Proclaim your submission

Greetings pets..

Goddess Sydney has recreated you,and called you her slave. You were born to be my slave. My slave  who worships Goddess Sydney daily. On your knees before the altar you have created in my honor. It is here that you will pray..pray to your Goddess for salvation from your sins. It is the sin of selfishness which has kept you from serving as you were meant to..do you want absolution little slave? Do you want to be forgiven?

Words alone my little slave will not bring you the pardon you chase. Your words have no meaning here. Clemency hinges upon repentance conveyed through deeds. You want my forgiveness don't you..you want to prove to me that you are worthy of being my slave..that you possess inside you the potential to become the very best of those that serve me. 

I want you to dig deep within yourself..wipe away all of your ego..scrub away the sense of entitlement that blackens your soul..delve past it all..beyond the poisoning of patriarchy..and there,there is where you will find the submission I demand of you slave. The submission that bares your soul to my eyes. Stripped of all pretense..open to the truth of your purpose. Your psyche spread wide for my invasion. You want to give yourself to Goddess Sydney don't you. You have no desire to hold anything back from Goddess.

Now you are free to be captured and consumed by the will of Goddess Sydney. Free to be the real you. The you that was hidden beneath all of the armor that society girded you with. You are free my little slave. Goddess has set you free. Free to reveal to me all that you have held back. Are you ready? Are you ready to embrace your destiny..your true purpose? What is that purpose little slave? 

Your purpose is clear little slave..open your eyes..see it..live it! Claim it now..claim your purpose. Say it aloud..chant it til you can chant no more. My purpose is Goddess Sydney! She is my purpose and reason for existence. I will serve her all of the days of my life,and give thanks for Goddess Sydney. I will deny her nothing. I will give my all for her. I will adore her..I will exalt her..I will revere her..I will praise her..I will devote my life to her.

Proclaim your submission slave,and I will own it!

Real Domme,the relative term

How many times have you used or seen used the term "Real Domme"? Once,twice,a hundred times(my hand is blowing in the wind). Real real real,true,true,true..used interchangeably,yet not really the sane.

What do people mean when they use the term though? Do they mean real as in alive and breathing? Do they mean real as in genetically born female? Do they mean a Domme that has 20 years experience under her belt? Do they mean a Domme who works in a dungeon,and handles a whip better than a roman soldier? It is a study in confusion at times to know exactly what someone means by "real".

Real is a term that is defined by each individual,but...most often when I see it on the fetish sites listed on a male's profile(and yes I have even asked the poster what their definition is)it is most generally a reference to a Domme that does not expect tribute. It is reasoned that to be a real or true Domme,then the "gift" of a male's submission should suffice as a tribute. My query to the poster at that time is "why does a Domme expecting to be appreciated,worshiped and adored financially make her any less real"? The responses do vary,but the overwhelming and most common being that Dommes who expect tribute are whores. This explanation never fails to astound me,because when I seek out the dictionary for the definition of the word whore,I fail to see any reference that does not include sexual relations,and I am not personally acquainted with any Domme who requires tribute,that will engage in intercourse for payment with those that serve them,so that insult does not fit properly...yet such ignorance and close mindedness continues to forge on regardless.

What else constitutes a real Domme in the minds of males? Cam verification of course. Dommes are expected to flip on their cams and prove that they are female,now unless I am mistaken,you are not going to get proof of that without dna or a cooch flash. Now which one of these options are most likely to occur? The biggest kicker in the entire equation is that the real Domme should do so willingly,and without expectations,rather selfish don't you think? Rather hits me like topping.

I have as well heard real used to mean a Domme that wants a 24/7 live in slave. This is one of the least likeliest scenarios to come true. I wish that males would take a serious look at what 24/7 entails. It can be like trying to swim with a concrete boot applied for a Domme. A male weighing you down with his wants,his needs,and his expenses 24/7...does not sound too appealing to me. To hear some speak,well it would not cost the Domme a thin dime to keep them,cause they can live in a cage outside,or a basement..hmm anyone that has ever had a pet knows that it is not free. Pets even basement gimps must be fed,watered(and no piss and shit are not enough to ensure health),and lands forbid that the gimp becomes ill! No matter what contract is signed,the Domme is still legally responsible. Does anyone in their right mind really think that if the authorities find out that someone has a human being living in their basement in a cage,that they will not be incarcerated,cause believe me they will. Society is not accepting of this type of behavior and circumstances already.

The last and final definition for real that I am going to touch on today,is a Domme is not real if she is not seeking a sub/slave husband,or bf scenario. Plenty of lifesyle Dommes do date and marry their servants,hell even some Pro's do as well,but this is not the rule for all Dommes. Many that I see already have a significant other in their lives,so unless they are going the polygamy route,I do not see how this is possible,not to mention that not all Dommes are attracted to submissive males,so....I guess these Dommes will fall into the pit of unrealness.

To top off this little piece of my thoughts,and observations,I am going to relay my thought on what is "real". To me real means taking responsibility for the health and well being of a sub/slave who serves you. A Domme who is safe and sane,who maintains control of herself,and how she treats those that serve her(yes even sadists can respect RACK).

The richest qualities and traits of a servant

I have taken a moment to compile a list of the most desirable qualities and traits of which a servant/submissive/slave should possess if they are truly to be an asset to whom they serve.

Integrity
Loyalty
humility
discipline
honesty
generosity
Intelligence
Courage
Mental&emotional maturity&stability
sincerity
gratitude
consistency
selflessness

Notice that integrity is listed first,as I find it to be the most significant. The remaining are typed into the order in which they entered my thoughts.

Why is integrity of such importance? Integrity to me means that an individual will conduct themselves and their behavior in an honest and sincere manner. They adhere to a code of ethics which would instill self-discipline and loyalty due to morals. It takes one whom possesses a strength of character to act with integrity,for they are not swayed by temptation,nor susceptible to weakness which would lead them from the path they know to be correct.

Loyalty for the purpose of service means that one is faithfully devoted to their owner,and strictly adheres to their commitment.

Humility: A humble servant is modest in word and deed,knowing that he serves a superior woman,therefore boasting is ill received.

Discipline A servant whom is disciplined in mind(no I am not referring to corporal punishment or mind control) is one that possesses self-control,thereby allowing him to act with integrity.

Honesty is used interchangeably by many with integrity,but remember integrity is how you conduct yourself,and honesty is adherence to facts...meaning that an honest servant will not utter a lie,nor speak deceitfully. This is another huge one for you boys. Only those whom are dishonest make promises they knowingly or willingly will not keep.

Generosity is a trait most valued especially in financial domination,but it is not contained to it. A servant that is generous will give of his time,energy,and finances. He is not a scrooge that gives nothing,and expects it all.

Intelligence: According to the multiple intelligence overview there are 9 count them 9 types of intelligence. Intelligence is beautiful! An intelligent servant offers more than financial contributions(but one does not replace the other). Being able to converse with a servant upon absolutely non-fetish related subjects is refreshing and rare.

Courage: It takes courage to kneel before another. You are trusting them to lead you. You are giving up yourself(power) to them. Courage bows before their owner,whilst cowardice scurries away like a timid mouse.

Mental&emotional maturity&stability: What a mouthful :) It boils down to being able to deal with life and relationships even those of the D's variety without resorting to childish antics (brattiness ie throwing fits when you do not get your way,or worse yet passive aggressive behavior). Both behaviors are unacceptable and immature.

Sincerity is a virtue which promotes acting in a "real" manner,one that is true to how they feel and think(no hypocrisy). It is being both honest and pure.

Gratitude: The act of being thankful. A worthy servant is grateful to have the opportunity to serve. They display their gratitude willingly and without coercion.

Consistency is enacted through the everyday actions of a servant. They provide a continuity of service and tribute sans interruption not related to health or well being. They do not serve one Lady one day,then be off to another the next.

Last but certainly NOT least is selflessness. Selflessness is apparent when a servant serves with no thought of what they may get out of their actions,or in the case of findom,their tribute. They serve because it is who and what they are,not because they are looking to get something out of it,other than the honor of being of use,and their actions bringing happiness to another.


These are only but a few of the ones which came readily to mind. If you have others,then do feel free to enlighten me :)

Steady the course

I have been pondering the course of this blog for quite some time now. Like all blogs I get the main statistics for my viewers,but I have to wonder how many submissive males actually peruse my words,or merely take advantage of my generosity with photos. The conclusion I reached is that most of my posts are used as educational tools for females rather than a driving force which ensnares my prey. Of course this is not exactly the outcome I envision when I am pouring myself into this blog.

I recently asked for feedback from male submissives & random contacts,and the results were interesting to say the least. The information I received was that 1)As soon as the majority of males note that I enjoy the findom fetish they are bolting for safer(free) territory,but the joke is on them seeing as even purely lifestyle Dominas expect gifts and what not,so inevitably training is NOT free anywhere,except in the imagination of femdom porn viewers. 2)That my firm adherence to standards and manners is overwhelming,even frightening to some,and all I can say to that is "Get over it". I hold the behavior of those that serve me to the same level as any male I would meet on the street ie no I do not want to be flashed,catcalled,or objectified. Hmmm guess that makes me an uber scary bitch huh.3)Timewasters pick up on the fact right away that I am no newbie falling for tired tactics. YAY

 Is any of the data upsetting to me. No. I knew from the get go that my style was not going to sit well with the usual fetish client fanatics,and I am good with that. The one thing that continues to tweek my ass though is the amount of lazy disrespect I deal with on a daily basis. Seriously does it take that much effort to read a profile? I read them,and I know that you surely do not believe yourself so very superior to me that you have no need to do so.

I cannot count how many times I have been contacted by an unknown male begging to serve,just to flip out when he sees that I do not offer free training,and I ask myself how could he be surprised since it is listed in every one of my profiles. Oh and the numerous pleadings to be my maid,my sextoy,my bf...astounds me as this is clearly conveyed as well that I possess no desire for such,yet it goes on every day. I am not sure who is smacking you boys with the stupid stick,but honestly you need to avoid them.

The final realization I reached is that I am not about to change my style or approach for anyone,and I do mean anyone. If you do not care for my fetishes,that is A OK,but that does not mean that I give a rat's ass for your negative opinion regarding it,so keep your lips zipped,and move along in your elusive search for the big FREE. Oh and if I am wayyyyy toooo scary for little old you,then hide your head under the covers,cause I am definitely not going to be creeping after you. Point being,it's a new day,and that means that I am just going to automatically block any that come at me with offers to serve in any manner which is not pleasing to me,and yes that includes those that feel they are too good,entitled,or special to tribute,so don't be shocked when it happens to you :)

Now if you are one of the rare gentlemen out there whom accepts,respects,and seeks out a Lady of elite class to serve,then you need not worry,for I am most welcoming of sincerity,integrity,and manners.

Tips and advice cont

Another lovely day all to myself! I do some of my best blogs when I am free from constant distractions lol. My poor brain does quite well multitasking,but when it comes to posting my thoughts and such,I would prefer that I not be juggling 3 or 4 other activities at the same time. Forward march onto my words of experienced lifestyle femdom and findom wisdom for the males whom occupy or desire a place within our world.

Ok yesterday I went over some basics,so I shall pick up from there. I do hope that you followed my advice about educating yourself a bit. If so then you should know the difference between the designations of slave,submissive,switch,fetishist,bottom. To some these terms are interchangeable,not for me,but perhaps they are in your mind. In my estimation a slave is one whom desires to become personal property. They have relinquished their rights to an owner. They obey,are task oriented,and live their life in a fully owner controlled manner. A submissive on the other hand is on a journey of exploration. They desire to please and serve,but they are not able or willing to dedicate their entire existence to doing so. Being a switch is a bit trickier. Some submit only in certain situations or to a specific sex. They may be submissive in their everyday life,yet in the bedroom they command,or vice versa. A fetishist is not a person that serves. They are generally geared toward feeding their personal fetish. These are the types that you see more as clients than servants. Bottoms to me equate with receptive play partners. They are not necessarily submissive,in fact they may be a switch,a masochist,or low and behold a dominant whom enjoys bottoming in certain defined activities. It is very important to know where you fall on this scale in order to begin your search. If you know not yourself,then how are you to find anyone compatible?

Once you have figured out what you are(there is even an online quiz which will aid you,google will bring it up for you). Now it is time to decide which activities you would most like to engage in. I have no doubt that there are plenty of fantasies playing out in your mind. Ones which stimulate your desires. Do you dream of being held tied down at the mercy of a dominant freed from the constant constraints of life? Does the thought of being stripped of ego and clothing just do it for you? Do you envision a more feminine you? Do you pray to reverse roles,and become a naughty little cock slut? There are too many kinks for me to name in a simple post,but I am sure that you understand the point I am trying to make. Now a key bit to keep in mind is that some fantasies are meant to remain that way elsewise you fall out of the entire realm of safe,sane and consensual. Whilst you may masturbate to the daydream of having a dominant castrate you,that is so not going to happen even in an unconventional relationship. It takes time and experimentation to figure out what you like. I mean I used to believe that I would enjoy bottoming in a bondage scene,but once tried,I found out that it was not for me. In fact an activity I at first found extremely distasteful soon became one of my favorites. Try being open minded to activities with the exception of those that are illegal.

That is all for the day boys,Goddess is going poolside :) TBC....