Wednesday, March 26, 2014

D's relationships are not a fairytale

D's relationships are not a fairytale, not even the porn version of one. It is so easy to associate what we see in the movies or read in books as a possibility of reality. I mean if it can happen for that character on the screen,than it can be true for me as well,but the likelihood is beyond slim.I mean in this day and age I seriously fail to see why anyone would deceive themselves by thinking that written and produced forms of entertainment are an accurate reflection of life.

I talk with so many males whom are so far off base as to what occurs in the realm of bdsm interactions that it moves me to piteous laughter. They have been a voyeur of femdom porn,or something similar,and all of a sudden a switch clicks in their heads (big and small one) screaming oh yea I am down for that,only to find out that they were mistaken,which leads to outbursts of anger and striking out at the object of their fantasy(Dommes)for not providing what they thought was real,and proclamations that the ladies in question aren't authentic dominants. It is a tangled weave they have scripted for themselves,but seeing that the human psyche looks to shield itself by blaming others, of course they assign failure elsewhere.

Bdsm relationships are not that very far off base from what we see in non-bdsm ones. It actually takes both parties working at it,and yes sorry to tell you that it does require work. Fantasies are wondrous things,but they are not always realistic,and to be blunt I have found that for many it is the fantasy which fuels desires,but if faced with it real time,then suddenly it becomes an episode of fear factor for the individual,so it is best to design your utopia pragmatically with a healthy dose of realism when seeking out a lady with whom you crave to engage in an ongoing D's relationship.

Saturday, March 22, 2014

To all of those that come and grace my words with their vision I apologize for being away so long. I have been focusing my energy upon work,my personal play,and my pets rather than posting for the world at large. So few are actually worthy to be touched by the thoughts of this Goddess anyway,but for the minute audience whom are deserving,I shall endeavor to share my wisdom more often,but it will not be today lol. Send your displays of devotion to mzsydney34@yahoo.com,and I might consider blessing you more often with my presence.



Friday, March 7, 2014

Meeting the needs

There are generally 2 thoughts on this subject when it comes to submissive males. 1)The males needs are of no importance at all, only my own, ergo who gives a rat's ass if they are happy so long as I gets mine. 2)The males needs must be met in order for them to be satisfied and continue serving me. I have given both prerogatives much thought, and my own personal stance lays in the grey area.

There seems to be many whom see want and need as interchangeable, which they are not. To understand one may look to maslow's hierarchy of needs with focus being upon the lowest tier. A human beings requires, air, food, water, sleep, and shelter from the environment to survive. Anything else is a want, not a need. Now some will attempt to argue that sex is a need, and to that I call BS. Monks, priests, and nuns have lived lives of abstinence, and guess what...they are doing just fine.

My opinion is that if a Domme connects with a like minded male, then needs(wants) no longer become the primary focus as they are in complete synchrony. I believe truly that a male submissive's happiness should be based upon the happiness of the one he serves. This is one of the reasons that it is crucial to take on only males that match a ladies wants well. As an example, if a lady loves delivering degradation, and she takes into her stable a sub that thrives on degradation, this becomes a win win scenario where both parties "needs" are met.

It really is simple. Accept only those whose interests intertwine with your own, this way both parties are happy. Ladies stop seeing dollar signs, because all of the money in the world will not keep a male serving you if you do not share common interests, and boys cease offering your service based solely upon tits and ass...get it through your skull that domination is more cerebral than physical.