Aw the honeymooners(no I am not talking about Alice&Ralph). The honeymoon(or courting) phase of a D's relationship,especially one which involves the beloved findom aspect,is an absolute rush. Like the pistons on a locomotive,tributes tend to pump fast and furious in this stage...where the simple sight of a username dries the mouth,pounds the pulse,and heightens all sense of anticipation. It is a heady experience,beautiful,yet dangerous as well,for this is the stage where often we see overpromising,and underdelivering..or worse yet,a boy goes beyond his means,and becomes bereft of the needed income to survive,and honor financial commitments til the next pay period.
It is not only males who are vulnerable and at risk for pushing too far at this point. It is the duty of a respectable and trustworthy dominant to ensure that no harm occurs,and whilst the reasoning could be applied that these are grown ass men capable of deciding for themselves if they want to be broken,we must as Dommes maintain a degree of responsibility(atleast we should do so). If we do not control the depth to which they plunge,then we run the very realistic danger of breaking a boy,which is a lose lose.
Sometimes I fear that a cold and clinical atmosphere(strictly keyboard-monitor relationship) possesses the possibility of detaching one from a sense of compassion and regard for the very realistic consequences of allowing boys to go for broke. I completely understand the almost orgasmic pleasure of seeing tribute after tribute spoiling our accounts,and recognize how difficult it can be to say no to something that feels so good..but being grounded in reality aids me,and allows me to take a step back and maintain control of the situation. I truly believe that a leader leads by example,and cannot guide the way if judgement is clouded by hunger,hunger for the almighty dollar. Yes money is both loved and hated. It is chased,and responsible for some of the most despicably base actions of human beings,and yet we need it to survive in this world,ironic.
Navigating the honeymoon phase is a learned experience,and yet still there is room for error. I avoid these pitfalls by taking this time to delve further into the mind of the submissive,for these are the moments when he is most vulnerable,and most likely to open up to you. He desires only to please you,which is a gift greater than money. If this desire is nurtured,it can develop into a longterm addiction for him,thereby gracing your life with a male who seeks the enrichment of your existence,and that is worship in my estimation. Of course a male is easily led by his libido,but that will not capture his mind,and once the ejaculation is over,so might his craving to serve be as well,which is why one should grasp this golden opportunity to swim in the darkest recesses of his psyche,enslaving him to your will.
Once past this phase,the work begins in earnest,and requires time and effort from both sides,yup I said it. It would be lovely if all I had to do was just sit back and watch hapless males fall prey to my appearance,but that just won't cut it if I want to forge a lasting bond. The formation of a bond is not going to happen overnight. It takes sacrifice(many an hour of sleep have I lost,spent interacting,and really getting to know a boy,the facets of his life,and aspects of his personality,not just his kinks) I recognize the importance of kinks meshing,but if I cannot stand the male as a human being,then it will not matter a lick if we like the same activities.
I realize that longterm is not the goal for everyone,and that is absolutely cool(no judgement from me),and of course I understand that some crave to always be going through the honeymoon phase by either bouncing Domme to Domme...or in the case of the Domme,draining one after another dry..and I say whatever tickles your fancy :)...just don't play that game with ME,and all will be well!
Anyways,the prime message I wanted to send out is that at some point we must all exercise some degree of control,lest harsh realities be visited upon our asses,either in the form of not being able to pay bills,buy food etc for the boys,or lack of worthy worshipful servants for the Ladies. Good luck to all,and may you be blessed with what you seek :)
Thursday, June 25, 2015
Tuesday, June 9, 2015
Kindness and cuddly cute domination
***Disclaimer:Title is misleading***
Sometimes I like to address queries,or comments I receive in my inbox on various sites,and today is one of those days,so strap in,and lets go.
"Miss(ugh I detest being addressed like this) you do not sound nice in your profile." Hmm this one should seriously bother me shouldn't it? Well it doesn't. I word my profiles in a way to genuinely reflect my style,and what can be expected whilst serving me. I see no need to bait and switch(tacky). This is not to say that I am never kind,for no one person can be 100% of the time a BITCH,but I do fairly well on the percentage lol. Honestly though,what some view as cruel or harsh is the fact that I do not play the usual games one sees online. I do not kiss ass,or beg for service(tributes included). I am real,and I want submissives to know it with eyes wide open going in. There is no parading my bare ass around in a ploy to seduce you,there is no allure or hints towards the possibility of sexual relations,chances of dating me,or being in my life 24/7 as a live in slave,so why even lie about it?? I refuse to. When a male comes to me on bended knee,I want him to do so,because he has taken the time to study my words,and realize that yes he is prepared to serve me in the manner I desire,rather than role playing some fantasy he has which gives him a stiffy. I hold my time as a valuable commodity,so why not put it out in plain sight how best to earn it,and my expectations? This way no one gets their time wasted. Once a male reads my words,he should know then and there if he is going to mesh with my requirements,therefore if not,then he has not used up my time or his if he isn't. Just makes sense right,so do not get your knickers twisted because of my honesty. Now if you are one of those males whom suddenly suffers from illiteracy when it comes time to read my words,well then you gain no pity from me for wasting your own time.
"Ma'am(another title I abhor) I really want to serve you,but you are so far away" This one truly is one of the biggest wastes to hit my inbox. If you require groveling at my feet real time,and cannot afford to travel to me,then why would I desire your service(cause it is no secret that if you can only barely,or not even barely afford to take care of yourself,then you are in no position to serve me)so save us both time,and keep these sentiments to yourself k,but if real time is not the issue,then I do enjoy distance training,and no that does not mean that I offer cam sessions. It means that I set tasks,and school you on protocol which pleases me,along with your weekly gifts of appreciation.
"Mistress(again hate hate hate)I would do anything to serve you." Boys please never say this. You do not seriously mean it,and I can prove it. If you tell me that you are willing to do anything,then I just might tell you to cut your cock off with a chainsaw,and we both know that you are NOT going to do that,so keep your offerings realistic. You would do better to say that you are willing to sacrifice your life savings for me,to surrender your ego,and entitlement issues in order to serve me best,you get what I am saying?
"Princess(wrong again) will you watch me stroke my dick and laugh at me?" This one is just fucked up from the get go. In no way is domination involved here in this scenario. A)I do not like to watch dicks cum...every beta male should be neutered with a chastity device in my opinion,and B)This is offered because it makes YOU happy,how is that serving me?? It isn't,so take that selfish entitled shit to a providers inbox please,and thank you.
That is just a smattering of what spams my eyes daily...kinda makes sense that I am so very anal about males reading my profile,which would have stopped the enter tab from being hit with every single one of these worthless missives,so here is to hoping that some of you begin reading before typing. Have a lovely day :)
Sometimes I like to address queries,or comments I receive in my inbox on various sites,and today is one of those days,so strap in,and lets go.
"Miss(ugh I detest being addressed like this) you do not sound nice in your profile." Hmm this one should seriously bother me shouldn't it? Well it doesn't. I word my profiles in a way to genuinely reflect my style,and what can be expected whilst serving me. I see no need to bait and switch(tacky). This is not to say that I am never kind,for no one person can be 100% of the time a BITCH,but I do fairly well on the percentage lol. Honestly though,what some view as cruel or harsh is the fact that I do not play the usual games one sees online. I do not kiss ass,or beg for service(tributes included). I am real,and I want submissives to know it with eyes wide open going in. There is no parading my bare ass around in a ploy to seduce you,there is no allure or hints towards the possibility of sexual relations,chances of dating me,or being in my life 24/7 as a live in slave,so why even lie about it?? I refuse to. When a male comes to me on bended knee,I want him to do so,because he has taken the time to study my words,and realize that yes he is prepared to serve me in the manner I desire,rather than role playing some fantasy he has which gives him a stiffy. I hold my time as a valuable commodity,so why not put it out in plain sight how best to earn it,and my expectations? This way no one gets their time wasted. Once a male reads my words,he should know then and there if he is going to mesh with my requirements,therefore if not,then he has not used up my time or his if he isn't. Just makes sense right,so do not get your knickers twisted because of my honesty. Now if you are one of those males whom suddenly suffers from illiteracy when it comes time to read my words,well then you gain no pity from me for wasting your own time.
"Ma'am(another title I abhor) I really want to serve you,but you are so far away" This one truly is one of the biggest wastes to hit my inbox. If you require groveling at my feet real time,and cannot afford to travel to me,then why would I desire your service(cause it is no secret that if you can only barely,or not even barely afford to take care of yourself,then you are in no position to serve me)so save us both time,and keep these sentiments to yourself k,but if real time is not the issue,then I do enjoy distance training,and no that does not mean that I offer cam sessions. It means that I set tasks,and school you on protocol which pleases me,along with your weekly gifts of appreciation.
"Mistress(again hate hate hate)I would do anything to serve you." Boys please never say this. You do not seriously mean it,and I can prove it. If you tell me that you are willing to do anything,then I just might tell you to cut your cock off with a chainsaw,and we both know that you are NOT going to do that,so keep your offerings realistic. You would do better to say that you are willing to sacrifice your life savings for me,to surrender your ego,and entitlement issues in order to serve me best,you get what I am saying?
"Princess(wrong again) will you watch me stroke my dick and laugh at me?" This one is just fucked up from the get go. In no way is domination involved here in this scenario. A)I do not like to watch dicks cum...every beta male should be neutered with a chastity device in my opinion,and B)This is offered because it makes YOU happy,how is that serving me?? It isn't,so take that selfish entitled shit to a providers inbox please,and thank you.
That is just a smattering of what spams my eyes daily...kinda makes sense that I am so very anal about males reading my profile,which would have stopped the enter tab from being hit with every single one of these worthless missives,so here is to hoping that some of you begin reading before typing. Have a lovely day :)
Thursday, June 4, 2015
real time clarification
Emails that I have received in regards to a recent post of mine about sessions,have shown me that a little bit of clarification is in order.
Yes I stated that I am interested in playing more real time,which in no way should lead anyone to conclude that I am open to cam sessions...two totally separate scenarios. C2C sessions hold no interest for me due to a)I am not an exhibitionist & b)watching males get off,does absolutely nothing for me personally(anyone that has read anything about me should already know that I am a proponent of males being neutered with chastity devices) The only pleasure plebs deserve,is the joy of enriching my life,so no I am not going to sit back and watch males pulling at their equipment which doesn't even cast a shadow at high noon.
Real time sessions interest me because they feed my inner sadist who delights in the deliverance of physical pain,so if you are one that is only able to serve online,either due to distance or time constraints,then your suffering comes in the form of finances,and should be viewed as your honor to sacrifice for me. Real time toys tribute for my time and attention,so I expect nothing less from those that serve me online...I actually expect more since they are not truly useful in any manner other than financing my decadent indulgences.
There is so much anger and disgust when it comes to outsiders viewing the financial domination realm. Why though? Most is due to a basic lack of education in regards to the fetish,and the rest is simply entitled selfishness. Ignorance can be taught,but the other appears to be too ingrained to eradicate.
I mean seriously I have had males offer to bleed their dicks for me,but land forbid that they be expected to worship with their wallet. Pain is an intense motivator,but the almighty dollar even more so. People have and will kill for money,but why? Because money is power. Money provides the ability to feed,clothe,and house oneself. Throughout time itself those that have not,have been enamored by those that have,so it is only logical that males will hold tightly to that which they perceive as the root of their power base. This is exactly why I require a male to sacrifice financially for me. The effects of doing so outlast bruises on the ass.
The narcissist in me knows that I am worthy of worship,deserving of your suffering and sacrifice,but if you cannot or will not overcome your own sense of selfishness,then you are truly a loser,in the sense that you will lose out on serving perfection incarnate. It is entirely your choice though,for even though I may be a cougar in real life devouring the sex of cubs,in this arena my victims come willingly in supplication to my altar. They kneel before me begging to lay down their offerings,sans forceful provocation,enticement,or seduction. I am their Goddess,and their purpose is my happiness.
Yes I stated that I am interested in playing more real time,which in no way should lead anyone to conclude that I am open to cam sessions...two totally separate scenarios. C2C sessions hold no interest for me due to a)I am not an exhibitionist & b)watching males get off,does absolutely nothing for me personally(anyone that has read anything about me should already know that I am a proponent of males being neutered with chastity devices) The only pleasure plebs deserve,is the joy of enriching my life,so no I am not going to sit back and watch males pulling at their equipment which doesn't even cast a shadow at high noon.
Real time sessions interest me because they feed my inner sadist who delights in the deliverance of physical pain,so if you are one that is only able to serve online,either due to distance or time constraints,then your suffering comes in the form of finances,and should be viewed as your honor to sacrifice for me. Real time toys tribute for my time and attention,so I expect nothing less from those that serve me online...I actually expect more since they are not truly useful in any manner other than financing my decadent indulgences.
There is so much anger and disgust when it comes to outsiders viewing the financial domination realm. Why though? Most is due to a basic lack of education in regards to the fetish,and the rest is simply entitled selfishness. Ignorance can be taught,but the other appears to be too ingrained to eradicate.
I mean seriously I have had males offer to bleed their dicks for me,but land forbid that they be expected to worship with their wallet. Pain is an intense motivator,but the almighty dollar even more so. People have and will kill for money,but why? Because money is power. Money provides the ability to feed,clothe,and house oneself. Throughout time itself those that have not,have been enamored by those that have,so it is only logical that males will hold tightly to that which they perceive as the root of their power base. This is exactly why I require a male to sacrifice financially for me. The effects of doing so outlast bruises on the ass.
The narcissist in me knows that I am worthy of worship,deserving of your suffering and sacrifice,but if you cannot or will not overcome your own sense of selfishness,then you are truly a loser,in the sense that you will lose out on serving perfection incarnate. It is entirely your choice though,for even though I may be a cougar in real life devouring the sex of cubs,in this arena my victims come willingly in supplication to my altar. They kneel before me begging to lay down their offerings,sans forceful provocation,enticement,or seduction. I am their Goddess,and their purpose is my happiness.
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