Hello pets and pervs...
Today I received a mini-novella from a male in the very first message he sent me. This is an inept approach. Why?
- Does anyone seriously want to expend that much effort reading an initial outreach contact...I don't,but neither am I advocating blippy messages such as "hi" "how r u" "sup". Most times in my experience,long drawn out messages tend to be copy and past messages,where the sender sends this same message to every single female they happen upon,and this is insulting. Why? Well cause it is a)indicative of laziness b)plainly relays that the recipient is not worthy of a message crafted entirely for them alone.
- If the sender was truly considerate of the recipient,a tribute would have been attached with the lengthy missive,for time is a woman's most precious commodity,so who in their right mind would expect one to devote that much attention without at the least a token of appreciation for said time?
- Messages that are relayed to me detailing a male's life experience,goals,fetishes etc...are a red flag if conveyed right from the onset. Why? Because it tells me that this male is focused purely upon himself..what he wants,what he likes. Why is a male knowing what he wants bad? In most cases it is not,BUT when it comes to Femdom for me..it is all about me,and when I see that the priority is not ME..ya know how I feel about that! The correct approach would have been trying to ascertain what it is that I expect,what I require from a submissive male. That is definitely the best way to get your foot so to speak in the door.
In addition,do NOT offer to send explicit photos to a woman you know not from jane doe. Why?
- It is RUDE!
- It conveys the assumption that women actually want to see any aspect of you explicitly. How many times must males be told that women are not the visual creatures that males are??
- Try to remember that the person on the other side of the screen is a STRANGER!! Would you walk up to a woman in the supermarket and ask her if she wants to see explicit photos of you? If you are stupid enough to say yes,than you are far too ignorant for continued existence.
- You do not even know if you are contacting a male or female,so unless you get your kicks exposing your explicitness to either sex,keep in mind that males parade on sites as females all of the time.
After having read my explanations,do you understand where this male went wrong? Do you see how you should proceed? Did you learn anything? I sincerely hope so.
Sometimes less is more,and sometimes more is too much!
Welcome once again..
I am not seeking the ordinary..in fact what I await is the extraordinary. What exactly is extraordinary though in this favored fetish of mine? Extraordinary is the white elephant not present in the room.
In a scene overwhelming comprised of same old same old..it becomes a droll experience. I tire of the worn out words spilling from the fingertips of males with nefarious intent. How many times do you believe that you would agreeably read the same words over and over day in day out without evolving into a jaded being? How many times would you sit idly by listening to a fellow whom you recognize from the get go as one whose motivation is selfishly bent? How long would your patience hold out?
There comes a time when a critical thinking being realizes that ordinary is never going to be enough. Sure ordinary is safe..it is most likely reliable..but it is above all BORING,and boring chaps are swept away like rubbish..farewell and forgotten.
I demand something out of the ordinary. Be different..be not the same as every other lackluster lad out there. Come to me in abject humility..hat in hand so to speak. Come to me as my creature. Come to me shining intensely with the burning desire to submit yourself to my will,and my will alone.
Leave off what you once called service,for it was never that. You spoke lies,and burned down your bridges for the chance of one sordid stroke of the penis. Can you see now that what you were was never going to bring you anything more than a moment in time? Those times need to close the chapter once and for all. Open the cover and begin your journey anew.
Serving will bring you purpose. Service will bring you peace. This is where happiness lays in submission. Submission is to give of yourself,not for yourself,but in spite of yourself. It is the sacrifice which paints joy upon your soul. It is the unfettered,unadulterated bliss of mind,body,and soul when you reach the point where your motivation in service is altruistic..and this is what I require of you. I demand it, I command it, and only then will I claim it as my own.
Greetings pets..
Did you notice my absence from social media this weekend? I decided to take some time away to focus on me and my life *gasp*! Gosh can you believe that?
Seriously, I have truly felt as of late that those of you wandering into my inbox have my interests no where near in your motivations, much less as a focus, so no doubt that you missed me not at all. The amount of junk mail piled up in my inbox bears proof of that decree. Examples:1)I want to serve you so bad!!!!(all typed while penis pumping) 2)I would do anything for you Mistress (again with the hand humping) 3)I want to be your live in toilet slave (Seriously STFU with that nonsense)
These are just a few email examples of why I take days to myself, and leave the selfish shit you bowel beavers spew out.
I once had a fellow Domina relay to me that sharing any type of negative opinion of you males is a no no..but ya know what..I am just not that type of person. I have never been a polly sunshine gal..so no amount of faking it would make it true. Besides I feel that if you males desire to serve me, than you should be serving the real me, rather than some affected persona, and the real me believes in telling it like it is.
I refuse to kiss your ass or cater to your fantasies. That fails to align with my definition of femdom. Kissing your ass, and catering to your fantasies falls more in line with a service top, which I am not.
I am not even a femdom who seeks to promote female equality..in fact my aim is to conquer, and convert you poser submissives to female supremacy..after all it is closer to the divine.
There is no interest for me in interacting with males who simply pay lip service to the ideology in order to gain their 2 seconds of spunk wonder. I desire the service of males who embrace female superiority as rule of law in their lives outside of the internet.
I have always been very open about my requirements,so do yourself the favor of spamming someone else with your fantasies, cause I do not dwell in the land of fantasia. I base my style of domination and expectations of servitude upon reality folks..and in my reality, it is all about ME :)
Anyways...feel free to welcome me back with a big fat amazon gift card, cause you know that you owe it to me.
Hello to all who enter my domain..
So,on topic today gents is fwbs..or like the title suggests,friends with kinky benefits.
Apparently, lots of you males are really into the fwb scenario,why..well cause you personally only reap benefits from the situation. If you have been a follower of mine for very long,well you know that I am not about males benefiting(atleast not in the normally prescribed manner),or gaining physical pleasure from serving me. I am more of the suffer in fucking silence while you kneel before me,so fwb is dead in it's tracks at my altar if you are approaching it like you would in the nilla wafer way.
It is both amusing,and annoying dealing with such insignificantly poor valued offers from males. I benefit in no way from being "friends" with a male in the findom scene. I am not new to the rodeo,so you offering to "teach" me how to findom is not an option,nor do I desire male friends period(the straight ones always end up wanting to fuck me *gross*). I choose to offer and accept friendship with my fellow Femmes only. You as a male are inferior,so why would I opt for friends of lesser worth? The only value males add to my life is dollars in my account.
The only way you could be a fwbs to me is if you are willing to redefine it in accordance to my requirements. So,this is how it goes..you tribute,I benefit. You sacrifice,I benefit. You suffer,I benefit. Your tribute benefits you by affording you the opportunity to make me happy. Your sacrifice benefits you by allowing you to amuse me. Your suffering benefits you by gracing you with the chance to make me smile. Now that is what I call fwbs. Kinda kinky eh lol :)
This photo sums up my fwbs relationships with males
Welcome gents...
By now I have no doubt that you have all been told that in order for a dominant to be in control of a submissive they must first be in control of themselves,for if not,than they will not be able to responsibly be in control of another. It makes absolute sense yes? Of course it does.
It is a huge responsibility to take on the training,consideration,and eventual ownership of a submissive or slave,so if your own life as a dominant is in shambles,you need to sort yourself first and foremost prior to taking on that type of role. I am in full accord with this general consensus,for if your mind is divided,you cannot ensure that safety will not be compromised.
Here is a flip of the coin that does not garner as much attention,and truly it should. If you as a submissive or slave do not have your shit together,you do not belong either. There are some seriously unrealistic hopes and expectations placed upon dominants in bdsm.
Dominants are not
- licensed therapists(of course there are exceptions to that statement,but most of us are not equipped to treat and cure mental illness)
- knights on white steeds(we are human beings,not saviors,nor superheros)
- genies in a Domme bottle(we cannot be responsible for granting your every wish..that is your responsibility as a submissive..within reason of course)
- fairy godmothers who wave a magic wand to fix your life
- fetish dispensers who have no life outside of kink
- nymphomaniacs looking to fuck every possible person labeling themselves as a submissive
It is not all fun and games being a dominant. Of course we love being feted,courted,catered to,and served,but with that comes the knowledge that we are responsible for the safety and well being of those in service to us,and that can be a tremendous amount of pressure at times,so just imagine trying to train a submissive whose life is out of control,and in the shitter due to their erroneous choices in life. It becomes an impossible task. Mind you that many enjoy a challenge,but even the most courageous must draw the line somewhere,so in all seriousness here..get a grip,dig in,and work your life out,so that you may come to the feet of a dominant without two tons of baggage expecting them to sort that shit out for you,cause in the end,you are responsible for your life and it's failures,not your dominant.
Greetings gents an ghouls...
Do you know what mentoring is?
Mentoring is the same as training,and in many cases I have been asked to mentor both males and females in the findom scene.
I have always stated that I do not mentor fellow females..not because I do not want to see them succeed,but rather due to the lack of free time I possess towards doing so. Mentoring is time consuming,especially if you want to do it correctly,and I being the perfectionist I am,refuse to half ass anything,so that means that I cannot offer mentoring to my fellow Femmes,but I do post plenty of educational blogs and tweets in an effort to aid others who are just starting along the path of findom.
In regards to mentoring males aka slave training..yes I do offer training,but it is confined to those that are intent upon serving me. This means that I am not about to take time from my life to train males who are not going to be serving me. Sounds selfish? Tough! There is no incentive for me personally to train any male who is just going to apply that knowledge towards serving someone else. That would be counter-productive towards my own goals.
No matter what you may assume,I am not a walking talking bdsm protocol and terminology britannica. If you are looking for someone to explain bdsm,femdom,or findom to you,than I suggest google. Google has plenty of time,and willingly shares all of the knowledge it possesses freely. I on the other hand am not google,so if spending time with you answering questions does not benefit me,than I will take a hard pass on the opportunity.
I realize that alot of you males are new to the entire bdsm scene,so of course you have questions,but that is where research separates the wheat from the chaff. If you are not willing to invest your time seeking out answers,why should anyone else expend their energy spoon feeding them to you for free?
Fetlife is an awesome place for you newbies to gather nuggets of golden information. Use it! Not to mention that it is a free site,so you do not even have to pay for your education,which should appeal to all of you "paying cheapens the experience" males. Soak up all of the knowledge you can,then you will be prepared to be trained as how to serve a specific Domme since the basics have already been instilled in you.
The only training/mentoring any Domme can give you is the type that suits her personally. What I mean by this,is that I train males to serve my needs,my wants,my expectations,my requirements,and that may not be anywhere near what another Domme requires in a male who serves her,so it doesn't make any sense for me to train a male who is not serving me. Capisci?
Now go get your thinking cap on,and become the sponge in a sea of knowledge :)
Findom haters I see you out there. No matter how hard you try to blend in,you stand out. Most of you are not only findom haters,but psychologically closeted misogynists. The two go hand in hand..in fact the misogyny is a catalyst for the hate of FinDommes.
The majority of you have no concept of what findom actually is,but you hate it on principle alone. I mean why should you be giving the money you work hard for to some woman who ain't doing shit for you..in fact she should be doing for you just because you are a man,and that means that she is lucky to even get your attention. You know that she should be appreciative of any man wanting to get with her,and should be jumping at the opportunity to fulfill your desires. Isn't that women were created to do...serve the wants of men?
This is the mindset most of you embody. You believe that being born male entitles you to the privilege of a woman's time,and if a woman will not give it willingly,then you will resort to trickery,insults,or force to get it. My last statement is why women do not like you,much less want to spend any time with or on you.
Welcome to the world of Findom boy. A realm where you possess no privilege,or entitlements in the eyes of a dominant woman. Your money is the only thing of attraction about you. Your dick is a less than worthless currency,and you certainly cannot buy a moment of a woman's time with a dick pic. In fact,your dick puts you at the biggest disadvantage of possible success in findom. You are better off caging that ugly dumb fuck thing up. It will only hinder you. It poisons you slowly and surely. Do you want to die of penis poisoning?
Findom is selfless worship. It is the most pure form of worship. It is a form of worship that actually provides long term benefits for a woman,totally unlike the other actions you try to term worship. Get serious here..you complimenting a woman's ass,tits etc..is NOT worship..that is just you working your dicklet up into a frenzy. The same goes for those of you attempting to provide oral "worship"..now that is the biggest fucking joke of all time! Which would you yourself say is more beneficial in the long run,an orgasm or money to pay for an expensive meal? I know which one I would choose..nourish the flesh with food,and share the orgasm with a man who appreciates the honor..btw that is NOT you.
Findom is about giving of yourself with no expectations..no ulterior entitlement motivations..no giving to receive. If you are not giving for the pure pleasure of being useful,and providing for the wants of a woman,than you are being selfish,and thinking only of what you can get out of it..how you can come out ahead in the equation. This is where you are majorly fucking up. Findom is not about you..it never was,and it never will be,and that is why no Domme wants to deal with your ass.
Why would any Domme want to put up with you when there are males in Findom who actually get it? Males who understand that tributing is all about showing appreciation for a woman..it is about showing a woman that you value her. It is the one action that displays your willingness to subjugate that overly inflated ego you have,and just give for the sake of giving. Tribute conveys respect..respect for a Domme's time..her attention..and her being present. Anything else is merely all about you,and remember what I said "it is not about you".
Why should you give any woman your hard earned cash? You give it because she deserves it. You give it because you want to make an impact on her life. You give it because you know it is the right thing to do. You give it because you are intelligent enough to realize that you owe reparation to women for every single sexist thought,and action your have committed in your life. You give it because you want to be powerless at the feet of a woman,and you know that money is the most powerful form of power on planet Earth in this very day and age. These are the very reasons why you should give..now I will share with you the whys of why you do not give.
You do not tribute, because you are just looking to bust a nut. You do not tribute, because you believe that women owe you. You do not tribute, because you do not value women. You do not tribute, because it demeans the entire experience for your dick. You do not tribute, because you are a lazy fuck who has not the means nor the drive to earn a salary which allows you to. You do not tribute, because you want it all,and refuse to see past yourself. Any of this resonating with you yet?
Most of you will never get past the point of your own dick. How sad is that? Just you and your dick..hope you have a happy life together..NOT :)
I have cast light onto what findom is,and why you should tribute..now you make the choice boy.
Hello my pets...
When you come to my feet..you come to my feet fresh,meaning that I expect you to leave your past behind you,rather than using it as a roadblock preventing you from serving me as I expect and require.
Who you served previously..how you served them..how much you tributed them,these are not relevant facts in service to me.
Many a time I have had males popping into my inbox stating that they really wanted to serve me,but they have been burned in the past by a Domme,so they expect me to mollycoddle them,and dominate them for free to prove that I am not in it just for the money. Now that type of talk royally peeves me,because you attempting to manipulate me into dominating you for "free" is you attempting to burn me. Do not even try this with me. If you have been scammed,YOU need to sit down and figure out where YOU went wrong before you even think to contact me,cause I will have no pity.
I live in the present,not the past,so if something is not actively affecting me,I do not give it thought. Nor would I expect the past to negatively affect the way a submissive serves me. If you have had shitty experiences in service,do not dump that luggage on my door step. Work out your issues before you ever approach me,cause I am not a licensed therapist,nor will I allow a submissive to serve me in a subpar manner due to their issues.
As human beings we all have a past. Some of it good,some of it regrettable,but the point is to learn from all of it. Experience teaches us how we should proceed,and how not to.
Each new experience is a new opportunity to learn..to grow as a submissive. Do not allow your past to hinder your future submission.
Greetings pets...
Do you know what I think? I think that a great many of you do not see reality for what it actually is. You get so wrapped up in your fantasies that you fail to see truth. What truth am I referring to?
The one where you imagine that I am here to be your
Unfortunately for you, I must be the squasher of your whored out fluff fantasy. Ya see gents as you should already know, most males are selfish shallow shits, and not willing to pay for their pleasures (sound familiar). How does this apply to you expecting a FemDomme to pimp you out in order to enrich your Domme's finances..well let's look at this from a realistic perspective.
1)If most males are not willing to pay for their pleasures, than do you really expect them to pay some cock slut to suck them off?
2)Do you think that males who can get their cock sucked for free are going to pay you for doing it? If you said yes, slap yourself hard in the face with a car door, cause you are too ignorant to exist!
2)
Do you know that it is illegal to pimp someone out..yes it happens every single day, but it does carry legal ramifications is caught via law enforcement, so no I am not going to put myself out there advertising that you want to suck cock for cash.
3)
Do you know that prostitution is illegal, so if you get caught, you will be doing a stint at the grey bar motel?
4)
Are you over 35 with a far from stellar physique, and an even less aesthetically appealing face...hang it up son...males are shallow sams who expect pretty perfection if they are going to pay for the experience.
Aww I know that I just shoved your fantasy into the light of day, but someone has to be real here. What I advise is that you tribute your Domme for the fantasy..meaning you gift me with a tribute, then you go out and suck a cock free of charge in my honor. The majority of males will not turn down a free blow job, even if you do look like something that has been beat with the ugly stick too many times. This allows for a mutually beneficial outcome. I receive a gift, and you get the "gift" of a gullet full of cum :)...so send your tribute, and get to work cocksucker!
