Good evening poppets!
Do you follow me on twitter? If not, than you are missing out on the good stuff :) Rectify the error posthaste @MizSydney
If you had been a follower of mine, you would already know that Goddess is departing for vacation on Sunday! I have been absolutely swamped this week with preparations, and am actually exhausted before my vacation has even began lol, but I did take a quick moment to snap a pic this morning for all of the gents who love to love me
Don't you just adore my size 10 peds? They are perfectly delicious, and decadent! Not to mention that they love smothering poppet faces :) Pale and perfect, yes they are.
Enough about my wrinkly soles....keep your tongue in your mouth..hmm it might be amusing to see you licking your screen! Poor little poppet reduced to a screen licking perv lol
Ok ok, back to the previous topic. So, I will be away from my desktop, but I will still be posting on twitter and IG. Speaking of IG, did you know that they shut my initial account down because of my chastity photos? Sheesh, I gather that dicks in devices is a no no. Well since they figuratively spanked my ass for my naughty photos, so I am primarily posting nature and feet photos. You like my feet yes? Well than, get to following me on IG!
I have posted about a couple of opportunities for you gents to put a smile on my face. Gift cards for a new scale to help me in my fitness journey ($30), or a bottle of my favorite scent ($80) mmm your gift spraying all over my flesh! Take your pick, or be the biggest sweetheart of all, and send for both!! Wouldn't you just be the most special gent then...yes, yes you would, so go ahead and be the bestest boy for Goddess :)
I will be posting photos while on vacation, but sorry gents, no blogs til I get back.
Of course you can still reach me on either social media, or via email to beg to be of use (mzsydney34@yahoo.com)
Anyways, hope to see your gift card in my inbox soon, which is my delicate way of saying SNAP SNAP get to it!!
Hello hello precocious poppets
Many times over many years we have all heard the phrase "Failure is not an option", yet it is unequivocally false. Failure is most definitely an option, and most often it is the one we learn the most from.
I loathe breaking it to you, but I am just as human as you are lol, and have made plenty of mistakes in my lifetime. I have undergone failed ventures many a time, and actually came out better on the other side of them. Why? Well poppets, success comes from failure, that and a gut load of determination.
An intelligent individual knows that failure highlights errors, which allows insight into necessary change. Once you know which steps led to your downfall, you can make the adjustments needed for success. Isn't that wonderful!!
So, perhaps you now understand that failing is not always a bad thing.
When it comes to serving a woman in a submissive capacity, it is only natural for you to strive towards perfection since your Lady is due to receive your very best, but I am telling you in all honesty that you will fail at times. It is going to happen, but how you handle it, and how you choose to get past it determines the core of your character.
Are you the type of man who gives up when he trips up, or are you the man who dusts himself off, and gets right back at it? Hopefully you are the latter.
I myself have always viewed mistakes as opportunities, as should you. Yes, failures are discouraging, and you might even feel like a dumbass when they occur, but if you stew in the brew of them, you will never achieve your goal, which should be providing the very best service possible. You can do it! You just have to want it more than anything :) so stop hiding behind your past mistakes, and get to serving your purpose in life. Oh and in case you were wondering what that purpose is (drum roll).....serving Sydney Claire!!!
Welcome poppets,
Today I speak to you about being a financial submissive. This is entirely different than being a service submissive, a sexual submissive, a fetishist, a client, a customer etc...
A financial submissive is the ONLY type of submissive I am interested in welcoming into my stable. No doubt this seems unfair, but life is not fair, and never delude yourself into thinking that it is meant to be. Life is intended to be lived, and enjoyed, but it was not created as an equal playing ground. Some people simply are better than others. Some people are more intelligent than others. Some people were born with financial advantages, and some have fought their way to the top of tier through sheer determination.
I appreciate people who are laden with a determined spirit. Ones who are driven to succeed. People who will push past discomfort, and strive forward towards the culmination of their goals. Is this you? Are you one of the select few who will impress me? Are you a financial submissive?
Financial submissives differ from the everyday run of the mill submissives cluttering the findom scene, in that they are not buyers with demands and expectations. Customers repulse me. They are insincere, and seek only their own gratification. What in the hell is attractive about a man who cares only for his own pleasure? A man who lacks consideration for woman and their wants and needs. Why would any woman value such a man? A man who offers a woman nothing, is worth nothing, and I have no use for a useless man.
Financial submissives give. They give without ulterior motivation. They give without coercion. They give simply to bring happiness. They give because they recognize that their contribution can make a difference in a woman's life. They give out of appreciation for a woman's time and energy. They give because it is ingrained within them to do so.
You may consider these men to be saps, due to the fact that they are not receiving "due compensation" in return for their contributions, but you would be dead wrong, and the only reason that you even think like that is because you are selfish yourself. You cannot imagine any man giving without getting. You are so wrapped up in you you you, that you fail to realize that these men receive a gift far greater than any fleshly pleasure can provide.
They are the men who make a difference. Those that stand out, and not forgotten easily. Nor are the discarded quicker than it takes the jizz to dry on your nuts. They are valued. They are appreciated. They are lauded as the very best of boys. They are the reason why I bother to continue making my presence known in the scene. These are the men I seek, and I am not a woman to settle for second rate submissives.
Mind you that you can be a financial submissive yet not a millionaire, but you cannot be a financial submissive without tributing a consistent weekly tithe. Consistency and generosity of said tributes are the key to becoming a desired financial submissive.
Being a financial submissive will make you a better man. It will teach you to appreciate a woman. It will lead you to worship a woman in the purest sense. It will complete you.
There is nothing stopping you from being this type of man, except you. You are stopping you. It is you that has attached yourself to the ideology that you deserve to gain from the existence of women. It is you who has treated women as if their creation was intended as a sexual treat for you. It is you that has poisoned your mind with selfishness, and it is up to you to change yourself. You are less than a worthless worm belly crawling his way across the Earth taking and taking and taking from women, til at last you will realize that women have zero respect for you, in fact all they have for you is loathing. Does that make you feel good?
You do not want to be reviled do you? I cannot imagine that being a good feeling in any sense. Redeem yourself lest it be too late for you. Start today even if it is small. Start today by giving of yourself selflessly to a woman. Start your day by making a woman smile as she sees your gift awaiting her in her inbox. Thank a woman for existing, and bringing beauty into your life. Give and gift gents, for that is what financial submissives do, and that is what you are purposed to do.
I expect to see the gift of your generous giving within my inbox after having read and absorbing my commands.
mzsydney34@yahoo.com
Hello gentlemen
Do you want to know how to interact with me for the very first time? I realize that I can be an intimidating force of nature lol, but it really is easier than you would imagine.
I do want you to understand though, that your initial message to me is going to set the tone for how I respond.
These are the things that you do NOT want to start off with
1)An obvious generic copy and paste message
2)Your autobiography
3)Your bank details, or any type of passwords
4)Dick pics
5)Photos that you want exposed
6)Addressing me in what I find to be passive aggressive demeaning terms ie hey sexy, bb, sugar, honey, girl
7)Giving me a list of your turn ons
8)Telling me that I make your dick hard
9)Relaying what you want to do to me
10)Stating what you want me to do to you
I think that you gents get so carried away with your fetishes, that you forget entirely that the person you are interacting with is a person too.
If you are a smart gent, you will have already read my profiles, tweets, blogs, website etc. You will be well acquainted with my expectations in regards to submissive behavior I deem acceptable and pleasing, so all of the mostly inane chit chat will not be necessary, for you are informed.
I honestly do not care to "shoot the shit" with random strangers, or answer questions that are already answered in my profile.
I want you coming into my inbox already prepared to tribute and serve, because if you aren't, than you have not put in any effort in getting to know me at all, and that is unacceptable. The fact that I include findom in ALL of my femdom exchanges is widely known, so this should not be coming as a shock to you, and if you do not know what findom is, than google it gents.
As well, it should be plain as day to you that I am to be addressed as Goddess, or Mz..no deviation. It may seem old school, but in my estimation, it is about respect, and I do not tolerate disrespect.
Believe me when I say that you want to start off on the right footing with me, because I am not a big believer in allotting second chances. I understand that you may be nervous and in awe of me, so you may flub up a bit in your communication,which is ok, but never do so intentionally gents.
I can be one of the easiest going Dommes you will ever talk to, but at no time am I ever not the dominant in the exchange, and I have zero issues booting you out my door if you forget it. As well, I am a genuine sweetheart to those who treat me with all of the deference due to a Goddess. To those who are generous with their time, attention, and financial worship of me, I am most benevolent :) Regardless though, I will ignore you into non-existence if you ill treat my kindness. My kindness has never been a weakness.
If it is not apparent to you as of yet, I will speak plainly. I do not want you to fear approaching me if you are sincere in your desire to serve me. In fact I always welcome males into my sect who have proven that they are intent on putting my happiness above their own, my fetishes above their own, and my comfort above their own. If this resonates, than you are what I seek, and I bid you to come beg an audience..I did tell you that I adore when males beg, didn't I lol
One of the most basic responsibilities in FinDom is the giving of gifts to your Domme. Whether it be cash or material items. It is a given, and need not be expounded upon, for all who claim the status of "finsub, paypig, cashslave, human atm, generous gent, pay pet, etc.." know that tribute is their honored duty.
It truly is an honor to gift your Goddess, for she is meant to be the center of your universe. She guides you in submission to her. She educates you upon her protocol. She shares of her time, knowledge, and patience with you. She is the star you look to when you are unsure of which way to go. These are just a few of the reasons why submissives give gifts in thanks to their Domme.
The issue many males have with this structure is that they want to know what is in it for them. By the way, this is an incorrect and self-centered mindset. Anyways, what is it that males who worship and tribute receive from their FinDommes? The answer is simplistic, yet apparently fully incomprehensible to those who cannot and will not see past themselves.
Giving is submitting. It is relinquishing that which has been held dear, into the hands of one they hold dear. It is a supplication of will. It is a release of ego and demands for self. It is selfless. It is freedom from the binds of society dictates for male behavior, yet not, for it has always been a male's sacred duty to support and provide for females. That aspect does not alter, but the intent behind the action does. He gives, not because he is told that he must, he gives because he wants to receive the joy and pleasure of submitting his riches to a woman that he holds in highest esteem. He gives because he wants her world to sparkle and shine with the brilliance of his utter devotion to her happiness.
Giving to a Domme provides a submissive with the opportunity to submit, which is her most priceless gift to him. Accepting the submission of a submissive is a gift. The Domme is allowing the submissive to serve out their intended in life purpose, and that is truly a gift of means beyond the tangible. She is giving the gift of purpose. She is providing pleasure to the submissive by accepting their servitude. The submissive receives these gifts from his Domme, so please do leave off with the entire "what does the submissive get for their money BS". FinDom relationships are indeed about giving and receiving. The submissive gives monetary gifts, and he receives the gift of purpose.
Now get off your duff, and get to spending, and sending, so that you too can be gifted with purpose in life!
Welcome minions of mine, to the world of Goddess Sydney Claire!
How many times has reality bitch slapped you since jumping on the submissive fetish bandwagon? I would wager, a few times lol, and you have deserved it.
You get all hyped up, and lose your mind when the blood flow pools south of the belt line don't you? Yuppers you do. You are fooling yourself though tsk tsk. You get it in your head that you are special, that you are the premiere male with a foot fetish, an ass fetish, etc....
but it just ain't so.
Truth be known, you are no different than the thousands of other males world wide with the very same fetishes. Each and every one of you is running raggedly delusional. Your fetishes, your desires, your wants, your turn ons do not set you apart from the crowd. In fact you blend into the nameless, faceless majority. No woman will remember you, or differentiate you from the countless fools who contact her each and every day with the same worn out statements.
Not even your proclamations of being a "true submissive" is going to gain you any leeway. FemDommes have heard it all, please believe that. You can scream it to the heavens about how you are not like the rest, but if you do not validate those words with actions, than you are exactly like the rest of your dick beating brethren.
You must stand out in order to be recognized, much less remembered. How do you go about that though?
1)Get your hand off your dick, and keep it off
2)Speak like a human being, rather than a simplified slang slinging text speaking bot
3)Put forth the effort of reading her profiles to learn about her expectations first
4)Send an original message, and forgo the copy and paste chain mail you normally remit
5)Focus your message upon how you can serve her wants, and her needs, not yours
6)Get that wallet out, and tribute to show that you appreciate her as a person
7)Be patient, and wait for her reply without sending message after message
*It honestly is within your best interests to follow the above advice.*
Now get off your arse, and make your submissive journey matter!
Welcome to the blog of Goddess Sydney Claire
I had no intentions of typing up a post today, but in light of the recent SESTA/FOSTA laws awaiting a final signature to enact them into law, I felt that I needed to take a few moments to make absolutely clear my thoughts and intentions in regards to the subject.
If you are not US based, you may not have heard of these possible new laws. They were supposedly created in order to cut down on human trafficking, which remains a concerning issue even in this day and age. I am in agreement that human trafficking is a horrid practice which must be stopped, but I will not concede that the means and measures of doing so should in any form punish those that are not perpetrating it. Why should any one person be penalized for an act that they have not committed? Many will argue that the ills caused to a few for the benefit of the many is just cause, but is it really? Do you see the far reaching ramifications of this type of mindset? I hope so, but I fear that most do not.
Of course legitimate sex workers are against human trafficking, but when laws come into place targeting ALL sex workers, it becomes a shitstorm of astronomical proportions! Some of the very people who voted upon the passage of these proposals do in fact avail themselves of the services of sex workers. How hypocritically ironic is that?
There are petitions circulating asking that these proposals do not be enacted into law, which in all good conscious should be signed by you. As I stated above, this will avalanche until it prods into all walks of society. Doubt me? Take a look at the new policies of skype. As it stands, if you and your significant other are separated by distance, and want to engage in watching each other masturbate, or even talking naughty to each other using their service, than you will be banned. Isn't that lovely? This will eventually broach into your life, so it is in your interests to act preemptively.
Fetlife has recently apprised members of their stance in relation to the proposed law, and have decided upon the action of banning findom activities from their website. It is their right to take this action, but what they are purposely overlooking, is that findom is NOT about sex. It never was, and those that make it so, are taking fate into their own hands, but regardless, there is so much hatred for findom on the site to begin with, that it is not surprising to me that they would ban it. How many of you actually thought that findom was about paying for sex?
Having said all of that, I want to shine light upon my own practices, so that no grey area can be slid into.
I do not offer or engage in ANY sex acts with the submissives that serve me. Now this is definitely separate from the lifestyle submissive who serves me, and has served me for 13 years. He is exempt, and NO I am not taking on any other lifestyle submissives, only financial servants. Is that crystal clear?
I am a law abiding citizen of the US, which means that NO I will not
1)Nude facesit with my pay pups
2)Engage in oral or anal, nor vaginal(with my female pay pups) sex with my pay pups
3)Engage in sounding, catheterization, or any activity which involves me touching a pay pups penis or vagina
The state of Kansas defines sex acts for money as prostitution, which is illegal, and I will not place myself in jeopardy for any male's desire to get off, so do not come to me with that type of expectation. Just know that your tribute freely given to me is a gift, and not payment for sexual services, else it is you scamming yourself. I will never provide sexual service for payment.
That is all for today, back to the regular pervy programming :)
Welcome to my world, where Goddess Sydney rules with an iron fist of domination :)
Do any of you have twitter, or any other social media accounts? I imagine that you do, because in this day and age, everyone is listed somewhere. A rather inane question than, is it not? I promise that I will get to the point in a minute!
When you scroll through your feed or TL do you ever roll your eyes, and cringe? I do this each and every single day. Why? The number 1 reason is dick pics, number 2 is asshole pics, number 3 is drama drama drama.
For the purposes of this post, I am going to concentrate my thoughts upon number 3, and why it is detrimental.
Drama kills progress and reputations, yet you see peeps engaging in it left and right. Both females and males engage in it on social media. What is the purpose behind it though?
Engaging and initiating drama is almost like holding up a sign saying
While it may bring attention to you, I highly doubt that it will be the type you sought. Human beings are naturally drawn to the dramatic, but the majority will avoid it like the plague, especially when it comes to fetish. To some though, any attention is better than no attention, but they would be wrong. Negative attention will deter people from trusting you enough to play with. That is not a good thing. You seriously do not want to be known as the resident shit starter.
Let's take a peek at why any male in the fetish scene would go around stirring the pot.
1)He gets off on the catfights
2)He believes that he will come out smelling like a victim that peeps will rally behind
3)Sympathy is the only way he can get attention, cause he is broke or refuses to pay tribute
Now for the female reasoning
1)The scene is over saturated with females, so they want to get their brand out in the public eye
2)They simply enjoy starting shit
3)They are jealous of the success of others, so they want to put a contender in the shade
Regardless of female or male, you are barreling down a slippery slope if drama is your primary game plan for conquering the fetish scene. Take my advice, and just say NO to it.
For the Ladies, build your brand the old tried and true fashioned way. Sweat, blood, and tears baby. It works!
For the gents, it ain't cool to pit females against each other, and your broke/cheap ass will be put down for the count, cause patching a ripped rep is almost impossible.
Blessed day all, and may the drama not be with you!
You seriously do not want to be known as the resident shit starter.
Welcome all to the world where Goddess Sydney shares her words of wisdom!
Something that I am most definitely not, is your comfortable old pair of slippers just waiting for you to have use for me once again.
I know that some of you are shaking your head saying "what the crap is she talking about?", so I am going to enlighten you in regards to the point of my post today.
There once was a male (not naming and faming him) who only came knocking at my inbox when he wanted to make use of me, and any other time he would ghost me like a sonofabitch til that time popped up again. Do you know why this pisses me off?
1)I do not appreciate males attempting to use me for their own personal gain..I know that you are laughing now, cause holy shit, isn't that what a FinDomme does to males, and the answer is more complicated than a simple yes or no.
Yes I use males for my own financial gain, but with that gain, I also expect them to follow my rules of domination, which means a)keeping in regular contact b)giving me priority in their lives c)completing all assigned tasks d)not being selfish or self-centered. Yup that is surely a butt load to expect isn't it?
What they gain from the experience is my level of control. They are free to relinquish control over that tight rope they walk in everyday life, and just give in to their desires of submission, which in turn promotes happiness for them.
Are you beginning yet to grasp why I am peeved?
Let's digress.
2)Now not only does this male fail to keep in contact, but he is miserly with tribute, when I know full well that he spends three times as much on his own comforts than my own. Hmm does that sound like selfish and self-centered behavior?
3)I have been so very kind in giving this male chance after chance to alter this undesirable behavior, yet it continues. I am not patience eternal, nor am I your Mother who will love and forgive you anything. I am a human being like any other (well I do consider myself pretty damn special :) which means, that even I am going to get fed up, and cut ties with those that lack basic appreciation of me. Sounds fair doesn't it? I think so.
***Bottom line: Regardless of what role you play in my life. If you do not, cannot, or simply will not care for or about me more than you do yourself, than I do not want you playing any role in my life period.***
Welcome to the sphere of Goddess Sydney! A place where you must earn your spot.
“Loyalty isn’t grey. It’s black and white. You’re either loyal
completely, or not loyal at all. And people have to understand this. You
can’t be loyal only when it serves you.” -Shamay
Loyalty when it serves only you is a guise of selfishness. Did you know that?
Loyalty is an essential building block in the foundation of a D's relationship. If loyalty is absent, than chaos will become destructive.
Most people living today have no grounded concept of loyalty, not even to those they claim as their own. Open up any news outlet online, and you will see family selling out family for a buck, or a minute of mentions. Utterly discouraging is it not? I believe so.
This is just one solitary reason why so many fail when it comes to achieving an enduring D's relationship.
Why is loyalty so very difficult to maintain in bdsm exchanges? I am going to share with you a few of my own thoughts as to the reason. Feel free to comment with your own thoughts, and opinions in regards to the subject.
1)Femdom is a literally smorgasbord of beautiful women. It is the candy shop which kicks all other candy shop's asses. There are just so many erotically stimulating women to offer your services to, so of course you may become overwhelmed, thereby eradicating your sense of reasoning when it comes to choosing just one to serve, cause why should you limit yourself when you can lick this one, take a bite of that one, even swallow of morsel of them all right? I get it, I really do. You guys are spoiled for selection. It is rather like winning the submissive lottery. Why should you be loyal to anyone other than yourself? That is the question, and it is up to you to make that choice. No one can force you to settle for a single slice, but please don't complain when you get sick from overindulgence. Eventually the best of you will deduct that variety is not always the spice of life.
2)Marital or romantic relationship status. Many of you that I see day in, day out, are already involved in a "vanilla" relationship, and this factor can lead you to draw a line of loyalty down the middle, in which you already have a primary interest, so what time you do devote online is a phantom piece of what an unattached male would offer up. Is that really fair, or even conducive to forming any type of cohesive D's relationship? I would say not.
3)You really are a selfish shit that cannot or will not see past the end of your dick. You have no concerns about forming any type of relationship beyond the one you enjoy wanking to. You will buzz like a bee to every single honeypot you can find. You are the slutiest of sluts, and worse than a huge zit on picture day.
4)You are purely immature. You have failed to grow into an adult mindset as of yet. You are young, and full of dumb cum, so you just have not developed the skills and maturity to recognize that loyalty has it's own rewards.
Loyalty is an intensely black or white quality in my estimation. You are either loyal or you aren't. There is no in between or kinda crap, and those that are not loyal are cut quick from my life. Life is short, and yes I know that most of you think that femdom is all fun fun fun, but if you cannot grasp the seriousness of some aspects, than I really want nothing to do with you.
Loyalty is an expectation of mine from the get go, and no it is not too much to ask for.
Now you tell me: Are you loyal? Do you expect loyalty from those in your life? Would you want anything to do with a person that you cannot count upon their loyalty to you?
Welcome all followers to the slice of sphere where my word is sacrosanct
This is your school where you will learn to serve a purpose greater than yourself.
This is your church where you will learn to worship and look beyond the material desires of man.
This is your home where you will find peace and comfort in knowing that you were created for something worthwhile.
Your male mind is polluted daily with notions which serve no use, other than to glorify the toxic patriarchy. You have been brainwashed into believing that you are greater than women, that your will is of more noble design than theirs, that you are essentially elevated above women by virtue of being born with a penis. Your mind is a chalkboard filled with erroneous facts, which must be wiped clean.
If the seed of desire for your evolution was not within you, than you would not be here now reading my words, and absorbing my direction. You want to change. You need to change. You must change. I propose the steps you should tread, but if your mind is not cleared of the chaos imbued through repetitious patriarchal programing, than you will fall flat, and fail in your purpose. Do you want to fail? Do you want to be a failure in this lifetime?
Where does change begin? It begins one assured step at a time. Begin by eliminating one selfish thought per day. Simple yes? Easy yes? Try this for 1 week, and share with me your progress. Tell me how you have began your journey towards absolution for your sins of selfishness. On the second week, eradicate one selfish act per day. Just one action. Surely it will not even impose upon you that very much. I mean, what could it hurt? Share with me what action you relegated to the bin of banishment. Try this for 2 weeks, and see if you are able to gain a better perspective of what it means to alter your life towards a selfless existence.
Onto the next step. Go through your clothing closet, and donate the items that you have not worn in a year's time. Not your underwear though, because that is beyond disgusting, just throw those away! Giving is receiving, and by donating you are aiding others, while encouraging the growth of selflessness within yourself. After the purge of unused clothing, move onto your other possessions. Do you need trinkets, and items gathering dust in your living space? Freeing yourself from the burden of their ownership will be like a breath of fresh air literally. Clutter is not conducive to a simple life. You do not need to own items that serve no use. This step involves a bit more effort, but not so very much that you cannot accomplish it within a a couple of weeks.
After all of this, I want you to take some time and pontificate upon how your life has changed at this point. You are freed from one daily act, and thought of selfishness, and you have reorganized your space to efficiency. Do you feel better about yourself? Do you see yourself as more productive, giving, and of use? Change can feel so very good, if you just give it a chance.
The bigger and more complicated steps will come next, but those I will save til you are ready to embark upon them.
Remember, one step at a time!
Welcome to the world of Goddess Sydney. Where words paint the picture of femdom reality. Join me..entertain me..obey me...and pay tribute to the divinity of Goddess!
Were you aware that I possess morals and limits in regards to femdom activities? I can see some of you scratching your balls, and thinking huh..a femdom (which most would classify as a sex worker) having morals. I bet that you think it to be an oxymoron, correct?
You would be wrong. I always have, and always will have clearly drawn lines of what I deem acceptable in my own form of femdom. I have that right, just as you have the right to declare what is off limits in your estimation. Hard limits differ in each individual, and it should go without saying that anything illegal should be a hard limit for everyone, but of course you will see some people hugging the curve so closely, that they eventually run right off the track into legal jeopardy. You do not want to be that person, believe me, so even if you fantasize about something seriously over the line, keep it a fantasy only.
A trending fetish fantasy is homewrecking. Homewrecking has been an area where my feet would not tread, but slowly I have been pontificating aspects of it. I am not referring to the role play of it, that many poke at, but rather at the reality of plunging into it eyes open.
My issue with the fetish has been the thought that it infringes upon my moral code of bringing no harm to fellow women, but would it really be me bringing harm? I am not the one insidiously venturing online to get my jollies whilst my partner is utterly unaware of my activities. That is YOU. It is you that has made commitments, and oaths of fidelity, which are being broken without consent. That is YOU.
Your betrayal is what makes you unworthy of your SO. Therefore I might indeed view myself as in fact aiding my fellow female by removing your presence from her life. She deserves better than you. She deserves a man who is honest, trustworthy, and capable of controlling his base instincts to stray. That is NOT you. You are a liability to her future happiness, and I would be doing her a favor by severing the bond built upon lies. Don't you agree?
Some would argue that it is kinder to allow your SO to live a lie, but is it really? We both know that you are not going to change. You simply do not want to. You like the perversity of interacting with other women in a manner that suits your sexual desires. Your heart races, and the blood pools in your groin when you think about pushing the envelop to the very edge of exposure, but are you ready for the reality of it? Are you prepared to live your life alone, bereft of a woman standing by your side through thick and thin? Do you really want to plunge into the dark icy unknown world of homewrecking? Are you ready to be wrecked?
I am not talking about playing a role, or a game where everything returns to normal when you get up from the computer, crawl into bed, and snuggle up to your SO with a raging hard on because of your nasty nocturnal habits. I am referring to the cold sheets, half your assets removed, no one there to hear you whimper in the dark DIVORCE. Where your only comfort comes from following my orders to the T. No pity, no leniency. Just you doing as told, day after day after day. You ready? You want it? You got to have it?
Think real hard about it, because there is no going back. No do overs. No second chances for you. Tick tock goes the marital clock.
Welcome to my strand of the net....
Have you as a male ever seen me preach about the virtue of being less selfish in submissive service? If you are a first time visitor to my blog, than it is unlikely, but if you are a regular follower of mine, you could not legitimately deny it.
I have spoken of the importance of relinquishing self serving agendas from day one. It is both significant, and a requirement of providing essential service in a femdom relationship. How would you possess any reasonable expectations of your efforts being recognized as of value, if your focus remains internal? You cannot.
Serving in submission to a dominant woman is both a blessing and a curse so to speak. A blessing, in that it forces you purge yourself of the curse of male entitlement. I realize that many of you even fail to recognize that you believe yourself to be entitled, but I am here to flash it before your face.
You live in a society where women continue to be thought of (even if only subconsciously) as possessions of males and extensions of their prowess. This mentality is in direct opposition of the definition of femdom, which is why so many of you fail in your attempts to actually get to the down and dirty, nitty gritty aspects of servitude to women.
You walk around day in, day out believing in your core of beliefs that men are owed by women. That on some basic level, women owe you their sexuality, and their submission to your designs. This is a debilitating, and destructive set of ideals. No doubt some of you are crying out "not me", or "not all men"....but it is ALL men. Now I am not inferring that some men are not further along the journey to freeing themselves from this misogynistic ideology than others, but I do question if any man is ever totally freed from the ingrained chains of it.
In order to effect change, one must be willing to alter themselves to the point at which they wish to see others emulate. You must begin to ask and answer difficult soul searching questions, such as
1)Do you truly want to serve women, or is your agenda to serve predicated upon your desire to have your desires met?
2)Must you receive in order to give? If so, your giving is not selfless.
3)Is your offer of servitude confined to the bedroom..ie activities where you are likely to gain gratification?
4)Is your servitude based upon your level of physical attraction to a woman? If so, would you imagine it fair to say, that you are objectifying her for your personal preferences?
I will not stretch your mind with further ongoing queries today, but those 4 should push your comfort level down a notch.
My goal is for you as submissive male, is to take a hard look at your motivations in service, and to see what drives you to submit. If that motivation is based upon selfishness, you are not truly submitting, but rather attempting to role play it, and that is not beneficial in the long run, for you are failing to fully submit. Sure, are getting off to the idea of submitting, but you are bypassing the deeper meaning of the submissive experience, and that is where the beauty of femdom lies.
To the troglodytes in the back row, I am going to break this down to the simplest level possible. Selfish=bad Selfless=good.
Til next we speak, poppets
Goddess Sydney
Welcome one and all to the sphere of Goddess Sydney....
Do you know what it means to be dependable? Being dependable means that a person can continuously rely upon you. Is this something you think about, or is it simply ingrained within you?
Your youth tends to set the tone for the development of dependability. Ask yourself these questions to ascertain the truth of your level of dependability.
1)When you were in school, could your teacher depend upon your attendance, and diligence to completing your homework, or were you a truant sloth?
2)Did you have friends who felt comfortable sharing their secrets with you? Was their trust misplaced? Could you be counted on being a dependable friend?
3)When your parents assigned you chores, could they rely upon you to see them done, or did you offer excuses and insolence?
4)When you applied for your first job, did your prospective employer make it clear that you must show up on time each and every scheduled day if you wanted to retain the position? Did you keep faith with that commitment, or were you late with regularity, or absent many shifts?
5)Did you have girlfriends, and were you faithful to that relationship, or were you a cheating coward who lacked the backbone to sever the ties before seeking thrills elsewhere?
Fast forward to today
1)Are you a dependable man?
2)Are you a man of your word?
I want you to really think about your answers before you ever approach me to serve in a submissive capacity. Dependability is a required trait in any submissive I undertake to train.
If I cannot depend upon you, than you really serve no use. Trust is one of the cornerstones of a bdsm relationship. You trust me not to push beyond your hard limits, or to the point of permanent damage, and in turn I trust you to be an honest, loyal, selfless, devoted, dependable man. Without that trust, there is no future in a power exchange, and I for one play the long game.
When I set a task, or ask that you be available to me, even note a schedule for regular tithing, than I need to be able to depend upon you to accomplish what I put before you as commands, so keep this in mind when first you ask to kneel for me, otherwise you are knowingly wasting my time, and yours, which is a cardinal sin in the book of Goddess Sydney!
Welcome to the sphere of Goddess Sydney. A safe space for males to experience the reality of being inferior to a woman :)
A lot of misguided individuals believe that poor little paypigs are brutally taken advantage of by those most "despicable vile con artists" known as FinDommes, and my mission today is to set the record straight by asking and answering some basic questions.
1)Are "paypigs" in the findom scene victims?
Males in the findom arena are consensual participants in a recognized valid fetish. They engage in a power exchange facilitated by the relinquishment of control via financial tribute. The prime adjective to note in that statement is CONSENSUAL. Consent determines the course, and thereby lays waste to the accusation of abuse. If an adult human being of sound mind consents to an activity with defined rules, and outcomes relayed, than they are no more a victim of a crime than any other person who plays in the bdsm world.**Please note that I am NOT stating that victimization never ever occurs in findom, but only that it is NOT the norm.** You will have people with ulterior motivations, and shady agendas in ALL walks of life, but for the most part I am speaking to the normative group who engage in findom.
2)Aren't "FinDommes" money hungry scammers who should just get off their dead ass, and get a real job?
Reality=The majority of women who engage in findom as a dominant, do work regular joe jobs. It is a fetish for them, and even an innate desire to dominate submissives. I am going to estimate here, so keep that in mind, but perhaps only the top earning 1% of women in the findom scene actually rely on findom for all of their income. Just as in any other occupation, earning is competitive, so those top 1% of women are forced to work their asses off to get to the point where they can claim it as a career, which means that they are not sitting around on a dead ass taking advantage of wandering mentally disadvantaged schmucks. I am not denying that they are capitalizing upon the predication of horny males seeking to "get off", because they really are, but they are not employing force, for males will line the blocks to wank off, and you know full well that I am not being disingenuous here. The bottom line here, is that males are willingly, and with foreknowledge reaching out to these women, therefore if any blame must be assigned, than let it be lain at the feet of the instigator.
3)FinDommes don't really care about those lost hapless souls serving them, now do they?
I have seen many, wonderfully fulfilling long term findom relationships evolving over the years. I myself have a male who has been in service to me 12 continuous years as my finsub. He finds supreme satisfaction and fulfillment in sending me gifts of adoration and appreciation. Does he consider this abuse, absolutely NOT, because he finds pleasure in my happiness, and why would I want to deprive him of that? We both receive in the exchange of power. He gives gifts, I receive happiness from his tokens of love, and he receives purpose, direction, and pleasure from pleasing. Now I am going to aver right here and now, that not all findom relationships are identical to the one I just shared, but they may be more similar than what one may think to outsiders. Everyday you can pop on social media and see the terms blackmail and forced ruination, which to the average joe creates the appearance of abuse, but in most instances what you are really seeing is a fetish game played out publicly. Do you honestly believe that blackmailers display their criminal intent, and actions out for consumption? Get real here. Blackmail is a fetish, mind you that it is not one I engage in, but I recognize the edgy excitement of it. As to financial ruination, it occurs, but how much of what you see is real, and how much is fantasy? Fetish play is primarily based upon fantasies, and for most people, being bankrupted is an extreme dose of reality, which is skirted around, but never fully indulged. Sure you may find males who are left broke til next payday, but than, who isn't most of the time??
4)Do all FinDommes consider and treat findom like a business? For some it is. Take a look at 2 of the most popular venues for findom services (niteflirt & iwantclips). These are legitimate business models where consenting customers pay for products. No one is being deceived about what they are paying for. They cannot claim that they did not realize that their wallet was not being tapped. I did say some, but not all ok. Some FinDommes do not sell services. I personally don't, and I am not the only one. This is not to say that I never will, but at this point in time, I do not. As well, I do not judge those that do. So long as no one is being misled, or harmed, it is certainly no business of mine what people choose to do, and this is a philosophy most if not all should adopt.
5)Aren't FinDommes just beggars who chase after every male for money? If a completely random woman is slipping into your inbox asking for or demanding money, that is not a FinDomme, That is an entirely different animal, so do NOT mistake the 2. Findom is not based upon a woman needing money from a male, but she will happily accept it from males who want to give it to her free of strings. Can you tell me the name of any woman who would not want to be given gifts without attached expectations for no reason other than existence, me neither.
6)Aren't FinDommes just whores who fuck for money? Most of the women in findom that I am acquainted with, do not offer sexual services for compensation. Findom at it's hear, atleast for me, is not about tit for tat. It isn't even sexual for me. Yes it is sensual, and yes the power exchange arouses me physically, but it is more about the act of being on the receiving end of a powerful tribute which sets me soaring. I do not masturbate thinking about money, nor the males who gift me with it. I do not stroke a dick for pocket change, or allow a random penis to penetrate me for cash. There is a difference between how a FinDomme operates, and how an escort does. Yes they are both in the realm of sexworkers, but they are not dictated by the same rules. An escort is a service provider, which means that she provides a service for which she is compensated, whereas I do not provide a tangible service, but rather receive service for which I am paid tribute. I hope that makes sense. In the end, if you are looking for intercourse, or a blow job, your best bet is to go with the escort, cause any type of sex, is not happening with me.
It is my hope, that my words have cleared away some of the confusion in regards to findom, and that all may atleast attempt to be less judgemental of fetishes which they have no knowledge of :)
Welcome to the wonderful world of Goddess Sydney. A place where submissives line up to lay their submission at my feet!
Submission begins in the mind, not the flesh. It is a conscious decision to relinquish control over yourself. It must be a conscious decision, else submission would not be submission, but rather an exchange painted by the stroke of abuse.
Submission brings forth an avalanche of emotions, which can at times bury you beneath them. It can be frightening to the point of fight or flight survival mode. It may come with a full body tingling awareness of pure bliss. It may even trigger thoughts, and feelings that should be left alone. My point being, that submission can be many things to many people, which means that no two may ever experience it in the same manner, even if they are both subjected to duplicate stimuli.
The path of your submission is in most part within your control. You retain the power to make choices along the way. What choices do you have within your power?
1)You alone will decide whom you offer your submission to.
2)You alone will decide exactly what your hard limits are.
3)You alone can decide for yourself to sever the ties of submission within a D's relationship.
Submissives are not what society has scripted for them. They are not created from birth meek and weak of will. Many will be indeed of strong character, and moral fortitude. A man may bow before a woman, yet remain a man. There is no written, nor unwritten rule declaring that all submissives must be doormats to be walked upon.
Submission is a contract, and no I do not refer to a legal document. You as the submissive agree to submit your will to another, with the provision that it is followed within the parameters that both submissive and Dominant agree upon, which may vary, and change over time, but it remains constant that the submissive has the right to refuse to remand control over aspects which they have not agreed to, or decree limited scope in specific instances.
At the core of submission is the desire to let go, to give of yourself, to be free of the yolk life tethers you with. You will fly uninhibited from the constraints of society. It is both beautiful, and a blessing to submit to a Dominant. It is a life altering experience. An awakening of sorts, from which you will embrace wholeheartedly.
Many will flee in fear, for the unknown blankets them beyond their expectations.Others will grab on with both hands, and ride the ride in exhilaration. One thing I have noted over my years in bdsm, is that those that run as if the wind cannot catch them, will eventually drift back to it, for if you possess a submissive heart, you will never be able to completely cut ties with it. A submissive nature, a yearning to be dominated, cannot be imprisoned irrevocably. It will bring itself out, one way or another.
My advice is to NOT run headlong into submission, but rather to gauge your ability to submit at the point in time, and take small steps til you find yourself knee deep. At that time you will hopefully possess the knowledge you need to survive the roller coaster emotions of submission, intact. If you remain draped in doubts even then, tread water, take a deep breath, and immerse yourself slowly, til you find that one Dominant who makes you feel safe in submission. It may take months, years, even decades, but if you persevere, it will happen for you someday :)
Welcome to the diversely perverse world of Goddess Sydney
Do you know what time it is? Odd question to ask online yes? I agree, but I am not asking you to look at your watch, or peek at your phone for the time of day, what I am asking, is do you keep track of time?
Do you know that Valentine's Day comes once a year? Do you know that Christmas arrives on the same day, every year? Have you noticed that your birthday announces itself on that one special day, the exact same special day, every year?
I bet that you have noticed these annual events. You would have to be beyond obtuse not to. What am I getting at? No it is not my birthday, or Christmas, or even Valentine's day. My point being, that these holidays come once a year, year in, year out. Decade after decade, they keep on coming, so....you have an entire year to plan around these things.
You have a year to figure out what to buy that special someone in your life, which means that there is absolutely no good reason to ever say "oh I forgot". To excuse negligence is insulting.
Part of showing a woman that she matters to you, is acknowledging your appreciation of her existence. This means remembering special days, and gifts to go along with them. Did you know that women love gifts? A wise man knows that women are the center of the universe, well atleast his anyway.
Women are the central figure in a male's life from birth. You are born from a woman, and you will spend your lifetime trying to get back into a woman. Ironic yes?
There is a saying that goes, "If Momma is not happy, than no one is happy". Do you understand that concept? If not, well allow me to explain it to you. When a woman is not happy, she will make it known. There will be no smiles, no kind words, no laughter, and no joy in how she goes about her day. This is a tragedy! Women deserve happiness, and you as a man should be ensuring that happiness through your words, and most importantly through your actions. You have an obligation towards it.
Believe it or not, women are the backbone of any society. They are strength, they are compassion, they are human kindness personified. They deserve your very best efforts, not your lukewarm leftovers.
Today, this day, I want you to make a commitment, a promise to always do the utmost possible to provide for the happiness of that special woman in your life. If you are not quite following my words, than I will be quite clear! Your Domina should be your first priority, your center, the concrete upon which your life is built. Your obligations begin with her. She is the leader you will follow, and the icon you will worship, so her happiness will be paramount to your own. Do you understand? I sincerely hope so.
Make that commitment, and I promise that your life in submission will sail that much smoother :)
Welcome to the fabulous Femdom world of Goddess Sydney
Yesterday I read a tweet that really chapped my ass, and led me to typing up this post, because it indicated to me that some of y'all males need some schooling!
What I seen, was 1 "owned" male bitching on behalf of another male over the amount of tribute that a female required in order to converse. This instance of poor behavior popped questions into my head, such as:
1)Why was an "owned" male calling a female a bitch due to her requirements? (This brings shame to him, and to his supposed owner)
2)How was it any of his business to begin with? (If a male is in service, than his attention should be solely focused upon his owner, and making her happy, rather than sticking his nose in an unknown woman's business)
3)Why wasn't the male's "owner" publicly taking his ass down over his behavior? (Ladies need to understand that when a male wears your collar, that he can ruin your rep in an instant of stupidity)
**Males in the femdom/findom fetish scene NEED to realize that their behavior does reflect upon whomever they are serving, because if a female cannot, or will not control the behavior of her property, than she is a piss poor dominant, and fellow females will be quick to take note of it, and cut ties real quick.**
Important lessons for males:
1)Never ever think that it is ok to spew out misogynistic statements. It can and will bite you on the ass quicker than a gator who hasn't eaten in a month.
2)Keep your focus on serving your owner.
3)Other Domme's expectations for tribute, does NOT affect you, so keep your mouth shut.
Does this make sense? I personally have no use for any male who bashes my fellow femmes, nor will I tolerate the presence of any female who allows her submissive to perpetrate such a lowly act. Regardless if it is online or real time submission, this behavior must be stomped out post haste, cause there is NO room for misogyny in femdom.
Now,
I do not even know, nor have I ever interacted with the female that was
called to the carpet for demanding that her self-determined worth be
honored, but I do damn well know that it was not right for a male to
call her out as a bitch over it.
Some seem to think that, "oh well he didn't insult me, and he is paying me, so I will let it slide" FUCK that mindset! If women are to succeed, than we must stand up and say something when we see this type of vile behavior. It can and will affect you as the scene is slowly poisoned by it.
Keep my words in mind gents the next time you are tempted to butt your big nose into business not your own.
