How to approach ME 101

Hello gentlemen

Do you want to know how to interact with me for the very first time? I realize that I can be an intimidating force of nature lol, but it really is easier than you would imagine.

I do want you to understand though, that your initial message to me is going to set the tone for how I respond.

These are the things that you do NOT want to start off with

1)An obvious generic copy and paste message

2)Your autobiography

3)Your bank details, or any type of passwords

4)Dick pics

5)Photos that you want exposed

6)Addressing me in what I find to be passive aggressive demeaning terms ie hey sexy, bb, sugar, honey, girl

7)Giving me a list of your turn ons

8)Telling me that I make your dick hard

9)Relaying what you want to do to me

10)Stating what you want me to do to you

I think that you gents get so carried away with your fetishes, that you forget entirely that the person you are interacting with is a person too. 

If you are a smart gent, you will have already read my profiles, tweets, blogs, website etc. You will be well acquainted with my expectations in regards to submissive behavior I deem acceptable and pleasing, so all of the mostly inane chit chat will not be necessary, for you are informed.
I honestly do not care to "shoot the shit" with random strangers, or answer questions that are already answered in my profile. 

I want you coming into my inbox already prepared to tribute and serve, because if you aren't, than you have not put in any effort in getting to know me at all, and that is unacceptable. The fact that I include findom in ALL of my femdom exchanges is widely known, so this should not be coming as a shock to you, and if you do not know what findom is, than google it gents. 

As well, it should be plain as day to you that I am to be addressed as Goddess, or Mz..no deviation. It may seem old school, but in my estimation, it is about respect, and I do not tolerate disrespect. 

Believe me when I say that you want to start off on the right footing with me, because I am not a big believer in allotting second chances. I understand that you may be nervous and in awe of me, so you may flub up a bit in your communication,which is ok, but never do so intentionally gents. 

I can be one of the easiest going Dommes you will ever talk to, but at no time am I ever not the dominant in the exchange, and I have zero issues booting you out my door if you forget it. As well, I am a genuine sweetheart to those who treat me with all of the deference due to a Goddess. To those who are generous with their time, attention, and financial worship of me, I am most benevolent :) Regardless though, I will ignore you into non-existence if you ill treat my kindness. My kindness has never been a weakness. 

If it is not apparent to you as of yet, I will speak plainly. I do not want you to fear approaching me if you are sincere in your desire to serve me. In fact I always welcome males into my sect who have proven that they are intent on putting my happiness above their own, my fetishes above their own, and my comfort above their own. If this resonates, than you are what I seek, and I bid you to come beg an audience..I did tell you that I adore when males beg, didn't I  lol

Smoke in the wind

Welcome to those that brave the gauntlet of choppy findom seas to reach my Fempire :)

I enjoyed a lovely disconnected weekend! For the past couple of months, I have been getting away from my electronics on the weekends, so that I can reconnect with simply living my life unencumbered from the distractions of the internet. It is absolutely glorious! I opened up my mind, and drove up to KC to visit the Truman Library. It was awesome by the way.

I have gained so much clarity from the disconnect experience. I used to believe that I had to be online all of the time in order to be relevant in the findom world, but ya know what...relevance is a matter of perspective. I never aimed to be the darling of findom, or the brightest star, or even the most financially successful. My goal has always been to just be me, and that me is not glued to the net. 

I do not want to sell a million clips, or reach a million followers, or listen to a million sycophants falsely proclaim their unwavering devotion. My aim is much more singular in nature. I seek out, and embrace only those that honestly desire to be of use to me...not for a moment, or the space of time it takes to jack off. I am referring to those rare jewels who really do want to enrich my life, and it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out the difference between the 2 types of males who inhabit the findom scene. What are the 2 types you ask..simple 1)Those who want from you 2)Those who want for you. Can you guess which type I desire as much as I would desire to drink curdled milk? Bet ya know :)

One of the other tidbits I have seen through opened eyes, is the sheer shallowness of the male mindset online. I can take one look at a female online, and know how well she is going to be received. How is that possible? It comes from constantly watching how males interact with women, who they choose to speak to, follow, and tribute. I have no doubt that others can see it as plain as day as well. It is not a guarded secret my friend. It simply is what it has always been, and always will be, and to be honest, I weary of those inane games. I have no desire to try to play at being something I am not.

Many have doubted me when I stated clearly that I am not here to make cocks cum, or that I do not find it complimentary when males reduce me down to my sex. I am not present in this lifetime for males. It could not be more clear. I am not all about making males feel special, worthy, relevant, or even wanted. I do not need to, and I seriously could not care less.

While on the subject of why I am not in existence, I am definitely not a trained therapist, so please, if you have mental health issues, seek a professional, and no I do not mean a dominatrix. In order to be successful in your submission, you must be healthy in mind. You need to have your shit together in order to serve. That is the truth. Submission will not cure you of mental health issues. It will not make all of your ills vanish. It may mask your problems for a short time, but it is not a cure, so if your heart is set on serving, get yourself set first. 

So, unless you are serious about being an asset to me, I will be as evasive as smoke in the wind my friend.

I look forward to hearing from those of you who are prepared to dedicate your existence towards my happiness..to the rest I say, you have ceased to exist in my Fempire.

Strong Women Dominate

Welcome welcome to those that have ventured this far into the realm of Femdom Goddess Sydney Claire


Do take a seat, and get comfortable so to speak, because this may take a hot moment.

I have been mia for some time over the last few months, and a few of you did reach out to ascertain whether I was well, and I do want to relay that I appreciate your concern on my behalf, but all is well with me. It is quite easy to tire of riding the merry go round over and over, and what I mean by that, is that my brain sickened of hearing the same excuses, and attempts at deceit on the daily. I needed a break from the cycle, so I logged off, and took it upon my self to travel around the states, and strengthen my bonds with family, and friends, which on it's own did much to alleviate the disappointment of continuing online drama sagas. 

I will tell you right now that if you spend inordinate amounts of time online interacting with males, than you will soon tire as well. Online behavior is not reflective of real life actions, least I surely hope not, for if so, than males are doomed as a sex. I have encountered the very worst type of behaviors displayed by males online, and it unfortunately does skew one's views and opinions in relation to the entire gender. 

Fortunately for me, clarity did come with distance, which means that I am back, but I will definitely be handling things much differently. My tolerance for lies, selfishness, and drama is at an all time low. Life truly is too short to accept into my company those that are undeserving of it. 

Other changes include

What is it that I do not care about...your dick, your erections, your orgasms. None of the mentioned items are essential or even relevant towards my happiness, and satisfaction in life, and since my FemDomPire is all about me, well that means that anything or anyone who is not benefiting the FemDomPire is undesirable, and rejected.

The entirety of male focus online is their dick, and taking action to gratify that appendage. This is unacceptable in service to me. 

I do not want to hear about what your dick wants. I do not want to see pictures of your dick. I do not want to help you make your dick ejaculate. I want nothing to do with your dick period.

The goal of a submissive is to please whoever holds their reins, and that should be the entire basis behind their statements and actions. There is no room in the relationship for submissive self. You are either serving, or you are seeking to be served, and the latter is not welcome in my empire.  

I was a no nonsense woman prior to my vacation, and even more so now. I will allot zero time to those that do not have themselves sorted out in submission. There is no in between with me. You are either here to submit to my will, or you will not sit in my inbox. If you are hoping to find a woman who will play your games, than you are seeking in the wrong direction. I am not about to cater to you or your wants. A strong woman is not ruled by a man's cock. She follows her own path, and is stronger for the sake of that decision, and I am a strong woman.

So now, if you are serious in your submission, and prepared and willing to be ruled by a woman who an iron will, than you have come to the right place, so query up, and get on sending gifts to worship a Goddess among women.
 

Reality is a slap in your submissive face

Welcome minions of mine, to the world of Goddess Sydney Claire!



How many times has reality bitch slapped you since jumping on the submissive fetish bandwagon? I would wager, a few times lol, and you have deserved it.

You get all hyped up, and lose your mind when the blood flow pools south of the belt line don't you? Yuppers you do. You are fooling yourself though tsk tsk. You get it in your head that you are special, that you are the premiere male with a foot fetish, an ass fetish, etc....
but it just ain't so.

Truth be known, you are no different than the thousands of other males world wide with the very same fetishes. Each and every one of you is running raggedly delusional. Your fetishes, your desires, your wants, your turn ons do not set you apart from the crowd. In fact you blend into the nameless, faceless majority. No woman will remember you, or differentiate you from the countless fools who contact her each and every day with the same worn out statements.

Not even your proclamations of being a "true submissive" is going to gain you any leeway. FemDommes have heard it all, please believe that. You can scream it to the heavens about how you are not like the rest, but if you do not validate those words with actions, than you are exactly like the rest of your dick beating brethren. 

You must stand out in order to be recognized, much less remembered. How do you go about that though?

1)Get your hand off your dick, and keep it off
2)Speak like a human being, rather than a simplified slang slinging text speaking bot
3)Put forth the effort of reading her profiles to learn about her expectations first
4)Send an original message, and forgo the copy and paste chain mail you normally remit
5)Focus your message upon how you can serve her wants, and her needs, not yours
6)Get that wallet out, and tribute to show that you appreciate her as a person
7)Be patient, and wait for her reply without sending message after message

*It honestly is within your best interests to follow the above advice.*

Now get off your arse, and make your submissive journey matter! 

Human trafficking laws will effect all sex workers

Welcome to the blog of Goddess Sydney Claire 

I had no intentions of typing up a post today, but in light of the recent SESTA/FOSTA laws awaiting a final signature to enact them into law, I felt that I needed to take a few moments to make absolutely clear my thoughts and intentions in regards to the subject.

If you are not US based, you may not have heard of these possible new laws. They were supposedly created in order to cut down on human trafficking, which remains a concerning issue even in this day and age. I am in agreement that human trafficking is a horrid practice which must be stopped, but I will not concede that the means and measures of doing so should in any form punish those that are not perpetrating it. Why should any one person be penalized for an act that they have not committed? Many will argue that the ills caused to a few for the benefit of the many is just cause, but is it really? Do you see the far reaching ramifications of this type of mindset? I hope so, but I fear that most do not.

Of course legitimate sex workers are against human trafficking, but when laws come into place targeting ALL sex workers, it becomes a shitstorm of astronomical proportions!  Some of the very people who voted upon the passage of these proposals do in fact avail themselves of the services of sex workers. How hypocritically ironic is that? 

There are petitions circulating asking that these proposals do not be enacted into law, which in all good conscious should be signed by you. As I stated above, this will avalanche until it prods into all walks of society. Doubt me? Take a look at the new policies of skype. As it stands, if you and your significant other are separated by distance, and want to engage in watching each other masturbate, or even talking naughty to each other using their service, than you will be banned. Isn't that lovely? This will eventually broach into your life, so it is in your interests to act preemptively.

Fetlife has recently apprised members of their stance in relation to the proposed law, and have decided upon the action of banning findom activities from their website. It is their right to take this action, but what they are purposely overlooking, is that findom is NOT about sex. It never was, and those that make it so, are taking fate into their own hands, but regardless, there is so much hatred for findom on the site to begin with, that it is not surprising to me that they would ban it. How many of you actually thought that findom was about paying for sex? 

Having said all of that, I want to shine light upon my own practices, so that no grey area can be slid into. 

I do not offer or engage in ANY sex acts with the submissives that serve me. Now this is definitely separate from the lifestyle submissive who serves me, and has served me for 13 years. He is exempt, and NO I am not taking on any other lifestyle submissives, only financial servants. Is that crystal clear?

I am a law abiding citizen of the US, which means that NO I will not 

1)Nude facesit with my pay pups
2)Engage in oral or anal, nor vaginal(with my female pay pups) sex with my pay pups
3)Engage in sounding, catheterization, or any activity which involves me touching a pay pups penis or vagina

The state of Kansas defines sex acts for money as prostitution, which is illegal, and I will not place myself in jeopardy for any male's desire to get off, so do not come to me with that type of expectation. Just know that your tribute freely given to me is a gift, and not payment for sexual services, else it is you scamming yourself. I will never provide sexual service for payment.

That is all for today, back to the regular pervy programming :)

 

Drama Queen Dilemma

Welcome to my world, where Goddess Sydney rules with an iron fist of domination :)

Do any of you have twitter, or any other social media accounts? I imagine that you do, because in this day and age, everyone is listed somewhere.  A rather inane question than, is it not? I promise that I will get to the point in a minute!

When you scroll through your feed or TL do you ever roll your eyes, and cringe? I do this each and every single day. Why? The number 1 reason is dick pics, number 2 is asshole pics, number 3 is drama drama drama. 

For the purposes of this post, I am going to concentrate my thoughts upon number 3, and why it is detrimental. 

Drama kills progress and reputations, yet you see peeps engaging in it left and right. Both females and males engage in it on social media. What is the purpose behind it though?

Engaging and initiating drama is almost like holding up a sign saying 

While it may bring attention to you, I highly doubt that it will be the type you sought. Human beings are naturally drawn to the dramatic, but the majority will avoid it like the plague, especially when it comes to fetish. To some though, any attention is better than no attention, but they would be wrong. Negative attention will deter people from trusting you enough to play with. That is not a good thing. You seriously do not want to be known as the resident shit starter.  

Let's take a peek at why any male in the fetish scene would go around stirring the pot.

1)He gets off on the catfights
2)He believes that he will come out smelling like a victim that peeps will rally behind
3)Sympathy is the only way he can get attention, cause he is broke or refuses to pay tribute

Now for the female reasoning

1)The scene is over saturated with females, so they want to get their brand out in the public eye
2)They simply enjoy starting shit
3)They are jealous of the success of others, so they want to put a contender in the shade

Regardless of female or male, you are barreling down a slippery slope if drama is your primary game plan for conquering the fetish scene. Take my advice, and just say NO to it. 

For the Ladies, build your brand the old tried and true fashioned way. Sweat, blood, and tears baby. It works!

For the gents, it ain't cool to pit females against each other, and your broke/cheap ass will be put down for the count, cause patching a ripped rep is almost impossible.

Blessed day all, and may the drama not be with you!

You seriously do not want to be known as the resident shit starter. 

The shame game

One of the things Ladies will find running rampant in the fetish scene is the shame game. The shame game consists of tried and true techniques employed to shame you into providing for the wants of the one playing you. You should ask yourself these two questions when you take note of the game one is playing. Are you an instrument? Do you want to be played?

How to recognize the game,oh and I care not to hear the insipid dialogue regarding not all males do this, since I am generalizing here.

"I have been burned in the past, so I want to take the time to see if we connect before I tribute". Egads why is this line still gaining traction?? This is a clear cut attempt to use women for free gratification. If someone really wanted to get to know you, they would be all over your social media sites feeling you out, and not come to you til after they have been able to gauge whether they are a good fit for your domination style. They would then come into your inbox with tribute already sent. That is what a decent male does.

"If you really loved dominating males, you would do it for free". Wow gotta love the logic in that statement. Of course we have all heard the saying "do a job you love, never work a day in your life", but even that saying would not ring true if there were no tangible benefits to performing said job. The saddest part of this ploy is that you will see even lifestyle Dominas spouting it. Yet I ask you this, how would those same lifestyle women react if said male never once purchased them a gift, and expected said woman to supply all of the equipment used to dominate them? Would they then feel the same? I highly doubt it. The males who engage in this tactic are relaying distinctly that they have zero appreciation for a woman's time and effort. They are selfish slug entitled misogynists, so wrapped up in themselves that they could not care less about anything that does not pertain to their wants.

"Only whores charge for sexwork"..and yes FinDom is considered sexwork. This attempt is set to make you feel degraded due to the negative connotations surrounding the word whore. Many males denote a whore as the lowest form of being, therefore they toss this out to shame you into doing what you do for free, atleast with them. If the word did not have such negativity associated with it, than this ploy would fizzle out. I say Fuck that! You decide the value of your time, and the worth of your association, not some shithead male. Own that your time is precious, and should not be wasted upon anyone that does not value it! Make them pay for everything they receive from you, regardless if it is conversation, cam time, tasks, clips etc...

"I just want to be your friend" Now this one is really a trickster. You should feel bad for even considering charging a male who just wants to be your friend! He just wants to be there for you, and listen to your problems with tributing males. Oh yes tell him all about your sessions, about how you dominate males. There is no way that he is leeching off of your experiences with his dick in hand, ya right. Seriously here, the males who come to you claiming that they want to be your friend are the worst possible friend you could take on. They are out to use you, and that is NOT ok. They are simply taking up space and time that could be spent with someone who will benefit your life in a lasting manner, so kick that user to the curb before he hooks claws into you.

"You are too (old,fat,ugly,stupid) to be a FinDomme" This type is a real piece of work. Their intent is to absolutely demoralize you into getting their way. They hit hard at the most sensitive spots for most women. Unless you possess a super thick impenetrable skin shell, than these insults are going to sting, especially if you are receiving them on the daily. These tactics are meant to break you down, to make you feel undesirable, and unwanted, therefore you will be appreciative when any male wants to spend time with you. This is all BS! Do not, I repeat, do not fall for this. Knowing your worth is the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. Love yourself, preconceived flaws and all. Recognize that you are more than what is visible to the human eye, and never allow any male to shake the confidence you have in yourself, cause anyone that does not value you for you, is not worth a single thought!

"Such and such only charges X " Ya we have all heard this one. This one is called the haggler. He wants to shame you into devaluing your time. Most times Mistress X does not even exist, and even if she did, it is not your place to lower your standards just because someone else does not see their true worth. Stand strong, and advise this type to run back to  Mistress X than.

And that folks is all I have time for today..yup I gotta life to get back to, and bois begging to better it with financial sacrifice :)

FinDom Sacrifice

I realize that I speak, post, and tweet a ton about sacrifice. Why is that though? Could it be that many of you simply do not get it?

The meaning of sacrifice to me is more than a sexy trigger word. It is real, it is tangible. Can you honestly state that you know what sacrifice is, and that you intend to engage in it? I do not believe that you can.

Sacrifice is not about offering up your flesh for the crop, or shoving a carrot up your backside. Those are activities that you want to engage in, therefore they are NOT a sacrifice. That is not you doing for me. That is you doing for you. Do you see that?

Sacrifice has meaning, and offers consequences which extend beyond online. It touches your life even after you log off, and get up to stretch your legs. It affects your psyche. It alters your outlook on the hierarchy of what matters most in your life.

If sacrifice has no meaning, than it means nothing. When I relay to males that I will accept nothing less than willing sacrifice, I mean it. I want what they do for me to remain in their minds, and to color their future actions. I want them to realize that they have been living a life of selfishness, which is detrimental to their growth as a submissive. You cannot be a submissive worthy of kneeling at a woman's feet if you are not willing to sacrifice for her.

Sacrifice is why I consider FinDom the most profound fetish which I engage in. Sacrificing financially has far reaching consequences. It affects your daily life. It forces you to recognize that your material wants are negligent in the face of my wants. It brings to light the true meaning of serving an agenda outside of your own. Sacrificial tribute is a reflection of your intent to sacrifice outside of selfish desires.

To me, FinDom is a mirror for submissives. It reflects either an ugly self-gratification seeking soul, or one that truly burns with the goodness to give and sacrifice for something greater than themselves.

So the next time you see or hear me saying "Sacrifice for Sydney", you will know exactly what I mean by it.

Bow at the feet of your Deity

No sacrifice is too great for your Deity