Strong Women Dominate

Welcome welcome to those that have ventured this far into the realm of Femdom Goddess Sydney Claire


Do take a seat, and get comfortable so to speak, because this may take a hot moment.

I have been mia for some time over the last few months, and a few of you did reach out to ascertain whether I was well, and I do want to relay that I appreciate your concern on my behalf, but all is well with me. It is quite easy to tire of riding the merry go round over and over, and what I mean by that, is that my brain sickened of hearing the same excuses, and attempts at deceit on the daily. I needed a break from the cycle, so I logged off, and took it upon my self to travel around the states, and strengthen my bonds with family, and friends, which on it's own did much to alleviate the disappointment of continuing online drama sagas. 

I will tell you right now that if you spend inordinate amounts of time online interacting with males, than you will soon tire as well. Online behavior is not reflective of real life actions, least I surely hope not, for if so, than males are doomed as a sex. I have encountered the very worst type of behaviors displayed by males online, and it unfortunately does skew one's views and opinions in relation to the entire gender. 

Fortunately for me, clarity did come with distance, which means that I am back, but I will definitely be handling things much differently. My tolerance for lies, selfishness, and drama is at an all time low. Life truly is too short to accept into my company those that are undeserving of it. 

Other changes include

What is it that I do not care about...your dick, your erections, your orgasms. None of the mentioned items are essential or even relevant towards my happiness, and satisfaction in life, and since my FemDomPire is all about me, well that means that anything or anyone who is not benefiting the FemDomPire is undesirable, and rejected.

The entirety of male focus online is their dick, and taking action to gratify that appendage. This is unacceptable in service to me. 

I do not want to hear about what your dick wants. I do not want to see pictures of your dick. I do not want to help you make your dick ejaculate. I want nothing to do with your dick period.

The goal of a submissive is to please whoever holds their reins, and that should be the entire basis behind their statements and actions. There is no room in the relationship for submissive self. You are either serving, or you are seeking to be served, and the latter is not welcome in my empire.  

I was a no nonsense woman prior to my vacation, and even more so now. I will allot zero time to those that do not have themselves sorted out in submission. There is no in between with me. You are either here to submit to my will, or you will not sit in my inbox. If you are hoping to find a woman who will play your games, than you are seeking in the wrong direction. I am not about to cater to you or your wants. A strong woman is not ruled by a man's cock. She follows her own path, and is stronger for the sake of that decision, and I am a strong woman.

So now, if you are serious in your submission, and prepared and willing to be ruled by a woman who an iron will, than you have come to the right place, so query up, and get on sending gifts to worship a Goddess among women.
 

Life is simpler when your aspirations become less complex

Welcome all followers to the slice of sphere where my word is sacrosanct 

This is your school where you will learn to serve a purpose greater than yourself.

This is your church where you will learn to worship and look beyond the material desires of man.

This is your home where you will find peace and comfort in knowing that you were created for something worthwhile.

Your male mind is polluted daily with notions which serve no use, other than to glorify the toxic patriarchy.  You have been brainwashed into believing that you are greater than women, that your will is of more noble design than theirs, that you are essentially elevated above women by virtue of being born with a penis. Your mind is a chalkboard filled with erroneous facts, which must be wiped clean. 

If the seed of desire for your evolution was not within you, than you would not be here now reading my words, and absorbing my direction. You want to change. You need to change. You must change.  I propose the steps you should tread, but if your mind is not cleared of the chaos imbued through repetitious patriarchal programing, than you will fall flat, and fail in your purpose.  Do you want to fail? Do you want to be a failure in this lifetime?

Where does change begin? It begins one assured step at a time. Begin by eliminating one selfish thought per day. Simple yes? Easy yes?  Try this for 1 week, and share with me your progress. Tell me how you have began your journey towards absolution for your sins of selfishness.  On the second week, eradicate one selfish act per day. Just one action. Surely it will not even impose upon you that very much. I mean, what could it hurt? Share with me what action you relegated to the bin of banishment. Try this for 2 weeks, and see if you are able to gain a better perspective of what it means to alter your life towards a selfless existence.

Onto the next step. Go through your clothing closet, and donate the items that you have not worn in a year's time. Not your underwear though, because that is beyond disgusting, just throw those away! Giving is receiving, and by donating you are aiding others, while encouraging the growth of selflessness within yourself.  After the purge of unused clothing, move onto your other possessions. Do you need trinkets, and items gathering dust in your living space? Freeing yourself from the burden of their ownership will be like a breath of fresh air literally. Clutter is not conducive to a simple life. You do not need to own items that serve no use. This step involves a bit more effort, but not so very much that you cannot accomplish it within a a couple of weeks.

After all of this, I want you to take some time and pontificate upon how your life has changed at this point. You are freed from one daily act, and thought of selfishness, and you have reorganized your space to efficiency.  Do you feel better about yourself? Do you see yourself as more productive, giving, and of use? Change can feel so very good, if you just give it a chance. 

The bigger and more complicated steps will come next, but those I will save til you are ready to embark upon them.

Remember, one step at a time!

Making a commitment to being dependable

Welcome one and all to the sphere of Goddess Sydney....

 

Do you know what it means to be dependable? Being dependable means that a person can continuously rely upon you. Is this something you think about, or is it simply ingrained within you?  

Your youth tends to set the tone for the development of dependability.  Ask yourself these questions to ascertain the truth of your level of dependability.

1)When you were in school, could your teacher depend upon your attendance, and diligence to completing your homework, or were you a truant sloth?

2)Did you have friends who felt comfortable sharing their secrets with you? Was their trust misplaced? Could you be counted on being a dependable friend?

3)When your parents assigned you chores, could they rely upon you to see them done, or did you offer excuses and insolence? 

4)When you applied for your first job, did your prospective employer make it clear that you must show up on time each and every scheduled day if you wanted to retain the position? Did you keep faith with that commitment, or were you late with regularity, or absent many shifts? 

5)Did you have girlfriends, and were you faithful to that relationship, or were you a cheating coward who lacked the backbone to sever the ties before seeking thrills elsewhere?

Fast forward to today

1)Are you a dependable man?

2)Are you a man of your word?

I want you to really think about your answers before you ever approach me to serve in a submissive capacity. Dependability is a required trait in any submissive I undertake to train. 

If I cannot depend upon you, than you really serve no use. Trust is one of the cornerstones of a bdsm relationship. You trust me not to push beyond your hard limits, or to the point of permanent damage, and in turn I trust you to be an honest, loyal, selfless, devoted, dependable man. Without that trust, there is no future in a power exchange, and I for one play the long game.

When I set a task, or ask that you be available to me, even note a schedule for regular tithing, than I need to be able to depend upon you to accomplish what I put before you as commands, so keep this in mind when first you ask to kneel for me, otherwise you are knowingly wasting my time, and yours, which is a cardinal sin in the book of Goddess Sydney!

Submitting to a Dominatrix can be the most exhilarating experience

Welcome to the wonderful world of Goddess Sydney. A place where submissives line up to lay their submission at my feet!

 
 Submission begins in the mind, not the flesh. It is a conscious decision to relinquish control over yourself. It must be a conscious decision, else submission would not be submission, but rather an exchange painted by the stroke of abuse. 

Submission brings forth an avalanche of emotions, which can at times bury you beneath them. It can be frightening to the point of fight or flight survival mode. It may come with a full body tingling awareness of pure bliss. It may even trigger thoughts, and feelings that should be left alone. My point being, that submission can be many things to many people, which means that no two may ever experience it in the same manner, even if they are both subjected to duplicate stimuli.

The path of your submission is in most part within your control. You retain the power to make choices along the way. What choices do you have within your power?

1)You alone will decide whom you offer your submission to.
2)You alone will decide exactly what your hard limits are.
3)You alone can decide for yourself to sever the ties of submission within a D's relationship.

Submissives are not what society has scripted for them. They are not created from birth meek and weak of will. Many will be indeed of strong character, and moral fortitude. A man may bow before a woman, yet remain a man. There is no written, nor unwritten rule declaring that all submissives must be doormats to be walked upon. 

Submission is a contract, and no I do not refer to a legal document. You as the submissive agree to submit your will to another, with the provision that it is followed within the parameters that both submissive and Dominant agree upon, which may vary, and change over time, but it remains constant that the submissive has the right to refuse to remand control over aspects which they have not agreed to, or decree limited scope in specific instances. 

At the core of submission is the desire to let go, to give of yourself, to be free of the yolk life tethers you with. You will fly uninhibited from the constraints of society. It is both beautiful, and a blessing to submit to a Dominant. It is a life altering experience. An awakening of sorts, from which you will embrace wholeheartedly. 

Many will flee in fear, for the unknown blankets them beyond their expectations.Others will grab on with both hands, and ride the ride in exhilaration. One thing I have noted over my years in bdsm, is that those that run as if the wind cannot catch them, will eventually drift back to it, for if you possess a submissive heart, you will never be able to completely cut ties with it.  A submissive nature, a yearning to be dominated, cannot be imprisoned irrevocably. It will bring itself out, one way or another. 

My advice is to NOT run headlong into submission, but rather to gauge your ability to submit at the point in time, and take small steps til you find yourself knee deep. At that time you will hopefully possess the knowledge you need to survive the roller coaster  emotions of submission, intact. If you remain draped in doubts even then, tread water, take a deep breath, and immerse yourself slowly, til you find that one Dominant who makes you feel safe in submission. It may take months, years, even decades, but if you persevere, it will happen for you someday :)

FemDomme days of the year

Welcome to the diversely perverse world of Goddess Sydney

Do you know what time it is?  Odd question to ask online yes? I agree, but I am not asking you to look at your watch, or peek at your phone for the time of day, what I am asking, is do you keep track of time? 

Do you know that Valentine's Day comes once a year? Do you know that Christmas arrives on the same day, every year? Have you noticed that your birthday announces itself on that one special day, the exact same special day, every year? 

I bet that you have noticed these annual events. You would have to be beyond obtuse not to. What am I getting at? No it is not my birthday, or Christmas, or even Valentine's day. My point being, that these holidays come once a year, year in, year out. Decade after decade, they keep on coming, so....you have an entire year to plan around these things.

You have a year to figure out what to buy that special someone in your life, which means that there is absolutely no good reason to ever say "oh I forgot". To excuse negligence is insulting. 

Part of showing a woman that she matters to you, is acknowledging your appreciation of her existence. This means remembering special days, and gifts to go along with them. Did you know that women love gifts? A wise man knows that women are the center of the universe, well atleast his anyway.

Women are the central figure in a male's life from birth. You are born from a woman, and you will spend your lifetime trying to get back into a woman. Ironic yes?

There is a saying that goes, "If Momma is not happy, than no one is happy". Do you understand that concept? If not, well allow me to explain it to you. When a woman is not happy, she will make it known. There will be no smiles, no kind words, no laughter, and no joy in how she goes about her day. This is a tragedy! Women deserve happiness, and you as a man should be ensuring that happiness through your words, and most importantly through your actions. You have an obligation towards it. 

Believe it or not, women are the backbone of any society. They are strength, they are compassion, they are human kindness personified. They deserve your very best efforts, not your lukewarm leftovers. 

Today, this day, I want you to make a commitment, a promise to always do the utmost possible to provide for the happiness of that special woman in your life. If you are not quite following my words, than I will be quite clear! Your Domina should be your first priority, your center, the concrete upon which your life is built. Your obligations begin with her. She is the leader you will follow, and the icon you will worship, so her happiness will be paramount to your own. Do you understand? I sincerely hope so. 

Make that commitment, and I promise that your life in submission will sail that much smoother :) 

FemDomme window shopping

Welcome to my world, fetish pet....

Are you a window shopper of FemDommes? Many of you start out this way, and some never depart from this approach. 

Why are you always shopping, but never making a commitment to serving one single solitary FemDomme? 

Is it because

1)You are an eternal slut
2)You suffer from FOC

Inquiring minds want to know.

Everyone is new to the scene at one point and time, but to lurk around the fringes for months, perhaps even years, is going to get you no where near the blessed experience of serving a dominant woman.

If fear is holding you back, than you might need to reassess. I mean, how badly do you want to submit? Are you willing to come outside your comfort zone to achieve your goal? I am not telling you to commit to the very first Domme you speak to, or even the second, but you do need to get your toes in the water if you are going to progress beyond sitting on the bench.  

It is ok to be nervous, and unsure of how to go about finding the woman you want to serve, and there is nothing wrong with waiting to find someone that you can see yourself happily serving, but you do reach a point where ya gotta piss or get off the pot, cause all you end up doing is wasting your own time. Are you here to kill time? Are you just that bored with life, that you feel it is better to stagnate like a feces filled pool, than to take a chance? If so, I pity you truly.

Now if your driving force is to connect with as many women as possible (community slut), well you are missing out as well. Sure you are getting your rocks off, but that is all that you are doing. You may have it in your head that it is a win win situation, cause you pop off a tiny tribute here and there, plus you get to wank off each time, but you are depriving yourself of something which goes beyond the physical. I am referring to the transcending psychological experience of making a deeper lasting connection with a dominant woman, and isn't that the entire point behind submission? 

Life is meant to be lived, not to be squandered sitting on the sidelines.

Financial Sacrifice makes you a better man

Welcome sycophants, and servants of Goddess Sydney

The more you suffer for Goddess Sydney, the closer you come to divinity of purpose.
The more you sacrifice for Goddess Sydney, the more enlightened you become as to your destiny.

Suffering for Goddess is divine and just. Sacrificing for Goddess makes you a better man.

Suffering and Sacrifice are sacred actions undertaken for the holiness of Goddess Sydney. They sanctify your thoughts, and bring you one step closer to being worthy of belonging to Goddess.

Suffering and Sacrifice cleanse you of your selfish nature. They break you down, and remake you into something pleasing to the eyes of Goddess Sydney.

Your suffering and sacrifice are a negligible loss in the scheme of all that you gain in her happiness. They are a tangible expression of your love for Goddess, your admiration of her person, and your appreciation of her existence. 

Suffering and sacrifice allow you to grow into your potential as a servant of Goddess Sydney. They guide you into dependence upon the one truth you know to be evident, and that is, that Goddess Sydney is all that matters in your life.

Goddess Sydney is your everything. You are filled with joy knowing that the fruits of your hard labor enrich her life in a beneficial manner. You love being fruitful for her. You push yourself to sacrifice more and more, and see it as your sacred duty to do so. Work hard, work long, and make Goddess Sydney proud of you. 

Contributing financially to the life of Goddess Sydney brings fulfillment to you. Paying tribute through your wallet arouses you more than sex ever has, or ever will. You no longer even crave sex. Sending Goddess Sydney has become your sex. You need to serve her. You want to honor her. You must obey her will. 

Her wants are your needs, and they take priority over everything else. Her wants, her needs, her happiness, and her pleasure rule you. You know where you belong, and you will allow nothing to interfere in your service to Goddess Sydney. She is all you need, and all you want.

Contribute to her happiness today, by sending an amazon gift card to mzsydney34@yahoo.com

Does the male version of Femdom utopia exist

Welcome to the divine sphere is Goddess Sydney

Do you believe in the existence of a Femdom utopia? A place where Female Dominants either laze around all day in a velvet chaise being waited on hand and foot by submissive bitch boys, or a deep dark wet walled dungeon where males are caged, and beat all day long? Sounds more like a fantasy doesn't it, or a delusion which wankers jack off thinking about.

Y'all need to get real about Femdom, and let off taking your education of the reality of it from porn. There are all types of Femdom exchanges, and please do believe me when I state that none of them resemble the above mentioned scenarios.

Femdom boils down to a female dominating a submissive or slave in the manner which suits HER needs best. Some of you get downright ridiculous in your notions of how Femdom plays out. Wake up, and smell of the sweat of effort expended in service.

The odds are not great that you are ever going to end up locked in a dungeon as a treasured bound gimp, nor is it likely that a female dominant is going to want to bind you as her sex slave. Unlike males, most women are not turned on by the thought or reality of having an absolute stranger in their home, or eating their pussy. You must and I mean, MUST learn to distinguish between your wet dreams, and reality. 

Neither are you going to be receiving a notification that a dominant female is seeking you out to show up at her home in your faux maid outfit to play at cleaning her house. That scenario suits and serves your purpose only. 

What female dominants want most is

1)submissves (real ones, not the type who play at it) 
2)submissives who see a dominants wants, as their needs
3)submissives who respect the authority, and existence of dominant women
4)submissives who actually serve out of a desire to please women
5)submissives who harbor no misogynistic motivations 
6)Submissives who enrich the life of a dominant woman through their actions

What I listed is fairly simple, yet it becomes the most rare when sifting through submissives who contact female dominants. Do you know what we see the most of?

1)males who are not submissives
2)males who want their wants granted, and disregard the wants of the dominant
3)males who view women as objects
4)males who possess an underlying or blatant hatred of women
5)males who act as if they are entitled via patriarchy to the time and attention of women

Can you see how this creates an endless cycle of woe on both sides? If the end goal is not the same (pleasing the dominant), than you are just pedaling in place, which leaves no one satisfied.  

I want males to succeed in service to Femdoms, but that means change is required. Change that shifts your focus from self to selfless. Can you, and are you willing to change? If not, strap in for the roller coaster ride of failure.

FinDommes are not real Dommes

Welcome,welcome,welcome to the domain of Goddess Sydney

I am a betting woman, and I bet that many of you ended up here, thinking that I was going to rant about FinDommes not being "real" Dommes, but you were mistaken. 

FinDommes get trashed a hella lot in the bdsm arena. By who?

1)"lifestyle" submissives
2)Lifestyle Dommes
3)"Dominant" males
4)Moderators
5)Site owners
6)Vanilla folks
7)broke males
8)entitled dudes
9)Even Pro-Dommes sometimes do it
etc
etc
etc 

You get the gist yes?

Tons of people have entered into online fetish play over the last few of years, and continue to keep coming like a tidal wave, sweeping clean away what once was, and redefining it by their desires, regardless if it is safe, sane, or correct. The prevailing thought, is that bdsm = sex. It is all about being tied up, tied down, and jacking, sucking, or fucking a dick. The scene always ends the same as a porn flick. Yup yup, bdsm is all about getting off.

Now I want you to add MONEY into the equation. Hmm this is gonna muddy things up a bit, so let's shine some light on it shall we? 

These are the opinions, and accusations hurled...

1)If money is involved, you ARE a prostitute
2)If money is involved, you are not doing it for fun, cause fun=free
3)If money is involved, you are NOT a real Domme, cause Dommes dominate for the fun of getting random dudes dicks off
4)If money is involved, than they better get their money's worth from a woman, or else!

Did you know that money rules the world? I realize that we all would like to believe that fairy tale about love overcoming all, but let's get real. Money makes the world go round. Money ensures that you have a roof over your head, food in your belly, and a pot to piss in. Money provides you the power to do the things you want to do. Money allows you to enjoy luxuries. Money is life, and without it, you would be homeless, hungry, and shitting on the sidewalk. Think about it, how desperate would you become to acquire money to feed, clothe, and house yourself? I can imagine the depths you would go to!

Do you see now, how important money is? This is exactly why money is so very powerful. You cannot live without it. You need it as much as the air you breathe, or the food you eat. So, sure you wanna offer up your dick for cbt, or your ass for a pegging good time, but when it comes to relinquishing something that equates to a true power exchange, you balk, and you bitch, cause for you, it all becomes very farking real when you have to sacrifice something of real worth. FYI (no one wants your dick or ass).

Most of you don't really want to be dominated, and are the furthest thing from submissive, and yes we all know it, which means that you should be the very first one to offer up tribute, cause paying for your pleasure has always been, and always will be the decent thing to do, and if you cannot stomach being a proper male, than I advise you to straighten up, and find a kinky girlfriend who will get your rocks off for free, but we all know that it is going to cost you one way or another lol!

Back to FinDommes. Do you know that it takes effort, drive, and determination to last in findom? Did you get the memo detailing that we are real human beings with morals and everything. Did you hear the whisper that FinDommes care about their submissives, and that they train them to their preferred style of service just like free Dommes do? Had you ever read that tributing is a form of appreciation for the time and attention that FinDommes bestow upon submissives? Can you imagine wanting to make a woman smile by giving her a gift, just as she gifts you with her dominance? Pretty freaky huh?

No matter what you have heard, or been led to believe, FinDommes do dominate their submissives. In fact,  I have seen some awesome, and even some holy shit videos of finsubs being dominated by their owners. The only difference between lifestyle Dominas, and FinDommes is the MONEY. Well that, and most lifestyle Dominas are seeking out a life partner, a kinky bf, a fetish lovin hubby, whereas very few FinDommes are looking for that type of 24/7, but I highly doubt that the majority of you males are even hoping to plunge into that depth of commitment. So, if you are calling a FinDomme a faux Domme  because of MONEY, well you would be 100% farked up. It is just another form of power exchange, and believe me when I say that money means more to a woman than your dick or ass.

Now that you have been schooled, let's can all the BS please. A Domme is a Domme is a Domme, and all are real in the eyes of the males they own, so if you cannot be nice, stay in your own lane, and staple that mouth :)

Being dependable in your service to a FemDomme

Welcome to the realm of Goddess Sydney...where her desires become your bidding.

Dependability. Do you know this word? The dictionary defines it as such:

"Dependability is defined as the quality of being able to be counted on or relied upon. When you always do everything that you say you will and never make promises you cannot keep, this is an example of dependability."

Does this sound like a quality which you yourself possess? Are you the type of sterling submissive that a Goddess can always count on to be reliable, and honest in your words and deeds? If not, than are you a submissive worth having? I would respond in the negative.

One of the very first things new Dommes are told, is that you must never ever ever depend upon a submissive to stick around, and most often not even to keep his promises, for the majority of so called males the the fetish scene will play a woman false in order to achieve their objective of self gratification. How sad is it that women must warn fellow women in regards to the likelihood of such perfidy perpetrated by males who are supposedly servile to the will of women?

The most prized male in my stable is one whom I know without doubt that I can rely upon. I know as sure as the sun sets and rises, that he will do all within his abilities to make me happy. For example, today I posted on twitter in regards to an item that I dearly wanted on amazon, and gave you males the opportunity to prove to me that my desires mattered to you. Mind you that this was not even an expensive gift, but each and every one of you failed to care for my wishes. How selfish is that? Thankfully though, my brat stepped up, and purchased the item straight away when he seen my tweet. He has proven many many times over, that his concern is for my happiness.

You on the other hand have not, and doing nothing will not bring you any closer to serving me. I abhor repeating myself when I have made my wants known, and it is your duty and honor to provide for them. 

Too long now, males have been catered to, and feted in the findom scene. We all know why that is, now don't we? Findom is infamous for attracting users, and abusers of trust. It brings in females whose only intent is to chase down the dollar, and males who are jerking off to all of the freebies they receive. I do not believe that any other side of bdsm is as flagrantly filled with actual real life losers such as findom is, and no I am not referring to males who possess a fetish for being called a loser.

In my judgement book, a loser is a liar, whose only piece of dependability is that you can be assured that they are lying to you. Is this really who you want to be? I sincerely hope not, cause if you are, than you are racing down a dead end road, seat belt off, with your dick in your hand. Not exactly a pretty picture. 

I would say with certainty, that almost every single Domme I know, is looking for males who can be depended upon. Women want males whom they can trust, rely upon, and believe in their integrity. What does that tell you?

You will most definitely go further in femdom service if you can be depended upon, in good times, AND bad times. Don't bail when the going gets tough. That is what pussy ass soy boys do. You can, and you must be better than that. You need to set the example of how a submissive should, and is expected to behave &  serve. Being a better submissive, makes for a happy Domme, and a happy Domme makes for a happy submissive!



 

Being a Dominant woman in a patriarchal world

Welcome to the realm where my fantasies become your reality

I have been declared a bitch,an arrogant cunt..and the entire plethora of ill descriptors by males at one point in time or another,but it ceased having an impact long ago. 

The number 1 reason why males resort to insults is
*They cannot get their way*

Am I inferring that males are infantile in their response to being told no,why yes,yes I am. Why else would a grown ass human being sling mud rather than approach the situation with reason? There is no further explanations which come to my mind. Feel free to share if you have a more logical explanation.

Moving on to why males cannot get their way with me.

1)I am a dominant female.
2)My self-esteem is not derived from outside influences,so attempts to sugar me up with compliments will fail each and every time. 
3)I am in control of my sexual urges,therefore they do not possess the power to force me to act against my own best interests. 

Some people have even titled me a misandrist,and that sincerely is inaccurate. I do not hate males. I simply do not hold them in the same regards as I do females. 

In my eyes,males are the weaker sex. Not physically mind you,but of course I have encountered some women who could definitely kick mens' asses. The weakness I refer to resides in a male's pants. Point blank,your dick is your weakness. It whistles,and you dance to it's tune. This is what makes you inferior to women,and this enfeeblement is what opens males up to become prey to women.

Women are infinitely more intelligent than men give them credit for,and a great many are willing and able to capitalize upon the shortcomings of men. Your deficiency ie your cock is what keeps porn profitable,strip clubs cashing in,and fetish afloat. 

Do you honestly believe that women do not see your agendas for what they truly are? Your words,and actions dedicated to a sole purpose...arousing and pleasing your cock. Pretty plain and simple isn't it? Have you ever done anything for a woman unrelated to you,without hoping to gain in some way from that action? Think about it.

Serving a woman is serious business. It is not all fun and games,or arousing interludes of stroking your dick.  Most times it is not even about performing actions that you want to enact. It really does take a special breed of man to serve women without conflict of interests,and that is the type of man I respect. 

This is just one of the reasons why I am selective about who serves me,cause if they do not have my happiness as their main motivation,than they will do a piss poor job,and who honestly wants lackluster,lukewarm service? I don't,so let's get real gents...serve because it pleases her,and not because you are trying to please yourself.

Be selfless,be worthy,and worship your Goddess!

 

Face of Femdom Infatuation

Welcome to the wonderful wide world of Goddess Sydney

A place where the face of Goddess immediately becomes your lifelong infatuation

 I simply adore when males cannot help but to fall in love with me! Note I did not say lust,for lust is a fleeting infatuation..quickly dispelled with the squirt of semen.

I want your thoughts centered upon me..always ME. You live,breathe,eat,sleep,and work..all for Goddess Sydney. I am your reason for being.

You cannot imagine a life worth living if I am not a part of it. Your waking thoughts are consumed by ME. Your dreams revolve around ME. 

I am all that you can see. You strive to be worthy of ME. You will push yourself to the limit of your endurance,just to see me smile.

You will toil,and suffer to mold yourself into something of value in my life. To be accepted as a submissive to Goddess Sydney is all the honor you desire. You want to belong to me. You would do anything,be anything,to be mine.

The moment you first seen ME,your life began to change. You began to change. Your breath stilled,your heart seized,and you began to tremble. You recognized that your purpose in life was to become a servant to Goddess Sydney.

Destiny awaits you.

Ghosting is grotesque behavior

Welcome to the divine world of Goddess Sydney


Gentlemen,gentlemen,gentlemen...ack I am hesitant to even employ that descriptor to the majority of you,and you know why.

I am going to share some personal experiences with you, and explain why I find a certain prevalent behavior amongst the male sex to be a rather disturbing.

To begin with do you know what ghosting is? Ghosting is where someone just ups and disappears off of another person's radar altogether. Interactions, and contact ceases without reason or excuse provided. Dommes see this alot in the fetish connection. Males who are so eager to serve, and beg to be of use in the onset, just poof without notice, or regard of how their actions will impact the Domme. Ghosting is at best, the act of a coward. It is shameful, and should be treated as such.  

Ghosting is not contained to the fetish world, but branches out into the vanilla scene as well. It is an equal opportunity crime perpetrated by both males and females alike, and seriously it is disgusting. If you were raised with any decency at all, you would not do it!

I myself have had this happen to me many multiple times in the kink realm, but never in the nilla one. Why do you think that is? 

I have had long time serving males engage in this behavior, and believe me when I say that YES it does have an impact, not to mention damaging the ability to trust future submissive applicants. In fact I have reached the point where I no longer bat an eyelash at it, because I place no faith in a male's good behavior until it is proven over a long period of time in service.

I have heard submissives as well complain about being ghosted after the first tribute. Does it happen, of course, do I condone it, NO. There are reasons why people ghost, but most times, they are known only to the ghost. 

I am here to tell you now, that it is never acceptable, and that it makes you look like an asshole. Of course you may think nothing of it, but the fetish scene is smaller than you may think, and information travels at the speed of light, when it comes to ill behavior. Doubt me not!

Dislike of confrontation is quite normal to human beings, which is just 1 reason why people ghost without explanation, although it still does not excuse it. My advice is to "man up" so to speak, and just flat out tell a Domme that you do not want to serve her. Of course she has the right to be upset, or to ask why, and most likely she will ask. When I have had males relay to me that they have decided no longer to serve, the very first thing I did was ask why. Feedback is very important for growth, so if I their decision has been motivated by my actions, I want to know it, so that I can take steps in the future as to not repeat my mistakes. Does that make sense? It is about being an adult, and showing the same type of respect that you expect to receive yourself.

I have let males in service to me go, but they are always made aware of why I am doing so. Explaining to them why I came to the decision I did, allows them the opportunity to learn from the experience, and perhaps evolve into a better submissive someday, and is that not what we all seek...to be a better dominant, or submissive? 

 It takes a mere moment of time to end a connection, and even if you feel the need to protect yourself by immediately blocking after sending the "pink slip" notice, send the notice!  Never burn those bridges gents, cause someday you just might want to revisit where you have once been.
 

Financial Domination is NOT a service

Welcome,welcome one and all to the musings of Goddess Sydney

There always has been,and there always will be conflict in regards to the definition of findom,and the activities it is comprised of. Now I am not claiming to be the know all of findom,or the commander of how it should and should not be performed,but what I will share with you willingly is my own personal views on financial domination.

The waters are muddy as fark when it comes to findom,and neither side of the equation aids in the solution. In fact,the in fighting is atrocious,and damn near bloody at times. My question is,why all of the anger? If you do not care to engage in someone else's version of findom,than DON'T. No one is forcing you to engage in fetish play that you disagree with,so let others be,so long as they are perpetrating no non-consensual harm.

Onto my vision :) 

*Financial Domination is not a service* 

To begin with,one must decide for themselves what providing a service is. In my estimation,service is any activity where the provider is providing a service or product for payment. Now this could be defined as

1)clips,custom or elsewise
2)cam shows
3)paid sessions in person,or online
4)teamviewer
5)selling photo sets,socks,stockings,panties,urine,saliva,foot dust etc... 
6)phone sex ie NF or other such venues of revenue

None of what  I listed above falls within what I would define as financial domination. I am not saying that it does not have it's place or purpose,but it all boils down to a provider providing a service,rather than a dominant being served by a submissive. You are more than free to disagree,and that is all well and dandy,ya won't hurt my feelings if you think that I am in error,but in that same vein,respect my right to my opinion as well.

So,what exactly is financial domination than? I am old school when it comes to how I operate in my fetish play. I actually expect and require submissives to serve without the enticement or promise of treats. I do not operate under the "you scratch my back,and I will scratch your back" premise.  Service truly is the reward for serving,and if you cannot see that,than you are definitely not the type of male I want under my control. Financial domination is about money and control. I control the submissive,and their money. It really is that simple. 

My honored servants adore,worship,and tribute me willingly,and with open hearts. They do so with selflessness. Worthwhile service is not based on personal gain. It is not performed as a client who expects to receive their monies worth. It is not about jacking off either.

It is ok to be 

1)a service provider
2)a customer

The only time I am ever in disagreement with the above statements is when someone tries to label providing a service or purchasing a service as financial domination. And whilst I will not riot or create a shitstorm over the misrepresentation,neither will I agree to a differing definition of it,so if you are coming to me as a submissive male,do not expect services to be provided to you,or purchased by you :)

The first tribute

Greetings,and welcome to Goddess Sydney's world...


Take a seat little ones,cause we are going to talk about the all important first financial tribute you pay a FinDomme. So frightening,yet ever exhilarating! You begin your contemplation of tribute by asking yourself:

1)How much do I send?
2)Will she be insulted if I send very little?
3)Will she come to expect big tributes if my initial one is very generous?
4)Will she take my money and run? 

Now I am going to answer those questions for you pets.

1)An initial tribute should be no less than what you would be out of pocket when taking a woman out on a date..a ballpark figure of around no less than $50.
2)Yes she is going to be insulted if you try to be a miser,and send $10,cause seriously her taking the time to interact with you,is deserving of appreciation,not a fish slap to the face capiche? 
3)So long as you explain that you are unable to remit large amounts on a continuous basis,than no she should not be upset..just remember to communicate the fact. 
4)Yes there is always the chance that a female will take your money and run,but just like anytime you ask a woman out,she may not care for you,so you are essentially out of pocket anyway.

How do you up the odds of not getting "scammed",and by scammed I mean by one who never had any intent of getting to know you,or considering you for service.

1)Read her profile before you contact her.
2)Study her photos to ensure that it is the same person in each one.
3)Pay attention to what she posts on social media,and ask yourself if it meshes with what you seek,or if you are what she is looking for.
4)Don't be so fucking shallow..just because the appearance of a woman makes your pecker pop,does not mean that she is a good fit for you. Use the big head,cause if you fail to,then it is your own damn fault if you get burned,so don't cry me a river.

So many of you get so angry about tributing in the first place,but here is the thing gents,you are not a special boy who is entitled to a woman's time and consideration. The very first thing you should be acknowledging is that you should be grateful when a woman opts to give you notice,cause she owes you nothing at all. 

***Most importantly pets***
1)Be appreciative of a woman's time by thanking her when you receive it.
2)Tribute without being asked(I guarantee that it will make a positive impression).
3)Don't be a cheap ass,and never assume that your tribute buys you anything.

Is Altruistic submission dead

Greetings my curious kittens...


A question which tickles at my awareness of frequent is in regards to altruistic submission via a beta male. This ball of yarn opens my mind to more and more queries such as:

1)Are males capable of altruistic acts?

2)Are males willing to act selflessly without compensation?

3)Do males even recognize the entitlement disposition that they carry with them like attached luggage?

4)Are males intelligent enough to evolve past their patriarchal castings of objectification,and misogynistic sexualization of women?

If you are a beta male, and you are reading this...I want your input. I want to know why,in your opinion it is that males are self driven towards acts of selfishness rather than altruism. 

I have had beyond count interactions with males in the fetish scene over the years,and yet my question remains unanswered. 

Financially Enslaved

You shall arise out of the ashes of a prideful patriarchal existence,as a carefully crafted creation of Goddess Sydney. A tool honed in the fires of male mentality metamorphosis. No longer burdened by the wants of self,but evolved beyond the very concept,for you are a changed being. A being whose life centers around the will of Goddess Sydney alone. 

It is her will that drives you to become a better beta male. Her desires that you fixate upon. Her happiness that you strive,and dedicate your efforts towards.

No regrets,no remorse,only ambition to reach your goal. What is that goal,my little pet? 

You know explicitly what it is that Goddess Sydney expects,requires,demands of you. Your only concern need be,how quickly you can accomplish that which she dictates must be done. Will you rise to the challenge,pet?

Failure is not an option. Anything less than your very best is not conceivable. You can,you must,you will succeed. There is no other choice.

You have been chosen to step forth and prove yourself. You will crawl for me,won't you beta? You like that image don't you? Yes I believe that you do. Instinctively you recognize that you are where you have always been meant to be. Where do you belong pet?

Come take your place at the feet of the divine Goddess Sydney. Your dreams,your fantasies all revolve around this one woman. This woman who is a Goddess amongst males. 

You are not worthy,nor shall you ever be,but you will glorify her by devoting your life to her service,for there is no honor greater afforded to a mere beta male,than to be accepted into the service of a Goddess.

You want this,you need this,you will have this experience as your own. 

Come in gratitude,come in all humility,come with thankful purpose. I offer you this one chance,this golden opportunity..allow yourself the supreme pleasure of serving Goddess Sydney.

Why would a Goddess hate males?

Public service announcement to all of you males whom did not acknowledge my Birthday with a gift

 

What Mz Sydney shall be to you

I will never be your 24/7 Domina, nor your live in lover. I won't be your bestie, or the one you take home to meet Mom. I refuse to be your wife, or the pretty picture on your desk at work. I will not be your hotline help, or your customer service cleanup. What does that leave?

I will be the woman who understands your darkest perversions. I will be the woman who accepts your submission. I will be the one who cultivates and conforms your inner desires til they align with mine. I will listen, and I will lead you. I will guide you along a path that you only dreampt of walking. I will be your focal point in the journey to submission. I will be the voice telling you that it is ok to just let go, and relinquish your control. I will be the icon you pray to when you feel lost along the way. I will be the Goddess you worship, and devote your energies to. I will be the altar at which you sacrifice. I will be the chalice from which you drink the nectar of submissive enlightenment. I will be the acknowledgement that who you are deep within is who you need to be. All of this and more I shall be to you.

I know that alot of you like to dwell in fantasy land when you come online..and I get it, really I do. You are looking for a way to escape from your stressful mundane life, and I will be that escape, but there is a reality to it. Save yourself from becoming deluded into believing that what you imagine you have with me online will correlate into your everyday life in a vanilla sense. Yes you can serve me, and yes I will be your Domina, but we will never be more than that. I won't be there laying out your clothes, or making your coffee..but I will instruct you as to what you should wear, and whether you should be drinking coffee at all. I will rule your world, but I will not live in it.  I expect you to adore, worship, even love me, but I have no desire to wake up next to you, or walk the streets holding hands. I am to be the figurehead living in your mind, the voice in your subconscious, the Goddess unattainable.

There are defined parameters I set with submissives in service to me. There are no exceptions, no not even for you. I am always above, and you are always below. Even when we are sharing inane conversations, you remain my subordinate. We are not peers, or buddies that share a beer. Keep in mind that when you speak with me, you will hold a civil and mannered tongue. Make yourself available when it suits me, rather than when you deem it convenient. Most of all...remember that it is the submissive who serves, the submissive who suffers, the submissive who sacrifices.

You do not have to be rich to be my bitch

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