A gift for my sinful soles from an admiring gentleman :)

Findom merry go round

This past week for me has been a study in patience due to the deceitful nature of those I have come into contact with. To know me,is to know that I have always invested time in getting to know those that come calling with the supposed intention of submitting to my dominance,prior to the expectation of initial tribute,but (and this is a big but) I have found this action to be counterproductive,and in fact detrimental to my time schedule.

It is common knowledge within the financial domination realm that one should expend with a prospective submissive only the amount of time that they feel comfortable with having wasted if by chance the one contacting them is either a poor match,or a lover of lies. Generally I am a spot on judge of character when it comes to whether the person I am speaking with is going to fail upon the first task allotted to them (tribute),but even I can be on the fence when it comes to some,which in that case I usually give the benefit of the doubt. This is where change is going to be enacted,atleast with me. Have no doubt that if this new rule effects you,you will know it,for I am not shy when it comes to showing a male the way out of my inbox.

Sadly though for Dommes,there are entirely too many that will attempt to get on the merry go round of financial domination sans a ticket. They will claim that either a)they need to get to know you or b)that you are only in the fetish for the money. In response to (a) I am more than willing to spend time "getting to know" each other,after you have shown me that you are capable of seeing to the fin side of the equation. That sounds greedy does it not,but the truth is that,financial domination is not based solely on domination,and to expect otherwise is you fooling you,not the other way around,so be prepared to prove yourself worthy of attention,and (b)of course I financially dominate because of the money. Don't get it skewed though. I love and I mean love dominating males,but the financial aspect is the butter on my baked potato,and without it,it is just a plain bland potato.

Unfortunately sometimes there is this never ending cycle which infiltrates the best intentioned interactions,in that the male(you)refuses to tribute til he feels comfortable with me,and I(Domme)refuse to take the conversation any further til you have tributed. Both sides feel that they are correct,so neither gives,and what happens in that particular situation is that I sever all connections between us,and you lose out of ever speaking with me again,so my advice is to simply tribute. I am not saying that it need be a shockingly large amount,in fact as I said,even a token amount will assure me that you are serious. Now this is never even an issue when I am corresponding with the type I describe next.

Gentlemen admirers are my preferred type of servant,hardly shocking. One of the things I have noticed when it comes to a gentleman admirer is that they are courteous,respectful,and steer clear of sexual innuendos or queries as to how or what I would do in fetish scenarios. They spend their time in my presence getting to know me as a woman,rather than as a fetish vending machine,and they would never attempt to bother me with unsolicited penis photos,for that is ill becoming of a man who respects women. The absolute action I have noted when dealing with a gentleman is that he will always without mention of it,send a token of his appreciation,and that is what pleases me most,so if you want to get off to a good start with me,take a page out of the gentlemanly book of behavior!

Out of order

One of the easiest ways to flip my welcome mat over is to approach me like you would a fetish machine, quarters out, punching in your selection for what you want. Unlike your local vending dispenser I offer only 2 choices, serve or do not serve. Once you have chosen, then either you relinquish control, or you disappear.  It leaves little room for confusion doing it this way.

My expectations are that when you come to me, that you have studied up on me (read my blogs, read my profile, for these are your bible verses) and have already decided that you are prepared to work towards becoming my loyal servant (this is a sign of sincerity), else wise why would you waste time approaching me, and believe me that yes it is a waste of time to contact me if you are not sure of mind. I recognize that many of you are new, and just finding your footing so to speak along the slippery slopes of service, which is why I advise you to wait til such time as you know exactly what you are agreeing to by entering into serving a Domme. Only fools rush in ill prepared. Are you a fool? Oh please do respond in the negatory, for there are entirely too many of those in life outside of the fetish world.

There are multitudes of differing styles when it comes to domination, but mine is fairly straightforward. I am old school in my ways. I believe that a collar or consideration is EARNED. It is not a given, and it takes more than a couple of tributes to get that distinction, so please do not for a moment in time allow yourself to think that I will make it easy for you. Any relationship, and I do mean any, requires effort, for anything just given to you, is pale in comparison to something that you have diligently applied yourself  towards achieving. I desire only those that are not fearful of working hard (sloth is a sin, not to mention ugly), that do not live in the magical land of entitlement (only in fantasies will you receive the golden ticket for a free ride) ,nor they whom see themselves as a buyer of domination (your money buys you nothing with or of me). A school where respect and manners are of the highest accord. The arena where gentlemen are favored and cads are fed to the lions (yup nice guys get a pass around the red rope which detains the reprobates).

Submission to me is a release (not a physical one, take note that chastity is my favored fetish)..a release of all the stress imposed upon you by a constricting life. In my realm you are allowed to let loose the hidden submissive which the world cannot accept. A safe haven where you can finally be what it is that you truly are. A dominion where there is no shock or disgust that your heart's desire is to kneel, to beg, to give yourself over to the power of another. What you will not find though, is a release from  consent. In my mind "force" is a four letter word. Never shall I force anything. I am not here to coax, cajole, bully, take, or seduce your submission. If you are not submitting of your own free will, than I do not desire your submission.

Now is that not a simple view for you? If not, then I will list off what you should have gathered from this post of mine.


1)Dommes are NOT objectified fetish machines
2)Know what it is that you want (serve or do not)
3)Hard work opens doors that money cannot
4)Gentlemen are desired
5)Force and entitlement are no nos
6)Consent is needed, consent is required, consent, consent, consent


                                                   

The gifts keep rolling in from my brat

Gifts I received yesterday and today courtesy of a gift card from my brat yay me!!

Late posting today oops...got way too busy :p

I did receive a couple of more gifts from my brat in the post today

Always such a good boy for his Goddess!! Now I can add the vera wang forever scent to my growing collection,and brat should be by this weekend to put up the new wall decal in the cylinder yay!

Even though I have had a million and one things to get done today despite the cold ass temps outside,I did make time to set up plans for a rt session at the end of the month with a male that has served me almost 2 years,how lucky is he,although I am keeping a tight lid on my plans for him that day lol

Don't forget boys to show your appreciation via amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com

Gentlemen always display appreciation for the guidance and wisdom of a Lady's words.

figment of fancy

What I want is simple or so I mistakenly thought. Why is it that the knowledge of what I desire frightens so many of the male sex? This is something I pontificate upon with regularity,although the answer is not as complicated as I make it to be.

Let us begin with what exactly it is that I seek. Well it isn't your cock or your orgasm that's for sure. What I want are submissive gentlemen that crave more than a moment's release of pleasure. Ones that envision nirvana as me. A realm where I exist as their Goddess. The deity whom they adore more than any other,not as a figurehead for their fleshy erection.

A relationship where servants come to my feet willingly,and with gratitude that I allow it. Not an alliance where one is taxed,and forced into laying their best before me. Something tangible beyond the flesh. Do males such as this exist? Are my expectations and hopes beyond the fetish reality? Truly are submissives such as I describe extinct or a mere figment of my imagination?

Is it beyond a credible belief that a Goddess accepts nothing less than your all? Is there nothing left but the cold sterile meat mangling behind the one way screen? How sad if that is so.

I could sit at my desk typing all day bemoaning the fate I see,yet that would change nothing for me,nor for you,but so long as their is a sliver of possibility that a creature as I described dwells within the scene,then I will continue to await his presence being made known to me.

Steady the course

I have been pondering the course of this blog for quite some time now. Like all blogs I get the main statistics for my viewers,but I have to wonder how many submissive males actually peruse my words,or merely take advantage of my generosity with photos. The conclusion I reached is that most of my posts are used as educational tools for females rather than a driving force which ensnares my prey. Of course this is not exactly the outcome I envision when I am pouring myself into this blog.

I recently asked for feedback from male submissives & random contacts,and the results were interesting to say the least. The information I received was that 1)As soon as the majority of males note that I enjoy the findom fetish they are bolting for safer(free) territory,but the joke is on them seeing as even purely lifestyle Dominas expect gifts and what not,so inevitably training is NOT free anywhere,except in the imagination of femdom porn viewers. 2)That my firm adherence to standards and manners is overwhelming,even frightening to some,and all I can say to that is "Get over it". I hold the behavior of those that serve me to the same level as any male I would meet on the street ie no I do not want to be flashed,catcalled,or objectified. Hmmm guess that makes me an uber scary bitch huh.3)Timewasters pick up on the fact right away that I am no newbie falling for tired tactics. YAY

 Is any of the data upsetting to me. No. I knew from the get go that my style was not going to sit well with the usual fetish client fanatics,and I am good with that. The one thing that continues to tweek my ass though is the amount of lazy disrespect I deal with on a daily basis. Seriously does it take that much effort to read a profile? I read them,and I know that you surely do not believe yourself so very superior to me that you have no need to do so.

I cannot count how many times I have been contacted by an unknown male begging to serve,just to flip out when he sees that I do not offer free training,and I ask myself how could he be surprised since it is listed in every one of my profiles. Oh and the numerous pleadings to be my maid,my sextoy,my bf...astounds me as this is clearly conveyed as well that I possess no desire for such,yet it goes on every day. I am not sure who is smacking you boys with the stupid stick,but honestly you need to avoid them.

The final realization I reached is that I am not about to change my style or approach for anyone,and I do mean anyone. If you do not care for my fetishes,that is A OK,but that does not mean that I give a rat's ass for your negative opinion regarding it,so keep your lips zipped,and move along in your elusive search for the big FREE. Oh and if I am wayyyyy toooo scary for little old you,then hide your head under the covers,cause I am definitely not going to be creeping after you. Point being,it's a new day,and that means that I am just going to automatically block any that come at me with offers to serve in any manner which is not pleasing to me,and yes that includes those that feel they are too good,entitled,or special to tribute,so don't be shocked when it happens to you :)

Now if you are one of the rare gentlemen out there whom accepts,respects,and seeks out a Lady of elite class to serve,then you need not worry,for I am most welcoming of sincerity,integrity,and manners.

Femdom or faux

There appears to be an entirely new generation of males scouring the internet daily for a femdom fix. Do they actually find kernels of legitimate female domination,or do they stumble upon pornographic photos and films depicting what another male envisions femdom to be? Judging from the misconceptions conveyed to me in correspondences,I would lay odds on the porn angle,simply because the majority impart that they are seeking some type of sexual scenario,which does not exist.

Common sense should tell one that their visions,and hopes are unrealistic. I mean seriously,does anyone truly believe outside of a bar that a sober stranger wants to sensually play with their sexual organs,or enact a scene which gets them off for the pure pleasure of it? If you honestly buy into the fantasy,then please get psychiatric guidance,because you are living in la la land.

Female domination is not based on sex,hell domination itself is not either,but things have become so dastardly convoluted that one cannot see beyond tits,ass,pussy,and cock. I ask myself if this is merely a phase,or is this the new face of the fetish scene,and if it is,then I have no use for it. I genuinely mourn the loss of interacting with gentlemen whom appreciate a Lady,and respectfully bow down to her wishes,sans hidden agendas.

One would hope that with age comes wisdom and life shaping experience(the reason why I do not consider any male under 30),but even the males I have exchanged missives with within my desired age range have become soiled and spoiled into thinking that bdsm is all about them,and their cock emissions.

I would love nothing more than to slap a certain popular female femdom writer in the face due to her portraying males as treasures to be treated as a godsend. Yes submission is a gift,but that does not make you a special snowflake. Ask yourself just how many submissives do you think are on the internet,hell in the entire world looking for a Domme? You would be astounded to learn that you are one of thousands upon thousands,so why should any Lady consent to training you? What do you have to offer which makes you of value,and no the size of your equipment,nor a hot body matters. Pretty boys are a dime a dozen,so do not bank on that either.

 As a submissve your submission is a commodity,so what makes it of worth? Are you attentive,are you capable of integrity,and devotion? Do you possess the maturity to recognize that it is not your will that matters? I am not saying that you do not have the right to choose whom you serve,but I am saying that this is where you must drop the attitude that you are entitled to call the shots. A power exchange involves you relinquishing control,not barking orders from the bottom. You can never forget your place in service. You are the one serving,not the one being served,which is an entirely different endeavor,so keep this in mind when you are looking around at what the monkeys are doing,and try your best not to ape them,for you devalue yourself by doing so.

The gentlemanly concept

A gentleman in today's society is a rare breed especially in the online realm of financial domination. This is the disappointing reality for all that seek such a man, and yes in order for me to deem you worthy of the title "man" requires more than the adhesion of specific anatomy.

What is a Gentleman, specifically what are the attributes of such a being? A gentleman is mannered,  educated, successful within in all areas of his life, and able to engage in a conversation with a lady that has no sexually entitled over or undertones (I really love your tits, ass, pussy, and masturbate when I look at your pics). Whether online or in real time he embraces the boundaries of what is termed decent behavior towards females, meaning he does not initiate contact with a Lady selfishly (what do I get from you for my money), nor salaciously (unsolicited penis photos, or vivid descriptions of his wank fantasy). He accords respectful behavior towards all women, not merely just in the direction of those that elicit blood flow to his nether regions (You are an ugly bitch in my eyes so I am going to ignore your basic rights as a human being by being disrespectful, and rude). He sees within himself the ability to be an asset within the lives of those whom he surrounds himself with. He lacks the driven motivation of personal gain (online to get a nut off) within the relationships he forges, as he recognizes that a giving nature (not one where his is demanding that a female give, give, and give to him ie attention, energy, and wank fodder) is his incentive towards fulfillment. He seeks no praise for actions which should be accorded to a Lady as her due. He need not be bullied, (gimme your money loser) coaxed, (sending nude or implied nudity photos) cajoled or seduced into acting accordingly. Going out of his way, and above bounds to make a Lady smile (sacrificing) is inherent within his nature, sans expectations of a fair exchange for his exertions (tit for tat). He is a being for whom his word is his bond, therefore a lie shall never pass his lips ( I want to serve only you...when in reality what he means is that he shall serve only so long as she keeps his mushroom mounded). He displays through his actions and words respect for himself and others. He is not a "loser" for he knows that he is of worth through his service. Last but certainly not least, a Gentleman displays appreciation of a Lady's time and attention with a monetary contribution (financial tribute).

If you are what I have described above, then welcome to the minority. You are the needle within the haystack which I have awaited hearing from, but if your actions, manners, and mindset are not as I detailed above or those which are ensconced within parenthesis, then feel not alone, for you are merely one within a sea of miscreants whom hold no appeal for me.