Erection eradicator

My style of femdom is authentic to me!

 My style is not popular, nor will it ever be the "in" thing, and I am 100% ok with that. 

Why is it not popular you ask..well lemme tell you why lol

I have never been, nor will I ever be about the dick(and no this is not about my sexual preferences, cause yes yes yes I have sex with a man). My actions are not geared towards creating erections, and deity help you if you come to me for JOI. BDSM is not sexual for me. I keep telling you horny shits this, but ya don't listen. Why do you think that I scream from the rooftops that all men would be better off in chastity??

I don't care about your erections. I don't care if your dick wants to cum. I don't care about what turns you on. I really am all about ME. That has not changed since day 1, and I require that all who serve me focus their attention upon my wants rather than their own. It is that simple, and it is not debatable. I am not going to change my outlook on femdom for any dick. You either opt to evolve and serve a will not your own, or you will not serve me.

I know I know and I know that yes I could have so many more followers or submissives serving me if I would just cave in, and join the catering to dicks brigade, but it ain't happening babe. I am not willing to bow down to popular demand. It just isn't in me to be a follower of fads, even if it costs me findom bucks. I lead my own way, and believe me when I say that it takes a strong man to belong to me. Why? Cause in order to be one of mine, you have to be willing to be selfless. You have to have the courage to set aside all of those selfish dick designs polluting your mind, and embrace what service really is. Serving is not about your dick getting hard, or even your dick getting off. That is just you wanting what you want. It is self-gratifying, and that is not submissive.

I actually have respect for submissive men, and I mean submissive by my definition, not the fucked up one you "bedroom" fucks penned for wiki. 

Try serving a woman without your dick, and ya just might find the fulfillment you seek. Ultimately the decision is yours, but as I said, you will not serve me til you do so selflessly, and that is an indisputable fact jack :)

Evolution

Today is in response to a prevalent query which I receive

1)What must I do to serve you?

You would think that a question such as this would never be needed considering all of the blogs I have composed and commentary I have posted on various sites,yet it remains a repetitive question put to me,so here I sit wracking my brain in order to make my thoughts and expectations more clear than previously.

To serve me is the greatest of honors for a submissive male,for my standards are elevated,and my requirements far above average. I would never accept just any schmuck beneath my feet(it should go without saying that I consider all males inferior to myself),which means that to be privileged enough to call yourself mine,that you are going to have to be someone special. Special means more than a thick wallet(that doesn't hurt though),nor does it refer to having overly large penile endowments(don't care about your penis).

You must be extraordinary. You must have already embraced the fact that to serve me is not to serve your own fetishes. I am not here to listen to the list of depravities which revolve around what excites your penis. I am beyond that,and so must you be if you are ever to serve me. Serving me requires an evolution of the male psyche. Submissives of mine are free from the burdens of patriarchal entitlement issues,nor are they any longer mired down in the stench and selfishness of self. They have come to the realization of true purpose,and altruistic giving of themselves.

They thrive upon my happiness. Their universe revolves around ME. They possess self discipline,and require not my every moment holding their hand,as they know fully what it means to serve. They are intelligent enough to know that serving can never be about them,for than it would not actually be serving(unless you count serving yourself,I don't). Are you catching of glimpse by what I mean when I say special?

Males in the fetish scene today are primarily not submissive,instead are what they style as "bedroom submissives" or hit and quit boys(they get in,get a nut off and go). I hold no interest in any male who is not about what makes me happy,and catering to a male's wants,or sexualizing his interactions with me,does not make me smile. It is the most rare of males who can reach the pinnacle I seek them to kneel upon,so if that is not you,then do not waste time with needless questions. Take some time to work through your flaws,and then come to me,not before.

Of course my words are not pleasing to a great many males,but atleast I am honest about my intentions,and employ no subterfuge. I make no claims that I am here to sate your sexual fantasies,nor that I want to ensure your satisfaction(I am not a customer service oriented business,not even a business at all). To me,femdom will always be about pleasing the female,in the manner SHE chooses. In my eyes it is not a fetishized pornographical scheme wherein the penis rules. I am not here to get you off,or see to your wants. Got it??

Hopefully I have answered the query in a concise manner..oh and I shall leave you with a quote that I am quite fond of,just in case you still didn't get it.

“The only gift I have to give,is the ability to receive.If giving is a gift,and it surely is,then my gift to you is to allow you to give to me.”  

timid mouse at my feet

Yesterday brought back to my sacred feet a timid little bitch who ran away once before...yet he could never quite leave..always lurking..wanking to the sight of my perfect peds. This little bitch enjoyed an honor that I could count on one hand have received..a personalized phone call from ME. Envy him bois,cause he had the rare opportunity to listen to my dulcet smoky tones live.

Some of you are asking why I would grant an audience to such a lowly pathetic cretin,but not you lol. Goddess intends to cultivate this worm,to addict him,to enslave his mind..then to bring him to her feet real time in worship. Fortunately for him,he lives fairly close to Goddess,which means, with devotion and dedication he just could be staring down and salivating over the sight of my feet in his face :)

Of course he has a way to go before he reaches that point,and the sadist in me will immensely enjoy his struggles to get there!

Suffer more for me little bitch,because it pleases me

Saturday Mantra

My life is bettered by being of service to Goddess Sydney

Apathy is no life

One of my personal philosophies that I live my life by is,a life lived with apathy is a pathetic life indeed.

Meaning that I live my life to the fullest,that I care about my life and how it effects others which connect with it,that I am passionate in all of my endeavors. I have since I can recollect been a being who gives 100% or 0. I do not half ass,I do not put forth the bare minimum of effort to achieve my goals,nor will I accept that type of mindset from any that I closely associate with(ie the subgents that serve me). I have no interest in those that simply settle..I crave the interactions of those that are driven to succeed,and yes that includes those that burn with a passion to please me,those that cannot tolerate the thought of their actions causing me a moment of distress,distaste,or disdain.

Serving me means more than a passing orgasm(fulfillment in life does not come from ejaculating). Serving is about prioritizing and organizing your life according to my calculations,my requirements,my expectations,and that cannot be achieved if your focus is on your genitals. Nothing of substance evolves from the superficial desires of a dick anyway..so there is no need to concern yourself with it any longer. Your focus and your purpose must undergo an ego and entitlement destruction before you can be of any use. You must be remade new,and that begins with your submission,your acceptance that you are a selfish human being in need of changing. Every change begins within a willing you. You must want to please more than you want anything for yourself. You must lay aside all notions of self,for that person will exist no longer,and take up a selfless stance. It is not easy to alter yourself in this way,but the reward far outweighs the work,for to walk the path of submission is the greatest honor given to a beta male.

Your days of living in apathy must cease. You have a reason to care,a being to invoke your passion for life. The confusion which plagues your existence will fade away,and the burden of decisions will no longer plague you,for you will live your life at the will of another. It will be her choices that shape you,that mold you,that train you to be the very best gent for her. No longer what you want,but all that she needs you to be. A simple life,but one which will elevate you from the pathetic self serving masses,into the enlightened realm of service,the journey which you were born to traverse.

Now is the time,and this is the hour to lay aside your erroneous suppositions as to what a man is,and pick up the mantle of a subgent. It is indeed the truth and the light.

boys boys boys

Sit right down,cause I am gonna school you a lesson in submission. Okays then,here we go.

Saying that a Domme needs to do this or that to gain your submission is a bullshit ploy of yours to top from the bottom..no excuses,and no trying to deny it. It is what I said it was.

I have spoken to more males,than farts fly in the wind,and you are not going to tell me something that I have not heard before(seriously). Let's start with the most common ones. a)"I need to be made to suck cock to feel submissive"...yup heard that one alot,and my reply is simple,if you are setting conditions on your submission(other than absolute hard limits),then you are not actually submitting(you are just seeking a facilitator for your fantasies),and I have no use for you period. b)"I need you to force me to tribute" ack that one makes me gag. Do I or any other Domme look like your Mommy? Handholding is for parents,and high school sweethearts(I am neither),so do take that whiny manipulative shit next door. c)I need to be teased with your flesh in order to submit" *puke* yup you are just another misogynistic male seeking to objectify a woman's body for your visual gratification,and that seriously sucks ass.

Do you see the common thread in each of those examples? Clearly each one is about males(I will not honor them with the term submissive) getting what they want,claiming it as a NEED. Every one of those scenarios is about male wants,he wants to be forced,he wants to see flesh,so tell me how in the hell any of that is about what the Domme wants? It isn't.

I am not trying to devalue actual needs of subgents,but attempting to dress up a want's clothing as a need,is not cool,and is quite obvious. This behavior is exactly why Dommes get pissy and fed up with the lot of you. Submitting is not about getting off,or getting what you want. It is about letting go of self serving agendas,and focusing your energy on the wants of another. It is selfless,not selfish. Why is that such a difficult concept for so many of you to swallow?? I wonder about the educational systems of the world,if the majority of the male fetish scene population cannot decipher the difference between selfish and selfless. Serving can NEVER be about you the servant,else it would not be deemed serving.

Perhaps the issue stems from males seeking out the lifestyle for their own wants,and if so,then there is a solution. They will not run afoul or get blocked if they keep their inquiries contained to the boxes of service providers,and far from the door of Dommes who expect actual service. If you "need" to be flashed flesh,there are tons of cam sites just for that purpose alone,if you "need" to be forced to tribute(do not call it tribute though,tribute is a gift sans expectations,call it a payment) or to suck cock,once again there are providers who will happily take your cash,and make demands such as you want. Bottom line,unless you are selflessly seeking to serve a Domme,then do not contact a Domme.

Is there meaning

One of the things I am forced to ask myself with some regularity,is if there is meaning in the search. I have no doubt that some of you have posed the same question. You log onto sites day in day out,dealing with all manners of idiocy(outright lies,vaguely disguised exaggerations,stringent demands,disrespectful dialogue etc..),and it seriously makes one wonder if the time invested is worth the headaches produced.

I have never been one to sugarcoat what must be said,nor do I skirt along the edges of mundane truth. One thing I have learned since joining the online fetish scene is that the disappointments will outweigh the highs. For every 1 male that knows what it is to be selflessly submissive to a female,there are approximately 100 that do not,nor care. The odds are not good,and if findom were a game that a booky took bets on,then I would deter from laying a wager on an enriching outcome. This is not me being a downer,this is a voice of realistic reasoning speaking out against the fantasies which are preferable to reality. Yes it is possible to connect with decent,worthwhile submissives,and of course they are the rays of sunshine within the dreary drought we all trek through,but they are not the norm of what you will deal with is what I am saying,so if you come into this with the expectation that you are going to be besieged by infinite numbers of paying males,then you will be sorely let down.

Findom is one of the most if not the most difficult fetishes to find completion in. In the bdsm scene outside of findom,the number of subs vs Dommes rises exponentially thereby ensuring greater odds of success in locating a servant,but here within this niche the numbers are reversed,and this leads to less than pleasing results if you are a Domme. What you will not find is males begging to serve you,least not financially,and unfortunately it attracts some of the worst sort of types.

It makes no sense why anyone would join,chase,or engage in interactions with someone that does not meet the criteria you seek,yet this is exactly what I see. Lack of education is acceptable,because brains can be taught,but the disrespect is a bit more difficult to swallow,rather like a bitter pill with no water to wash it down.

One point I wanted to look at is why this is happening. Could it possibly be that males are drawn to this fetish due to so many females engaging in it more than ever? Another reason may be that males with no understanding of findom come knocking in the hopes that they can cajole or shame Ladies into forgoing the financial aspect,thereby making a more concerted effort into the single domination realm. One other thing I see is males with no prospects of paying,insinuating themselves or attempting to,as a friend. I am going to assume that they reckon they can siphon off some on the side domination this way. Regardless of why it occurs,it is disagreeable. Answer me this,Ladies did you come here to make male friends,or conquests? Did you put in your time here to secure male allies,or to garner long term servants? I am not saying that you cannot be friendly with whomever you choose,but look at it this way,if you are spending your time upon those that do not financially adore and spoil you,then what dividends are you getting in return for your investment?

What can be done about this trend? To begin with,the change must come from the Dommes. Nothing will ever alter without the strong leading the weak. Clean your house daily,and by that I mean,never allow the rubbish in to begin with. If a male without doubt has no interest in being financially dominated,why give him a single breath from your body,unless you are not here to financially dominate,then by all means let me ask you this,why are you in the findom scene? This can be a cruelly cold niche to an outsider that is true,but I have found it a welcome haven for those that sincerely dedicate themselves to it.

Being a FinDomme is not a title sans responsibility though. In the beginning one may think "oh I don't have to worry about making the scene a better place for all",but that is erroneous. Leading means taking the lead role. It is a type of duty where you point the inexperienced in the correct direction,and the pretenders into the shitter. It is a lifestyle,not a game. I am not saying that it is not meant to be fun,but all fun and games it is not. Just as in life,sometimes,and some predicaments need to be taken seriously,otherwise is there truly meaning in the search?

Good pets provide sans expectations...in other words none of this bullshit about spoiling back for being spoiled.

This from a pet that wants nothing other than to make me happy...do you boys see the type of service you should be striving to provide?? Hope so if you intend to be anything other than gator bait to me.

The gifts keep rolling in from my brat

Gifts I received yesterday and today courtesy of a gift card from my brat yay me!!

Spoiling me is not an option but rather a privilege

*Happy Dance* Goddess is pleased as punch! Little pet les just purchased the boots I wanted so badly from my wish list.

Now that is the action of a good pet. One that sees to my wants rather than his own greedy demands,so raspberries for those of you that did not even beg to gift me with them as you should have from the moment you knew I wanted them.

To top off my happiness,I mentioned to my brat that I so wanted a dress and cosmetics from Macys to which he immediately begged to buy them for me,and of course I allowed him to as a reward for his good behavior of late. Aren't I sweet :)

There is no light without the dark

How can one appreciate the lighter aspects of the findom field,without acknowledging that a darker side exists? Sort of like the seedy side streets of a phenomenally beautiful city. Sometimes one must experience the not so lovely aspects in order to gain appreciation as well as to see the value of that which is worth pursuing.

Some will gloss over the disturbing facts that not all is happiness and sunshine in the findom fief,but why? I can only assume that we are advised to hush about that which does not evoke all of those delicious delights of the flesh,because the unsavory taste of such scares away the bees correct? Oh alas what a pity,it nearly breaks my cold heart,that my life is based upon a reality not erected upon catering to erections,one which deflates males jerking responses. Should I apologize,I think not.

By sealing our lips,are we not promoting the one dimensional persona that permeates and perpetuates that dominant women are not real people. Like an act affected,a role where the actress must look,and act in a predetermined manner. I ask you this,how the hell is it dominant being thrust into denying your humanity?

I dare one single individual to step up and deny that they have ever endured a moment of unhappiness,misery,physical pain,or plain emotional angst in their entire lifetime. It will never happen. Why? Because it would be a lie of monumental proportions...and after all who wants to be labelled a liar?

There are a multitude of reasons for developing a time of transitory displeasure within this often judged fetish.From without the glass peeking in,it all appears so shiny and awe inspiring,but upon closer inspection there is no denial that it is a roughly competitive arena to a great degree. How can something so very precious such as serving a dominant become so vile? Lets take an in depth look shall we.

I have seen profiles,and posts by the thousands,and interacted with roughly half that number,which if I were to take what I see and hear to heart,then I would have faded into the memories of past long ago. Obviously the fact that I am in my 30's makes me an undesirable potential Domme to the majority which seek out my young to life sisters,and that actually suits me fine,for why would I ever desire to be near those whom are so very close minded that they cannot see beyond their own eyes in regards to the beauty of experience and wisdom? It is only the juvenile mind which is hindered by the bedazzlement of the surface,and it is not a youth that I would take beneath my heel.

Services,services,services. Why is there a market for such? It comes back to the male mentality of entitlement,selfishness and insecurity. In a free market is there not movement to encroach into in demand areas? We call it customer-client exchanges. Do companies produce goods for the resale value,or for their own pleasure,well of course to make money dummy. Does this equate into you serving the company when you buy their product,NO. You may increase their bottom line profit,but you are not doing them a favor. You purchase the product for your pleasure only. Now how does this figure into findom? How many males buy clips or cam sessions? In fact how many of these same males feel entitled to calling the shots since they are paying for time and attention as a customer? I would love to see some actual figures,but I doubt that they would shock me,as I see this exact type of behavior daily. Can you see how this would be less than pleasing to a Domme whom offers no services,yet has need to explain it on a continuous basis that the words service and services are not interchangeable? I offer no services,but I expect service. Makes sense to a single celled amoeba,so why is it that it is not comprehendable to the majority?

Liar liar cheap pants on fire. What delight does one take in the repetitive rounds of worn out lose pocketed lies which befall from the lips of the hapless and hopeless? You cannot elevate your status with worth not your own,so for the love of all that you hold holy,cease and desist. Accept that poor is not a pretty adjective in a realm where coin has more meaning than willing flesh. There is a place for you,but it will not be named findom. Life is finite,so waste not yours where appreciation will not be yours.

For the faithless and oath breakers,they sincerely do reserve a seat for you in hades. Hurry before your spot is taken :) In olden days,your word was your bond,and truly some things never go out of style. Be honest,be real,and maybe one day redemption shall be yours,but along that road keep yourself true to that which falls from your tongue. Make not a commitment which you cannot or will not keep. It is your reputation that suffers with broken promises.

See you now why a bad day can be had for a lady of findom? The ugly truth is that just as in the vanilla setting,there are liars,losers,unfaithful,insulting and vulgarly demanding trolls,and yes being subjected to this behavior day in and day out is bound to produce a day of less than suzy sunshine happiness. The only redeeming glimmer is the hope that one day along will come those whom actually get what it means to be submissive. Ask yourself this,will your behavior bring to the equation light and smiles,or the darkest of frowns?

The gentlemanly concept

A gentleman in today's society is a rare breed especially in the online realm of financial domination. This is the disappointing reality for all that seek such a man, and yes in order for me to deem you worthy of the title "man" requires more than the adhesion of specific anatomy.

What is a Gentleman, specifically what are the attributes of such a being? A gentleman is mannered,  educated, successful within in all areas of his life, and able to engage in a conversation with a lady that has no sexually entitled over or undertones (I really love your tits, ass, pussy, and masturbate when I look at your pics). Whether online or in real time he embraces the boundaries of what is termed decent behavior towards females, meaning he does not initiate contact with a Lady selfishly (what do I get from you for my money), nor salaciously (unsolicited penis photos, or vivid descriptions of his wank fantasy). He accords respectful behavior towards all women, not merely just in the direction of those that elicit blood flow to his nether regions (You are an ugly bitch in my eyes so I am going to ignore your basic rights as a human being by being disrespectful, and rude). He sees within himself the ability to be an asset within the lives of those whom he surrounds himself with. He lacks the driven motivation of personal gain (online to get a nut off) within the relationships he forges, as he recognizes that a giving nature (not one where his is demanding that a female give, give, and give to him ie attention, energy, and wank fodder) is his incentive towards fulfillment. He seeks no praise for actions which should be accorded to a Lady as her due. He need not be bullied, (gimme your money loser) coaxed, (sending nude or implied nudity photos) cajoled or seduced into acting accordingly. Going out of his way, and above bounds to make a Lady smile (sacrificing) is inherent within his nature, sans expectations of a fair exchange for his exertions (tit for tat). He is a being for whom his word is his bond, therefore a lie shall never pass his lips ( I want to serve only you...when in reality what he means is that he shall serve only so long as she keeps his mushroom mounded). He displays through his actions and words respect for himself and others. He is not a "loser" for he knows that he is of worth through his service. Last but certainly not least, a Gentleman displays appreciation of a Lady's time and attention with a monetary contribution (financial tribute).

If you are what I have described above, then welcome to the minority. You are the needle within the haystack which I have awaited hearing from, but if your actions, manners, and mindset are not as I detailed above or those which are ensconced within parenthesis, then feel not alone, for you are merely one within a sea of miscreants whom hold no appeal for me.

Males are meant to labor

Laboring for the happiness,peace of mind,and comfort of the superior sex is an honor which should be your driving motivation. You were created for the divine purpose of slavery to women. My vision is for males to eschew all physical pleasures in order to obtain pure and dedicated focus upon their destined path,which is the submission of their entire being. Dehumanized,and objectified for a higher calling. Enslaving yourself to a woman is not meant to be humiliating or an exercise in the demeaning of males,in fact it is a cage of freedom. No longer must you adhere to societal expectations of male behavior in regards to how you view and interact with women. Your very actions will provide you with the opportunity to redefine what it is to be a male being. The key to achieving this goal is that a male must willingly relinquish his former behaviors in life. Accept that he no longer has need of an ego. That his days of self indulgence and entitlement are at an end,and only then may he progress.

Too many of you have securely cocooned yourselves within the oppressive patriarchal standards of behavior,which are not conducive to the development of your submissive potential as a male. Our sons as a collective unit are fed a steady diet of feminine objectification,and the cultivation of a mindset whereupon women are of value in only 2 aspects,as either a breeder or as a bedmate. Neither role is complimentary.Women are much more than they have ever been accredited for. This is a lesson and philosophy which must be taken to heart,and allowed to flourish within the male population.

Once you have completed the process of defragmenting your mental hard drive,you are then prepared to be of use in the life of a superior female. Used for the replacement of trivial toils perhaps even as a whipping boy,a footstool,a pet. Regardless of how you are to be of use,you should be grateful and proud to serve a purpose in your owner's life. Serving her selflessly. This concept appears to be the most difficult for males to embrace. The principle of serving is not now,nor has it ever been about the one whom serves. You feel that you are entitled to have your "needs" met. Why? Did you miss the part about becoming dehumanized? No longer do you need anything other than to please. Your life no longer revolving around you,and your selfish wants. This comprehension is essential in regards to the successful search for an owner,so I advise each of you males to lay your past along with the prescribed views of what male property is to rest,and take up the gauntlet of your destiny.