Serving or sessions

When I am screening a male for consideration to me,one of the predominant methods of ascertaining whether he is a viable candidate is to assess whether he wants for me or from me. Now if he wants from me,then he is automatically filed into the undesirable bin,and passed along,but if he is one of the very rare jewels whom wants for me,well then he is moved up to the front of the line. This process of weeding out is one of the surest routes that I know of as it is always successful.

As to how it works,that is simple. Seeing as I do not make initial contact,a male is placed in the position of gathering up his courage to reach out to me first,and generally by the lines of his first missive I am able to form an opinion of whether or not I desire to block or reply,which saves me precious time,that could have been wasted. Now you may be asking yourself,how can she tell that quickly if a male is worth her time,and the answer is that I have learned through experience,but I am willing to divulge a few tips.

 Boys if you are starting your correspondence with self centered motivation(I will see it) just from the words you elect to employ,such as "I want,I like,I need" I I I...yup you have just shown me that all you are focused on is you,and that is not the point of service. Another no no is spewing out fetish porn dialogue right off the bat,once again you are waving the wanker flag,and I am done with you before you began. Continuing forward. Do not send a little message saying "hi",why not,well it conveys laziness,and that is something that I avoid like the plague,nor do you put your best foot forward with a wee penis pic(ugh hot pokers in the eyes are preferable to that)

If any of what I described above resembles you,then welcome to the majority of men on the fetish sites,you are no longer in the minority. Before you get your dander flying,I am not condemning males whom are just around to get off and log out. What I am saying though is that you are worthless to any woman seeking actual service,and no most Dominas do not want to be your fapping friend. I truly wish I knew whom started that bullshit spiel about ladies getting off watching men pulling their little puds,so that I could slap them in the face with a flaccid wand. Seriously boys who told you that females want to turn on their cam,and masturbate watching you shove objects up your ass,or playing with your pecker? Now this is not entirely true,but do you know why? Yup cause there are tons of sites dedicated to women masturbating for your viewing pleasure,and even doing so whilst you are displaying your goods to them,BUT you are failing to realize that this is not the modus operandi for every site,in fact it is not one for most sites.

I digress,but my point is that,you know full well from the get go whether you are here to serve or to session with a cam model,and it is your responsibility to know which type of lady you are approaching prior to doing so. You waste more than your own time when you contact a Domina whom expects to be served if you are in it to win the sticky finger salute,so do everyone a favor,and join the sites where you are most likely to obtain your goal,whether it be serving or sessioning,and in the long run you will be happy that you did.

Tips and advice cont

Another lovely day all to myself! I do some of my best blogs when I am free from constant distractions lol. My poor brain does quite well multitasking,but when it comes to posting my thoughts and such,I would prefer that I not be juggling 3 or 4 other activities at the same time. Forward march onto my words of experienced lifestyle femdom and findom wisdom for the males whom occupy or desire a place within our world.

Ok yesterday I went over some basics,so I shall pick up from there. I do hope that you followed my advice about educating yourself a bit. If so then you should know the difference between the designations of slave,submissive,switch,fetishist,bottom. To some these terms are interchangeable,not for me,but perhaps they are in your mind. In my estimation a slave is one whom desires to become personal property. They have relinquished their rights to an owner. They obey,are task oriented,and live their life in a fully owner controlled manner. A submissive on the other hand is on a journey of exploration. They desire to please and serve,but they are not able or willing to dedicate their entire existence to doing so. Being a switch is a bit trickier. Some submit only in certain situations or to a specific sex. They may be submissive in their everyday life,yet in the bedroom they command,or vice versa. A fetishist is not a person that serves. They are generally geared toward feeding their personal fetish. These are the types that you see more as clients than servants. Bottoms to me equate with receptive play partners. They are not necessarily submissive,in fact they may be a switch,a masochist,or low and behold a dominant whom enjoys bottoming in certain defined activities. It is very important to know where you fall on this scale in order to begin your search. If you know not yourself,then how are you to find anyone compatible?

Once you have figured out what you are(there is even an online quiz which will aid you,google will bring it up for you). Now it is time to decide which activities you would most like to engage in. I have no doubt that there are plenty of fantasies playing out in your mind. Ones which stimulate your desires. Do you dream of being held tied down at the mercy of a dominant freed from the constant constraints of life? Does the thought of being stripped of ego and clothing just do it for you? Do you envision a more feminine you? Do you pray to reverse roles,and become a naughty little cock slut? There are too many kinks for me to name in a simple post,but I am sure that you understand the point I am trying to make. Now a key bit to keep in mind is that some fantasies are meant to remain that way elsewise you fall out of the entire realm of safe,sane and consensual. Whilst you may masturbate to the daydream of having a dominant castrate you,that is so not going to happen even in an unconventional relationship. It takes time and experimentation to figure out what you like. I mean I used to believe that I would enjoy bottoming in a bondage scene,but once tried,I found out that it was not for me. In fact an activity I at first found extremely distasteful soon became one of my favorites. Try being open minded to activities with the exception of those that are illegal.

That is all for the day boys,Goddess is going poolside :) TBC....