The shame game

One of the things Ladies will find running rampant in the fetish scene is the shame game. The shame game consists of tried and true techniques employed to shame you into providing for the wants of the one playing you. You should ask yourself these two questions when you take note of the game one is playing. Are you an instrument? Do you want to be played?

How to recognize the game,oh and I care not to hear the insipid dialogue regarding not all males do this, since I am generalizing here.

"I have been burned in the past, so I want to take the time to see if we connect before I tribute". Egads why is this line still gaining traction?? This is a clear cut attempt to use women for free gratification. If someone really wanted to get to know you, they would be all over your social media sites feeling you out, and not come to you til after they have been able to gauge whether they are a good fit for your domination style. They would then come into your inbox with tribute already sent. That is what a decent male does.

"If you really loved dominating males, you would do it for free". Wow gotta love the logic in that statement. Of course we have all heard the saying "do a job you love, never work a day in your life", but even that saying would not ring true if there were no tangible benefits to performing said job. The saddest part of this ploy is that you will see even lifestyle Dominas spouting it. Yet I ask you this, how would those same lifestyle women react if said male never once purchased them a gift, and expected said woman to supply all of the equipment used to dominate them? Would they then feel the same? I highly doubt it. The males who engage in this tactic are relaying distinctly that they have zero appreciation for a woman's time and effort. They are selfish slug entitled misogynists, so wrapped up in themselves that they could not care less about anything that does not pertain to their wants.

"Only whores charge for sexwork"..and yes FinDom is considered sexwork. This attempt is set to make you feel degraded due to the negative connotations surrounding the word whore. Many males denote a whore as the lowest form of being, therefore they toss this out to shame you into doing what you do for free, atleast with them. If the word did not have such negativity associated with it, than this ploy would fizzle out. I say Fuck that! You decide the value of your time, and the worth of your association, not some shithead male. Own that your time is precious, and should not be wasted upon anyone that does not value it! Make them pay for everything they receive from you, regardless if it is conversation, cam time, tasks, clips etc...

"I just want to be your friend" Now this one is really a trickster. You should feel bad for even considering charging a male who just wants to be your friend! He just wants to be there for you, and listen to your problems with tributing males. Oh yes tell him all about your sessions, about how you dominate males. There is no way that he is leeching off of your experiences with his dick in hand, ya right. Seriously here, the males who come to you claiming that they want to be your friend are the worst possible friend you could take on. They are out to use you, and that is NOT ok. They are simply taking up space and time that could be spent with someone who will benefit your life in a lasting manner, so kick that user to the curb before he hooks claws into you.

"You are too (old,fat,ugly,stupid) to be a FinDomme" This type is a real piece of work. Their intent is to absolutely demoralize you into getting their way. They hit hard at the most sensitive spots for most women. Unless you possess a super thick impenetrable skin shell, than these insults are going to sting, especially if you are receiving them on the daily. These tactics are meant to break you down, to make you feel undesirable, and unwanted, therefore you will be appreciative when any male wants to spend time with you. This is all BS! Do not, I repeat, do not fall for this. Knowing your worth is the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. Love yourself, preconceived flaws and all. Recognize that you are more than what is visible to the human eye, and never allow any male to shake the confidence you have in yourself, cause anyone that does not value you for you, is not worth a single thought!

"Such and such only charges X " Ya we have all heard this one. This one is called the haggler. He wants to shame you into devaluing your time. Most times Mistress X does not even exist, and even if she did, it is not your place to lower your standards just because someone else does not see their true worth. Stand strong, and advise this type to run back to  Mistress X than.

And that folks is all I have time for today..yup I gotta life to get back to, and bois begging to better it with financial sacrifice :)