Judgement in the fetish scene

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Have you ever joined a fetish site (no I will not name and shame any one in particular) where you see a mix of lifestyle fetish folks, and professional fetish folks? If you have, you are bound to have noticed the blatant animosity brewing and spewing from the left to the right. What you see so much of if you are involved in findom is

Anger and blame assigning are the name of the game here. Whose panties are in such a wedgie in regards to Findom and Professional domination though?

1)males who are broke
2)males who are cheap
3)males who feel entitled
4)misogynists(males and females)
5)women with low self-esteem issues

Let's take a moment to probe into why each is embittered with anger towards FinDommes and Pro-Dommes shall we.

1)males who lack the financial means to tribute a FinDomme or pay for a session with a Pro-Domme are naturally going to explode at those that require financial compensation for their time, why, because it completely bars them from playing with the women that they desire to have feed their fetishes. It is no different than wanting candy, but having no money, so you illogically become angry with the vendor for charging more than you can pay. It becomes a poisonous mindset reconciled to the belief that no one should charge for effort which they supposedly love performing. This makes zero sense. Millions of people hold down positions of employment that they find enriching emotionally, but without that compensation, they would look elsewhere to fund their lifestyle. You are delusional if you believe that people work for free, and yes domination is work. 

2)males who are miserly with their coin. I know all about living a frugal life, but as well, I know that if I want quality in my life, than I am going to pay for it. You simply cannot expect a car dealership to agree to your attempts to barter down the price of a benz to the equivalent price of a mazda, so why bother trying to browbeat and cajole a dominant to accepting less than her worth? No one is forcing males to pay for sessions. males are making the decision to contact dominants who require compensation for their time and effort, so stop being a shitstain, and pay the upfront price for the luxury you desire, and yes being dominated is a luxury, not a right.

3)males with entitlement issues are seriously a pain in the ass to deal with as a dominant. Someone somewhere, at some point in time led them to believe that they should not have to pay for their wants. Whether it stems from the thought that they are the cat's meow, or they originate from a financially entitled family lineage. This is not going to get you anywhere with a FinDomme. Regardless how pretty your mirror says you are, or how big the ruler claims your dick to be, none of it matters when it comes to dominants. You will pay the same exact price as the Quasimodo dude with the 2" pecker pays. You are not special.

4)misogynists exist in all walks of life. They are male predominantly, but even some females have a hate hard on for their own sex. This does not negate their desire to "get off", but they will try to do so at the emotional expense of women. They will attempt to humiliate, degrade, or outright bash women who will not meet their desires freely. They already believe women to be walking meat stick receptacles, so please do not expect any respect or human decency towards women to be displayed by them. They are a bane to progressive society. A reject throw back to the dark ages of behavior. You will not change their opinion of women being piles of shit, so please do not waste precious moments of your life doing so.

5)women with low self-esteem are perhaps the saddest perpetrators of all. I firmly believe that women should stand together, but when you have one subset standing upon the neck of another, you are going to get no where real quick. I get why some women suffer from feeling as if they are not pretty enough, thin enough, young enough, smart enough, but dammit there is therapy for that! Do you know why so many women have issues with their appearance? MEN, that is why. Males are in charge of the media of who tells women that they must be thin, they must fit the modal of attractiveness that men have erected to suit their erections. It is men who decide who is hot, who is sexy, who is viable as a woman. My question to you is, why are you allowing men to have this power in your life? Fuck that!! a)You do NOT need a man b)You are of value as a beautiful woman, regardless of what men say (see that beauty, be that beauty). 

I personally am sick and tired of being beaten with the judgement stick. If you do not like FinDommes or Pro-Dommes, do NOT associate with them. Do not contact them. Do not tweet them, or pm them. They are not the ones "ruining" the scene, you are. Your anger is bitter, and it makes you ugly, which is why no one wants to play with you. Get on with your life, and decrease your stress levels by avoiding those that you do not agree with. It is not that difficult. It is all part and parcel of being a mature human being. So long as you stay in your own lane, you will not feel the need to cut in someone else's. Good luck, and blessings be upon you!

Does the male version of Femdom utopia exist

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Do you believe in the existence of a Femdom utopia? A place where Female Dominants either laze around all day in a velvet chaise being waited on hand and foot by submissive bitch boys, or a deep dark wet walled dungeon where males are caged, and beat all day long? Sounds more like a fantasy doesn't it, or a delusion which wankers jack off thinking about.

Y'all need to get real about Femdom, and let off taking your education of the reality of it from porn. There are all types of Femdom exchanges, and please do believe me when I state that none of them resemble the above mentioned scenarios.

Femdom boils down to a female dominating a submissive or slave in the manner which suits HER needs best. Some of you get downright ridiculous in your notions of how Femdom plays out. Wake up, and smell of the sweat of effort expended in service.

The odds are not great that you are ever going to end up locked in a dungeon as a treasured bound gimp, nor is it likely that a female dominant is going to want to bind you as her sex slave. Unlike males, most women are not turned on by the thought or reality of having an absolute stranger in their home, or eating their pussy. You must and I mean, MUST learn to distinguish between your wet dreams, and reality. 

Neither are you going to be receiving a notification that a dominant female is seeking you out to show up at her home in your faux maid outfit to play at cleaning her house. That scenario suits and serves your purpose only. 

What female dominants want most is

1)submissves (real ones, not the type who play at it) 
2)submissives who see a dominants wants, as their needs
3)submissives who respect the authority, and existence of dominant women
4)submissives who actually serve out of a desire to please women
5)submissives who harbor no misogynistic motivations 
6)Submissives who enrich the life of a dominant woman through their actions

What I listed is fairly simple, yet it becomes the most rare when sifting through submissives who contact female dominants. Do you know what we see the most of?

1)males who are not submissives
2)males who want their wants granted, and disregard the wants of the dominant
3)males who view women as objects
4)males who possess an underlying or blatant hatred of women
5)males who act as if they are entitled via patriarchy to the time and attention of women

Can you see how this creates an endless cycle of woe on both sides? If the end goal is not the same (pleasing the dominant), than you are just pedaling in place, which leaves no one satisfied.  

I want males to succeed in service to Femdoms, but that means change is required. Change that shifts your focus from self to selfless. Can you, and are you willing to change? If not, strap in for the roller coaster ride of failure.