let the chase begin

As the title suggests I am going to talk about chasing. What exactly is chasing when it comes to the findom fetish,why it occurs at times,and possible long term effects from chasing.

Chasing in my opinion is when a female is going after males,any male maybe even every male. They besiege them with messages,some even with a tone that would not be considered dominant at all. Waiting for a servant to approach is bypassed altogether.

This goes on for a few possible reasons. a)Someone is desperate for money,which leads them to seek out any and all possibilities of receiving it,therefore they will jump into any inbox. b)Insecurities: One needs to hear from all that they are the best,so they will actively seek out their fix. c)Sheer competitiveness:Generally I think of this behavior when it comes to males,but I have and do see it playing a role in findom today. It appears that a mindset of "I must have the most sycophants,the most tributes to brag about,my collar on the most males"

Taking into consideration the state of the male ego and entitlement which runs rampant in society as a whole,how does chasing create lasting effects? To begin with,it provides males with an overwhelming sense of worth and inflated ego,for surely they must be special if all these women are chasing after them,I mean seriously think about it. For instance consider the average male,he makes mediocre pay,well hopefully enough to pay his bills,with unremarkable attractiveness physically,and the personality of an inert rock,BUT he can log into a findom site,or forum,and suddenly he is pursued like a movie star. His inbox is full of females wanting to own him,to have him serve them,so really is it all that surprising that he begins to think that he is THE SHIT? How will this teach him to treat femdoms,much less women in general? Do you think that it empowers them in his viewpoint,or does it further entrench patriarchal teachings?

I will say this. I know what it is to have,and what it is to have not,so please do not consider that I hold myself above other women,for I do NOT. I have put in long hours of hard work professionally to get where I am(and no findom is not my job),to feel secure financially,so yes I do comprehend what it is to need money,but if it comes at the cost of self respect,then is it worth it? For some the answer may be yes,and to you I say,do what you gotta do,but always be aware that your actions do affect others. What you do online is seen by others,and to those looking in from the outside of the findom scope,yours may be the only basis they form their opinion upon,so they will paint all with the brush you have shown them.

If insecurities ride you into the chase,why is that? Who has made you feel less than awesome? If you seek your validation externally,you are ALWAYS going to be disappointed. Knowing your worth comes from knowing that you are worthy :) so by God look into your mirror and see the beauty reflected,peer into your soul and praise yourself,embrace that mind of yours,and know that you are smart,and that you do not need anyone else to tell you what you yourself already know.

If a sense of competition is what drives you,I ask you to consider why it does. Who is it that has conditioned females to believe that they must be the prettiest,the smartest,the best at everything to be worthy...men of course,and do you truly want men controlling your actions,even on a subconscious level? Does that sound like feminine empowerment to you? If you would apply that drive to uplifting other women,you just might find yourself making a difference towards how women are viewed and treated in society,and that is the most profound impact upon the future we can hope for as strong confident women.

My intentions for this post are not to bust male ass or ego(well not all of them anyway),but rather to point out that we as women do not need to chase males. They will come to you,if you just let them. If you show them by your words and deeds that service to you is the "prize",the "reward",and by making them actually work for it,then they will esteem you all the more.

Misunderstood and maligned

Findom,findom,findom...what is this fetish? That is me putting it kindly,for many from the outside looking in do not even deem findom a fetish at all. They claim it to be a scam where money hungry women prey upon hapless and helpless forlorn for attention little male souls. What they fail to do is actually delve far enough into the scene to see exactly what occurs though.

There is more than one type of male present in the findom realm. First we have the "player",now the player is out to get a nut off. He will finesse and finagle,barge and bulldoze,even lie his way into the inboxes of any female he sees,hoping for just a few precious seconds to bust out his weeny. Does this sound like a male who is being taken advantage of...surely not. He is more like a greedy gutless wonder of nature. Kinda difficult to take advantage of someone who is so focused on their own sexual gratification that they cannot have a care for the wants of others presiding over their own. Oh and just in case you did not notice,some of these types even mask themselves as male doms. Ever see the profiles of males claiming to be dominant whose only dialogue is about females getting them off? Yup them. To them bdsm is ALL about sex,and having their sexual wants met. Hmm who is using who there?? Some of you should don your capes and rescue those poor souls being used in such a manner.

Next we visit needy nellie..now nellie just might be the one who needs the aid of those who sympathize with what they call "victims". nellie is a black hole of need,someone,anyone pay attention to me. I don't care if it is good or bad,just lemme leech some of your time,cause my need is paramount to anything else in your life. I will message you 50 times a day,even if you do not respond,and lord help you if you do,cause I talk more than long lost friends gossiping on the phone. Secretly I need a kick in the ass,cause I never outgrew that phase of childhood where the whole world revolved around me...so please please please,rescue me!

Onto slutty sam. Hey hey I am mister fun guy. I am the life of the party. I cannot commit for one reason or another,so I flit from box to box,smelling the lovely aroma of all the beautiful belles of findom. I am generally a nice guy,and do indeed pay for the time and attention I receive,so I bring no harm,unless you get it into your head that I will stick around longer than it takes the sun to set upon a new day. sam needs the aid of no one,for eventually he will find the box where he finally settles down. He just wants to have some fun along the way,and definitely does not require a hero swooping down and carrying him far away from the evil schemes of cash grubbers.

The last type I am going to speak about(not that there is not more types though,just that my fingers are cramping :) is george the gent. Now george is a male who sees what it means to serve. He cannot conceive of a complete life that does not include being of service to a woman. He knows that he was born for such,and embraces it fully in a healthy manner. He craves only to please,and does so by gifting a woman with his finances. He has no qualms about ensuring that the Lady he has chosen to serve receives his best,and spending his excess of cash upon her is his way of contributing to her life in a positive manner. Wow he must need help. How dare women persuade and con males such as george into thinking that he is not born by his sex into the entitlement of a woman's attention just for the fact that he possesses a male member in his pants. How horrid is she to believe that her time is valuable,and should only be spent with those that truly appreciate it!! You best call out the bdsm police on her.

In conclusion I am NOT stating that there are not some women in the scene that do take advantage of males,or push beyond limits,but they are not the norm,so by painting all with the same brush,you are in essence displaying your own ignorance of the reality of findom...and who truly wants the world to know that they are lacking in intellect hmmmm?

I checked my list twice

Those of you that did nothing to enrich my Christmas...well you can visit someplace warm..cause any male that had been speaking with me before the holiday and did not send a gift is now banned from my divine attention! I have zero tolerance for selfish sots period. A male's duty is to please,and you FAILED..which means you meet the definition of a loser,sorry not sorry to see you go :)

Oh and thank you to those that employed their wallets to ensure my happiness on Christmas morn,you will surely be blessed to continue providing for my wants,lucky little bitches aren't you lol.

Moving along. I have been keeping a very close eye on where my time is best spent,and with that said,new males are going to have put extra effort into gaining my attention since I am backing away from sites and venues which serve no purpose for me. It is only logical that I focus my precious time where it is most appreciated.

Now since I have your attention,aren't these new socks from my brat too cute

Unfortunately it poured buckets and buckets of rain here all day,so my new mattress set was not delivered,and that is NOT making me happy,but you can change that by sending me lots and lots of amazon gift cards :) Now get to it!! I want to wake and shop all morning,so sign into your amazon account and send to mzsydney34@yahoo.com


DON'T ASK WHY,JUST DO AS YOU ARE TOLD LIKE A GOOD BOY

brat boy stepping up

Spending my day relaxing ahhhhh

Had a wonderful time last night with my brat boy shopping! he bought me a new mattress set for Christmas(won't be delivered til Saturday though :()
Along with a few amazon gift cards..he definitely made me a happy Goddess!

Now it is your turn to step up,what are YOU going to do to make my Christmas a happy one??

Why isn't your face beneath my foot

Crawl for me,and beg to smell the aroma of my sweat soaked feet!

Hmm seems like you forgot something...oh yes get those Christmas gifts of gratitude to me now. I want to see my inbox flooded with amazon gift cards.

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I WANT GIFTS!!

Make the season sparkle with amazon gift cards at my decadent feet

It is your job to supply the gifts under my Christmas tree

Keep my feet happy with lots of gifts

finsub that never fails

I mentioned to my real time boy that I was feeling a bit melancholic,so what does he do...immediately rushes out to purchase a sweet little gift for me,and drops it off with my favorite gift,CASH.

This is devotion,this is adoration,but most of all,this is a boy who honestly cares about my happiness. This is how it should be.

Will I or won't I make my departure

New socks from a gent whose admiration I never question,as I know that I am first in his heart,mind,and wallet.

The rest of you are an utter example of failure,for you care not about my happiness,wants,desires,or even me myself...so to you I relay that the clock is ticking,and my thoughts lead me to consider excusing myself entirely from online domination.

Adore me,worship me,make me your fetish

Gift me as a display of your adoration,your worship,and to feed my fetish

No box for me

I do not fit into the typical stereotype most males have boxed femdoms into. On a typical day you will not find me clad in leather,and heels,nor will you find me leading male pets around on a leash out in public...or any other activity you find in femdom porn. Note:Femdom videos came about in creation not to actually display reality femdom,but instead to tantalize the senses of males through their arousal thereby generating profits for their business,and a big money making business it is. One of the unfortunate side effects of viewing such media,is that now we have an entire generation seeing this as non-fiction,and it truly is not.

Femdom is not about clothing or scenes. It is about real interaction between two consenting adults,and day to day life is not conducive to the time consuming effort required to be fully made up,and clad as they are in the videos all day long caging males,fisting asses,and being this larger than life woman forcing males to enact the very fantasies that men have ejaculated to their entire lives.

Femdom is real,just not the real you imagine it to be. How do I know,well most likely due to me dominating males real time for the last 10 years. I know that I have a life outside of play,and that when I get home from work,that the last thing on my mind is recreating male flesh erecting fantasies. What does come to mind,and yes it happens...is that I expect a drink to be waiting for me beside my mail,and a warm pair of hands eager to rub my feet be waiting beside my desk as I check my emails. I also know that my satisfaction is the only satisfaction that matters to that gent rubbing my feet. If it didn't then he would not be there.

Being a femdom means that I lead the direction of the relationships I engage in,and yes I have more than one,and no they are not sexual in nature. I simply take great pleasure in having more than one gent in my service. These males have the honor of seeing me just as I am,no games of pretense. If I want to paddles their asses in my sweats then so be it,and if I feel like wearing latex while they lick my toes,well then that is what I do,but always on my terms,and never just because porn tells them that I should act this way,or dress that way to dominate them. Believe me when I say that I do not need $1000 pair of heels to bring a man to his knees,cause my naked foot kicking his groin will accomplish that deed much quicker. Get my drift?

So for the love of all that is holy,cease taking fiction as fact. Life is life,and the males in my service live it on my terms,not male dominated creation ones. Take this as a fact,I am not alone in my femdom mindset :)

Twinkle toes to worship with your wallet(click on pic to view video)

Twinkle #toes to worship with your wallet! #findom #femdom #footfetishnation #MzSydney #prettyfeet

A video posted by Mz Sydney (@mzsydney34) on Dec 7, 2015 at 11:01pm PST

Taste the sweetness(click the pic to view the video)

Lick the sugary sweetness from my savory #soles #feet #fetish #footlover #footfetishnation #femdom #findom #MzSydney

A video posted by Mz Sydney (@mzsydney34) on Dec 7, 2015 at 12:07pm PST

Making the cut

As adults we all know that to truly succeed at anything,you are going to have to work for it,and that definitely applies to becoming an owned submissive. When achievements especially those of great import come too easily to your hand,they are less likely to be fully appreciated,which is why I make those under my heel figuratively,ok sometimes literally lol sweat blood and tears to get to that acme tier of service.

I expect and accept nothing less than excellence. That does not mean that there will not be stumbles along the way,for a smooth ascent can only be golden when one falls a few times as they climb it. It instills pride knowing that one has striven and driven themselves to accomplish what they once thought the impossible,and this aids in creating a better person in the process,which is one of my goals for those who I call my own.

After all,I have no desire to have an actual loser in my stable. In my estimation a loser is one who fails to expend effort towards life at all. They are content to allow others to pave the way for them,and seek handouts at every opportunity. This is not the type of behavior that any owner would be proud of.

This post is especially directed at those that believe themselves above such expenditures,through either a sense of patriarchal entitlement,or a misplaced belief of superiority in their upbringing. When it comes to women,you as a male are entitled to absolutely nothing from us,and most definitely not from me. Even basic courtesy will be withheld if you do not portray yourself as a decent human being,and yes I have dealt with a few,maybe more than a few who act in such a manner. Women are not objects,and most certainly we are more than pretty pictures on a page. If you want to get to know a woman,to serve a Domme,then you are going to have to lose that ego that you wear on your shoulder,and accept that you are one of many that approaches daily. You need to stand out if you want to be taken seriously,which means that you will need to reach deep and find your humility,in order to come correct.

I am not intimating that one must be a doormat lacking all personality,well unless that is your thing of course,but please do be capable of holding up your end of a civilized conversation not peppered with fetish talk. There is always time to delve into the darker sides of desires,but that should not be at the forefront in an initial exchange. Be willing to prove yourself,your sincerity,and your integrity...this is what makes you shine like a diamond in the ruff.

Creature comforts

From the title you may freely assume that I enjoy creature comforts,and you would be correct. I like to be comfy,cozy,and all around at ease,yup I do. I enjoy soft woolly socks in the winter,and thin silky ones in the summer,and shoes that make my feet feel like they are walking on a cloud,which is why you see so very few photos of my feet in heels. Heels are pure torture on divine feet. They squish,they pinch,they simply hurt,and I don't enjoy the experience. That is why I make a point of announcing that I WANT more socks,and boots,and you as admiring gentlemen should be filling my inbox full of gift cards to provide for my desires,after all that is unless you are a selfish user just perving my words and photos for your own pleasure rather than with the pure intent of pleasing me. Which are you? The lack of gift card notifications tells me exactly which one you are. Fix that NOW!

My comfort should rank as a supreme priority in your estimation if you ever hope to attain a place in my graces. For quite awhile now a trend has been prevailing where you males believe that your wants are a deciding factor in service,they aren't. By that what I am saying is that your selfish dick designs need to be eradicated. Making your Goddess happy is what matters,rather than what makes your dicklette ooze. She > He and I > you. Come humble,come correct to my feet.

You and I both know that you fantasize about your tongue between my toes...wake up little foot freak...now get on worshiping the perfection of my feet with amazon gift cards.

real time findom spoils

My real time brat boy took me shopping tonight,and purchased some crazy cute socks,and a new silky soft comforter set which makes me want to purr like a kitten when it rubs against my skin!!

just no

Some of the things I see posted seriously sicken and alarm me,and no I am not referring to your prune faced pecker!

I am going to tell you something gents,placing a Domme before your parental responsibilities is NOT ok. For real,it is pathetic and deems you unworthy of a parental title,and I will leave off what comes to my mind when I think of any female harboring such an expectation,but believe me when I say that it is not good.

No matter your fantasy,reality is a trumper.

Now get your face over here cause I need a human foot rest for my wrinkled soles

Elite&Exclusive

If you have ever been on any of the sites I am a member of,and took a moment to look at my profile,one of the first things you would notice is that I keep my friend's lists exclusive,and rarely do you see a male included. The only males you ever see remaining on one of those lists are those that have served me well,and most times I do not even allow them that honor. One important thing for you boys to know is that my list is also a reflection of the fact that I am quite selective with whom I associate with,which in turn clues you into the fact that I am not a chaser. Meaning that I do not send friend requests to males,nor do I feel the desire to approach first,for if you crave to serve me,you will make yourself known to me,and the only way to make yourself known to me,is to TRIBUTE TRIBUTE TRIBUTE :)

Treat my FindomFeet

Treat my feet to a magnificently Merry Christmas by sending amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com!!

Straight up serious about my motivation

The reputation of findom gets blacker everyday sadly. I understand why,but that does not mean that I choose to like it,or even engage in the behaviors which soil it irreparably. Even I cannot right the wrongs :(

What I will do though,is to always be upfront and honest about my expectations and motivations.

*From day one I have maintained that to stand any chance at serving me,that a male must willingly tribute. Gifts make me happy,and that should be of supreme importance to any male hoping to be well received.

*I make no secret that I am not your bestie,and never will be. Friends are friends,and a Domme/servant relationship falls outside of that scope for me. That does not mean that I do not have manners or compassion,just that I do not muddy waters. Of course I develop deeper bonds with some over time,and display kindness,but never before you have proven yourself to me.

*I will never lie in order to gain a servant,nor will I offer services to entice a male.

*I will never ever allow my servants to see me nude,which includes photos(I do not trade them either).

*I am not all about making your cock happy,consider it a severe case of cock block :)

*I will always place my wants before you. Yes I have heard all about how a male's wants are of import,but to my way of thinking,your number one want,should ALWAYS be my happiness,therefore my wants are what should be striven towards. Stop thinking with the little head!

*I am all about control. It is a passion,and a purpose. If you cannot or will not relinquish it,then you will never serve me.

*I will NEVER meet with total strangers. No exceptions to my probation rule.


With all of that being stated,feel free to ask questions in regards to it.