Am I really a submissive male?

What makes you a submissive? This is a question I pose with regularity to those who approach me wanting to serve. I tend to get responses which run the gamut of mundane all the way to the ridiculous. Do you know what makes you a submissive? Most likely you really aren't even submissive at all. Shocking eh? 

Here are some things that many will tout as their claim to submission.

1)Masturbating
People across the poles masturbate. It isn't submissive, or even kinky.

2)I like to watch people fuck
There is an entire booming industry which supplies folks with visual media featuring people fucking, and I do mean a booming industry, which means that tons of individuals are purchasing this material, so watching people fuck is not even edgy in the least, nor is it submissive. You may come back with "but I watch femdom porn, so I must be submissive", sorry sam, but watching is not being submissive.

3)I like to eat pussy
People have been eating pussy since the dawn of time son, and will be til the end of time. It isn't submissive or even taboo. It is natural, and only submissive when it is something that is not done in order to facilitate your own pleasure. 

4)I like to eat ass
Ok this one remains a bit out there, but I have seen more and more people vocalizing their desire to engage in it, but again, if you are doing it just to gratify yourself, well than, it isn't submissive.

5)I like to suck cock
Yup, right along with roughly a quarter of the world's population. By now you should be getting the gist of why this does not make you a submissive. You doing it because you want to does not qualify you for the submissive label.

The point I am trying to convey is that, it is not an action that makes a submissive. It is the intent behind the action. Does that make sense to you?

Let's run a scenario here. Ok, sam is a heterosexual male whose pain threshold is quite low. Now sam comes to serve a dominant woman who wants him to suck a cock while she paddles his ass bloody. Naturally a heterosexual male with low pain tolerance would say hell to the NO, but sam doesn't. sam wants to please his dominant, so he does exactly what she required of him, even though he does not take pleasure in the activities, but rather his pleasure comes from pleasing his dominant. Do you see the difference now?

If the driving purpose of you serving, is to get yourself off, and feed your desires, well than you are simply a selfish male, and that is far more common than a submissive male. You are not alone. In fact you are just another dick in the sea of selfish dicks. You are not unique, and in no way special. You are the least sought out in the pool of males in the fetish scene, even if you do have deep pockets. You are redundant and irrelevant, except for your dollars, and that is the only thing that will keep females coming back to play with you, so I suggest that you make that cash rain down upon their heads if you want to be invited to the party.

Genuine submissives on the other hand are rare gems. They are wired to sacrifice and submit. They do not haggle, bargain, or look for ways to subvert submission. They give their all in the hope of pleasing. They have evolved to the point where they only seek to serve. They serve in any manner requested or expected of them, and utter no complaints about it.

So you tell me, are you submissive or just a selfish shit?

Smoke in the wind

Welcome to those that brave the gauntlet of choppy findom seas to reach my Fempire :)

I enjoyed a lovely disconnected weekend! For the past couple of months, I have been getting away from my electronics on the weekends, so that I can reconnect with simply living my life unencumbered from the distractions of the internet. It is absolutely glorious! I opened up my mind, and drove up to KC to visit the Truman Library. It was awesome by the way.

I have gained so much clarity from the disconnect experience. I used to believe that I had to be online all of the time in order to be relevant in the findom world, but ya know what...relevance is a matter of perspective. I never aimed to be the darling of findom, or the brightest star, or even the most financially successful. My goal has always been to just be me, and that me is not glued to the net. 

I do not want to sell a million clips, or reach a million followers, or listen to a million sycophants falsely proclaim their unwavering devotion. My aim is much more singular in nature. I seek out, and embrace only those that honestly desire to be of use to me...not for a moment, or the space of time it takes to jack off. I am referring to those rare jewels who really do want to enrich my life, and it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out the difference between the 2 types of males who inhabit the findom scene. What are the 2 types you ask..simple 1)Those who want from you 2)Those who want for you. Can you guess which type I desire as much as I would desire to drink curdled milk? Bet ya know :)

One of the other tidbits I have seen through opened eyes, is the sheer shallowness of the male mindset online. I can take one look at a female online, and know how well she is going to be received. How is that possible? It comes from constantly watching how males interact with women, who they choose to speak to, follow, and tribute. I have no doubt that others can see it as plain as day as well. It is not a guarded secret my friend. It simply is what it has always been, and always will be, and to be honest, I weary of those inane games. I have no desire to try to play at being something I am not.

Many have doubted me when I stated clearly that I am not here to make cocks cum, or that I do not find it complimentary when males reduce me down to my sex. I am not present in this lifetime for males. It could not be more clear. I am not all about making males feel special, worthy, relevant, or even wanted. I do not need to, and I seriously could not care less.

While on the subject of why I am not in existence, I am definitely not a trained therapist, so please, if you have mental health issues, seek a professional, and no I do not mean a dominatrix. In order to be successful in your submission, you must be healthy in mind. You need to have your shit together in order to serve. That is the truth. Submission will not cure you of mental health issues. It will not make all of your ills vanish. It may mask your problems for a short time, but it is not a cure, so if your heart is set on serving, get yourself set first. 

So, unless you are serious about being an asset to me, I will be as evasive as smoke in the wind my friend.

I look forward to hearing from those of you who are prepared to dedicate your existence towards my happiness..to the rest I say, you have ceased to exist in my Fempire.

Submissives begging

Pretty pretty please with a cherry on top. Cute,but ineffective begging,unless you are begging like this pup is :)

I love when submissives debase themselves with begging. Cruel,perhaps,but definitely effective for teaching a submissive their proper place at my feet,and in my world. In my dominion,a submissive is less. Less as in beneath,below,and inferior to me. Therefore they are reduced to begging. Begging for 1)My attention 2)My time 3)to please me 4)to be of use 5)to orgasm 6)to serve me. I just fucking love it! I adore dragging out permission. I luxuriate in making them suffer in wait for my decision.

Now of course in some instances begging will be in vain,or even piss me off. When is it not going to tickle my fancy 1)when there is no financial sacrifice involved 2)when I have reached the point where I am done with you 3)when your only purpose for begging is to gain something selfish from me 3)when I have already said no...when I say no,I mean it.

It does not matter if you identify as male or female as a prospective servant of mine. You will still be required to beg at some point...just because I like it,and if I enjoy it,than you should be all for it. Get creative with it if you want to impress me. Beg in a poetic manner. Don't just set there typing out please please please...well unless you are begging me to hurt you ;) Yes yes yes I will definitely enjoy your pain and suffering for me.

Being a sadist is delicious,so remember boys,and girls BEG BEG BEG!

Last place finish

Coming at me like a race car with the green light is not going to get you across the finish line fast or even first.

On the daily I have males popping into my inbox with the fetish switch flipped on full power. This is a losing proposition for you. No woman let alone a Domme wants to be treated like a vending machine that is ready to spit out your selection when you slip a quarter in.

I realize that it is really easy to get all caught up in the fantasies playing out in your head(yup all of that porn you watched has poisoned your brain),but you gotta yell CUT when you are creeping into my inbox(no not literally yelling cut out loud either lol). What I am saying is that just like you,I am a human being. Yes I am a dominant human being,which means that to get anywhere with me,you are going to have to put down the pukestick,and treat me like a human being. I am not one dimensional. I am not a blow up betty sex doll. I am a living being who takes insult when I feel like someone is trying to use me for their own means of gratification without my consent. Is that comprehensible to you?

I know that males adore being sexually objectified,but I am NOT male,so this is definitely not a winning strategy with me. Come at me in a decent manner,with manners. Interact with me with respect. That same respect that you would accord to any other unknown woman you happened upon. Maybe you do not know how to do so,and that is very possibly the reason that you are struggling to receive any type of positive reaction from females. You will not succeed by treating women like inanimate objects created to satisfy your sexual desires. This is wholly unrealistic. Society may have taught you that it is ok to use women's bodies like tissues,or to speak to them as if they are second class citizens..and just maybe your parents did not school you to treat women with respect,but I am here to highlight the error of your ways.

If you want to get anywhere with a woman,let alone a Domme you are going to have to accept that your brain needs rewiring. Of course it will not be easy,but if you truly want to submit to me,than you are going to have to put in the time and effort,til such time as you are able and willing to come before me a changed male. A male who recognizes that his wants do NOT supersede mine,and that allowing your dick to do your talking will find you talking to yourself alone. Capiche?

Most pleasing mindset of submission

This is the mindset which is most pleasing to me. If you crave my divine presence in your life,than it would behoove you to adopt it as your own.

"Being your slave, what should I do but tend
Upon the hours and times of your desire?
I have no precious time at all to spend,
Nor services to do, till you require.
Nor dare I chide the world-without-end hour
Whilst I, my sovereign, watch the clock for you,
Nor think the bitterness of absence sour
When you have bid your servant once adieu;
Nor dare I question with my jealous thought
Where you may be, or your affairs suppose,
But, like a sad slave, stay and think of nought
Save, where you are how happy you make those.
   So true a fool is love that in your will,
   Though you do any thing, he thinks no ill."

Focus on your goal

Focus is a key element to success. Focus aids you in achieving your goals, and lack of it is sure to send you in a downward spiral. This pertains to all areas of life, even Findom. It is even applicable on both sides of the fence (Domme&submissive).

You will never reach and or sate your desires if you lose focus. Whether intentional or not, we all set goals in our lives, and formulate an agenda to meet those goals. It is not required that we obliterate every other factor of our lives to get there, but a purpose driven life is more likely to yield the results we crave.

Say for example that you want to be the very best possible submissive that you possibly can be for your Domme, than you should keep that thought uppermost in your mind, and find ways to apply it in every aspect of your life. That includes the "vanilla" realm of your life as well.

As a submissive you should be working hard at your place of employment in order to climb the ladder, and earn more revenue for your FinDomme. You can take classes to further your education in your chosen field, which just might earn you the promotion you seek, thereby allowing you to enrich her life further. In this place of employment as well, you can honor your chosen Lady by displaying respect for women, by not engaging in the "good ole boys" mentality. Be that one male who doesn't catcall women, or talk about them lewdly openly or on the down low. Do not sexualize the women you see, nor relegate them to one dimensional beings whose only purpose is satiation of male desires. Stand out among your peers by opening doors for women in and out of the workplace. Aid women in their advancements. Make it known that you are an advocate for women, and that your advocacy is not a weakness, but a strength. Donate to women's causes. Give your patronage to female owned businesses whenever possible. Tip your waitress atleast 20%. Intentionally look for ways to advance awareness of how patriarchy is nothing more than abuse of women. These are all ways to grow in your submission towards the feminine.

On the flip side Dommes who keep their eyes and actions trained towards the finish line are more likely to reach it eventually. Part of this is not allowing the actions of others to woo you from your path. It is so easy to get discouraged when you see so many others doing the things you want to do, getting the tributes you yourself wish to receive, receiving the accolades and acknowledgement that you believe you deserve, but here is the thing! You will never reach your desired destination if your eyes are focused upon others. You must keep your focus on you, on your goals, and how best to achieve them. This may mean going out of your comfort zone a bit. Now I am not advocating that you change, or do anything that just does not fit in with who you are as a dominant woman, but I am relaying that you cannot gauge your success by the standards of others. Focusing and obsessing on how well others in your field are doing will only distract you, and in some instances even depress you. To discourage this from happening, you could spend your excess time reading, researching, and furthering your knowledge of fetishes, and how best to bring males to their knees before you. After all what woman would not like to have a harem of males bowing before them lol :) Seriously though, seek out ways to propel yourself forward, so long as it is not upon the backs of other females, go for it. Do not be afraid to be ruthless in your desire to succeed. Take chances, and if they fail, get the hell up and get back on that horse. Never allow your worth or chances of succeeding to be set by outside forces. Be you, do you, and in time success will be your bitch!

A kind Dominatrix

When people hear the word Dominatrix,they automatically associate it with leather,latex,a whip,and a badass attitude. This is a common misconception. I assure you that this is definitely not how I am dressed sitting here typing this post up. In fact no one would ever gain that impression from seeing me out on the street in everyday life,nor would they make that connection from speaking with me. I do not walk around with RBF,or shout orders at those in contact with me. In fact I make a point of not raising my voice in anger ever. Ironically I become very soft of voice when I am vexed. Maybe that is because I am biting my tongue ferociously lol.

My posts,and speech online do tend to come across as aggressive and authoritarian. I have never denied that I am blunt in my approach,but it is always tempered in honesty. I would rather dent an ego than tell a lie. If a male is not remotely suitable in personality,or compatibility towards serving me,than I will simply make it known. Not that I am cruel in relaying the information,it just is truth,so why would I want to waste my time,or his by dragging it out? That would make absolutely no sense at all. In fact that would be quite unkind in my eyes to convey hope where there is none. I have had a great many males approach me with the offer of friendship extended,but once again I come across as an uber bitch when I politely decline,not because of the words I say,but because no one likes being told no. I can honestly state that I am not going to become best buddies or friends for life with the males I encounter online. I have a plethora of real time friends who meet my needs for camaraderie,so this is definitely not something I seek out online.

What I do aspire to achieve from my online explorations is to form lasting connections with those that see and feel the correctness of serving me. These relationships may indeed lead to real time interactions at some point,but I must always be clear in saying that none of these relationships will lead to the altar,or a meeting of parents,or a joining of the flesh. Is it not kind to be real about my expectations,and exactly what you can count on with me?

You can count on me to never scream at you,to not lie to you,to not have hidden agendas,to never perform actions which will leave you irreparably harmed,to display respect when respect is given. These are my promises. What I will not promise is to coddle your ego,or stroke any sense of entitlement you may harbor with untruths. Is this being unkind?

Whilst I will not vow undying friendship for you,I will share that I do come to care for those that serve me,just not in a sexual or romantic manner. I grow fond of those males who have proven their value to me,so yes it is true that I will not dub you my bff,I will call you my own if you earn it.

How much kinder do I need to be?

Looking for a "real" Domme

This is one of the most common and problematic lines I hear from males in the fetish scene. Real is a subjective term in this instance,for what they mean is not based upon the actual definition of the word real. It is employed to relay their own personal definition rather than what appears in the dictionary. This is where confusion tends to rear it's head. The term real can mean many different things,to many different people,but I will endeavor to provide a bit of insight into what it most likely means when a male approaches a FinDomme stating that he is seeking a "real" Domme.

1)A real Domme does not charge for her time and attention. She happily caters to the wants of selfish males sans any regard for her own desires. Now let's clear up a point here,the type of female sought here is not a Domme. It may fall in line with what a service providers offer(catering to male wants),but her services are not free,so it cannot be that. Could it be a sugar baby he is looking for,cause she will most likely care about what he wants,but oops she does not care for free. Hmm this actually makes me think that what is sought is a submissive female,for that is the only female who is in the fetish to serve a male wants for free while negating her own.

2)A real Domme is dressed in leather,and coiffed to perfection every moment of the day,with a whip in hand.
Yup now that is a fantasy. Dommes are people too. They have lives and loved ones of their own,and they are definitely not waiting around all day online for males to just appear and give meaning to their existence.

3)A real Domme gets naked for the viewing pleasure of those that serve them. Ok this one kinda peeves me. I realize that some females do session nude,or gift males with flagrante photos,but that is not inclusive to all. I have never once played with a male where my tits and bits were visibly bare and on display,nor do I send out peeks of them as a "good boy" reward,or as an enticement to come calling. I am not,and I repeat NOT bashing females that do,but this is not me,and I know for a fact that I am not alone in this decision.

4)A real Domme sells clips and offers cam sessions. This one denotes a lack of intelligence. Selling clips is a service. It is a business,just as selling sessions is an aspect of business,and not all Dommes treat findom as a business. The fact that one doesn't,does not mean that she is not a "real Domme". It just means that she is not a business woman. Oh and bois,buying clips or sessions does not make you a "real submissive" either. It makes you a customer.

5)A "real Domme" wants to date and or marry a submissive male. This one makes me laugh. Women have types that they are attracted to,just like in the "real" world. Some do date submissives,and that is ok,cause it is their choice,but not all do. Do not make an ass of yourself assuming that all Dommes are alike,or declaring them fake because they are attracted to non-submissive males.

6)A "real Domme" is loud and abrasive in speech. Where did this fallacy evolve from? A bully bullies,yells and is outright aggressive. This is not a needed behavior for Dommes. If one needs to yell to get their way,than I would not consider them dominant at all.

There are so many more examples,but MzSydney only has so much free time in her day to relay wisdom. The point I want most acknowledged from this post,is that one must recognize that the term "real" may not mean what you think it means when someone else employs it,so when in doubt,just ask. One simple question can save tons of time.

alpha male facade

Being a Female Supremacist is not equatable with misandry. What it does mean in my book,is that I tolerate no male attempting to assert dominance over me,nor do I indulge the male ego by allowing males in my presence to shroud themselves falsely in "alpha" garb. All males are beta before me. Whether they be a CEO,or a janitor..they are beta. Crudely put,if it has a dick,it is inferior in my eyes,and I will not stand for pathetic displays of supposed patriarchal power.

To serve me is to acknowledge your inferiority before women. You are a creature led by his weakness,and yes in my eyes,your dick makes you weak. Your dick is always your demise in any situation with a woman,for it is a simple minded tool..just like you in the presence of a woman. You were not created to lead women..you were made to follow women..to be ruled by them,which leaves no room for erroneous male egos,so for all of you males touting that you are alpha,you are laughable. There is NO such thing as an alpha male..it is an urban legend. Get that through your head,and stop playing at being tarzan in the hopes that you can get pussy that way.

This is not to state that you as a male are to be a doormat,nor that you are without intellect..but it is to assert that you are thought of as unequivocally lesser. Your wants are not a concern,and only your basic needs are of any import..oh and by the way,your needs are simple(food,shelter,air,water)so leave off trying to insert love or sex into that list. Your dick,and it's desires are null and void when it comes to kneeling at my feet. Your sex ceases to exist once you become mine..for I have zero use in regards to your erections or lack thereof.

You are regarded as a tool,and for a tool to be useful,it must be of use. This means that your purpose is whatever I decree it to be. My will and my way. This includes being used financially. If I cannot take pleasure from the fruits of your labor,than you are not of value in my estimation. I care not if your skills number in the hundreds if you will not satisfy my wants in the way of my selection.

Now you selfish and self satiating agenda driven males can run along,for you and I shall not mesh. My acceptance comes only of those that are intelligent enough to recognize their place as intended in a woman's world,which is at her feet begging to be of use with a full and open wallet for her use. Nothing less will be allowed.

Handfasting

Handfasting is a term employed to describe a matrimonial ceremony..but for this moment in time I am using it in place of hand holding,because to be honest,a long term D's relationship is comparable to a vanilla marriage. With your D's partner(for my post,partner is not interchangeable with the term spouse) you share more of yourself(those secrets you hide from the ordinary world)than you would within the usual type of matrimonial relationship. It is my opinion that a D's bond is more profound and enduring than the words upon a piece of legal paper. It is forged with honesty,and shared desires(nope not alluding to carnal ones)rather I am speaking as to the shared desire for the happiness of one's dominant. Sharing the "darkest" aspects of yourself with another being requires trust which lacks in many relationships outside of the fetish realm. Let's be frank,not many ordinary folks are going to get that a servant wants and needs to subjugate themselves to another human being,outside of a family member,so this is something which is hidden from public consumption.

I am digressing a bit :) the object lesson I intend to convey is that while it is expected for the submissive to look to their dominant to lead them,to ensure that they remain along the desired path...it is not and should not be the expectation for a submissive to depend upon a dominant to hold their hand constantly in the proverbial nor physical sense. A submissive is not a doormat,and should have enough common sense to live their life if necessary sans constant dictation. When one cannot depend upon themselves to make a single solitary decision in their life without express consent,than they in essence have become a mere robot,a tool to the will of any and all who hold stronger opinion,and whilst this may be expected within a TPE,it brings to my mind the definition of a slave,not a submissive. For some reason unknown to me,well perhaps it is known to me lol...many are interchanging the two descriptors. A submissive is not a slave,and a slave is submissive,but not a submissive. Does that make sense?

If you my readers will recall,I have harped upon many occasions about the need for a male to work hard for the one they serve. It regards to that statement I have seen males putting forth that dominants should work just as hard for their servant. Well,I do agree that a dominant should indeed put forth effort in training those beneath them,but I do not agree that dominants must work just as hard and diligently as their submissives or slaves. It is the duty of a servant to serve. They are to serve and sate the wants and needs of the one who holds their leash(figuratively or in actuality). It is the dominants responsibility to relay their desires to the servant yes,but once told,it should not require repetitive announcements,nor for force of compliance to be applied. If a servant "must" be forced,than one must question whether the servant truly wishes to serve,or if they are instead playing at having their own personal wants satisfied. This is why I am not into forced activity of any kind,and yes that includes tributing. If I were operating under the expectation that I should hold the whip in hand whilst walking a servant through each and every act of service,than I seriously do not wish to undertake such a journey. Servants that are able to make logical choices upon their own,which enhance the quality of my life,are treasures,whilst those that demand from me a constant presence to accomplish the smallest of details,are a burden. Sorry not sorry,but that is my way of thinking.

I simply do not want to expend my energy directing 24/7 of a servants life. A servant is an extension of their owner,but they should not be an energy leech. Holding one's hand continuously is droll and truthfully it is more effort than a dominant should have to exert once expectations and requirements have been shared. If one cannot exist in daily life without a dominant hand spelling out each and every move,than are they really living?

Basically it boils down to this,Do not expect your dominant to hold your hand through each decision you ever make. That is placing way too much responsibility upon them. Instead let their wishes,and way of thinking lead the way. For example if you know that your dominant would never condone lying,do not tell lies. If your dominant has told you that they like you to speak a certain way,or behave in a specific manner,than make sure you are compliant at all times. No need to ask,for her words should be on playback within your mind,and that gents, is your beacon. Always take note of what she likes,and what she dislikes,this way you will not have to drain her patience or tolerance for stupidity,and for fucks sake bois,do NOT ask,can I tribute? Just do it(unless your dominant requires that you beg first :)

Petulance is a pestilence

Okies gents take a seat!

Some of you may not know,but I am rarely logged into skype(not my preferred method of communication)...but when I do announce that I am on,many of you make me regret the decision,which in turn leads me to log on less and less.

When I state that I am on skype,this is not an invitation to try to call me,or send me dick pics,nor to whine and beg for a session(I do not so sessions). The calling me thing annoys me,the dick pics bore me,and the begging for a session just plain out pisses me off(nope that action won't get you a free go at degradation or blasting from me either..I know how to employ the block feature quite well).

Making myself available in such a manner is an honor for those allowed into my presence,not an opportunity for you to wank spank while you one handedly type out your perverse fantasies to me. I do not play that game,and honestly I am unsure of why males even bother trying that tactic with me,seeing as I am not known for tolerating BS.

I have always been upfront about my expectations of behavior from males contacting me. Manners are not antiquated,they are a requisite if you want to serve me.

What I am saying,is that if you are popping up into my box,then be a gentleman,which means bring a gift(just like you should if you are showing up on a Lady's doorstep)and your A+ behavior. Ask politely if you may speak with me,and do not attempt to add me without my express consent. Wait for me to respond to your message before you type out anything once more. Do not post up "are you there Goddess". I will get to you in my time,not on your schedule,and if you have not sent a tribute,than odds are that I will not react to your message at all,so keep that in mind.

I realize that in the findom realm males have become quite spoiled in attention and courted as if they are the prize at the bottom of a cracker jack box,but that is not how I work. I am not present in order to fulfill your fantasies,nor do I care if you are a member of the bilderberg group,cause money does not rule my actions,nor reactions. I take bdsm seriously,and if you are just looking for some fun,or a JOI session,you are barking up the wrong tree.

If however you are one of the ever dwindling few who actually seek more than a jerk off session,approach correctly,and you may have a chance at fulfilling a submissives destiny.

Do not shit where you want to play

I have been horridly busy as of late with life,so pardon for my neglect of you readers.

One thing I would like to share today is a rather odd story of non-fiction.
A couple of months ago a male contacted me on CS..now at first he seemed fairly normal,but then after a few days the script flipped. Mind you this male had willingly sent tribute(no coercion required,not my style anyway),but then he went one day out of the blue,he sent me a message maligning my character,and person. Color me shocked at that point. Regardless of his lack of manners and decency,I did wish him well on his journey,and shoved the experience into the trash bin in my mind.

Fast forward to a couple of days ago,lo and behold a message shows up in my inbox asking how I progress. Needless to say,I was astounded at the sheer audacity this male possesses in thinking that I perhaps am plagued with amnesia or the like. Seriously like, WHAT THE HELL. Are males truly that lacking in intelligence? You tell me,if you went up to a stranger on the street and cussed them out for no obvious reason,would you then expect them to merrily wave hello,and call out "good morning" when you seen them a month later? If so,then you deserve a billy club to the head.

Of course I reminded this being of their derogatory comments relayed to me,and received absolutely no apology,not even a half ass excuse. At this time I am of the belief that he is seriously bat shit. It leads me to wonder just how many exactly like him orbit in the same sphere as me..scary is it not.

So,heads up for the rest of you,if you ever find yourself spewing hatred at me,DO NOT ever expect to come to my feet again for any reason. I bear no forgiveness nor mercy for such behavior.

No sale tag

Some of you boys are coming into the scene thinking that it is a buyers market. One where you can get anything you want,from anyone you want for rock bottom prices..sort of like a flea market. You let your fingers stroll down the aisle of vendors til you locate exactly the packaging you find most attractive,and begin to haggle with the seller,using the lines such as:so and so does JOI for $10,or Miss whatshername provides CEI and humiliation for $5. Aw boys boys boys,does this tactic yield success? If you say yes,than chalk yourself up as a LOSER,a cheap objectifier of women,and a being who disrespects women. This behavior makes it clear that you are a misogynist masquerading in a submissive's skin sack. Why else would you treat women in such a manner?

Submission may not come with a handbook,but surely any lackwit can recognize that to submit means to relinquish,and if all you are relieving yourself of is a load of cum,than you are not a submissive,nor are you serving anyone but your own selfish self. This is definitely not a feat to be proud of,in fact you should be ashamed of yourself. Why bother to come into the world of female domination if you are not prepared to be dominated? I know that females sell domination sessions catered to your base desires,and that you can purchase or even pirate tons of femdom clips. Hell you can find all the free "femdom" porn online to wear the skin off your dick and hand,so it is idiocy to venture into an arena where you truly are not at the top of the chain.

Femdom is not just a wank session,and whoever is feeding your tiny little organ with such nonsense should be caned severely. That ego you tote around like a favored trophy is useless here. That pus pocket in your pants is of no value either. Submission is not SEX,it is not about getting off,it is not about you getting what you want,or having things your way. Why is this so difficult to comprehend?

There is an entire scene which will play into your fantasies(find a cam site,or buy clips,and maybe find a seller of sessions),but do not,and I mean do not approach a woman like you are browsing the wares at a garage sale,cause not every woman's domination is for sale. I for one do not give a damn how much money you have(or the salary which exists in your head only) if you are not humble,and willing to submit to my will,and my way. Trying to buy my time is an insult,one which you will not be forgiven for. Tributes to me are a gift,and they guarantee you nothing. The only way to ensure that you get my notice is by pleasing me with your demeanor,your approach,and your wallet,so unless this is your intention,let's save each other time,and not start that which will bear no fruit.

Hello hello hello to all who worship at this temple :)

I have received so many messages asking where Goddess is,and why she has not answered emails lol
The answer is not complex. Goddess is not online 24/7,and she responds only to missives worthy of her notice,which means,if you are attempting to speak with me,but have not sent tribute,that you are more likely to catch the plague before you hear back from me. Cruel perhaps,but servitude is not always kind,nor am I.

Now for my good bois,I make myself available,for they have proven themselves devoted to my happiness,and you dear reader have not.

Anyways,on to other matters. I have been enjoying myself highly this beautiful spring season with day trips here and there,so if you want to catch my attention,you know the way :)

Getting under my feet

Note the title(getting under my feet),not getting on my nerves..2 distinctly differing tactics. The first unites you with nirvana,and the second is the highway to hell.

One would think that it is easy cheesy to get upon my good side,ya know with things like gifts and TRIBUTE,and yes those actions certainly help,yet they are not a guarantee penned in stone. What is 100% fact,is that if you do not contribute to my life financially,that you will not exist within it.

Yuppers I know it sounds so very awful and greedy that I expect the males who serve me to be an asset,rather than an ass :(..oh well get over it,or get going.

You see I am possessed of sufficient intelligence to realize how males make use of women,and refuse to play into that sack of shite situation. Things like shoving items anally,and sending me photos of yourself eating your own excrement out of a dog bowl are actions which you like,you enjoy,which get you off. Hmm seeing a pattern here...yes all things that are about you. Not once have I ever asked for penis pics,or to watch men masturbate *dirty little secret* (I do not even watch porn GASP!!)so anything that has to do with assholes or dicks bores me directly to the block button.

I do not want to sit around listening to what gets you hard,or off,nor do I care to aid you in getting off. Serving has absolutely nothing to do with you,and if you fail to grasp that fact,then all I can say for you is that you truly are a failure in a very bad way.

This is one of the ways that I differ from alot who I see saturating the scene..I DO NOT CARE ABOUT YOUR DICK! Wow that was totally liberating to get off my chest :) I see so much catering to penis for pennies,which saddens me...it truly does. It appears that males are being taught only to think of themselves,that their sense of entitlement is growing rather than dissipating :(

I fully understand that the findom scene has evolved into a service industry,where one can purchase JOI,or skype sessions where females watch and help males get their rocks off,and hey that is what it is,but it does not happen with me EVER. Not my taste,not my style,not my thing,and I refuse to own it.

Servitude and meaningful manners are what is expected to dwell upon the platters offered to me. I am not going to spend my time enriching your sex life,your libido,or your ego. All of those things mentioned must be relinquished before one ever kneels at my feet. Simple yes? I am not a game player..ie I am not the fun freaky fetish gal you get ahold of when you have an itch to be scratched. I am the WOMAN you reach out to when you have matured past the point of juvenile antics,and seek to get serious about serving. I am the one who expects the epitome of excellence from those who serve her.

I am not referring to a doormat,or an asskissing yes man(too many of those polluting the world). What I am talking about is a male who knows it is an honor to be of service,and is dedicated to it,not just for a stroke of the clock or cock,but for a lifetime. Someone who knows in their soul,that it is a privilege to crawl for me,and is willing and able to make that type of commitment.

That is not to say that I never enjoy the drive by one offs..so long as they are contained to an enrichment of my finances,and not a drain upon my valuable time..but even then,I do not offer sessions. To me a drive by is where tribute is sent,and not a word is expected in exchange. Of course I am mannered enough to say thank you,but only to those not trying to get something from me which I care not to give..ie no tit for tat baby.

So here goes...if you really want to be under my gloriously divine feet,follow these instructions.
1)Send a tribute via amazon gift cards.
2)After completion of step one,and only after that step should you send a message thanking me for the opportunity to enrich my life,and request an audience with myself.
3)Await contact from me. Do not under any circumstances keep messaging me over and beyond that first message..all you will gain from that is my animosity. Now you may not receive a response if you have insulted me with your offering..and yes boys size does matter in some instances,and in that case,you will note that I will not accept the tribute(yup I am just that way). Now I did not say that you had to empty the bank to get my attention,but let's be honest $5-$10 is just not going to make me scream out YES YES YES I need this CAB in my life.
4)When I do respond,you are expected to react in a pleasing time frame(hence not wait a few days). Manners are important to me.
5)Be polite when you interact with me,ALWAYS,and never take it for granted that you will be mine.

Are my instructions crystal? Okies then..make your very best first impression :)

Goddess of beauty to worship and serve

Saturday Mantra

My life is bettered by being of service to Goddess Sydney

Femdom is about women

Amusing thing happened to me.

I was interacting with a male who apparently believed that Dommes exist to fulfill the fantasies of males. This came as a shock to me(actually I laughed at the notion). I am unaware of who is spreading this type of manure,but surely they are doing a disservice by doing so. In fact they are ruining the chances of serving for males all over. Wake up boys,you are being brainwashed with a bucket of shit.

This mindset makes no sense. Think about it,what woman let alone a Domme seeks and accepts being treated like an inanimate object created to satiate the sexual desires of a man? That is not to say there are not some submissive females in the world who wouldn't love this treatment,but I am certainly not submissive to the wants of a male,nor would any dominant woman be.

You cannot come into the femdom arena with this mentality,else you will be on the chopping and blocking docket daily. Submission should never be based upon your penis,if so,then you are doing it wrong. Submitting to a woman is about her. Her will,her wants,her dreams,her desires. There is no room in this exchange for selfishness from you. Femdom is not the fiction you see in porn. You are wasting precious non-redeemable moments of time if you are walking around dick in hand expecting a Domme to cater to your penis.

This is not even me being cruel,this is about me being brutally honest with you. Males whine that they cannot read women's minds,and just do not know how to approach them..well here is a woman telling you that you MUST cease allowing your little head to rule your words and behavior when it comes to talking to a Domme. Keep your focus on her instead of upon yourself,and you just might stand a chance.

Feel free to thank me now :)

where is Sydney

Have you missed me?? I imagine that some of you have noticed  my appearances online this past week have been sporadic at best,and why do you think that is? Have I been ill,Noooooo
Did I fall off the face of the planet,heck nooooo Was I abducted by aliens lmao nooo Have I joined the peace corp nope Da Da Da Da...the reason I have not been online,is that you have provided no reason for me to be online.

My greatest resource,asset,and treasure is my time. I have found that I am not willing to invest it where I see a lack of return. Why would I not rather devote my efforts toward my charity work,or my profession,if I am not receiving my due appreciation for my time from any of you? Let's face it,my real time boy exerts more energy mowing my lawn,than any of you do towards making a favorable impression on me,and that is pathetic. My greatest realization as a mature adult was that life is not infinite,which means that I do not want to waste any of it,and if you as a self proclaimed submissive are not displaying to me that you are worthy of a single moment,then you will not be rewarded with it.

Now unless you are going to take the initiative and prove to me that you are worth being the recipient of my words,my wisdom,my training,then you are SOL,cause I am all out of gives a fuck. Oh and have a nice day :)

Apathy is no life

One of my personal philosophies that I live my life by is,a life lived with apathy is a pathetic life indeed.

Meaning that I live my life to the fullest,that I care about my life and how it effects others which connect with it,that I am passionate in all of my endeavors. I have since I can recollect been a being who gives 100% or 0. I do not half ass,I do not put forth the bare minimum of effort to achieve my goals,nor will I accept that type of mindset from any that I closely associate with(ie the subgents that serve me). I have no interest in those that simply settle..I crave the interactions of those that are driven to succeed,and yes that includes those that burn with a passion to please me,those that cannot tolerate the thought of their actions causing me a moment of distress,distaste,or disdain.

Serving me means more than a passing orgasm(fulfillment in life does not come from ejaculating). Serving is about prioritizing and organizing your life according to my calculations,my requirements,my expectations,and that cannot be achieved if your focus is on your genitals. Nothing of substance evolves from the superficial desires of a dick anyway..so there is no need to concern yourself with it any longer. Your focus and your purpose must undergo an ego and entitlement destruction before you can be of any use. You must be remade new,and that begins with your submission,your acceptance that you are a selfish human being in need of changing. Every change begins within a willing you. You must want to please more than you want anything for yourself. You must lay aside all notions of self,for that person will exist no longer,and take up a selfless stance. It is not easy to alter yourself in this way,but the reward far outweighs the work,for to walk the path of submission is the greatest honor given to a beta male.

Your days of living in apathy must cease. You have a reason to care,a being to invoke your passion for life. The confusion which plagues your existence will fade away,and the burden of decisions will no longer plague you,for you will live your life at the will of another. It will be her choices that shape you,that mold you,that train you to be the very best gent for her. No longer what you want,but all that she needs you to be. A simple life,but one which will elevate you from the pathetic self serving masses,into the enlightened realm of service,the journey which you were born to traverse.

Now is the time,and this is the hour to lay aside your erroneous suppositions as to what a man is,and pick up the mantle of a subgent. It is indeed the truth and the light.