upon the "fin" side. This is not to say that they do not tribute or have value to a Domme, but if you are strictly a cash counter, then they are going to run for high ground before falling prey to the quicksand.

Now comes the fantasy fellow. His words speak to his intent to become the epitome of servitude perfection (hint) perfection can be trained, but never attained within a day. His goal exists to his benefit only. You are his fantasy which he spins out until it no longer amuses him to play the role...then guess what!! He sneaks away like a thief in the night with your best silver.

Last but not least are the timid toms which expediently note the realization that a Domme does not fit the jello mold of their expectations, and they lack the balls to relay such information, so they pull a Gregory Hines move, and tap dance with excuses off the stage.

The key note of importance to take to heart is that not all males are created equal.

                      Accept and embrace your place in this lifetime,at my feet in adoration.

Stand and serve

Obviously it is a normal desire within the human psyche to want to be somebody. To matter to another. To be a part of something bigger than ourselves.

A submissive male carries the same yearnings, yet with a tangible twist. A craving to become lost within the commands and control of a dominant. An abiding need to belong to One. No longer alone, but consumed by the fires of a fierce personality.

To many within the findom world this appears to be an easily accomplished task, yet is it? There comes a time where illusions must be stripped away though to reveal what it really takes to belong, to be owned, to know what it is to truly become submissive to another being. Shall we dispel some of the major misconceptions?

You cannot buy your way into heaven much less into being owned period. If you could, would it be worth it? An empty unearned honor. Of course the fact that finances are involved leads some to this misguided belief. If all findom was based upon was money, then every male with two nickels to rub together would be property, yet we all know this is not factual now don't we? It takes so much more than physical currency to become that which a servile male is meant to be. Expecting to sit upon your dead ass dick in hand while you fork over the cash will never be enough.

Like all things in life worth having, becoming owned is a challenge, no easily paved road. A presence of mind which drives you to your limits physically, mentally, and emotionally. How is any human being to appreciate a relationship which has not been worked towards? They simply will not. The ones that do come easy are most times taken for granted and undervalued which leads to their ultimate destruction.

Success in service is based upon your will to succeed. You know that old saying "no guts, no glory"?  It applies quite well in this instance, for if you are not willing to go all in, then you need to go home. A half ass application will produce nothing of value. The words I relay are not hidden ancient secrets ferreted away like those of the dead sea scrolls just now playing out in the light of day. These are notations that all with a semblance of intelligence should know, so come forth and prove by your actions that you are driven to submit your will, your ego, your sense of self to the pinnacle of subservience.

I know that people hold faith in the saying that good things come to those whom wait, but I tell you now that it is most often what we feared doing and held off that becomes our dearest regret. Circumstances and fate do come along to bite us in the ass if we dither, so I bid you swallow the bitter bile of fear, and rise up to meet your destiny which is solely as a vassal to a superior Domina.

Kneel,pray,obey

It has been a hectic week,yet not as fruitful as I desired...you need to work on that boys.

Truth be known I have been interviewing bulls the last few days which has exhausted me mentally. How was I to know the extent of stupidity which would be foisted upon me?? I had thought that dealing with males outside of the scene to fill this role would provide a pleasant diversion from the ordinary dick obsessed trite I encounter day in and day out within the fetish world,oh how wrong I was with that train of thought.

My attractions tend to stray towards alpha type males when it comes to occupying my bed,and for some reason this always leads to encountering over inflated male egos(ugh). What is it about the y chromosome psyche which lends them the assumption that being a dick and having one are synonymous?

The major issue I have encountered other than my sense of selection is the lack of adherence to safety standards. I mean seriously, only a down trodden whore is going to allow just any piece of meat to deposit body fluids within them. I cannot count how many times I had to make it known that no I do not bareback strangers. I wonder if most males have a brain in their head or not. Practical thought processes would alert even a dumbass to the fact that stds are rampant in this day and age,therefore why would I risk bringing home a lifelong reminder?

Good news though, I have found one whom meets my eye candy requirements as well as acceptance of playing safe. The best part being that he as well agreed to me filming the entire experience for a special real time cuck in my life whom has paid dearly for the privilege of viewing it :D

Now that I have that settled thankfully,I shall be able to spend more time tormenting and torturing the rest of you!!

Initial results from playing around with a program

Who is an insta?

Warning,this post is comprised of my thoughts,views and opinions,which may not coincide with those of the average reader of findom articles.

After reading through the comments section on a dose post the other day one comment caught my attention by hex kitten that inspired me to write up a piece myself regarding the term "insta" Domme.

What is an insta Domme, or perhaps a more pertinent question would be, who is an insta Domme? The word insta is a term, an adjective, and an insult spoken with a vile vehemence not unlike that of the despised "timewaster".  It is slightly more offensive to be coined an insta,than it is to be accused of being a male posing as a female.

Why is one such as this reviled? Could it be due to their actions setting the tone and blackening the opinions of those outside the fetish peeking in? Findom as a whole is vastly misunderstood with the bdsm community comparing the Dommes whom embrace the fetish as money grasping prostitutes. This myth is in part perpetuated by the posts, blogs, and tweets we read each and every day which incorporate behaviors that align with one whose sole means of income is sitting along the curb with a tin cup. Begging is degrading no matter how you desire to explain it. Ask yourself this, do you honestly believe that people have any respect for the downtrodden asking for spare change, or do they secretly scoff at how pathetic they are? Humans beings are not always known for their compassion now are they? I myself have seen posts where females have indeed made it known that they are themselves living life in such a way, and this is how strangers form the basis of their opinions regarding financial domination. Does this define a female as being an insta though? Can a poor lady not have a cash fetish?

Actions and deeds or lack thereof are the measuring stick of who becomes labelled and who escapes it. The general consensus I have taken note of is that there is more than one way to fall into the category. Some would condemn any female new to the scene whom is lacking any type of domination experience as an insta, while others may assign it to the ladies who came along after watching a certain british program that we have all heard of hence the rinsing term,  not to mention being applied to cam girls offering findom as well.

So now I ask of you the reader what is your definition of an insta? Is it a female that merely desires money (keep in mind that ALL FinDommes desire cash)? Is it a female that disappears after the session ends (forget not that this is what most males do as well)? Is it a female that needs rather than wants the money (do you work all week at your job because you need or just want your paycheck)?

Irregardless of why and who you as a member of this scene declare an insta do not allow yourself to believe that they have no place in findom. Some would argue that such females are cutting into their bottom line...taking money out of their pocket, but are they really? Think about it this way. They are the ones dealing with fetish males whom have nil intentions towards serving in any financial capacity as well as those that are here for the flesh flashing, so in the end if they do make bank does it affect your bank balance? Ladies that have invested time and effort into their skills and level of domination are not going to feel the adverse reaction from the presence of the instas, in fact it in many ways elevates their status.

In conclusion I remind all not to waste your judgement in haste of those whom you have no knowledge of. You never know, and it is possible that those you condemn might actually evolve into a Domme of distinction someday.

Slightly on the mend today,but far from 100%. Many of you may have noted my most recent absence from posting here,which is due to me being on bedrest this week. Definitely has not placed me in a pleasant frame of mind,but one positive aspect is that it enabled me time and perspective as to how I wish to handle the route which I have traversed within the lifestyle.
Due to the complexity of life and the day to day responsibilities I carry, it is not often that I am able to spend a block of time reflecting upon what has been,and how this shall alter my actions in the future in regards to how I train,and whom I shall allow at my feet,so even when ill there can be positives to be found if you merely look for them!
More to come later when I am back up to par.