Scams, frauds, liars & losers

 

Welcome back Queens & Princesses, pervs, and peons

 

Today we are going to revisit the who will, and who wont's when it comes to paying financial tribute. 

Have you noticed the abundance of new names, and new faces in the findom field? I imagine that you have. Kinda hard to miss eh? Now most of us are aware that males have a proclivity towards changing names, avis, accounts, etc when they need to cover their dubious non-debt paying past behaviors. I mean, it gets rather difficult to successfully dangle carrots in front of a Domme's face when the entire community knows you for the scammer you are. 

I have noted tons of newer Ladies making the rounds with complaints of being scammed. This is unfortunately a never ending cycle for "newbies", as they have yet to have learned how best to avoid ever having their time put to less than optimal use when surfing for sugar pot submissives. That all changes today! I am going to share with you a tip which will change your interactions, save you time, effort, and headaches.  

STOP TALKING TO MALES WHO HAVE NOT PAID YOU!!!

That is the secret, and the winning strategy. 

Scammers employ all types of tricks to get you to waste some of your precious time on them. Such as

1)Real Dommes do not charge (shame game countered with "If you were a real submissive, you would pay before approaching")

2) If you really loved dominating men, you would do it for free (no sane person works for free, and yes domination is work)

3) I need to get to know you before I pay you (blah blah blah BS, they can take the time to read your TL, and see your interactions for that)

4) All you care about is the money (hint: It really is about the money)

5) I need a pic or vid to prove that you are real before I pay (ha ha ha never give away free content...you should have plenty of free pics up on social media to begin with)

6)  I am going to get paid, have money coming, yada yada, will pay you when I get it (that day NEVER arrives)

7) I sent you a gift from your WL, sent you a gc, bought a clip etc....(never play with any male until you can verify that they have parted with funds for your time)

I have been around this block for a long time, and I tell you now with all sincerity, I have never, and yes I mean never ever, had any male serve me for any length of time, that has not tributed up front. "Good boys" will ALWAYS tribute without being asked, forced, or coerced. They do so, because they recognize your superiority, and crave your acceptance & happiness above boner gratification. 

They want to contribute to your life in a meaningful way, and let's be honest here, money does make the world go round. Without money, life is a study in misery, so you tell me why you would spend a single moment of your precious time on a male who wants you to be miserable? 

Look at it logically, such as from a business standpoint. You have a minimal amount of product (your time), which means that your focus needs to be upon maximizing a return on your investment (your time), else you will be out of business sooner rather than later, once again miserable. Ladies who spend all of their time chasing the ganders which lay no eggs, end up burnt out, and broke. Is that the way you would like your story written? If not, then heed my advice

STOP TALKING TO MALES WHO HAVE NOT PAID YOU!!!

What do men really want?

 

 I am here to give you the unvarnished truth, as to what men really want. Some of you may be in doubt as to how would I know what men really want considering that I am not a man, nor am I am masculine leaning woman, but I do have decades of interacting with men on a more than superficial level, and yes I am dating myself by stating this.

Most of us are guilty of buying into the prevalent myth of men valuing sex above all things. I am not denying that sex is high on the list for men, but it does not rank the highest. You might even be surprised as to what does stand atop the pinnacle. Ready?

Intimacy of interaction: Men want an intimate connection, just as badly as women do, and no this does not make them weak, or Lord forbid, unmanly. It merely makes them human. Human beings need connections. They need to be heard, seen, and valued. They want a woman who will acknowledge their existence on an emotional level.

No doubt you have been told that men are rough, tough, and need no one to stand by them, but that is a lie. Of course it is not a bad thing to be rough, tough, and stoic in the face of adversity, but in the end, men are human beings, with human needs. They possess a desire to be validated for their opinions, dreams, and desires. The most basic of which, is someone who will listen to them. A person who will allow them to crack their shell, and let out their vulnerabilities. 

As a woman, I have never been shamed for wanting, nay, needing a deeper connection with a fellow human being. I have always been free to express my innermost thoughts, doubts, and fears without being mocked, or labeled weak for doing so. This is what men want most of all. They want someone they can freely be open with. Imagine living your entire life never being able to be fully yourself. Having to hide your emotions from the world. Sound like a fulfilling life to you?

Not having this avenue open to men, leads them down a dead end path. This is why you see so many men reaching out with their penis, rather than with emotional intellect. Sad yes? I for one am full up with compassion for these men. They have been misled from the onset, then as further insult, they have been molded into a caricature of unhealthy manhood. They deserve better than they have received. Trying to convince them to veer from this course is the greatest of obstacles to be overcome though. Are you up to the challenge?

Time Managament In Relation To Relationships

 Whether you are new here, or a faithful follower, welcome to my personal slice of the web sphere.

 

 

 Life is a busy venture these days. From the mailman to the fortune 500 CEO, life's schedule never seems to just take a moment to breathe. It is a go go go world. So much to see, so much to do, and the hours in a day fail to provide adequate time to get your to do list completed as it is. Most days you find yourself to be the proverbial dog chasing it's own tail, having it in sight, but never grasping it, and always worn out from trying.

 Is it any wonder that people are short-tempered with a priority focus upon self these days? Their worlds narrowed down to a single sphere of influence. Understandably even the most evenly keeled being eventually devolves into a frazzled burnt out mess when piled under the weight of life's responsibilities. You are not alone facing this issue. People from all walks of life undergo this struggle each and every day.

What is surprising is the relationship most often relegated to the "pay attention to later" box, is personal relationships of the most intimate nature. You naturally expect that the people who matter the most to you will be content to wait for you to spare some of your priceless time to share with them. I mean, surely they understand just how busy your life is, right? This is a major mistake on your part. 

The people that we are closest to, need our attention more than any other in our lives. They deserve to be recognized, and treated as of importance. They should not be made to suffer your neglect, simply because you have not learned to manage your time wisely. Time management is more important than you realize, and more costly if you fail to  learn it.

Managing your time wisely, allows for you to spend more quality time with those who matter the most. Never assume that others are putting their lives on hold to wait for you to notice them. Neglect has been the downfall of many a relationship. Don't lose out due to what could have been avoided. Regrets leave a lifelong foul taste in one's mouth.

Did you know that it takes less than a single minute to send a text message? Were you aware that it takes approximately the same amount of time to send a pm/dm on social media, or post to facebook? It might even cost you an entire 2 minutes to type up an email. The point being, that it requires minimal effort, and time to show someone that they matter to you, and that you were thinking of them. Do you have 2 spare minutes within your 24 hour day? Don't fib either. 

A mere 2 minutes to make a connection. How easy is that?  Do it during your bathroom break if you have to, but just do it. Don't be the dud who ends up alone and miserable with nothing but broken and severed connections because you chose everything else over developing and securing your intimate relationships. What a miserable life that would be.

Intellectually we all know that our parents will not be around the entirety of our lives, that friends will relocate, and even the most dedicated partner will divorce themselves from you if you fail to put continued effort into the relationship, so look hard, and find that 2 minutes. I promise that you will not regret it!

Social Media Sanity Killer or Savior

Welcome to all whom have found their way here :)

 

 

   Do you have social media accounts? I can name maybe only a couple handful of people within my acquaintance who don't have one. Even most elderly folks these days are connected to atleast facebook. It truly is a rare feat not to be present upon one. I honestly commend those who have disconnected from the fray of it all. I believe that life sans the internet is one lived with a simplicity quite foreign to the majority. Can you imagine your day without it? No morning texts, or checking in to get your daily dose of news. Could you even last a single day without your fix? 

  Sometimes I do disconnect for a day. It is crucial to my state of mind. I mean seriously, the prevailing news segments are dreary, disappointing, and even downright depressing. What sane being wants to endlessly mire themselves within the muck of our society today? Count me out. When I began taking time away from the internet, I found it difficult not to just sneak a peek periodically throughout the day, but over time, I found that I was able to step away completely without any problem. Time away helped me to relax and enjoy my life as it is intended to be. It forced me to actually interact with people in a meaningful way. Instead of sending a quick text or typing up a two line email, I picked up my corded phone and called them, or got off my ever spreading buttocks, and went to visit in person. A blast from the past concept, but one that I have come to treasure. Making real contact with my friends and family has altered the way I engage online now. I am way more open to interacting with people that I once may have shrugged off. Not that engaging with any and everyone is a good idea, because believe me, it isn't. There are alot of toxic souls surfing the world wide net hoping to drag someone down to their level of discontent, and you do not want to be the one they happen upon. 

  Social media sites harbor so much anger at present, whether it be political opposing forces or religious stance arguments. People can quite easily become cancelled for "wrong think", and even doxxed, which is a disgustingly vile act of treachery. We used to enjoy a semblance of free speech in this country, but that has apparently been swept aside in the tide of pc demand. I personally do not believe that it has been a strength, in fact it rather reminds me of a certain political figure who enacted the same measures to gain the compliance of "group think". Communism and it's results ain't pretty, folks. Never forget to mind your P's and Q's, lest you find yourself locked out of your accounts, and that is all I am going to say about it at the moment.

  A question for you my dear readers, why are you on social media?

1) Are you seeking out like minded people?

2) Are you building a brand? 

3) Are you just a horny dude looking for his porn fix? 

4) Are you lonely and depressed hoping to find a friend who will provide a ray of light?

5) Are you looking for a date, hook up, or maybe a lasting love? 

6) Are you only using it to keep up with family and friends?

7) Are you online just to look at cute animal pics (I am guilty of doing this)

   Social media can be a wonderful tool if used correctly. It can connect you with locals who enjoy the same things you do. It can spread the word of a business you are trying to get off the ground. It can lead you to possible job opportunities. It can help cleave the distance between you and loved ones living miles apart. It can help you find friends, and yes it can even bring you all the visuals you need to archive as wank spank material lol. As to locating a date, yup, plenty of those sites to be found, but true love matches online might be a task that you will have to work harder at. In regards to finding cute animal pics...you are in for a treat of adorableness overload!

  Social media can also be a weapon. I mentioned the cancelling and doxxing above, but there are stalkers, harassers, and straight out predators lurking online too. There are miserable people who will attempt to humiliate and degrade you for everything from your appearance, your sex, your race all the way to your home, children, religion, and politics. All of these things you must be aware of. It is up to you to navigate the sea of social media safely.

   My advice to you though, is to not believe everything you see online (be willing to research for the truth), to not take the internet too seriously (it isn't real life) to maintain your personal privacy (do not give out your name and address to internet folks) to take a day off every now and then (to actually see what real life is all about) and lastly, trust your instincts about random peeps. Stay and play safe everyone.

Attention attention attention

 Just as the title suggests, the majority of people in society today have this ingrained desire to obtain attention. Attention that in a sense becomes like a drug of choice in a junky world. People crave attention. They simply have to have it. They feel at an absolute loss when they are not receiving it. Does this stem from not receiving enough or maybe even too much attention from parental figures? Perhaps it has arisen from the fact that not everyone can be a winner at all of the races they enter, yet we are told that everyone is a winner for simply showing up. Society did us zero favors when they began to hand out participation trophy " feel goods". Certainty is knowing realistically that you will not win every race, contest etc. You will not always be THE best at everything. You will fail, you will lose. You will not reign as the center of attention upon a world-wide dais. Stop putting that weight upon your shoulders.

 

Human beings will plumb to unbelievable depths to achieve notice. They will take risks with disastrous consequences for a single ounce of notoriety. I am talking way beyond the John Cusack  "say anything" ploy. I mean, have you read any of the stories where instagram influencers died while attempting to take or feature in dangerous photo shoots? Why would they opt in to such situations? Attention. They wanted, needed, had to have the dopamine rush of likes, loves, follows, retweets. The notification button lighting up like a Christmas tree was their high. Even if in an insignificant way, aren't we all like that?

 

Think about it. If you create a post on social media which receives no loves or likes, are you not then disappointed, and wondering why no one likes you? Does it depress you to see others with ten times the followers you have? Do you feel like an utter loser in life for not receiving the attention you believe yourself entitled to? The attention that so many others are "blessed" with.

 

Is social media attention really a blessing? I believe that in many ways, it can be more of a curse. It becomes pretty much a full time job trying to keep it once you secure it. You will have expectations, and labels attached to yourself. Expectations which become quite difficult to meet. No one person I have ever known in life is happy, upbeat, epitomizing joie de vie twenty-four seven. Human beings have episodes of happiness, moments of despair, unbelievable highs, and desolate lows. Such is life. Life becomes a study in anxiety and misery though when you are constantly playing a role which does not suit every facet of your personality. Attempts to achieve social media "celebrity" status most often parlays itself into a downward spiral of depression. Is that how you want to live your life? Does it sound glamorous? Does it appear fulfilling?

 

Of course for those looking in through the window, it can seem like the world would be a dream come true to live if only you could get those likes, those all important loves, but I am here to tell you, that life without the frenzied activity of seeking attention is a good life on its own.

 

You are good enough. Your life does matter. Liking, and loving yourself far exceeds what utter strangers think of your life. This is what you need to learn. The strong do not sit and worry about what other people think of them, nor do they fixate upon the judgement of those who have not walked in their shoes. Cease allowing those unknown to dictate your behavior, your mindset, your very course in life. Start seeing that your approval, and your acceptance is ALL you need.

Syndrones unite

Hello hello hello


It has been like a month of Sundays since last I posted here...

Life has been like an undertow which tumbled me under, and finally spit me back out a little bruised.

Have you missed me my flock of syndrones? Undoubtedly so ;>

What crazy unforeseen times we are living in is it not? How has your life altered under the quarantine regime? Have you put good use to your confinement? From the lack of appreciation tributes sitting in my inbox, I would judge that you weren't very productive at all. You can rectify that though by sending a lovely little gift card today to SydneyClaire@protonmail.com

At the moment I am seeking out a day trip location where I can safely away from the public eye tie my brat boy to a tree and torment him at my leisure lol, and before you ask, yes he is the only boy I am playing with real time. 

Why is he the only one? The answer is simple, yet complicated. Real time is a commitment which I do not lightly undertake. It is so very intimate since I am allowing someone else into my personal space. It requires a high amount of trust, and the rest of you have not earned that honor. Of course the majority of you aren't even seeking out real time, for your goal is a quick and nasty online romp towards a single course crashing crescendo skin flute concerto, which is all fine and good if you were interacting with a woman who cared to offer that service....alas I am not that woman.

Over the years of my online presence, so many of you wandering wanks have attempted to sway me from my outlined course and met with failure, yet you keep trying. I do admit to admiring your persistence, even though the odds are not in your favor. If your intent is to serve as a syndrone, than you must meet my requirements for service.

1)You must serve online for a period of no less than 3 months
*consistent financial tributes are required during this time* 

2)You must maintain contact daily
*I will not chase you down*

3)You must display dedication, devotion, and build trust
*these things take time* 

Sounds easy, yes? It honestly is, but cum and dumps always fail. You will never pass the test if your expectations are to jizz and jet. Keep that in mind.

All of this being said, I am open to testing the waters with prospective servants for service as a loyal syndrone. Apply with tribute attached.

Truth remains the same

Welcome all to the ultra exciting and sometimes exasperating world and words of Sydney Claire


Why is our world such an angry place?

I am going to wax on today about 1 possible aspect.

                                      TRUTH
 Have you ever noticed how people react when they are confronted with a truth which they disagree with, or outright disbelieve?  Anger, anger, anger, and on occasion you will see them resort to violence. Violence as a response to the words or opinions of another human being is NEVER acceptable in a polite society, which we claim to be, yet one only needs to seek out social media news to view the proof of how individuals become almost feral in behavior when THE TRUTH is not their truth. 

I myself understand how the truth can be uncomfortable or even painful at times, but come on folks, we would do better to venture out from our selective echo chambers, than to allow ourselves to go along with false pretenses for the sake of getting along or fitting in with brain dead duds. Your best chance at success in life as an individual involves being able to think for yourself, and form independent opinions. Critical thinking is a positive here, peeps. Embrace truth regardless of how it makes you feel, for the truth cares nothing about your feelings. It simply is.

                               A list of truths
*Not all men are trash
*Not all women tell the truth
*Science is real
*The media misleads
*Politicians and governments lie
*meat is good for you
*high fructose corn syrup is poison
*you can be pro-life and pro death penalty
*Trump is your president
*socialism is suicide

I could go on and on, but I will spare you today :)

The question I pose is, did any of the outlined truths make you angry? If so, why? My intent here is to make you think. Truth hurts (I know), but whether you like, love, agree, or disagree...truth is always truth, and your preferred truth is not going to change that fact. I invite and implore you to explore the basis of your anger, in order to solve or resolve the negativity within the equation. Anger is not the way forward.

 

Sex work shame

Welcome to the glamorously seedy slice of Sydney Claire.

Sex workers is an umbrella term which many shelter under.

Who are sex workers?

-cam girl

-Dominatrix 

-escort

-prostitute

-phone sex operator

-clip producer

-porn star

-premium snap chat sellers

-strippers

-nude models

Long list huh? 

Sex workers are walking down the sidewalk beside you. They are dining in your restaurants, sleeping in your hotels, shopping in the grocery store with you. Your typical sex worker looks just like any other woman you see out and about. I have not seen a single one wearing a scarlet letter, or holding up a sign proclaiming her occupation while out just living life.

Sex workers are highly disdained by the general public men and women alike. Sex workers are considered unclean & immoral and as such are stigmatized. They are banned from payment sites, and websites. Some are even shunned by family members. Does this sound like the recipe of a happy life?

There are a variety of reasons why women engage in sex work, and despite what the main stream media declares, the overwhelming majority of these women have not been forced into the lifestyle via trafficking. Some need the money gained from sex work to survive, whilst others thrive upon the sexual excitement of sex work. Regardless of the reason, these women do not deserve the less than humane treatment they receive from a judgemental society.

Sex workers are shamed and blamed for all sorts of issues. They are accused of being the harbingers of disease, and divorce, yet this is a lie. Did you know that sex workers are tested for stds at a higher rate than the general public? Sure, you are thinking that they must due to their "risky" lifestyle, yet you have thousands of ordinary people walking around untested & infected, but hey, atleast they aren't sex workers!! In regards to being the root cause of divorce, they are not the married man stepping out. They are not the husband spending hard earned dollars to bust a nut. They are not the men ignoring their relationships in favor of peeking at porn. Hold men accountable for their actions, instead of blaming sex workers for providing a service.

It is entirely too easy to blame ills at the feet of sex workers, and I am absolutely not absolving them as an entirety, for they are flawed human beings just like the rest of humanity, but I am calling foul to the world of sin setting upon their shoulders.

Why do people blame the sex worker, but not the customer/consumer? You do realize that without a market, sex workers would not exist yes? Think of it like this. If ALL men stopped frequenting strip clubs, would those clubs remain in business? If ALL men stopped clicking on porn hub, would they go under financially? This is simple truth. Sex workers exist because of a demand for their existence. They serve a purpose, so unless you are actively shaming, shunning, and imprisoning the very market which keeps them in business, shut up!





 

New Year's Resolution

Hip hip hooray...it is New Year's Day, and here you are celebrating the changing of a decade with the divinely celestial Sydney Claire :)

I wonder how many of my faithful readers made the obligatory New Year's resolution. Did you? It seems to me as if there are recurring themes to the annual promises. Such as, health, wealth, or happiness. Does that sound about spot on to you?

I myself, made no resolutions. Resolutions tend to be exhaustively huge life changes, which are statistically bound for failure, unless you are one of the scant few who actually successfully holds up your end. Have you made resolutions which failed? If so, why do you believe that they bombed?

In my opinion, people tend to reach entirely too high and too fast when making resolutions. They place unrealistic expectations upon themselves, and that leads to failure, which creates self-directed unhappiness, depression, and even anger. People in general would benefit more from making more easily attainable short term resolutions.

Example 1
*Say you want to lose 50lbs. Well than, instead of saying "I am going to lose 50lbs this year", begin small by vowing to

-cut back on eating out
or
-fast 1 day per week
or
-drink an additional 8oz of water daily

Any one of these alterations may very well enable you to lose 1lb per week. Add that up, and voila bb!!

Do you see the point I am directing you towards? If you keep the step short, you are far more likely to climb it!

Example 2
*You want to save up money for a luxury item

-cut back on eating out
or
-fast 1 day per week
or
-drink water instead of coffee and soda

Now take the money you would have spent on these items, and piggy bank it til you have enough to treat yourself to the desired item :)

I honestly want to see people succeed, but to do so, we must first acknowledge that we are the ones preventing it from happening, and actively seek to help ourselves reach the goals we set. It feels so good to achieve positive changes in our lives, and we all know that there is a strong correlation between positivity and happiness, which is the ultimate goal, yes? It definitely is for me. 

Wishing you all success and happiness in this coming year!


 

Useless endeavors in social media

Welcome all to the thought provoking posts of Sydney Claire!

Towards the end of the year, it is only natural for one to take stock of both the success and failures of effort expended throughout the year. This allows for a being to plan out their course of action for the following year, and I differ from none in this task. It is a positive step towards managing your life.

What has become glaringly obvious to even an untrained eye, is that I have had minimal, and by minimal I mean almost non-existent success in reaching and securing servitude from submissives through my social media endeavors this past year. Nary a single tribute hit my inbox for my birthday, nor Christmas, and this is the most telling data of all. Online submissives without doubt had zero concerns or cares about my personal happiness or comfort. What does this mean for me though?

1)It means that I will no longer seek out submission online.
2)I will no longer entertain private conversation on social media sites with submissives claiming that they want to serve me. (My Dm's will be closed to all but those whom I follow)
3)My posts will now reflect more of my well rounded personality, rather than being fetish specific.

By no means is this a "woe is me" blog post. I am not depressed, angered, nor surprised a single bit. Fetish has quickly evolved into a customer service business, and since I do not sell goods, I was bound to feel the sting. Knowing the facts, does not change my stance though. It is far better for me to have no servants under my heel if the only ones in the market are the self serving vermin which I see peppering the landscape with their selfish stench. 

My decision actually fills me with a sense of empowerment as a woman. I need no longer fret over each and every post I make in regards to whether it will appeal to male specimens. I can leave off with sexual innuendos, and just be ME. The concern of whether I am sexy enough, thin enough, young enough etc... has vanished. I am free to be bluntly honest in my speech, and even cruel when warranted without remorse.

I no longer have to care about a brand or keeping up appearances. It is far more liberating than you would ever believe!

This does not mean that I am ghosting social media. I intend to continue blogging, and posting my thoughts and opinions on all things fetish. It simply frees me from caring whether my voice is popular with men. I am actually smiling, and humming a happy tune as I type this up :)

I invite you all to stick around for the remaking of Sydney Claire, the woman, rather than the reflection of a dominant.

When less is really more

Hello and welcome to all who come to serve the will of Sydney Claire, or merely to absorb my words of wisdom.

No doubt that we have all heard that old saying about "less is more", but the only time I ever heard it applied was when referencing makeup, and I am definitely not here to discuss cosmetics lol.

When I say less is more, I am employing the statement to signify that more followers, more likes, more retweets, more fans, more admirers, more slaves does not mean more success, more happiness, more money. I have seen social media accounts with thousands of fans and followers, yet beyond minimal engagement rates, and even less financial remuneration for time invested. In those cases, more is not more in a tangible sense, and it certainly does not produce that giddy dopamine rush.  

I personally do not fixate on follower count, or even likes. My posts are not intended to resonate with the majority of social media users. In fact, my aim is narrowly fixed upon a scant few.

Of course I could share provocative imagery in order to increase my reach, but I would not be able to maintain the interest of those drawn in, for it goes against my nature. If in doubt, take a peek at the number of likes and shares a photo of a woman's bare ass, breasts, or vagina receives. Yes sex sells, and it always will. In this instance less clothing does equal more engagement. Therefore an astute businesswoman would use her sex to her advantage, and honestly could you fault her? Some would and do, but the lack of a man's will power will never be the blame of a woman, as it is entirely at a man's discretion whether or not to succumb or deny the lure of feminine flesh. Which means that the men you see falling for fetish, should not be pitied or provided victim status, as they are cognizant and consenting.

Having fewer followers, and following fewer people allows me to enjoy my online experience more by providing a less cluttered TL, and increasing my engagement rate, as I am only following people who interest, challenge, and inspire me. This is a positive. Less equals more engagement, more room for growth, more contentment in my interactions.

I realize that not everyone is going to concur with my assessment, and that is ok, cause we all are allowed our own opinions :) It is fun though to share my thoughts, views etc...just to see if they resonate with my audience. Feel free to share your thoughts on the subject in the comment section!

Syndrones are the best of men

Welcome to the wonderful world of Sydney Claire

Did you know that violence against women worldwide is on the rise? This is unacceptable! Men need to be taught that respect for a woman's person is a requirement rather than an option such as my little SYNDONES are taught. 

Being a syndrone makes you an all around better man, and asset to society at large. Syndrones are respectful to ALL women regardless of their station or circumstances. 

They are so utterly obsessed with all things Sydney Claire that they do not even think of other women. They devote their very lives to living up to her standards of behavior, which makes them the safest men to be around. Isn't it wonderful knowing that men such as this exist? Wouldn't you like to be such a man?

Serving Sydney Claire is the opportunity of a lifetime for a man such as yourself, and that is why you offer up your very best to her. Sending her your tithe creates this warm feeling in the pit of your being, because you know that it is the right thing to do. Sacrificing for her is your sex. 

You begin to spend all of your time away from work, sitting at the computer drinking her words in...allowing them to seep into your brain bit by bit til they consume you entirely. You want to be consumed by her. You want her to take over your life. She is so much smarter and wiser than you. She knows best, and you realize that her way is the way you want to live. 

Lose yourself in Sydney Claire. She will remake you into the perfect syndrone. Invading your mind word by word, day by day til you are reborn as her syndrone. This is the life that men across the continents dream of living. The envy of all other men who fail to measure up to her exacting standards. You want them to envy you. You want them to see that you are better than them, that you are smarter than them for choosing to give up your old life, and devote your new one to Sydney Claire.

Sydney Claire is the fire by which you warm yourself. She is your light in the dark, whilst all others who she has turned away, are left bereft of her in their cold little lives. They are useless, and scorned. 

You want to be one of her chosen ones. That is why you seek her out day and day. Eating up her every word on social media til you cannot resist any longer. You must serve her will. It is the only way for you. You are ready to take the leap.

Come feel her pleasure as you send tribute day after day. It is the very least you can do for her. Your tribute is your gratitude for her existence. You are so very grateful for Sydney Claire. Show her your gratitude. Show her your appreciation. You are ready to send. No hesitation, no reasons for delay. Send it silently to SydneyClaire@protonmail.com

Selfish men don't serve

Hello and welcome to the femdom world of Sydney Claire. Home of SynAddiction addicts :)

The title of this post truly says it all. It conveys truth to all who see it. 

This post can be used as educational material for women, as well as shining a reflection of selfishness upon males who engage in the behavior I am prepared to share with you.

Selfish males are no stranger to fetish. In fact they comprise the majority of males in the scene.

Is selfishness ok? Is it excusable behavior for males? The answer is not so very simple, but I will endeavor to simplify it for you.

Males possess many reasons why they enter the scene, and yes the greater part of them are steeped in selfishness.

1)They are here to sate their sexual desires.
This is their only interest, and the driving motivation behind their every action. They will act in any way, speak every word, and even downright deceive to achieve their goal.  To these men, women are no more than mere objects. Tools which aid them in orchestrating an orgasm. Online females are not real to them. The women they interact with serve only 1 purpose, and are forgotten quicker than the cum dries. Is this harsh? It is unforgivable? Truth be known, it is what it is, and you nor I are going to change these men for the better of mankind, so please do not waste energy and effort attempting to do so. 

I am not declaring these males are "bad" men per se. In fact, they may very well be wonderful husbands, commendable fathers, admirable sons, exemplary employees, but online they are just another user. A user out to get his fix, and should be treated as such. Kindness is wasted upon them. Show them none. They either pay for your time or product, or you freeze them out of your business domain. They are unworthy of you, and refusing to pay, is disrespect in the highest.

This type tends to be the one who has every excuse in the book to not pay tribute.

a)he is broke til payday
b)he is a poor student
c)he is married, and cannot risk his wife seeing money missing
d)he doesn't have a credit card
e)paying tribute cheapens the experience
f)real Dommes dominate for free lmao 

There are plenty of these men who do pay. Not tribute though. They pay for a service. They buy clips, sessions, used items etc.. These males are good for business, but bad for actual service. Trying to turn them into your devoted selfless slave is not a viable option. Use them, drain them, and discard them like toilet tissue til the next time they come sniffing at your feet. Save your energy for those that deserve it.

2)They want their emotional needs served.
These tend to be whiny wimps who want all of your time and all of your attention devoted to them. They may or may not pay, but even if they do, it tends to be minute amounts. They want maximum attention for minimal investment. These are energy leeches, and you seriously do not need the drama they bring with them.

3)The seek to use you to validate their burning misogyny.
They already hate you. Most likely they hate themselves more for needing you to serve their sexual fantasies, but they will use you as their whipping post if you allow it. This is the male who acts in such a way in the beginning, yet flips the switch when he is denied his desires. Which one of you Ladies has not been told by a male how beautiful you are, how sexy you are, how much he wants to serve you, only to call you an ugly fat whore when you say no? 

4)They are lonely irl, and want to be your friend.
Oh my lands, please do not give in to this ploy. If a male cannot make friends irl, he is a loser that you do not want eating up your valuable internet access. Avoid, avoid, avoid. Many women have ended up in dangerous stalkeresque situations due to taking pity on this type of male. He is not your friend, and never will be. Ignore any attempts to guilt, or shame you into freely giving him your time. You will regret it, I promise.

There are males who come only to be of use and serve a woman's wants, but they are a rarity in the scene. Those that respect women, their time, and energy. Who pay tribute without being told, without requiring any return upon that financial investment. These are the gems. The true gentlemen of fetish, and I commend them for their altruism. Hold on to these gents Ladies, for they do not come along often.

In the end, it is solely at your discretion whom you share your time with online though, so if you get your time wasted, or you lend your energy to males who fail to pay tribute, that is entirely on YOU. Learn the signs and behaviors of males who do not respect you enough to financially invest in your attention, and you will undoubtedly enjoy a more fulfilling, and financially lucrative internet experience :)

To you males whose behaviors I have described, this post puts you on notice. I have zero qualms about alerting newer females in the scene as to what types to avoid, and blowing up your user playbook all over social media. You have been forewarned.
 

You can't sit here findom

Hello hello, and welcome peers, pets, puppets, and pervs

 You have officially crossed into the realm of SynAddicts :)

The topic of the day here in SydneySphere is:

Mean girls and boys

You all know that I tend to keep an open eye on social media goings on and whatnot, and some sentiments really do need deeper than shallow depth discussion, so here we go!

Teen findom

Does it serve a purpose? I say yes, and here is my reasoning.
Take a look at research data when it comes to men seeking out women. What type of women do they gravitate towards first and foremost.

Young women. Late teens, early 20's. I am not going to ascribe this to men being shallow shits, but more along the lines of it being a biological drive. Men are programmed with the imperative to mate and procreate. It is a biological design. I get that, do you? 

It is more than that though, especially for men who are at that mid life crisis point and beyond. They are reaching out to young women as an ego boost. It is rather like a fuck you in the face of Father Time who has declared them past their prime. The attention of a younger women lends them a false sense of sexual relevancy. It empowers their inflated erroneous ego. It screams "look at me, I am powerfully virile". 

It honestly is no different than the balding grandpa bod men driving around town with the top down in a new shiny convertible. Yes we notice them, and yes we chuckle at their level of pathetic, but we do understand the whys.

These men are why teen findommes will always prosper, and maintain a standing in the fetish scene. I am not about to blame these young women making bank off of male insecurity. If a man willingly opts to part with his money, than who are any of us to stand in judgement. It does not involve, or affect any of us who are not playing a part in that scenario, so let those Ladies be.

Women in it for the payout.

Yup there are plenty of them in the scene. Do I care, fuck no. They are not hurting me personally, and as long as they are on the upfront about it, why do you care? There are tons of men (most likely they are the majority of men in the scene) on the prowl to bust a nut, who zero in on exactly this type of woman. They do not want the complication of commitment to serving as a submissive, so once again, these Ladies are not taking anything I desire away from me, cause this is NOT the type of man I want to attract to my stable. Instead of hating, celebrate these women for getting that cash!

There is no valid reason for anyone whether female or male to get angry with these females. They are NOT ruining the scene. If anyone is ruining the scene..it is like I said BROKE MEN. Broke men are the only ones who do not belong, and should be frozen out of the findom scene. I do not even believe that they should be taking up valuable femdom space either. If you are not contributing to a woman's success, you are irrelevant period. Oh and FYI, yanking your dick is not a turn on, and half ass prancing around pretending to clean a woman's house is not a viable skillset, nor is shoving shit up your ass a sought after form of amusement. You offer nothing of value, so begone cockroach. 

And there you have it. My 2¢ take on why being mean to women is not needed.  

Calling All SynAddicts

Welcome my poppets, puppets, and pervs

Is today your first time sliding into Sydney Sphere? If so, than you should know right from the start that this is not a space for the average gooner. Jack and gos, just aren't going to get their fix up in here :)

This is the realm where you come to learn obedience to Sydney Claire. A place where you take that first step towards becoming a SynAddict. I am here to make you mine. Taking over your mind, cock, and wallet. Afraid?
You should be, because my claws will sink so deep into your psyche, that you will never fully be rid of your unquenchable desire to serve my every wanton wish.

Do you know what human beings have in common, other than the physical obvious? They want to belong. They want to feel as if they have a purpose. They want to believe that their lives have meaning. This is natural. It is completely normal, and nothing to be ashamed of. I get it, honestly I do.

It feels good to belong to ME. Being Sydney Claire's servant gives meaning to your life. Serving Sydney Claire provides you with a purpose and direction in life. All that you sought, all that you NEED, can be found at the feet of Sydney Claire.

Serving me is the most natural expression of self. No more feeling alone, divided, despised. Here you will know your place. You will feel accepted. You will know happiness. 

I love when the lost and misguided find their way to the fold. Aren't you tired of pretending to be something and someone that you aren't? Imagine how wonderful it would feel to finally be at peace with who and what you really are? You don't have to hide from me. I already know that you belong.

No more fear. You will find yourself fearless in your service to me. Every step forward is one step closer. You want this. You need this. This is where you belong.

Close your eyes my little puppet and imagine how good it will feel to just let go. Let go of your everyday struggles. Strip yourself of the chains society constrains you with. Allow yourself to relinquish that false ego weighing you down. You were not meant to stand before me, you were created to crawl at my feet. You are a servant, and I am your superior. This is your life. 

Giving your all, being your best. All of this is possible. The fantasy can become your reality when you are in my presence. No holding back. No turning back. You belong. You are mine! Say it out loud for your ears to hear, and your soul to accept. You belong to Sydney Claire. Sydney Claire is your most holy Goddess. Sydney Claire owns you.

Commercialized fetish

Welcome to all who have found themselves here :)

Take a seat on my couch, relax, and prepare yourself for some hard cold truths today.

Day in, day out tends to blur into a revolving screen of repetitiveness when it comes to the fetish scene. The majority of what I see are complaints. Disgruntlements lodged by females and males alike. Of course they differ in the wording somewhat, but they all boil down to the same basis.

Before I get into the nitty gritty, allow me to share this disclaimer
*Not all women, and not all men*

Now that we have gotten that piece of business out of the way, let's delve into the pot shall we?

The findom, and a greater aspect of the femdom you see playing out online is commercialized. Meaning that it is a business. An occupation. A source of livelihood. It is about the financial return upon products advertised. In these cases, the product is a fantasy. Men are the customers, and women are the sellers of fantasies, whether that be via clips, or sessions. This is why broke and fetish do not mix. No money means no product purchased, and that negates the need for existence in the scene. 

This is reality, and regardless if you like it or not, it is just the way it is. You cannot change that which is inexorable. Accept, adapt, or give up. Those are your only options. 

The overwhelming majority of people do NOT work for free. Do you? Bills must be paid and food must be bought. Compensation for time spent and effort expended is not an option, it is a requirement, and anyone attempting to procure a service sans the intention of rendering payment is a scammer. Are you a scammer?


For those whom cannot afford to pay, you honestly have no place here. I realize that you do not want to hear the truth of it, but it has to be said. Fetish is a luxury, and luxury has never been cost efficient.

It is comparative to vanilla dating in a financial sense. No money equals no date. Women are not seeking out men who bring nothing to the relationship other than their cock. The desire to be spoiled with gifts is in the very nature of women, so if you are not gifting(paying), you are not getting anywhere with women. This is why you are single, and this is why you will remain that way til you are able to do so.

The worst thing you can do in this situation is to get angry with women over it. It is not a woman's fault that she prefers men who are financially able and willing to enrich her life. The fault lies with you. Work harder, do better, earn more. Go back to school, snag overtime, seek out a second job if you have to, but do something, cause sitting back being pissed off at women will get you no where.  Do you want to end up a lonely miserable misogynistic bitter incel?

Okay my Ladies, your turn.
Men in the scene do not give a flying fig about you, your circumstances, or your future. It doesn't matter to them if you are having a difficult time, or in desperate straights. They are here for the fantasy, and that is all. You exist to sate their desires, and when they walk away from the computer, you cease to exist in their minds. Sounds cold and sterile eh? It is the way of it though.

Do you think customers shopping in a brick and mortar store sit around thinking about how that business is doing financially, or even care if that business will be there the next time they want to shop, other than it being a minor inconvenience if they have to seek out a new store to shop at? This is the reality you face in the fetish scene. Men do not tend to be brand loyal. Their attention ebbs and flows when the market is saturated with an endless supply of shiny objects. Yes, you are more than that, but to men, you are not. They are just as happy to slip into someone else's inbox as they were yours. In fact, they thrill to the adventure of trying someone new, so please please please, do not place your hopes, dreams, and financial future in their single basket. Diversify :)

I am not going to get into the whys or hows the scene came to be this way, for it matters not since it would be damn near impossible to alter the course set at this point, and it would be cruel of me to mislead any of you as to the reality of how the fetish scene works right now. You can opt in, or opt out, but complaining about it serves no purpose. Accept, adapt, or give up.

The worst thing you can do at this point is complain about timewasters, advertise your inability to make rent, beg for money, or bitch about other women. You are selling a fantasy, not a sob story.

I hate to end posts on a negative note, so allow me to spread some positivity here. If you are a man, and you are willing to spend, you are golden, and if you are a woman who has a fantasy to sell, you are diamond!!

Attitude determines the course

Welcome back for segment 3 in guiding you to giving me your best.

The goal obviously is to begin altering your mindset in order to best serve me, and make a positive impact on your life.

You are home
Open your door, and begin rolling your shoulders back, than forward slowly, and gently. Roll forward, inhale, roll back, exhale. Perform times 10. Feel your body inch by inch begin to relax. Ahh now this is better. Kick off your shoes by the door. Never walk through your home wearing shoes (google the studies which reveal all of the foul germs the bottom of shoes accumulate during a normal day).

Change your clothes
Removing the reminders of your workday is conducive to relaxation. Comfort is the goal. 

Grab a glass off water
Hydration is key to maintaining health.

Music
Opt for a mellow tune. Remember that you are winding down, not revving up. Find a comfy spot to just squat for 20 minutes. Treat yourself.

Dinner
Eating early provides your body with extra time to digest before bedtime. 
A heavy meal is not needed at this time. Keep it light and simple, and by all means do include some roughage. 

Wash your dishes
Oh my lands did I say that? Yes I did. Of course most of you are used to the convenience of a dishwasher, but doing them by hand gets them cleaner, and clean is good. 

Fun time
This is your slotted time for computer use, or watching a movie. Do try to include something educational. Expanding your base of knowledge is a good thing! Perhaps you may even take a few moments to watch the sunset. I especially love this time of day.

Lay your clothes out
Having your clothes set and ready after your shower in the morning saves you time. Develop this routine.

Bedtime
Do NOT stay up all night watching porn, and yes I know that some of you do that! Sleep is essential. Being well rested means that your morning mindset will be positive.

I realize that change is difficult, but getting into a routine is not a bad thing. You may complain that it lacks spontaneity, but the work week is not the time for it. Days off are for spur of the moment outings or such. Devoting yourself to doing and being better requires self discipline, which routine will aid you in molding. I want to change your viewpoint, and help you help yourself. Are you willing to try?

The decision is yours to make. 

**If you are married, alternative actions might need to be taken in order to comply**

Change internalizes prior to externalization

Hello and welcome to the sphere of Sydney Claire!

Today we delve into segment 2 of guiding you into giving me your best.

Breathe
You have left your dwelling, and get on your way to work. A man who works diligently, is a man who prospers.
The reason I advise you to breathe is that we all know how hectic and frustrating a task driving can be in this day and age. The roads are jam packed with people who possess neither manners, nor common sense. Do not emulate these folks.
Heading to work is a time for mentally gearing yourself up for whatever the day will bring, and if you allow others to negatively impact your mindset during this period, than the odds exponentially increase of your entire day being a shitshow, so set your radio to the station which manifests positivity for you.

Smile
Walk in the door of your employment, and greet your co-workers with a genuine smile...even if you detest their very existence. You set the tone. 

Be grateful
Have you seen the unemployment numbers? I for one do not swallow the spoon fed lies in regards to all of the supposed job opportunities the media reports on. Every single day positions are lost to outsourcing, and automation, so consider yourself fortunate to be gainfully employed. Take a moment to reflect upon the blessing of a paycheck.

Honest effort
Do your job to the very best of your ability every single day. Do not be a slacker. Slacking is a poor reflection upon you as a human being. Some days will leaving you feeling as if no ever notices how much effort and time you put into doing your job correctly. Regardless, you will know it, and you can take pride in yourself for giving 100%. 

Eat your lunch
Do not skip it. Your body needs to be nourished in order to promote peak performance. Peak performance ensures that you are not racking up medical debt, and lost time at work. Do try to drink some water :)

Stay late
If your assigned workload cannot be completed by clock out, than go the extra mile, and stay a few minutes after to get it done. A little overtime will not kill you.

Hit the road
Once you have clocked out for the day, leave your work behind you. This is YOU time. Time to clear your mind of distraction, and focus on relaxing.
Of course the traffic is just as bad going home as it was heading in, so be prepared. Never engage in the road rage fad, or waving the single digit hello. Your chore is to make it home safely, and that means leaving your damn cell phone out of sight while driving. We all know how tempting it is to quickly peruse the news or tap out a text, but DON'T. Listen to your tunes, and keep your eyes on the road.

Home sweet home
At last, yes! 

TBC..hope to see you return soon :)