Selfish Bitch am I

My favorite compliment of the week. "You are a selfish bitch"

Now you might assume that I am masochist to consider this a positive statement, so I shall endeavor to explain why it is 100% accurate.

I am rather fond of truth telling,and whilst the sender in no way intended to compliment me with this relay of words,it did just that. Do you know what his message conveyed to me? It showed me that I had pissed him off by not giving into his wants. He expected his entitlement as a male to cross over into FemDom,but he was mistaken. He was met head on with quite the opposite of his expectations. I bow to the wishes of no male,ever. I am WOMAN,hear me roar my disapproval with a quick slam dunk of the block button :)

Yes I am selfish. I have never denied that fact. I am here to sate my desires,to meet my needs,to have my will served. Why would you ever think anything less? Serving me is about me. It is about you the submissive putting aside your wants,better yet syncing them to mine,so that we will both experience happiness and pleasure when you please me. You like pleasure yes? You want to please me don't you?

Online is my playground,where I design the laws of my realm. If you are not willing to submit yourself to them,than by all means exit left. It really is that simple. You either live by my dictates,or you depart. No democracy here. This is a dictatorship,and I thrill in doling out decrees whilst you scamper to obey.

So,yes you can think me selfish all you like,cause it is true. Why would I desire to have any male serving me who does not see my wants as a priority? Why would I settle for coming in second place to a dick? That is an insult right there. Can you see that? Do you know any woman who thinks that your dick is a priority in her life? Be honest now.

Onto the bitch decree. I admit fully that I am a BITCH. Oh my gosh I said it! To whom am I a bitch though? Is it to the male who treats me like a fetish fantasy,a fetish vending machine,or even a one dimensional object for pecker pukers..ya just might be right on. I am most definitely a bitch to those type of males,along with males who do not display respect,read my profile before contact,ones who attempt to blindside me with dick pics,and especially the males that jump into my inbox knowing that tribute is required yet refuse to do so. You got me red handed...I am a BITCH BITCH BITCH lol.

I am in no way ashamed of being a selfish bitch who always places herself first. I am a strong woman who knows her worth,and if you refuse to see that,than you are the one who loses out,not me,cause there will always be a male more intelligent than you who is going to make my happiness his priority.

Feet of a Goddess

Isn't this the most gloriously divine sight to ever grace the presence of your vision?? Of course it is :)
Goddess is perfect,and far beyond your reach,but to wake to a sight such as this every morn must be your dearest fantasy. All males should be prostrate at my feet,begging to be of use,shouldn't they?? Of course they should,for it is the destiny and intention of creation for males to worship Goddess in any manner which pleases her.

Fulfill your purpose this day by being useful to Goddess. You know what I want,and how I want to be served,now get to it,lest you become a waste of flesh.

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Most pleasing mindset of submission

This is the mindset which is most pleasing to me. If you crave my divine presence in your life,than it would behoove you to adopt it as your own.

"Being your slave, what should I do but tend
Upon the hours and times of your desire?
I have no precious time at all to spend,
Nor services to do, till you require.
Nor dare I chide the world-without-end hour
Whilst I, my sovereign, watch the clock for you,
Nor think the bitterness of absence sour
When you have bid your servant once adieu;
Nor dare I question with my jealous thought
Where you may be, or your affairs suppose,
But, like a sad slave, stay and think of nought
Save, where you are how happy you make those.
   So true a fool is love that in your will,
   Though you do any thing, he thinks no ill."

Financial submissives are not victims

Why is there so much hating on submissive males in the FinDom scene..now before your knickers get bunched up,I am in no way referring to the buggered fantasists,or the wannabe playing at submissive males who are in all actuality simply selfish self-serving fetishists. I am speaking about the submissive males who willingly sacrifice mentally,physically,and financially for the benefit and amusement of the Domme they serve. These are the ONLY males in the scene worthy of attention. The rest of you all need to step left.

Let's clear up some misconceptions shall we. These are not weak emotionally downtrodden males. These are not males who are naively being taken advantage of by women. These are not males whose IQ measures no longer than the average waist circumference.

These are males who view submitting from a stance of strength rather than one of weakness. These are males who have their shit together,and want to dedicate their lives to a purpose greater than their ego. These are intelligent males,with the capability of recognizing that submission to women is their destined position.

It is time for people to stop making an ass of themselves by assuming that these males need rescued,or clinical therapy due to the nature of their submission. I have no doubt that if financial sacrifice was not in play,that no one would be crying foul,or pity upon these males. Isn't it funny how one single aspect makes such a difference? Now if I was shitting in my subs mouth 3 times daily,or shoving a 12" dong up his ass every night...not a single protest would be lodged,but heaven forbid that my subs please me with gifts,and financial sacrifice to ensure the comfort of my life!! Being a FinDomme is likened to being a criminal,or an unjustified welfare recipient. How are the two even equatable?  

Financial submissives give willingly to their Dommes. Note that I said willingly! They are not being held at gunpoint and robbed. Of course there are always bad apples in every bunch,but the majority of FinDommes do not "force" or scam males out of money(that is illegal),yet non-findom domination practitioners paint all FinDommes with the same brush. In their eyes we are all lazy scavengers living off the bread roll of dumb psychologically stunted males. How is that any different than when the "vanillas" protest that all those who participate in bdsm are perverse and mentally unstable..and yes non-findom folks bitch about being referenced in such a manner,hypocrite much? How do you like people judging you when they have absolutely no valid perspective to come from? No one likes that shit,so stop it!

What they fail to grasp is that financially dominating males is WORK. It is not all flipping the bird,or calling males losers. It is about building a connection that differs minutely from any other ordinary relationship. It is about bonding. It is about meeting the need in males to submit,which is what they were innately designed to do. It is a give and take. They give their submission,and I accept it(if they are worthy). It is about me shaping these males into beings who benefit society,rather than prey upon it as patriarchal privilege would deem appropriate. It is teaching them to respect women on the whole,not just those they find physically attractive. Do any of these goals sound evil,or detrimental? Of course not.

Yes I dominate males financially,hence the FinDomme label,but only with willing males. I do not take advantage or abuse without consent(I am not a monster like that)..so who really is being hurt here. I will tell you what is being hurt here,your sense of righteousness,your conviction that these males are poor helpless sheep being ravaged by the wolf,and that is a misguided notion that you need to put to rest. This is why I dominate behind closed doors. That way,I am not offending any of your unwanted sensibilities.

Have a nice day,and seriously you all need to keep your nose out of other's doorways...else it just might get bent :)

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"Un"sexy Mz Sydney

Today's post is all about the "un"sexiness of MzSydney. Kinda odd coming from a woman who styles herself as a Goddess amongst males,yes? Fiction,and non-fiction alike portray the imagery of a Goddess as being quite sensual and sexual in nature,yet here I am with all outright audacity declaring my "un"sexiness..quite the gall eh?

Most people coming into bdsm in general today view it as an atmosphere where any and all "sexual perversions" are embraced. A sexual hook up cesspool,where people play sexy games,and get laid,and to the general eye,I can see exactly why that belief is held,and gains popularity. Whereas I am at heart the antithesis of the supposed norm of typically viewed bdsm.

I am not here with the agenda of fucking or getting fucked,or even giving or receiving oral gratification. I have no designs on any penis in bdsm,nor will I ever. I am not about looking at penis or vagina either. Can you believe that shit?? Seriously I am confessing to not wanting to engage in any sexual acts with those that serve me!! Nor do I want to watch people masturbate,or stimulate their prostate with large objects. There is no pleasure for me in any of that,therefore I am not going to engage in it. How difficult is that to grasp?  I am realistic enough to recognize that yes people masturbate,and yes the majority of people in bdsm are in it to get off physically,but that does not mean that I have to go against my own personal desires and engage in it.

One of the greatest gifts human beings enjoy is free will. Free will affords individuals the option of choosing whom they enter into a bdsm relationship with,and I am absolutely all for that,which is why I turn away those that seek the type of interactions which I have no taste for. Believe it or not,dominants have the right to turn away service,just as submissives have the right to refuse to interact with those that do not offer what they seek.

What is surprising though,is that I have always been vocal about what I am about when it comes to dominating males. I makes no lies about my expectations or requirements. I am not a woman who gets nude,does sessions,hops on cam,makes clips,caters to penis,yet everyday I am hit up with the very expectation of providing those activities. Sad is it not? It is quite telling that our world has evolved into such a sorry state where laziness is the norm? A universe where people cannot even be bothered to read basic profiles :(

Perhaps this explains the state of unemployment here in the states. I mean,applying to be someone's submissive is not unlike applying for a vanilla job. Could it be that these same beings are just barging into the offices of human resources personnel declaring that they want this,this,and this,and that this,this,and this does not turn them on,so they will not perform that duty,but hey you will be lucky to have them,and a dumbass loser if you deny them. Does that sound like to type of person that you would hire?

I do not want males who think or act with their dick coming to me requesting to serve. I want males with brains,not boners. Of course it is natural to be attracted to your Domina,but that does not mean that the relationship is going to become sexual. If I slept with every being that I was attracted to,good gosh the list would be phenomenal!! Call me archaic,but sex has actual meaning for me. It is an intimate act which I engage in with someone I care about,not just an activity to get me off.

Are you catching what I am saying about being "un"sexy Sydney? I hear day in,day out how a woman must be sexy in order to amass followers and servants. Do I believe it,hell yes I do. Do this for me if you do not believe it..look to the profile of a woman (no celebrities) who posts up bikini pics,then look to one who posts facial photos only. Who has more followers?  Whose photos garner more likes,and accolades? Look at those numbers,then and only then can you come back and tell me that I am wrong,k?

So,what is it that is so "un"sexy about me?
1)I do not offer sexual services(no pegging,no bj,or hj,no stroke off instructions)
2)I do not post nudes or semi-nudes
3)I value brains over dick
4)I am not afraid to call a spade a spade
5)I do not cater to boners
6)I am a FinDomme (that fact has killed many a boner)

Now if you are in the market to actually serve someone,not something,than you just might be right for me,but if you are one of the cro-magnon males who only serves when their dick is involved,than you are definitely not suited for me. Get your sexy times somewhere else please and thank you :)

Time out

I spent some time thinking this evening about the amount of content(photos,blogs,youtube clips) I crank out,and realized that my time is better spent taking a step back. The absolute lack of Valentine's gifts drove home the point quite well that my time and effort is NOT appreciated by any of you,so really there is no need for me to waste my own time producing content,when I could employ that time enjoying my life.

As of right now,I will only be available to those that truly have the desire to devote their selfless submission to me...and no more content will be released until I feel that my time is valued. The only avenue to receive any response from me will be through my personal email,and only if a gift card is attached to that message.

Ache for the arch of Sydney

Ache for the arch of Sydney

 The whisper of my footfalls holds more power than screaming lips

 

Spoil FinDom feet

Spoil my pretty FinDom with treats for Valentine's Day. Send amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com

Rosy FinDom feet

Behold the beauty which rests on a bed of roses

Valentine's Day nears gents...get your gift cards sent to mzsydney34@yahoo.com

sinful soles FinDom

Head down,ass up crawling over here to lay your money at my sinful soles in tribute to your deity.

Serve MzSydney's FemDom feet

Sacrifice for my soles

FinDom feet worship

You must kneel before you can crawl to the feet of MzSydney

How quickly my real time gents learn that their face is my sole wrinkle eraser

 

Do you have the fortitude required to serve MzSydney?

Lotion FinDom feet

Who wants to rub the lotion on my feet? Who wants to feel my wrinkled soles beneath their fingertips? Line up gents and grovel with your wallet between your teeth for the honors.

FinDom Foot Fetish

This is what those with a foot fetish dream of

Who wants to taste these toes and soles? I know that your mouth is watering at the prospect :)
The only way you will ever get the chance is by sacrificing for Mz Sydney. Are you ready
to sacrifice for ME?

Smoking Fetish

Admit that you have a smoking fetish,and beg to lick up my ashes :)

Mediocrity in FinDom

This is my thought about mediocre service in FinDom

Strive to provide excellence in service gents. Don't not rest upon mediocre laurels. You want to shine in service. You want to impress your FinDomme with your dedication towards pleasing her,don't you,else why bother expending effort at all?

As an experienced FinDomme,I realize that you gents are going to make mistakes when serving me,but I expect you to learn from them. You repeating,and me correcting the same mistakes over and over is both tedious and disrespectful. Neither of us is going to benefit from that type of interaction.

Of course you want to become the best possible submissive for your Domme,which means doing the best you possibly can. Being good is not good enough. Always strive to do better.

Submission is a lifelong journey. Get the most out of it,by putting the most into it. Make sense? I hope so :)

Initial FinDom tribute

Gents I get asked all of the time "how much should I send?". This question gets old very quickly. I understand that some of you are new to FinDom,and unsure of how you should go about things including tribute,so I am going to help you out :)

Timewasters are notorious for asking the question listed above,so anytime it is posed to me,a red flag goes up,and I become suspicious of your motivations immediately. Now I know that you do not want to start out on a bad foot with me,so let's get you past this shall we,and leave the shady for the shady.

Some Dommes will spell out clearly how much is an acceptable amount for a initial tribute,and some do not. You can get an idea of what will please here if you do your research. Look to what tributes she posts,or boasts about. As a rule I would say that if you are playing it cautious,than no less than what you would pay for drinks at a nice locale(not McDonalds). The amount should not wipe out your checking or savings account,well atleast not unless you are a starving artist. The point being that the initial tribute sets the tone,and expectations,so if you cheap out,than she is going to assume that you are either A)broke or B)a scrooge,and both are undesirable in FinDom.

I will be upfront with you right now,and I do not give a fig for whose pool I piss in by saying it,$10 is NOT a tribute. It is an insult. You may be a down on your luck type,to whom $10 is alot,but c'mon now,you know that it is not going to cut mustard. I cannot speak for other Ladies personally,but I myself earn a rather nice salary,so when you hit my inbox with less than $50,I am not going to be impressed. Tribute is meant to be a sacrifice,and sacrifices are meant to hurt. Note that I mentioned it should not break the bank though.

Think of it like this. You are investing in her attention. It is not unlike going out on a first date. Would you try to impress a woman by taking her to pizza hut? I hope not,or you will not be getting a second date. Base your initial tribute upon what you would be out of pocket if you had taken her to a nice restaurant,instead of what you spend at the local starbucks. With that and the proper submissive approach,you just might do quite well :)

Silence in FinDom

Some of you gents may be wondering why the perfectly acceptable(in your estimation)messages you compose go unanswered when sent out to a FinDomme. Being ignored when it is not your fetish generally invokes anger,which leads to lashing out,and that can be the kiss of death for a submissive seeking a Domme,for it tends to carry over even when your responses are answered.

Let's take a look at why your messages are being dismissed right out of the box shall we?  The average Domme does not spend the entirety of her day online due to having vanilla responsibilities such as a career or family,friends etc...,so when she is online,she is going to decide how best to make use of that precious commodity. Now let's say she receives 20 messages a day on average across the sites that she is a member of,and out of those messages only one has attached a tribute with it. Who do you think she is going to take the time to message back,the one who displayed his appreciation for her time,or the 19 others who did not?

Now you may be saying "but hey I am a great guy",but you tell me,how is she going to know that? Actions are always going to trump words. I have heard the explanation from many a male stating that he cannot afford to tribute every Domme he interacts with,and yes I get it,but I do not accept it. Before you get your knickers in a wad,I will explain. A Domme's profile is going to be chalk full of details necessary as a prelude to getting to know her. Her words should relay to you what she seeks,her expectations,and how she dominates. These are key pieces of knowledge,and based off of them should provide you with the desire to either reach out or run away. I know that too many of you get all caught up looking at photos rather than reading,but that is your bad to own. Reading her profile,blogs,website,twitter feed etc...is the easiest way to learn all about a Domme before you ever contemplate messaging her,and guess what,it is free!

Take your time studying a Domme. It will definitely save you headaches in the long run,and just might earn you some brownie points. Once you have done your research on the Dommes that truly interest you,AND mesh with the service you seek to offer(which should narrow the playing field down exponentially),then and only then should you begin to put fingers to keyboard. By employing your big head to dictate this course,you have now ensured that you can afford to offer a fitting tribute for her consideration. It is only when one gives in to the gotta catch em all mentality that you will fall short financially.

Hopefully I have given you gents something to consider in the future,well that is if you really want to see that inbox light up with a response.