Emotions must exist for longevity to persist

Long term service requires a stirring and persistence of emotional ties. I speak not of business arrangements..ie a purchase of virtual attention(sessions),literal(panties,socks etc),or media(clips,photos,or PS),for these are simply a satiation of male desires in exchange of currency,and that is NOT service. Service is what we seek is it not? If not,then feel free to disregard my words.

Emotional bonds of ownership evolve over time,much more than a moment,day or week. An eternal journey where lust blossoms into respect,and from there a consideration of tenderness. Lust on it's own is a fleeting fad,which fails to produce viability of anything other than orgasm,therefore deeper connections must be striven for. To remain in service lifelong,dare I say it,love must be evoked,for given time,flesh will not remain where the heart is not involved,so truly love does conquer,even that of the male beast.

What it all boils down to,is that even if a male desires a woman's flesh,and finds her utterly enticing sexually,eventually he will tire of the lust he has known,in order to spark it anew with another(nature of the beast),so the best of designs incorporates the silken trappings of love,and it is love which keeps them on a leash long term. Cage the heartfelt emotions,and you will have them eating out of your hand like the tamest of creatures.

Turn a right turn,not a left

Sometimes gents just cannot see that they are taking a left turn away from my possible attention,when a few simple word changes would suffice to sway my decision whether to reject,eject,or accept the option of follow up interactions.

One of the most typical ways males initiate conversation with me online is like this "I want to serve you"...seems straightforward enough yes? Is it enough though,NO. Why is it that I am less than enthusiastic about responding to this first move? It lacks personal depth that is why.

I want to know why it is that you want to serve me.What is it about me personally over all of the hundred other Ladies online that has drawn you to me. What is it in me that makes your soul scream out from it's depths YES YES YES this is the ONE!!! Is it because our fetishes match,or because you lust over my photos(fyi-both responses are wrong).

A greater percentage of the time,I will actually take a moment just to ask why? Why me? If it is because our fetishes match,that is not enough(I am more than the sum of my fetishes)...and Lord help you if you say that it is because of my photos(I am more than one dimensional) and appearances in the end cease to be of importance if you cannot stand anything else about the person you have promised to dedicate your service to.

Now how to make a u-turn in the right direction. Instead of saying right off the bat "I want to serve you"..say something like "I find you of interest,and would like to take the time to get to know more about you". This will get my attention far faster than any tired copy and paste line ever tried on any Domme.

To go one step further,ask yourself why I would want you to serve me,and relay that information to me. What is it about you that will enrich my life? Are you obedient,are you attentive,are you a gentleman? What makes you different than any other male that has contacted me in the past,present or future?

I have given you the correct directions gents,now it is up to you whether to take a left or a right.

Steady the course

I have been pondering the course of this blog for quite some time now. Like all blogs I get the main statistics for my viewers,but I have to wonder how many submissive males actually peruse my words,or merely take advantage of my generosity with photos. The conclusion I reached is that most of my posts are used as educational tools for females rather than a driving force which ensnares my prey. Of course this is not exactly the outcome I envision when I am pouring myself into this blog.

I recently asked for feedback from male submissives & random contacts,and the results were interesting to say the least. The information I received was that 1)As soon as the majority of males note that I enjoy the findom fetish they are bolting for safer(free) territory,but the joke is on them seeing as even purely lifestyle Dominas expect gifts and what not,so inevitably training is NOT free anywhere,except in the imagination of femdom porn viewers. 2)That my firm adherence to standards and manners is overwhelming,even frightening to some,and all I can say to that is "Get over it". I hold the behavior of those that serve me to the same level as any male I would meet on the street ie no I do not want to be flashed,catcalled,or objectified. Hmmm guess that makes me an uber scary bitch huh.3)Timewasters pick up on the fact right away that I am no newbie falling for tired tactics. YAY

 Is any of the data upsetting to me. No. I knew from the get go that my style was not going to sit well with the usual fetish client fanatics,and I am good with that. The one thing that continues to tweek my ass though is the amount of lazy disrespect I deal with on a daily basis. Seriously does it take that much effort to read a profile? I read them,and I know that you surely do not believe yourself so very superior to me that you have no need to do so.

I cannot count how many times I have been contacted by an unknown male begging to serve,just to flip out when he sees that I do not offer free training,and I ask myself how could he be surprised since it is listed in every one of my profiles. Oh and the numerous pleadings to be my maid,my sextoy,my bf...astounds me as this is clearly conveyed as well that I possess no desire for such,yet it goes on every day. I am not sure who is smacking you boys with the stupid stick,but honestly you need to avoid them.

The final realization I reached is that I am not about to change my style or approach for anyone,and I do mean anyone. If you do not care for my fetishes,that is A OK,but that does not mean that I give a rat's ass for your negative opinion regarding it,so keep your lips zipped,and move along in your elusive search for the big FREE. Oh and if I am wayyyyy toooo scary for little old you,then hide your head under the covers,cause I am definitely not going to be creeping after you. Point being,it's a new day,and that means that I am just going to automatically block any that come at me with offers to serve in any manner which is not pleasing to me,and yes that includes those that feel they are too good,entitled,or special to tribute,so don't be shocked when it happens to you :)

Now if you are one of the rare gentlemen out there whom accepts,respects,and seeks out a Lady of elite class to serve,then you need not worry,for I am most welcoming of sincerity,integrity,and manners.

Selfish males are not sought

Something that blazes a burning path through my vision each and every day is the sight of photos males post. Pictures that provide proof of unadulterated selfishness. Now you boys must be asking yourself how to avoid portraying yourself in such a manner,and the answer is simple. Do not display your genitals or ass unsolicited for others to see.

"Oh but Goddess how can that be selfish?" If you have to ask that question ,then I worry that there may be no hope for you recognizing the truth of your behavior. It all boils down to the fact that the vast majority of women do NOT gain any pleasure from such visions. It has been proven that females are not visual creatures,therefore when you post nude photos you are doing so for your own self gratification. You do so to feed your fetish,and that little one is self service.

Perhaps you are one that enjoys exhibitionism,so you get your jollies from others viewing your goods(selfish). Maybe you are into humiliation,so you show yourself in order to garner it(selfish). It could even be that you believe your body to be so hot that you are doing ladies a favor by showing them your wares(selfish),ya no it is not you being kind as your ego leads you to believe that if you enjoy it,then others must as well. Do you see how every scenario comes back to the basis behind your actions being about you?

No how is it that I am upbraiding males for the exact same behavior that ladies engage in? Easy....ladies are here to be served,elevated,worshiped,meaning that it is about them,not you. Servitude is NOT selfish.

Truth is neutral

The summer has been long but fruitful,and for this week instead of heading out of town,I opted for a staycation. I have simply been burning myself at both ends with work,and training males,so now I am going to focus on myself exclusively for a few days. Selfish I know,but I deserve it.

I seriously doubt that many of you actually know the drain upon a person,even a Goddess places upon her energy when weeding through wastrels along with a normal work week. I imagine that a great many of you aimlessly drift through the currents of Mistresses,Princesses,and Goddesses all over the net everyday,hoping to find one that will allow you to leech onto their tailwinds. This is the behavior which exhausts those of us whom are of serious intent.

I shifted from real time training to online a little over 2 1|2 years ago,and it has been straight up work from the get go seeing as I am not one to produce content,or flip the cam switch on for shows. Not to mention that I am one of the obvious few that does not cater to the wills and wants of males. My standards are above par,and I refuse to lower them for wankstains. Truly I am not here for your erections,and no I do not consider it a compliment that my physical appearance evokes them. Compliments have NEVER been my motivation,nor shall they be. I honestly do not care if submissive males ever cum again in their lifetime.

Service in my estimation is not about doing the things which make your dicklet hard or causing it to drip. How very cold of me huh? Cold,blunt,brutal,but atleast I am HONEST. I do not play the games of others. I know exactly how I desire to be served,and believe me when I say that it will not be done with dick in hand.

I expect servitude. That concept should not be difficult even for a pea brained piece of flaxseed. Most of you have absolutely no idea of what serving really is. You log onto a site and contact the first fleshy bit that catches your cock's eye...maybe you pay tribute,most likely you do not,then wank and wap before you log out. This is why I find you abhorrently pathetic. If you are defining serving by getting your dick off,then you are making a mockery of service.

Serving should be an experience which humbles your soul,sets you within a position of humility,not empowering the love you already possess for a worthless piece of appendage. I have been called harsh,and a fun killer,but when have I ever cared for the opinions of twats with self serving agendas,NEVER.

Some would say...oh you are being a negative nelly,but truth is neutral,(it is you that puts a negative or positive spin upon it)and that is exactly what I am sharing with you.

In conclusion,if you possess the heart of a submissive soul,or the demeanor of a gentleman,then I will be gracious enough to allow you into my realm,but if you are a cock stroking addict looking for his next usable eye candy fix,then you are barred from seeking my presence.