D's relationships are not a fairytale, not even the porn version of one. It is so easy to associate what we see in the movies or read in books as a possibility of reality. I mean if it can happen for that character on the screen,than it can be true for me as well,but the likelihood is beyond slim.I mean in this day and age I seriously fail to see why anyone would deceive themselves by thinking that written and produced forms of entertainment are an accurate reflection of life.
I talk with so many males whom are so far off base as to what occurs in the realm of bdsm interactions that it moves me to piteous laughter. They have been a voyeur of femdom porn,or something similar,and all of a sudden a switch clicks in their heads (big and small one) screaming oh yea I am down for that,only to find out that they were mistaken,which leads to outbursts of anger and striking out at the object of their fantasy(Dommes)for not providing what they thought was real,and proclamations that the ladies in question aren't authentic dominants. It is a tangled weave they have scripted for themselves,but seeing that the human psyche looks to shield itself by blaming others, of course they assign failure elsewhere.
Bdsm relationships are not that very far off base from what we see in non-bdsm ones. It actually takes both parties working at it,and yes sorry to tell you that it does require work. Fantasies are wondrous things,but they are not always realistic,and to be blunt I have found that for many it is the fantasy which fuels desires,but if faced with it real time,then suddenly it becomes an episode of fear factor for the individual,so it is best to design your utopia pragmatically with a healthy dose of realism when seeking out a lady with whom you crave to engage in an ongoing D's relationship.
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