Sunday, January 25, 2015

No need for free chat



This post may conflict with the opinions and approaches of some,but diversity makes us beautifully unique :)

The debate has always been ongoing whether or not a male should tribute prior to speaking with a Domme,and for me I would respond with a resounding YES. Now I can hear some of you boys groaning,"but oh I need to get to know you,to see if we have a connection",and I am calling BS.

Here is the thing. Serving a Domme is hard ass work from the get go,which means that you need to bring your A game. Before you ever think of approaching a Domme,you NEED to do some legwork.

***Read,read,read.*** Why do you think any Lady takes her precious time to compose a lucid and personally insightful profile? She is being kind enough to provide you with valuable instructions as to how she expects to be served,as well as relevant data such as her likes and dislikes. This information is the basis of how you should be forming your resolution of whether to kneel before her. I mean if she has stated that she does not care for sph,and that is your favored fetish,or even the very reason you are seeking a Domme,then surely you are intelligent enough to realize that she is not the one for you right???? It doesn't matter how ripe the fruit is,or how sweet it's juices are if it is not the type of fruit you are craving,make sense? The surest way to get "ripped" off is by judging a book by it's cover don't ya know? Peruse the contents over and over.

Here is the number one problem with profiles though. You boys are not reading them. Oh you say you are,but truly you aren't. Everyone knows that males are visual,so even when you do take a gander at a profile,your eyes comprehend nothing beyond the pretty pecker pulsing pictures. Ya ya ya not 100% of you are wired that way,but it is pretty damn close,so you are not learning anything about the femme in particular other then her body gives you a stiffy,and that is not going to be enough to form a lasting connection.

Answer me this boys,if there were absolutely no pictures on a profile,would you even click on it? Sometimes I wonder if any of you are literate at all...and fear that our educational system left you behind.

If you actually have a brain,use it. Use it to recognize that you are going to have to put forth some effort. It will be worth it in the long run. Once you are able and willing to sit down and read every single word on a profile,then you can make an informed decision about a possible connection. It does not take a rocket scientist to figure out if you have things in common with a Lady (fetish wise),so when you do locate one that meets with what you seek,then have your tribute prepared,and sent before you take up her time.

You may say,"well what if she does not accept me,or I did not like what she had to say,and then I am out my money",well you did not lose anything. All you did was display that you are a gentleman whom appreciates the value of a Lady's time,and she will remember that,and you with a smile,which may come in handy someday when other Ladies are asking about you.

The entire point being that before you type out an initial greeting to  Domme,you should already know all about her,and if you want to serve her,so there is no reason not to have your tribute sent,well not unless you are one of those piss poor broke creatures,and in that case,do the fin fetish scene a favor,and go away...go very far away.......farther and farther til you cannot see the findom sparkly lights anymore,then keep on trucking :)
Pray&Obey

Sunday, January 18, 2015

meat and potatoes please

It requires a male of exceptional quality to come under my consideration. I do not want to own them all or even a quarter of the males I see the likes of day in and day out. The privilege of being owned,and of owning merits more thought than a one night stand,you know the old game of dick is hard,dick is ready,lets just play real quick,nothing steady? I have never been a fb or fwbs type of gal,so why would I lessen my expectations in any area of my life? I wouldn't. Being true to myself is how I keep it real.

I understand that some simply are not mature enough or capable enough to commit to anything beyond a one tribute fling,and hey that is fine so long as all parties are agreeable to it,but baby I want the meat and potatoes,not just an appetizer when it comes to being served. Call me greedy,but what is the point of getting into it,if I am not going to "have it my way"? Yes I adore cash and gifts,but they do not fill my plate full. Being served,feted,adored,revered,and worshiped are the toppings on my D's cake,and believe me when I say that I have a demanding sweet tooth.

When I say that "I want it all" I mean more than the contents of your wallet,or the limits of your credit card. Do not get me wrong,cause I will expect your all in the financial arena,but I will not tolerate any less in other areas either. Service is more than the sum of your bank account,but it is not less than the devoted tribute you lay before my sovereignty. There is not domination without financial,and in the same coin,financial without domination is not half so filling. This is why "I want it all"

It is not enough to mouth the words,to type the correct terminology. You have to mean it,to live it. Anything less is just going through the motions of a fantasy which I did not script. Share with me the words which make your mind and soul stretch,not your dick. Make of your life what you will,but at the end of the day keep it real,cause a sticky dick cannot compare to a the bliss of a long term total power exchange,and that is the meat and potatoes!

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Today was a rather dreary day work and weather wise,but the sun did come out to shine upon me around 11am when I heard a knock on my door
and what was in that box made me happy happy happy !!
I so wanted these boots,and good boy les showered his Goddess in adoration by gifting her with them. Looking at them you would not know how super comfy they are to wear,not to mention looking badass :) I am going to be feeling the smexy when I bust these out for our next rt play date...be jealous fuckers,cause only those that worship me as I deserve are honored with being at my feet in person.

Monday, January 12, 2015

Profiles can make or break a boy

I was inspired to type this up due to a piece I had read by Goddess Lea in which she touched upon the subject of a boy's profile and how it can influence an approach or a bypass,which I am choosing to expand upon regarding my own personal views.

I am always looking at profiles,males and females,just because lol. I have viewed tons of male profiles,and skirted away from ever interacting with some due to what I have seen or read there. I am positive that it could not be merely little old me that judges whether I would like to know a person based on what is on their profile.

One of the things that I bet most males do not realize could be a deterrent is if they have a ton of friends. It could just be that you are friendly,or that you want to have access to private photos which are set to friends only for some,or that you are not here to serve because you are broke,but it makes you feel important to have so many "friends",or even that you engage in that odd behavior of just collecting friends like some people do pez dispensers. Is that a fetish?

I also look at who their friends are and seek patterns. Now if all of their friends are brunette,does that not tell me something? Just as,if all of their friends are of a younger generation than I ,does that not relay something as well? These are both clues as to the fact that we are not going to mesh well.

The ones which really send up red flag warnings are those that are blank and non-verified,for this is indicative of sloth,and a lack of respect for the site and fetish. Surely it does not take that long to type up a couple of sentences,they need not even be full ones at that,not to mention that a non-verified status especially if you have been here longer than a couple of weeks just screams I am too cheap to support my fetish,or worse yet BROKE(yuck). In a fetish based upon financial,being cheap or broke likens you to a leper,get my drift,but then if you joined with the agenda of peeking and perving whilst pulling your pud,then enjoy your free time til your account becomes frozen :)

Onto ratings. You know those stars on your info page,whelp they mean something to those of us whom have been around awhile,and yes I always take note of them. If you have 20 1 star ratings I am sure as hell not going to place any faith in your ability to serve. This is not to say that you will never peev someone off and end up with a poor rating,but multiples are a no no. The best way to avoid this downfall is to remain honest and true. Never over promise,and most certainly never under deliver,last but not least,NEVER cancel orders,or make a promise which you cannot nor intend to keep. Your word is your bond baby.

The most icky(yes I used that juvenile verbiage) aspect of any profile is generally the photo section when it comes to males. For all that is holy man,women do NOT want to see your pecker or your puckered arsehole(personally it makes bile rise in my throat). Keep that shit under cover. Do not employ the site as a means to obtain free humiliation. If you just have to flash your equipment,do us all a favor and do it in public,that way you will be arrested,and unable to log into the site from the grey bar motel.

And finally if you are under consideration or owned,do your handler the honor of placing her name on your profile,lest someone think you a liar,but of course no male has ever lied about being owned when he wasn't now have they,ya right, so show pride in the fact that someone actually thinks you are of value to serve.

The gifts keep rolling in from my brat

Gifts I received yesterday and today courtesy of a gift card from my brat yay me!!

Friday, January 9, 2015

Spoiling me is not an option but rather a privilege

*Happy Dance* Goddess is pleased as punch! Little pet les just purchased the boots I wanted so badly from my wish list.



Now that is the action of a good pet. One that sees to my wants rather than his own greedy demands,so raspberries for those of you that did not even beg to gift me with them as you should have from the moment you knew I wanted them.

To top off my happiness,I mentioned to my brat that I so wanted a dress and cosmetics from Macys to which he immediately begged to buy them for me,and of course I allowed him to as a reward for his good behavior of late. Aren't I sweet :)
Late posting today oops...got way too busy :p

I did receive a couple of more gifts from my brat in the post today
Always such a good boy for his Goddess!! Now I can add the vera wang forever scent to my growing collection,and brat should be by this weekend to put up the new wall decal in the cylinder yay!

Even though I have had a million and one things to get done today despite the cold ass temps outside,I did make time to set up plans for a rt session at the end of the month with a male that has served me almost 2 years,how lucky is he,although I am keeping a tight lid on my plans for him that day lol

Don't forget boys to show your appreciation via amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com

Thursday, January 8, 2015

After much begging,Goddess finally set up a skype account listed under mzsydney34,but this tool is not for free chat,so if you are not planning on $erving me,then do not bother. You can thank me with amazon gift cards.

Monday, January 5, 2015

Gentlemen always display appreciation for the guidance and wisdom of a Lady's words.

A difficult feat

Patience patience patience. A simple word,but a difficult feat to accomplish. Take a look at any forum where FinDommes gather,and what will you see besides the gauntlet of ads once must skirt through? Inevitably there will be a lonely little post posing the query "where are all of the Dommes/subs at" This is not contained to a single site. It is everywhere in the fetish scene. Predominantly though in the findom field. Why,well because in this arena females outnumber the males exponentially,and the ones whom actually do tribute and serve are snatched up like starving beggars who have found a dumpster full of food,not to mention that the Dommes are becoming jaded due to being overrun by fetish clients rather than servile submissives,so be prepared to wait patiently until you are approached or approach one that meets your personal criteria and standards,and for farks sake do not base your criteria on how full the wallet is,or how hot the ass is.

Possessing the attribute I mentioned will over time yield the desired results you crave,trust me. Scampering,scurrying,and pestering every male or female you see joining the sites is NOT going to get you anywhere,unless that is you enjoy being thought of as a desperate hoser(doesn't sound like an attractive adjective does it)? Yes they have said for centuries that the early bird gets the worm,and that you must be aggressive to get anywhere in the world,but I ask you this,did you ever hear the one about the meek inheriting the earth? What I take from the previous adage in regards to findom is that awaiting your prey to come to you is sweeter and more lucrative than wasting your energy chasing after something which may result in a bitter taste on your tongue when you find out that it was not something meant to be,and for you boys,being meek and humble will definitely set you apart in regards to worth compared to all of the horny wank off wallys.

Patience does not mean the advocacy of being a wallflower or like a beetle hiding in a knot hole on the wall,nor does it mean acting like you are a bull in the arena rushing at every (Domme,sub) you see. Patience,dignity,and perseverance are the traits of one whom possess the staying power required to maintain until you are at last in the home stretch of developing a meaningful connection.

Now some of you are saying "this just ain't me,or how I roll",and that is fine,cause it is not a secret that those out for a quick wank or buck will always show their colors by their lack of patience,so go ahead and make your intentions known to the community at large by your actions,but keep your lips sealed when you find that no one of serious intent wants to play with you.

Sunday, January 4, 2015

quick notation

Submitting is about completely letting go and fully surrendering yourself to domination. Holding back,or going at it tepidly cheats everyone. If you are indecisive,it is you that will lose out. Of course it can be a stomach dropping decision,but just as one does when riding a roller coaster,throw up your arms,and enjoy the experience whilst embracing the sheer exhilaration factor.

Of course there will be ups and downs,that is with any relationship in life,and yes even in a D's one you must be realistic. There may be moments,hours,or even days where you simply have so much going on in your life that submission is the last thing on your mind,and this is when you need to just breathe and be honest with whomever you serve about your mindset and situation. The worst thing to do is to disappear. Relationships are hard work,never forget that. Yes it all seems so easy in the beginning when your lusty hormones are in overdrive,but that does fade in time,and that is when the work begins in earnest.Nothing in life is worth a tinkers darn if you have not earned it,so be prepared to put in some effort.


Saturday, January 3, 2015

figment of fancy

What I want is simple or so I mistakenly thought. Why is it that the knowledge of what I desire frightens so many of the male sex? This is something I pontificate upon with regularity,although the answer is not as complicated as I make it to be.

Let us begin with what exactly it is that I seek. Well it isn't your cock or your orgasm that's for sure. What I want are submissive gentlemen that crave more than a moment's release of pleasure. Ones that envision nirvana as me. A realm where I exist as their Goddess. The deity whom they adore more than any other,not as a figurehead for their fleshy erection.

A relationship where servants come to my feet willingly,and with gratitude that I allow it. Not an alliance where one is taxed,and forced into laying their best before me. Something tangible beyond the flesh. Do males such as this exist? Are my expectations and hopes beyond the fetish reality? Truly are submissives such as I describe extinct or a mere figment of my imagination?

Is it beyond a credible belief that a Goddess accepts nothing less than your all? Is there nothing left but the cold sterile meat mangling behind the one way screen? How sad if that is so.

I could sit at my desk typing all day bemoaning the fate I see,yet that would change nothing for me,nor for you,but so long as their is a sliver of possibility that a creature as I described dwells within the scene,then I will continue to await his presence being made known to me.

Steady the course



I have been pondering the course of this blog for quite some time now. Like all blogs I get the main statistics for my viewers,but I have to wonder how many submissive males actually peruse my words,or merely take advantage of my generosity with photos. The conclusion I reached is that most of my posts are used as educational tools for females rather than a driving force which ensnares my prey. Of course this is not exactly the outcome I envision when I am pouring myself into this blog.

I recently asked for feedback from male submissives & random contacts,and the results were interesting to say the least. The information I received was that 1)As soon as the majority of males note that I enjoy the findom fetish they are bolting for safer(free) territory,but the joke is on them seeing as even purely lifestyle Dominas expect gifts and what not,so inevitably training is NOT free anywhere,except in the imagination of femdom porn viewers. 2)That my firm adherence to standards and manners is overwhelming,even frightening to some,and all I can say to that is "Get over it". I hold the behavior of those that serve me to the same level as any male I would meet on the street ie no I do not want to be flashed,catcalled,or objectified. Hmmm guess that makes me an uber scary bitch huh.3)Timewasters pick up on the fact right away that I am no newbie falling for tired tactics. YAY

 Is any of the data upsetting to me. No. I knew from the get go that my style was not going to sit well with the usual fetish client fanatics,and I am good with that. The one thing that continues to tweek my ass though is the amount of lazy disrespect I deal with on a daily basis. Seriously does it take that much effort to read a profile? I read them,and I know that you surely do not believe yourself so very superior to me that you have no need to do so.

I cannot count how many times I have been contacted by an unknown male begging to serve,just to flip out when he sees that I do not offer free training,and I ask myself how could he be surprised since it is listed in every one of my profiles. Oh and the numerous pleadings to be my maid,my sextoy,my bf...astounds me as this is clearly conveyed as well that I possess no desire for such,yet it goes on every day. I am not sure who is smacking you boys with the stupid stick,but honestly you need to avoid them.

The final realization I reached is that I am not about to change my style or approach for anyone,and I do mean anyone. If you do not care for my fetishes,that is A OK,but that does not mean that I give a rat's ass for your negative opinion regarding it,so keep your lips zipped,and move along in your elusive search for the big FREE. Oh and if I am wayyyyy toooo scary for little old you,then hide your head under the covers,cause I am definitely not going to be creeping after you. Point being,it's a new day,and that means that I am just going to automatically block any that come at me with offers to serve in any manner which is not pleasing to me,and yes that includes those that feel they are too good,entitled,or special to tribute,so don't be shocked when it happens to you :)

Now if you are one of the rare gentlemen out there whom accepts,respects,and seeks out a Lady of elite class to serve,then you need not worry,for I am most welcoming of sincerity,integrity,and manners.

Friday, January 2, 2015

No better way to start the day then by gazing at my beauty...now be a good little pet and display your appreciation with a tribute.



Thursday, January 1, 2015