Thursday, December 20, 2018

C'est la vie

This blog has been my baby for years. I have employed it to rant, to rave, to boast, to educate, to train, and to simply share a side of myself that enabled many to get to know me. I have posted hundreds of pieces, and always felt like putting my thoughts out there was a good thing, but I no longer believe that to be true.

Over the past few months I have put out a shit ton of blogs and photos, yet the work has not been appreciated tangibly by any of you. Not a single one of you aided in my blanket charity drive. Not a single one of you sent me a birthday tribute. Not a single one of you has seen fit to send me a gift for the upcoming holidays. These facts combined are quite telling to me.

None of you appreciate the time I have taken, nor the effort I have expended, so honestly I do not see the point in wasting my time further. Of course I do not expect any of you to comment upon this, or even regret your lack of action. This is not a woe is me post, this is a post reflecting that I no longer choose to invest my time in those who do not invest in my overall happiness.

I most certainly do not enjoy the feeling that I am being used by males, and that is all that you males have done over the past year, but that is over. I am just going to relax and chill over the holidays, and if I get the itch to post ever again, it will be private and shared only with those who show appreciation in findom form.

Tuesday, December 18, 2018

Doxxing is for dickheads

Today's subject will be waxing on about the subject of doxxing.

You will see the word doxxing used quite frequently in nilla instances and fetish ones. It is a seriously offensive action. It has the potential of fatal repercussions, which it is why it is never and I mean never ever ever a joking matter. This is probably why I do not engage in blackmail play, since I am never ever going to out someone, regardless of how much you pay me.


One of the first rules you learn about in the fetish scene is safety. You play safely, and you do all within your power to be safely played with. Play has real life ramifications if done improperly. This we all know, right? I sincerely hope so.

Now in the fetish scene, it is more common than not for people to employ stage names. This is a safety measure. It is used as a line of protection to deter stalkers, and those whose intent is ill willed. Women whether you realize it or not, are more likely than men to be murdered or abused in the fetish scene, hell in the world at large, so it only makes sense that women will take steps to ensure that they are untraceable in their nilla spheres. No one should be faulting a woman for taking precautions. 

A woman who uses a faux name is no less a "real Domme" than a woman who doesn't use one. The only thing she is hiding is a direct route to her person, which many of you males do as well. Males in the scene are very likely to provide a false name as well, along with refusing to post any type of photo with their face included. They reason this to be for privacy reasons due to employment, yet it is as well a form of protection of their person. No one that I know of desires to have a random fetish stranger calling their personal number, or showing up at their home without an explicit invitation. It just is not done. In fact, quite a few people compartmentalize their vanilla life far away from their fetish one, so keeping your information private is a sensible rule of thumb. 

I understand that after having known someone online for a goodly amount of time that tidbits about your life and person will slip out, and this is where issues can arise. The person you had confidence in to keep your data secret suddenly turns on you. I have seen both males and females alike stoop to this unforgivable behavior. Trust is paramount in bdsm, so to see it abused is reprehensible to say the least. 

I have noted males getting angry with Dommes they have served, and outing them to the public, which then opens the Domme up to possible danger. In turn I have witnessed Dommes putting a male on blast with his personal information shared, and that is vile as well. Even the threat of doxxing someone should earn you a shunning, and no I do not give a flying fuck for how successful you are in the scene, or how much money you have in your bank account, cause if you doxx or threaten to doxx anyone, you do not belong anywhere near the fetish scene. You in fact need to seek mental help immediately for your toxicity. 

The best thing to do, and I really do dislike advising this course of action, but the best thing you can do to protect yourself, is to not share personal information at all with anyone. I realize that the temptation is there, but you must resist, because in the end, you may very well be putting your life at stake. Is it really worth that risk? For me, I say no, but of course you must choose your own path, but I do hope that my words have given you food for thought.

Be safe all!

Sunday, December 16, 2018

Bitter regrets will poison your soul


You come before me lost. You come before me unsure. You know not the way to go. 

I stand before you as a living symbol of what could be. I stand before you as the breathing embodiment of Goddess.

Are you ready? Have you caught your breath...is your heart beating a staccato of anticipation? You are on the precipice. Don't look down, just close your eyes and take that step. You are ready.

I stand as the last bastion of safety in your search for the perfect Goddess. I alone stand here. Your eyes forward, you can see no other. I am the promise of purpose, the declaration of peace you have desired. Nothing and none so great as I, your Goddess.

Prostrate yourself at my feet and beg for the redemption you need. Shed the pieces of self that have dragged as chains upon you your entire life. Discard that false shell which you reflect to the world. Goddess sees you as you truly are, and finds value in your submission.

You are ready. Give yourself into my keeping. Yes I will push you. I will bend you. I will carve from you the undesirable bits, and you will be reborn as a servant of her most exalted, Goddess Sydney. You will be as never before. You will listen, you will learn, you will evolve.

Sever the threads holding you to your former self. You are ready to become...to become what you were destined to become...MINE. The sands run quickly through the hourglass..come to Goddess, lest your most poignant regretted loss at the end of your life be that of not coming to Goddess. 

YOU ARE READY!





Thursday, December 13, 2018

Don't fall foul of the block hammer





Have you ever been blocked by me on a social media site, or a messenger service?

Odds are that you have not. Why? Cause I do not make a practice of blocking folks. There are only a handful of reasons that I ever block anyone.

1)You have been rude to me. Now rude can be defined in different ways. I am not talking about people who in general do not share the same views as I. I always welcome dissenting opinions, so long as they are relayed in a well mannered context..ie none of that "you are wrong you stupid bitch". You can disagree with me respectfully, yet still remain in contact with me :)  FYI unsolicited dick pics are considered the height of rudeness, please don't do it.

2)You make misogynistic statements. If you do not like or even hate women, do yourself the service of not interacting with them. Sure it may make you feel all special and superior when you disparage women on the internet, but it really makes you look like a pile of steaming shit. That is not an appealing look for anyone. This does not apply to men alone, for I have seen plenty of women who like to trash fellow women as well, and they get blocked too.

3)You outright lie to me. I am going to tell you now fellas, I have been around the block more times than I can count, so pulling a fast one on me is pretty darn difficult, so let's just you some time by not expending effort in that direction at all ok. I have a definite hate hard on for liars, and will block you before you can get the delivery line out. You have been duly warned.

4)You are a bully. Ugh I detest people that nit pick at others to make themselves feel better about their own crappiness of a life. This goes as well for those that jump on the band of bullies wagon. You know what I am talking about. We have all seen where 1 person gets pissed at someone, then all of their buds pipe up in on it. That is so junior highish..just say NO. 

5)You are trying to use me for your own gain. Now this can be a fine line to walk. I realize that some of you fetish guys are seeking out someone to fulfill your fetish desires, I totally get that, but if you do not intend to compensate for that woman's time, than I lose all respect for you as a human being. I do not like being taken advantage of, and at my age, you are highly unlikely to get anywhere near using me with my consent. 

There ya go, a handful of reasons why I block. Don't fall foul of my blocking hand, cause it is straight up sadistic lol

***Feel free to share with me here why you block people!***
 

Tuesday, December 11, 2018

Don't be a stranger to Goddess Sydney Claire



I do not play with strangers
If you knew me, you would know that I have no desire to play with submissives whom I know nothing of. It brings me no pleasure, and it is actually a debbie downer for me.
Dominating a male that has taken the time to make a connection with me, ensures that we both find fulfillment within the exchange, and fulfillment is what we all seek is it not?

I definitely do not play in person with random strange males. 1)That is a safety NO NO for me, and should be for you as well. 2)It leaves me feeling cold and detached. Whilst some of you pisspots on the net do deserve a brutal ball busting session, I won't offer to engage in it without knowing you first. FYI I love nut busting :) so get to know me first, and I just might drop you to your knees lol!

All males who serve me are told flat out that real time will not be an option til they have served out an online probationary period, and there are no exceptions to this rule. Serving me online is similar to a courtship in a fetish relationship. You get to interact with me daily, learn my likes and dislikes, see a side of me that is not available for public consumption, and I gain the knowledge I require to break you to my bit:)

Getting to know someone is an exhilarating experience if done correctly. It is like foreplay for the mind. Take your time. There is no need to rush through it. It is definitely not a sprint to the finish line. Slow your roll, and keep a steady pace. You will get there in time. I prefer long term servitude anyway, so anyone that lacks the patience to get to know me properly is not going to last in my stable, and I would rather find that out early on, rather than wasting any of my precious time on someone who does not possess the same goal.


I understand how exciting it can be to come across someone that you really want to indulge your fetish with, but trying to steamroll your way into their presence is just not going to end up very well, especially for those of you seeking out someone to mindfuck your existence. Dommes need to know your buttons before they can push them doll. 

Yes drive by tributes, and one off sessions with slutty nuts can be fun for me, but it really isn't my preference unless it is a slut that I have played with before. I get that some of you treat fetish like a Baskin Robbins. You want to try all 51 flavors of domination, and that is ok so long as you realize that not only will it break your piggy bank, but it may sour you on fetish altogether, cause all you are going to get is a  flash bang for that buck, so unless that it really what you are looking for than I advise to avoid that type of approach. There is an upside to slutting though. Engaging with multiple Dommes ups your odds of finding that special ONE. The one that you are meant to serve long term, and that is a definite positive!

The choice of which type of Domme you serve is ultimately yours to make, but don't act like a dick when you come across a Domme that is not in to shortstack session servitude. Respect the right of a woman to decide which males she wishes to play with, and her rules of engagement.  That way, if either of you ever changes your stance, you will have left the door open to the possibility! You never know what the future may hold, so don't burn those bridges bb :)  

As always...amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com are a great way of saying "I appreciate you"

Friday, December 7, 2018

The W's of Findom


What
The what is Findom. You do know what Findom is don't you? If not, than why not? You know how to google don't you? Now that is a crux is it not. You lazy turds are certainly not going to want to waste your own time searching for an answer now are you? Whelp since I am an all around nice person, I am going to help you out this one time. 
Findom is a fetish. A fetish in which men aka you give their money to women with no expectation of reciprocal services. Sounds pretty crazy huh? I bet. I know that most of you are scratching your balls after reading that, cause you cannot figure out why you should give your money to any woman who is not doing something for you to earn it. You are drenched in the customer mindset. The one that dictates that you should receive a product when you provide currency. This is something that you are going to have get over. You will get no where fast if you do not.


Why
Why do men give their money to women with no hope of reciprocation? They do it out of respect. They do it to convey appreciation. They do it because they cannot help but to provide, for it is ingrained within men to be providers. They do it as a form of power transfer, after all bdsm is all about the exchange of power, the relinquishment of self, and money is POWER. They do it to convey worship, a tithe, a tribute, a contribution to the life of their Goddess.


When
The whens of tribute is set via the FinDom. Of course the initial tribute should be sent prior to engagement. That is to say that you as the man should have already researched the Domme in question way before you ever approached her. Study her as you would the holy grail..quietly in awe and from a distance til you are prepared to offer her your servitude.  
Once you have received the tribute schedule, do not ever think to disregard it for your own selfish intentions. A man will be judged by his adherence to his word. Be the type of man who lives up to his word. If at any point you cannot meet your obligations to your FinDom for any reason, than you need to convey to her the whys of it asap.


How much
This is not a question to ask. Sacrifice is not an option, it is a requirement of serving a FinDom. If you are not suffering to some degree from the amount of your financial contribution, than you are in essence stealing from your FinDom, and that is never acceptable. Do not be the sketchy trickster who attempts to cheapen the experience by withholding from her financially. Selfless, sacrifice, suffering, and servitude all go together hand in hand. 

Is Findom for you
Findom is for all those who seek it sincerely with generosity. If you are not willing to give, to tithe, to tribute, to provide, to contribute, than no it is not for you. If you believe that you must gain other than the pleasure of enriching your Domme's life from serving than no Findom is not for you. If your only intent is to stroke your penis, than no Findom is not for you. If it does not excite you to give your money to a woman, than no Findom is not for you. If you will not commit your cash, than no Findom is not for you. 
If you receive an incredible rush, a stomach full of butterflies, a lightheaded soaring, a flesh tingling feeling whenever you send tribute, than yes Findom is for you. If you cannot imagine anything more right than devoting your life and fruits of livelihood to your FinDom, than yes Findom is for you. If you are prepared to serve with all that you have, than yes Findom is for you. If you see women as Goddesses deserving of all your riches, than yes Findom is for you. 

Now
You have been educated. Are you ready to begin your journey into financial servitude to a Golden Goddess? If so, than send your first tribute today to mzsydney34@yahoo.com

Wednesday, December 5, 2018

Getting to know all about your FemDom Goddess

Getting to know me..all about me


Many of you gents claim that you want to get to know me prior to serving or sending tribute. I get it, I really do, and it is one of the main reasons that I began this blog years ago, and why I continue to update it to this very day.

I want you to get to know me. I want you to have a firm grasp of my expectations. I want you to be informed. It will save you so much time, if you just take the time to read all about me.

You reading up on me allows you to get to know me without ever taking up a moment of my time, and that is a very good thing. Nothing irks me more than investing my time in interacting with a male who hasn't done his homework, then bails when he finds out that tribute is a requirement, and that I take domination seriously. 

I am a firm believer in not purposefully wasting my own time, which is what I am doing when I give my time to someone who is not going to be serving me. You may be saying, but hey you could be making a new friend...whelp bb's I am not here to make friends with you. I don't need a new bestie, or a shoulder to cry on, so having males in my life who are not enriching it through sacrifice and service, is redundant. 

I intentionally point you males to this blog in the very first exchange just to avoid wasted time. Some of you may find it cold and detached that I do not choose to chit chat with you for free, but it would be inane and pointless til you have made up your mind to serve me. Once you have sent that initial tribute, then and only then will I be willing to spare the time to see what you are all about. It may not seem fair, but there are thousands of prospective submissive males, and only 1 of me, so I get to make the rules :) and you will follow them if you want to be mine! 

And now that you have taken the time to get to know me...you have my permission to send your very first tribute to mzsydney34@yahoo.com in the form of an amazon gift card!!

Tuesday, December 4, 2018

Down and Dirty Talk on Originality

Some days I have to wonder if any of you ever get tired of swallowing the same BS day in day out, just so that you can regurgitate it on the regular.

Seriously now...can you construct an original thought?  One might assume that you gents all belong to a collective hive considering that you open with the same lines of dialogue on the daily. Don't you ever tire of it? I myself would welcome a breath of fresh air when it comes to conversation. At times, even I tire of the redundant trite thread which is predictable in nature. 

Do you recognize the insanity of replaying the same scenario over and over with no differing results? You pop in with meaningless compliments, and immediately bypass civility to go for the kink kill. When that does not net the outcome you desire, you then concoct baseless outrage towards your targeted audience. Finishing up with what you assume is the greatest of insults, you flounce away in a huff to seek out your next new face.

Doesn't this wear you out? Don't you ever just want to step back from the madness of the cycle, and readjust your game plan? What could it hurt, and what would it cost you to reevaluate? Answer, it would hurt nothing, and cost you a  few moments, which in the end may save you future effort. It is definitely worth the investment.

Originality is an art form that you would do well to incorporate into your approach. A woman of experience knows full well when a male is coming at them with a tired line, and this tends to irritate and insult her intelligence. Did you sincerely join the fetish grind in order to flat out lose any possibility of making a D's match? I would think not, else you have wasted your own time exponentially, and that would be almost criminal.

My advice would be to slow your roll, use the brain you were given, and take the time to interact accordingly with each Domme you contact. Recognize that all individuals differ, and that if all you have to offer is your own selfishly driven agenda, than you are indeed the loser you jokingly term yourself as.  

**As always..gift cards are given in appreciation. Send one today to mzsydney34@yahoo.com**

Monday, December 3, 2018

Wreck you, Ruin you, Fuck you up


Homewrecking
Do I really want to wreck your home life? Absolutely! I want to wreck YOU. I want your partner to see you for who and what you really are, then dump your ass in the dirt. You and I both know that she deserves better than you. If you were a man of any value, would you really be online sneaking on her? Nope. You are just another vile creature bound for indentured servitude at my feet. Vermin for me to torment when I remember that you even exist, which will only be when you pay tribute, otherwise you are not worthy of distinction at all. Isn't that right lol
Leave off if you expect to come to me with your ragtag fantasy of me trashing your wife with the entire "hotter than your wife" misogyny BS. I am never going to be that type of woman. Your wife is not the one who deserves to be degraded, or spoken of like refuse...YOU are, and I will take immense delight in making sure that you know exactly how low you are on the totem pole bb. 

Financial Ruination
Do I really want to ruin your financially? Absolutely! Mind you that there is a difference between ruined and broken. By ruination I mean to wipe out your checkings, savings, and 401K, along with maxing out your credit cards. Now that will not leave you broken. You will still be able to work, and pay off your debt. This game is not worth engaging in though if you are already broke, note I said broke not broken. If you have no assets to liquidate or extensions of credit, than you are ineligible to play. This is a big league game, and small fries cannot handle the heat, so just stay on the sidelines sweetie.

Mindfuckery
Do I want to crawl into your mind and fuck you up to the point where I am all that you can think about? Absolutely! When you are serving a Goddess such as myself, there is no need to skulk around. No other will come close to wrapping you around their greedy little fist than I. I want it all. Everything, and I will not be kind in my means of sating my desires with your cash.  

Now you tell me...do you really want to come play with ME? Do you have the balls to step into my inbox knowing exactly what I have planned for you? I hope so :) 

Start the game by sending an amazon gift card to mzsydney34@yahoo.com

Saturday, December 1, 2018

Goddess is your sun, moon, and stars

Goddess is your sun
Radiant and life giving

Goddess is your moon
Illuminating your path in the dark

Goddess is your stars
She leads the way

You give to Goddess

You tithe Goddess

You contribute to the enrichment of her life

Goddess Sydney Claire is your religion

Goddess Sydney Claire is your everything

Goddess Sydney Claire is All things to you

 What have you done today to make Goddess smile down upon you in happiness?

When Goddess is happy, all is right within the world. What have you done to contribute to my happiness today?

Have you sent me a gift of tribute? Goddess loves amazon gift cards most of all. Send them often and in abundance to mzsydney34@yahoo.com

Have you sent me poetry? Goddess adores the written word. I love to read the many different ways you adore and worship me. Soulful odes composed in my honor are a delight.

Have you locked yourself in chastity, and sent Goddess the key? All cocks are best when locked for Goddess.

Have you promoted my empire on social media? All males should be spreading the seed of Sydney Claire. 

Serve your purpose in service to your Glorious Golden Goddess. 
 

Wednesday, November 28, 2018

Are you what I am searching for?



The type of male who catches my eye
Do you ever wonder what kind of male it is that gets my attention, that piques my interest, and eventually ends up in my stable of submissives? Well sit right down, because I am going to tell you all about him :)

I like manly men
Men that are ambitious go getters in the world. Yup these are purely masculine men. They are not weak. They are not spineless. They are not doormats to be walked upon. Sounds like an alpha male yes? Well, yes and no.

Alpha but yet not
Definitely dominant in the workplace, but the switch gets flipped when they come under my heel. I am the only person in the entire universe that they will kneel before. I absolutely adore a strong man on his knees for me. Not necessarily am I stating that he must be a brawny man physically, but his strength of will, intellect, and drive is undeniable. He walks tall, and proud of his masculinity. He is a leader in his profession, but my pet in his private life. To me alone will he relinquish control. 

Why a feminized man will never suit me in submissive service

I have in the past trained males who were quite feminine, and I found it to be annoying as hell. They were needy, passive aggressive, and more hormonal than I. There can only be 1 woman in my relationships, and I have filled that position. A man who wants to be me, will never truly serve me. Now this is not to say that I do not enjoy putting my men in panties, for I do, but only so that they may appreciate the erotic sensation of lace and silk upon their flesh. Human beings can be quite tactile, and having something soft rubbing against your skin equates to a happy feeling :)

Why not a switch than
I am not in the least bit submissive, therefore I do not believe that a switch male would ever be satisfied with serving me long term, and long term is ALWAYS my goal when it comes to femdom relationships. I lead, and they follow, but a switch man is more likely to get the itch to take the reins, and I will not allow that, so I find it best to avoid the possibility of such conflict. 

Bratty boys are a bother
My longest serving boy is dubbed my brat, but he is anything but bratty. He understands that it is my will which holds dominion in our relationship, and deviation from acceptable behavior in the hopes of forcing my hand will be met with a cold shoulder. My life is complicated enough without the addition of those who subscribe to chaotic behavior.  

Just say NO to the kinky fetishist
A fetishists desires revolve around their fetish as a rule. They are geared towards getting off and getting out. They are basically the equivalent of a vanilla one night stand, and I avoid those like the black plague. Indeed they can be fun for a session or two, but they are not long term material generally. I will not deny that I have dabbled with them once or twice, but to truly satisfy me, I need long term, so unless you catch me in just the right mood, I am going to have to take a pass. 

Which type are you? 

As always, gift cards are lovely display of appreciation for my time sharing my mind with you :) 

Tuesday, November 27, 2018

Free Task Tuesday for Chastity gents

Free Task Tuesday

Some of you most likely seen my twitter post yesterday about a free task I am offering for chastity males only.

I am going to outline the task here for you.

Rules
1)You must currently be in a chastity device
2)You must be unowned

Tis the Holiday season and Goddess wants to be entertained, which is just one of your duties :) Now onto your task.

I want a video (no face) of silver bells attached to the device, and the bells are to ring out in time with the song jingle bells. It will be my own version of jingle balls lol

Submit the completed task to mzsydney34@yahoo.com

Monday, November 26, 2018

Frosty Cock in Chastity




Winter is the best time to start your cock lock journey
Why is it the best time though? 

Because it is cold outside
Being as it is cold outside, you are able to dress in layers, and loose baggy clothing, unlike in the summer time when you are basically forced to dress down to the least amount of clothing. This affords you the distinct opportunity to cover up that cock cage in public settings most effectively. Keeping your chastity cage a secret is difficult to do when you are wearing shorty shorts in the dead hot heat of summer lol Not to mention that the little demon in your pants is less likely to be popping it's head up when it is 10 below outside, cause walking out in the brisk winds of winter makes a shriveled mockery of your manhood anyway. Another benefit to cold weather chastity, is that when your willie gets frosty, it is not going to be straining at the bit to get loose and create havoc, which means less pain for you since erections in a cage cause constriction of your cock..ie ouch! That is a definite plus!

It will make your winter more productive
Ever notice how in the cold months, all of your activities are mainly sedentary and indoors? You sit around bitching and moaning about how cold it is, while you are downloading porn in the hopes that you can seduce your hand. Nothing gets done, except your dicklet making a mess on the keyboard, and who has time for cleaning up after his ass, so do yourself a favor, and lock that cock today. Now you can get on with getting productive. You will find yourself able to concentrate on getting more out of your life without his obtrusive presence constantly calling on you to selfishly pleasure him. Haven't you allowed him to take up too much of your precious time as it is? Make the choice to give him the cold shoulder by locking him away under a cold steel chastity cage :) and freeze him out by tossing the key into a container of water in your freezer. 

Your cock will be conditioned to keep calm
By the time summer rolls around, your cock will no longer be caterwauling to be set free. It will become your good boy, so that you can get out to enjoy the sunshine without worrying he is going to call undue attention to you at the beach. No one likes pervs at the beach popping a pup tent. Save yourself that embarrassment. You and I both know that you only lose out when women find out that you got the short end of the stick so to speak. You don't need that type of rejection. You are way better suited to locking that jolly joke away for Goddess anyway :)

So be MY good boy, and commit to chastity today!

And as always, don't forget to send an amazon gift card as a display of your undying appreciation to mzsydney34@yahoo.com, and feel free to leave your comments, thoughts, or opinions on today's post!!

**Note, I have a free chastity task for unowned males who are interested**

 

Saturday, November 24, 2018

Worship Luscious Ladies




Has society changed in regards to BBW's
To some degree we have seen change in the way BBW's are treated in the media and general society. The uprising of body positivity and eff the beauty standards have led the way to greater acceptance of non-comformative body beauty. I for one am pleased as punch to see this, and hope that it surges forward in momentum. It is time for the world to cease their hatred lobbying against BBW's. We do have a long way to go though, considering that most still deem it acceptable to bash and trash on larger sized women under the guise of caring about their health, and the better part of the time they do not even bother with that tactic, it is simply a targeted vicious verbal assault. You tell me...why is it unacceptable to judge people according to their color, sex, creed, or religion, but yet body shaming is rampantly active and celebrated?


Who keeps body shaming active and alive
The majority of "fat shaming" is perpetrated by men. Men obviously lack discretion or common sense in relation to acceptable social behavior. The patriarchy for centuries has set and defended their outlined standard for female attractiveness, and either women toe that line, or they will be verbally stoned til they conform. Irony is that the majority of women in this country fail to meet those standards either, which is why the patriarchy employs the media to do the shaming for them. Ads in print, billboards, television, and online all portray a similar body type for women. That image is young, thin with larger breasts, collagen injected lips, long hair, and unblemished skin. You tell me, does the average woman on the street look like what I described? Nope they do not, which is what led to the rise of flourishing cosmetic surgery. Now women can get nipped, tucked, breast enlargements, lip fillers, hair extensions, and lipo to within an inch of their lives.

 
Body shaming leads to far reaching outcomes
Companies (ran by men coincidentally) will claim that they do not promote unhealthy images for women and young girls just developing their self-esteem, but they are LIARS. Sure they refuse to use models of BBW, or Lord forbid, SSBBW sizes, because that wouldn't be portraying a healthy image, but they have zero issues glamorizing women who are severely underweight, which is "unhealthy" as well. They airbrush and airbrush, and photoshop out all "imperfections", so what is left is barely humanly possible for a woman to attain. This sets a standard that no female can reach without surgical intervention. It that healthy? It is positive for young girls on the threshold of becoming a woman?


The real reason why the struggle continues
Men. Yes they are at fault, but women must step up and accept part of the load, for we have allowed this travesty to continue for way too long. In our quest to be seen as of having value in society by men, we have dieted, purged, went under the knife, just for male acceptance and appreciation. It needs to stop, and I mean right now. We can no longer allow this unfit image of what men call sexy, beautiful, even hot, to poison our sense of self worth. Stop bowing your head in shame when men attempt to malign you with the "FAT" label. Take a stand Ladies please. If not for yourself, atleast do it for the girls coming of age.


What can you Ladies do to affect change
You can call out people when they trash non-conforming body shapes. You can start campaigns to call for non-conforming body types to be used in media advertising. You can refuse to purchase from companies that are not tolerant of BBW's, which will send a strong message, a financial call for them to change. You can personally pledge to never debase women who are larger than you. The change can begin with you, and radiate outward. Be that change! 


How you men can make a difference
STOP shaming women about their weight and body type, just STOP. You have no basis to do so, and no right either. I understand that most of you are not attracted to larger women, and that is ok, but it becomes not ok when you are verbally bashing them. You don't like the way they look, DON'T LOOK at them. It is that simple. And another thing, start calling out your fellow men for their shitty behavior. If you set the example of what is acceptable, others will follow. Do it! You never know gents, someday you yourself may be blessed with female progeny, and you will not want to be the shoulder she is crying on when some inconsiderate asshole shames her for her body type. Chew on that image, and be the change! 


Not my sexy self
I realize that my readers most likely do not come here to read about my views such as this, and prefer to just see the sexy fetish side of me, but if you are seeking to serve me, than you should appreciate all sides of me...which includes my big fat brain and outspoken opinions :) 


As always, amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com are always a welcome form of appreciation!

Let me slip into your submissive self


Why speak if your words have no meaning?
Each and every day we venture out into the world at large, and we speak with no meaning. Our words are as empty as the false platitudes we offer. Why? Why bother to speak at all? We speak because it is polite. We speak because it is expected of us. If we did not speak, than others would form a poor opinion of us, and the majority of people who wander this planet, actually care what others think of them. 

Caring about what others think of you
Why do you care how others see you? Why do you care how they speak of you behind your back? Does the opinion of others affect your life in a tangible manner? If you are disliked by the masses of society, will it devalue your life? One thing that I have learned in my life, is that others cannot live your life for you, and if you are living your life for the acceptance of others, than you are not actually living your best life at all. 

Living your best life
Live your life the way you choose. Do the things that bring happiness and peace to you. Of course I would never advise anyone to purposefully act in a way that brings harm to others, but neither should you fear to be present in your life simply because others would not like how you choose to live it. If you want to immerse yourself in fetish play, do it! If you want to dedicate the rest of your life to serving a woman, do it! If you want to lock your cock up, and hand off the key to a woman, do it! If you want to wear panties, or stockings, even a dress, do it! Stop allowing the fear of public scrutiny to keep you from loving your life! You truly do only have this one lifetime, and to squander it is criminal.  

Why meaningless words will hinder you in findom
Gentlemen I want you to really listen hard to what I am about to say. Your words mean nothing to a FinDom if your actions are not backing them up. It truly doesn't matter how many times you tell a Domme how beautiful, how sexy, how powerful you find her to be, if you are not complimenting her with tribute right along with it. In Financial Domination, your money is your verification of authenticity. It is your passport, and your ticket into the scene. You will be denied entry without it, this I promise you. Words will not take you where you wallet itself can. Remember this. 

Why caring about what others think of you in the scene will matter
If you toss your dick pic into every inbox, you will be talked about poorly. If you are rude and demanding, you will be talked about poorly. If you lie, steal, or cheat a FinDom, you will be talked about poorly. Now you may harbor a false belief that the Financial Domination community is this huge bubble where no one knows anyone else, but you are making a mistake. I may not know all of the females in the fetish scene, but I guarantee that everyone has friends of a friend, and yes I openly admit that we do share the names of those males who have burnt bridges with us, which in turn will make fellow Dommes look at you askance when you try to talk them up. This is why you seriously want your reputation to be pristine. You must hold rein on your tongue, no matter how badly you want to lash out in anger when you are denied whatever it is you hoped to gain from a FinDom. You must act with integrity in word and deed. Do not forget this.

Denial of your best life
When you deny your submissive self, you are paring away a piece of essential self, and that can be quite harmful psychologically. You cannot deny who and what you are for a lifetime, and not expect repercussions in the form of depression, anxiety, and stress. You must allow yourself to express your submission, lest you permanently damage yourself, and no one wants that, least of all you, so don't do it! Be your submissive self, and be proud of it. Men who are submissive make better men. They are more considerate in their actions, and conscious of how their behavior affects others. Submission makes you a better person all around, and that should be towards the top of your personal list of goals. Do better, be better! 

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Now be a gentleman and thank me for my words of wisdom by sending an amazon gift card to mzsydney34@yahoo.com

Friday, November 23, 2018

Findom, A Fetish for the Rich



Is Findom a fetish designed for the rich only
Why would anyone say this? Well, truth be boldly known, financial domination is a luxury fetish. Why? The reason being, that this fetish is not free. Findom can be quite costly, and should make a dent in your wallet if done correctly. 

Findom requires males to be at minimum financially stable in order to engage in it. Being broke is not a positive when you are playing in the financial fetish field. It definitely gets steamy when men go into the red with tribute, but they should never begin there. Findom is meant to be fun, and for most, living in a cardboard box due to fetish play is not fun. 

Financial Ruination 
Of course there are a select few that enjoy taking findom to the extremes. There is an erotic element in going broke and bankrupt for your FinDom. Sounds rather hot :) Imagine giving your absolute all for your Domme. The ultimate sacrifice. Orgasmic power exchange!

As I said though, most do not want to take it to this level, and that is understandable.

Findom for the executive to entry level 
These are the men who enjoy a moderate level of financial freedom. They possess an excess, which allows them to play and tribute in higher degrees. They make up a small contingent of finsubs, and are most welcome to serve. They are the ones who take command in their workplace, and crave to relinquish all of that delicious power into the hands of a dominant. The lower you take them down, the happier they will be! I adore this type of servant. That could be due to my insatiable hunger for tribute and power. Yes I want it all bb :)


Blue collar Laborer in Findom
This is the majority of males in the scene. They work hard, and play even harder. They want to experience it all, and don't complain about paying for quality luxury. They are the true bread and butter of findom. This is the type that I always want to put in panties. It is humorous as hell to see a rough looking manly man decked out in satin and lace :) Yes yes yes. I like this type of servant, why, because they are down to earth and dirty in their fetishes ;)

Findom for college boys
Yes I see alot of you, but 9/10 of you are looking for free or reduced fees to play. You tend to suffer from entitlement syndrome, and view women as objects for your use. You need to get your heads out of your asses, and your dickbeaters into your pockets asap! There is no valid excuse for you boys not to tribute. The overwhelmingly used excuse for non-tributing is "I am just a poor student, and cannot tribute financially", and if that is you, here is my advice "GET A JOB". Students are capable of working and getting an education at the same time. I did it, so can you. Plenty of employers love hiring college students, and if all else fails, get to selling semen and plasma. No excuses numbnuts :)

Broke boy findom
Ugh there are too damn many of you coming out of the woodwork like little leeching cockroaches. You bring zero value to a findom exchange, and no the offer to shove objects up your ass is not entertainment. The only possible way you are of worth in service, is by building a large presence on social media to promote for your Domme, and even then, do not expect much attention. You are the grunt, and while you may serve a purpose, you are not high in the hierarchy of servants. Your main focus should be on financially bettering yourself, so that you may make tangible contributions towards the enrichment of your Domme. 

Did I miss anyone? Feel free to agree or disagree, or just plain offer an opinion. I welcome your comments :)

And as always...sending amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com is the best way to say thank you!


Thursday, November 22, 2018

Financial Domination Thankfulness



Why I am thankful for financial domination
Today is a recognized national day to give thanks, and one of the things I am thankful for is the findom community, which has brought me into contact with so many wonderful women of strength and creativity. They are leaders of inspiration for both females and males, and I feel blessed to be a part of it all!

Financial domination has graced my life with the presence of lovely selfless males who give their all to be my best of bois. I even give thanks for the horrid little cretins who have attempted to diminish my joy in the fetish, for they have taught me invaluable lessons, such as insight into the minds of users and how to spot a loser in life..so swallow that up shitstains :)

Concerning matter on social media
Something I seen on my twitter feed today (do you follow me on twitter..if not, you really should) really saddened me to the core. It was a fishing post by a male (not really about fishing for fish) where he asked if there were any females into accepting small tributes such as $1. Why did it bother me, well it did so, because so many females responded in the affirmative, and even went so far as to throw out their cash apps for him.

Small tributes discussion
There has always been differing stances in findom about small tributes, and I understand both sides of the equation. Yes tributing is good, but it can also be a dead fish slap in the face. How can a tribute be insulting, I mean it is a gift afterall right? Yes a tribute is a gift, but within the realm of financial domination, a tribute is meant to be remitted as a sacrifice, and if you are in a place financially where $1 is a true sacrifice, than you really should not be here. That is not me being cruel, that is me being honest, cause if you are not financially secure, you should not be attempting to indulge in financial fetishes. Any finsub needs to be financially solvent before they toss their tribute into the arena..seriously. 

Unfortunately there are some males who treat the fetish like it is a McDonalds. They want to tribute the price of a value menu item, and consume praise for less than minimal effort, which is why it is insulting as hell. Findom is not a bargain basement fetish. It is not a dollar tree tease either, and more than being angry at the rotten refuse that brings such disgusting offers to the table, I feel so very sad for the females who are willing to accept $1 as their due.

Women are the most marvelous of creation, and they deserve so much better than most men are willing to provide. Low balling is offensive. Findom is not a flea market gents. Findom is at the root, a relationship, and if all you are willing to invest is $1, what good are you?This type of mentality could very well be why you are a loser on and offline. Ponder that a moment, and straighten yourself out.

All tributes are good
Let's look at the opposing view. All tributes are good regardless of amount. The old, "it is the thought that counts". Is it really though? It is the thought that counts when a man is trying to use and abuse your time for $1, cause that is exactly what he is doing. Here is the difference, and why $1 is ok. If a $1 tribute is sent, and the sender expects zero notice, or requires no attention for said $1 tribute, then and only then would you ever get me to say that it is borderline ok. But if the sender attaches strings to a $1 tribute...he is a POS in my estimation.

This is where the moaners are going to chime in, "all you care about is money, and aren't dominating for the love of it". I am in agreement with you that findom is about more than money, but it is also all about money. Make sense? It simply cannot be called financial domination if there is no financial aspect in play, and as I said before, if $1 is a burden upon your wallet, you do not belong here. Take a step back, and get your life in order before you come back. I am being totally upfront with you about that. A dominant is supposed to care about those that come under their heel, and it would be a travesty for a dominant to financially dominate a male who has no finances. Afterall a human being needs to eat, procure shelter, and living amenities right? And if that is the case, than every dollar should be spent towards securing those needs, so me taking that $1 could make the difference whether a male has enough money to buy some ramen. See, that is me being a responsible dominant :) 

Of course it is up to each individual female what she is willing to accept as tribute, but I am outright telling you gents not to be shady like the dude on twitter. Yes I know that you all crave attention, but there are good ways, and bad ways to go about getting it, and $1 is a shitty move. Up your game, and get to sending a sacrifice that accurately reflects your desire to serve women, rather than one which announces the value of your penis.

Think about what I have said gents, and feel free to send an amazon gift card to mzsydney34@yahoo.com in thankfulness and appreciation for my words of wisdom!

Wednesday, November 21, 2018

Who wants me to puck them?

So....guess what I did Saturday night!! Bet you won't get it lol

Anyways, I went to my very first hockey game!
Mind you that I am not really that into organized sports at all, but I have to say that I had a wonderful time. In fact, I plan on attending a few more :) Now I just need to sit down and read up on the rules of the game. Are any of you hockey fans? Of course like everyone else, I have seen movies where actors play hockey, but to be right there and see it live is a totally different thing. I loved the physicality, and the grace of athleticism it requires to maneuver around like that on the ice.


Ok so the sadist in me delighted when the players would slam each other against the wall lol.. Not to mention the fantasies about tying up one of you in the goalie netting, and shooting pucks at your balls. I bet all of the masochists reading this are popping pup tents in their pants right now. How much do you think it would hurt to get hit in the nuts with a speeding puck? Just curious wink wink!


There was only one downside to the evening. No free t-shirt for me :(  You should have seen me pouting when I did not catch one of the t-shirts the cannon guy shot out. That was totally a time when I needed one of you there to fetch for me! After all, good boys do best at fetching. You like to play fetch don't you?


The remainder of that night was spent wrapped up in the hot sweaty embrace of my man, which is how every night should be ;) Yes I live the Goddess life, and yes you can be a part of it. How you ask...by contributing financially to my adventures! Send amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com to pay for all of my naughty indulgences!


Tuesday, November 20, 2018

How to approach ME 101

Hello gentlemen


Do you want to know how to interact with me for the very first time? I realize that I can be an intimidating force of nature lol, but it really is easier than you would imagine.

I do want you to understand though, that your initial message to me is going to set the tone for how I respond.

These are the things that you do NOT want to start off with

1)An obvious generic copy and paste message

2)Your autobiography

3)Your bank details, or any type of passwords

4)Dick pics

5)Photos that you want exposed

6)Addressing me in what I find to be passive aggressive demeaning terms ie hey sexy, bb, sugar, honey, girl

7)Giving me a list of your turn ons

8)Telling me that I make your dick hard

9)Relaying what you want to do to me

10)Stating what you want me to do to you

I think that you gents get so carried away with your fetishes, that you forget entirely that the person you are interacting with is a person too. 

If you are a smart gent, you will have already read my profiles, tweets, blogs, website etc. You will be well acquainted with my expectations in regards to submissive behavior I deem acceptable and pleasing, so all of the mostly inane chit chat will not be necessary, for you are informed.
I honestly do not care to "shoot the shit" with random strangers, or answer questions that are already answered in my profile. 

I want you coming into my inbox already prepared to tribute and serve, because if you aren't, than you have not put in any effort in getting to know me at all, and that is unacceptable. The fact that I include findom in ALL of my femdom exchanges is widely known, so this should not be coming as a shock to you, and if you do not know what findom is, than google it gents. 

As well, it should be plain as day to you that I am to be addressed as Goddess, or Mz..no deviation. It may seem old school, but in my estimation, it is about respect, and I do not tolerate disrespect. 

Believe me when I say that you want to start off on the right footing with me, because I am not a big believer in allotting second chances. I understand that you may be nervous and in awe of me, so you may flub up a bit in your communication,which is ok, but never do so intentionally gents. 

I can be one of the easiest going Dommes you will ever talk to, but at no time am I ever not the dominant in the exchange, and I have zero issues booting you out my door if you forget it. As well, I am a genuine sweetheart to those who treat me with all of the deference due to a Goddess. To those who are generous with their time, attention, and financial worship of me, I am most benevolent :) Regardless though, I will ignore you into non-existence if you ill treat my kindness. My kindness has never been a weakness. 

If it is not apparent to you as of yet, I will speak plainly. I do not want you to fear approaching me if you are sincere in your desire to serve me. In fact I always welcome males into my sect who have proven that they are intent on putting my happiness above their own, my fetishes above their own, and my comfort above their own. If this resonates, than you are what I seek, and I bid you to come beg an audience..I did tell you that I adore when males beg, didn't I  lol