Scams, frauds, liars & losers

 

Welcome back Queens & Princesses, pervs, and peons

 

Today we are going to revisit the who will, and who wont's when it comes to paying financial tribute. 

Have you noticed the abundance of new names, and new faces in the findom field? I imagine that you have. Kinda hard to miss eh? Now most of us are aware that males have a proclivity towards changing names, avis, accounts, etc when they need to cover their dubious non-debt paying past behaviors. I mean, it gets rather difficult to successfully dangle carrots in front of a Domme's face when the entire community knows you for the scammer you are. 

I have noted tons of newer Ladies making the rounds with complaints of being scammed. This is unfortunately a never ending cycle for "newbies", as they have yet to have learned how best to avoid ever having their time put to less than optimal use when surfing for sugar pot submissives. That all changes today! I am going to share with you a tip which will change your interactions, save you time, effort, and headaches.  

STOP TALKING TO MALES WHO HAVE NOT PAID YOU!!!

That is the secret, and the winning strategy. 

Scammers employ all types of tricks to get you to waste some of your precious time on them. Such as

1)Real Dommes do not charge (shame game countered with "If you were a real submissive, you would pay before approaching")

2) If you really loved dominating men, you would do it for free (no sane person works for free, and yes domination is work)

3) I need to get to know you before I pay you (blah blah blah BS, they can take the time to read your TL, and see your interactions for that)

4) All you care about is the money (hint: It really is about the money)

5) I need a pic or vid to prove that you are real before I pay (ha ha ha never give away free content...you should have plenty of free pics up on social media to begin with)

6)  I am going to get paid, have money coming, yada yada, will pay you when I get it (that day NEVER arrives)

7) I sent you a gift from your WL, sent you a gc, bought a clip etc....(never play with any male until you can verify that they have parted with funds for your time)

I have been around this block for a long time, and I tell you now with all sincerity, I have never, and yes I mean never ever, had any male serve me for any length of time, that has not tributed up front. "Good boys" will ALWAYS tribute without being asked, forced, or coerced. They do so, because they recognize your superiority, and crave your acceptance & happiness above boner gratification. 

They want to contribute to your life in a meaningful way, and let's be honest here, money does make the world go round. Without money, life is a study in misery, so you tell me why you would spend a single moment of your precious time on a male who wants you to be miserable? 

Look at it logically, such as from a business standpoint. You have a minimal amount of product (your time), which means that your focus needs to be upon maximizing a return on your investment (your time), else you will be out of business sooner rather than later, once again miserable. Ladies who spend all of their time chasing the ganders which lay no eggs, end up burnt out, and broke. Is that the way you would like your story written? If not, then heed my advice

STOP TALKING TO MALES WHO HAVE NOT PAID YOU!!!

Judgement in the fetish scene

Welcome all to the realm where the words of Goddess Sydney transform your life 

Have you ever joined a fetish site (no I will not name and shame any one in particular) where you see a mix of lifestyle fetish folks, and professional fetish folks? If you have, you are bound to have noticed the blatant animosity brewing and spewing from the left to the right. What you see so much of if you are involved in findom is

Anger and blame assigning are the name of the game here. Whose panties are in such a wedgie in regards to Findom and Professional domination though?

1)males who are broke
2)males who are cheap
3)males who feel entitled
4)misogynists(males and females)
5)women with low self-esteem issues

Let's take a moment to probe into why each is embittered with anger towards FinDommes and Pro-Dommes shall we.

1)males who lack the financial means to tribute a FinDomme or pay for a session with a Pro-Domme are naturally going to explode at those that require financial compensation for their time, why, because it completely bars them from playing with the women that they desire to have feed their fetishes. It is no different than wanting candy, but having no money, so you illogically become angry with the vendor for charging more than you can pay. It becomes a poisonous mindset reconciled to the belief that no one should charge for effort which they supposedly love performing. This makes zero sense. Millions of people hold down positions of employment that they find enriching emotionally, but without that compensation, they would look elsewhere to fund their lifestyle. You are delusional if you believe that people work for free, and yes domination is work. 

2)males who are miserly with their coin. I know all about living a frugal life, but as well, I know that if I want quality in my life, than I am going to pay for it. You simply cannot expect a car dealership to agree to your attempts to barter down the price of a benz to the equivalent price of a mazda, so why bother trying to browbeat and cajole a dominant to accepting less than her worth? No one is forcing males to pay for sessions. males are making the decision to contact dominants who require compensation for their time and effort, so stop being a shitstain, and pay the upfront price for the luxury you desire, and yes being dominated is a luxury, not a right.

3)males with entitlement issues are seriously a pain in the ass to deal with as a dominant. Someone somewhere, at some point in time led them to believe that they should not have to pay for their wants. Whether it stems from the thought that they are the cat's meow, or they originate from a financially entitled family lineage. This is not going to get you anywhere with a FinDomme. Regardless how pretty your mirror says you are, or how big the ruler claims your dick to be, none of it matters when it comes to dominants. You will pay the same exact price as the Quasimodo dude with the 2" pecker pays. You are not special.

4)misogynists exist in all walks of life. They are male predominantly, but even some females have a hate hard on for their own sex. This does not negate their desire to "get off", but they will try to do so at the emotional expense of women. They will attempt to humiliate, degrade, or outright bash women who will not meet their desires freely. They already believe women to be walking meat stick receptacles, so please do not expect any respect or human decency towards women to be displayed by them. They are a bane to progressive society. A reject throw back to the dark ages of behavior. You will not change their opinion of women being piles of shit, so please do not waste precious moments of your life doing so.

5)women with low self-esteem are perhaps the saddest perpetrators of all. I firmly believe that women should stand together, but when you have one subset standing upon the neck of another, you are going to get no where real quick. I get why some women suffer from feeling as if they are not pretty enough, thin enough, young enough, smart enough, but dammit there is therapy for that! Do you know why so many women have issues with their appearance? MEN, that is why. Males are in charge of the media of who tells women that they must be thin, they must fit the modal of attractiveness that men have erected to suit their erections. It is men who decide who is hot, who is sexy, who is viable as a woman. My question to you is, why are you allowing men to have this power in your life? Fuck that!! a)You do NOT need a man b)You are of value as a beautiful woman, regardless of what men say (see that beauty, be that beauty). 

I personally am sick and tired of being beaten with the judgement stick. If you do not like FinDommes or Pro-Dommes, do NOT associate with them. Do not contact them. Do not tweet them, or pm them. They are not the ones "ruining" the scene, you are. Your anger is bitter, and it makes you ugly, which is why no one wants to play with you. Get on with your life, and decrease your stress levels by avoiding those that you do not agree with. It is not that difficult. It is all part and parcel of being a mature human being. So long as you stay in your own lane, you will not feel the need to cut in someone else's. Good luck, and blessings be upon you!

Victimization of male submissives in findom

Welcome to the sphere of Goddess Sydney. A safe space for males to experience the reality of being inferior to a woman :)

A lot of misguided individuals believe that poor little paypigs are brutally taken advantage of by those most "despicable vile con artists" known as FinDommes, and my mission today is to set the record straight by asking and answering some basic questions.

1)Are "paypigs" in the findom scene victims? 
Males in the findom arena are consensual participants in a recognized valid fetish. They engage in a power exchange facilitated by the relinquishment of control via financial tribute. The prime adjective to note in that statement is CONSENSUAL. Consent determines the course, and thereby lays waste to the accusation of abuse. If an adult human being of sound mind consents to an activity with defined rules, and outcomes relayed, than they are no more a victim of a crime than any other person who plays in the bdsm world.**Please note that I am NOT stating that victimization never ever occurs in findom, but only that it is NOT the norm.** You will have people with ulterior motivations, and shady agendas in ALL walks of life, but for the most part I am speaking to the normative group who engage in findom.

2)Aren't "FinDommes" money hungry scammers who should just get off their dead ass, and get a real job?
Reality=The majority of women who engage in findom as a dominant, do work regular joe jobs. It is a fetish for them, and even an innate desire to dominate submissives. I am going to estimate here, so keep that in mind, but perhaps only the top earning 1% of women in the findom scene actually rely on findom for all of their income. Just as in any other occupation, earning is competitive, so those top 1% of women are forced to work their asses off to get to the point where they can claim it as a career, which means that they are not sitting around on a dead ass taking advantage of wandering mentally disadvantaged schmucks. I am not denying that they are capitalizing upon the predication of horny males seeking to "get off", because they really are, but they are not employing force, for males will line the blocks to wank off, and you know full well that I am not being disingenuous here. The bottom line here, is that males are willingly, and with foreknowledge reaching out to these women, therefore if any blame must be assigned, than let it be lain at the feet of the instigator. 

3)FinDommes don't really care about those lost hapless souls serving them, now do they?
I have seen many, wonderfully  fulfilling long term findom relationships evolving over the years. I myself have a male who has been in service to me 12 continuous years as my finsub. He finds supreme satisfaction and fulfillment in sending me gifts of adoration and appreciation. Does he consider this abuse, absolutely NOT, because he finds pleasure in my happiness, and why would I want to deprive him of that? We both receive in the exchange of power. He gives gifts, I receive happiness from his tokens of love, and he receives purpose, direction, and pleasure from pleasing. Now I am going to aver right here and now, that not all findom relationships are identical to the one I just shared, but they may be more similar than what one may think to outsiders. Everyday you can pop on social media and see the terms blackmail and forced ruination, which to the average joe creates the appearance of abuse, but in most instances what you are really seeing is a fetish game played out publicly. Do you honestly believe that blackmailers display their criminal intent, and actions out for consumption? Get real here. Blackmail is a fetish, mind you that it is not one I engage in, but I recognize the edgy excitement of it. As to financial ruination, it occurs, but how much of what you see is real, and how much is fantasy? Fetish play is primarily based upon fantasies, and for most people, being bankrupted is an extreme dose of reality, which is skirted around, but never fully indulged. Sure you may find males who are left broke til next payday, but than, who isn't most of the time??

4)Do all FinDommes consider and treat findom like a business? For some it is. Take a look at 2 of the most popular venues for findom services (niteflirt & iwantclips). These are legitimate business models where consenting customers pay for products. No one is being deceived about what they are paying for. They cannot claim that they did not realize that their wallet was not being tapped. I did say some, but not all ok. Some FinDommes do not sell services. I personally don't, and I am not the only one. This is not to say that I never will, but at this point in time, I do not. As well, I do not judge those that do. So long as no one is being misled, or harmed, it is certainly no business of mine what people choose to do, and this is a philosophy most if not all should adopt.

5)Aren't FinDommes just beggars who chase after every male for money? If a completely random woman is slipping into your inbox asking for or demanding money, that is not a FinDomme, That is an entirely different animal, so do NOT mistake the 2.  Findom is not based upon a woman needing money from a male, but she will happily accept it from males who want to give it to her free of strings. Can you tell me the name of any woman who would not want to be given gifts without attached expectations for no reason other than existence, me neither. 

6)Aren't FinDommes just whores who fuck for money? Most of the women in findom that I am acquainted with, do not offer sexual services for compensation. Findom at it's hear, atleast for me, is not about tit for tat. It isn't even sexual for me. Yes it is sensual, and yes the power exchange arouses me physically, but it is more about the act of being on the receiving end of a powerful tribute which sets me soaring. I do not masturbate thinking about money, nor the males who gift me with it. I do not stroke a dick for pocket change, or allow a random penis to penetrate me for cash. There is a difference between how a FinDomme operates, and how an escort does. Yes they are both in the realm of sexworkers, but they are not dictated by the same rules. An escort is a service provider, which means that she provides a service for which she is compensated, whereas I do not provide a tangible service, but rather receive service for which I am paid tribute. I hope that makes sense. In the end, if you are looking for intercourse, or a blow job, your best bet is to go with the escort, cause any type of sex, is not happening with me. 

It is my hope, that my words have cleared away some of the confusion in regards to findom, and that all may atleast attempt to be less judgemental of fetishes which they have no knowledge of  :)

Submitting to a Dominatrix can be the most exhilarating experience

Welcome to the wonderful world of Goddess Sydney. A place where submissives line up to lay their submission at my feet!

 
 Submission begins in the mind, not the flesh. It is a conscious decision to relinquish control over yourself. It must be a conscious decision, else submission would not be submission, but rather an exchange painted by the stroke of abuse. 

Submission brings forth an avalanche of emotions, which can at times bury you beneath them. It can be frightening to the point of fight or flight survival mode. It may come with a full body tingling awareness of pure bliss. It may even trigger thoughts, and feelings that should be left alone. My point being, that submission can be many things to many people, which means that no two may ever experience it in the same manner, even if they are both subjected to duplicate stimuli.

The path of your submission is in most part within your control. You retain the power to make choices along the way. What choices do you have within your power?

1)You alone will decide whom you offer your submission to.
2)You alone will decide exactly what your hard limits are.
3)You alone can decide for yourself to sever the ties of submission within a D's relationship.

Submissives are not what society has scripted for them. They are not created from birth meek and weak of will. Many will be indeed of strong character, and moral fortitude. A man may bow before a woman, yet remain a man. There is no written, nor unwritten rule declaring that all submissives must be doormats to be walked upon. 

Submission is a contract, and no I do not refer to a legal document. You as the submissive agree to submit your will to another, with the provision that it is followed within the parameters that both submissive and Dominant agree upon, which may vary, and change over time, but it remains constant that the submissive has the right to refuse to remand control over aspects which they have not agreed to, or decree limited scope in specific instances. 

At the core of submission is the desire to let go, to give of yourself, to be free of the yolk life tethers you with. You will fly uninhibited from the constraints of society. It is both beautiful, and a blessing to submit to a Dominant. It is a life altering experience. An awakening of sorts, from which you will embrace wholeheartedly. 

Many will flee in fear, for the unknown blankets them beyond their expectations.Others will grab on with both hands, and ride the ride in exhilaration. One thing I have noted over my years in bdsm, is that those that run as if the wind cannot catch them, will eventually drift back to it, for if you possess a submissive heart, you will never be able to completely cut ties with it.  A submissive nature, a yearning to be dominated, cannot be imprisoned irrevocably. It will bring itself out, one way or another. 

My advice is to NOT run headlong into submission, but rather to gauge your ability to submit at the point in time, and take small steps til you find yourself knee deep. At that time you will hopefully possess the knowledge you need to survive the roller coaster  emotions of submission, intact. If you remain draped in doubts even then, tread water, take a deep breath, and immerse yourself slowly, til you find that one Dominant who makes you feel safe in submission. It may take months, years, even decades, but if you persevere, it will happen for you someday :)

FemDomme window shopping

Welcome to my world, fetish pet....

Are you a window shopper of FemDommes? Many of you start out this way, and some never depart from this approach. 

Why are you always shopping, but never making a commitment to serving one single solitary FemDomme? 

Is it because

1)You are an eternal slut
2)You suffer from FOC

Inquiring minds want to know.

Everyone is new to the scene at one point and time, but to lurk around the fringes for months, perhaps even years, is going to get you no where near the blessed experience of serving a dominant woman.

If fear is holding you back, than you might need to reassess. I mean, how badly do you want to submit? Are you willing to come outside your comfort zone to achieve your goal? I am not telling you to commit to the very first Domme you speak to, or even the second, but you do need to get your toes in the water if you are going to progress beyond sitting on the bench.  

It is ok to be nervous, and unsure of how to go about finding the woman you want to serve, and there is nothing wrong with waiting to find someone that you can see yourself happily serving, but you do reach a point where ya gotta piss or get off the pot, cause all you end up doing is wasting your own time. Are you here to kill time? Are you just that bored with life, that you feel it is better to stagnate like a feces filled pool, than to take a chance? If so, I pity you truly.

Now if your driving force is to connect with as many women as possible (community slut), well you are missing out as well. Sure you are getting your rocks off, but that is all that you are doing. You may have it in your head that it is a win win situation, cause you pop off a tiny tribute here and there, plus you get to wank off each time, but you are depriving yourself of something which goes beyond the physical. I am referring to the transcending psychological experience of making a deeper lasting connection with a dominant woman, and isn't that the entire point behind submission? 

Life is meant to be lived, not to be squandered sitting on the sidelines.

Serve Miz Sydney

Welcome to those who enter here with the intent to serve Sydney...

For those of you who are not serving me, nor in possession of the intent to serve Sydney,

You can just ride in my wake, because I am not waiting around for you to catch up,and realize that you should be investing your time and finances into the appreciation of Sydney.

Honestly,if you are not driven to serve Sydney with all of your heart, soul, and wallet, than you are wasting your life. You simply serve no purpose at this time, and if you are not useful, than you are useless. Who in their right mind would desire to interact with a useless skinsac of flesh..not I, says this Goddess! 

I stand upon the crest

whilst you tumble and toss within the undertow in the wake of my presence.

To know your place in the life of a FemDomme is a sign of intelligence..but to know your purpose, and serve it, is wisdom. 

One of the first pearls of truth I convey to all serfs who approach, is that regardless of your station in society, you will always be beneath, and below Sydney. Of course you are meant to strive to better yourself in service to Sydney, but you will never reach the heights to which I dwell.

This is your time little oyster..come lay your treasures at my divine feet..and take your predestined place serving Sydney.
 

Waste not,want not

Many upon many a male has come before me stating that they want to "get to know me"..yet the furthest thing from their mind is actually getting to know me. Let us be crystal clear gents,getting to know me does not in any way shape or form refer to discussing your fetishes,or having me describe "what if" scenarios,nor will I sit here and relay to you all of the activities which go on when I am playing with one of my slaves.

I cannot tell you how I would dominate you,or what I would do if you were before me right now. Each D's interaction and relationship should be personalized. There is no one size fits all when it comes to human beings and bdsm,so please refrain from asking such questions.

If you truly desire to get to know me than ask questions about me..such as what are my hobbies(vanilla)..what am I passionate about in my life,how you can be an asset within my life rather than a leech attempting to suck my energy and resources.

Ask about my favorites activities outside of bdsm. These are the queries which aid you in coming to know a person. If you are simply seeking a fetish dispenser to get your rocks off,than stroll dick in hand down the road,cause I am not the least bit interested in getting to know you.

Speak vanilla until such time as I make it known that I desire to delve deeper. Hold up your end of the conversation,and for pete's sake that means responding with more than a single word response.

Keep in mind when interacting with me that I consider my time precious,so if after a few exchanges you have not offered and followed through with a tribute,that I am going to lose interest in conversing with you. Regardless of the fact that I adore dominating males,findom is my true love,and if you are not providing,than I am already deciding to block you. This is not me being cruel,this is me being kind,for this decision stems from a distaste of wasting time,and surely you have no desire to waste time,now do you?

No money,no time

One of the biggest whines I have heard lately is "you just want my money". Let's talk about this shall we?

If this is what you believe about me personally there could be a reason why,and most likely it is all on you. If you are interacting with me,it is due to you reaching out to me,not vice versa. I repeat,I do not chase after male attention. I have no need for such tactics,and if I am not the one making contact,than I am in no way obligated to react in a generous manner. We are not friends,and I owe you zilch. You on the other hand are rather self-centered and obnoxious popping up in my inbox expecting something for nothing from me,so slow your roll before you hurl accusations .

If you have come to my inbox,ask yourself why you did so. Did you pounce in looking for a quick jerk? Were you reaching out for selfish reasons(anything to do with your dick is selfish)? If you responded yes,than you are the type of male who receives not an ounce of respect from me,nor do I care for your poor tender feelings of entitlement,or cater to you attempting to use me non-consentually. I have not signed a release stating that any and all swinging dicks have the right to impugn my person with their dick delusions,so when you come at me with your own agenda,you will certainly get the "fuck you pay me" response,because I detest you right from the start,and if I am going to gift a single moment of my time,than you are going to pay dearly for it. In my eyes males like I described are the scum of the earth,and I have no qualms treating them as such,which means pay up or STFU.

A totally differing subset of males approach me with my interests in mind,and these are the males who do not regurgitate the tired pity me line of "you just want my money". Why is that? They do not do so because they realize that it is their duty to contribute financially to my life,and are happy to play such a part. They take joy in being of use to a superior dominant woman in any way possible. They recognize their place in a female supremacist's life. Instead of breaking out the cheese for their whine,they say "she just wants my money!" They are happy that they are allowed to make a difference in my life,and beyond the moon ecstatic that I acknowledge their existence.

Basically I see it like this...using that line is subversive ploy to receive attention from a woman without ever showing her due respect. It reminds me of the juvenile saying "I double dog dare ya"..in a way it is exactly the same. It is a goading statement,in that I should prove them wrong,and interact with them for free,ergo they win. As well it is intended to shame and guilt me...oh she is such a bad person..once again meaning that I should prove them wrong by giving them my time free. Who honestly comes out on top in either of those situations,ya right not me,and believe me when I say that I am all about ME.

Would I speak with males who are not contributing to my life,NO. Do I have to,NO. Does it make me a bad person not doing so,NO. It merely means that I value myself above such BS. My time is my own,and I am the banker who decides how to spend it,and I will not apologize for opting to share it with those who actually appreciate it as a gift.

In conclusion,keep your manipulative "you just want me for my money" ass out of my inbox. Thanks :)

poetry speaks to me

A pure work of art that speaks to me. Observant gents already know that poetry holds a place in my affections :)


When the sweet air turns bitter
and the leaf falls from the twigs
and the birds change their language,
here I sigh and sing because of him,
because of Love, who keeps me ensnared and caught,
whereas I never had him in my power.

Alas! I haven't gained, of Love,
but the torment and pain,
for nothing is as hard to gain
as that which I am seeking,
nor any longing affects me
as that for what I cannot have.

I rejoice because of a pearl
so fine that I never loved anything as much;
when I am with her, I am so astonished
that I don't dare vouch my desire,
and when I part, it seems to me
that I lose all my sense and my learning.

The fairest woman one has ever seen,
compared to her, isn't worth a glove;
when the entire world turns to darkness,
light shines from the place she rests.
I shall pray god that I may touch her one day
or that I may see her go to bed.

Awake or asleep, I quiver and am all startled
and shaken because of my love for her.
I am so afraid of dying
that I don't dare think how to entreat her,
but I shall serve her two or three years
and then, maybe, she'll learn the truth.

I don't die nor live nor heal,
nor do I feel my malaise, although it's serious,
for I am not parted from her love
and I don't know whether I'll have it, nor when,
for in her is all the grace
that can raise me or cast me down.

It pleases me when she drives me insane
and make muse and gape in stupor;
it pleases me when she abuses me
and makes fun of me, behind my back or to my face,
for after the ill, the good will come
soon, if her fancy turns that way.

If she doesn't want me, I wish I had died
the day she took me in her service!
Alas! She murdered me so sweetly
when she seemed to love me,
for she has gripped me so
that I don't want to see any other woman.

Although worried, I rejoice:
for, although I shun or blandish her,
for her sake I shall be false or faithful,
or righteous or full of guile,
or a complete scoundrel or a complete gentleman,
or agitated or peaceful.

But, whoever may like it or grieve it,
she can retain me, if she wants.

No business Findom

I imagine that none of you would be surprised by how many times I have been advised to tone myself down,to cultivate a style which is more pleasing to the male ear,mind,and libido. To create an image for myself stock full of sexuality,which in turns entices the pole to the hole. This is surely the path to success within the online realm of domination,where to catch the ever roving male attention span of a gnat,you should get bold with displaying the feminine goods.

I am ever doing the opposite of what I have been told. In fact I rebuke the sexuality in domination. I am intelligent enough to realize that sex sells(proven data),and if I were in the business of selling a product,I can absolutely see that approach being viable,but I am not a business,nor am I selling anything. Promoters would disagree,and state that I myself am the product,and what I am selling is myself,in that I am seeking submissive males to serve me,so I should be advertising in a manner which draws a client in. The problem with this concept is exactly as I stated a hot minute ago,I am NOT selling myself or attempting to "sex" myself up to lure in customers.

Here is where many imagine that I have quite the gall to say that I am selling nothing,not even myself,especially since I am a FinDomme. For those of you who have no clue what findom is,I suggest google,and do disregard all of the services which seem to shelter under a created umbrella for findom(which it does not require,for it can stand upon it's own). I will never see Tribute as payment(you are not buying me). I sincerely believe that it is the duty of males to labor for the financial gain of females. It is their lot in life to provide for women's creature comforts,to finance their holidays,their dates,their lavish lifestyle. Oh my lord are eyes popping out yet? These are my beliefs,and they are why I incorporate findom into every single D's interaction I step into. There are NO exceptions for males. If you are to serve,than it is with mind,body,and wallet.

It is a supreme honor to suffer and sacrifice for women. It is only the male ego and delusional sense of patriarchal entitlement which screams out NO NO NO to the entire concept of findom. males have been ingrained to believe that they are entitled to the time,attention,and sexuality of women. Well,that buck falls short right here! I owe you nothing. You on the other hand are indebted to women. All males(I do not believe in such a thing as dominant males)should be vying with each other to better the lives of women period.

males should be proud not of a supposed sense of prowess(penis size) or power,but instead base their value upon how well they serve women. The only achievement which holds water is how you are enriching the lives of women! Never again do I want to hear how a male is just so intelligent,and making X amount of salary,without hearing along with that,that they are smart enough to give their salary to women as their due,and how they are working tirelessly to promote the elevation of female supremacy.

Women are the future my friends,embrace it dearly,and do your part gents to ensure that they remain that way.

What does it mean?

To serve me means you think of me more,and of yourself less. It means that my wants are paramount to the self-centered ones you harbored before me. It means that my happiness comes first. It means that you are at a point in your submissive journey where you recognize that a part of your life remains devoid of fulfillment. It means that you have accepted your purpose in life as a submissive male. It means that you are mature and healthy mentally and emotionally. It means that your focus is directed outward,rather than inward. It means that you are not consumed with the gluttonous goal of personal sexual gratification. It means that you burn with an intensity to please me. It means that you grasp the concept of loyalty to me,and me alone as your Domme. It means that you regard me as a higher being than yourself. It means that you are devoted to spending your time away from work,working to be all that I desire in a submissive. It means that you are open to changing,and molding your thought processes to align with what I require you to be. It means that you will be full of gratitude for my time and energy. It means that you will delight in any exchange we engage in. It means that you will embrace and incorporate into your daily life the rules I set forth(without complaint or argument). It means that you will be what I want or need you to be,and provide for what I want or need from you as my submissive. It means that you will be polite and mannered towards ALL women,not just those you are physically attracted to. It means that you will take delight in my delight. It means that no matter how weary you are from a workday,you will find a moment to check in with me,because I am always a constant in your thoughts. It means that you will gift me without expectation of rewards. It means that you will dedicate yourself towards knowing me,and learning the art of anticipating my wants. It means that you will not act disobediently in the hopes of receiving "funishment". It means that you will take to heart my words,and memorize my expectations,so that you may meet and exceed requirements. It means that your greatest joy,and sense of achievement comes from being mine :)

Wake up and pray to Goddess Sydney

then tribute Goddess Sydney

On your knees

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Aftertaste of anger

Anger is such an ugly repulsive deterrent to attracting what you seek.

I read more profiles than Dickens composed literature,and that is saying alot. A recurring theme appears to be the aftertaste of anger upon completion. So much anger,but why? Mad because YOU cannot get what YOU want,that what YOU demand remains out of your reach,even due to being denied what YOU claim as a need.

The anger is superfluous and unattractive. Lashing out serves no purpose. It is YOU who is in error with your strategy,not the Dommes who happen past you. The issue is your remaining fixation upon yourself,your wants,your desires,your fantasies. This mindset is what holds you back. It is like an anchor weighing you down into the deep dark abyss of being not of use. A ball and chain comprised of excess weight(your ego and sense of entitlement). To get any further,you are going to have to cut yourself loose from those strangling bonds.

Any D's relationship entered into by a "submissive" is doomed for failure from the start if his intentions are centered upon his own gratifying designs.There is no room for self when one is meant to serve selflessly. This requires an eradication of all desires,except those which please a Domme,and I guarantee that her primary focus is not what gets YOU off,so shed those shitstain cravings like a second skin that you are posing as needs. YOU do not need to get off,YOU do not need wank fodder,YOU do not need actions which objectify women...those are wants,and your wants are irrelevant in the scheme of things. Don't believe me,that is fine,and yes I know that there are plenty of service providers out there who will be your genie in the bottle..but then that is not submission and domination,that is only business. If it is a business arrangement you seek,then do be along with yourself,for you shame the title of submissive.

Another reason behind the rage that I behold is findom. Ack so many of you loathe the fetish,for various aspects. I will even share those reasons with you.
1)You possess no excess income(in fact you may not even make enough to care for your basic needs,hence you living in Mommy's basement)so it stands to reason that you are going to be very angry with women who realize their worth,and expect to be treated as a Goddess. Your anger though is misplaced,and should be internalized,for it is the fault of yourself that your financial status sucks ass. If you cannot afford a decent vanilla date(oh and by decent I am not referring to netfix and chilling at your place)then you are on a one way street when it comes to finding someone to serve.
2)You live with that entitled philosophy of "I don't have to pay for shit,I am too good for that" Uh huh and you are alone on Saturday nights too,unless you can con a drunk chick into giving it up...enjoy those herps son. That entitled bullshit went out with the dark ages. Women owe you nothing,and you best drill that fact into your brain.
3)"My dick is God's gift to women" LMFAO about that one. Dicks are fucking ugly. Don't be so proud of an appendage that resembles a worm(icky creatures) It is a rare female who is attracted to a male due to his dick alone..and you are highly unlikely to locate that unicorn lol.
4)There are those that even try to trade services in lieu of paying tribute. Homework slaves,web slaves,twitter slaves,oral slaves,sex slaves(biggest joke of them all) You should be paying tribute for the honor of doing homework,paying for designing websites,paying to retweet,and forget the oral and sex slave shit...you are the farthest thing from being worthy of that distinction. Since the creation of vibrators,you have been replaced with a better version,so erase that from your possible options of service post haste!

After all I have said,where does that leave you? That leaves you a blank chalkboard for the use of a Domme. Devoid of dick based designs,willing and aware that your place is paying tribute,and taking orders...orders which suit her needs,not your wants.

Clear?

Worship my divine soles with your wallet

A gift for my sinful soles from an admiring gentleman :)

Creation of a monster

Daily, written moans and bitches blight my sight online. A never ending cycle always in motion repetitively,to no avail. What complaint could it be that I refer to,well I speak of the dreaded time waster sagas discussed and beaten like a dead nag.

I am going to feed you the brutal truth of the creation of the blackguard himself,and it is going to rankle some,but we cannot seek to please all,or sweep the truth under the proverbial rug,if alterations are ever to come through.

The surprising part for most is that I am going to lay the blame where it truly belongs,and that is on the females in this fetish,yup I said it,and I mean it. Males are not totally inept intellectually,and like pavlov's dogs they do learn when actions are repeated which produce positive results. Take your average fetish male new to the scene,he comes along after having been conditioned by femdom porn,or even a bit of vanilla porn(ugh),so he has in his mind already decided what he believes should be the course of action right? Now some of his thoughts might actually align with what occurs in a lifestyle bdsm relationship,or even of that with an escort who offers a little fifty shades of grey action,BUT findom is an animal of an entirely different sort,so he is forced to configure new ways to meet his wants.

So,what is a male to do that wants attention,wants humiliation,wants degradation,but does not want to pay tribute for it? He may scratch his balls for a quick minute til he sees that hey he can achieve this goal easily,with minimal effort on his part. Looking at twitter,kik,and fetish sites it becomes apparent that to receive the humiliation he so desperately wants,all he has to do is post a photo of his dick,and boom all kinds of attention comes his way FREE,yay him(and before someone irately speaks out that they do not fall for this,take a quick peek and see how many do). Degradation oh yes sweet degradation..this one is easy as well. Left and right insults are hurled(you are fake,oops someone fell for the cam verify cause they feared being called an insta or worse a man!!)..call a woman fat,old or ugly,and lightening fast females will respond with insult after insult..oh great globs of slimy sperm yes,degradation has been freely relayed and received! Wants met at no cost to their wallet. Wow see how simple that was for him? How do we as females shove a cork in the ass of these actions,by remaining silent of course. STOP feeding the bitches with comments on their little dicks,cause that will not produce your due worship or tribute. All it does is teach males that they can have their cake and eat it too. Cease giving them a rise when they hurl inane comments towards your person. A confident dominant female does NOT care for the opinions of sheep,she knows that she is worthy of worship,and disregards commentary to the contrary.

Since we have spoken of time wasters,let's move on to the miserly scrooges abounding around. Just as with the previous mentioned,these males behaviors have evolved once again due to actions on the feminine front. Open your eyes,and you will see scads of females offering sessions for pennies on the dollar,accepting $10 tributes(puke). Of course it all adds up,but here is the thing,you as a female are of more worth than any male will ever assign you,and by valuing your time and energy so low,you are merely encouraging other males to devalue your time and attention as well. See the point I am making?  Findom is not about getting rich I know this full well,but it is a proven fact that males will take advantage of females if they are given the opportunity to do so,and no this is not a slight to males,merely the nature of the beast,so my question would be why do you as dominant women allow yourself to be treated shabbily,when you deserve so much more? Not every male in this fetish is a millionaire,but you surely know that they can do a hell of alot better than you are receiving! $10 is NOT a sacrifice..and please before someone gets pissy and says "oh yes it is if that is all they have in their pocket",well if that is all they have,then they need to save up,get a better job,or step away,cause what they are offering is an insult,so please do not fall prey to it.

The balance of power has shifted,and we as women have allowed it. Any female who allows a male to top from the bottom for a few bucks encourages it,any female who chases carrots encourages it,any female who feeds trolls encourages it...my point being that it is time to take command of the reins,and teach these males that they do not call the shots,they do not rule femdom or findom. Either take a stand,or lay down with the dogs,but most importantly quit bitching about time wasters,and cheap bitches if you are not going to be a part of the solution.

sweaty=the new sexy

Even after my workout,I am still a sexy siren :)

Resting on your laurels

Have you heard that phrase before? Resting on your laurels is a lazy approach to life. How that fits into service I will explain.

In regards to findom,that initial tribute is perhaps one of the most difficult steps to take..you may labor over the decision weeks before approaching a Domme,and honestly you should do so. Doing your research on a Domme is essential to ensuring a positive connection. I mean if you are a sissified male,and the Lady you are reaching out to,detests sissys,then you are spinning your wheels,and wasting her time,makes sense yes?

If after doing your homework,you find yourself yearning to make that connection,then jump to it. Be prepared to tribute as a display of your appreciation,and do NOT attempt to attach strings to that tribute(tributes are gifts,not payments). Now that the hard part is past you,you believe that you can relax and breathe a bit right,no no no! You cannot rest on your laurels,or past actions so to speak.

During the consideration period you should be aspiring to stand out in regards to your viability as a servant. It is basically a courting phase,where your manners and best behavior need to be present and at attention. You should be attentive(even when life is tossing curve balls your way),remembering that you are the one who came to her,not vice versa,and if you are not willing or able to invest your time and energy into forging a bond,then you need to step out of the scene until you can do so.

It is not nearly enough if you are simply expecting the Lady to allow you to get by just sending a tribute every week. Service is a demanding and time consuming adventure,but surely the rewards are aplenty considering that you are provided the honor of a Domme's attention and presence,which means you should be showing your dedication and devotion,by taking that extra step to prove yourself worthy of the distinction.

Keep in mind gents,one solitary action does not define you as a submissive,nor will it keep you on the end of her leash :)

Welcome to the world of Financial Domination Ladies

The most  sage advice I can and will offer to any new to the findom scene Ladies looking for guidance,as well as an anchor in a storm is 2 part.

1)Confidence
*We all have seen or read articles regarding the importance of self belief and purpose. Amazingly a simple quality,yet one that has defeated the masses in achievement. Not so difficult to believe that we as women in this day and age lack confidence,considering that we have been raised under the patriarchal society's definition of what is beautiful,and worthy in a woman,and yes the focus is based upon what is seen,rather than what is hidden to the naked eye sadly. In eras long past,women were regaled and lauded for their manners,their decorum,kindness,and consideration,yet today these fine examples have fallen to the wayside in favor of an obsession upon what is deemed provocatively sexually alluring(hence the overtly sexualized and objectification of a woman's body in media advertising),and it is no secret who empowers such campaigns(males),else the world as we see it,would not revolve around the oppression and suppression of a woman's worth,other than her physical attributes,and how they can be put to purpose for a male's pleasure.
*How does one then maintain a healthy level of confidence if they do not fit into the ideal,ie being a circle in a square pegged world. Easy,by not allowing your worth to be determined externally. We as women are our own worst critics(due to beliefs,insecurities, and ideals instilled within us since childhood). Yet those with strength of character are able to realize,embrace,and embody the acceptance of appreciating the differences between human beings. Whilst one may not fit within the parameters set by skewed misogynists,that does not mean that we cannot love and celebrate how we differ. I myself am not what would be labelled by the masses as a beauty of renowned proportions,yet here I sit knowing that I am gloriously lovely,and confident in the fact that my self worth is based upon the internal. I decide my value,therefore I suffer no setback due to outside judgment or commentary which harbors negativity. This you too can achieve. One of the rituals I adopted early on was positive affirmations(hibberty gibberty to disbelievers). The entire fake it til you make it concept is based upon a working reality. Doubt me,well then I challenge you to stand before your mirror each and every day picking out just one thing that you find beautiful about yourself,whether it be the curve of your jawline,the razor edge of a cheekbone,perhaps even the delicate flush of color across your face. Now I know that I encouraged up above to not focus upon what is seen,but if one is to possess confidence,then they must find love for the internal,as well as their external being to make that happen. Inner beauty is radiated without,once you accept it. Yes I know that many will doubt what I am saying,and that is ok,but if only a single fellow woman finds the realization that the power of her worth is held within her own hands,due to my words,then I am overjoyed.

2)Tenacity
*This is a word which I claimed as my middle name. Being tenacious means not giving up. To keep pushing on til you achieve your goals,not allowing outside influences to detract you from your purpose. The fetish scene can be cruel,and unkind,therefore you have to be prepared to overcome these obstacles,or atleast determined to circumvent them. This will require fortitude,for if you give up at the first hurdle,you may as well not have even entered the arena. You will be tested by those that play upon insecurities,and ignorance of the celebration of women as beings of power and influence,this I promise,which means that you must  dig deep,and develop the stubbornness of a mule. This is why I advise a high degree of confidence in yourself(hence my mention of it primarily),for to last you need to know your own worth first. In short,hold steady with your head held high,and your belief in yourself held even higher.


I sincerely believe in the empowerment of all women,and hope to see the fruition of it's evolution. Therefore I welcome all that are new,and hope to see you being worshiped for the Goddesses you are in the many years to come :)