Monday, January 29, 2018

Ghosting is grotesque behavior

Welcome to the divine world of Goddess Sydney


Gentlemen,gentlemen,gentlemen...ack I am hesitant to even employ that descriptor to the majority of you,and you know why.

I am going to share some personal experiences with you, and explain why I find a certain prevalent behavior amongst the male sex to be a rather disturbing.

To begin with do you know what ghosting is? Ghosting is where someone just ups and disappears off of another person's radar altogether. Interactions, and contact ceases without reason or excuse provided. Dommes see this alot in the fetish connection. Males who are so eager to serve, and beg to be of use in the onset, just poof without notice, or regard of how their actions will impact the Domme. Ghosting is at best, the act of a coward. It is shameful, and should be treated as such.  


Ghosting is not contained to the fetish world, but branches out into the vanilla scene as well. It is an equal opportunity crime perpetrated by both males and females alike, and seriously it is disgusting. If you were raised with any decency at all, you would not do it!

I myself have had this happen to me many multiple times in the kink realm, but never in the nilla one. Why do you think that is? 

I have had long time serving males engage in this behavior, and believe me when I say that YES it does have an impact, not to mention damaging the ability to trust future submissive applicants. In fact I have reached the point where I no longer bat an eyelash at it, because I place no faith in a male's good behavior until it is proven over a long period of time in service.

I have heard submissives as well complain about being ghosted after the first tribute. Does it happen, of course, do I condone it, NO. There are reasons why people ghost, but most times, they are known only to the ghost. 

I am here to tell you now, that it is never acceptable, and that it makes you look like an asshole. Of course you may think nothing of it, but the fetish scene is smaller than you may think, and information travels at the speed of light, when it comes to ill behavior. Doubt me not!

Dislike of confrontation is quite normal to human beings, which is just 1 reason why people ghost without explanation, although it still does not excuse it. My advice is to "man up" so to speak, and just flat out tell a Domme that you do not want to serve her. Of course she has the right to be upset, or to ask why, and most likely she will ask. When I have had males relay to me that they have decided no longer to serve, the very first thing I did was ask why. Feedback is very important for growth, so if I their decision has been motivated by my actions, I want to know it, so that I can take steps in the future as to not repeat my mistakes. Does that make sense? It is about being an adult, and showing the same type of respect that you expect to receive yourself.

I have let males in service to me go, but they are always made aware of why I am doing so. Explaining to them why I came to the decision I did, allows them the opportunity to learn from the experience, and perhaps evolve into a better submissive someday, and is that not what we all seek...to be a better dominant, or submissive? 

 It takes a mere moment of time to end a connection, and even if you feel the need to protect yourself by immediately blocking after sending the "pink slip" notice, send the notice!  Never burn those bridges gents, cause someday you just might want to revisit where you have once been.
 

Monday, January 22, 2018

Financial Domination is NOT a service

Welcome,welcome one and all to the musings of Goddess Sydney

There always has been,and there always will be conflict in regards to the definition of findom,and the activities it is comprised of. Now I am not claiming to be the know all of findom,or the commander of how it should and should not be performed,but what I will share with you willingly is my own personal views on financial domination.

The waters are muddy as fark when it comes to findom,and neither side of the equation aids in the solution. In fact,the in fighting is atrocious,and damn near bloody at times. My question is,why all of the anger? If you do not care to engage in someone else's version of findom,than DON'T. No one is forcing you to engage in fetish play that you disagree with,so let others be,so long as they are perpetrating no non-consensual harm.

Onto my vision :) 

*Financial Domination is not a service* 

To begin with,one must decide for themselves what providing a service is. In my estimation,service is any activity where the provider is providing a service or product for payment. Now this could be defined as

1)clips,custom or elsewise
2)cam shows
3)paid sessions in person,or online
4)teamviewer
5)selling photo sets,socks,stockings,panties,urine,saliva,foot dust etc... 
6)phone sex ie NF or other such venues of revenue

None of what  I listed above falls within what I would define as financial domination. I am not saying that it does not have it's place or purpose,but it all boils down to a provider providing a service,rather than a dominant being served by a submissive. You are more than free to disagree,and that is all well and dandy,ya won't hurt my feelings if you think that I am in error,but in that same vein,respect my right to my opinion as well.

So,what exactly is financial domination than? I am old school when it comes to how I operate in my fetish play. I actually expect and require submissives to serve without the enticement or promise of treats. I do not operate under the "you scratch my back,and I will scratch your back" premise.  Service truly is the reward for serving,and if you cannot see that,than you are definitely not the type of male I want under my control. Financial domination is about money and control. I control the submissive,and their money. It really is that simple. 

My honored servants adore,worship,and tribute me willingly,and with open hearts. They do so with selflessness. Worthwhile service is not based on personal gain. It is not performed as a client who expects to receive their monies worth. It is not about jacking off either.

It is ok to be 

1)a service provider
2)a customer

The only time I am ever in disagreement with the above statements is when someone tries to label providing a service or purchasing a service as financial domination. And whilst I will not riot or create a shitstorm over the misrepresentation,neither will I agree to a differing definition of it,so if you are coming to me as a submissive male,do not expect services to be provided to you,or purchased by you :)

Thursday, January 18, 2018

Submissive desired

Welcome to my corner of the Femdom world




They say "if you build it,they will come", so today I am going to build in your mind's eye, the image of which type of beta male I seek to flock to my stable. 

Three D's 

1)Dedicated  
*Dedicated to my happiness*
a)This means going above and aboard in actions taken to ensure that my wishes and wants are met. b)You must joyfully prioritize my desires over your own.  
c)Service to self must be abolished. Your mindset of acting only in your interests must be obliterated, and a new one devised.

2)Devotion
*Devotion to my happiness*
a)Devotion and loyalty go hand in hand in service to Goddess Sydney.
b)You will devote yourself fully to aiding me in achieving my goals.
c)You will NOT allow outside influences to sway you from your course of service.
d)You will erect a virtual or physical altar to Goddess Sydney, thereby instilling devotion through daily prayer.

3)Discipline
*Self-discipline keeps you firmly on the path of submission*
a)Goddess is not a micro manager of your every waking moment, therefore a submissive must possess the ability to work silently, steadfastly, and self assuredly towards the fulfillment of the commands Goddess decrees.
b)The submissive must inherently know which actions are pleasing to Goddess, and those which bring disappointment to her. This is common sense at work here.  

Two I's

1)Intelligence
*Ignorance is neither attractive nor sought after in a submissive male*
a)Intelligence ensures that Goddess is not constantly under siege to respond to repetitively ignorant questions, nor forced to consistently correct stupidity in action selection via the submissive. 
b)Intelligence allows the submissive to interact with Goddess upon a wider range of topics.
c)Intelligence equates to a more productive and successful member of society at large, which ups the odds that the submissive will serve fruitfully.

2)Integrity
*Integrity is one of the core principles of a decent human being*
a)Lies are the great destroyer of any relationship, regardless of D's or vanilla.
b)A dishonest male is a diseased male.


Two G's

1)Generosity
*A scrooge is a scourge upon society*
a)Stingy and miserly are not qualities sought in a male.
b)Giving of all that you are, and all that you have, is a sign that you are truly devoted and dedicated to Goddess Sydney.

2)Gentlemanly behavior
*A gentleman is a jewel*
a)A male who treats all women with respect is truly a man.
b)Manners speak to the character of a male.
c)Ill mannered males are a blight upon mankind, and a disgrace for any Femdom to have in her service.

My descriptors are shared to convey the ONLY type of male I desire in service to me. If they do not describe you, than you will be denied.


 

Sunday, January 7, 2018

Financial Dominatrix Goddess Sydney

Welcome disciples of Goddess Sydney

 

 I chose the title Goddess as it is closest in alignment to how I view myself,and how I desire to be designated. What does being a Goddess mean to me?

1)That my station is not sexual in nature. Sensual perhaps,but in a more ethereal plane of existence. 
*My goal is to guide males away from the drive of their dick,in order to better facilitate service of a selfless nature.*

2)That tithing is a requirement rather than an option. 
*An empty collection plate is an insult,and to incur the displeasure of a Goddess is the height of hubris.* 

3)That to serve a Goddess,is to serve a purpose higher than one's self.
*You must possess the desire and ability to get past thinking of self first and foremost. The epitome of submission is based out rather than within.*

4)That One must be devout and faithful in service to a Goddess.
*Service is not a part-time position in life. You devote your mind,heart,might,and wallet to being worthy of serving.* 

5)That a Goddess is not a toy that one places on a shelf,and looks to only when it is convenient or cock ready. *One erects an altar to their Goddess and practices their faithful mantras daily,so that they may evolve beyond the sins of patriarchal teachings.*

6)That a Goddess is a woman who needs not the accolades of man,but expects worship as her due. *Worship is not of the flesh,but rather originates of the mind,for it is your mind that I desire to cultivate and craft to my liking.*

7)That a Goddess commands respect simply for existing. 
*One does not attempt to approach a Goddess as they would any other woman. Respect and accord are afforded immediately without reminder.*  

Any questions?

Friday, January 5, 2018

Femdom lightening

Welcome home my puppets


 Meeting the FemDomme of your dreams is like being struck by lightening. It is a breath catching, soul shattering experience. One from which you wish no end. 

I adore how consumed males are by me. It takes them to the edge of eroticism, and pushes them that one step over the cliff into idolization. 

The sheer empowerment of being worshiped by males across the globe is a heady sensation,from which I drown my senses in. Knowing that those who serve me, faithfully wake with the thought of me, daydream of pleasing me, pray to me at bedtime, and drift to sleep pontificating ways that they can be a part of making my life better.

I love that males will willingly and gratefully sacrifice their comforts for my happiness. It simply tickles me pink to see my inbox ping with notifications of tribute. Why? Because it shows me that I am appreciated, that I am adored, and that I am truly worshiped as a Goddess. This is the power exchange I thrive on.

Money is the most powerful motivator in the world. Undoubtedly some will argue that love is, but I would assert that if you love someone, as a submissive should love their Dominant, than you would want the world for them, and joyfully give to them with an open heart. After all, love may move mountains, but money ensures that you do not have to heft mountains.

One of the first things males learn of me, is that I am not forceful. Being forceful is not synonymous with being in control. In fact, my belief is that if I am in a position where a male must be forced to comply with my wishes, than I am best suited to walk away, for I accept nothing that is not given to me willingly. I have no desire to make demands, when so many are begging for the honor of laying it all down at my feet in loving compliance.

So you see, I truly am the iron fist in the velvet glove. Uncompromising in my beliefs of what submission and dominance are meant to be, yet quietly refusing to out yell my detractors who disagree. You will find me kind to those that have earned it, but bitter cold to those that have not. There can be no half measures. You are either in it to serve me wholeheartedly, or you are an invisible spectator frozen in uncertainty. Come in from the cold my pets, and bask in the warmth of Goddess's presence.

Thursday, January 4, 2018

Primal Predator

Welcome to Goddess Sydney's world


Oh you misled males,I see you. You believe that you are misunderstood,and that women simply do not grasp what it is that you crave,but my boy you are wrong. I do know what it is that you want.

You dream of flipping the script on the norms of female vs male behaviors when it comes to interactions. You want to be sought after,you want to be made to feel as if you are more desired than any other male. You seek to feel relevant,and revered for your sex. Tell me beta,does this image sum up your innermost twisted fantasy


 You want to be chased,to be courted,to be feted. You desire to seen as prime grade meat,consumed by my passions. Sexualized,and objectified,which is why you are so angry when women do not respond positively when treated in such a manner,for it is all you want. You quiver inside fantasizing about women demanding that you show them your cock,beg for you to stroke it for them..all the while telling you what a dirty boy you are. That is exactly what you yearn for isn't it...admit it.

You hunger to be the prey just once. To be taken,to be absorbed by the will of a woman. To relinquish yourself without guilt for giving into your lust for the dark side of desire. You want to be absolved of the filth of your urges,and what better way to do so,than by placing the blame squarely on the shoulders of a primal woman. No guilt,no shame,cause she made you do it. You would have never perpetrated those acts of perversion if she had not forced you to.

Yes I understand you quite well, but guess what! I do not allow males to shift their projections upon me. To serve me,you must own your own appetites. You must acknowledge how far down the rabbit hole you want to slide. I do not offer absolution,I offer the opportunity to proclaim your wants,and travel the road to submission,but you will do so because it is what you want,rather than being a passive passenger. 

Claim your submission. Be active in it,and shelve the shame.

Wednesday, January 3, 2018

Femdom life

Welcome minions of Goddess Sydney


The beauty of your Goddess is ageless and eternal

You have no options other than to bow your head,and pray for her almighty grace

Pray with all of your soul that you shall be found worthy of her presence

Pray that she accepts you as her disciple

 

She is frost and fire in a combustible combination bent on creating havoc upon your will 

You are no more than her prey..and you will be snared within her designs and desires

The thought of escape or denial,no longer exists for you

You see,you accept,you eagerly and lustily embrace your purpose in her life


She is pure perfection from face to base

You are but a seed blowing in the wind..til you find purchase at the feet of Goddess

Plant yourself deep within the soil of service and

Grow your submission in sacrifice for Goddess
 
 
 

Tuesday, January 2, 2018

Sanctuary safe space

Welcome pets...

Are you ready..prepared to take the next step on your journey to submission at the feet of Goddess Sydney?

1)No..then exit NOW 

2)Yes..then come,come my pets,and become disciples of Goddess Sydney 


Come to the altar pet...come crawl to your Goddess.

Here you will worship,here you shall pray.

No more fear of what you truly are.

No more doubts of where you belong.

The sanctuary of Goddess Sydney is your safe space. The place where you are allowed to let your inner submissive out to serve,as it is meant to. Home...yes the sanctuary is your home. Locked away from the world,and free to worship Goddess without shame,ego,or entitlement.