The onset of servitude

Realistically one does not just jump into submissive service without first knowing what their role in the relationship entails, what their limits are in service, and what one hopes to achieve out of service.

1)Your role in a bdsm relationship *For the sake of clarity, I define any relationship which includes an exchange of power, within the scope of a bdsm relationship* 
Your role as a submissive is to ensure that your actions are dictated by your desire to please your dominant. If you enter the exchange predisposed towards seeking your own gratification through any means not dictated by your dominant, than the relationship will ultimately fail. Your mindset must be selfless. You must be willing to forgo all that you knew of relationships predicated upon "vanilla" design. You as the male will no longer fulfill the leading role in the relationship. Instead the dynamic will see you flipped from all that you previously knew. You will be subservient to the will of another. Obedience and loyalty will be required of you. Outside of the hard limits you set prior to entering into service, you will comply with all tasks assigned to you. You will display respect in thought, word, and action towards your dominant. Protocol, expectations, and boundaries will be set via your dominant. These will vary from one dominant to another, so remember that nothing is set into stone, and you must be prepared to be flexible, and accepting.

2)Your limits in service
Newer males generally have absolutely no idea of what their hard and soft limits are. Of course you will know what fantasies of servitude excite you, but keep in mind that not all fantasies are pleasurable in reality. The most common hard limits are blood, sports that include feces, urine, or vomit, permanent marks, anything to do with children, or any illegal activity. You may wish to use those as a starting point and expand as you go. It is ok to try out activities which produce trepidation. You might start out with light impact play, spanking is a safe place to begin in order to gauge your tolerance for pain. Do not fret if you find that you are not a hard core masochist (most aren't), but atleast you will know whether you like a little or alot of pain. One of the most important aspects of any type of play in my opinion is having a safeword. A safeword is your safety net. Use it without shame, and shame to those who tell you that you do not need one before trust has been established. Your dominant will be able to take it from that point on, and she may decide to play along the edges of your soft limits. Soft limits tend to be ones where you may not particularly enjoy an activity, but you will endure it for the pleasure of your dominant.  As you engage in play, you may indeed find that you enjoy activities which you never thought it possible for you to find pleasure in, so do not close yourself off from the possibilities. 

3)What you hope to achieve out of service
Are you looking for peace, purpose, and clarity of self in life? Are you basely hoping to find an outlet of erotic pleasure? Are you solely seeking physical gratification? If you do not know what you hope to take away from the experience, than expect to be let down. Dominants in my experience are not mind readers, so you are going to have to be willing and able to verbalize your needs.

The most important thing you can do to make the transition into servitude smooth, is allot yourself some time to research fetishes, terminology, and PRICK. Do all that you possibly can to ensure your safety, and please remember that no matter how hot looking a female is, research her. Check out her social media, websites, profiles. Know exactly what type of dominant she is, and if her practices, and expectations align with what you are willing to do in service. I cannot stress that enough. If you study a Domme before you approach her, you will save the both of you time, which you will be thankful for in the long run. 

Enjoy, and good luck!

Don't forget to be a good boy and send a tribute to mzsydney34@yahoo.com in thanks :)

The Mask

Do you realize that most people wear a mask each and every day of their lives? It is a tendency of human beings to withhold a part of themselves from strangers, even from those they are closest to in life. It is a form of protection, not unnatural. 

It makes sense when you look closely at it. What has an absolute stranger done to earn a personal peek into who and what you are within? Nothing right, so why offer yourself up in such a manner. This does not make you odd or out of the ordinary, and you should never feel the need to apologize for keeping private the parts of yourself that you are not comfortable sharing with the general public. You have the right to choose who you share this side of yourself with.

Now when it comes to hiding aspects of yourself from loved ones, even that is fully permissible, well unless you are a raving mad murderer, hide that for sure, but do so from behind bars. Why do we close the door upon those that we hold nearest and dearest? We do so out of fear. Fear that who we truly are will not be accepted, or perhaps even scorned to the point that our loved ones will shun us entirely. It is a risk exposing your true self to others. It comes with plenty of pros and cons to debate, but in the end, you are the one that must make that decision. Are you brave enough to brave the odds of rejection?

I know that a great many of you gents are not out in your submission. You prefer to keep your feelings of submission a secret.  A secret that only sees the light of day when you log in online. You wear your mask of civility and manliness all day long, so when you do open the door to the magical world of online submission, it is like being set free from a locked cage. Your first tendency is to run here, run there, and spread the seed of your submission to every Dominant woman you see, but I am here to say "DOWN BOY". You are similar to a dog that humps every leg it sees, and that is not adorable, appreciated, or even desirable behavior in a submissive male. The only thing it makes me want to do, is slam the proverbial door in your face. The key to eradicating this irritating behavior, is to allow your submission out more often. Serving on a regular basis will inject you with a sense of peace, purpose, and allow you to center yourself in a sea of calmness. The point is to not deprive yourself of what it is you truly need, and that is to submit. It does not lessen your worth as a man, regardless of what society says. You can be a good man, a manly man, and yet submissive in your soul. Allow yourself to reveal the real you, and you will find yourself in a better place mentally, for denying your essential self will eventually take it's toll upon you, and leave you an unhappy mess.

Life becomes quite difficult and draining when a person does not feel as if they will be or are accepted for who and what they are, which is why Dominants in the lifestyle are revered to the degree that they are. They are leaders, and guides who see your submission, and say "it is ok, I see you, and I accept you". They allow you to be who you truly are...a submissive male who seeks to relinquish your power over self to them. Your submission is meant to empower your Dominant. It is a beautiful exchange, and there is no shame involved, well unless humiliation is your kink :) Submitting gives you the pleasure and freedom to just be you, and that is wonderful!

So, tear off that mask, and show your submissive self (note that showing yourself does not equate to sending unsolicited dick pics)! You will thank yourself for it, I promise. Now get out there and serve, serve, serve!!

Don't forget to send a show of your appreciation by sending gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com

One chance to make a lasting memory

Gentlemen do you realize that the first impression you make upon a dominant woman is the one that sets the tone for your entire exchange, and if the impression she receives of you is poor, than you may have killed off all possibilities of serving her.

You guys tend to make the same mistake over and over with the same results. What does that sound like..hmm the definition of insanity ring a bell? 

Where are you going wrong? If these are the opening messages you are sending, than this is how you are getting off on the wrong foot.

1)Hi

2)Hey

3)Wats up (sexy, beautiful, gorgeous, honey, sugar, girl, woman etc)

4)Dick pic

5)I would do anything to serve you

6)I want you to do XYZ to me

7)Do you wanna fuck

8)I wanna hit that

9)I got a cum tribute for you

10)You make my dick hard

11)I am a broke student, and can't pay you, but can I serve you anyway

12)You are just a whore after my money(hurling insults in the hope of receiving a backlash of humiliation)

13)Real Dommes dominate for free

14)Can I get your skype, kik etc..

15)Here are some photos for you to blackmail me with

16)Here is my paypal addy for you to take my money

17)Can I be your live in slave

18)Will you marry me so I can get a green card

19)Nice tits, ass, pussy etc..

20)What do I get if I pay

Now at one time or another, I have received every single one of these messages as an opening gambit. Do you wanna guess the rate of success with these approaches? Zero, zilch, and no where but blocked. 

Women really do not have the patience or interest in speaking with asinine males, who lack the very common sense required to interact with a fellow living, breathing human being. 

Do not be this type of male. You have been educated now, and you have been warned of the probable repercussions. Make good decisions by thinking before you speak, and rereading before you hit the send button.

You can thank me for sharing, by sending amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com
 

The Earth worships the Sun

Hello, and welcome to the world of Goddess Sydney Claire. A place where my fantasies become your reality. 

The Earth has but 1 sun, which it's very existence revolves around. Without the sun, the Earth would simply perish, for there can be no life without it's golden warmth of splendor. The sun guides the Earth out of the darkness and into the light of the world. Can you imagine a world where no sunshine exists to bathe your soul, and cleanse you of your ills?

The sun is a primal force, and one that should never be taken for granted, for it's blessings may depart at any given moment. An incandescence so intense, that to look directly upon it, will tattoo it permanently onto your retinas. Your last sight in this world would be the one most magnificent, yet your mind knows that it would surely be worth it.

You, you are the Earth, and I your Sun Goddess. Your life if it is ever to have meaning, will center itself upon the course that I deign best. Your will and ego will evaporate as the dew upon the grass each morn, for they cannot continue on in the brilliance of my presence. 

You will thrive and grow with the nurturing of my domination. You will find comfort, peace, and happiness in abject servitude to the heat of my desires. You will wake and crave the sight of me each day. Your world will bloom with eagerness to see my will done. You know that you would choose no other star to orbit around. You are smitten, you are consumed, you are enslaved most willingly. 

There is no care to return to that cold lonely life you once knew. You are beyond that thought. You are enriched with the need to bask in my goodwill, my cheer, my acceptance. Your only goal is but to be a blessing in this evolution. All other wants are shadowed into obliteration within the circle of my light. You find that you would crawl upon your knees like the lowliest creature upon Earth to be of use to me. You would even beg for a mere scrap of recognition. 

You want my attention, you need my presence, you would do whatever it takes to gain my approval. This is your life. Live it, love it, and pledge your lifelong devotion to this decision. Come now, and become my Earth.  

Victimization of male submissives in findom

Welcome to the sphere of Goddess Sydney. A safe space for males to experience the reality of being inferior to a woman :)

A lot of misguided individuals believe that poor little paypigs are brutally taken advantage of by those most "despicable vile con artists" known as FinDommes, and my mission today is to set the record straight by asking and answering some basic questions.

1)Are "paypigs" in the findom scene victims? 
Males in the findom arena are consensual participants in a recognized valid fetish. They engage in a power exchange facilitated by the relinquishment of control via financial tribute. The prime adjective to note in that statement is CONSENSUAL. Consent determines the course, and thereby lays waste to the accusation of abuse. If an adult human being of sound mind consents to an activity with defined rules, and outcomes relayed, than they are no more a victim of a crime than any other person who plays in the bdsm world.**Please note that I am NOT stating that victimization never ever occurs in findom, but only that it is NOT the norm.** You will have people with ulterior motivations, and shady agendas in ALL walks of life, but for the most part I am speaking to the normative group who engage in findom.

2)Aren't "FinDommes" money hungry scammers who should just get off their dead ass, and get a real job?
Reality=The majority of women who engage in findom as a dominant, do work regular joe jobs. It is a fetish for them, and even an innate desire to dominate submissives. I am going to estimate here, so keep that in mind, but perhaps only the top earning 1% of women in the findom scene actually rely on findom for all of their income. Just as in any other occupation, earning is competitive, so those top 1% of women are forced to work their asses off to get to the point where they can claim it as a career, which means that they are not sitting around on a dead ass taking advantage of wandering mentally disadvantaged schmucks. I am not denying that they are capitalizing upon the predication of horny males seeking to "get off", because they really are, but they are not employing force, for males will line the blocks to wank off, and you know full well that I am not being disingenuous here. The bottom line here, is that males are willingly, and with foreknowledge reaching out to these women, therefore if any blame must be assigned, than let it be lain at the feet of the instigator. 

3)FinDommes don't really care about those lost hapless souls serving them, now do they?
I have seen many, wonderfully  fulfilling long term findom relationships evolving over the years. I myself have a male who has been in service to me 12 continuous years as my finsub. He finds supreme satisfaction and fulfillment in sending me gifts of adoration and appreciation. Does he consider this abuse, absolutely NOT, because he finds pleasure in my happiness, and why would I want to deprive him of that? We both receive in the exchange of power. He gives gifts, I receive happiness from his tokens of love, and he receives purpose, direction, and pleasure from pleasing. Now I am going to aver right here and now, that not all findom relationships are identical to the one I just shared, but they may be more similar than what one may think to outsiders. Everyday you can pop on social media and see the terms blackmail and forced ruination, which to the average joe creates the appearance of abuse, but in most instances what you are really seeing is a fetish game played out publicly. Do you honestly believe that blackmailers display their criminal intent, and actions out for consumption? Get real here. Blackmail is a fetish, mind you that it is not one I engage in, but I recognize the edgy excitement of it. As to financial ruination, it occurs, but how much of what you see is real, and how much is fantasy? Fetish play is primarily based upon fantasies, and for most people, being bankrupted is an extreme dose of reality, which is skirted around, but never fully indulged. Sure you may find males who are left broke til next payday, but than, who isn't most of the time??

4)Do all FinDommes consider and treat findom like a business? For some it is. Take a look at 2 of the most popular venues for findom services (niteflirt & iwantclips). These are legitimate business models where consenting customers pay for products. No one is being deceived about what they are paying for. They cannot claim that they did not realize that their wallet was not being tapped. I did say some, but not all ok. Some FinDommes do not sell services. I personally don't, and I am not the only one. This is not to say that I never will, but at this point in time, I do not. As well, I do not judge those that do. So long as no one is being misled, or harmed, it is certainly no business of mine what people choose to do, and this is a philosophy most if not all should adopt.

5)Aren't FinDommes just beggars who chase after every male for money? If a completely random woman is slipping into your inbox asking for or demanding money, that is not a FinDomme, That is an entirely different animal, so do NOT mistake the 2.  Findom is not based upon a woman needing money from a male, but she will happily accept it from males who want to give it to her free of strings. Can you tell me the name of any woman who would not want to be given gifts without attached expectations for no reason other than existence, me neither. 

6)Aren't FinDommes just whores who fuck for money? Most of the women in findom that I am acquainted with, do not offer sexual services for compensation. Findom at it's hear, atleast for me, is not about tit for tat. It isn't even sexual for me. Yes it is sensual, and yes the power exchange arouses me physically, but it is more about the act of being on the receiving end of a powerful tribute which sets me soaring. I do not masturbate thinking about money, nor the males who gift me with it. I do not stroke a dick for pocket change, or allow a random penis to penetrate me for cash. There is a difference between how a FinDomme operates, and how an escort does. Yes they are both in the realm of sexworkers, but they are not dictated by the same rules. An escort is a service provider, which means that she provides a service for which she is compensated, whereas I do not provide a tangible service, but rather receive service for which I am paid tribute. I hope that makes sense. In the end, if you are looking for intercourse, or a blow job, your best bet is to go with the escort, cause any type of sex, is not happening with me. 

It is my hope, that my words have cleared away some of the confusion in regards to findom, and that all may atleast attempt to be less judgemental of fetishes which they have no knowledge of  :)

Submitting to a Dominatrix can be the most exhilarating experience

Welcome to the wonderful world of Goddess Sydney. A place where submissives line up to lay their submission at my feet!

 
 Submission begins in the mind, not the flesh. It is a conscious decision to relinquish control over yourself. It must be a conscious decision, else submission would not be submission, but rather an exchange painted by the stroke of abuse. 

Submission brings forth an avalanche of emotions, which can at times bury you beneath them. It can be frightening to the point of fight or flight survival mode. It may come with a full body tingling awareness of pure bliss. It may even trigger thoughts, and feelings that should be left alone. My point being, that submission can be many things to many people, which means that no two may ever experience it in the same manner, even if they are both subjected to duplicate stimuli.

The path of your submission is in most part within your control. You retain the power to make choices along the way. What choices do you have within your power?

1)You alone will decide whom you offer your submission to.
2)You alone will decide exactly what your hard limits are.
3)You alone can decide for yourself to sever the ties of submission within a D's relationship.

Submissives are not what society has scripted for them. They are not created from birth meek and weak of will. Many will be indeed of strong character, and moral fortitude. A man may bow before a woman, yet remain a man. There is no written, nor unwritten rule declaring that all submissives must be doormats to be walked upon. 

Submission is a contract, and no I do not refer to a legal document. You as the submissive agree to submit your will to another, with the provision that it is followed within the parameters that both submissive and Dominant agree upon, which may vary, and change over time, but it remains constant that the submissive has the right to refuse to remand control over aspects which they have not agreed to, or decree limited scope in specific instances. 

At the core of submission is the desire to let go, to give of yourself, to be free of the yolk life tethers you with. You will fly uninhibited from the constraints of society. It is both beautiful, and a blessing to submit to a Dominant. It is a life altering experience. An awakening of sorts, from which you will embrace wholeheartedly. 

Many will flee in fear, for the unknown blankets them beyond their expectations.Others will grab on with both hands, and ride the ride in exhilaration. One thing I have noted over my years in bdsm, is that those that run as if the wind cannot catch them, will eventually drift back to it, for if you possess a submissive heart, you will never be able to completely cut ties with it.  A submissive nature, a yearning to be dominated, cannot be imprisoned irrevocably. It will bring itself out, one way or another. 

My advice is to NOT run headlong into submission, but rather to gauge your ability to submit at the point in time, and take small steps til you find yourself knee deep. At that time you will hopefully possess the knowledge you need to survive the roller coaster  emotions of submission, intact. If you remain draped in doubts even then, tread water, take a deep breath, and immerse yourself slowly, til you find that one Dominant who makes you feel safe in submission. It may take months, years, even decades, but if you persevere, it will happen for you someday :)

Don't lie to a FemDomme,Don't lie to a FinDomme,Don't lie to a woman

Welcome pets..welcome to the sanctum of Mz Sydney

Do you know what the ugliest words ever spoken in the English language are? Lies..lies are ugly,profane,and abhorrent. Do you know why they are so very offensive to the recipient?

Honesty is a free of charge commodity. It will not cost you even one shiny nickel to gift someone with a grain of truth,so why go to the expense of wasting time (most valuable commodity) thinking up,and conveying a lie instead? It is senseless and insulting to do so. 

I have always wondered if perhaps that the males who have attempted (note that I employed the word attempted) to lie to me are just that ignorant,or thought me that ignorant. I guarantee you that at my mature age I am not  prone to swallowing BS. It does not go down well,nor taste lovely..so no,no I will not take a spoonful.

I have been told so many useless lies that I could pen a book full of them. Is that not horrid? I think so. As a woman I am subjected to lies..as a FemDomme I am the receiver of lies..as a FinDomme I am the designated heir to lies. Differing scenarios,and a multitude of untruths.

One of the most sacred rules of serving me is that the prospective servant be honest. Honesty is highly valued by me. Honesty with me,and with yourself is a gift,for it is selfishly hoarded in most relationships sadly. A single lie possesses the power to ruin any chance one has of serving me in any capacity for

The reasons behind lies are selfish ones. They are always self-serving,and that is not the behavior of a desired submissive. The world is chalk full of liars..do not allow yourself to emulate them. It dishonors you,and the one you hope to serve.

An example from today's list of lies
1)I am too poor to serve you financially,but I would love to serve you for free. 
Now sure you may be saying "he really could be too poor to serve",but allow me to ask you a few questions. a)how can he afford internet service? b)Why would he come to me knowing that I am a FinDomme if he has no intentions of serving me financially? c)Why does he admit with his statement that he is a lazy fuck unwilling to go out and earn the capital to serve me properly?

Of course those peeking in at the Findom mirror might concur that I am being cruelly selfish only considering myself,and my desires for tangible service,but then I would ask you,how can any male who lives on an entirely different continent than I, serve any useful purpose if not tributing? He certainly cannot mow my lawn,run my errands,scrub my toilet etc...so basically all he is offering me is that which he wants,and that dear readers is what selfish people do. They take and take,and never give as they should. Would you if you were a Domme want this male serving you? If you answered yes,then I am all too happy to lead you in his direction.

Do you know what really sucks about lies? You get caught in them,and how you respond at that point seriously calls your maturity into question.

I cannot count on fingers and toes how many times I have been verbally abused for calling someone out on their lies. Is it common for most people to act as if it never happened? If so,than I am sadly antiquated,for I believe in calling a spade a spade.

In conclusion pets..never tell a lie,but most of all NEVER tell a lie to a Domme that has been around the block a few times :)

Twist it,flip it

Some days I feel like I am bashing my head against that brick wall,whilst others I am singing "oops there goes another rubber tree plant" when it comes to explaining that yes I engage in Female Led Relationships,but no I do not engage in your definition of a Female Led Relationship.

Kinda odd yes? Anyways let me get to the meat of the matter.

I am a dominant female who is the leader in any relationship I engage in,therefore I engage in Female Led Relationships,but I am not interested in being in a romantic,marriage minded,girlfriend,meet the parents,live in the same house kind of Female Led Relationship. Does that make sense now?

I will be the dominant partner in the sense that it is in my nature to control the boundaries of how my relationships play out,but I do not desire what is typically considered a partnership in the vanilla realm. I will beat your ass,lock your cock or clit,degrade or humiliate you if it suits me,piss or spit on you if I please,but I will never be the one that you take long walks on the beach with(unless you are on a leash),take to wifey,share a bed with,procreate with,introduce to your friends. This is seriously something that you have to accept about me if you are going to serve me.

Sure I expect you to adore me,perhaps even grow to love me,but it will be a one-sided affair. I will never love you in a romantic way..if you are fortunate I may care for you like I would a pet,but that is as far as it goes. I can hear the moans from stage left now.

I am definitely not cold hearted,nor emotionally stunted...I just do not want that type of relationship with a submissive or slave. I completely understand that alot of people do seek out that Elise Sutton type of Female Led Relationship,and hey that is ok..once again just not for me,so if that is really what you want for your life,than be about it,cause taking up space in my inbox won't get you to the goal post.

Happy Hunting :)

Most pleasing mindset of submission

This is the mindset which is most pleasing to me. If you crave my divine presence in your life,than it would behoove you to adopt it as your own.

"Being your slave, what should I do but tend
Upon the hours and times of your desire?
I have no precious time at all to spend,
Nor services to do, till you require.
Nor dare I chide the world-without-end hour
Whilst I, my sovereign, watch the clock for you,
Nor think the bitterness of absence sour
When you have bid your servant once adieu;
Nor dare I question with my jealous thought
Where you may be, or your affairs suppose,
But, like a sad slave, stay and think of nought
Save, where you are how happy you make those.
   So true a fool is love that in your will,
   Though you do any thing, he thinks no ill."

Focus on your goal

Focus is a key element to success. Focus aids you in achieving your goals, and lack of it is sure to send you in a downward spiral. This pertains to all areas of life, even Findom. It is even applicable on both sides of the fence (Domme&submissive).

You will never reach and or sate your desires if you lose focus. Whether intentional or not, we all set goals in our lives, and formulate an agenda to meet those goals. It is not required that we obliterate every other factor of our lives to get there, but a purpose driven life is more likely to yield the results we crave.

Say for example that you want to be the very best possible submissive that you possibly can be for your Domme, than you should keep that thought uppermost in your mind, and find ways to apply it in every aspect of your life. That includes the "vanilla" realm of your life as well.

As a submissive you should be working hard at your place of employment in order to climb the ladder, and earn more revenue for your FinDomme. You can take classes to further your education in your chosen field, which just might earn you the promotion you seek, thereby allowing you to enrich her life further. In this place of employment as well, you can honor your chosen Lady by displaying respect for women, by not engaging in the "good ole boys" mentality. Be that one male who doesn't catcall women, or talk about them lewdly openly or on the down low. Do not sexualize the women you see, nor relegate them to one dimensional beings whose only purpose is satiation of male desires. Stand out among your peers by opening doors for women in and out of the workplace. Aid women in their advancements. Make it known that you are an advocate for women, and that your advocacy is not a weakness, but a strength. Donate to women's causes. Give your patronage to female owned businesses whenever possible. Tip your waitress atleast 20%. Intentionally look for ways to advance awareness of how patriarchy is nothing more than abuse of women. These are all ways to grow in your submission towards the feminine.

On the flip side Dommes who keep their eyes and actions trained towards the finish line are more likely to reach it eventually. Part of this is not allowing the actions of others to woo you from your path. It is so easy to get discouraged when you see so many others doing the things you want to do, getting the tributes you yourself wish to receive, receiving the accolades and acknowledgement that you believe you deserve, but here is the thing! You will never reach your desired destination if your eyes are focused upon others. You must keep your focus on you, on your goals, and how best to achieve them. This may mean going out of your comfort zone a bit. Now I am not advocating that you change, or do anything that just does not fit in with who you are as a dominant woman, but I am relaying that you cannot gauge your success by the standards of others. Focusing and obsessing on how well others in your field are doing will only distract you, and in some instances even depress you. To discourage this from happening, you could spend your excess time reading, researching, and furthering your knowledge of fetishes, and how best to bring males to their knees before you. After all what woman would not like to have a harem of males bowing before them lol :) Seriously though, seek out ways to propel yourself forward, so long as it is not upon the backs of other females, go for it. Do not be afraid to be ruthless in your desire to succeed. Take chances, and if they fail, get the hell up and get back on that horse. Never allow your worth or chances of succeeding to be set by outside forces. Be you, do you, and in time success will be your bitch!

A kind Dominatrix

When people hear the word Dominatrix,they automatically associate it with leather,latex,a whip,and a badass attitude. This is a common misconception. I assure you that this is definitely not how I am dressed sitting here typing this post up. In fact no one would ever gain that impression from seeing me out on the street in everyday life,nor would they make that connection from speaking with me. I do not walk around with RBF,or shout orders at those in contact with me. In fact I make a point of not raising my voice in anger ever. Ironically I become very soft of voice when I am vexed. Maybe that is because I am biting my tongue ferociously lol.

My posts,and speech online do tend to come across as aggressive and authoritarian. I have never denied that I am blunt in my approach,but it is always tempered in honesty. I would rather dent an ego than tell a lie. If a male is not remotely suitable in personality,or compatibility towards serving me,than I will simply make it known. Not that I am cruel in relaying the information,it just is truth,so why would I want to waste my time,or his by dragging it out? That would make absolutely no sense at all. In fact that would be quite unkind in my eyes to convey hope where there is none. I have had a great many males approach me with the offer of friendship extended,but once again I come across as an uber bitch when I politely decline,not because of the words I say,but because no one likes being told no. I can honestly state that I am not going to become best buddies or friends for life with the males I encounter online. I have a plethora of real time friends who meet my needs for camaraderie,so this is definitely not something I seek out online.

What I do aspire to achieve from my online explorations is to form lasting connections with those that see and feel the correctness of serving me. These relationships may indeed lead to real time interactions at some point,but I must always be clear in saying that none of these relationships will lead to the altar,or a meeting of parents,or a joining of the flesh. Is it not kind to be real about my expectations,and exactly what you can count on with me?

You can count on me to never scream at you,to not lie to you,to not have hidden agendas,to never perform actions which will leave you irreparably harmed,to display respect when respect is given. These are my promises. What I will not promise is to coddle your ego,or stroke any sense of entitlement you may harbor with untruths. Is this being unkind?

Whilst I will not vow undying friendship for you,I will share that I do come to care for those that serve me,just not in a sexual or romantic manner. I grow fond of those males who have proven their value to me,so yes it is true that I will not dub you my bff,I will call you my own if you earn it.

How much kinder do I need to be?

Looking for a "real" Domme

This is one of the most common and problematic lines I hear from males in the fetish scene. Real is a subjective term in this instance,for what they mean is not based upon the actual definition of the word real. It is employed to relay their own personal definition rather than what appears in the dictionary. This is where confusion tends to rear it's head. The term real can mean many different things,to many different people,but I will endeavor to provide a bit of insight into what it most likely means when a male approaches a FinDomme stating that he is seeking a "real" Domme.

1)A real Domme does not charge for her time and attention. She happily caters to the wants of selfish males sans any regard for her own desires. Now let's clear up a point here,the type of female sought here is not a Domme. It may fall in line with what a service providers offer(catering to male wants),but her services are not free,so it cannot be that. Could it be a sugar baby he is looking for,cause she will most likely care about what he wants,but oops she does not care for free. Hmm this actually makes me think that what is sought is a submissive female,for that is the only female who is in the fetish to serve a male wants for free while negating her own.

2)A real Domme is dressed in leather,and coiffed to perfection every moment of the day,with a whip in hand.
Yup now that is a fantasy. Dommes are people too. They have lives and loved ones of their own,and they are definitely not waiting around all day online for males to just appear and give meaning to their existence.

3)A real Domme gets naked for the viewing pleasure of those that serve them. Ok this one kinda peeves me. I realize that some females do session nude,or gift males with flagrante photos,but that is not inclusive to all. I have never once played with a male where my tits and bits were visibly bare and on display,nor do I send out peeks of them as a "good boy" reward,or as an enticement to come calling. I am not,and I repeat NOT bashing females that do,but this is not me,and I know for a fact that I am not alone in this decision.

4)A real Domme sells clips and offers cam sessions. This one denotes a lack of intelligence. Selling clips is a service. It is a business,just as selling sessions is an aspect of business,and not all Dommes treat findom as a business. The fact that one doesn't,does not mean that she is not a "real Domme". It just means that she is not a business woman. Oh and bois,buying clips or sessions does not make you a "real submissive" either. It makes you a customer.

5)A "real Domme" wants to date and or marry a submissive male. This one makes me laugh. Women have types that they are attracted to,just like in the "real" world. Some do date submissives,and that is ok,cause it is their choice,but not all do. Do not make an ass of yourself assuming that all Dommes are alike,or declaring them fake because they are attracted to non-submissive males.

6)A "real Domme" is loud and abrasive in speech. Where did this fallacy evolve from? A bully bullies,yells and is outright aggressive. This is not a needed behavior for Dommes. If one needs to yell to get their way,than I would not consider them dominant at all.

There are so many more examples,but MzSydney only has so much free time in her day to relay wisdom. The point I want most acknowledged from this post,is that one must recognize that the term "real" may not mean what you think it means when someone else employs it,so when in doubt,just ask. One simple question can save tons of time.

Reality is real online

Odd title huh? I chose it for a reason which you will understand after you read this post :)

Anyways have you ever seen photos of tribute which are just too good to be true? You know what I am talking about don't ya gents? The ones where there are thousands of dollars in a female's hand,at her feet etc.... Screenshots of sky high gift cards,or bank accounts showing thousands in deposits. You know exactly what I am talking about. I wonder if you shake your head like I do.

Something not spoken of often is the fake it til you make it approach. Did you know that you can purchase fake money that looks extraordinarily authentic? I have never bought any myself,but it does exist,how cool right? If you seen a photo of a female holding stacks of cash with a wrapper stating that it contained say like $5K,would you immediately think to yourself "Holy shit she must be good at the hustle",or even "I have to serve her,cause obviously she knows what she is doing to rake in that kind of tribute"? Most would jump to the conclusion that she is wildly popular,and most sought after. Would it ever cross your mind that she could be displaying faux money? Lol it happens all of the time. It is actually a successful marketing ploy. Have I ever used it,nope,would I,nope? I believe in being as real online as I am in person,which means no BS,no lies,no fakery. Am I judging what goes on,no,but I do not want my brand associated with any type of foolery. I have worked too hard to prove that I am 100% real,and that I possess integrity,so when you see me sharing cash pics,I guarantee that they are as real as the hair on your ass.

Screenshots of bank balances and received gift cards. This is actually a pretty good one,but did you know that photoshop will edit anything til it looks like the real deal? Truly it does. Amazing right? I am not bashing on photoshop,I hear that it is a wonderful product. There are some really cool videos on youtube showing people how to make those photos and videos that look like a ton of money is actually there in the room with them,on the bed,falling upon their bodies,you get the drift. You will notice that I have zero,count them,zero photos of bank balances right,could be cause I do not trust any of you to send funds that way. I stick to amazon gift cards that sly little shits cannot cancel on me :),and in the history of my incorporating findom online,there has only been 2 males that I have allowed to send me cash in the mail. One being my real time brat boy..so that is whose tribute you are seeing in my money pics.

Let's get to the meat of the title shall we. Reality is real online with me,that I promise. If you see me in a pic with cash,that cash is real. If you see me posting a photo of a large gift card amount,that shit is real.

I do not play the fake it til you make it game. Never have,never will. Honestly I do not play any games. I have always been straightforward whether it is online or real time. Of course there are aspects of my life which I do not share with my readers or servants,but I am entitled to a private life.

The Domme you see online is the same Woman I am in real life. To know me is to know that I am a bitch,and I seriously mean that. I am a bitch in the sense that I do not swallow BS ever. I will call a spade a spade. I refuse to tell pretty lies,and if you ask me for honesty,than buckle up buttercup cause you are going to get it every time. If I like you,you will know it. If I detest you,you will be without doubt of it. I do not talk about people behind their backs. I do not engage in shady activities,nor illegal ones. I can be a ball buster,and male ego crusher. No matter where you are speaking to me,you will always know that I believe males to be inferior to females. I will not treat you as I would a fellow female. I will not kiss your ass for a dollar,nor play along into your fantasies based on demeaning women..and yes coming to me with shit about wanting to be humiliated by being forced to dress as a woman is a slap in the face of femininity..so keep on trucking right by my inbox.

I am not a lazy twat like most of the lifestylers like to title those that are a Financial Dominatrix. I have been a full time member of the work force since I turned 15,so yes I know what it means to work for what I want. This does not mean that I do not believe in Female Entitlement,cause I fiercely do. I absolutely believe that males should be remitting recompense to women for the sins of patriarchy. I believe that it is the duty of every male to provide for the financial comfort of women. These are my beliefs both online and real time. Nothing about me changes when I log off of a site,or out of a conversation.

This is what I am referring to in the title. I am real,and I expect real servants(no I am not talking about the in your face,in your home,at your literal feet 24/7 real servants). What I am saying is that I will accept none who are not honest,who are not exactly who they say they are,and who do not provide what they say that they will provide. Make sense? Hope so,cause I cannot break it down any clearer.

Now if you are looking for phony and fake..smoke and mirror domination,than yay for you,but begone from my presence. I am real,so you be too :)

alpha male facade

Being a Female Supremacist is not equatable with misandry. What it does mean in my book,is that I tolerate no male attempting to assert dominance over me,nor do I indulge the male ego by allowing males in my presence to shroud themselves falsely in "alpha" garb. All males are beta before me. Whether they be a CEO,or a janitor..they are beta. Crudely put,if it has a dick,it is inferior in my eyes,and I will not stand for pathetic displays of supposed patriarchal power.

To serve me is to acknowledge your inferiority before women. You are a creature led by his weakness,and yes in my eyes,your dick makes you weak. Your dick is always your demise in any situation with a woman,for it is a simple minded tool..just like you in the presence of a woman. You were not created to lead women..you were made to follow women..to be ruled by them,which leaves no room for erroneous male egos,so for all of you males touting that you are alpha,you are laughable. There is NO such thing as an alpha male..it is an urban legend. Get that through your head,and stop playing at being tarzan in the hopes that you can get pussy that way.

This is not to state that you as a male are to be a doormat,nor that you are without intellect..but it is to assert that you are thought of as unequivocally lesser. Your wants are not a concern,and only your basic needs are of any import..oh and by the way,your needs are simple(food,shelter,air,water)so leave off trying to insert love or sex into that list. Your dick,and it's desires are null and void when it comes to kneeling at my feet. Your sex ceases to exist once you become mine..for I have zero use in regards to your erections or lack thereof.

You are regarded as a tool,and for a tool to be useful,it must be of use. This means that your purpose is whatever I decree it to be. My will and my way. This includes being used financially. If I cannot take pleasure from the fruits of your labor,than you are not of value in my estimation. I care not if your skills number in the hundreds if you will not satisfy my wants in the way of my selection.

Now you selfish and self satiating agenda driven males can run along,for you and I shall not mesh. My acceptance comes only of those that are intelligent enough to recognize their place as intended in a woman's world,which is at her feet begging to be of use with a full and open wallet for her use. Nothing less will be allowed.

Serve Goddes Sydney

#Serve #GoddessSydney #Femdom #financialdominatrix #findom #teaseanddenial #findom #femalesupremacy #FemaleEntitlement #paypig #maleproviders #benefactor #spoiled

A video posted by Mz Sydney (@mzsydney34) on Oct 5, 2016 at 11:17am PDT

gift pics

Gifts from my brat this week are rolling in. Female entitlement lives,breathe,and reigns under the divine heels of Mz Sydney!! What have you done to shower me with the spoils of your submission today???

The only way to provide a positive first impression is to prove that you are capable of selfless service!

Stockings tease

#Tribute and #tithe my #stocking clad #femdom #feet! #prettyfeet #maleproviders #findom #femalesupremacy #femaleentitlement #bdsm #submissive #thickfit #MzSydney

A video posted by Mz Sydney (@mzsydney34) on Aug 24, 2016 at 12:03pm PDT

Working hard

Goddess has been busy this week with life! Basically I have been working hard,and working out even harder!!

I did take a bit of a breather yesterday though. Enjoyed a lovely relaxing day trip into amish country with my man. A little peek into his view this evening

Isn't he a lucky guy??? He sure seemed to think so :) Nothing better than ending your weekend with a big OOOOOO!! Now it is your turn to add to my pleasure by sending amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com.

No money,no time

One of the biggest whines I have heard lately is "you just want my money". Let's talk about this shall we?

If this is what you believe about me personally there could be a reason why,and most likely it is all on you. If you are interacting with me,it is due to you reaching out to me,not vice versa. I repeat,I do not chase after male attention. I have no need for such tactics,and if I am not the one making contact,than I am in no way obligated to react in a generous manner. We are not friends,and I owe you zilch. You on the other hand are rather self-centered and obnoxious popping up in my inbox expecting something for nothing from me,so slow your roll before you hurl accusations .

If you have come to my inbox,ask yourself why you did so. Did you pounce in looking for a quick jerk? Were you reaching out for selfish reasons(anything to do with your dick is selfish)? If you responded yes,than you are the type of male who receives not an ounce of respect from me,nor do I care for your poor tender feelings of entitlement,or cater to you attempting to use me non-consentually. I have not signed a release stating that any and all swinging dicks have the right to impugn my person with their dick delusions,so when you come at me with your own agenda,you will certainly get the "fuck you pay me" response,because I detest you right from the start,and if I am going to gift a single moment of my time,than you are going to pay dearly for it. In my eyes males like I described are the scum of the earth,and I have no qualms treating them as such,which means pay up or STFU.

A totally differing subset of males approach me with my interests in mind,and these are the males who do not regurgitate the tired pity me line of "you just want my money". Why is that? They do not do so because they realize that it is their duty to contribute financially to my life,and are happy to play such a part. They take joy in being of use to a superior dominant woman in any way possible. They recognize their place in a female supremacist's life. Instead of breaking out the cheese for their whine,they say "she just wants my money!" They are happy that they are allowed to make a difference in my life,and beyond the moon ecstatic that I acknowledge their existence.

Basically I see it like this...using that line is subversive ploy to receive attention from a woman without ever showing her due respect. It reminds me of the juvenile saying "I double dog dare ya"..in a way it is exactly the same. It is a goading statement,in that I should prove them wrong,and interact with them for free,ergo they win. As well it is intended to shame and guilt me...oh she is such a bad person..once again meaning that I should prove them wrong by giving them my time free. Who honestly comes out on top in either of those situations,ya right not me,and believe me when I say that I am all about ME.

Would I speak with males who are not contributing to my life,NO. Do I have to,NO. Does it make me a bad person not doing so,NO. It merely means that I value myself above such BS. My time is my own,and I am the banker who decides how to spend it,and I will not apologize for opting to share it with those who actually appreciate it as a gift.

In conclusion,keep your manipulative "you just want me for my money" ass out of my inbox. Thanks :)

poetry speaks to me

A pure work of art that speaks to me. Observant gents already know that poetry holds a place in my affections :)


When the sweet air turns bitter
and the leaf falls from the twigs
and the birds change their language,
here I sigh and sing because of him,
because of Love, who keeps me ensnared and caught,
whereas I never had him in my power.

Alas! I haven't gained, of Love,
but the torment and pain,
for nothing is as hard to gain
as that which I am seeking,
nor any longing affects me
as that for what I cannot have.

I rejoice because of a pearl
so fine that I never loved anything as much;
when I am with her, I am so astonished
that I don't dare vouch my desire,
and when I part, it seems to me
that I lose all my sense and my learning.

The fairest woman one has ever seen,
compared to her, isn't worth a glove;
when the entire world turns to darkness,
light shines from the place she rests.
I shall pray god that I may touch her one day
or that I may see her go to bed.

Awake or asleep, I quiver and am all startled
and shaken because of my love for her.
I am so afraid of dying
that I don't dare think how to entreat her,
but I shall serve her two or three years
and then, maybe, she'll learn the truth.

I don't die nor live nor heal,
nor do I feel my malaise, although it's serious,
for I am not parted from her love
and I don't know whether I'll have it, nor when,
for in her is all the grace
that can raise me or cast me down.

It pleases me when she drives me insane
and make muse and gape in stupor;
it pleases me when she abuses me
and makes fun of me, behind my back or to my face,
for after the ill, the good will come
soon, if her fancy turns that way.

If she doesn't want me, I wish I had died
the day she took me in her service!
Alas! She murdered me so sweetly
when she seemed to love me,
for she has gripped me so
that I don't want to see any other woman.

Although worried, I rejoice:
for, although I shun or blandish her,
for her sake I shall be false or faithful,
or righteous or full of guile,
or a complete scoundrel or a complete gentleman,
or agitated or peaceful.

But, whoever may like it or grieve it,
she can retain me, if she wants.