Social Media Sanity Killer or Savior

Welcome to all whom have found their way here :)

 

 

   Do you have social media accounts? I can name maybe only a couple handful of people within my acquaintance who don't have one. Even most elderly folks these days are connected to atleast facebook. It truly is a rare feat not to be present upon one. I honestly commend those who have disconnected from the fray of it all. I believe that life sans the internet is one lived with a simplicity quite foreign to the majority. Can you imagine your day without it? No morning texts, or checking in to get your daily dose of news. Could you even last a single day without your fix? 

  Sometimes I do disconnect for a day. It is crucial to my state of mind. I mean seriously, the prevailing news segments are dreary, disappointing, and even downright depressing. What sane being wants to endlessly mire themselves within the muck of our society today? Count me out. When I began taking time away from the internet, I found it difficult not to just sneak a peek periodically throughout the day, but over time, I found that I was able to step away completely without any problem. Time away helped me to relax and enjoy my life as it is intended to be. It forced me to actually interact with people in a meaningful way. Instead of sending a quick text or typing up a two line email, I picked up my corded phone and called them, or got off my ever spreading buttocks, and went to visit in person. A blast from the past concept, but one that I have come to treasure. Making real contact with my friends and family has altered the way I engage online now. I am way more open to interacting with people that I once may have shrugged off. Not that engaging with any and everyone is a good idea, because believe me, it isn't. There are alot of toxic souls surfing the world wide net hoping to drag someone down to their level of discontent, and you do not want to be the one they happen upon. 

  Social media sites harbor so much anger at present, whether it be political opposing forces or religious stance arguments. People can quite easily become cancelled for "wrong think", and even doxxed, which is a disgustingly vile act of treachery. We used to enjoy a semblance of free speech in this country, but that has apparently been swept aside in the tide of pc demand. I personally do not believe that it has been a strength, in fact it rather reminds me of a certain political figure who enacted the same measures to gain the compliance of "group think". Communism and it's results ain't pretty, folks. Never forget to mind your P's and Q's, lest you find yourself locked out of your accounts, and that is all I am going to say about it at the moment.

  A question for you my dear readers, why are you on social media?

1) Are you seeking out like minded people?

2) Are you building a brand? 

3) Are you just a horny dude looking for his porn fix? 

4) Are you lonely and depressed hoping to find a friend who will provide a ray of light?

5) Are you looking for a date, hook up, or maybe a lasting love? 

6) Are you only using it to keep up with family and friends?

7) Are you online just to look at cute animal pics (I am guilty of doing this)

   Social media can be a wonderful tool if used correctly. It can connect you with locals who enjoy the same things you do. It can spread the word of a business you are trying to get off the ground. It can lead you to possible job opportunities. It can help cleave the distance between you and loved ones living miles apart. It can help you find friends, and yes it can even bring you all the visuals you need to archive as wank spank material lol. As to locating a date, yup, plenty of those sites to be found, but true love matches online might be a task that you will have to work harder at. In regards to finding cute animal pics...you are in for a treat of adorableness overload!

  Social media can also be a weapon. I mentioned the cancelling and doxxing above, but there are stalkers, harassers, and straight out predators lurking online too. There are miserable people who will attempt to humiliate and degrade you for everything from your appearance, your sex, your race all the way to your home, children, religion, and politics. All of these things you must be aware of. It is up to you to navigate the sea of social media safely.

   My advice to you though, is to not believe everything you see online (be willing to research for the truth), to not take the internet too seriously (it isn't real life) to maintain your personal privacy (do not give out your name and address to internet folks) to take a day off every now and then (to actually see what real life is all about) and lastly, trust your instincts about random peeps. Stay and play safe everyone.

Attention attention attention

 Just as the title suggests, the majority of people in society today have this ingrained desire to obtain attention. Attention that in a sense becomes like a drug of choice in a junky world. People crave attention. They simply have to have it. They feel at an absolute loss when they are not receiving it. Does this stem from not receiving enough or maybe even too much attention from parental figures? Perhaps it has arisen from the fact that not everyone can be a winner at all of the races they enter, yet we are told that everyone is a winner for simply showing up. Society did us zero favors when they began to hand out participation trophy " feel goods". Certainty is knowing realistically that you will not win every race, contest etc. You will not always be THE best at everything. You will fail, you will lose. You will not reign as the center of attention upon a world-wide dais. Stop putting that weight upon your shoulders.

 

Human beings will plumb to unbelievable depths to achieve notice. They will take risks with disastrous consequences for a single ounce of notoriety. I am talking way beyond the John Cusack  "say anything" ploy. I mean, have you read any of the stories where instagram influencers died while attempting to take or feature in dangerous photo shoots? Why would they opt in to such situations? Attention. They wanted, needed, had to have the dopamine rush of likes, loves, follows, retweets. The notification button lighting up like a Christmas tree was their high. Even if in an insignificant way, aren't we all like that?

 

Think about it. If you create a post on social media which receives no loves or likes, are you not then disappointed, and wondering why no one likes you? Does it depress you to see others with ten times the followers you have? Do you feel like an utter loser in life for not receiving the attention you believe yourself entitled to? The attention that so many others are "blessed" with.

 

Is social media attention really a blessing? I believe that in many ways, it can be more of a curse. It becomes pretty much a full time job trying to keep it once you secure it. You will have expectations, and labels attached to yourself. Expectations which become quite difficult to meet. No one person I have ever known in life is happy, upbeat, epitomizing joie de vie twenty-four seven. Human beings have episodes of happiness, moments of despair, unbelievable highs, and desolate lows. Such is life. Life becomes a study in anxiety and misery though when you are constantly playing a role which does not suit every facet of your personality. Attempts to achieve social media "celebrity" status most often parlays itself into a downward spiral of depression. Is that how you want to live your life? Does it sound glamorous? Does it appear fulfilling?

 

Of course for those looking in through the window, it can seem like the world would be a dream come true to live if only you could get those likes, those all important loves, but I am here to tell you, that life without the frenzied activity of seeking attention is a good life on its own.

 

You are good enough. Your life does matter. Liking, and loving yourself far exceeds what utter strangers think of your life. This is what you need to learn. The strong do not sit and worry about what other people think of them, nor do they fixate upon the judgement of those who have not walked in their shoes. Cease allowing those unknown to dictate your behavior, your mindset, your very course in life. Start seeing that your approval, and your acceptance is ALL you need.

Be a simping syndrone for Sydney Claire

 Good morning to all

I am going to let you in on a secret of mine.

I do not read emails which lack an attached amazon gift card, nor do I ever open photos sent via messenger from those who are not in service to me.

This strategy saves me loads of time, energy, and peace of mind by.

1)I need not fear wasting time, for if an individual was truly interested in serving me, than they would have sent a tribute along with their missive, and no there is never a valid excuse as to not send tribute when contacting me. 

2)Every single time I have ever received a photo from a non-serving person, it was a pecker pic, and the world would be a better place without that imagery. Besides, it saves me more money than geico since I need not invest in eye bleach :)

I realize that it irks some of you that I never read your messages, but in my estimation, you wasting your time rather than mine is a net positive for me. Besides, I have heard enough lame ass excuses for not tributing to last a lifetime. Not to mention that I am a much nicer person when not plagued with saggy balls, dirty dick pics.

I have no idea why some of you act under the false premise that you can shame me into talking to you, reading your dm's, or peeking at your sent photos sans tribute. It will not work. I do not feel bad for ignoring you, nor do I think that I owe you even a moment of my time. 

I am active on social media, and I do post blogs when I feel like it...and last I checked, I have put up over a thousand of them, so if you are hankering to know me, feel me out, or get a general idea if you want to serve as my syndrone, I have provided you with the means of making your decision. It simply requires a bit of effort on your end. You aren't afraid of a little effort expenditure now are you? 

Good good good....hope to read your email soon little simp :)

Syndrones unite

Hello hello hello


It has been like a month of Sundays since last I posted here...

Life has been like an undertow which tumbled me under, and finally spit me back out a little bruised.

Have you missed me my flock of syndrones? Undoubtedly so ;>

What crazy unforeseen times we are living in is it not? How has your life altered under the quarantine regime? Have you put good use to your confinement? From the lack of appreciation tributes sitting in my inbox, I would judge that you weren't very productive at all. You can rectify that though by sending a lovely little gift card today to SydneyClaire@protonmail.com

At the moment I am seeking out a day trip location where I can safely away from the public eye tie my brat boy to a tree and torment him at my leisure lol, and before you ask, yes he is the only boy I am playing with real time. 

Why is he the only one? The answer is simple, yet complicated. Real time is a commitment which I do not lightly undertake. It is so very intimate since I am allowing someone else into my personal space. It requires a high amount of trust, and the rest of you have not earned that honor. Of course the majority of you aren't even seeking out real time, for your goal is a quick and nasty online romp towards a single course crashing crescendo skin flute concerto, which is all fine and good if you were interacting with a woman who cared to offer that service....alas I am not that woman.

Over the years of my online presence, so many of you wandering wanks have attempted to sway me from my outlined course and met with failure, yet you keep trying. I do admit to admiring your persistence, even though the odds are not in your favor. If your intent is to serve as a syndrone, than you must meet my requirements for service.

1)You must serve online for a period of no less than 3 months
*consistent financial tributes are required during this time* 

2)You must maintain contact daily
*I will not chase you down*

3)You must display dedication, devotion, and build trust
*these things take time* 

Sounds easy, yes? It honestly is, but cum and dumps always fail. You will never pass the test if your expectations are to jizz and jet. Keep that in mind.

All of this being said, I am open to testing the waters with prospective servants for service as a loyal syndrone. Apply with tribute attached.

Truth remains the same

Welcome all to the ultra exciting and sometimes exasperating world and words of Sydney Claire


Why is our world such an angry place?

I am going to wax on today about 1 possible aspect.

                                      TRUTH
 Have you ever noticed how people react when they are confronted with a truth which they disagree with, or outright disbelieve?  Anger, anger, anger, and on occasion you will see them resort to violence. Violence as a response to the words or opinions of another human being is NEVER acceptable in a polite society, which we claim to be, yet one only needs to seek out social media news to view the proof of how individuals become almost feral in behavior when THE TRUTH is not their truth. 

I myself understand how the truth can be uncomfortable or even painful at times, but come on folks, we would do better to venture out from our selective echo chambers, than to allow ourselves to go along with false pretenses for the sake of getting along or fitting in with brain dead duds. Your best chance at success in life as an individual involves being able to think for yourself, and form independent opinions. Critical thinking is a positive here, peeps. Embrace truth regardless of how it makes you feel, for the truth cares nothing about your feelings. It simply is.

                               A list of truths
*Not all men are trash
*Not all women tell the truth
*Science is real
*The media misleads
*Politicians and governments lie
*meat is good for you
*high fructose corn syrup is poison
*you can be pro-life and pro death penalty
*Trump is your president
*socialism is suicide

I could go on and on, but I will spare you today :)

The question I pose is, did any of the outlined truths make you angry? If so, why? My intent here is to make you think. Truth hurts (I know), but whether you like, love, agree, or disagree...truth is always truth, and your preferred truth is not going to change that fact. I invite and implore you to explore the basis of your anger, in order to solve or resolve the negativity within the equation. Anger is not the way forward.

 

Sex work shame

Welcome to the glamorously seedy slice of Sydney Claire.

Sex workers is an umbrella term which many shelter under.

Who are sex workers?

-cam girl

-Dominatrix 

-escort

-prostitute

-phone sex operator

-clip producer

-porn star

-premium snap chat sellers

-strippers

-nude models

Long list huh? 

Sex workers are walking down the sidewalk beside you. They are dining in your restaurants, sleeping in your hotels, shopping in the grocery store with you. Your typical sex worker looks just like any other woman you see out and about. I have not seen a single one wearing a scarlet letter, or holding up a sign proclaiming her occupation while out just living life.

Sex workers are highly disdained by the general public men and women alike. Sex workers are considered unclean & immoral and as such are stigmatized. They are banned from payment sites, and websites. Some are even shunned by family members. Does this sound like the recipe of a happy life?

There are a variety of reasons why women engage in sex work, and despite what the main stream media declares, the overwhelming majority of these women have not been forced into the lifestyle via trafficking. Some need the money gained from sex work to survive, whilst others thrive upon the sexual excitement of sex work. Regardless of the reason, these women do not deserve the less than humane treatment they receive from a judgemental society.

Sex workers are shamed and blamed for all sorts of issues. They are accused of being the harbingers of disease, and divorce, yet this is a lie. Did you know that sex workers are tested for stds at a higher rate than the general public? Sure, you are thinking that they must due to their "risky" lifestyle, yet you have thousands of ordinary people walking around untested & infected, but hey, atleast they aren't sex workers!! In regards to being the root cause of divorce, they are not the married man stepping out. They are not the husband spending hard earned dollars to bust a nut. They are not the men ignoring their relationships in favor of peeking at porn. Hold men accountable for their actions, instead of blaming sex workers for providing a service.

It is entirely too easy to blame ills at the feet of sex workers, and I am absolutely not absolving them as an entirety, for they are flawed human beings just like the rest of humanity, but I am calling foul to the world of sin setting upon their shoulders.

Why do people blame the sex worker, but not the customer/consumer? You do realize that without a market, sex workers would not exist yes? Think of it like this. If ALL men stopped frequenting strip clubs, would those clubs remain in business? If ALL men stopped clicking on porn hub, would they go under financially? This is simple truth. Sex workers exist because of a demand for their existence. They serve a purpose, so unless you are actively shaming, shunning, and imprisoning the very market which keeps them in business, shut up!





 

Always a reason for Tribute treason

Hello hello hello...and welcome to the sanctum of Sydney Claire!

Some of you gents need to seriously reconsider your actions, or lack thereof when it comes to serving dominant Women. Ya ya ya I know that some of you are brand spanking new to the scene, but sometimes you just got to learn the hard way, and that most often is the wrong way on a one way street.

The main subject of discussion here is TRIBUTE. If you are ill educated upon the subject of tributing in a Financial Domination sense, than you can quick and easy google for the answer :) Go ahead and do that for me right now, so that I will know that you are up to speed. Done?

Progressing. 

Do you know how many excuses I have been given for not being able to tribute? Take a guess....WRONG! Try again, only add in a couple of zeros to the equation. Do you know what excuses are? They are falsified reasons losers and liars toss about. Are you a liar or loser? If so, than stop, do not pass go, and get out of here NOW.  I have done my time on sucker skidrow, and paid my listening to lying "paypig" dues.

Onward.

There are zero, and I do mean zero legitimate reasons not to tribute a Woman.  

I get it, and I imagine that most Women comprehend that the majority of males in the findom fetish are not on par with Daddy Warbucks when it comes to disposable income, but you can still contribute financially towards the lifestyle of a Lady. Now if you are sitting there, and can say in all honesty that you cannot invest a single cent in the relationship, well than I would advise you to exit behind the liars and losers, cause you are of zero value in a Financial Domination power exchange. Net negatives are a drain of time and valuable feminine resources.

Forward.

If you fear tributing because of

1)past negative treatment
2)uncertainty if She is the one(need to get to know her)
3)being scammed or ghosted


Solution: Sit back quietly without contacting Her at all. Study Her social media to ascertain if She is the one you want to serve. Then proceed with tribute.

Your initial tribute doesn't have to break your bank account, but nor should it be insulting either. Figure in what you would spend if you were taking Her out to a nice dinner (not a fast food joint) and send that amount. Once sent, never forget that tribute is a gift. It is not a payment for services expected. You are not owed a single second of Her time for that money, but most likely you will receive a response, and the chance to speak with Her, which is most definitely a reward worth chasing.

Tribute is the platform which springs you into Her orbit of notice, rather than as a right of entitlement. Financially investing in the relationship displays your intent to provide for Her physical comfort, and since providing is already embedded in your dna, tributing is a given :) No need to fear it, or make up excuses to get out of it. You are definitely not going to get anywhere in findom without it, because as I stated previously, we have heard every excuse, so you are not going to get a foot in the door if you lead like that. 

Take pride in the act of giving. You are enhancing Her level of happiness, and serving Her interests, which should be the goal of every single submissive boy and girl. You want to be a good little subby, yes? Of course you do :) All it requires is an open mind, heart, and wallet/pocketbook. You can do this. I believe in you, so get out there and send a tribute today!!

SydneyClaire@protonmail.com
 

New Year's Resolution

Hip hip hooray...it is New Year's Day, and here you are celebrating the changing of a decade with the divinely celestial Sydney Claire :)

I wonder how many of my faithful readers made the obligatory New Year's resolution. Did you? It seems to me as if there are recurring themes to the annual promises. Such as, health, wealth, or happiness. Does that sound about spot on to you?

I myself, made no resolutions. Resolutions tend to be exhaustively huge life changes, which are statistically bound for failure, unless you are one of the scant few who actually successfully holds up your end. Have you made resolutions which failed? If so, why do you believe that they bombed?

In my opinion, people tend to reach entirely too high and too fast when making resolutions. They place unrealistic expectations upon themselves, and that leads to failure, which creates self-directed unhappiness, depression, and even anger. People in general would benefit more from making more easily attainable short term resolutions.

Example 1
*Say you want to lose 50lbs. Well than, instead of saying "I am going to lose 50lbs this year", begin small by vowing to

-cut back on eating out
or
-fast 1 day per week
or
-drink an additional 8oz of water daily

Any one of these alterations may very well enable you to lose 1lb per week. Add that up, and voila bb!!

Do you see the point I am directing you towards? If you keep the step short, you are far more likely to climb it!

Example 2
*You want to save up money for a luxury item

-cut back on eating out
or
-fast 1 day per week
or
-drink water instead of coffee and soda

Now take the money you would have spent on these items, and piggy bank it til you have enough to treat yourself to the desired item :)

I honestly want to see people succeed, but to do so, we must first acknowledge that we are the ones preventing it from happening, and actively seek to help ourselves reach the goals we set. It feels so good to achieve positive changes in our lives, and we all know that there is a strong correlation between positivity and happiness, which is the ultimate goal, yes? It definitely is for me. 

Wishing you all success and happiness in this coming year!