You know that proverb
" One man's trash is another man's treasure ", well in this instance I would replace man with woman..perhaps an accurate reflection for this piece would the use of the Domme descriptor.
Many Dommes have publicly stated that they have found treasure within one that has been declared a timewaster by the findom community at large. I myself in all honesty cannot from personal experience vouch for the validity of such a happening, for it has never been the case with me. To be frank though, I am more closed off than most, and do indeed make it relatively an effort to gain my attention without an initial tribute, which may deter the lot of who have been titled as a timewaster.
In truth, I apparently am quite difficult to approach by males, or most likely, it is that I do not appeal to the majority of males in the scene, as I do not possess the physical attributes most often sought out. I have even put out polls on twitter posing the question whether my followers believe that findom success is based upon being young and thin. Of course the results were as I expected, but they were incorrect nonetheless. My life experience has taught me quite well how males think(regardless of how women wished they thought), and what look they will chase, pay, and obey. This is not me bashing, this is me conveying truth. Magazine covers well and truly reflect what males desire, and yes there will be exceptions, but they will be very few. Not only do I not physically appeal to the conglomeration of males sporting the submissive nomer, but I am old enough to sense a line of BS when spouted my way, and this is a massive deterrent for wasters. Effort and finesse are a requirement of earning my precious time, so you can surely see why the few who are left avoid my inbox like the plague. I am straightforward, and have no issue with burning a male to the core if I believe him to be attempting to perpetrate a deception with me. Frightening eh?
I got off topic didn't I lol..treasure vs trash. Treasures are the males who serve without expectations, and with devotion regardless of circumstance. I tend to notice patterns, especially in findom, and some are so very disheartening. Example: A Domme becomes physically ill, and she is unable to work for compensation to pay her bills, so she reaches out to the findom community for aid, but lo an behold, which group do you think fails her in her time of need? Males, that is who. It is always her fellow Femmes who come to the rescue. Ya know, back in the days when gentlemen existed, a man would not stand to see a woman suffer with worry over financial burdens, for he knew that he was obligated to care for women. Those days have passed, and what is left is a pile of trash..yup I am calling YOU trash. Now this has never been the case with me, thank goodness, but many a fine woman in the scene has experienced this stumbling block, and the results are always the same. What can I gleam from this information?
Obviously I would deduce that males in the scene will not be moved to help a woman if he does not stand to gain from said action. How selfishly sick is that? Not only does this apply to fetish males, but to males in general. I am aware of the attack on masculinity being played out in the media right now, and you guys are not helping your image at all. I in no way would ever wish to see masculinity expunged from my male counterparts. It would be a travesty. I like men. Do note that I said men, not males. I define the two terms differently. A man is honest, loyal, dependable, and firm in his conviction to protect and provide for a woman. He does not act in such a way that places himself to the forefront in a relationship. He does not require a gain in order to give. You guys on the other hand are an entirely different beast. You are shady, you are selfish, you do not provide, you are a quintessential leech. You take and take from women, and when a woman is in need, you are no where to be found.
The only humorous aspect of the entire scenario, is that as soon as a Domme is back on her feet, you are the first one there trying to sniff her ass. That is not the funny part, the aspect which humors me, is when you are turned out from her inbox without a fair thee well. Seriously I doubt that it hinders you in any way, for you are always looking for the next hottie to masturbate to, but it tickles me anyway. One would think, and yes I mean think, that after repeated occurrences you would eventually evolve into a decent man, alas though that does not seem to be the case, and you will be the one who suffers for your actions. You will be the one who at the end of your life is alone. None will care for your passing, and not a soul will mourn your loss, for you thought only of yourself, when you were intended to do so much more. That is the future you are facing, so reflect upon that when you are jerking your dick for the thousandth time. You meant nothing, and your life was fruitless. That is sad, and this is why you earned the distinction of being a loser.
There is still time though. You can turn this around. You can do better. You can cease focusing upon yourself, and what your dick demands. You can be a good man, and a wonderful treasure of a submissive if you want to be. It is on you.
I personally do not believe that you will change. I think that my words fall upon deaf and dumb ears. for you have convinced yourself that you are entitled to put yourself first and foremost, and fuck off to anyone who says otherwise, afterall, your dick keeps you company just fine. Who knows though...I have been pleasantly surprised by a select group of males previously, you just might be one of them. Otherwise, enjoy your time on the trash heap :)
