Sometimes gents just cannot see that they are taking a left turn away from my possible attention,when a few simple word changes would suffice to sway my decision whether to reject,eject,or accept the option of follow up interactions.
One of the most typical ways males initiate conversation with me online is like this "I want to serve you"...seems straightforward enough yes? Is it enough though,NO. Why is it that I am less than enthusiastic about responding to this first move? It lacks personal depth that is why.
I want to know why it is that you want to serve me.What is it about me personally over all of the hundred other Ladies online that has drawn you to me. What is it in me that makes your soul scream out from it's depths YES YES YES this is the ONE!!! Is it because our fetishes match,or because you lust over my photos(fyi-both responses are wrong).
A greater percentage of the time,I will actually take a moment just to ask why? Why me? If it is because our fetishes match,that is not enough(I am more than the sum of my fetishes)...and Lord help you if you say that it is because of my photos(I am more than one dimensional) and appearances in the end cease to be of importance if you cannot stand anything else about the person you have promised to dedicate your service to.
Now how to make a u-turn in the right direction. Instead of saying right off the bat "I want to serve you"..say something like "I find you of interest,and would like to take the time to get to know more about you". This will get my attention far faster than any tired copy and paste line ever tried on any Domme.
To go one step further,ask yourself why I would want you to serve me,and relay that information to me. What is it about you that will enrich my life? Are you obedient,are you attentive,are you a gentleman? What makes you different than any other male that has contacted me in the past,present or future?
I have given you the correct directions gents,now it is up to you whether to take a left or a right.
Showing posts with label bdsm service advice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label bdsm service advice. Show all posts
Sunday, August 9, 2015
Saturday, July 25, 2015
Second rate is a sacrilegious
How many of you gents have provided second rate service? I imagine quite a few. It is pretty much the standard for these days. I mean how hard is it to sit in front of a screen pledging to be all that your owner desires and requires,then in the next moment,log off of your pc and go about your everyday business never giving your owner a passing thought til it is time to log in once more? Pretty easy isn't it?
Those that lack internal discipline possess an ideal of service such as a passing fancy,an itch that you get scratched with the attention you crave at the moment,then disregard it til it rears it's needy head once more. What may not cross your mind is how very disrespectful your behavior is. I realize that life has a way of taking over minds and matters,but for a genuine subgent,his owner occupies his mind always,even if it is not the forefront thought when at work,or with family. He does not allow himself to forget her when the screen goes blank. He devotes time,effort and thoughts towards how he can become a better servant for her,in other words he works hard for the honor he receives. He does not rest on his laurels(past tributes,or atta boy acts). Always he seeks to improve the service he offers.
I daily read complaint after complaint on boards,sites,even twitter about the lack of decent subgents,and do you know why that is,second rate service. Second rate service as well encompasses those that do not serve at all. I am referring to the gargantuan force of fetishists inhabiting the findom scene. Those that do not want to serve,but will play at it during a cam session,or to obtain whatever it is they seek for their cock high,whether it be photos,clips,or attention. How does one differentiate between a fetishist playing servant,and a second rate service provider...basically you do not,for the end results are generally the same...neither wishes to tribute(give a gift),but atleast for the Ladies that offer services,they are most likely to get paid something(although that is not technically defined as findom).
Unfortunately the lovely Ladies who claim the title of FinDomme in my opinion are force fed the greatest amount of crap above any other Domme. Not so surprising actually. 1)They are prone to hatred and backlash from the lifestyle community who believes them to be whores,gold diggers,and sugar babies(all named are declared lower than a scat lover). 2)I have even seen them bashed by Pro-Dommes(as in those that work in dungeons) 3)They are subject to verbal abuse by males whom have no means to support themselves,much less gift a Domme(this is why they are single and prone to misogynistic outbursts,I mean would you not be angry with women,if you could not even afford a fast food date..yet sadly their anger should be directed internally rather than seeking an external target). 4)There is as well, catfights and backstabbing towards other Ladies within the findom community,and that is pathetic. What could be an opportunity to band together in support from the outsiders who detest all that findom stands for,is instead skewed into a dog eat dog competition...younger Ladies bash older Ladies,older Ladies bash younger Ladies...and do not get me started on the egos,and insecurities that eclipse the worst electoral mudslinging I have ever witnessed.
Points being 1)You must have the thick hide of a rhino to survive the onslaught of insults you receive. 2)You must have the patience of a Saint to make it through the days where all you hear are lies from males pertaining to serving and tributing. 3)You must be savvy in whom you place your trust even when it comes to other FinDommes,for today's bff may be tomorrow's worst enemy when you snag a prospective servant that she desired as her own,or a tribute amount that raised her hackles. 4)You must be intelligent enough to quickly recognize every single timewaster ploy,else you spend hour after hour,day after day, dredging through useless missive after missive,and receiving no intake for your output.
At the end of the day,and after all of the trivial trials,second rate service seems like a blasphemous slap in the face...and that is seriously one thing that could be done without,so gents please have yourself in order when you ask to serve.
*disclaimer* I am in no way stating or inferring that ALL FinDomme Females act in the above mentioned manner,nor that the entirety of Pro-Dommes or Lifestyle Dommes do either,so please take no offense,where none is intended.
Those that lack internal discipline possess an ideal of service such as a passing fancy,an itch that you get scratched with the attention you crave at the moment,then disregard it til it rears it's needy head once more. What may not cross your mind is how very disrespectful your behavior is. I realize that life has a way of taking over minds and matters,but for a genuine subgent,his owner occupies his mind always,even if it is not the forefront thought when at work,or with family. He does not allow himself to forget her when the screen goes blank. He devotes time,effort and thoughts towards how he can become a better servant for her,in other words he works hard for the honor he receives. He does not rest on his laurels(past tributes,or atta boy acts). Always he seeks to improve the service he offers.
I daily read complaint after complaint on boards,sites,even twitter about the lack of decent subgents,and do you know why that is,second rate service. Second rate service as well encompasses those that do not serve at all. I am referring to the gargantuan force of fetishists inhabiting the findom scene. Those that do not want to serve,but will play at it during a cam session,or to obtain whatever it is they seek for their cock high,whether it be photos,clips,or attention. How does one differentiate between a fetishist playing servant,and a second rate service provider...basically you do not,for the end results are generally the same...neither wishes to tribute(give a gift),but atleast for the Ladies that offer services,they are most likely to get paid something(although that is not technically defined as findom).
Unfortunately the lovely Ladies who claim the title of FinDomme in my opinion are force fed the greatest amount of crap above any other Domme. Not so surprising actually. 1)They are prone to hatred and backlash from the lifestyle community who believes them to be whores,gold diggers,and sugar babies(all named are declared lower than a scat lover). 2)I have even seen them bashed by Pro-Dommes(as in those that work in dungeons) 3)They are subject to verbal abuse by males whom have no means to support themselves,much less gift a Domme(this is why they are single and prone to misogynistic outbursts,I mean would you not be angry with women,if you could not even afford a fast food date..yet sadly their anger should be directed internally rather than seeking an external target). 4)There is as well, catfights and backstabbing towards other Ladies within the findom community,and that is pathetic. What could be an opportunity to band together in support from the outsiders who detest all that findom stands for,is instead skewed into a dog eat dog competition...younger Ladies bash older Ladies,older Ladies bash younger Ladies...and do not get me started on the egos,and insecurities that eclipse the worst electoral mudslinging I have ever witnessed.
Points being 1)You must have the thick hide of a rhino to survive the onslaught of insults you receive. 2)You must have the patience of a Saint to make it through the days where all you hear are lies from males pertaining to serving and tributing. 3)You must be savvy in whom you place your trust even when it comes to other FinDommes,for today's bff may be tomorrow's worst enemy when you snag a prospective servant that she desired as her own,or a tribute amount that raised her hackles. 4)You must be intelligent enough to quickly recognize every single timewaster ploy,else you spend hour after hour,day after day, dredging through useless missive after missive,and receiving no intake for your output.
At the end of the day,and after all of the trivial trials,second rate service seems like a blasphemous slap in the face...and that is seriously one thing that could be done without,so gents please have yourself in order when you ask to serve.
*disclaimer* I am in no way stating or inferring that ALL FinDomme Females act in the above mentioned manner,nor that the entirety of Pro-Dommes or Lifestyle Dommes do either,so please take no offense,where none is intended.
Saturday, May 9, 2015
Jerking is for jokers
The title is misleading,as I am in no way referring to jerking in the masturbatory sense,but rather discussing the behavior of being a jerk.
In the online realm as well as real time,relationships do not always go smooth,or even last. Some are even fated to fail from the get go,but that does not mean that they need to end with sour thoughts and hard feelings.
One of the defining qualities of being an adult is maturity. Now I know that everyone has heard that word at one point and time,but,and that is a big but,not everyone is capable of handling situations with maturity,especially ones that have the potential for uncomfortable emotional outbursts.
How you deal with such situations is up to you,but always be prepared for the repercussions if you do so with a juvenile approach. There are right ways,and wrong ways to break off a relationship,even a bdsm one.
The most common action for dissolution I have seen is the magical act of disappearing. In this scenario,the servant simply fades from existence(just like a deserter from the armed services). They may cease logging into the site where they met the other person,or even going so far as to block the one they served or close out their account,and make up a new one entirely. Now these are the juvenile actions I referred to. It is akin to closing the closet door,and pretending that the monster(problem) is no longer there,but where this will bite you in the ass,is that eventually you will run out of closet space,and all of your junk will be visible to the world(community)...then what shall you do? Believe it or not,dominants do speak with one another,even warn each other about the undesirable proclivities of certain males. You may even find yourself credited with a poor reputation,which will deter you from being taken seriously,or even considered for service at all,and that equates to game over for you.
I realize that it is a difficult feat relaying to a dominant that you no longer desire to serve them,but this is what separates the men from the boys. Men do not run from possible verbal confrontation. I mean seriously,what can someone actually do to you from the other side of a monitor,virtually nothing other than pointing out you are acting like a douche,and let's be honest,it most likely is not the first time you have been described as such,so man up.
There have been plenty of males that just did not work out when it came to serving me,for one reason or another,but the ones that hold my respect are those that came to me directly and stated in a polite and deferential manner why they felt that it was not working,and asked for release. By being honest,I had absolutely no reason to be angry,or whip them with a tirade of backlash. This type of behavior,also leaves the door open for a return to my feet if they are able to work through their issues.
The ones that behaved like asshats though by running without saying a word,are the ones I block permanently. As the saying goes "never burn your bridges",because then it is too late for reconciliation of your transgressions,and yes there have been quite a few who regretted jumping ship,but there was no way back for them,and no amount of tribute could alter my decision.
I am not saying that all dominants will accept an application to sever ties in such a manner(there are always exceptions),but you will never find out,especially if your modus operandi is tucking tail and burrowing out a hidey hole til the storm blows over,so in conclusion I will end this post with a spongebob quote "don't be a jerk".
In the online realm as well as real time,relationships do not always go smooth,or even last. Some are even fated to fail from the get go,but that does not mean that they need to end with sour thoughts and hard feelings.
One of the defining qualities of being an adult is maturity. Now I know that everyone has heard that word at one point and time,but,and that is a big but,not everyone is capable of handling situations with maturity,especially ones that have the potential for uncomfortable emotional outbursts.
How you deal with such situations is up to you,but always be prepared for the repercussions if you do so with a juvenile approach. There are right ways,and wrong ways to break off a relationship,even a bdsm one.
The most common action for dissolution I have seen is the magical act of disappearing. In this scenario,the servant simply fades from existence(just like a deserter from the armed services). They may cease logging into the site where they met the other person,or even going so far as to block the one they served or close out their account,and make up a new one entirely. Now these are the juvenile actions I referred to. It is akin to closing the closet door,and pretending that the monster(problem) is no longer there,but where this will bite you in the ass,is that eventually you will run out of closet space,and all of your junk will be visible to the world(community)...then what shall you do? Believe it or not,dominants do speak with one another,even warn each other about the undesirable proclivities of certain males. You may even find yourself credited with a poor reputation,which will deter you from being taken seriously,or even considered for service at all,and that equates to game over for you.
I realize that it is a difficult feat relaying to a dominant that you no longer desire to serve them,but this is what separates the men from the boys. Men do not run from possible verbal confrontation. I mean seriously,what can someone actually do to you from the other side of a monitor,virtually nothing other than pointing out you are acting like a douche,and let's be honest,it most likely is not the first time you have been described as such,so man up.
There have been plenty of males that just did not work out when it came to serving me,for one reason or another,but the ones that hold my respect are those that came to me directly and stated in a polite and deferential manner why they felt that it was not working,and asked for release. By being honest,I had absolutely no reason to be angry,or whip them with a tirade of backlash. This type of behavior,also leaves the door open for a return to my feet if they are able to work through their issues.
The ones that behaved like asshats though by running without saying a word,are the ones I block permanently. As the saying goes "never burn your bridges",because then it is too late for reconciliation of your transgressions,and yes there have been quite a few who regretted jumping ship,but there was no way back for them,and no amount of tribute could alter my decision.
I am not saying that all dominants will accept an application to sever ties in such a manner(there are always exceptions),but you will never find out,especially if your modus operandi is tucking tail and burrowing out a hidey hole til the storm blows over,so in conclusion I will end this post with a spongebob quote "don't be a jerk".
Saturday, March 14, 2015
Out of order
One of the easiest ways to flip my welcome mat over is to approach me like you would a fetish machine, quarters out, punching in your selection for what you want. Unlike your local vending dispenser I offer only 2 choices, serve or do not serve. Once you have chosen, then either you relinquish control, or you disappear. It leaves little room for confusion doing it this way.
My expectations are that when you come to me, that you have studied up on me (read my blogs, read my profile, for these are your bible verses) and have already decided that you are prepared to work towards becoming my loyal servant (this is a sign of sincerity), else wise why would you waste time approaching me, and believe me that yes it is a waste of time to contact me if you are not sure of mind. I recognize that many of you are new, and just finding your footing so to speak along the slippery slopes of service, which is why I advise you to wait til such time as you know exactly what you are agreeing to by entering into serving a Domme. Only fools rush in ill prepared. Are you a fool? Oh please do respond in the negatory, for there are entirely too many of those in life outside of the fetish world.
There are multitudes of differing styles when it comes to domination, but mine is fairly straightforward. I am old school in my ways. I believe that a collar or consideration is EARNED. It is not a given, and it takes more than a couple of tributes to get that distinction, so please do not for a moment in time allow yourself to think that I will make it easy for you. Any relationship, and I do mean any, requires effort, for anything just given to you, is pale in comparison to something that you have diligently applied yourself towards achieving. I desire only those that are not fearful of working hard (sloth is a sin, not to mention ugly), that do not live in the magical land of entitlement (only in fantasies will you receive the golden ticket for a free ride) ,nor they whom see themselves as a buyer of domination (your money buys you nothing with or of me). A school where respect and manners are of the highest accord. The arena where gentlemen are favored and cads are fed to the lions (yup nice guys get a pass around the red rope which detains the reprobates).
Submission to me is a release (not a physical one, take note that chastity is my favored fetish)..a release of all the stress imposed upon you by a constricting life. In my realm you are allowed to let loose the hidden submissive which the world cannot accept. A safe haven where you can finally be what it is that you truly are. A dominion where there is no shock or disgust that your heart's desire is to kneel, to beg, to give yourself over to the power of another. What you will not find though, is a release from consent. In my mind "force" is a four letter word. Never shall I force anything. I am not here to coax, cajole, bully, take, or seduce your submission. If you are not submitting of your own free will, than I do not desire your submission.
Now is that not a simple view for you? If not, then I will list off what you should have gathered from this post of mine.
1)Dommes are NOT objectified fetish machines
2)Know what it is that you want (serve or do not)
3)Hard work opens doors that money cannot
4)Gentlemen are desired
5)Force and entitlement are no nos
6)Consent is needed, consent is required, consent, consent, consent
My expectations are that when you come to me, that you have studied up on me (read my blogs, read my profile, for these are your bible verses) and have already decided that you are prepared to work towards becoming my loyal servant (this is a sign of sincerity), else wise why would you waste time approaching me, and believe me that yes it is a waste of time to contact me if you are not sure of mind. I recognize that many of you are new, and just finding your footing so to speak along the slippery slopes of service, which is why I advise you to wait til such time as you know exactly what you are agreeing to by entering into serving a Domme. Only fools rush in ill prepared. Are you a fool? Oh please do respond in the negatory, for there are entirely too many of those in life outside of the fetish world.
There are multitudes of differing styles when it comes to domination, but mine is fairly straightforward. I am old school in my ways. I believe that a collar or consideration is EARNED. It is not a given, and it takes more than a couple of tributes to get that distinction, so please do not for a moment in time allow yourself to think that I will make it easy for you. Any relationship, and I do mean any, requires effort, for anything just given to you, is pale in comparison to something that you have diligently applied yourself towards achieving. I desire only those that are not fearful of working hard (sloth is a sin, not to mention ugly), that do not live in the magical land of entitlement (only in fantasies will you receive the golden ticket for a free ride) ,nor they whom see themselves as a buyer of domination (your money buys you nothing with or of me). A school where respect and manners are of the highest accord. The arena where gentlemen are favored and cads are fed to the lions (yup nice guys get a pass around the red rope which detains the reprobates).
Submission to me is a release (not a physical one, take note that chastity is my favored fetish)..a release of all the stress imposed upon you by a constricting life. In my realm you are allowed to let loose the hidden submissive which the world cannot accept. A safe haven where you can finally be what it is that you truly are. A dominion where there is no shock or disgust that your heart's desire is to kneel, to beg, to give yourself over to the power of another. What you will not find though, is a release from consent. In my mind "force" is a four letter word. Never shall I force anything. I am not here to coax, cajole, bully, take, or seduce your submission. If you are not submitting of your own free will, than I do not desire your submission.
Now is that not a simple view for you? If not, then I will list off what you should have gathered from this post of mine.
1)Dommes are NOT objectified fetish machines
2)Know what it is that you want (serve or do not)
3)Hard work opens doors that money cannot
4)Gentlemen are desired
5)Force and entitlement are no nos
6)Consent is needed, consent is required, consent, consent, consent
Wednesday, February 4, 2015
Is there meaning
One of the things I am forced to ask myself with some regularity,is if there is meaning in the search. I have no doubt that some of you have posed the same question. You log onto sites day in day out,dealing with all manners of idiocy(outright lies,vaguely disguised exaggerations,stringent demands,disrespectful dialogue etc..),and it seriously makes one wonder if the time invested is worth the headaches produced.
I have never been one to sugarcoat what must be said,nor do I skirt along the edges of mundane truth. One thing I have learned since joining the online fetish scene is that the disappointments will outweigh the highs. For every 1 male that knows what it is to be selflessly submissive to a female,there are approximately 100 that do not,nor care. The odds are not good,and if findom were a game that a booky took bets on,then I would deter from laying a wager on an enriching outcome. This is not me being a downer,this is a voice of realistic reasoning speaking out against the fantasies which are preferable to reality. Yes it is possible to connect with decent,worthwhile submissives,and of course they are the rays of sunshine within the dreary drought we all trek through,but they are not the norm of what you will deal with is what I am saying,so if you come into this with the expectation that you are going to be besieged by infinite numbers of paying males,then you will be sorely let down.
Findom is one of the most if not the most difficult fetishes to find completion in. In the bdsm scene outside of findom,the number of subs vs Dommes rises exponentially thereby ensuring greater odds of success in locating a servant,but here within this niche the numbers are reversed,and this leads to less than pleasing results if you are a Domme. What you will not find is males begging to serve you,least not financially,and unfortunately it attracts some of the worst sort of types.
It makes no sense why anyone would join,chase,or engage in interactions with someone that does not meet the criteria you seek,yet this is exactly what I see. Lack of education is acceptable,because brains can be taught,but the disrespect is a bit more difficult to swallow,rather like a bitter pill with no water to wash it down.
One point I wanted to look at is why this is happening. Could it possibly be that males are drawn to this fetish due to so many females engaging in it more than ever? Another reason may be that males with no understanding of findom come knocking in the hopes that they can cajole or shame Ladies into forgoing the financial aspect,thereby making a more concerted effort into the single domination realm. One other thing I see is males with no prospects of paying,insinuating themselves or attempting to,as a friend. I am going to assume that they reckon they can siphon off some on the side domination this way. Regardless of why it occurs,it is disagreeable. Answer me this,Ladies did you come here to make male friends,or conquests? Did you put in your time here to secure male allies,or to garner long term servants? I am not saying that you cannot be friendly with whomever you choose,but look at it this way,if you are spending your time upon those that do not financially adore and spoil you,then what dividends are you getting in return for your investment?
What can be done about this trend? To begin with,the change must come from the Dommes. Nothing will ever alter without the strong leading the weak. Clean your house daily,and by that I mean,never allow the rubbish in to begin with. If a male without doubt has no interest in being financially dominated,why give him a single breath from your body,unless you are not here to financially dominate,then by all means let me ask you this,why are you in the findom scene? This can be a cruelly cold niche to an outsider that is true,but I have found it a welcome haven for those that sincerely dedicate themselves to it.
Being a FinDomme is not a title sans responsibility though. In the beginning one may think "oh I don't have to worry about making the scene a better place for all",but that is erroneous. Leading means taking the lead role. It is a type of duty where you point the inexperienced in the correct direction,and the pretenders into the shitter. It is a lifestyle,not a game. I am not saying that it is not meant to be fun,but all fun and games it is not. Just as in life,sometimes,and some predicaments need to be taken seriously,otherwise is there truly meaning in the search?
I have never been one to sugarcoat what must be said,nor do I skirt along the edges of mundane truth. One thing I have learned since joining the online fetish scene is that the disappointments will outweigh the highs. For every 1 male that knows what it is to be selflessly submissive to a female,there are approximately 100 that do not,nor care. The odds are not good,and if findom were a game that a booky took bets on,then I would deter from laying a wager on an enriching outcome. This is not me being a downer,this is a voice of realistic reasoning speaking out against the fantasies which are preferable to reality. Yes it is possible to connect with decent,worthwhile submissives,and of course they are the rays of sunshine within the dreary drought we all trek through,but they are not the norm of what you will deal with is what I am saying,so if you come into this with the expectation that you are going to be besieged by infinite numbers of paying males,then you will be sorely let down.
Findom is one of the most if not the most difficult fetishes to find completion in. In the bdsm scene outside of findom,the number of subs vs Dommes rises exponentially thereby ensuring greater odds of success in locating a servant,but here within this niche the numbers are reversed,and this leads to less than pleasing results if you are a Domme. What you will not find is males begging to serve you,least not financially,and unfortunately it attracts some of the worst sort of types.
It makes no sense why anyone would join,chase,or engage in interactions with someone that does not meet the criteria you seek,yet this is exactly what I see. Lack of education is acceptable,because brains can be taught,but the disrespect is a bit more difficult to swallow,rather like a bitter pill with no water to wash it down.
One point I wanted to look at is why this is happening. Could it possibly be that males are drawn to this fetish due to so many females engaging in it more than ever? Another reason may be that males with no understanding of findom come knocking in the hopes that they can cajole or shame Ladies into forgoing the financial aspect,thereby making a more concerted effort into the single domination realm. One other thing I see is males with no prospects of paying,insinuating themselves or attempting to,as a friend. I am going to assume that they reckon they can siphon off some on the side domination this way. Regardless of why it occurs,it is disagreeable. Answer me this,Ladies did you come here to make male friends,or conquests? Did you put in your time here to secure male allies,or to garner long term servants? I am not saying that you cannot be friendly with whomever you choose,but look at it this way,if you are spending your time upon those that do not financially adore and spoil you,then what dividends are you getting in return for your investment?
What can be done about this trend? To begin with,the change must come from the Dommes. Nothing will ever alter without the strong leading the weak. Clean your house daily,and by that I mean,never allow the rubbish in to begin with. If a male without doubt has no interest in being financially dominated,why give him a single breath from your body,unless you are not here to financially dominate,then by all means let me ask you this,why are you in the findom scene? This can be a cruelly cold niche to an outsider that is true,but I have found it a welcome haven for those that sincerely dedicate themselves to it.
Being a FinDomme is not a title sans responsibility though. In the beginning one may think "oh I don't have to worry about making the scene a better place for all",but that is erroneous. Leading means taking the lead role. It is a type of duty where you point the inexperienced in the correct direction,and the pretenders into the shitter. It is a lifestyle,not a game. I am not saying that it is not meant to be fun,but all fun and games it is not. Just as in life,sometimes,and some predicaments need to be taken seriously,otherwise is there truly meaning in the search?
Monday, January 12, 2015
Profiles can make or break a boy
I was inspired to type this up due to a piece I had read by Goddess Lea in which she touched upon the subject of a boy's profile and how it can influence an approach or a bypass,which I am choosing to expand upon regarding my own personal views.
I am always looking at profiles,males and females,just because lol. I have viewed tons of male profiles,and skirted away from ever interacting with some due to what I have seen or read there. I am positive that it could not be merely little old me that judges whether I would like to know a person based on what is on their profile.
One of the things that I bet most males do not realize could be a deterrent is if they have a ton of friends. It could just be that you are friendly,or that you want to have access to private photos which are set to friends only for some,or that you are not here to serve because you are broke,but it makes you feel important to have so many "friends",or even that you engage in that odd behavior of just collecting friends like some people do pez dispensers. Is that a fetish?
I also look at who their friends are and seek patterns. Now if all of their friends are brunette,does that not tell me something? Just as,if all of their friends are of a younger generation than I ,does that not relay something as well? These are both clues as to the fact that we are not going to mesh well.
The ones which really send up red flag warnings are those that are blank and non-verified,for this is indicative of sloth,and a lack of respect for the site and fetish. Surely it does not take that long to type up a couple of sentences,they need not even be full ones at that,not to mention that a non-verified status especially if you have been here longer than a couple of weeks just screams I am too cheap to support my fetish,or worse yet BROKE(yuck). In a fetish based upon financial,being cheap or broke likens you to a leper,get my drift,but then if you joined with the agenda of peeking and perving whilst pulling your pud,then enjoy your free time til your account becomes frozen :)
Onto ratings. You know those stars on your info page,whelp they mean something to those of us whom have been around awhile,and yes I always take note of them. If you have 20 1 star ratings I am sure as hell not going to place any faith in your ability to serve. This is not to say that you will never peev someone off and end up with a poor rating,but multiples are a no no. The best way to avoid this downfall is to remain honest and true. Never over promise,and most certainly never under deliver,last but not least,NEVER cancel orders,or make a promise which you cannot nor intend to keep. Your word is your bond baby.
The most icky(yes I used that juvenile verbiage) aspect of any profile is generally the photo section when it comes to males. For all that is holy man,women do NOT want to see your pecker or your puckered arsehole(personally it makes bile rise in my throat). Keep that shit under cover. Do not employ the site as a means to obtain free humiliation. If you just have to flash your equipment,do us all a favor and do it in public,that way you will be arrested,and unable to log into the site from the grey bar motel.
And finally if you are under consideration or owned,do your handler the honor of placing her name on your profile,lest someone think you a liar,but of course no male has ever lied about being owned when he wasn't now have they,ya right, so show pride in the fact that someone actually thinks you are of value to serve.
I am always looking at profiles,males and females,just because lol. I have viewed tons of male profiles,and skirted away from ever interacting with some due to what I have seen or read there. I am positive that it could not be merely little old me that judges whether I would like to know a person based on what is on their profile.
One of the things that I bet most males do not realize could be a deterrent is if they have a ton of friends. It could just be that you are friendly,or that you want to have access to private photos which are set to friends only for some,or that you are not here to serve because you are broke,but it makes you feel important to have so many "friends",or even that you engage in that odd behavior of just collecting friends like some people do pez dispensers. Is that a fetish?
I also look at who their friends are and seek patterns. Now if all of their friends are brunette,does that not tell me something? Just as,if all of their friends are of a younger generation than I ,does that not relay something as well? These are both clues as to the fact that we are not going to mesh well.
The ones which really send up red flag warnings are those that are blank and non-verified,for this is indicative of sloth,and a lack of respect for the site and fetish. Surely it does not take that long to type up a couple of sentences,they need not even be full ones at that,not to mention that a non-verified status especially if you have been here longer than a couple of weeks just screams I am too cheap to support my fetish,or worse yet BROKE(yuck). In a fetish based upon financial,being cheap or broke likens you to a leper,get my drift,but then if you joined with the agenda of peeking and perving whilst pulling your pud,then enjoy your free time til your account becomes frozen :)
Onto ratings. You know those stars on your info page,whelp they mean something to those of us whom have been around awhile,and yes I always take note of them. If you have 20 1 star ratings I am sure as hell not going to place any faith in your ability to serve. This is not to say that you will never peev someone off and end up with a poor rating,but multiples are a no no. The best way to avoid this downfall is to remain honest and true. Never over promise,and most certainly never under deliver,last but not least,NEVER cancel orders,or make a promise which you cannot nor intend to keep. Your word is your bond baby.
The most icky(yes I used that juvenile verbiage) aspect of any profile is generally the photo section when it comes to males. For all that is holy man,women do NOT want to see your pecker or your puckered arsehole(personally it makes bile rise in my throat). Keep that shit under cover. Do not employ the site as a means to obtain free humiliation. If you just have to flash your equipment,do us all a favor and do it in public,that way you will be arrested,and unable to log into the site from the grey bar motel.
And finally if you are under consideration or owned,do your handler the honor of placing her name on your profile,lest someone think you a liar,but of course no male has ever lied about being owned when he wasn't now have they,ya right, so show pride in the fact that someone actually thinks you are of value to serve.
Monday, December 29, 2014
Femdom or faux
Common sense should tell one that their visions,and hopes are unrealistic. I mean seriously,does anyone truly believe outside of a bar that a sober stranger wants to sensually play with their sexual organs,or enact a scene which gets them off for the pure pleasure of it? If you honestly buy into the fantasy,then please get psychiatric guidance,because you are living in la la land.
Female domination is not based on sex,hell domination itself is not either,but things have become so dastardly convoluted that one cannot see beyond tits,ass,pussy,and cock. I ask myself if this is merely a phase,or is this the new face of the fetish scene,and if it is,then I have no use for it. I genuinely mourn the loss of interacting with gentlemen whom appreciate a Lady,and respectfully bow down to her wishes,sans hidden agendas.
One would hope that with age comes wisdom and life shaping experience(the reason why I do not consider any male under 30),but even the males I have exchanged missives with within my desired age range have become soiled and spoiled into thinking that bdsm is all about them,and their cock emissions.
I would love nothing more than to slap a certain popular female femdom writer in the face due to her portraying males as treasures to be treated as a godsend. Yes submission is a gift,but that does not make you a special snowflake. Ask yourself just how many submissives do you think are on the internet,hell in the entire world looking for a Domme? You would be astounded to learn that you are one of thousands upon thousands,so why should any Lady consent to training you? What do you have to offer which makes you of value,and no the size of your equipment,nor a hot body matters. Pretty boys are a dime a dozen,so do not bank on that either.
As a submissve your submission is a commodity,so what makes it of worth? Are you attentive,are you capable of integrity,and devotion? Do you possess the maturity to recognize that it is not your will that matters? I am not saying that you do not have the right to choose whom you serve,but I am saying that this is where you must drop the attitude that you are entitled to call the shots. A power exchange involves you relinquishing control,not barking orders from the bottom. You can never forget your place in service. You are the one serving,not the one being served,which is an entirely different endeavor,so keep this in mind when you are looking around at what the monkeys are doing,and try your best not to ape them,for you devalue yourself by doing so.
Friday, December 5, 2014
Serving or sessions
When I am screening a male for consideration to me,one of the predominant methods of ascertaining whether he is a viable candidate is to assess whether he wants for me or from me. Now if he wants from me,then he is automatically filed into the undesirable bin,and passed along,but if he is one of the very rare jewels whom wants for me,well then he is moved up to the front of the line. This process of weeding out is one of the surest routes that I know of as it is always successful.
As to how it works,that is simple. Seeing as I do not make initial contact,a male is placed in the position of gathering up his courage to reach out to me first,and generally by the lines of his first missive I am able to form an opinion of whether or not I desire to block or reply,which saves me precious time,that could have been wasted. Now you may be asking yourself,how can she tell that quickly if a male is worth her time,and the answer is that I have learned through experience,but I am willing to divulge a few tips.
Boys if you are starting your correspondence with self centered motivation(I will see it) just from the words you elect to employ,such as "I want,I like,I need" I I I...yup you have just shown me that all you are focused on is you,and that is not the point of service. Another no no is spewing out fetish porn dialogue right off the bat,once again you are waving the wanker flag,and I am done with you before you began. Continuing forward. Do not send a little message saying "hi",why not,well it conveys laziness,and that is something that I avoid like the plague,nor do you put your best foot forward with a wee penis pic(ugh hot pokers in the eyes are preferable to that)
If any of what I described above resembles you,then welcome to the majority of men on the fetish sites,you are no longer in the minority. Before you get your dander flying,I am not condemning males whom are just around to get off and log out. What I am saying though is that you are worthless to any woman seeking actual service,and no most Dominas do not want to be your fapping friend. I truly wish I knew whom started that bullshit spiel about ladies getting off watching men pulling their little puds,so that I could slap them in the face with a flaccid wand. Seriously boys who told you that females want to turn on their cam,and masturbate watching you shove objects up your ass,or playing with your pecker? Now this is not entirely true,but do you know why? Yup cause there are tons of sites dedicated to women masturbating for your viewing pleasure,and even doing so whilst you are displaying your goods to them,BUT you are failing to realize that this is not the modus operandi for every site,in fact it is not one for most sites.
I digress,but my point is that,you know full well from the get go whether you are here to serve or to session with a cam model,and it is your responsibility to know which type of lady you are approaching prior to doing so. You waste more than your own time when you contact a Domina whom expects to be served if you are in it to win the sticky finger salute,so do everyone a favor,and join the sites where you are most likely to obtain your goal,whether it be serving or sessioning,and in the long run you will be happy that you did.
As to how it works,that is simple. Seeing as I do not make initial contact,a male is placed in the position of gathering up his courage to reach out to me first,and generally by the lines of his first missive I am able to form an opinion of whether or not I desire to block or reply,which saves me precious time,that could have been wasted. Now you may be asking yourself,how can she tell that quickly if a male is worth her time,and the answer is that I have learned through experience,but I am willing to divulge a few tips.
Boys if you are starting your correspondence with self centered motivation(I will see it) just from the words you elect to employ,such as "I want,I like,I need" I I I...yup you have just shown me that all you are focused on is you,and that is not the point of service. Another no no is spewing out fetish porn dialogue right off the bat,once again you are waving the wanker flag,and I am done with you before you began. Continuing forward. Do not send a little message saying "hi",why not,well it conveys laziness,and that is something that I avoid like the plague,nor do you put your best foot forward with a wee penis pic(ugh hot pokers in the eyes are preferable to that)
If any of what I described above resembles you,then welcome to the majority of men on the fetish sites,you are no longer in the minority. Before you get your dander flying,I am not condemning males whom are just around to get off and log out. What I am saying though is that you are worthless to any woman seeking actual service,and no most Dominas do not want to be your fapping friend. I truly wish I knew whom started that bullshit spiel about ladies getting off watching men pulling their little puds,so that I could slap them in the face with a flaccid wand. Seriously boys who told you that females want to turn on their cam,and masturbate watching you shove objects up your ass,or playing with your pecker? Now this is not entirely true,but do you know why? Yup cause there are tons of sites dedicated to women masturbating for your viewing pleasure,and even doing so whilst you are displaying your goods to them,BUT you are failing to realize that this is not the modus operandi for every site,in fact it is not one for most sites.
I digress,but my point is that,you know full well from the get go whether you are here to serve or to session with a cam model,and it is your responsibility to know which type of lady you are approaching prior to doing so. You waste more than your own time when you contact a Domina whom expects to be served if you are in it to win the sticky finger salute,so do everyone a favor,and join the sites where you are most likely to obtain your goal,whether it be serving or sessioning,and in the long run you will be happy that you did.
Tuesday, November 25, 2014
Where oh where have I been
Some of you may have noticed,whilst others could not care less that I have been absent,or rarely around over the last couple of weeks,which has been quite refreshing for me personally. I mentioned awhile back that I had received a substantial salary upgrade,and along with that came extended work hours due to accepting more responsibilities,which equates to less time and availability for the fetish activities I enjoy. This by no means is suggestive of me brushing aside the possibility of accepting submissive gentlemen into my gilded stables,rather in fact I am anticipating my due worship as a Goddess amongst males,but my criteria has narrowed the parameters of whom I will deem worthy.
In the past I condescended to respond to all those that craved a moment of my time,so long as they did not barrage my eyes with undesirable photos,but now my time constraints will not allow for such,which means that my response will be gifted only upon those that treat it as an honor,not a right. Life and the time allotted to us as human beings is finite and beyond priceless,so I feel no overwhelming need to connect with every person whom contacts me. Now I hope that my message conveys to you exactly my supreme intent,and for those that cannot break it down properly,I will be kind enough to make it crystal for you.
My attention is for only those that worship and serve as a submissive or gentleman admirer are meant to. This means once again(and why I have to keep repeating this is beyond me)that I will not,nor have I ever accepted performing sessions,as they are not what serving a dominant means to me. Nor do I care to be a voyeur to your displays of anal insertions,or any activity which brings forth an orgasm for you. Chastity and financial domination are the loves of my fetish heart,so to offer me less will find you rebuked.
I am not one to play cute games. I am brutally blunt,and straightforward in my expectations. There is not enough time in the day for me to develop a tolerance for catering to male fantasies,and the very fact that I proclaim myself a female supremacist should have already clued you into that. I am a serious minded thinking being,but that is not indicative of a droll personality,merely that I possess no desire to align myself with any whom are playing at being submissive to women with their dick in hand. To me,submission is not based upon sex or masturbation,and if your dick needs to be erect to serve,then I want no part of you. Service itself should be an intellectual and emotional nirvana which leaves you tingly,breathless,and blessed,not perpetuated upon seed coating your hand.
With all of this stated,you are welcome to display your interest in serving me,so long as this is exactly what you are prepared to do. If you are an unsure soul stumbling along,then I advise you to get yourself in order before you utter a peep,and lastly for the ones whom declare that they need time to get to know me,whelp that is what my blog site is for,but be warned you will actually have to spend your time reading it,so if you are just too lazy for that type of exertion,then I am not one whom will find you worth my efforts either.
The above opinions and statements are mine alone,and not meant as a hard rule for the entirety of my peers,and with that said,none of it applies to any ladies reading this,as I always welcome friendship and conversation with other awesome fetish femmes :)
In the past I condescended to respond to all those that craved a moment of my time,so long as they did not barrage my eyes with undesirable photos,but now my time constraints will not allow for such,which means that my response will be gifted only upon those that treat it as an honor,not a right. Life and the time allotted to us as human beings is finite and beyond priceless,so I feel no overwhelming need to connect with every person whom contacts me. Now I hope that my message conveys to you exactly my supreme intent,and for those that cannot break it down properly,I will be kind enough to make it crystal for you.
My attention is for only those that worship and serve as a submissive or gentleman admirer are meant to. This means once again(and why I have to keep repeating this is beyond me)that I will not,nor have I ever accepted performing sessions,as they are not what serving a dominant means to me. Nor do I care to be a voyeur to your displays of anal insertions,or any activity which brings forth an orgasm for you. Chastity and financial domination are the loves of my fetish heart,so to offer me less will find you rebuked.
I am not one to play cute games. I am brutally blunt,and straightforward in my expectations. There is not enough time in the day for me to develop a tolerance for catering to male fantasies,and the very fact that I proclaim myself a female supremacist should have already clued you into that. I am a serious minded thinking being,but that is not indicative of a droll personality,merely that I possess no desire to align myself with any whom are playing at being submissive to women with their dick in hand. To me,submission is not based upon sex or masturbation,and if your dick needs to be erect to serve,then I want no part of you. Service itself should be an intellectual and emotional nirvana which leaves you tingly,breathless,and blessed,not perpetuated upon seed coating your hand.
With all of this stated,you are welcome to display your interest in serving me,so long as this is exactly what you are prepared to do. If you are an unsure soul stumbling along,then I advise you to get yourself in order before you utter a peep,and lastly for the ones whom declare that they need time to get to know me,whelp that is what my blog site is for,but be warned you will actually have to spend your time reading it,so if you are just too lazy for that type of exertion,then I am not one whom will find you worth my efforts either.
The above opinions and statements are mine alone,and not meant as a hard rule for the entirety of my peers,and with that said,none of it applies to any ladies reading this,as I always welcome friendship and conversation with other awesome fetish femmes :)
Tuesday, October 21, 2014
So you think that you are ready to serve
"I want to serve you". This is the single most common email I receive from males on the various sites,and this is generally the very last thing they actually have in mind of doing. Now I am not referring to the notorious timewaster when I say this,as many times it is not the intention behind the contact with me. Fortunately as well as unfortunately there are torrents of new to the lifestyle males entering the bdsm realm daily. Fortunate for the fact it displays to me that males are accepting and actively pursuing the fruition of their submissive natures,unfortunate in the reality that they are basing their notions of what serving is upon non-fiction ideals.
This creates disappointment on all fronts,for neither side is having their expectations met. The easiest action would be to dub the male in question a timewaster,or equally dubious,a wank watcher,whilst the male names the Lady he contacted a fake,scammer,instadomme,or fraud. How does anyone walk away from this exchange enriched?
This is surely a case where a bit of knowledge would have saved the day,and avoided a negative interaction. I have always preached research,and educating yourself about the nuances and practices of bdsm prior to jumping in. No doubt that many activities are best experienced first hand before deciding if they are truly what you desire,but it will never negate the purpose behind possessing knowledge of the basic bdsm principles. Otherwise you are going to be like a lost wandering little puppy.
First I advise you to tale a deep breath (more oxygen to the brain is a good thing :). Now take a mental scouring brush to your mind,and eradicate every single thought which you maintained of serving being based on you,or any of your most lurid orgasmic fantasies. Taking all preconceived notions of having your wants met out of the equation will lead you to a state of mind much more conducive to submission. Submission is relinquishing power,releasing control(not cum). It is placing yourself without reservations into the hands of a dominant being for their use. It is not a guarantee that you will love every single task before you,but then the enjoyment is not meant to be derived from the task itself,but from the pleasure the dominant receives upon your completion of it.
Service is not a 24/7 kinkfest,let's face it,that would be utterly exhausting if it was. It is not all glamorous,and picture worthy either. Serving a dominant is not always a sexy erection provoking joyride. It is work. It is effort. It requires more of you than a mere physical response. That is why it takes a strong individual to kneel in submission.
Never forget that dominants are human beings too. They have duties and obligations outside of their servants,which means that they are not your handy dandy johnny on the spot kink candy dispenser. They do not ascribe to the myths which depict them clad in leather and lace minute by minute awaiting to tease and tantalize the senses of submissive males,that would be a selfishly absurd thought,now wouldn't it? Nor would it be realistic to assume that they idle their time away engaging in sexual scenes and acts portrayed in pornographic films. That is not to say that they do not engage in erotically charged sessions,just that they are not likely to with you.
Once you are able to take "self" out of the equation,then and only then will you be ready to serve. This is why your ego is not a positive attribute,egos are things which generate entitlement and the illusion of superiority,and in the beautifully exotic realm of service,you are not superior,it is your service which should bear that adjective,not you personally.
Now ask yourself one simple question. Are you really ready to serve?
Wednesday, October 8, 2014
Tuesday, October 7, 2014
Monday, September 29, 2014
Acceptable or insultingly pathetic
One of the frequently posed queries to me from both sides of the equation is "how much do I offer in tribute-how much of a tribute do I ask for?" This question is made difficult to respond to sans knowledge of mitigating factors such as,the amount of disposable income pertaining to the one offering tribute. I mean if the male in question works at a fast food venue he most likely is not going to be able to put forth the financial remuneration that the CEO of a fortune 500 company would. Make sense? Oh and for all of you new to the scene,a boy that works at McDonalds is not the most viable servant if the financial aspects are paramount to you,seeing as the national average of minimum wage has been shown to place an individual well below the poverty line.
Another tid bit to take into consideration is if the male in question has children,as this can and will greatly affect the determined amount. You would not want to fall into the cesspool of scum which would deprive a child now would you? One would think that this is something that the male would not put at risk,but we all know that when the dick makes the decisions,that they forget all other incidental circumstances,therefore we have a responsibility to keep it in mind.
Onto the meat of the matter. What is not an acceptable amount to offer or receive? My response is subjective which means that of course it is not a set in stone rule for the community as an entirety,and with that being said $10 is no different than a slap in the face. Ladies we all know that you put forth an extraordinary amount of time and energy into developing your skills as a Domina,as well as marketing yourself in the hopes of connecting with a kindred spirit,and how could it not be insulting to see such a poor token in your account. What does that amount say in regards to how your time and attention are valued? Not much huh?
Now of course the destitute males are going to balk at my statements,and yes I comprehend why. One plea they may make is that heartfelt servitude should mean more than money(yup some do attempt to guilt you into accepting a meager pittance using the line that a real Domme does not care about money),and I am sure that it doesn't when you are speaking with a strictly lifestyle Domme(yet even they will expect gifts),but anytime you are approaching a Lady of findom,you have to accept that tribute is not trivial. Hell even in the vanilla courtship realm you will get no where with $10...wake up! You cannot even take a female out on a date for that amount,unless of course you find a naive girl whom does not mind the dollar menu and redbox (good luck),so I advise you to save up before you make your first contact. You certainly do not want to be referred to as the laughingstock broke bitch by all of the ladies,now do you? Oh and get the thought out of your head that offering to do something vile ie drinking your jizz juice,or sticking an object up your ass is replaceable in lieu of tribute. In case you did not know it,we see these acts each and everyday online already.
Basically I see $25 as the bottom of the line tribute amount,now mind you this is not what I would charge for sessions if I offered them,but it is a starting point that a respectable finsub should be able to easily afford,and if not,then they should be seriously questioning whether they actually belong in this fetish. There you go :)
Saturday, September 27, 2014
Service Guru informercial for the day
Are you tired of being passed over,kicked to the curb,or not even noticed at all by the gloriously gorgeous ladies of findom? If so my boys I am here to help you out.
Now take a seat,cause the ride is a bit bumpy and fraught with the winds of denial.
1)Your approach is the beginning of it all. It can either fan a flame or find you banished to the vanishing isle. Being such a compassionate guru I am going to show you the do's and do nots.
Okie Dokie here we go.
Do be polite when contacting a Domme. Examples "Lovely day to you my Lady","Good morning(afternoon,evening) Madam,Miss etc... my name is (insert your name),and I would like to take this opportunity to relay my appreciation for you as a dominant Lady,and hope that you will accept a token(tribute) as a sign of my sincerity". " I wanted to take a moment to relay to you my appreciation for the obvious hard work crafting your profile,and the dedication towards your skills as a Domina,in the hopes that you would allow me the honor of coming to know you"
Do not initiate contact in this manner. "Hey babe you are so hotttt,you make my cock wave hello" or "Yo momma you r da shit,how bout u make my fantasies rl?" or even "hi here is a pic of my dic,what do you think?" Yup true story,I have had these exact sentiments shared with me,do you think these individuals are serving me??? Oh and for the love of all that is real,do NOT copy and paste messages,especially if you are forgetful and leave the last ladies name in the introduction!
Dear boys there is a reason why you are not getting anywhere close towards engaging in a D's relationship,much less a vanilla one. Try a little something something for yourself next time. Try talking to the female you approach just as you would one you met in the middle of the day on a sunny street. Now does this include blinding her with the sight of your one eyed willy(hope not,cause you most likely cannot afford bail money). Do you look her in the eye and start sprouting how you want tied down and strap on fucked like an animal in heat (ouch does your head hurt from hitting the pavement after she racked you?) Do you offer her cash to see her tits and bits(sheesh have your balls ever came back out after the last kick)
The point boys is that you have to start learning from your mistakes. Man up,and realize that life does not revolve around you or your penis,no matter how much you love it doesn't mean that others give a fark that it exists,see?? You in fact do possess the power to start over,and do it the right way.
If you want to impress a Lady,then you are going to have to think with the head on your shoulders,not the naughty one that gets you racked ok? An introduction is what sets the tone for your relationship,so remember keep it clean,polite,and most of all respectful.
That is all for today,back to your regular perving pleasures :)
Now take a seat,cause the ride is a bit bumpy and fraught with the winds of denial.
1)Your approach is the beginning of it all. It can either fan a flame or find you banished to the vanishing isle. Being such a compassionate guru I am going to show you the do's and do nots.
Okie Dokie here we go.
Do be polite when contacting a Domme. Examples "Lovely day to you my Lady","Good morning(afternoon,evening) Madam,Miss etc... my name is (insert your name),and I would like to take this opportunity to relay my appreciation for you as a dominant Lady,and hope that you will accept a token(tribute) as a sign of my sincerity". " I wanted to take a moment to relay to you my appreciation for the obvious hard work crafting your profile,and the dedication towards your skills as a Domina,in the hopes that you would allow me the honor of coming to know you"
Do not initiate contact in this manner. "Hey babe you are so hotttt,you make my cock wave hello" or "Yo momma you r da shit,how bout u make my fantasies rl?" or even "hi here is a pic of my dic,what do you think?" Yup true story,I have had these exact sentiments shared with me,do you think these individuals are serving me??? Oh and for the love of all that is real,do NOT copy and paste messages,especially if you are forgetful and leave the last ladies name in the introduction!
Dear boys there is a reason why you are not getting anywhere close towards engaging in a D's relationship,much less a vanilla one. Try a little something something for yourself next time. Try talking to the female you approach just as you would one you met in the middle of the day on a sunny street. Now does this include blinding her with the sight of your one eyed willy(hope not,cause you most likely cannot afford bail money). Do you look her in the eye and start sprouting how you want tied down and strap on fucked like an animal in heat (ouch does your head hurt from hitting the pavement after she racked you?) Do you offer her cash to see her tits and bits(sheesh have your balls ever came back out after the last kick)
The point boys is that you have to start learning from your mistakes. Man up,and realize that life does not revolve around you or your penis,no matter how much you love it doesn't mean that others give a fark that it exists,see?? You in fact do possess the power to start over,and do it the right way.
That is all for today,back to your regular perving pleasures :)
Wednesday, September 3, 2014
Subterfuge
Out of the hundreds of males with which whom I have spoken to can you guess which excuse of subterfuge has been invoked the most? I will give you a hint,it is not the "I will pay you on Friday" spiel. Drumroll......the notorious winner is "I have been burned in the past,and do not tribute til I know you" Shocked?
It is a tedious line intended to elicit perhaps pity,compassion,or even free chat. It would almost be humorous if I had not heard it so many times,and frankly I could not give a flying fuck if you have actually been taken in before,for I see it as your fault anyway. Your own laziness(lack of research) led you along the path,well that and your dicky see dicky do mentality.
How many times in your life have you been told to look not with your eyes? If you employ this practice religiously,then you will not be led astray by the sight of flesh such as this,
instead you will be able to delve beyond the physical.
Let me share a well known secret with you. Beauty is as beauty does,and allowing your dick to choose whom you serve is a monumental mistake if you are seeking a relationship of substance. Now if you are in it to hit and quit,then by all means be about your modus operandi,as my words pertain only to those that desire something more.
If you want to be seen as original,then leave off assaulting the good sense of a Domina with the tired excuse I shared with you. Do not allow yourself to be burnt in the first place,and yes you do possess the control to stop it. Giving free reign and rule over to your most persistent appendage will lead you to the flames,therefore I advise you to apply the breaks. Breathe through a moment of reading a female's profile,check to see if she even has an online presence before you take your credit card out. If you cannot be bothered,or do not have the time to check up on a lady before you approach her,then I see it as "the fucking you get,for the fucking you got". Do not be dazzled by the display until you know with absolute conviction that you are offering yourself,and your cash to the real deal. It is just that simple.
Now onto the douche canoes whom spew this out in an attempt to camouflage your broke bitch scent..caughtcha...yup you will be found out before you are onto the next line,cause you failed to realize that,Ladies are not stupid,but you are for even trying,so move along twat waffle :)
To those of sincerity I wish you well,and hope that you adhere to my words of wisdom.
It is a tedious line intended to elicit perhaps pity,compassion,or even free chat. It would almost be humorous if I had not heard it so many times,and frankly I could not give a flying fuck if you have actually been taken in before,for I see it as your fault anyway. Your own laziness(lack of research) led you along the path,well that and your dicky see dicky do mentality.
How many times in your life have you been told to look not with your eyes? If you employ this practice religiously,then you will not be led astray by the sight of flesh such as this,
Let me share a well known secret with you. Beauty is as beauty does,and allowing your dick to choose whom you serve is a monumental mistake if you are seeking a relationship of substance. Now if you are in it to hit and quit,then by all means be about your modus operandi,as my words pertain only to those that desire something more.
If you want to be seen as original,then leave off assaulting the good sense of a Domina with the tired excuse I shared with you. Do not allow yourself to be burnt in the first place,and yes you do possess the control to stop it. Giving free reign and rule over to your most persistent appendage will lead you to the flames,therefore I advise you to apply the breaks. Breathe through a moment of reading a female's profile,check to see if she even has an online presence before you take your credit card out. If you cannot be bothered,or do not have the time to check up on a lady before you approach her,then I see it as "the fucking you get,for the fucking you got". Do not be dazzled by the display until you know with absolute conviction that you are offering yourself,and your cash to the real deal. It is just that simple.
Now onto the douche canoes whom spew this out in an attempt to camouflage your broke bitch scent..caughtcha...yup you will be found out before you are onto the next line,cause you failed to realize that,Ladies are not stupid,but you are for even trying,so move along twat waffle :)
To those of sincerity I wish you well,and hope that you adhere to my words of wisdom.
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