Submission begins in the soul

This is the exact type of submission which my dominance commands. I preach to you gents all of the time about what submission means,and most times I realize that I am standing before the pulpit in front of empty pews, although this does not deter me from speaking my piece.

I have no idea when it began, nor when it shall end, but end it must, for submission based upon the dick is no submission at all. You gents are jumping inbox to inbox (dick in hand) looking for your jerk off fix, and it is outright offensive for you to declare that as submissive behavior when it is the furthest thing from it.

Submission has nothing to do with you getting off. FemDom has nothing to do with you getting off, and the purchase or watching of FemDom porn does not equate to submission. FinDom has nothing to do with you getting off either.

Submission should be pleasurable yes, but not contained to a physical response. Of course it is exciting and sensual to offer your service to a dominant female, but the focus of submission is not you. Submission is when you selflessly put aside all of those selfish driven desires, and embrace the wants of another.

If the only time that you submit is when your dick is hard, than you are truly depriving yourself of a life enriching experience. Submission can possibly be the most fulfilling action of your life. Submission can alter your life beyond your imagination, and a thing of beauty if your motivations are pure. Don't you want to be a part of something wonderful, or would you rather that your life continue along the same monotonous path as it is now? You decide.

It takes courage to bow, and bravery to remain kneeling. Are you a coward hiding in the corner spuming on the floor, or are you a male who is tired of following the patriarchal mindset of dehumanizing women to the point that all they are good for is getting your dick off? Submission is not for those looking for a quickie dick fix. It is a noble choice reserved for the few males who are capable of refocusing their priorities from self to selfless. Is this you? You decide.

In the end, the power lays in your hands. You decide whether you will evolve into a male worthy of serving a woman, or just another selfish, self-absorbed, entitled asshole in a sea of shitheads.

Femdom wants

 I have often been asked what type of male I like best,and my response is simple yet complex.

1) I am most appreciative of ambitiously driven towards success submissive males.
2) males that are passionately goal oriented,and go getters who do not require constant supervision,attention,and hand holding in order to accomplish the tasks I set forth.
3) males that are able to prioritize,and remain focused on the end goal(my happiness).
4) males that work hard and diligently in their chosen profession in order to contribute financially to my life,thereby making my life easier and more comfortable.
5) males who desire my happiness above their own,and are willing to sacrifice to ensure it.
6) males who do not attempt to twist every conversation or action into something sexual.
7) males that are not obsessed with their penis.
8) males that are intelligent.
9) males that are respectful to ALL women.
10) males that possess integrity.
11) males that recognize paying financial tribute to a woman is an honor.
12) males that are grateful to be allowed to play whatever role a woman assigns them in her life.

Most likely I could wax on and on,but these are the top 12.

Looking for a "real" Domme

This is one of the most common and problematic lines I hear from males in the fetish scene. Real is a subjective term in this instance,for what they mean is not based upon the actual definition of the word real. It is employed to relay their own personal definition rather than what appears in the dictionary. This is where confusion tends to rear it's head. The term real can mean many different things,to many different people,but I will endeavor to provide a bit of insight into what it most likely means when a male approaches a FinDomme stating that he is seeking a "real" Domme.

1)A real Domme does not charge for her time and attention. She happily caters to the wants of selfish males sans any regard for her own desires. Now let's clear up a point here,the type of female sought here is not a Domme. It may fall in line with what a service providers offer(catering to male wants),but her services are not free,so it cannot be that. Could it be a sugar baby he is looking for,cause she will most likely care about what he wants,but oops she does not care for free. Hmm this actually makes me think that what is sought is a submissive female,for that is the only female who is in the fetish to serve a male wants for free while negating her own.

2)A real Domme is dressed in leather,and coiffed to perfection every moment of the day,with a whip in hand.
Yup now that is a fantasy. Dommes are people too. They have lives and loved ones of their own,and they are definitely not waiting around all day online for males to just appear and give meaning to their existence.

3)A real Domme gets naked for the viewing pleasure of those that serve them. Ok this one kinda peeves me. I realize that some females do session nude,or gift males with flagrante photos,but that is not inclusive to all. I have never once played with a male where my tits and bits were visibly bare and on display,nor do I send out peeks of them as a "good boy" reward,or as an enticement to come calling. I am not,and I repeat NOT bashing females that do,but this is not me,and I know for a fact that I am not alone in this decision.

4)A real Domme sells clips and offers cam sessions. This one denotes a lack of intelligence. Selling clips is a service. It is a business,just as selling sessions is an aspect of business,and not all Dommes treat findom as a business. The fact that one doesn't,does not mean that she is not a "real Domme". It just means that she is not a business woman. Oh and bois,buying clips or sessions does not make you a "real submissive" either. It makes you a customer.

5)A "real Domme" wants to date and or marry a submissive male. This one makes me laugh. Women have types that they are attracted to,just like in the "real" world. Some do date submissives,and that is ok,cause it is their choice,but not all do. Do not make an ass of yourself assuming that all Dommes are alike,or declaring them fake because they are attracted to non-submissive males.

6)A "real Domme" is loud and abrasive in speech. Where did this fallacy evolve from? A bully bullies,yells and is outright aggressive. This is not a needed behavior for Dommes. If one needs to yell to get their way,than I would not consider them dominant at all.

There are so many more examples,but MzSydney only has so much free time in her day to relay wisdom. The point I want most acknowledged from this post,is that one must recognize that the term "real" may not mean what you think it means when someone else employs it,so when in doubt,just ask. One simple question can save tons of time.

Waste not,want not

Many upon many a male has come before me stating that they want to "get to know me"..yet the furthest thing from their mind is actually getting to know me. Let us be crystal clear gents,getting to know me does not in any way shape or form refer to discussing your fetishes,or having me describe "what if" scenarios,nor will I sit here and relay to you all of the activities which go on when I am playing with one of my slaves.

I cannot tell you how I would dominate you,or what I would do if you were before me right now. Each D's interaction and relationship should be personalized. There is no one size fits all when it comes to human beings and bdsm,so please refrain from asking such questions.

If you truly desire to get to know me than ask questions about me..such as what are my hobbies(vanilla)..what am I passionate about in my life,how you can be an asset within my life rather than a leech attempting to suck my energy and resources.

Ask about my favorites activities outside of bdsm. These are the queries which aid you in coming to know a person. If you are simply seeking a fetish dispenser to get your rocks off,than stroll dick in hand down the road,cause I am not the least bit interested in getting to know you.

Speak vanilla until such time as I make it known that I desire to delve deeper. Hold up your end of the conversation,and for pete's sake that means responding with more than a single word response.

Keep in mind when interacting with me that I consider my time precious,so if after a few exchanges you have not offered and followed through with a tribute,that I am going to lose interest in conversing with you. Regardless of the fact that I adore dominating males,findom is my true love,and if you are not providing,than I am already deciding to block you. This is not me being cruel,this is me being kind,for this decision stems from a distaste of wasting time,and surely you have no desire to waste time,now do you?

gift pics

Gifts from my brat this week are rolling in. Female entitlement lives,breathe,and reigns under the divine heels of Mz Sydney!! What have you done to shower me with the spoils of your submission today???

The only way to provide a positive first impression is to prove that you are capable of selfless service!

Working hard

Goddess has been busy this week with life! Basically I have been working hard,and working out even harder!!

I did take a bit of a breather yesterday though. Enjoyed a lovely relaxing day trip into amish country with my man. A little peek into his view this evening

Isn't he a lucky guy??? He sure seemed to think so :) Nothing better than ending your weekend with a big OOOOOO!! Now it is your turn to add to my pleasure by sending amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com.

No money,no time

One of the biggest whines I have heard lately is "you just want my money". Let's talk about this shall we?

If this is what you believe about me personally there could be a reason why,and most likely it is all on you. If you are interacting with me,it is due to you reaching out to me,not vice versa. I repeat,I do not chase after male attention. I have no need for such tactics,and if I am not the one making contact,than I am in no way obligated to react in a generous manner. We are not friends,and I owe you zilch. You on the other hand are rather self-centered and obnoxious popping up in my inbox expecting something for nothing from me,so slow your roll before you hurl accusations .

If you have come to my inbox,ask yourself why you did so. Did you pounce in looking for a quick jerk? Were you reaching out for selfish reasons(anything to do with your dick is selfish)? If you responded yes,than you are the type of male who receives not an ounce of respect from me,nor do I care for your poor tender feelings of entitlement,or cater to you attempting to use me non-consentually. I have not signed a release stating that any and all swinging dicks have the right to impugn my person with their dick delusions,so when you come at me with your own agenda,you will certainly get the "fuck you pay me" response,because I detest you right from the start,and if I am going to gift a single moment of my time,than you are going to pay dearly for it. In my eyes males like I described are the scum of the earth,and I have no qualms treating them as such,which means pay up or STFU.

A totally differing subset of males approach me with my interests in mind,and these are the males who do not regurgitate the tired pity me line of "you just want my money". Why is that? They do not do so because they realize that it is their duty to contribute financially to my life,and are happy to play such a part. They take joy in being of use to a superior dominant woman in any way possible. They recognize their place in a female supremacist's life. Instead of breaking out the cheese for their whine,they say "she just wants my money!" They are happy that they are allowed to make a difference in my life,and beyond the moon ecstatic that I acknowledge their existence.

Basically I see it like this...using that line is subversive ploy to receive attention from a woman without ever showing her due respect. It reminds me of the juvenile saying "I double dog dare ya"..in a way it is exactly the same. It is a goading statement,in that I should prove them wrong,and interact with them for free,ergo they win. As well it is intended to shame and guilt me...oh she is such a bad person..once again meaning that I should prove them wrong by giving them my time free. Who honestly comes out on top in either of those situations,ya right not me,and believe me when I say that I am all about ME.

Would I speak with males who are not contributing to my life,NO. Do I have to,NO. Does it make me a bad person not doing so,NO. It merely means that I value myself above such BS. My time is my own,and I am the banker who decides how to spend it,and I will not apologize for opting to share it with those who actually appreciate it as a gift.

In conclusion,keep your manipulative "you just want me for my money" ass out of my inbox. Thanks :)

poetry speaks to me

A pure work of art that speaks to me. Observant gents already know that poetry holds a place in my affections :)


When the sweet air turns bitter
and the leaf falls from the twigs
and the birds change their language,
here I sigh and sing because of him,
because of Love, who keeps me ensnared and caught,
whereas I never had him in my power.

Alas! I haven't gained, of Love,
but the torment and pain,
for nothing is as hard to gain
as that which I am seeking,
nor any longing affects me
as that for what I cannot have.

I rejoice because of a pearl
so fine that I never loved anything as much;
when I am with her, I am so astonished
that I don't dare vouch my desire,
and when I part, it seems to me
that I lose all my sense and my learning.

The fairest woman one has ever seen,
compared to her, isn't worth a glove;
when the entire world turns to darkness,
light shines from the place she rests.
I shall pray god that I may touch her one day
or that I may see her go to bed.

Awake or asleep, I quiver and am all startled
and shaken because of my love for her.
I am so afraid of dying
that I don't dare think how to entreat her,
but I shall serve her two or three years
and then, maybe, she'll learn the truth.

I don't die nor live nor heal,
nor do I feel my malaise, although it's serious,
for I am not parted from her love
and I don't know whether I'll have it, nor when,
for in her is all the grace
that can raise me or cast me down.

It pleases me when she drives me insane
and make muse and gape in stupor;
it pleases me when she abuses me
and makes fun of me, behind my back or to my face,
for after the ill, the good will come
soon, if her fancy turns that way.

If she doesn't want me, I wish I had died
the day she took me in her service!
Alas! She murdered me so sweetly
when she seemed to love me,
for she has gripped me so
that I don't want to see any other woman.

Although worried, I rejoice:
for, although I shun or blandish her,
for her sake I shall be false or faithful,
or righteous or full of guile,
or a complete scoundrel or a complete gentleman,
or agitated or peaceful.

But, whoever may like it or grieve it,
she can retain me, if she wants.

You too can live a FEMDOM life

If you are a faithful reader of my blog,than you are already aware that I am a realist vs a fantasist.  I fear that there are very few of my ilk within the fetish scene,or at the least,we would be a scarce minority. Some of my newest readers who are yet stumbling around searching for the reason that they have even entered into this realm may be wondering "what is the difference between the two"?

The answer I provide is based solely upon my personal opinion(which you are free to agree or disagree with). It stands to reason that a strong factor in many seeking out this lifestyle is fantasy,especially for you of the male orientation. It is known that males are led by their sexual appendages. They follow that which arouses them,whether it be visual or audio...so with all of the Femdom clips produced and marketed daily towards the enticement of male attention,is it difficult to believe that males are finding their way into the Femdom scene by the droves? Of course not.

Femdom is a lifestyle of wonder and empowerment. Empowerment is a powerful word. Truth be that not only are women empowered by the service of males,but the males themselves are empowered as well. As odd as that last statement sounds,in my mind it is accurate entirely. How would it not be empowering for a male to finally accept the purpose he was created for? No longer must he drift along not knowing why he is here,why he exists. He is gifted with meaning,and that meaning involves the relinquishment of all that he once believed to be true,and that in itself is a frightening prospect. Imagine if you were thrown into a society of which you were ignorant of the basic rules..daunting is it not? Yet those males of fortitude and the driven desire to immerse themselves within their destined role are possessed of strength. A strength which allows them to bend themselves to the will of another. They take upon themselves the dissolution of past behaviors ingrained by patriarchal society,and are set free from the constraints of public bindings of dictated male behavior. Their reward being that they are free. No longer a subject of conformity governed by the masses,instead they are subject to the rules of only ONE. Empowered!

Where the muddy waters flow is in the mind of the fantasist. He is a visitor in the foreign land of Femdom. Note I did not say a resident,for he is not meant to stay. Like a dreamer he escapes to this mythical realm to play out his darkest desires,but lacks the wherewithal to dwell where he cannot make the rules. He is burdened with the belief that he is entitled to call the shots as they pertain to his postulating protuberances. In many ways he reminds me of a child. A child who is set upon having things his way,and where he is the center of his own universe,which is true for the majority of human beings we share this earth with,so it is not surprising to see it so very often. He views Dommes as a means to a sticky handed end. His pleasure,and the pursuit of it sets the course of his actions. His agenda remains fixated upon himself,so he is definitely not a viable candidate for citizenry of Femdom. I say not that he has no place,merely that not one permanently. He will find what he seeks,have no doubt about that fact. Femdom offers many of those that for a price will indeed bring his arousal to culmination,so you see he fits into that sphere quite well,even if he is grossly unfit to serve for more than a jack off session.

The realist is one who engages in order to find a way to incorporate Femdom into their everyday life,and yes this is a possibility if one really wants it to be more than a waking dream. It is the rare few who are able to accomplish the transition,and this is why these males are worthy jewels within the crown of a Queen :) They make every struggle a Domme endures wading through the cesspool of misogynists worth the effort. To the select few I tip my imaginary crown :) for I know that it is not an easy feat to allow Femdom to reign over your life in a time and age where it is seen as an unforgivable weakness for a male to possess. The realist lives his life with the core belief that women are in charge,that they are the natural leaders,and that he is meant to follow not lead. He is respectful towards all women. He displays gentlemanly manners. He recognizes the reward of being allowed to live his life as it is meant to be lived..in service to women.

I have had many say to me that they cannot live a Femdom life because they have a "real" life to lead. This astounds me,and always leaves the impression that I am indeed dealing with a fantasist,for there is no excuse for not living such a life if you are male. Is there any cognitive reason why males cannot treat women with respect,why they would not be able to treat women not as objects of their own sexual gratification,or pawns for the achievement of their own ends? Those reasons appear rather selfish and self centered to me. Regardless whether you are a CEO or a fast food employee,you can serve women each and every day. You can speak to them with deference. You can train your sexually perverse mind to cease seeing them as jerk fantasies. You can donate to women's causes. You can promote the elevation of women in society and the workplace. The only thing that holds a male back is his own selfishness and sense of entitlement period!! This is something that the realist recognizes and overcomes,and that in itself earns you a "good boy"

So come not to me with excuses of cannot,but rather with an accounting of the steps you have taken to do so :) for I am ever the realist!

Findom/Femdom

MY world revolves around MY happiness,just as yours should. I am the center of MY own universe,and yours(that is if you are blessed to be serving me). I am a take no shit Goddess,which means all of the petty little games you played with others is not going to go down with ME.

I know exactly what I want,and it is your place to provide ME with those things. The cost of your suffering is negligent,for your suffering pleases ME most.

For too long now you have been like a leech living vicariously off the efforts of others who serve ME. You have wasted time admiring the gifts MY gents gave freely for MY pleasure. Pulling that chump stump imagining how wonderful it would be to serve a living Goddess such as myself. Goddess tires of you,and your selfish ways.

The road to redemption does not lay in your tighty whiteys. Your absolution can only be found in selfless giving to Goddess. That means that you will go without so that I can have. That you will find your pleasure in the joy of providing for MY wants. Sex means nothing,and orgasms even less,for the definition of nirvana is now defined as hearing ME say "Good boy".

Every hour you spend toiling at your job,now has meaning,because that job and paycheck enable you to provide for MY greed. Those 40 + hours a week are steps to your salvation. Only through sacrificing for ME shall you be made new. Made new into the perfect gent for Goddess.

No longer shall you ignore MY wishes or whims. When I make known MY desires,you shall be the first to tribute. You will give and give and give. You will not whine and cry. You will not ask for rewards. You will accept your purpose in life gracefully,and embrace it fully. No more cowardly skunking away to your hole. Step up,and kneel down at my Femdom feet with your offering already sent.

No messages will earn MY attention if they are devoid of a gift card,NOW get to it!

New vehicle

Goddess Sydney is in an excellent mood this morning! Yesterday I finally decided upon a new vehicle,good part yes,bad part,the dealership will have to order the one I want :( That is what I get for being so picky I guess lol. Goddess does not settle,and I am willing to wait a few days to get what I want. In true submissive fashion,MY brat has already handed over 2K towards the down payment :) The rest of you should take a cue from his act. You too can play a part in MY happiness.

Every day offers a new opportunity to earn your place beneath MY Femdom feet. All it takes is the will and desire to Sacrifice for Sydney. You just set your mind to the fruition of MY happiness. Anything less is a joke and an insult to submission. Submission to Sydney will never be based upon the wants of the submissive. I am entirely too bent upon MY will prevailing to ever bend for the desires of a male.

I know that you are sitting there reading MY words. Now is the time to make yourself known to ME. Impress ME,and possibly gain MY notice by sending your tribute to mzsydney34@yahoo.com via amazon gift card. No other forms of tribute accepted from untested males.

No business Findom

I imagine that none of you would be surprised by how many times I have been advised to tone myself down,to cultivate a style which is more pleasing to the male ear,mind,and libido. To create an image for myself stock full of sexuality,which in turns entices the pole to the hole. This is surely the path to success within the online realm of domination,where to catch the ever roving male attention span of a gnat,you should get bold with displaying the feminine goods.

I am ever doing the opposite of what I have been told. In fact I rebuke the sexuality in domination. I am intelligent enough to realize that sex sells(proven data),and if I were in the business of selling a product,I can absolutely see that approach being viable,but I am not a business,nor am I selling anything. Promoters would disagree,and state that I myself am the product,and what I am selling is myself,in that I am seeking submissive males to serve me,so I should be advertising in a manner which draws a client in. The problem with this concept is exactly as I stated a hot minute ago,I am NOT selling myself or attempting to "sex" myself up to lure in customers.

Here is where many imagine that I have quite the gall to say that I am selling nothing,not even myself,especially since I am a FinDomme. For those of you who have no clue what findom is,I suggest google,and do disregard all of the services which seem to shelter under a created umbrella for findom(which it does not require,for it can stand upon it's own). I will never see Tribute as payment(you are not buying me). I sincerely believe that it is the duty of males to labor for the financial gain of females. It is their lot in life to provide for women's creature comforts,to finance their holidays,their dates,their lavish lifestyle. Oh my lord are eyes popping out yet? These are my beliefs,and they are why I incorporate findom into every single D's interaction I step into. There are NO exceptions for males. If you are to serve,than it is with mind,body,and wallet.

It is a supreme honor to suffer and sacrifice for women. It is only the male ego and delusional sense of patriarchal entitlement which screams out NO NO NO to the entire concept of findom. males have been ingrained to believe that they are entitled to the time,attention,and sexuality of women. Well,that buck falls short right here! I owe you nothing. You on the other hand are indebted to women. All males(I do not believe in such a thing as dominant males)should be vying with each other to better the lives of women period.

males should be proud not of a supposed sense of prowess(penis size) or power,but instead base their value upon how well they serve women. The only achievement which holds water is how you are enriching the lives of women! Never again do I want to hear how a male is just so intelligent,and making X amount of salary,without hearing along with that,that they are smart enough to give their salary to women as their due,and how they are working tirelessly to promote the elevation of female supremacy.

Women are the future my friends,embrace it dearly,and do your part gents to ensure that they remain that way.

What does it mean?

To serve me means you think of me more,and of yourself less. It means that my wants are paramount to the self-centered ones you harbored before me. It means that my happiness comes first. It means that you are at a point in your submissive journey where you recognize that a part of your life remains devoid of fulfillment. It means that you have accepted your purpose in life as a submissive male. It means that you are mature and healthy mentally and emotionally. It means that your focus is directed outward,rather than inward. It means that you are not consumed with the gluttonous goal of personal sexual gratification. It means that you burn with an intensity to please me. It means that you grasp the concept of loyalty to me,and me alone as your Domme. It means that you regard me as a higher being than yourself. It means that you are devoted to spending your time away from work,working to be all that I desire in a submissive. It means that you are open to changing,and molding your thought processes to align with what I require you to be. It means that you will be full of gratitude for my time and energy. It means that you will delight in any exchange we engage in. It means that you will embrace and incorporate into your daily life the rules I set forth(without complaint or argument). It means that you will be what I want or need you to be,and provide for what I want or need from you as my submissive. It means that you will be polite and mannered towards ALL women,not just those you are physically attracted to. It means that you will take delight in my delight. It means that no matter how weary you are from a workday,you will find a moment to check in with me,because I am always a constant in your thoughts. It means that you will gift me without expectation of rewards. It means that you will dedicate yourself towards knowing me,and learning the art of anticipating my wants. It means that you will not act disobediently in the hopes of receiving "funishment". It means that you will take to heart my words,and memorize my expectations,so that you may meet and exceed requirements. It means that your greatest joy,and sense of achievement comes from being mine :)

Household bitch position

Before you get yourself all revved up,no I am not seeking anyone to come live in or visit my household. What I do desire though is a good boy who will take upon himself the expense of my household wants,ie items along the lines of detergent,cleaning products,curtains etc.... Now some of you may be thinking "oh my this would be a position where I can get off cheap"..alas though that is not so :) I do not have cheap taste in any area of my life,so in order to fill this position,one must have the pockets to do so. Expect to spend out no less than $100 weekly.

The other position I have considered opening up is a fragrance servant. This is where the requirement would be the weekly purchase of perfumes,bath bombs,lotions..body products,because we all know that is the only way anything of yours will touch any body part of mine :)

Now if you believe that you are capable of fulfilling my wants,and able to pass through my vetting process,than by all means come humbly to my inbox with your first tribute already sent via amazon gift card to mzsydney34@yahoo.com

No response will be deigned attention unless the gift card is sent prior.

thick thighs and feet poolside

 It rubs the lotion upon Goddess legs!

Thick thighs to tease and tantalize!

Get down on those knees gents,and beg to be mine.

Female empowerment

Many males purport to support female empowerment,and supremacy of the female sex,yet refuse to tribute towards the fulfillment of the cause. In order to promote the rule of women,males should be begging to finance the hopes,dreams,and future ambitions of women,period!

How do males imagine that women succeed? Of course women are intelligent and resourceful all on their own,but to truly corroborate the claim of belief in female supremacy,one must be willing to take action. Words alone provide nothing. It boils down putting your money where your mouth is.

In today's workforce women continue to fall short of equal pay and opportunities for advancement within the patriarchal dominated workplace,which is absolutely unacceptable! So if you are one of those males running around sprouting "I believe in matriarchy",then get off your ass,and do your part in achieving that goal.

What is rarely recognized by males,is that women deserve way better than they receive as their due from your fellow misogynistic mates. Males in fact can make a difference,but not exactly in the way they may think.

In findom(just like in vanilla society) women are perceived as objects,yes I know many will deny it,but is it truth,and a very apparent one if only the time was taken to see exactly how the majority of males approach and interact with women in the scene,hell in life itself. I do realize as I blogged about previously that findom has evolved into a service industry,but what I am speaking of does not dwell in that category. Femdom is about female domination yes...but more than femdom,I am talking about female empowerment,and that my readers is not always dressed in leather,pvc,or even latex. Sometimes it is a women dressed in business attire,maybe even mom jeans. My point being is that the promotion of female empowerment progresses no where without the drive and ambition to see it to fruition.

A male's duty to aid in empowering females may come from donating to a woman's cause,or supporting women's abuse shelters,perhaps even so far as to financing the education of a female. Some of the things I see being placed under the heading of empowerment,certainly do not make sense to me. I have seen males claim that by calling a PSO that they are empowering women,now come on,any idiot can smell that cow patty. Empowering women should not come at a cost to women. Women have been repressed,misrepresented,objectified as sexual objects,and trod upon by the boots of males long enough,so if you are one of those males claiming to be all for women in power,then do not make your words empty and meaningless by failing to back them up with action. Do something,cause that is what says something!

VOD for my subgent subjects:

Goddess is the way and the life. She creates within you purpose.

Goddess is all things to you. She is elevated above you. She is your reason to exist. She is the creator of your world. The center which you revolve around. She brings light to your darkness,and meaning to your chaos. Your life without Goddess is fruitless and futile.

Addiction is cruelly beautiful

What better way to lose your soul than serving the ambition of a Goddess.

Findom success

Questions questions everywhere. How do I do this? How do I find paypigs? How do I get males to tribute?

I have composed hundreds of blogs so far about findom,the lifestyle,how to serve,how to be served etc... but the questions come in everyday,so here I go again :)

Findom is set apart from lifestyle bdsm, kinda weird I know, but one of the first things you will find out in this fetish is that it is very greatly looked down upon by "ordinary" bdsm members. It really sucks to be so very disdained by people who engage in most of the same activities as FinDommes do.  Hinky isn't it that Dominas who style themselves as "lifestylers" have no issue with receiving gifts which are used in play such as whips,floggers,strap-ons,stockings,heels,paddles,plugs and on and on,yet they consider FinDommes to be scammers and whores eh?

The only real differences between a lifestyle Domina and a FinDomme is money. FinDommes set a value upon their time and energy. They expect, nay, they demand that males drop the entire entitlement agenda, and tribute for the honor of being in the presence of a woman. In essence they force upon males the realization that women owe them nothing, and that if they desire her attention, than they should pay for it. FinDommes do not have sex with their servants, why, well cause if there is an exchange of money and sex occurs, that kinda falls into the category of prostitution, which is illegal in many countries still, and no one looks good in those orange jumpsuits. Lifestyle Dominas do engage in sexual acts though(not saying all, so don't twist your panties). Why do you think so many begging for pegging pissants flock to lifestylers huh? The sex baby, oh yeah! Sex itself seems to be a huge part of lifestyle play ie oral worship, rimming, strap-on play(oh just in case you are confused, anytime there is penetration or touching of genitalia, that goes under the umbrella definition of sex)..but this is not something you are going to expect a FinDomme to offer.

Now you might get the impression that I am bagging on lifestylers, but I am not. I respect all women who are just doing their thing. Women should empower each other, not sit in judgement.

Oops I went off on a tangent. Getting back to the topics at hand!

1)How do I do this? BE YOURSELF. Develop your own style. Play around with fetishes to see what you like. Don't put on a mask,and try to fake your way to the top (doesn't work,and if it did,then it would not be real). Keep your private details private to protect yourself (yes online stalkers and haters exist). Don't try to make a name for yourself by putting other females down (classless antic). Don't engage in drama..sheesh online drama is senseless and brings bad PR to all FinDommes. Be mature enough to realize that just like in ordinary life, you are not going to like everyone, nor they you, so rather than sling mud, just block and go baby.

2)How do I find paypigs? Sign up and fill out a detailed profile on fetish sites ie Collarspace, Fetlife, alt, findoms, Elite Financial Domination, seeking arrangements. Get a twitter, tumblr, blogspot, website(it is ok to start out with a free one like wix or weebly). I would go with wix to start with since it is free and fairly easy to navigate. There is no need to fork out for domain and hosting fees until you decide that findom is your niche.  Post content, share your thoughts thereby allowing prospective males to see what you are really about, take photos (Instagram is a good place to post),and yes even selfies are good so long as the background is not trash littered (try to avoid the bathroom room ones though,unless you are promoting an interest in watersports or scat) Videos even short ones like vine will gain you followers and notice. Don't fall for the you have to show your goodies to get notice (you don't) but feel free to do so if that is what YOU want to share with the world at large. Following through with these actions will get you noticed, and no you do not need to chase after males..if you are chasing, than the power balance shifts, plus it is tacky as hell. You build it (an online presence) and they will come, most likely cum too lol.

3)How to be served? Only you know what type of service you seek, and it is up to you to make that known. If you love sph, chastity etc, then make note of it in your profile, so that you will attract that type of male. If you do not want anything long term,or real time,SAY SO. If you just want the money,hey that is ok too,but be honest about it. Most of all, just have fun..do the things that you enjoy, and the rest will take care of itself!

4)How do I get males to tribute? This is definitely the trickiest one. You have to spend some time interacting with a prospective to figure this one out. Males have triggers, and they are they key. Now do not make the mistake of giving up hours of your day with any one male in the hopes of getting a tribute(not likely to happen),and you look foolish for having wasted your own time. I am not advocating that you not take the time to get to know a male,just that you go into it with the realization that the male you are speaking with may never tribute you. He may just be looking to use you for his sexual gratification for free (lots and lots play that game). To protect your interests (your time) it is ok to ask or expect a small tribute upfront before engaging in lengthy discussion,and if the notion is scoffed at,well you might just be better off blocking and going. You cannot make a findom connection with someone that will not honor you with tribute. Okies I know that last statement is gonna crinkle toes,but unless you are here for "friendship" willingness and ability to tribute matters in findom. You cannot disregard the "FIN" in financial domination, else it becomes an entirely different dynamic.

I wish all females success in the fetish realm,and hope that they grow in empowered from the experience :)

changes

Deliberating deliberating. After much thought I have decided to switch things up a bit for awhile. No longer will I post my photos here or twitter,as it appears to not bring about my desired effect. In fact it is in total opposition of my wishes.

Quite early women learn that males are visual creatures,but that is not always a positive presentation.
No doubt that my photos and occasional video are viewed by males,but it has not brought them begging to my door,for they are getting what they seek sans any effort on their part,and that in itself is unacceptable in my estimation.

The definition of insanity applies here,for if I continue repeating my actions over and over (posting photos and vids) expecting it to lead servile males to me,then I would be insane,ergo my methodology must alter. Make sense? Hope so.

Therefore I will be posting such visions to my Instagram only,which has now been put on private,meaning that only those I allow will see it. This in essence forces males to work for my attention,notice,and presence,and that is how it is meant to be. No more free wank spank photo ops for you. You must now show me your appreciation(tribute) before I ever allow you access into my realm.

Effective today,until further notice.


Now come make your way to my feet pets.