Why be a monkey

For the ladies just starting out I know how confusing this online world of fetish can become. You are full of trepidation and unsure of how to present yourself in order for the genuine submissive males to flock to your side for service. Unfortunately many fall into the monkey see,monkey do protocol. I can see the confused frowns now,so allow me to elaborate. What are the most common views on sites? The tits and ass parade of course. Doubt me? Take a peek at the myriad of sites on the net. What is the most prevalent imagery? Yup it is tits and ass,regardless of the gender,it is all we see these days. Now ask yourself,do I want to be like everyone else,or do I want to set myself apart? You will not gain notice if you are just another one of the crowd.

Consider this first,do you really want a male serving you because of your party poppers? We all know how flighty fetish males can be with their loyalty to begin with,and appendages will not enslave them for long,for there are thousands of tits and asses on parade before them daily. I am not saying that you cannot or should not display your goods for the world at large if that is your desire,after all it is all about what you want to do,but I am saying that if that is all you have to offer,then your exchanges will be vapid,and empty of meaning just like sugar free jello(ick).

How else can you be different? Hmm well you can definitely stay away from constantly calling unknown males losers(that word is overrated and overused within the findom scene),and believe me that it is not going to catch anyone's attention if you are doling out free humiliation,oh I take that back,it will bring out the broke boys,and they are not the ones worthy of your time. Last but not least,do not develop the fuck you pay me attitude. It is a ploy that works for so very few,that it may actually hinder your ability to attract the paying type of submissive.

The best way to draw submissives to you,is to focus upon yourself. Cease worrying if you will ever have a male serving you,and for pete's sake do not ever chase them. You are better than that. There is a difference between being aggressive,and being desperate. Recognize it. Take your time,and enrich yourself with every bit of knowledge out there to aid in your personal growth as a Domme. Becoming the best you possible is the flame which will bring the moths. Hone your knowledge of bdsm,and sharpen your skills in order to bring a Domme of worth to the table.