How a slave should view their Goddess

A Goddess should be seen as the Sun and Moon which his life revolves around. The epitome of all his fantasies with the thought of another, being judged as utter blasphemy. Tangible, yet untouchable for a mere mortal. Basking in the warm rays of her happiness when he has pleased her,yet shivering as if staked out nude in the cold winds of darkest night if he has earned her scorn. His conscious mind always striving towards the avenues which bring fruition to her most deviously delectable desires, while his subconscious seeks continuously to mold it's waking thoughts towards perfect service, as without her presence he recognizes his existence as meaningless.

Introverted dominance in an extroverted ruled world.

As the title suggests, this piece is about being an introverted Domina in a world where extroverts are lauded as the rule. One misconception that must be addressed is that shyness is not synonymous with introversion. Most assume that an introverted individual is merely shy, and in need of being brought out of their shell so to speak which is not always the case. While there are of course some that are shy as well, it is not a conclusive fact for all. A further fallacy is that introversion equates to being anti-social. Most introverts do indeed socialize, just on a more personal scale. They prefer an intimate gathering rather than a full out body crushing no room to breathe party. As well they are noted for having excellent listening skills, and emotional intelligence. In fact some of the greatest minds in history have been proclaimed introverts, such as Albert Einstein, Charles Darwin, and even Mahatma Ghandi, which puts me in good company I believe. If you had not put 2 and 2 together yet, I am myself an introvert, which most would not recognize unless they had spent a great deal of time interacting with me, and that is an honor not accorded to the greater populace. The most notable difference between myself and an extroverted Domina is that you will rarely see me actively communicating in chatrooms for the most part. I am content to sit back and soak in the details others relinquish. You will neither find me at the clubs getting my groove on, as large gatherings tend to zap my energy, and require me to retreat for a day to regroup. This does not mean that I am a house hermit though. I do go out and enjoy myself, just on a smaller scale, and I actually adore getting together with a select group of friends in a laid back environment. While I will never be the type of female whose actions and words scream out "look at me", I will be the one whom once known will be seen as having still waters that run deep. Have you ever been told to be wary of the quiet ones for you never know what they are plotting, planning, or thinking lol. Strangers that encounter me would never guess that my fondest activity is bringing pain to submissive males, nor that I silently laugh at the humiliation of those whom undertake degrading tasks for my pleasure. My style of dominance cannot be viewed by the world, but those that have earned the honor of being at my feet know full well that it is my hand which holds the reins. So the next time you spy a female sitting back watching the crowd, think back upon my words and ask yourself, is she merely shy, or could she be contemplating how lovely you would look wearing the stripes from her whip.

love the new toenail polish

Getting ready to go to bed....cause I can :D

Photos from lastnight.

Promo vid for a new site

New vid to promote the site of a new findom site. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SRwJ1x7xJS0

Undesirable behaviors part 3

Self-centered... Hmmm how many males within the scene can be described as behaving in such a manner? A prime example would be those that do not tribute unless a Domme is going to do something which makes his puke stick flow...ie the whole "what's in it for me" approach. Ladies do beware of these type of boys for they are essentially the sluts of the scene, their loyalty lies only with that limp bit of flesh between their legs. Hell, how many people do you know in your everyday life that are so wrapped up within their own individualistic bubble, that the cares, desires, and needs of others bears no meaning for them? Their own agendas set towards the benefit of 1, and only 1 (themselves). They cannot grasp how pleasure can be derived from serving another. We have deteriorated into a society of hurray for me, and fuck everyone else. This attitude sickens me to the core of my being. Lest anyone consider my viewpoint hypocritical, allow me to point out that I am a lifestyle Domina who practices findom, with the emphasis upon the domination aspect. Granted I will happily control a male's finances, but the root of my pleasure stems from tpe. Unfortunately this mindset is an equal opportunity employer when it comes to the sexes. Ask yourself how many times you have read a profile that proclaims to desire nothing from their slaves/subs/pets except their cash. Yes I am aware of the exact definition of financial domination, and that it is defined as a gift of tribute without expectations, but while there are some males whom receive pleasure simply from contributing, they are a rare breed indeed. The truth being that the majority of legitimate subs/slaves/pets actually desire to be dominated in aspects that extend beyond financial. They crave guidance and leadership, a steward of sorts that steers their life with the best of intentions, and if the dominant in question has zero regard for said male, then his enthusiasm towards serving will surely wan until such point that he begins his search anew. This is not to negate the existence of boys who do indeed thrive in an exchange where they are viewed with absolutely no regard as human beings, but like the true finslave, they are rare.

A submissive purpose

Their purpose is simple. Providing comfort, ease, happiness, and support for the one they serve. Service is not contained to material and financial contributions. I can hear you boys now "holy shit,does that mean I actually have to commit to more than spanking&spending?" why yes,yes it does. Service means more than completing tasks which make your dick twitch. You may be thinking "what more can I offer other than my wallet, and my flesh" well now boys if that is all you are providing to your Domme, then you are cheating her of her due. A D's relationship is a relationship none the less. It is comprised of intimacy(note I did not say intercourse) and discourse concerning the trivial or even the trying incidents in life are par for the course of discussion with your lady. Your intent should be one of striving to incorporate service into all aspects of life. Meaning that when your lady is having an off day, you should be the first to ask how you may make it better, or if needed, lend your attention and time if she merely wants another being to hash it over with. This should be something that you provide without being asked or reminded. After all you are meant to be a source of comfort, even a confidante at times. Are you beginning to comprehend that being an owned boy is not all play, but instead a serious commitment between Domme and boy evolving into a steadfast bond? If not then you are too dim witted to achieve this honor.

Differing viewpoints

Of late I have seen a good bit of boy bashing when they dare to disagree with a ladies point of view. I will be the first to admit that if a boy speaks in an inappropriate manner, or is outright disrespectful in his phrasing, then yes he is deserving of a set down, but for it to occur merely because he has a differing belief is not justification. Dominance is not an excuse for poor manners, and if you did not know that human beings are entitled to their own opinion irregardless of whether another agrees with it, then you are not living in reality. Our very lives and perspectives are shaped by interactions with others irregardless if their views are in alignment with our own. Therefore a close minded mentality is the antithesis of enlightenment and personal growth. As a human being I am prone to errors, *gasp* even I am not infallible, but rather than accepting this as a negative, I embrace my mistakes as a stepping stone towards success, and one of the best resources for knowledge in the scene are the boys, but if you cut them off at the quick when they offer an opinion, it is a lost opportunity, and losing out is not the desired outcome of findom, now is it?

Undesirable behaviors part 2

2)Laziness. Why is it that this behavior is so prevalently seen online? Could it be that since a male is not face to face with his Domme he feels justified in his slothful temperament or is he simply indolent throughout all aspects of his life? The most likely conclusion would be that such males view online domination as a game. An activity they indulge in when spare moments are to be had. For this type of disregard to detail would not be tolerated in their everyday life, unless they truly are a loser living in Momma's basement with no responsibility other than wiping their own arse. An initial indicator of a male whom is predisposed to laziness is one who neglects to read a ladies posted information whether it be a blog, website, or even a profile on a site. I view this lack of action as a precursor to failure. If a male cannot be bothered to spend a few moments studying up on a ladies likes and dislikes, then it is highly unlikely he will be diligent towards service either. Ergo the development of my abhorrence for lazy boys has merit. The crux with this type of deportment would be that it is not widely accepted in service, in fact it is downright intolerable. A lackadaisical approach towards servitude is a sign of disrespect, which makes this type of male unsuitable for long term ownership. It boils down to this, if you are online with the sole intention geared towards getting a nut off sans the expectation of output other than spuming, do keep your proclivities to the business side of the scene, ie purchasing clips and cam sessions. Contrary to popular opinion, most dominant FinDommes are very industrious individuals. Often investing an inordinate amount of time planning sessions and implementing training regimes, so it should come as no surprise that such a lady would demand absolute excellence from those she calls her own. Only the cream of the submissive crop shall attain the coveted status of "owned", which is an earned honor, not one that is purchased with cash, but with precious time invested proving a boy's worth. Keep this in mind boys prior to stepping foot into a Domme's domain.

troubadour

Whilst doing a bit of research I happened upon some publications relating to the courtly love of a troubadour, whom at one point in time was the very embodiment of a submissive male. It fascinated me that even in the 12th century there were males whom held the belief of females being superior to males. Who knew female supremacy dated that far back, not me. The most notable aspect of the compiled posts in my estimation is that of a troubadour embracing 4 tasks as his honored duty towards the superior lady of his selection. He vowed to 1)serve her 2)to honor her 3)to maintain the secrecy of his service 4)to suffer for his love of her. His expectations for personal gratification were nil. He served upholding the credence that it was an honor to devote his life and livelihood to one lady. This is the exact type of male I desire in my stable. The perfect servant. Throughout my foray into the splendor of femdom I have found that selfless service appears to have become an esoteric practice, which explains my consternation in locating males who personify the aforementioned qualities. The prevailing mentality of males that I encounter are those of a fetish fiend. Sentiments such as "what's in it for me" dominate many an exchange, which I deem intolerable. The attitude of entitlement has become a precept rather than an exception,and it is to this point that I have honed my level of patience, for as they say "it is like finding a needle in a haystack". I believe that males with the heart of a troubadour do exist yet today, it is merely a matter of sifting through the rubbish. This is the bar of standard behavior that I consider worthy of service. The only question now is whether you shall meet or exceed my expectations?

Undertaking a major overhaul of my life, therefore gaining my attention will require a bit more effort boys, but we all know that I am worth it. I suggest that you not procrastinate though, as I am limiting the number of those I allow to serve me on a regular basis.

Undesirable behaviors part 1

There are a multitude of undesirable behaviors I have personally seen males and females alike throughout the scene perpetrate, which need to be called to the carpet in order for change to be effected. Sans action there can be no positive reaction, and as the figureheads for femdom we are responsible for eradicating those that simply do not belong at the feet of any dominant woman. I have compiled a list of those actions that I note to be most offensive. Due to the length of detailing them all at one time, I will instead spread them out over the course of a few posts. 1)Lying. To be honest this behavior has taken root on both sides of the fence, which means that we ladies should set the example for integrity. It would be considered within the realm of hypocrisy if a lady demands absolute honesty from her boys, yet she lies about "supposed" tributes she receives, the number of males she has serving, or even her level of experience. The males that comprise the majority of subs/slaves/atms etc.. are not suffering from a diminished intelligence quotient, therefore to blissfully bask in your ability to deceitfully pull the wool over their eyes is outright ignorance. Boys that have been in the lifestyle for awhile are capable of detecting bullshit just as the ladies do, so if you are incapable of leading as a Domme is expected, or following the lead of a Domme, then you have no place in a femdom society whether it be online or real time. Lying ladies leave the door open for no accounts to plague other females with the trite game playing of "how do I know you are real", so do us all a favor, and either be real about yourself, or be gone. To flip the coin, boys if any of you new or old think that you are fooling anyone with your cock and bull tales, then it is you who needs to wake up. The only chance in hell you have of gaining the time of a female with such weak ass lines is if the lady in question is brand spanking new to the scene. Yes we are all aware that being new = fresh meat for worn out tactics, such as " I need you to cam verify for free that you are a female, I want to get to know you before I tribute, real Dommes do not require tribute(they do it for love of the fetish), I get paid on Friday, so can you give me all of your time til then, so that when you never hear from me again,you will feel like a fool, oh lest not we forget the one that always seems to work with newbies, I am going to purchase an item from your wish list, which will indeed show up as being bought, so now the female gives them a session, and once concluded the male then cancels the order" This is the type of shit that every new lady is besieged with. Time to break the cycle don't you think???