Financial Domination at it's finest

Serving Mz Sydney is life altering in ways that you cannot even conceive of at this moment in time.

I know that you gents have lusted after women aplenty..but eventually the appeal fizzles out,and you are onto the next one to catch the momentary attention of your ADHD dick. How tiring,and unfulfilling. You are not even living,you are merely existing.

Serving Mz Sydney is the cure,and chastity is the tool of choice. Locking that dick up is the very best thing for you,and Mz Sydney always knows best.

Once that mealworm is caged,you are free to focus on your true purpose in life...serving Mz Sydney. Serving Mz Sydney will change your life for the better. She will set you free from all of your destructive inane urges to sate your sex. You will evolve into a useful human being. One that Mz Sydney can be proud to own mind,body,and soul.

It will feel so good to serve Mz Sydney. She is meaning,she is purpose,she is life. She is the one thing worth living for.

Mz Sydney's happiness will rule your world. You will wake each day conceiving of ways to please her,and make her proud of your efforts. You will work dutifully and successfully at your job,so that you can keep Mz Sydney in luxury as she deserves,for she is a Goddess,and she deserves the very best from you. You would never think to deprive her of her desires,after all,her pleasure is your pleasure. Her comfort is your comfort. Her happiness is your happiness.

Mz Sydney is the one woman you always hoped and prayed that you would one day serve with all of your being. There is nothing too great or small that you would not do for her. Anything that is within your power to give to her will be given gratefully. You will honor her with the fruits of your efforts. You would never consider giving her less than your best. She deserves it.

You cannot imagine a day without her wisdom guiding your life. She knows best. She knows what you need,and molds you towards that purpose. All you have to do is come to her humbly on bended knee,and profess your consent. Profess that you are unworthy,but crave nothing more than to be reinvented in the image which pleases her most. Come to her begging,and bearing gifts for your Goddess. Be not miserly when presenting her that which is her due. Impress her with the generosity of your wallet,and willingness to sacrifice so that she may have,whilst you go without. You neither need nor want possessions,for Mz Sydney deserves it all.

Conversion of compliments

Some of you gents seem convinced that doling out compliments to a FinDomme is the same as paying a tribute..uh NO. Compliments which I have heard droning over and over for years and years do not touch me on any level, in fact they irritate me. I do not need nor desire compliments. My ego is not suffering in the least, and you will not earn any brownie points conveying them. What I want is tangible proof of adoration. Save the words, send the cash.

Aww I can hear the moans and groans now..."she only cares about the money" "she doesn't want a real connection". There is truth, yet there is falsity in those statements. It is not just about the money, it is about what the money represents. Money is power..it is the tangible proof of adoration..it tells me that you are willing to sacrifice for me..that you are sincere in your claims of submission to my will..it is a selfless gesture which screams out for my attention, and that is your goal is it not? Your uppermost goal should be my happiness, and sacrificing financially for me is the surest way to incite my bliss. You want to please me don't you? There can be no "real" connection if you are not  sacrificing for my happiness.

Money is the lubricant that coats my gears..it whets my appetite to delve into the darkest aspects of your submission. You want me slipping into your subconscious don't you? You want me so far into your soul that you do not know where I end and you begin. You want my will guiding your life and decisions. There can be no you without me, and there can be no we without sacrifice. Sacrifice for Mz Sydney.

The shame game

One of the things Ladies will find running rampant in the fetish scene is the shame game. The shame game consists of tried and true techniques employed to shame you into providing for the wants of the one playing you. You should ask yourself these two questions when you take note of the game one is playing. Are you an instrument? Do you want to be played?

How to recognize the game,oh and I care not to hear the insipid dialogue regarding not all males do this, since I am generalizing here.

"I have been burned in the past, so I want to take the time to see if we connect before I tribute". Egads why is this line still gaining traction?? This is a clear cut attempt to use women for free gratification. If someone really wanted to get to know you, they would be all over your social media sites feeling you out, and not come to you til after they have been able to gauge whether they are a good fit for your domination style. They would then come into your inbox with tribute already sent. That is what a decent male does.

"If you really loved dominating males, you would do it for free". Wow gotta love the logic in that statement. Of course we have all heard the saying "do a job you love, never work a day in your life", but even that saying would not ring true if there were no tangible benefits to performing said job. The saddest part of this ploy is that you will see even lifestyle Dominas spouting it. Yet I ask you this, how would those same lifestyle women react if said male never once purchased them a gift, and expected said woman to supply all of the equipment used to dominate them? Would they then feel the same? I highly doubt it. The males who engage in this tactic are relaying distinctly that they have zero appreciation for a woman's time and effort. They are selfish slug entitled misogynists, so wrapped up in themselves that they could not care less about anything that does not pertain to their wants.

"Only whores charge for sexwork"..and yes FinDom is considered sexwork. This attempt is set to make you feel degraded due to the negative connotations surrounding the word whore. Many males denote a whore as the lowest form of being, therefore they toss this out to shame you into doing what you do for free, atleast with them. If the word did not have such negativity associated with it, than this ploy would fizzle out. I say Fuck that! You decide the value of your time, and the worth of your association, not some shithead male. Own that your time is precious, and should not be wasted upon anyone that does not value it! Make them pay for everything they receive from you, regardless if it is conversation, cam time, tasks, clips etc...

"I just want to be your friend" Now this one is really a trickster. You should feel bad for even considering charging a male who just wants to be your friend! He just wants to be there for you, and listen to your problems with tributing males. Oh yes tell him all about your sessions, about how you dominate males. There is no way that he is leeching off of your experiences with his dick in hand, ya right. Seriously here, the males who come to you claiming that they want to be your friend are the worst possible friend you could take on. They are out to use you, and that is NOT ok. They are simply taking up space and time that could be spent with someone who will benefit your life in a lasting manner, so kick that user to the curb before he hooks claws into you.

"You are too (old,fat,ugly,stupid) to be a FinDomme" This type is a real piece of work. Their intent is to absolutely demoralize you into getting their way. They hit hard at the most sensitive spots for most women. Unless you possess a super thick impenetrable skin shell, than these insults are going to sting, especially if you are receiving them on the daily. These tactics are meant to break you down, to make you feel undesirable, and unwanted, therefore you will be appreciative when any male wants to spend time with you. This is all BS! Do not, I repeat, do not fall for this. Knowing your worth is the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. Love yourself, preconceived flaws and all. Recognize that you are more than what is visible to the human eye, and never allow any male to shake the confidence you have in yourself, cause anyone that does not value you for you, is not worth a single thought!

"Such and such only charges X " Ya we have all heard this one. This one is called the haggler. He wants to shame you into devaluing your time. Most times Mistress X does not even exist, and even if she did, it is not your place to lower your standards just because someone else does not see their true worth. Stand strong, and advise this type to run back to  Mistress X than.

And that folks is all I have time for today..yup I gotta life to get back to, and bois begging to better it with financial sacrifice :)

Salvation soles

Your salvation lays beneath the soles of Mz Sydney

Soundcloud recording

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There is NO "u" in serve

My intent with this post is to teach you gents a little something about my expectations in regards to submissive approaches and motivations.

Let's visit some of the most common approaches I am subjected to
1)I want to serve you
2)I want to worship your feet
3)I want to be owned by you
4)I want to lock my cock up for you
5)I want to eat your shit
6)I want to cum for you on cam

Can you spot the common theme here?

When you as a supposedly submissive male comes before me,and begins with "I want",which my brain interprets as a demand,than you have already lost the opportunity to serve me. Your "I want" declares that you are here for you,and only you. That your intentions are selfishly based upon your wants,which is the polar opposite of what is pleasing to me.

When I say that serving me is all about me,I mean it sincerely. I truly possess no desire to interact with,much less be served by any male that is not in it to make me happy.

Now if I were in this fetish to just get the money and go,than I might not care what the male's motivations were for serving,but that just is not me. A dollar is just a dirty bill,if it is not relinquished to me for the correct reasons as defined by moi.

I want more than your money,but you better believe that I will expect that as my due as well.

What I want,nay what I will not accept less than,is
1)Absolute devotion of mind,body,and wallet
2)Absolute dedication towards my happiness alone,and your part in achieving said happiness
3)Absolute desire to belong to me,and only me
4)Absolute drive to better serve me,and humanity on the whole

Does the above sound like a monumental task? It can be if your motivation is not pure.

Spoil FinDom feet

Spoil my pretty FinDom with treats for Valentine's Day. Send amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com

Rosy FinDom feet

Behold the beauty which rests on a bed of roses

Valentine's Day nears gents...get your gift cards sent to mzsydney34@yahoo.com

Lotion FinDom feet

Who wants to rub the lotion on my feet? Who wants to feel my wrinkled soles beneath their fingertips? Line up gents and grovel with your wallet between your teeth for the honors.

Smoking Fetish

Admit that you have a smoking fetish,and beg to lick up my ashes :)

Mediocrity in FinDom

This is my thought about mediocre service in FinDom

Strive to provide excellence in service gents. Don't not rest upon mediocre laurels. You want to shine in service. You want to impress your FinDomme with your dedication towards pleasing her,don't you,else why bother expending effort at all?

As an experienced FinDomme,I realize that you gents are going to make mistakes when serving me,but I expect you to learn from them. You repeating,and me correcting the same mistakes over and over is both tedious and disrespectful. Neither of us is going to benefit from that type of interaction.

Of course you want to become the best possible submissive for your Domme,which means doing the best you possibly can. Being good is not good enough. Always strive to do better.

Submission is a lifelong journey. Get the most out of it,by putting the most into it. Make sense? I hope so :)

Initial FinDom tribute

Gents I get asked all of the time "how much should I send?". This question gets old very quickly. I understand that some of you are new to FinDom,and unsure of how you should go about things including tribute,so I am going to help you out :)

Timewasters are notorious for asking the question listed above,so anytime it is posed to me,a red flag goes up,and I become suspicious of your motivations immediately. Now I know that you do not want to start out on a bad foot with me,so let's get you past this shall we,and leave the shady for the shady.

Some Dommes will spell out clearly how much is an acceptable amount for a initial tribute,and some do not. You can get an idea of what will please here if you do your research. Look to what tributes she posts,or boasts about. As a rule I would say that if you are playing it cautious,than no less than what you would pay for drinks at a nice locale(not McDonalds). The amount should not wipe out your checking or savings account,well atleast not unless you are a starving artist. The point being that the initial tribute sets the tone,and expectations,so if you cheap out,than she is going to assume that you are either A)broke or B)a scrooge,and both are undesirable in FinDom.

I will be upfront with you right now,and I do not give a fig for whose pool I piss in by saying it,$10 is NOT a tribute. It is an insult. You may be a down on your luck type,to whom $10 is alot,but c'mon now,you know that it is not going to cut mustard. I cannot speak for other Ladies personally,but I myself earn a rather nice salary,so when you hit my inbox with less than $50,I am not going to be impressed. Tribute is meant to be a sacrifice,and sacrifices are meant to hurt. Note that I mentioned it should not break the bank though.

Think of it like this. You are investing in her attention. It is not unlike going out on a first date. Would you try to impress a woman by taking her to pizza hut? I hope not,or you will not be getting a second date. Base your initial tribute upon what you would be out of pocket if you had taken her to a nice restaurant,instead of what you spend at the local starbucks. With that and the proper submissive approach,you just might do quite well :)

Silence in FinDom

Some of you gents may be wondering why the perfectly acceptable(in your estimation)messages you compose go unanswered when sent out to a FinDomme. Being ignored when it is not your fetish generally invokes anger,which leads to lashing out,and that can be the kiss of death for a submissive seeking a Domme,for it tends to carry over even when your responses are answered.

Let's take a look at why your messages are being dismissed right out of the box shall we?  The average Domme does not spend the entirety of her day online due to having vanilla responsibilities such as a career or family,friends etc...,so when she is online,she is going to decide how best to make use of that precious commodity. Now let's say she receives 20 messages a day on average across the sites that she is a member of,and out of those messages only one has attached a tribute with it. Who do you think she is going to take the time to message back,the one who displayed his appreciation for her time,or the 19 others who did not?

Now you may be saying "but hey I am a great guy",but you tell me,how is she going to know that? Actions are always going to trump words. I have heard the explanation from many a male stating that he cannot afford to tribute every Domme he interacts with,and yes I get it,but I do not accept it. Before you get your knickers in a wad,I will explain. A Domme's profile is going to be chalk full of details necessary as a prelude to getting to know her. Her words should relay to you what she seeks,her expectations,and how she dominates. These are key pieces of knowledge,and based off of them should provide you with the desire to either reach out or run away. I know that too many of you get all caught up looking at photos rather than reading,but that is your bad to own. Reading her profile,blogs,website,twitter feed etc...is the easiest way to learn all about a Domme before you ever contemplate messaging her,and guess what,it is free!

Take your time studying a Domme. It will definitely save you headaches in the long run,and just might earn you some brownie points. Once you have done your research on the Dommes that truly interest you,AND mesh with the service you seek to offer(which should narrow the playing field down exponentially),then and only then should you begin to put fingers to keyboard. By employing your big head to dictate this course,you have now ensured that you can afford to offer a fitting tribute for her consideration. It is only when one gives in to the gotta catch em all mentality that you will fall short financially.

Hopefully I have given you gents something to consider in the future,well that is if you really want to see that inbox light up with a response.

FinDom feet in sweaty socks

Findom Expectations

This may be hard to believe but not all FinDommes are alike personally(we already know this is true appearance wise). Of course the financial aspect is a shared expectation,but other elements will vary Domme to Domme. Just as no two snowflakes are identical,neither are two FinDommes.

Some will interact with males freely for a predetermined amount of time before expecting tribute to be sent,and some will not speak to males at all without a tribute being sent first. Some will degrade and humiliate males from the get go,while others want to learn about you before they jump into that pool,whilst others may not engage in such play ever.

There are FinDommes who do cash meets,and real time domination,yet others do not dominate anywhere except online,or even ones who straddle the fence.

Some are hardcore sadists who enjoy financially ruining males,while others only control budgets,and the rest who perch all along the spectrum of Financial Domination. Plenty of Dommes desire gifts only,no cash,and others crave cash only.

There are those FinDommes who will blackmail you for real(not me),and those that will befriend you.

There are some who want to better you by training you to be the best possible submissive,and others who want to destroy you.

Some will want to lock your cock in chastity forever,yet others will push you to edge and masturbate daily.

Many will expect regular interactions with you,and others will want none unless you are tributing at that time.

Some expect daily tributes(small amounts),some weekly ones(bigger tributes),and even those who accept monthly tributes.

Some will want to own you and your wallet in a day,most will not.

There are those who will not have anything to do with you if you do not tribute atleast $100 a week,while others will accept less.

Some will allow you to worship them in all of their naked glory,whilst others will share nothing nude but toes.

Some will listen to your talk of everyday life,and others want to know nothing of it.

Some will tempt,and others strike fear.

Some will care about you as a human being,and others simply will not.

There are those who will want to use you as their toilet,and others who are grossed out by the notion.

There are those that are kind,and those that are cruel,and pretty much everything in between.

The comparisons could go on and on,but I think you get the point don't you gents?

Now it is up to you gents to decide which type of woman you want to serve,and I hope that each of you males reading this post will take one bit of knowledge away from it,which is.....RESEARCH is your best friend when it comes to getting to know exactly what type of FinDomme you are approaching. Read her blogs,check out her website,perv that twitter. Learn her expectations,and ask yourself if she is the one you want to serve.

Make an impression

Prostrate yourself before my FemDom feet,and lay down your offering to Goddess Sydney.

Why isn't your face beneath my foot

Crawl for me,and beg to smell the aroma of my sweat soaked feet!

Hmm seems like you forgot something...oh yes get those Christmas gifts of gratitude to me now. I want to see my inbox flooded with amazon gift cards.

flogging that horse

Here we are dear readers once more covering ground that has already been trod upon over and over,yet the need arises to speak of past posts in order to educate those that have arrived since.

The first issue to touch upon is the lack of desire on my part to take on a full time live in servant. A ridiculously redundant amount of the contact I receive comes from ones who envision themselves in such a position,and whilst yes I know that I am wonderful and perfect...the scenario would not be.

1)It takes alot of time and energy to train a male 24/7,which I do not possess,not to mention that I highly value my private time.
2)Living in is not the fantasy the majority believe it to be,for there is no all day everyday play. I realize that it may come across that way,especially if you are watching alot of femdom porn,but reality is not scripted,and no one and I mean absolutely no one can maintain scenes 24/7. Human beings certainly are not wired that way.
I have read copious amounts of the fantasies running through the heads of many males,and they are just that,fantasies. It sounds good I know,but it is not going to happen.
I actually either laugh or shake my head when I see some of you saying how you expect a Domme to come kidnap you away from your shitty life(only happens in the movies). I am not saying that it is not perfectly ok to have fantasies,only that you recognize them for what they are.

The second issue:There is no way to serve me without tribute. In your perfect world it would be true,but alas it is my world that you are trying to insinuate yourself into,not vice versa,so the rules are constructed per me,and carried out via you,and that involves displaying your appreciation of my person and attention with tribute. Even my real time pet pays tribute(every week without fail)..why does he..I mean I know some of you are asking "what does he get out of that?" What he receives is the satisfaction of pleasing me. He adores me,he worships me,and knows that it is his purpose in this lifetime to ensure that my wants are provided for,all of which aid him in always submitting to his need of submission. My dominance gives meaning to his life,and if you still cannot comprehend that,than I cannot help you.

Third:You must serve an online probationary period before ever kneeling at my literal feet,and yes tribute is required during probation. All of the tribute in the world though will not earn you a spot if you have not taken the time to prove yourself to me,which involves effort and dedication to the goal of being in my presence. Many assume that I will respond positively to males who reach out to tell me that they are in my city,or will be soon,and ask to meet..not going to happen. No one is exempt from the mandatory probation rule. NO ONE. I take my safety seriously,and so should you.

Fourth:I do not offer services. I hate flogging this horse :(  Do not ask me to sell you cam time,or photos.

Fifth:Sex is NEVER an option with me..now just to clear away misconceptions,I consider sex as being defined by oral,anal(yup that includes pegging),handjobs,footjobs,or vaginal. You will not see me nude,you will not see me unclothed at all,and if you come at me with unsolicited photos of your cock,or ass..I will block you. Do not ever even ask if I want to see such sights!! Only remit the photos that I request.

Last for the day,but certainly not least. Always address me as either Mz Sydney or Goddess. I am not your buddy down the street,or the female you are trying to creep on,so leave off with the "wats up" "hit me up" "hey" shit lines ok. I like old school manners :)

Happy Birthday to me

It is now officially my Birthday!! Where are my gifts?? Get on spoiling me on my special day by sending amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com,just like I have spoiled each of you that has gained wisdom,and excitement all year long from my words and photos. No excuses,just action. Gift my petal soft peds

cleanse

Goddess is going to begin a cleanse like you have never seen before. One where dead weight is massively dropped. This coming year's Birthday has shown me exactly who cares for my happiness,and those that do not,so....I will be removing all from my various lists (starting with skype) who do not enrich my existence,and spoil me as I deserve. If you are one of those cut,sorry not sorry,for you should have put effort into pleasing me rather than sitting back and serving your own pleasure base by stroking to my words and photos. Only those that are truly bent towards making my pleasure paramount will remain in my good graces. Good riddance to rubbish!

As to those of you who remain...welcome,and remember that if you falter,you too will be cut loose. By the way,you have 2 days remaining til the holy day of birth festivities,get your gifts to me ahead of time :)