The only way you will ever get the chance is by sacrificing for Mz Sydney. Are you ready
to sacrifice for ME?
Tuesday, January 31, 2017
FinDom Foot Fetish
This is what those with a foot fetish dream of
Who wants to taste these toes and soles? I know that your mouth is watering at the prospect :)
The only way you will ever get the chance is by sacrificing for Mz Sydney. Are you ready
to sacrifice for ME?
The only way you will ever get the chance is by sacrificing for Mz Sydney. Are you ready
to sacrifice for ME?
Monday, January 30, 2017
Saturday, January 28, 2017
Mediocrity in FinDom
This is my thought about mediocre service in FinDom
Strive to provide excellence in service gents. Don't not rest upon mediocre laurels. You want to shine in service. You want to impress your FinDomme with your dedication towards pleasing her,don't you,else why bother expending effort at all?
As an experienced FinDomme,I realize that you gents are going to make mistakes when serving me,but I expect you to learn from them. You repeating,and me correcting the same mistakes over and over is both tedious and disrespectful. Neither of us is going to benefit from that type of interaction.
Of course you want to become the best possible submissive for your Domme,which means doing the best you possibly can. Being good is not good enough. Always strive to do better.
Submission is a lifelong journey. Get the most out of it,by putting the most into it. Make sense? I hope so :)
As an experienced FinDomme,I realize that you gents are going to make mistakes when serving me,but I expect you to learn from them. You repeating,and me correcting the same mistakes over and over is both tedious and disrespectful. Neither of us is going to benefit from that type of interaction.
Of course you want to become the best possible submissive for your Domme,which means doing the best you possibly can. Being good is not good enough. Always strive to do better.
Submission is a lifelong journey. Get the most out of it,by putting the most into it. Make sense? I hope so :)
Thursday, January 26, 2017
Initial FinDom tribute
Gents I get asked all of the time "how much should I send?". This question gets old very quickly. I understand that some of you are new to FinDom,and unsure of how you should go about things including tribute,so I am going to help you out :)
Timewasters are notorious for asking the question listed above,so anytime it is posed to me,a red flag goes up,and I become suspicious of your motivations immediately. Now I know that you do not want to start out on a bad foot with me,so let's get you past this shall we,and leave the shady for the shady.
Some Dommes will spell out clearly how much is an acceptable amount for a initial tribute,and some do not. You can get an idea of what will please here if you do your research. Look to what tributes she posts,or boasts about. As a rule I would say that if you are playing it cautious,than no less than what you would pay for drinks at a nice locale(not McDonalds). The amount should not wipe out your checking or savings account,well atleast not unless you are a starving artist. The point being that the initial tribute sets the tone,and expectations,so if you cheap out,than she is going to assume that you are either A)broke or B)a scrooge,and both are undesirable in FinDom.
I will be upfront with you right now,and I do not give a fig for whose pool I piss in by saying it,$10 is NOT a tribute. It is an insult. You may be a down on your luck type,to whom $10 is alot,but c'mon now,you know that it is not going to cut mustard. I cannot speak for other Ladies personally,but I myself earn a rather nice salary,so when you hit my inbox with less than $50,I am not going to be impressed. Tribute is meant to be a sacrifice,and sacrifices are meant to hurt. Note that I mentioned it should not break the bank though.
Think of it like this. You are investing in her attention. It is not unlike going out on a first date. Would you try to impress a woman by taking her to pizza hut? I hope not,or you will not be getting a second date. Base your initial tribute upon what you would be out of pocket if you had taken her to a nice restaurant,instead of what you spend at the local starbucks. With that and the proper submissive approach,you just might do quite well :)
Timewasters are notorious for asking the question listed above,so anytime it is posed to me,a red flag goes up,and I become suspicious of your motivations immediately. Now I know that you do not want to start out on a bad foot with me,so let's get you past this shall we,and leave the shady for the shady.
Some Dommes will spell out clearly how much is an acceptable amount for a initial tribute,and some do not. You can get an idea of what will please here if you do your research. Look to what tributes she posts,or boasts about. As a rule I would say that if you are playing it cautious,than no less than what you would pay for drinks at a nice locale(not McDonalds). The amount should not wipe out your checking or savings account,well atleast not unless you are a starving artist. The point being that the initial tribute sets the tone,and expectations,so if you cheap out,than she is going to assume that you are either A)broke or B)a scrooge,and both are undesirable in FinDom.
I will be upfront with you right now,and I do not give a fig for whose pool I piss in by saying it,$10 is NOT a tribute. It is an insult. You may be a down on your luck type,to whom $10 is alot,but c'mon now,you know that it is not going to cut mustard. I cannot speak for other Ladies personally,but I myself earn a rather nice salary,so when you hit my inbox with less than $50,I am not going to be impressed. Tribute is meant to be a sacrifice,and sacrifices are meant to hurt. Note that I mentioned it should not break the bank though.
Think of it like this. You are investing in her attention. It is not unlike going out on a first date. Would you try to impress a woman by taking her to pizza hut? I hope not,or you will not be getting a second date. Base your initial tribute upon what you would be out of pocket if you had taken her to a nice restaurant,instead of what you spend at the local starbucks. With that and the proper submissive approach,you just might do quite well :)
Silence in FinDom
Some of you gents may be wondering why the perfectly acceptable(in your estimation)messages you compose go unanswered when sent out to a FinDomme. Being ignored when it is not your fetish generally invokes anger,which leads to lashing out,and that can be the kiss of death for a submissive seeking a Domme,for it tends to carry over even when your responses are answered.
Let's take a look at why your messages are being dismissed right out of the box shall we? The average Domme does not spend the entirety of her day online due to having vanilla responsibilities such as a career or family,friends etc...,so when she is online,she is going to decide how best to make use of that precious commodity. Now let's say she receives 20 messages a day on average across the sites that she is a member of,and out of those messages only one has attached a tribute with it. Who do you think she is going to take the time to message back,the one who displayed his appreciation for her time,or the 19 others who did not?
Now you may be saying "but hey I am a great guy",but you tell me,how is she going to know that? Actions are always going to trump words. I have heard the explanation from many a male stating that he cannot afford to tribute every Domme he interacts with,and yes I get it,but I do not accept it. Before you get your knickers in a wad,I will explain. A Domme's profile is going to be chalk full of details necessary as a prelude to getting to know her. Her words should relay to you what she seeks,her expectations,and how she dominates. These are key pieces of knowledge,and based off of them should provide you with the desire to either reach out or run away. I know that too many of you get all caught up looking at photos rather than reading,but that is your bad to own. Reading her profile,blogs,website,twitter feed etc...is the easiest way to learn all about a Domme before you ever contemplate messaging her,and guess what,it is free!
Take your time studying a Domme. It will definitely save you headaches in the long run,and just might earn you some brownie points. Once you have done your research on the Dommes that truly interest you,AND mesh with the service you seek to offer(which should narrow the playing field down exponentially),then and only then should you begin to put fingers to keyboard. By employing your big head to dictate this course,you have now ensured that you can afford to offer a fitting tribute for her consideration. It is only when one gives in to the gotta catch em all mentality that you will fall short financially.
Hopefully I have given you gents something to consider in the future,well that is if you really want to see that inbox light up with a response.
Let's take a look at why your messages are being dismissed right out of the box shall we? The average Domme does not spend the entirety of her day online due to having vanilla responsibilities such as a career or family,friends etc...,so when she is online,she is going to decide how best to make use of that precious commodity. Now let's say she receives 20 messages a day on average across the sites that she is a member of,and out of those messages only one has attached a tribute with it. Who do you think she is going to take the time to message back,the one who displayed his appreciation for her time,or the 19 others who did not?
Now you may be saying "but hey I am a great guy",but you tell me,how is she going to know that? Actions are always going to trump words. I have heard the explanation from many a male stating that he cannot afford to tribute every Domme he interacts with,and yes I get it,but I do not accept it. Before you get your knickers in a wad,I will explain. A Domme's profile is going to be chalk full of details necessary as a prelude to getting to know her. Her words should relay to you what she seeks,her expectations,and how she dominates. These are key pieces of knowledge,and based off of them should provide you with the desire to either reach out or run away. I know that too many of you get all caught up looking at photos rather than reading,but that is your bad to own. Reading her profile,blogs,website,twitter feed etc...is the easiest way to learn all about a Domme before you ever contemplate messaging her,and guess what,it is free!
Take your time studying a Domme. It will definitely save you headaches in the long run,and just might earn you some brownie points. Once you have done your research on the Dommes that truly interest you,AND mesh with the service you seek to offer(which should narrow the playing field down exponentially),then and only then should you begin to put fingers to keyboard. By employing your big head to dictate this course,you have now ensured that you can afford to offer a fitting tribute for her consideration. It is only when one gives in to the gotta catch em all mentality that you will fall short financially.
Hopefully I have given you gents something to consider in the future,well that is if you really want to see that inbox light up with a response.
Monday, January 23, 2017
Deny Temptation
After seeing so much drama playing out on twitter,I seriously felt the need to share some advice with you my readers.
Hosting and creating drama does indeed draw attention to your brand,but it does not reflect in a positive light. We are all supposed to be mature individuals,and yes I realize that some of the males in the scene are throw backs from the stone age,but we as women should be above such BS.
As human beings we are not going to like every single person,male or female that we come into contact with in the fetish scene,but we can control how we react to them. That is part and parcel of being an adult.
If you are offended or disgusted by something that you see another person doing(so long as it is not illegal)let it go. There is no need to jump on their ass crying foul! Grow up,and learn to use your block,mute,or hide button. Most likely that person has https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=6375597482662535665#editor/target=post;postID=4067345113125612951no idea who the hell you are,nor did they post with the intention of getting your goat. Don't make shit personal that just isn't. Now even if the slim possibility existed that a tweet or post was directed at you,ignore it. I know,I know that we are Dominant women who take no shit from no one,but it smears your reputation when you engage in petty insult ploys,and that is something that you do not need. It is massively difficult to rebrand or repair a damaged rep,and your rep is one part of the equation which attracts submissives. Now why would you cut your nose off to spite your face eh?
I personally care for very few people,and actually like even less,but you would never know from looking at my TL. I do not call out fellow females,even when provoked. The only slurs I have been known to hurl are directed straight at the weaker sex(males)...and only when truly deserved.
Blasting and bashing announces to the world that you do not have your shit together. That you lack self-control,and domination is ALL about control,so if you cannot control your reactions and actions,than how in the hell are you going to responsibly handle,control,and care for those that serve you?? Yes wank stankers will find amusement in your lack of control,but decent worthy gents will now abstain from your service. Those males that are worth having in service are not interested in women who show such weakness,when women are meant to be a beacon of strength in Femdom.
Keep this in mind the next time you are tempted to lash out. Actions have consequences,and shitting where you eat(proverbially) does not make for a fine meal.
Hosting and creating drama does indeed draw attention to your brand,but it does not reflect in a positive light. We are all supposed to be mature individuals,and yes I realize that some of the males in the scene are throw backs from the stone age,but we as women should be above such BS.
As human beings we are not going to like every single person,male or female that we come into contact with in the fetish scene,but we can control how we react to them. That is part and parcel of being an adult.
If you are offended or disgusted by something that you see another person doing(so long as it is not illegal)let it go. There is no need to jump on their ass crying foul! Grow up,and learn to use your block,mute,or hide button. Most likely that person has https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=6375597482662535665#editor/target=post;postID=4067345113125612951no idea who the hell you are,nor did they post with the intention of getting your goat. Don't make shit personal that just isn't. Now even if the slim possibility existed that a tweet or post was directed at you,ignore it. I know,I know that we are Dominant women who take no shit from no one,but it smears your reputation when you engage in petty insult ploys,and that is something that you do not need. It is massively difficult to rebrand or repair a damaged rep,and your rep is one part of the equation which attracts submissives. Now why would you cut your nose off to spite your face eh?
I personally care for very few people,and actually like even less,but you would never know from looking at my TL. I do not call out fellow females,even when provoked. The only slurs I have been known to hurl are directed straight at the weaker sex(males)...and only when truly deserved.
Blasting and bashing announces to the world that you do not have your shit together. That you lack self-control,and domination is ALL about control,so if you cannot control your reactions and actions,than how in the hell are you going to responsibly handle,control,and care for those that serve you?? Yes wank stankers will find amusement in your lack of control,but decent worthy gents will now abstain from your service. Those males that are worth having in service are not interested in women who show such weakness,when women are meant to be a beacon of strength in Femdom.
Keep this in mind the next time you are tempted to lash out. Actions have consequences,and shitting where you eat(proverbially) does not make for a fine meal.
FinDom feet
Sunday, January 22, 2017
Findom Expectations
This may be hard to believe but not all FinDommes are alike personally(we already know this is true appearance wise). Of course the financial aspect is a shared expectation,but other elements will vary Domme to Domme. Just as no two snowflakes are identical,neither are two FinDommes.
Some will interact with males freely for a predetermined amount of time before expecting tribute to be sent,and some will not speak to males at all without a tribute being sent first. Some will degrade and humiliate males from the get go,while others want to learn about you before they jump into that pool,whilst others may not engage in such play ever.
There are FinDommes who do cash meets,and real time domination,yet others do not dominate anywhere except online,or even ones who straddle the fence.
Some are hardcore sadists who enjoy financially ruining males,while others only control budgets,and the rest who perch all along the spectrum of Financial Domination. Plenty of Dommes desire gifts only,no cash,and others crave cash only.
There are those FinDommes who will blackmail you for real(not me),and those that will befriend you.
There are some who want to better you by training you to be the best possible submissive,and others who want to destroy you.
Some will want to lock your cock in chastity forever,yet others will push you to edge and masturbate daily.
Many will expect regular interactions with you,and others will want none unless you are tributing at that time.
Some expect daily tributes(small amounts),some weekly ones(bigger tributes),and even those who accept monthly tributes.
Some will want to own you and your wallet in a day,most will not.
There are those who will not have anything to do with you if you do not tribute atleast $100 a week,while others will accept less.
Some will allow you to worship them in all of their naked glory,whilst others will share nothing nude but toes.
Some will listen to your talk of everyday life,and others want to know nothing of it.
Some will tempt,and others strike fear.
Some will care about you as a human being,and others simply will not.
There are those who will want to use you as their toilet,and others who are grossed out by the notion.
There are those that are kind,and those that are cruel,and pretty much everything in between.
The comparisons could go on and on,but I think you get the point don't you gents?
Now it is up to you gents to decide which type of woman you want to serve,and I hope that each of you males reading this post will take one bit of knowledge away from it,which is.....RESEARCH is your best friend when it comes to getting to know exactly what type of FinDomme you are approaching. Read her blogs,check out her website,perv that twitter. Learn her expectations,and ask yourself if she is the one you want to serve.
Some will interact with males freely for a predetermined amount of time before expecting tribute to be sent,and some will not speak to males at all without a tribute being sent first. Some will degrade and humiliate males from the get go,while others want to learn about you before they jump into that pool,whilst others may not engage in such play ever.
There are FinDommes who do cash meets,and real time domination,yet others do not dominate anywhere except online,or even ones who straddle the fence.
Some are hardcore sadists who enjoy financially ruining males,while others only control budgets,and the rest who perch all along the spectrum of Financial Domination. Plenty of Dommes desire gifts only,no cash,and others crave cash only.
There are those FinDommes who will blackmail you for real(not me),and those that will befriend you.
There are some who want to better you by training you to be the best possible submissive,and others who want to destroy you.
Some will want to lock your cock in chastity forever,yet others will push you to edge and masturbate daily.
Many will expect regular interactions with you,and others will want none unless you are tributing at that time.
Some expect daily tributes(small amounts),some weekly ones(bigger tributes),and even those who accept monthly tributes.
Some will want to own you and your wallet in a day,most will not.
There are those who will not have anything to do with you if you do not tribute atleast $100 a week,while others will accept less.
Some will allow you to worship them in all of their naked glory,whilst others will share nothing nude but toes.
Some will listen to your talk of everyday life,and others want to know nothing of it.
Some will tempt,and others strike fear.
Some will care about you as a human being,and others simply will not.
There are those who will want to use you as their toilet,and others who are grossed out by the notion.
There are those that are kind,and those that are cruel,and pretty much everything in between.
The comparisons could go on and on,but I think you get the point don't you gents?
Now it is up to you gents to decide which type of woman you want to serve,and I hope that each of you males reading this post will take one bit of knowledge away from it,which is.....RESEARCH is your best friend when it comes to getting to know exactly what type of FinDomme you are approaching. Read her blogs,check out her website,perv that twitter. Learn her expectations,and ask yourself if she is the one you want to serve.
Saturday, January 21, 2017
A Real Dominant
I came across a profile this morning,and it got me thinking about just how much I detest seeing the words I seen posted upon it,which I will so kindly share with you my readers. "If you are a real dominant you will message me"
Now honestly this is lazy and humorous. Lazy because it blatantly declares that this person expects a "real dominant" to search them out like a crown jewel,and humorous because he obviously has no idea what a "real dominant" actually is. Is this a commonly shared fallacy amongst males in the fetish scene,and if so,where did it originate? Do you gents honestly expect a Domme to "hit you up" just because you posted a profile on a kink site? Do you believe that you are such a prize that women will rush to your inbox to claim you? Do you think yourself a special snowflake? I wonder if this male has even noted that there are thousands of males on the internet claiming to be submissive,and in search of a woman to dominate them. What is it about him specifically that will force Dommes to flock to him? I can answer that one,NOTHING.
A "real dominant" is not going to spend their time tracking down males. A "real dominant" has confidence in themselves and their ability to attract submissives without hunting them down like prey. A "real dominant" does not go hitting up males like a desperate beggar,and let's be real,if a dominant has to go chasing after submissives,than they are not dominant at all. This is especially true when it comes to findom. A woman that needs a male's money is apt to chase,but one that doesn't will just replace. So,you tell me,will a "real dominant" pop into your inbox declaring her dominance,and profess her desire to have you for her own? Do the world population a favor,and hold your breath til that happens for you :)
Laziness seems to be a common trend for males,especially in Financial Domination. These males are spoiled with attention,and absolutely used to females vying for their favor and franklins. This is not domination though. These type of interactions are based upon financial gain only. These females do not care to dominate anything but your wallet,but than considering that most males seek their own gratification only,this actually works out quite well for both parties. She gets paid,and they get to jack off,win win eh? Honestly this is going to work out well 9/10 times,but that other time it is going to backfire badly. Why? Well believe it or not,some women do not give a damn about male orgasms,and actually expect to be served,to have her wants placed first,and your dick placed last in the hierarchy,so if you are truly desirous of being dominated,you are going to have to put some effort into it. Horrible is it not that some women require sweat from your efforts instead of semen? How dare they!!
The entire point being,stop being a lazy shit,and be prepared to redefine what a "real dominant" is.
Now honestly this is lazy and humorous. Lazy because it blatantly declares that this person expects a "real dominant" to search them out like a crown jewel,and humorous because he obviously has no idea what a "real dominant" actually is. Is this a commonly shared fallacy amongst males in the fetish scene,and if so,where did it originate? Do you gents honestly expect a Domme to "hit you up" just because you posted a profile on a kink site? Do you believe that you are such a prize that women will rush to your inbox to claim you? Do you think yourself a special snowflake? I wonder if this male has even noted that there are thousands of males on the internet claiming to be submissive,and in search of a woman to dominate them. What is it about him specifically that will force Dommes to flock to him? I can answer that one,NOTHING.
A "real dominant" is not going to spend their time tracking down males. A "real dominant" has confidence in themselves and their ability to attract submissives without hunting them down like prey. A "real dominant" does not go hitting up males like a desperate beggar,and let's be real,if a dominant has to go chasing after submissives,than they are not dominant at all. This is especially true when it comes to findom. A woman that needs a male's money is apt to chase,but one that doesn't will just replace. So,you tell me,will a "real dominant" pop into your inbox declaring her dominance,and profess her desire to have you for her own? Do the world population a favor,and hold your breath til that happens for you :)
Laziness seems to be a common trend for males,especially in Financial Domination. These males are spoiled with attention,and absolutely used to females vying for their favor and franklins. This is not domination though. These type of interactions are based upon financial gain only. These females do not care to dominate anything but your wallet,but than considering that most males seek their own gratification only,this actually works out quite well for both parties. She gets paid,and they get to jack off,win win eh? Honestly this is going to work out well 9/10 times,but that other time it is going to backfire badly. Why? Well believe it or not,some women do not give a damn about male orgasms,and actually expect to be served,to have her wants placed first,and your dick placed last in the hierarchy,so if you are truly desirous of being dominated,you are going to have to put some effort into it. Horrible is it not that some women require sweat from your efforts instead of semen? How dare they!!
The entire point being,stop being a lazy shit,and be prepared to redefine what a "real dominant" is.
Friday, January 20, 2017
Make an impression
Wednesday, January 11, 2017
The meaning of life made simple
Too many of you wander around questioning why you even exist. Asking "what is my purpose in life"..."why was I created"? You stumble blindly seeking answers,yet arrive no where. Now my little ones the answer is made clear. You were born to submit to Mz Sydney. You exist to serve my will. Your purpose is ensuring my happiness. How very simple,yet frustratingly out of reach without effort.
Goddess has provided the knowledge,now what you do with it is your choice. You can either continue to travel inanely along seeking your own selfish sexual bliss,or you can come humbly to my feet with tribute in hand,and beg for my acknowledgement and acceptance.
Choose wisely
Goddess has provided the knowledge,now what you do with it is your choice. You can either continue to travel inanely along seeking your own selfish sexual bliss,or you can come humbly to my feet with tribute in hand,and beg for my acknowledgement and acceptance.
Choose wisely
Tuesday, January 10, 2017
Barter up
Bartering. *barter definition. The exchange of goods or services for other goods or services, rather than for money.*
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I do not do this! Yes there are people in the fetish scene who will haggle and barter,but I am not one of them,so please refrain from attempting to barter with me.
I have had many males offer to clean my house,mow my lawn etc etc etc..in exchange for domination,not happening :) I already have a male who performs those chores for me,and guess what,he PAYS me to do them for me,so I have no need to barter with you. Even contemplating bartering with me is ignorant and insulting.
Everything in my life costs money out of my pocket,and it is the duty of a male to reimburse those amounts to me. I realize that many of you were raised to believe that you should not have to pay for a woman's time or attention,and if you do than she is a whore,but that is outdated patriarchal entitlement,which is not going to get you anywhere in a woman's world.
Here is the deal. If you are too "good" or too poor to tribute towards the financial comfort and success of a woman,than you need to stay away from women who know their worth,and are not accepting of selfish self-serving ingrates. It really is that simple. I promise that I will not come barging into your inbox begging for your cash or your attention,and ask that you do the same. There is absolutely no need to waste your time or mine when in the end you will never be serving me.
Whether you believe it or not life is expensive,and so is fetish. Clothes,toys,make up,pedicures,polish,heels,computers,internet service,and on and on and on. Get my point? Every moment a FinDomme spends with a non-contributing male is a financial loss. That time could have been spent with a more deserving male who recognizes and joyfully embraces his duty to enrich her life in a tangible manner.
I realize that many of you label yourself as a "true lifestyle slave" meaning that you do not pay shit for having your fetish fulfilled..yes I see your selfish assess,and they disgust me. Ask yourself this,"Why would any woman want to play with me for free?" "Why would any woman want to sate my selfish desires with no return?" Oh and you licking her ass,feet,cooch,whatever is NOT a valuable return! Yes yes I know that I sound so cold hearted,suck it up buttercup,cause the days of women having to cater to your dick are OVER. No truly dominant woman is going to bow down to your dick designs. Sure you can purchase custom clips from women,or get your rocks off in a cam room if you tip enough,but guess what shithead,that is going to cost you too...oops once again it comes down to paying :( so strap in,and open that wallet wide for the pillaging.
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I do not do this! Yes there are people in the fetish scene who will haggle and barter,but I am not one of them,so please refrain from attempting to barter with me.
I have had many males offer to clean my house,mow my lawn etc etc etc..in exchange for domination,not happening :) I already have a male who performs those chores for me,and guess what,he PAYS me to do them for me,so I have no need to barter with you. Even contemplating bartering with me is ignorant and insulting.
Everything in my life costs money out of my pocket,and it is the duty of a male to reimburse those amounts to me. I realize that many of you were raised to believe that you should not have to pay for a woman's time or attention,and if you do than she is a whore,but that is outdated patriarchal entitlement,which is not going to get you anywhere in a woman's world.
Here is the deal. If you are too "good" or too poor to tribute towards the financial comfort and success of a woman,than you need to stay away from women who know their worth,and are not accepting of selfish self-serving ingrates. It really is that simple. I promise that I will not come barging into your inbox begging for your cash or your attention,and ask that you do the same. There is absolutely no need to waste your time or mine when in the end you will never be serving me.
Whether you believe it or not life is expensive,and so is fetish. Clothes,toys,make up,pedicures,polish,heels,computers,internet service,and on and on and on. Get my point? Every moment a FinDomme spends with a non-contributing male is a financial loss. That time could have been spent with a more deserving male who recognizes and joyfully embraces his duty to enrich her life in a tangible manner.
I realize that many of you label yourself as a "true lifestyle slave" meaning that you do not pay shit for having your fetish fulfilled..yes I see your selfish assess,and they disgust me. Ask yourself this,"Why would any woman want to play with me for free?" "Why would any woman want to sate my selfish desires with no return?" Oh and you licking her ass,feet,cooch,whatever is NOT a valuable return! Yes yes I know that I sound so cold hearted,suck it up buttercup,cause the days of women having to cater to your dick are OVER. No truly dominant woman is going to bow down to your dick designs. Sure you can purchase custom clips from women,or get your rocks off in a cam room if you tip enough,but guess what shithead,that is going to cost you too...oops once again it comes down to paying :( so strap in,and open that wallet wide for the pillaging.
Monday, January 9, 2017
What is in a name
Over the past few days I have been on the receiving end of more insults than the previous 6 months. Odd eh? No rhyme,nor pattern as they have been hurled by those that I have had zero past or present contact with. I have been called a hag,a slag,a whore,and more lol.
Why do you think it is that absolute strangers feel compelled to attempt to downgrade those that have done them no ill? Is it insecurity driven? Do the abusers believe that it somehow elevates them in stature to toss vile words at others? Do they do so in an attempt to distract themselves from the failure of the life they live? Is it done with the hope that they may pass upon to me the pain that they themselves feel within? Am I merely an opportune target for the moment?
A further theory as to the motivation of such actions is the hope that I will return like with like,thereby providing them with the humiliation and degradation they so richly seek. This is something I am no stranger to. In fact I have had multiple males try this ploy to no avail with me,for I am no newbie to the fetish scene.
For the most part,I see insults spilling from a place of anger. Anger that should be turned internally for resolution. I realize that life can suck donkey dicks,and that sometimes it just is not fair,but than it is not promised to be. The point being that a mature human being understands that the faults in one's life lay within themselves,not within another. If your life is not what you want it to be,than get off your ass and make the needed changes,rather than spewing your hatred upon strangers,for they do not possess the power to aid you in your internal struggle. In fact, for some of those that you choose to rain your abuse upon are already dealing with their own issues,therefore do not need yours muddying their waters. Now a less secure woman would take offense,and perhaps feel that there is a kernel of truth in the steaming piles slung upon their backs,but I am not an insecure woman.
I accept and recognize that I am not appealing physically to all males,and that my personality is not what the majority will crave to be brought low by,but that in no way detracts from how I view myself. Being a dominant woman is not about fitting into a set patriarchal designed mold. It means that I am strong enough emotionally to handle rejections without crumbling,that I know my worth without others setting the value of it,that I see my beauty,and embrace it even when others do not. So to all of those that have given in to the desire to leave their burning bag of dog shit at my proverbial door,know now that you have accomplished nothing,for you do not dwell in my thoughts,nor will you hold a reserved spot in my memories,for you are definitely unworthy of that distinction.
To those who are burdened down by the hateful actions and words of others,please do take heed,and never allow the hatred to take seed within you,for happiness and acceptance of self is found through adversity. Allow every cruelly directed missile of malevolence to break upon your shore,but not breach your defenses,for if you believe a single insult to be true,than you are giving reign over your life to one who does not deserve it. Keep doing you,keep being you,and keep believing in you!
Why do you think it is that absolute strangers feel compelled to attempt to downgrade those that have done them no ill? Is it insecurity driven? Do the abusers believe that it somehow elevates them in stature to toss vile words at others? Do they do so in an attempt to distract themselves from the failure of the life they live? Is it done with the hope that they may pass upon to me the pain that they themselves feel within? Am I merely an opportune target for the moment?
A further theory as to the motivation of such actions is the hope that I will return like with like,thereby providing them with the humiliation and degradation they so richly seek. This is something I am no stranger to. In fact I have had multiple males try this ploy to no avail with me,for I am no newbie to the fetish scene.
For the most part,I see insults spilling from a place of anger. Anger that should be turned internally for resolution. I realize that life can suck donkey dicks,and that sometimes it just is not fair,but than it is not promised to be. The point being that a mature human being understands that the faults in one's life lay within themselves,not within another. If your life is not what you want it to be,than get off your ass and make the needed changes,rather than spewing your hatred upon strangers,for they do not possess the power to aid you in your internal struggle. In fact, for some of those that you choose to rain your abuse upon are already dealing with their own issues,therefore do not need yours muddying their waters. Now a less secure woman would take offense,and perhaps feel that there is a kernel of truth in the steaming piles slung upon their backs,but I am not an insecure woman.
I accept and recognize that I am not appealing physically to all males,and that my personality is not what the majority will crave to be brought low by,but that in no way detracts from how I view myself. Being a dominant woman is not about fitting into a set patriarchal designed mold. It means that I am strong enough emotionally to handle rejections without crumbling,that I know my worth without others setting the value of it,that I see my beauty,and embrace it even when others do not. So to all of those that have given in to the desire to leave their burning bag of dog shit at my proverbial door,know now that you have accomplished nothing,for you do not dwell in my thoughts,nor will you hold a reserved spot in my memories,for you are definitely unworthy of that distinction.
To those who are burdened down by the hateful actions and words of others,please do take heed,and never allow the hatred to take seed within you,for happiness and acceptance of self is found through adversity. Allow every cruelly directed missile of malevolence to break upon your shore,but not breach your defenses,for if you believe a single insult to be true,than you are giving reign over your life to one who does not deserve it. Keep doing you,keep being you,and keep believing in you!
cuckolds no like me :(
I have been going through my data,and just realized that there is one type of submissive(note that I am referring to submissives,not fetishists)that I rarely receive contact from,and actually I am not overly surprised. Can you guess?........cuckolds. Shocking yes? I took a moment to pontificate why,and this is what I arrived at...I am neither a BBC lover,nor a nympho who is constantly fixated on sex,so I fail to appeal to cuckolds in that sense.
Surprising to many males,but I value intimacy over penetration. Yes I have a man in my life,and no none of you will be sucking his cock(as if I would want your filthy mouth on my man)! Of course I take great pleasure in buying gifts for him with your cash,but I would never bring you into his presence,nor would I ever consider allowing any of you to watch or listen to us fornicate. My private life is just that,and I do not allow submissives to intrude upon it.
I am definitely not an oversexed crazy for the cock woman either,which is why you rarely see me posting about doing the sexy dance. I am more of a snuggle,cuddle,and pet type of woman,but no you will never fill that position either,so yes I can see why cuckolds are not drawn to me,and that is ok. In my estimation being a good and true cuckold is about enhancing the sex life of your Domme through whatever means she deems acceptable,and that for me is by purchasing clothing items that he alone will see and touch,by sending him gifts that will make him smile,by respecting the fact that I have chosen him as my mate,and celebrating my happiness in this union with your cash.
Afterall very few men have been fortunate enough to enjoy the fruits of this cougar Dominatrix :)
Surprising to many males,but I value intimacy over penetration. Yes I have a man in my life,and no none of you will be sucking his cock(as if I would want your filthy mouth on my man)! Of course I take great pleasure in buying gifts for him with your cash,but I would never bring you into his presence,nor would I ever consider allowing any of you to watch or listen to us fornicate. My private life is just that,and I do not allow submissives to intrude upon it.
I am definitely not an oversexed crazy for the cock woman either,which is why you rarely see me posting about doing the sexy dance. I am more of a snuggle,cuddle,and pet type of woman,but no you will never fill that position either,so yes I can see why cuckolds are not drawn to me,and that is ok. In my estimation being a good and true cuckold is about enhancing the sex life of your Domme through whatever means she deems acceptable,and that for me is by purchasing clothing items that he alone will see and touch,by sending him gifts that will make him smile,by respecting the fact that I have chosen him as my mate,and celebrating my happiness in this union with your cash.
Afterall very few men have been fortunate enough to enjoy the fruits of this cougar Dominatrix :)
Friday, January 6, 2017
Thursday, January 5, 2017
Femdom wants
I have often been asked what type of male I like best,and my response is simple yet complex.
1) I am most appreciative of ambitiously driven towards success submissive males.
2) males that are passionately goal oriented,and go getters who do not require constant supervision,attention,and hand holding in order to accomplish the tasks I set forth.
3) males that are able to prioritize,and remain focused on the end goal(my happiness).
4) males that work hard and diligently in their chosen profession in order to contribute financially to my life,thereby making my life easier and more comfortable.
5) males who desire my happiness above their own,and are willing to sacrifice to ensure it.
6) males who do not attempt to twist every conversation or action into something sexual.
7) males that are not obsessed with their penis.
8) males that are intelligent.
9) males that are respectful to ALL women.
10) males that possess integrity.
11) males that recognize paying financial tribute to a woman is an honor.
12) males that are grateful to be allowed to play whatever role a woman assigns them in her life.
Most likely I could wax on and on,but these are the top 12.
1) I am most appreciative of ambitiously driven towards success submissive males.
2) males that are passionately goal oriented,and go getters who do not require constant supervision,attention,and hand holding in order to accomplish the tasks I set forth.
3) males that are able to prioritize,and remain focused on the end goal(my happiness).
4) males that work hard and diligently in their chosen profession in order to contribute financially to my life,thereby making my life easier and more comfortable.
5) males who desire my happiness above their own,and are willing to sacrifice to ensure it.
6) males who do not attempt to twist every conversation or action into something sexual.
7) males that are not obsessed with their penis.
8) males that are intelligent.
9) males that are respectful to ALL women.
10) males that possess integrity.
11) males that recognize paying financial tribute to a woman is an honor.
12) males that are grateful to be allowed to play whatever role a woman assigns them in her life.
Most likely I could wax on and on,but these are the top 12.
Tuesday, January 3, 2017
Out with the old
The annual purge has began :0
At the onset of each new year in the realm of online domination I examine my progress and goals for the future,which means that I must eliminate that which is essentially dead weight dragging me under or behind. Sites,people,and approaches which do not further my own interests or enrich my life are eliminated,in order to make room for positive change. Is this personal,yes and no. If a male has had no positive impact on my life,of course I am going to nix him from the mix,that only makes sense,yes? Time is precious,and I choose not to waste mine on useless endeavors,and males who do not benefit my existence.
To be perfectly honest,I had deeply questioned whether I desired to continue with online domination. Keen disappointment was felt in regards to a lack of appreciation displayed towards myself during the holidays this year from online males. Instead my happiness was derived from my real time boy who ensured that I knew he truly lives for what makes me smile,and that gave rise to the question of leaving the scene,for why would one stay where they are obviously not wanted?
At this point I have decided to spend more time on me,doing what makes me happy..posting when I feel like it,rather than feeling as if I have to be constantly visible online in order to build my brand. I will spend my time where it benefits me most..with ME lol,and of course I will continue to strengthen the bond I have with my brat. This does not mean that I am not open to enlarging my stable of serving males,merely that it is going to take someone quite special to catch and capture my attention online. I am a firm believer of effort paying off,and the lackadaisical being left behind,so if you want to exist in my range of vision,than you will have to work for it.
Onto the aspect which is personal. If you are a male that has been in contact with me,and failed to tribute towards my birthday or Christmas,you are now dead to me. No second chances,no forgiveness given. You have shown yourself to be selfish,and inconsiderate of my happiness,so you are dead weight,and consigned to the land of never never. Ah it feels tremendous to toss away the negativity of you and your lack of action!
On a positive note,I have joined a new gym,and am really digging how dragging my ass in there everyday is growing my pleasure in the sheer life affirming benefits of it. I have smiled more since making these decisions,and absolutely look forward to what this new year will bring me :)
In conclusion,I am leaving in my wake a couple of photos for you to drool over and worship,why,because I can,and because it makes me happy to do so
At the onset of each new year in the realm of online domination I examine my progress and goals for the future,which means that I must eliminate that which is essentially dead weight dragging me under or behind. Sites,people,and approaches which do not further my own interests or enrich my life are eliminated,in order to make room for positive change. Is this personal,yes and no. If a male has had no positive impact on my life,of course I am going to nix him from the mix,that only makes sense,yes? Time is precious,and I choose not to waste mine on useless endeavors,and males who do not benefit my existence.
To be perfectly honest,I had deeply questioned whether I desired to continue with online domination. Keen disappointment was felt in regards to a lack of appreciation displayed towards myself during the holidays this year from online males. Instead my happiness was derived from my real time boy who ensured that I knew he truly lives for what makes me smile,and that gave rise to the question of leaving the scene,for why would one stay where they are obviously not wanted?
At this point I have decided to spend more time on me,doing what makes me happy..posting when I feel like it,rather than feeling as if I have to be constantly visible online in order to build my brand. I will spend my time where it benefits me most..with ME lol,and of course I will continue to strengthen the bond I have with my brat. This does not mean that I am not open to enlarging my stable of serving males,merely that it is going to take someone quite special to catch and capture my attention online. I am a firm believer of effort paying off,and the lackadaisical being left behind,so if you want to exist in my range of vision,than you will have to work for it.
Onto the aspect which is personal. If you are a male that has been in contact with me,and failed to tribute towards my birthday or Christmas,you are now dead to me. No second chances,no forgiveness given. You have shown yourself to be selfish,and inconsiderate of my happiness,so you are dead weight,and consigned to the land of never never. Ah it feels tremendous to toss away the negativity of you and your lack of action!
On a positive note,I have joined a new gym,and am really digging how dragging my ass in there everyday is growing my pleasure in the sheer life affirming benefits of it. I have smiled more since making these decisions,and absolutely look forward to what this new year will bring me :)
In conclusion,I am leaving in my wake a couple of photos for you to drool over and worship,why,because I can,and because it makes me happy to do so
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