Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Why be a monkey

For the ladies just starting out I know how confusing this online world of fetish can become. You are full of trepidation and unsure of how to present yourself in order for the genuine submissive males to flock to your side for service. Unfortunately many fall into the monkey see,monkey do protocol. I can see the confused frowns now,so allow me to elaborate. What are the most common views on sites? The tits and ass parade of course. Doubt me? Take a peek at the myriad of sites on the net. What is the most prevalent imagery? Yup it is tits and ass,regardless of the gender,it is all we see these days. Now ask yourself,do I want to be like everyone else,or do I want to set myself apart? You will not gain notice if you are just another one of the crowd.

Consider this first,do you really want a male serving you because of your party poppers? We all know how flighty fetish males can be with their loyalty to begin with,and appendages will not enslave them for long,for there are thousands of tits and asses on parade before them daily. I am not saying that you cannot or should not display your goods for the world at large if that is your desire,after all it is all about what you want to do,but I am saying that if that is all you have to offer,then your exchanges will be vapid,and empty of meaning just like sugar free jello(ick).

How else can you be different? Hmm well you can definitely stay away from constantly calling unknown males losers(that word is overrated and overused within the findom scene),and believe me that it is not going to catch anyone's attention if you are doling out free humiliation,oh I take that back,it will bring out the broke boys,and they are not the ones worthy of your time. Last but not least,do not develop the fuck you pay me attitude. It is a ploy that works for so very few,that it may actually hinder your ability to attract the paying type of submissive.

The best way to draw submissives to you,is to focus upon yourself. Cease worrying if you will ever have a male serving you,and for pete's sake do not ever chase them. You are better than that. There is a difference between being aggressive,and being desperate. Recognize it. Take your time,and enrich yourself with every bit of knowledge out there to aid in your personal growth as a Domme. Becoming the best you possible is the flame which will bring the moths. Hone your knowledge of bdsm,and sharpen your skills in order to bring a Domme of worth to the table.


Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Tuesday, June 17, 2014

How to lose your Domme

I have quite recently released a sissy boi from my service,and thought that I would do a blog about how not to behave if you desire to remain under my consideration.

To begin with this boi already had odds stacked against him as he is married,which is generally a turn off for me,but as he pleaded so politely,I decided to go against my grain and take him on for consideration. Now many of you may think that a married male is more stable,and has proven that he is able to commit,but that is a myth. This boy was unable or deliberately opted not to hold me as the main priority in his life(no he did not have children)...instead he placed himself and his spouse upon a pedestal,thereby relegating me below them(big fat NO NO).

He refused to perform assigned tasks(no they were not ones discussed as limits). His excuse being that he was not sure that his spouse would approve,as well as he did not care to do it. The only tasks that he would execute were those that he enjoyed. This issue was brought to his attention by me,but there were no positive changes enacted upon his part. This became strike 1 for him as part of serving me involves sacrifice(meaning doing things that are not always what you want to do).

He repetitively forwarded cl ads to me from individuals which dwelled within a reasonable distance from him(he begged to be my cocksucking whore),yet when I would interact with the posters of the ad in an attempt to set up a meet,he would suddenly have something come up to negate such plans,then turn around and send more ads. I did ask if this was merely a fantasy which he desired to be kept as such,yet he continued to relay that it was indeed something he wanted in reality. Strike 2 as I had provided him an out when I queried if it was truly a "want" for him.

I recently took a vacation,and relayed to him that I would be online few and far between,so I requested his cell number for texting and photo sharing(he had been serving for 3 months at this point),and he ignored my request. Strike 3.

Once I returned from vacation I made him aware that I had came back to Kansas,and received no response from him for 2 days. I then questioned if there was an issue I needed to be aware of...again no response,only to hear back from him a day later whining that he felt like I did not care about him enough.

Now ask yourself this bois,if you do not place your Domme first in your life,and if you refuse tasks and requests,then fail to communicate,would you honestly expect her to give a flying rat's ass about you? Hopefully none of you possess that level of ignorance. Needless to say I have written this male off as selfish,self-centered,entitled thinking rubbish. Learn from this bois mistakes by correcting your behavior if any of the above mentioned acts appear to be a reflection of your own,because heed me well little ones,losing your Domme is not a thing of happiness.