Victimization of male submissives in findom

Welcome to the sphere of Goddess Sydney. A safe space for males to experience the reality of being inferior to a woman :)

A lot of misguided individuals believe that poor little paypigs are brutally taken advantage of by those most "despicable vile con artists" known as FinDommes, and my mission today is to set the record straight by asking and answering some basic questions.

1)Are "paypigs" in the findom scene victims? 
Males in the findom arena are consensual participants in a recognized valid fetish. They engage in a power exchange facilitated by the relinquishment of control via financial tribute. The prime adjective to note in that statement is CONSENSUAL. Consent determines the course, and thereby lays waste to the accusation of abuse. If an adult human being of sound mind consents to an activity with defined rules, and outcomes relayed, than they are no more a victim of a crime than any other person who plays in the bdsm world.**Please note that I am NOT stating that victimization never ever occurs in findom, but only that it is NOT the norm.** You will have people with ulterior motivations, and shady agendas in ALL walks of life, but for the most part I am speaking to the normative group who engage in findom.

2)Aren't "FinDommes" money hungry scammers who should just get off their dead ass, and get a real job?
Reality=The majority of women who engage in findom as a dominant, do work regular joe jobs. It is a fetish for them, and even an innate desire to dominate submissives. I am going to estimate here, so keep that in mind, but perhaps only the top earning 1% of women in the findom scene actually rely on findom for all of their income. Just as in any other occupation, earning is competitive, so those top 1% of women are forced to work their asses off to get to the point where they can claim it as a career, which means that they are not sitting around on a dead ass taking advantage of wandering mentally disadvantaged schmucks. I am not denying that they are capitalizing upon the predication of horny males seeking to "get off", because they really are, but they are not employing force, for males will line the blocks to wank off, and you know full well that I am not being disingenuous here. The bottom line here, is that males are willingly, and with foreknowledge reaching out to these women, therefore if any blame must be assigned, than let it be lain at the feet of the instigator. 

3)FinDommes don't really care about those lost hapless souls serving them, now do they?
I have seen many, wonderfully  fulfilling long term findom relationships evolving over the years. I myself have a male who has been in service to me 12 continuous years as my finsub. He finds supreme satisfaction and fulfillment in sending me gifts of adoration and appreciation. Does he consider this abuse, absolutely NOT, because he finds pleasure in my happiness, and why would I want to deprive him of that? We both receive in the exchange of power. He gives gifts, I receive happiness from his tokens of love, and he receives purpose, direction, and pleasure from pleasing. Now I am going to aver right here and now, that not all findom relationships are identical to the one I just shared, but they may be more similar than what one may think to outsiders. Everyday you can pop on social media and see the terms blackmail and forced ruination, which to the average joe creates the appearance of abuse, but in most instances what you are really seeing is a fetish game played out publicly. Do you honestly believe that blackmailers display their criminal intent, and actions out for consumption? Get real here. Blackmail is a fetish, mind you that it is not one I engage in, but I recognize the edgy excitement of it. As to financial ruination, it occurs, but how much of what you see is real, and how much is fantasy? Fetish play is primarily based upon fantasies, and for most people, being bankrupted is an extreme dose of reality, which is skirted around, but never fully indulged. Sure you may find males who are left broke til next payday, but than, who isn't most of the time??

4)Do all FinDommes consider and treat findom like a business? For some it is. Take a look at 2 of the most popular venues for findom services (niteflirt & iwantclips). These are legitimate business models where consenting customers pay for products. No one is being deceived about what they are paying for. They cannot claim that they did not realize that their wallet was not being tapped. I did say some, but not all ok. Some FinDommes do not sell services. I personally don't, and I am not the only one. This is not to say that I never will, but at this point in time, I do not. As well, I do not judge those that do. So long as no one is being misled, or harmed, it is certainly no business of mine what people choose to do, and this is a philosophy most if not all should adopt.

5)Aren't FinDommes just beggars who chase after every male for money? If a completely random woman is slipping into your inbox asking for or demanding money, that is not a FinDomme, That is an entirely different animal, so do NOT mistake the 2.  Findom is not based upon a woman needing money from a male, but she will happily accept it from males who want to give it to her free of strings. Can you tell me the name of any woman who would not want to be given gifts without attached expectations for no reason other than existence, me neither. 

6)Aren't FinDommes just whores who fuck for money? Most of the women in findom that I am acquainted with, do not offer sexual services for compensation. Findom at it's hear, atleast for me, is not about tit for tat. It isn't even sexual for me. Yes it is sensual, and yes the power exchange arouses me physically, but it is more about the act of being on the receiving end of a powerful tribute which sets me soaring. I do not masturbate thinking about money, nor the males who gift me with it. I do not stroke a dick for pocket change, or allow a random penis to penetrate me for cash. There is a difference between how a FinDomme operates, and how an escort does. Yes they are both in the realm of sexworkers, but they are not dictated by the same rules. An escort is a service provider, which means that she provides a service for which she is compensated, whereas I do not provide a tangible service, but rather receive service for which I am paid tribute. I hope that makes sense. In the end, if you are looking for intercourse, or a blow job, your best bet is to go with the escort, cause any type of sex, is not happening with me. 

It is my hope, that my words have cleared away some of the confusion in regards to findom, and that all may atleast attempt to be less judgemental of fetishes which they have no knowledge of  :)

Financial Sacrifice makes you a better man

Welcome sycophants, and servants of Goddess Sydney

The more you suffer for Goddess Sydney, the closer you come to divinity of purpose.
The more you sacrifice for Goddess Sydney, the more enlightened you become as to your destiny.

Suffering for Goddess is divine and just. Sacrificing for Goddess makes you a better man.

Suffering and Sacrifice are sacred actions undertaken for the holiness of Goddess Sydney. They sanctify your thoughts, and bring you one step closer to being worthy of belonging to Goddess.

Suffering and Sacrifice cleanse you of your selfish nature. They break you down, and remake you into something pleasing to the eyes of Goddess Sydney.

Your suffering and sacrifice are a negligible loss in the scheme of all that you gain in her happiness. They are a tangible expression of your love for Goddess, your admiration of her person, and your appreciation of her existence. 

Suffering and sacrifice allow you to grow into your potential as a servant of Goddess Sydney. They guide you into dependence upon the one truth you know to be evident, and that is, that Goddess Sydney is all that matters in your life.

Goddess Sydney is your everything. You are filled with joy knowing that the fruits of your hard labor enrich her life in a beneficial manner. You love being fruitful for her. You push yourself to sacrifice more and more, and see it as your sacred duty to do so. Work hard, work long, and make Goddess Sydney proud of you. 

Contributing financially to the life of Goddess Sydney brings fulfillment to you. Paying tribute through your wallet arouses you more than sex ever has, or ever will. You no longer even crave sex. Sending Goddess Sydney has become your sex. You need to serve her. You want to honor her. You must obey her will. 

Her wants are your needs, and they take priority over everything else. Her wants, her needs, her happiness, and her pleasure rule you. You know where you belong, and you will allow nothing to interfere in your service to Goddess Sydney. She is all you need, and all you want.

Contribute to her happiness today, by sending an amazon gift card to mzsydney34@yahoo.com

Does the male version of Femdom utopia exist

Welcome to the divine sphere is Goddess Sydney

Do you believe in the existence of a Femdom utopia? A place where Female Dominants either laze around all day in a velvet chaise being waited on hand and foot by submissive bitch boys, or a deep dark wet walled dungeon where males are caged, and beat all day long? Sounds more like a fantasy doesn't it, or a delusion which wankers jack off thinking about.

Y'all need to get real about Femdom, and let off taking your education of the reality of it from porn. There are all types of Femdom exchanges, and please do believe me when I state that none of them resemble the above mentioned scenarios.

Femdom boils down to a female dominating a submissive or slave in the manner which suits HER needs best. Some of you get downright ridiculous in your notions of how Femdom plays out. Wake up, and smell of the sweat of effort expended in service.

The odds are not great that you are ever going to end up locked in a dungeon as a treasured bound gimp, nor is it likely that a female dominant is going to want to bind you as her sex slave. Unlike males, most women are not turned on by the thought or reality of having an absolute stranger in their home, or eating their pussy. You must and I mean, MUST learn to distinguish between your wet dreams, and reality. 

Neither are you going to be receiving a notification that a dominant female is seeking you out to show up at her home in your faux maid outfit to play at cleaning her house. That scenario suits and serves your purpose only. 

What female dominants want most is

1)submissves (real ones, not the type who play at it) 
2)submissives who see a dominants wants, as their needs
3)submissives who respect the authority, and existence of dominant women
4)submissives who actually serve out of a desire to please women
5)submissives who harbor no misogynistic motivations 
6)Submissives who enrich the life of a dominant woman through their actions

What I listed is fairly simple, yet it becomes the most rare when sifting through submissives who contact female dominants. Do you know what we see the most of?

1)males who are not submissives
2)males who want their wants granted, and disregard the wants of the dominant
3)males who view women as objects
4)males who possess an underlying or blatant hatred of women
5)males who act as if they are entitled via patriarchy to the time and attention of women

Can you see how this creates an endless cycle of woe on both sides? If the end goal is not the same (pleasing the dominant), than you are just pedaling in place, which leaves no one satisfied.  

I want males to succeed in service to Femdoms, but that means change is required. Change that shifts your focus from self to selfless. Can you, and are you willing to change? If not, strap in for the roller coaster ride of failure.

FinDommes are not real Dommes

Welcome,welcome,welcome to the domain of Goddess Sydney

I am a betting woman, and I bet that many of you ended up here, thinking that I was going to rant about FinDommes not being "real" Dommes, but you were mistaken. 

FinDommes get trashed a hella lot in the bdsm arena. By who?

1)"lifestyle" submissives
2)Lifestyle Dommes
3)"Dominant" males
4)Moderators
5)Site owners
6)Vanilla folks
7)broke males
8)entitled dudes
9)Even Pro-Dommes sometimes do it
etc
etc
etc 

You get the gist yes?

Tons of people have entered into online fetish play over the last few of years, and continue to keep coming like a tidal wave, sweeping clean away what once was, and redefining it by their desires, regardless if it is safe, sane, or correct. The prevailing thought, is that bdsm = sex. It is all about being tied up, tied down, and jacking, sucking, or fucking a dick. The scene always ends the same as a porn flick. Yup yup, bdsm is all about getting off.

Now I want you to add MONEY into the equation. Hmm this is gonna muddy things up a bit, so let's shine some light on it shall we? 

These are the opinions, and accusations hurled...

1)If money is involved, you ARE a prostitute
2)If money is involved, you are not doing it for fun, cause fun=free
3)If money is involved, you are NOT a real Domme, cause Dommes dominate for the fun of getting random dudes dicks off
4)If money is involved, than they better get their money's worth from a woman, or else!

Did you know that money rules the world? I realize that we all would like to believe that fairy tale about love overcoming all, but let's get real. Money makes the world go round. Money ensures that you have a roof over your head, food in your belly, and a pot to piss in. Money provides you the power to do the things you want to do. Money allows you to enjoy luxuries. Money is life, and without it, you would be homeless, hungry, and shitting on the sidewalk. Think about it, how desperate would you become to acquire money to feed, clothe, and house yourself? I can imagine the depths you would go to!

Do you see now, how important money is? This is exactly why money is so very powerful. You cannot live without it. You need it as much as the air you breathe, or the food you eat. So, sure you wanna offer up your dick for cbt, or your ass for a pegging good time, but when it comes to relinquishing something that equates to a true power exchange, you balk, and you bitch, cause for you, it all becomes very farking real when you have to sacrifice something of real worth. FYI (no one wants your dick or ass).

Most of you don't really want to be dominated, and are the furthest thing from submissive, and yes we all know it, which means that you should be the very first one to offer up tribute, cause paying for your pleasure has always been, and always will be the decent thing to do, and if you cannot stomach being a proper male, than I advise you to straighten up, and find a kinky girlfriend who will get your rocks off for free, but we all know that it is going to cost you one way or another lol!

Back to FinDommes. Do you know that it takes effort, drive, and determination to last in findom? Did you get the memo detailing that we are real human beings with morals and everything. Did you hear the whisper that FinDommes care about their submissives, and that they train them to their preferred style of service just like free Dommes do? Had you ever read that tributing is a form of appreciation for the time and attention that FinDommes bestow upon submissives? Can you imagine wanting to make a woman smile by giving her a gift, just as she gifts you with her dominance? Pretty freaky huh?

No matter what you have heard, or been led to believe, FinDommes do dominate their submissives. In fact,  I have seen some awesome, and even some holy shit videos of finsubs being dominated by their owners. The only difference between lifestyle Dominas, and FinDommes is the MONEY. Well that, and most lifestyle Dominas are seeking out a life partner, a kinky bf, a fetish lovin hubby, whereas very few FinDommes are looking for that type of 24/7, but I highly doubt that the majority of you males are even hoping to plunge into that depth of commitment. So, if you are calling a FinDomme a faux Domme  because of MONEY, well you would be 100% farked up. It is just another form of power exchange, and believe me when I say that money means more to a woman than your dick or ass.

Now that you have been schooled, let's can all the BS please. A Domme is a Domme is a Domme, and all are real in the eyes of the males they own, so if you cannot be nice, stay in your own lane, and staple that mouth :)

Being dependable in your service to a FemDomme

Welcome to the realm of Goddess Sydney...where her desires become your bidding.

Dependability. Do you know this word? The dictionary defines it as such:

"Dependability is defined as the quality of being able to be counted on or relied upon. When you always do everything that you say you will and never make promises you cannot keep, this is an example of dependability."

Does this sound like a quality which you yourself possess? Are you the type of sterling submissive that a Goddess can always count on to be reliable, and honest in your words and deeds? If not, than are you a submissive worth having? I would respond in the negative.

One of the very first things new Dommes are told, is that you must never ever ever depend upon a submissive to stick around, and most often not even to keep his promises, for the majority of so called males the the fetish scene will play a woman false in order to achieve their objective of self gratification. How sad is it that women must warn fellow women in regards to the likelihood of such perfidy perpetrated by males who are supposedly servile to the will of women?

The most prized male in my stable is one whom I know without doubt that I can rely upon. I know as sure as the sun sets and rises, that he will do all within his abilities to make me happy. For example, today I posted on twitter in regards to an item that I dearly wanted on amazon, and gave you males the opportunity to prove to me that my desires mattered to you. Mind you that this was not even an expensive gift, but each and every one of you failed to care for my wishes. How selfish is that? Thankfully though, my brat stepped up, and purchased the item straight away when he seen my tweet. He has proven many many times over, that his concern is for my happiness.

You on the other hand have not, and doing nothing will not bring you any closer to serving me. I abhor repeating myself when I have made my wants known, and it is your duty and honor to provide for them. 

Too long now, males have been catered to, and feted in the findom scene. We all know why that is, now don't we? Findom is infamous for attracting users, and abusers of trust. It brings in females whose only intent is to chase down the dollar, and males who are jerking off to all of the freebies they receive. I do not believe that any other side of bdsm is as flagrantly filled with actual real life losers such as findom is, and no I am not referring to males who possess a fetish for being called a loser.

In my judgement book, a loser is a liar, whose only piece of dependability is that you can be assured that they are lying to you. Is this really who you want to be? I sincerely hope not, cause if you are, than you are racing down a dead end road, seat belt off, with your dick in your hand. Not exactly a pretty picture. 

I would say with certainty, that almost every single Domme I know, is looking for males who can be depended upon. Women want males whom they can trust, rely upon, and believe in their integrity. What does that tell you?

You will most definitely go further in femdom service if you can be depended upon, in good times, AND bad times. Don't bail when the going gets tough. That is what pussy ass soy boys do. You can, and you must be better than that. You need to set the example of how a submissive should, and is expected to behave &  serve. Being a better submissive, makes for a happy Domme, and a happy Domme makes for a happy submissive!



 

Being a Dominant woman in a patriarchal world

Welcome to the realm where my fantasies become your reality

I have been declared a bitch,an arrogant cunt..and the entire plethora of ill descriptors by males at one point in time or another,but it ceased having an impact long ago. 

The number 1 reason why males resort to insults is
*They cannot get their way*

Am I inferring that males are infantile in their response to being told no,why yes,yes I am. Why else would a grown ass human being sling mud rather than approach the situation with reason? There is no further explanations which come to my mind. Feel free to share if you have a more logical explanation.

Moving on to why males cannot get their way with me.

1)I am a dominant female.
2)My self-esteem is not derived from outside influences,so attempts to sugar me up with compliments will fail each and every time. 
3)I am in control of my sexual urges,therefore they do not possess the power to force me to act against my own best interests. 

Some people have even titled me a misandrist,and that sincerely is inaccurate. I do not hate males. I simply do not hold them in the same regards as I do females. 

In my eyes,males are the weaker sex. Not physically mind you,but of course I have encountered some women who could definitely kick mens' asses. The weakness I refer to resides in a male's pants. Point blank,your dick is your weakness. It whistles,and you dance to it's tune. This is what makes you inferior to women,and this enfeeblement is what opens males up to become prey to women.

Women are infinitely more intelligent than men give them credit for,and a great many are willing and able to capitalize upon the shortcomings of men. Your deficiency ie your cock is what keeps porn profitable,strip clubs cashing in,and fetish afloat. 

Do you honestly believe that women do not see your agendas for what they truly are? Your words,and actions dedicated to a sole purpose...arousing and pleasing your cock. Pretty plain and simple isn't it? Have you ever done anything for a woman unrelated to you,without hoping to gain in some way from that action? Think about it.

Serving a woman is serious business. It is not all fun and games,or arousing interludes of stroking your dick.  Most times it is not even about performing actions that you want to enact. It really does take a special breed of man to serve women without conflict of interests,and that is the type of man I respect. 

This is just one of the reasons why I am selective about who serves me,cause if they do not have my happiness as their main motivation,than they will do a piss poor job,and who honestly wants lackluster,lukewarm service? I don't,so let's get real gents...serve because it pleases her,and not because you are trying to please yourself.

Be selfless,be worthy,and worship your Goddess!

 

Ghosting is grotesque behavior

Welcome to the divine world of Goddess Sydney


Gentlemen,gentlemen,gentlemen...ack I am hesitant to even employ that descriptor to the majority of you,and you know why.

I am going to share some personal experiences with you, and explain why I find a certain prevalent behavior amongst the male sex to be a rather disturbing.

To begin with do you know what ghosting is? Ghosting is where someone just ups and disappears off of another person's radar altogether. Interactions, and contact ceases without reason or excuse provided. Dommes see this alot in the fetish connection. Males who are so eager to serve, and beg to be of use in the onset, just poof without notice, or regard of how their actions will impact the Domme. Ghosting is at best, the act of a coward. It is shameful, and should be treated as such.  

Ghosting is not contained to the fetish world, but branches out into the vanilla scene as well. It is an equal opportunity crime perpetrated by both males and females alike, and seriously it is disgusting. If you were raised with any decency at all, you would not do it!

I myself have had this happen to me many multiple times in the kink realm, but never in the nilla one. Why do you think that is? 

I have had long time serving males engage in this behavior, and believe me when I say that YES it does have an impact, not to mention damaging the ability to trust future submissive applicants. In fact I have reached the point where I no longer bat an eyelash at it, because I place no faith in a male's good behavior until it is proven over a long period of time in service.

I have heard submissives as well complain about being ghosted after the first tribute. Does it happen, of course, do I condone it, NO. There are reasons why people ghost, but most times, they are known only to the ghost. 

I am here to tell you now, that it is never acceptable, and that it makes you look like an asshole. Of course you may think nothing of it, but the fetish scene is smaller than you may think, and information travels at the speed of light, when it comes to ill behavior. Doubt me not!

Dislike of confrontation is quite normal to human beings, which is just 1 reason why people ghost without explanation, although it still does not excuse it. My advice is to "man up" so to speak, and just flat out tell a Domme that you do not want to serve her. Of course she has the right to be upset, or to ask why, and most likely she will ask. When I have had males relay to me that they have decided no longer to serve, the very first thing I did was ask why. Feedback is very important for growth, so if I their decision has been motivated by my actions, I want to know it, so that I can take steps in the future as to not repeat my mistakes. Does that make sense? It is about being an adult, and showing the same type of respect that you expect to receive yourself.

I have let males in service to me go, but they are always made aware of why I am doing so. Explaining to them why I came to the decision I did, allows them the opportunity to learn from the experience, and perhaps evolve into a better submissive someday, and is that not what we all seek...to be a better dominant, or submissive? 

 It takes a mere moment of time to end a connection, and even if you feel the need to protect yourself by immediately blocking after sending the "pink slip" notice, send the notice!  Never burn those bridges gents, cause someday you just might want to revisit where you have once been.
 

Financial Domination is NOT a service

Welcome,welcome one and all to the musings of Goddess Sydney

There always has been,and there always will be conflict in regards to the definition of findom,and the activities it is comprised of. Now I am not claiming to be the know all of findom,or the commander of how it should and should not be performed,but what I will share with you willingly is my own personal views on financial domination.

The waters are muddy as fark when it comes to findom,and neither side of the equation aids in the solution. In fact,the in fighting is atrocious,and damn near bloody at times. My question is,why all of the anger? If you do not care to engage in someone else's version of findom,than DON'T. No one is forcing you to engage in fetish play that you disagree with,so let others be,so long as they are perpetrating no non-consensual harm.

Onto my vision :) 

*Financial Domination is not a service* 

To begin with,one must decide for themselves what providing a service is. In my estimation,service is any activity where the provider is providing a service or product for payment. Now this could be defined as

1)clips,custom or elsewise
2)cam shows
3)paid sessions in person,or online
4)teamviewer
5)selling photo sets,socks,stockings,panties,urine,saliva,foot dust etc... 
6)phone sex ie NF or other such venues of revenue

None of what  I listed above falls within what I would define as financial domination. I am not saying that it does not have it's place or purpose,but it all boils down to a provider providing a service,rather than a dominant being served by a submissive. You are more than free to disagree,and that is all well and dandy,ya won't hurt my feelings if you think that I am in error,but in that same vein,respect my right to my opinion as well.

So,what exactly is financial domination than? I am old school when it comes to how I operate in my fetish play. I actually expect and require submissives to serve without the enticement or promise of treats. I do not operate under the "you scratch my back,and I will scratch your back" premise.  Service truly is the reward for serving,and if you cannot see that,than you are definitely not the type of male I want under my control. Financial domination is about money and control. I control the submissive,and their money. It really is that simple. 

My honored servants adore,worship,and tribute me willingly,and with open hearts. They do so with selflessness. Worthwhile service is not based on personal gain. It is not performed as a client who expects to receive their monies worth. It is not about jacking off either.

It is ok to be 

1)a service provider
2)a customer

The only time I am ever in disagreement with the above statements is when someone tries to label providing a service or purchasing a service as financial domination. And whilst I will not riot or create a shitstorm over the misrepresentation,neither will I agree to a differing definition of it,so if you are coming to me as a submissive male,do not expect services to be provided to you,or purchased by you :)

Serve Miz Sydney

Welcome to those who enter here with the intent to serve Sydney...

For those of you who are not serving me, nor in possession of the intent to serve Sydney,

You can just ride in my wake, because I am not waiting around for you to catch up,and realize that you should be investing your time and finances into the appreciation of Sydney.

Honestly,if you are not driven to serve Sydney with all of your heart, soul, and wallet, than you are wasting your life. You simply serve no purpose at this time, and if you are not useful, than you are useless. Who in their right mind would desire to interact with a useless skinsac of flesh..not I, says this Goddess! 

I stand upon the crest

whilst you tumble and toss within the undertow in the wake of my presence.

To know your place in the life of a FemDomme is a sign of intelligence..but to know your purpose, and serve it, is wisdom. 

One of the first pearls of truth I convey to all serfs who approach, is that regardless of your station in society, you will always be beneath, and below Sydney. Of course you are meant to strive to better yourself in service to Sydney, but you will never reach the heights to which I dwell.

This is your time little oyster..come lay your treasures at my divine feet..and take your predestined place serving Sydney.
 

Beyond the ordinary

Welcome once again..

I am not seeking the ordinary..in fact what I await is the extraordinary. What exactly is extraordinary though in this favored fetish of mine? Extraordinary is the white elephant not present in the room. 

In a scene overwhelming comprised of same old same old..it becomes a droll experience. I tire of the worn out words spilling from the fingertips of males with nefarious intent. How many times do you believe that you would agreeably read the same words over and over day in day out without evolving into a jaded being? How many times would you sit idly by listening to a fellow whom you recognize from the get go as one whose motivation is selfishly bent? How long would your patience hold out?

There comes a time when a critical thinking being realizes that ordinary is never going to be enough. Sure ordinary is safe..it is most likely reliable..but it is above all BORING,and boring chaps are swept away like rubbish..farewell and forgotten.

I demand something out of the ordinary. Be different..be not the same as every other lackluster lad out there. Come to me in abject humility..hat in hand so to speak. Come to me as my creature. Come to me shining intensely with the burning desire to submit yourself to my will,and my will alone.

Leave off what you once called service,for it was never that. You spoke lies,and burned down your bridges for the chance of one sordid stroke of the penis. Can you see now that what you were was never going to bring you anything more than a moment in time? Those times need to close the chapter once and for all. Open the cover and begin your journey anew. 

Serving will bring you purpose. Service will bring you peace. This is where happiness lays in submission. Submission is to give of yourself,not for yourself,but in spite of yourself. It is the sacrifice which paints joy upon your soul. It is the unfettered,unadulterated bliss of mind,body,and soul when you reach the point where your motivation in service is altruistic..and this is what I require of you. I demand it, I command it, and only then will I claim it as my own.

ASMR FemDomme feet

So you wanna be a FemDomme or FinDomme

Welcome all...


Any female who has ever come to me asking about getting involved in the findom scene has been told via myself that you must have a thick confident skin to get anywhere in the fetish scene,and it is 100% accurate. Why do I say this? Whelp here are some of the things you will get told by both males and females at some point in time.

• You are not pretty enough to be a FemDomme or FinDomme
• You are not sexy enough to be a FemDomme or FinDomme
• You are not thin enough or too thin to be a FemDomme or FinDomme
• You are too old or too young to be a FemDomme or FinDomme 
• You are not smart enough to be a FemDomme or FinDomme
• You are a whore,a golddigger,a user,a predator
• You are an insta,a fake,a fraud,a scammer 

This is just part of the gauntlet you will have to run in order to exist in the fetish scene. Onto the really fun aspect...NOT

• You will be sent unsolicited dick pics(that happens to vanilla chicks too)
• You will be sent spread asshole photos(never happened to me in the vanillasphere)
• You will be objectified and used as wank fodder by males looking to bust a nut(all the time)

Let's tackle a few myths of FemDomme and FinDomme shall we

• You have to be a cam girl(myth)
• You have to get naked to be successful(myth)
• You have to fuck your submissives(myth)
• You have to suck dick,jack guys off,and fuck them in the ass to get anywhere(myth)

Now here are some truths

• Do not base your worth upon the opinions of others! 
• Accept that you will have haters,and fly that middle finger proudly in their faces!
• Realize that insults are lobbied by the insecure,and never devalue yourself due to them!
• Never fear to employ the block hammer! Ban negativity!!
• Do not give up just because others do not believe in you!
• Knowledge is your best friend til you gain experience! Research every aspect of fetish,and play safe! 
• Recognize that not everyone is going to like you,and that is ok!
• Don't change who you are to please others!
• Know that a dominant woman will walk alone rather than bowing to the dictates of others!

**Most importantly,Be you,and believe in yourself!!**

Cucks weep in service to Mz Sydney

Cucks are one of my favored types of servants. Do you know why? They are beyond delight to twist to my will..and my will is truly all that matters.


I imagine that you are laboring under the misrepresentation that a cuck to me is a male that I date or share my bed with,but you would be wrong. I share my most deliciously sacred sex with no submissive male. It hurts doesn't it to know that never shall you lay within my bower of sensual seduction..yes it burns. I love that. I love that you will suffer for me. I love knowing that you languish with lusts unrequited. I adore your anguish..it feeds my soul. It feeds the cruel essence of my dominant nature. I adore the pain it inflicts upon you knowing that you will never share a part of me that you long with every fiber of your being to experience. Instead it shall go to another. Another who will surge into my moistened orifice. Another who will bask in the sweat of my flesh. Another who will carry the scent of me upon his lips and cock. It is he who will revel in my release. Never you..no not you.

What I want is for you to writhe in despair and jealousy that you shall never be the one. I want to taste your suffering upon my tongue like the sweetest of wines. Let me drink from your well of pain..fill me full of your distress. Yes I want to wallow in each tear that slicks my heated flesh.


Not only do I crave your pain,but your utter humiliation as well. Humiliation that humbles you. Humiliation that drives you to your knees. You know exactly what I am talking about don't you..yes little cucky you do. I want your senses drenched in humiliation. You my little cuck will be tortured with the truth. The truth of what you truly are to me. What are you to me? You are the servant who serves both Goddess and her lover. Your purpose is to provide for my,and his desires. You will beg to be of use to both of us. On bended knee you shall devote yourself to both of us. You will relinquish all hopes of ever being him,instead you will worship him. You will admire him,and yes you will send him gifts of tribute..for what are you..a cuck for your Goddess and her cock.


Serve us well my pet,and perhaps someday you shall receive the depravity of a treat. A treat to savor upon your tongue til it runs down your throat..or better yet a treat to coat your dicklet with. My amusement runs riot with the thought of you pulling at your poison pukestick covered in his cum. You so very low that you are only allowed to masturbate when his cum is upon you. You like that don't you..I give you permission to like it. I give you permission to fantasize about his cock juice dripping off of your petite pecker. Are you touching yourself right now..I know that you are. Your breath is coming quicker,and you are reaching the peak..but NO..no you are not allowed to cum. You are the cuck of Mz Sydney,and she decides when you can cum...if ever.


You want me to own your pitiful dick don't you..you want me to own your orgasms..yes Goddess owns your sex. She alone decides. No longer are you free to wank at will. YOU ARE OWNED BY MZ SYDNEY.

Redeem your sins in service to Mz Sydney

All of my little sole servers should be kneeling at the altar today. It is a day of worship. A day to praise and glorify Goddess. On your knees before me is where you belong.

It is tithe day. Lay down your offering at the altar. Your offering is what gains the notice of a deity such as Mz Sydney. Without it,you are refuse littering the aisle..refuse is swept away without a thought. You do not want to be forgotten do you..of course not. You crave the attention of Goddess. You want to be her most devout follower. You want what only she can provide..redemption. Redemption from your sins. You are a sinful soul aren't you..hiding all of those secrets from the world at large..but Goddess sees through the disguise you affect. She knows your sins intimately. 

Nothing is hidden from the eyes of Goddess. She sees you just as you are..stripped of all pretense..straight though the walls you have erected. You are not what the world sees. You harbor within you the seed of submission. A need to serve..to serve the will of a woman. It is not a weakness to acknowledge. Glory in the strength of your ability to serve. Stop fighting your desire to be used..to be of use. You were fashioned for this very purpose. It was fated for you to be at my feet. Struggling only hurts you. You are only living half a life til you accept your destiny. 

You must be brought low in order to know your place. Kneel my sole server. Kneel and receive absolution. Praise your Goddess for her benevolence in accepting at her feet a flawed being such as yourself. Glorify her goodness. Enrich her existence with your tributes. Serve your purpose. Purify yourself by serving Mz Sydney. She alone is the change you seek.

Now my sole server...now is the time. Lay down the resentments you have carried..shift out from under the shade which has kept you from seeing the light. Reject what you have been told is the way. You are meant for more than other mere males experience. Fall to your knees before your fate. Open yourself up to your rebirth as the property of a Goddess. It will be painful,and it will be frightening at times,but it is all necessary to the metamorphosis. You desire to be remade for me don't you..you crave a place at my feet. Your mind was once chaos,but now is of a single focus. Serving Goddess is the epitome of peace,happiness,and satiation. This is what you want..this is what you need..this is what you must have. Allow nothing and no one to tempt you from this course. Goddess is all that you want and need.

This is where you belong..this is home. Come home my good boy. Come home bearing gifts for Goddess.

You are destined to serve Mz Sydney

Hello my pets...

Did you follow my twitter feed today? Did you see that Mz Sydney has desires for you to quench?

Surely it is such a small thing that I ask for...you would not even think to deny my wants now would you...NO. Goddess deserves all that she desires,and you my pet desire to provide for Goddess. I am your everything,and you my devoted pet would never allow a desire of mine to go wanting. You adore me far too much to allow that. Think about the gift pet..your gift will touch my flesh..scent my sex..can you imagine anything more erotic than something of yours against my skin..all over my heated flesh. A part of you touching my bare skin..does it turn you on thinking about it...I know that it does. I want you to want me that much. Want me so much that you never think to deny my desires. My desires are your desires.

Right now at this very moment you are logging into your amazon account to send me the $50 I desire. It feels so good to provide for my wants doesn't it..yes nothing is more important than pleasing Mz Sydney. She should have all that she desires,and it is your honor to provide for her. Sating her desires gives you purpose. How powerful is it knowing that you have the means to sate a Goddess...with your wallet? It brings meaning to your life. It feels so good to be a good pet for Goddess. Will you be my selfless good boy? It is what we both want...do it for us. I want us to be happy.


You waited so long to find me,and now that you have..you never want to be without Goddess in your life. You are released from making decisions. Goddess knows best. She knows what you need,and what you need most right now,is to serve Goddess. You need to be one with her will. I give you permission to have this. I give you permission to sate my desires. You are free now..free to fulfill your destiny..your destiny as a servant of Mz Sydney. 

"Scammed" by a FinDomme

Recently I have taken some flack over my views of no pity for submissive males getting "scammed" by faux FinDommes, and wanted to take a moment to clarify my position a bit.

To begin with, I have all sorts of compassion for submissives whom have been abused by supposed dominants whether that be by failure to respect a safe word or agreed upon limits, so no I am not without regards for submissives in that sense.

Here is where my sense of compassion ceases "I paid a female for a session, and she skipped out with my money" Is the male in question entitled to righteous indignation for not receiving a service he paid for...sure, but is he absolved of all fault in the situation, NO. At this point one must ask of him, did you perform your due diligence by researching the female in question? Did you google her, read her twitter feed to see if there are complaints lodged against her? Did you google reverse her image to ascertain if she is the woman in the photo? If the answer is no, no, no...well than own up to your ignorance, cause you played a part in being scammed.

 Ok let's look at this scenario with a finer eye. A submissive serves, a submissive does not receive service. A fetishist on the other hand purchases services, so it is not a submissive being scammed, it is a fetishist. Fetishists are self-serving, therefore they do not touch on my tender side. A fetishist is seeking to feed his desires alone, and that is selfish, so when their type makes an erroneous decision based upon the twitching of their twat waffle,

well my pity dries up like a pool of piss in the Sahara.

Does this make sense now? Can you grasp that any compassion or pity I possess is reserved for those deserving of it? I see fetishists as "victims" by choice in this type of scenario. They choose not to research the female in question, instead they allow their dicks to make the decision, and sometimes they get burned to the core by doing so. Do they learn from it though, that is the pertinent question. Do they learn to think with the big head after such an ordeal, or do they continue to skip along that same path? Why would any sane being feel compassion for a male who continues to make the same mistake over and over? If you are getting burnt repeatedly, sheesh open your freaking eyes to the error of your ways.

A submissive to a FinDomme on the other hand is not screaming out injustice because he did not get his way, why is that? Could it be due to the fact that his priority is the happiness of the one whom he offers his service to? Could it be because his offer is not motivated by self gratification, therefore if he does not receive a session, JOI, CEI, photos, or clips when he sends a tribute...he does not raise a fuss, cause he does not expect goods for cash. He gives to give,

not to receive. Pontificate upon that!

Do you see the distinctive difference between why a submissive would be worthy of my compassion, yet a fetishist would not? Keep in mind that I am in no way referring to offering compassion as a human being to another human being who has suffered through no fault of their own. Fetishists need to own that it is indeed their own fault if they were "scammed". Disavowing males of their guilt is enabling them, and I refuse to enable the guilty.

I do hope that my statements clarify my position at this point. Compassion for the abused, YES. Pity for those scammed due to their own dick decisions, NO.

CFNM

CFNM is a big thing in Femdom play,but for me I prefer CFPM. I imagine most of you are scratching your balls saying "what is that" lol. It is clothed female pantied male.

I have no interest in seeing your male attachment ever,so having you in panties ensures that I am spared that sight. In fact all of you males should run out and purchase some rhumba panties. They are the cutest things :) They make me smile,unlike your dick.

One of the games males engage in is projection. Projecting their desire to have their dick seen onto females. Do your research boys,women are not the visual creatures that you are. Seeing a dick pic does NOT get my juices flowing,instead it makes my stomach heave,and I seriously do not enjoy that feeling,so keep it covered!

No doubt you are thinking,"but hey being nude helps me feel more vulnerable before a woman"..being nude is you being selfish. "I want to be nude,I want you to see my dick,I want to display myself etc.." I realize that some women prefer CFNM,and that is fine and dandy if they desire it,but we are not all cut from the same piece of cloth,and when you are in service to me,my will reigns supreme,else you need to seek elsewhere. Make sense?

I find amusement in seeing males in panties. It is not because I am out to sissify males,but instead because you are a poor imitation of a woman. I do not care how you dress yourself up with make up,wigs,and dresses...you are NOT a woman,and you will NEVER be good enough for that distinction. Women are so far above you that your only option is to worship at our feet,and that is exactly how I like it.

I want you groveling at my feet,rhumbad ass in the air,begging for the privilege to lick the ground I tred upon. Now that is hot!

I find myself wondering just how many males are walking around in suits with panties on underneath. To me,panties strip a male of that which he takes most pride in....being male. Panties take males down a notch to where they belong. It is only your false sense of patriarchal pride that tells you that being male is a source of power. The reality is that being male means you are weak,and your weakness is your dick. You are led around by it daily,and it leads you astray. It causes you to make poor decisions. Have you not noticed that?

Your dick lies to you,and you actually believe it,but I am here to shine the blinding light of truth. Women do NOT want to see,touch,or pleasure your dick. Your dick does not make you special,regardless of how big or small it is. Your dick makes you male,and that means inferior to women period. Accept the truth,and your place in nature as a servant to the superior sex,WOMEN.

Now get on your knees and make yourself useful to women,cause if you are not useful,than you have zero purpose in life.

Financial submissives are not victims

Why is there so much hating on submissive males in the FinDom scene..now before your knickers get bunched up,I am in no way referring to the buggered fantasists,or the wannabe playing at submissive males who are in all actuality simply selfish self-serving fetishists. I am speaking about the submissive males who willingly sacrifice mentally,physically,and financially for the benefit and amusement of the Domme they serve. These are the ONLY males in the scene worthy of attention. The rest of you all need to step left.

Let's clear up some misconceptions shall we. These are not weak emotionally downtrodden males. These are not males who are naively being taken advantage of by women. These are not males whose IQ measures no longer than the average waist circumference.

These are males who view submitting from a stance of strength rather than one of weakness. These are males who have their shit together,and want to dedicate their lives to a purpose greater than their ego. These are intelligent males,with the capability of recognizing that submission to women is their destined position.

It is time for people to stop making an ass of themselves by assuming that these males need rescued,or clinical therapy due to the nature of their submission. I have no doubt that if financial sacrifice was not in play,that no one would be crying foul,or pity upon these males. Isn't it funny how one single aspect makes such a difference? Now if I was shitting in my subs mouth 3 times daily,or shoving a 12" dong up his ass every night...not a single protest would be lodged,but heaven forbid that my subs please me with gifts,and financial sacrifice to ensure the comfort of my life!! Being a FinDomme is likened to being a criminal,or an unjustified welfare recipient. How are the two even equatable?  

Financial submissives give willingly to their Dommes. Note that I said willingly! They are not being held at gunpoint and robbed. Of course there are always bad apples in every bunch,but the majority of FinDommes do not "force" or scam males out of money(that is illegal),yet non-findom domination practitioners paint all FinDommes with the same brush. In their eyes we are all lazy scavengers living off the bread roll of dumb psychologically stunted males. How is that any different than when the "vanillas" protest that all those who participate in bdsm are perverse and mentally unstable..and yes non-findom folks bitch about being referenced in such a manner,hypocrite much? How do you like people judging you when they have absolutely no valid perspective to come from? No one likes that shit,so stop it!

What they fail to grasp is that financially dominating males is WORK. It is not all flipping the bird,or calling males losers. It is about building a connection that differs minutely from any other ordinary relationship. It is about bonding. It is about meeting the need in males to submit,which is what they were innately designed to do. It is a give and take. They give their submission,and I accept it(if they are worthy). It is about me shaping these males into beings who benefit society,rather than prey upon it as patriarchal privilege would deem appropriate. It is teaching them to respect women on the whole,not just those they find physically attractive. Do any of these goals sound evil,or detrimental? Of course not.

Yes I dominate males financially,hence the FinDomme label,but only with willing males. I do not take advantage or abuse without consent(I am not a monster like that)..so who really is being hurt here. I will tell you what is being hurt here,your sense of righteousness,your conviction that these males are poor helpless sheep being ravaged by the wolf,and that is a misguided notion that you need to put to rest. This is why I dominate behind closed doors. That way,I am not offending any of your unwanted sensibilities.

Have a nice day,and seriously you all need to keep your nose out of other's doorways...else it just might get bent :)

sinful soles FinDom

Head down,ass up crawling over here to lay your money at my sinful soles in tribute to your deity.

Femdom wants

 I have often been asked what type of male I like best,and my response is simple yet complex.

1) I am most appreciative of ambitiously driven towards success submissive males.
2) males that are passionately goal oriented,and go getters who do not require constant supervision,attention,and hand holding in order to accomplish the tasks I set forth.
3) males that are able to prioritize,and remain focused on the end goal(my happiness).
4) males that work hard and diligently in their chosen profession in order to contribute financially to my life,thereby making my life easier and more comfortable.
5) males who desire my happiness above their own,and are willing to sacrifice to ensure it.
6) males who do not attempt to twist every conversation or action into something sexual.
7) males that are not obsessed with their penis.
8) males that are intelligent.
9) males that are respectful to ALL women.
10) males that possess integrity.
11) males that recognize paying financial tribute to a woman is an honor.
12) males that are grateful to be allowed to play whatever role a woman assigns them in her life.

Most likely I could wax on and on,but these are the top 12.