Saturday Mantra

My life is bettered by being of service to Goddess Sydney

Resting on your laurels

Have you heard that phrase before? Resting on your laurels is a lazy approach to life. How that fits into service I will explain.

In regards to findom,that initial tribute is perhaps one of the most difficult steps to take..you may labor over the decision weeks before approaching a Domme,and honestly you should do so. Doing your research on a Domme is essential to ensuring a positive connection. I mean if you are a sissified male,and the Lady you are reaching out to,detests sissys,then you are spinning your wheels,and wasting her time,makes sense yes?

If after doing your homework,you find yourself yearning to make that connection,then jump to it. Be prepared to tribute as a display of your appreciation,and do NOT attempt to attach strings to that tribute(tributes are gifts,not payments). Now that the hard part is past you,you believe that you can relax and breathe a bit right,no no no! You cannot rest on your laurels,or past actions so to speak.

During the consideration period you should be aspiring to stand out in regards to your viability as a servant. It is basically a courting phase,where your manners and best behavior need to be present and at attention. You should be attentive(even when life is tossing curve balls your way),remembering that you are the one who came to her,not vice versa,and if you are not willing or able to invest your time and energy into forging a bond,then you need to step out of the scene until you can do so.

It is not nearly enough if you are simply expecting the Lady to allow you to get by just sending a tribute every week. Service is a demanding and time consuming adventure,but surely the rewards are aplenty considering that you are provided the honor of a Domme's attention and presence,which means you should be showing your dedication and devotion,by taking that extra step to prove yourself worthy of the distinction.

Keep in mind gents,one solitary action does not define you as a submissive,nor will it keep you on the end of her leash :)

how much how much how much

Sharing is caring,and today I am going to share something with you my audience in regards to my experience when it comes to males posing the question "how much"?

A typical scenario goes as such

male:Hello Miss I would love to serve you

Me:Hello to you,have you read my profile,and comprehended what it entails in regards to expectations of service?

male:Yes Miss

Me:Very good. Are you prepared for the initial task which ALL prospective males must undertake in order to be considered?

male:Yes Miss

Me:The task is two part,and both must be completed in order to continue forward. 1)A poem personally composed in my honor. 2)An amazon gift card is to be sent to mzsydney34@yahoo.com in appreciation of my time.

male:How much should the gift card be for?

DING DING DING goes the bell cause you are out!

This is generally how it goes down,and the outcome is 100% in my experience the same,meaning that I receive no poem,nor a gift card,why...because they peckered off once they seen an amount. Regardless of the monetary amount named,they get off on hearing it,so alas I now cease all interactions when I have that query posed to me.

A male that truly wants to serve me,and please me,is NOT going to ask that question,for he knows that the first tribute is his first impression. Take note of this boys.

Reality trumps fantasy

I am not Prince Charming(no penis),and you are a far shot away from being Cinderella(you have a penis),so please oh please do not come to me with the expectation that I am going to whisk you away from your life of drudgery and toil. Submission is not about running away from your life(it is about embracing your inner submissive),and you are deluding yourself if you believe that it is. I know not of a single dominant who craves to kidnap a male from his life just to have a total stranger living in their home,and living off of their livelihood like a parasitic leech. Women were not created to pay your way through life,while you sit on your ass or prance around in a tutu,playing at cleaning house. Get a grip. I can afford a "real" housekeeper who leaves when the work is done(no headaches,no whining)and definitely no strain on my patience or budget.

Any mature individual knows that you cannot run away from your problems in life(they follow you like bill collectors). Reality kicks the ass of a fairytale everyday. Yes fantasies are wonderful,but they are not realistic. I myself would adore setting upon a throne,septor in hand,but I know that it is not going to happen in the waking world. What I can hope for though,is submissive males treating me as their Queen,and that is feasible.

I am not stating that 24/7 does not exist(I know it does,perhaps even ones where the male does not work outside the home),but I do not believe it to be the prevailing trend,and never with me. You as a submissive male are going to be laboring under the expectation that you provide for your dominant,yes work(a filthy 4 letter word). It is a rarity like that of winning the lottery that you as a submissive male will locate a Domme who will not expect you to contribute to her life financially,even pure lifestyle Dominas require gifts,so there are no free rides.

In short I advise getting your life in order(yes it is difficult at times,and sucks rotten eggs) but it is the only way you are going to be of worth,so get your head on straight,and cease expecting submission to be a ticket to a free room and board position. A collar does not absolve one of responsibility,nor the obligation of actually serving.

Goddess has returned from vacation...yay for you that divinity will be available to brighten your life once more. My time was spent in utter relaxation with my family,and no I will not be posting photos,as they were shared only with those that contributed to the financial aspects of making this trip possible.

How I adored being back in my small town where you need never lock your doors,or concern yourself if you left your purse in plain sight while strolling downtown. There definitely are perks to small town America...such as beautiful firework displays,people waving as you go by(and no I do not mean the one finger salute)..couples in rocking chairs on their porches,parades with horses,and carnivals with huge corndogs and lemon shake ups!! Just being me was wonderful. No need to cake my face with the civility of make up,or check constantly that every hair was in place. No use for fancy tech or jewels...doesn't that sound amazing?? Trips to the lake,and an amusement park(definitely you should add six flags to your vacation planner).

Alas though,all good things come to an end,so here I am back in the big city. Your job is to scrimp and sacrifice to fund my next trip,so get to it minions! Labor day sounds like the perfect time for a weekend getaway. Plenty of time for you to make it happen.

Onto further news..a sweet little pet has drifted away due to personal issues(they always come back) but he did spoil me aplenty this month..to the tune of $620 in cash and $2400 in amazon gc's(too lazy to post pics of them all,but some of the spoils are on twitter)!! That is orgasmic :) The rest of you better step up your gifting.

Of course my little brat remains as faithful as ever to my happiness by funding my charitable projects,and keeping my lawn tidy,such a good boy. That is the extent of my stable at the moment,and honestly I am not sweating it. My goal was only to ever hold sway over 2-3 boys. Anymore and I would not have the time needed to train them. Drive by cash sluts are always welcome to visit the royal stables,but no permanent lodging :) Since I am rejuvenated and most pleased at the moment,I will be accepting applications for 1 single slot,so let the competition begin. Impress me,woo me,court me with your cash,not your compliments,and perhaps you shall be the honored boy to spend time with a Goddess :)

Be not needy for my time

Many a time I have advised males against being needy as it deters you from being an attractive applicant for service,but apparently some do not care to heed my sage words,which does not end well for them with me. To prove my point,I am going to share with you a non-fiction story about the last little needy male who attempted to ingratiate himself into my service.

It all began with the usual entreaties to serve me in any manner I desired,nothing atypical here yet. Now this male proclaimed to be a poor boy,with a girlfriend,so he required discretion with tasks and time,and I condescended to set him on a trial period.

His hope was to be an assistant of sorts to me,to construct a website for me,and even supplied a link to one he had made for another female,which I found to be of poor quality,so I vetoed that idea immediately. This led to him attempting to configure ways to enrich my life by drawing in servants of my desired caliber=fail. How this fails is laughable. A male promoting me on twitter works right??? Hell to the no it does not. The followers of males,are females,and that achieves nothing for me. I follow plenty of females as it is,and believe me when I say that telling them how awesome I am does not gain me riches of any sort lol

We progress,now I charge him with researching topics of interest for me...mind you this is all over a 3 day period,and during this time he has gifted me with a single measly $25 tribute(yup pathetic). With this single tribute he asks daily when he can have cam with me,and expects continuous interactions day in day out. Do you see where this is going?? His neediness is wearing out my tolerance.

After the completion of a piss pouring task over his head,I agree to speak with him via skype in one week from that day. You would think that he would be overjoyed yes? Oh no,he continues with the email after email,which I tend to disregard if I am busy actually having a life. How utterly selfish of me.. An entire day goes by,and suddenly he is going back to the female he was previously serving. I of course bid hm well,and forget about him entirely.

Fast forward a month...lo and behold there is an email in my inbox begging to return,which I let sit for a couple of days. I then proceeded to inform him that he could not gain my attention with a paltry $25,so he sent $50,and once again the entire saga starts over with continous emails,and expecting cam,even though I explained that I had family visiting for the week,and what do you dear audience think happened? Oh yes you guessed it,he once again begged leave to serve elsewhere. This time though,I relayed to him that he is now banned from my presence. Does that seem cruel?? I do not think so....neediness and poor are not qualities which make a servant worthwhile in my eyes...so fare thee well I say,and please do find a shite filled toilet to drown your sorrows in :)

This is what happens to the needy. Do not allow yourself or your actions to emulate this loser,if you want to serve me.

Passing muster

Will you pass muster? The odds are NOT in your favor. By passing muster I am referring to making it to the point of falling under my consideration. A single tribute will not get you there,nor will compliments. In fact,compliments of a physical nature will harm you more than help you. Words simply do not move me. You have to do better than the usual spiel. You must be better than average.

This week alone 10 males who contacted me have failed before they got one step forward. Sounds depressing yes? MY words are not meant to deter the worthy,but I do mean it when I say that MY standards are set high for service,and it would not do me credit to accept any servant not worthy of me.

So how is it that you can stand out as cream of the crop?
1)Read the entirety of my profile(upon whichever site you found me).
2)Think with your big head when you contact me,which means do not convey thoughts that are based upon what makes your dick hard.
3)Be prepared to prove your sincerity with tribute. If you are not prepared to tribute,then do us both a favor,and admire me from the shadows instead.


It truly is not that difficult to make a positive impression. You wouldn't know it from reading the messages I receive though. Why is that?
1)You are too lazy to read my profile,and they all state that I am NOT seeking a domestic,live in,boyfriend,husband,lover,or sex slave.
2)You make sexual comments,or relay what you would like done sexually to you.
3)You refuse to tithe.

I have been around long enough to know how to read between the lines,so do not discredit my intelligence by attempting to slip past me with bullshit. Your words tell me so much more than what you think. I can see when one is focused on themselves rather than me. I know who is in the scene to be served,rather than to serve,and you will not pass go.

Those that I desire drawn to my service know,accept,and embrace their lot as a beta male for ME,and perhaps even to me in life alone. They have long since set aside foolish notions of personal gain from a woman. They respect all women regardless of station,and display such manners accordingly. They are generous with their time,and gifts to ME. They would never,even internally question what is in it for them,for the reward of service,is service itself. They crave my presence,attention,and guidance in their lives,and long for nothing more than to worship at my altar. If this resounds within you,then come forward,and if not,well then,nice not knowing you.

Guys gone bad

***Disclaimer***
In no way shape of form does this post resemble certain videos or commentary released in said videos which is based upon sophomoric female actions.

In fact this post pertains to the title specifically. Not many Ladies contain their online presence to a mere site,and I do not differ in that train of thinking(more is better,and less is less likely to happen).
Anyway I have spent a great deal of my time these last few days logged into a site which has earned a gimlet glare from an unprecedented amount of Ladies in the financial domination fetish(bet each and every Domme knows which one I am referring to).

The real reason I indulge my presence there so much,is that it has been the most successful for me in the action of acquiring servants,shocking that my appeal is better received on a site not geared to my chosen fetish over a site that is(yup I scratch my head over that one too). These last few days though have seriously tried my patience. My profile there does not spell out in direct terms that I engage in financial domination(against their TOS),but it is easily deduced seeing as I mention twice that I do not engage in training for free,but no different than other sites, male members are notoriously disrespectful in that they do not read profiles. Reading profiles is something I have taken to the podium over, many many times,yet it never changes. Could it be that I am flogging a dead nag,or that bausch and lomb could be in the market for a substantial financial windfall due to all of the males with faulty eyesight(maybe pulling that puke stick so much really does rob males of their vision).

Of course I do not ever just assume that a male has read my profile,so I generally ask point blank if they have,even those that I know for a fact have not(I inserted in the first and last sentence of my profile how I am to be addressed),so when I get a message starting out with Miss,Ma'am,or Mistress, I know that my words have gone unread. I am polite though,and point out that it is important for them to read it,in order to form an opinion of whether they are a good match for me,or if we are ill suited,yet many still do not bother ack! So dear reader can you guess how this scenario progresses from bad to worse?

Let's pretend that you cannot for the sake of my content running short. Well most often said males will start off by proclaiming that they want to serve me,to do anything for me,perform any action which will make them mine(heard that one about a thousand times,and no I am not overestimating). Now comes the butthurt part. I remind them that I employ financial domination in every single D's exchange,for I view it as simply another aspect of TPE,no not the entirety,but a part of it. Whelp,oh my gosh the tone of the interaction changes,and that is if they respond at all,so we go from begging to belong to me to static silence. Sheesh all of this could have been avoided,all they had to do was read my profile first. Something so simple,yet laziness or loss of blood flow to the top head(due to photo erecting erections) prevented it's accomplishment.

The moral of the story is once more to read read read,and for all of the douche canoes that even when caught out,lie and pretend that of course they knew about my penchant for financial domination,and definitely they are more than happy to serve in such way,yet turn tail and scamper away when the time comes to put their money where their words proclaimed intent,well,I do wish you the best in finding what your heart(not your dick)seeks,and if you just happen to stumble and fall ass first onto a cactus,it would not bother me a bit :)

Out of order

One of the easiest ways to flip my welcome mat over is to approach me like you would a fetish machine, quarters out, punching in your selection for what you want. Unlike your local vending dispenser I offer only 2 choices, serve or do not serve. Once you have chosen, then either you relinquish control, or you disappear.  It leaves little room for confusion doing it this way.

My expectations are that when you come to me, that you have studied up on me (read my blogs, read my profile, for these are your bible verses) and have already decided that you are prepared to work towards becoming my loyal servant (this is a sign of sincerity), else wise why would you waste time approaching me, and believe me that yes it is a waste of time to contact me if you are not sure of mind. I recognize that many of you are new, and just finding your footing so to speak along the slippery slopes of service, which is why I advise you to wait til such time as you know exactly what you are agreeing to by entering into serving a Domme. Only fools rush in ill prepared. Are you a fool? Oh please do respond in the negatory, for there are entirely too many of those in life outside of the fetish world.

There are multitudes of differing styles when it comes to domination, but mine is fairly straightforward. I am old school in my ways. I believe that a collar or consideration is EARNED. It is not a given, and it takes more than a couple of tributes to get that distinction, so please do not for a moment in time allow yourself to think that I will make it easy for you. Any relationship, and I do mean any, requires effort, for anything just given to you, is pale in comparison to something that you have diligently applied yourself  towards achieving. I desire only those that are not fearful of working hard (sloth is a sin, not to mention ugly), that do not live in the magical land of entitlement (only in fantasies will you receive the golden ticket for a free ride) ,nor they whom see themselves as a buyer of domination (your money buys you nothing with or of me). A school where respect and manners are of the highest accord. The arena where gentlemen are favored and cads are fed to the lions (yup nice guys get a pass around the red rope which detains the reprobates).

Submission to me is a release (not a physical one, take note that chastity is my favored fetish)..a release of all the stress imposed upon you by a constricting life. In my realm you are allowed to let loose the hidden submissive which the world cannot accept. A safe haven where you can finally be what it is that you truly are. A dominion where there is no shock or disgust that your heart's desire is to kneel, to beg, to give yourself over to the power of another. What you will not find though, is a release from  consent. In my mind "force" is a four letter word. Never shall I force anything. I am not here to coax, cajole, bully, take, or seduce your submission. If you are not submitting of your own free will, than I do not desire your submission.

Now is that not a simple view for you? If not, then I will list off what you should have gathered from this post of mine.


1)Dommes are NOT objectified fetish machines
2)Know what it is that you want (serve or do not)
3)Hard work opens doors that money cannot
4)Gentlemen are desired
5)Force and entitlement are no nos
6)Consent is needed, consent is required, consent, consent, consent


                                                   

Unselfish Service

For the males that take the time to read the posts made by myself and several fellow ladies,I have no doubt that you have seen mention of the term "selfless service",but for those that do not..you are missing the point behind service,so I thought it best to educate submissives as to what the words actually mean,and how they are so very difficult,almost near impossible to find when describing the majority of males in the scene this day.

Let's first take a look at the words separately,selfless per webster's definition "Having, exhibiting, or motivated by no concern for oneself; unselfish.". Now onto the definition of service which pertains best to D's "The performance of work or duties for a superior or as a servant." When we combine the words it equates to unselfish duties for a superior. I think somewhere along the way the seed of selfishness has taken root into the minds of males entering the bdsm scene,and this is what I hope to eradicate.

Selfless service is not enacted when a servant seeks only a means to their personal ends,how could it? To become selfless one must expunge the sentiments "I want" from their vocabulary when serving. It must become engrained within the psyche that the wants of the servant are not a primary motivator. I am not saying that a submissive should not enjoy serving,or that they should not take pride in the honor of it,but it should not be why they do it. The happiness and contentment of doing for your superiors should be based on their pleasure,rather than your own. The mindset should be "I serve because it pleases her,and that is what pleases me" Does this make sense? It does not sound fair does it? Well to be clearly upfront,it is not fair nor does it promote equality,and it never will. Being in service does not place you in the same bracket as your dominant:meaning that it is your dominant's will,drives,and desires which are in the forefront,and if it just so happens that your wants are fulfilled by them matching hers,then you are indeed fortunate,and have chosen well.

In conclusion,or if ever in doubt,just remember that the word "you" is not a part of the word selfless.

Late posting today oops...got way too busy :p

I did receive a couple of more gifts from my brat in the post today

Always such a good boy for his Goddess!! Now I can add the vera wang forever scent to my growing collection,and brat should be by this weekend to put up the new wall decal in the cylinder yay!

Even though I have had a million and one things to get done today despite the cold ass temps outside,I did make time to set up plans for a rt session at the end of the month with a male that has served me almost 2 years,how lucky is he,although I am keeping a tight lid on my plans for him that day lol

Don't forget boys to show your appreciation via amazon gift cards to mzsydney34@yahoo.com

A difficult feat

Patience patience patience. A simple word,but a difficult feat to accomplish. Take a look at any forum where FinDommes gather,and what will you see besides the gauntlet of ads once must skirt through? Inevitably there will be a lonely little post posing the query "where are all of the Dommes/subs at" This is not contained to a single site. It is everywhere in the fetish scene. Predominantly though in the findom field. Why,well because in this arena females outnumber the males exponentially,and the ones whom actually do tribute and serve are snatched up like starving beggars who have found a dumpster full of food,not to mention that the Dommes are becoming jaded due to being overrun by fetish clients rather than servile submissives,so be prepared to wait patiently until you are approached or approach one that meets your personal criteria and standards,and for farks sake do not base your criteria on how full the wallet is,or how hot the ass is.

Possessing the attribute I mentioned will over time yield the desired results you crave,trust me. Scampering,scurrying,and pestering every male or female you see joining the sites is NOT going to get you anywhere,unless that is you enjoy being thought of as a desperate hoser(doesn't sound like an attractive adjective does it)? Yes they have said for centuries that the early bird gets the worm,and that you must be aggressive to get anywhere in the world,but I ask you this,did you ever hear the one about the meek inheriting the earth? What I take from the previous adage in regards to findom is that awaiting your prey to come to you is sweeter and more lucrative than wasting your energy chasing after something which may result in a bitter taste on your tongue when you find out that it was not something meant to be,and for you boys,being meek and humble will definitely set you apart in regards to worth compared to all of the horny wank off wallys.

Patience does not mean the advocacy of being a wallflower or like a beetle hiding in a knot hole on the wall,nor does it mean acting like you are a bull in the arena rushing at every (Domme,sub) you see. Patience,dignity,and perseverance are the traits of one whom possess the staying power required to maintain until you are at last in the home stretch of developing a meaningful connection.

Now some of you are saying "this just ain't me,or how I roll",and that is fine,cause it is not a secret that those out for a quick wank or buck will always show their colors by their lack of patience,so go ahead and make your intentions known to the community at large by your actions,but keep your lips sealed when you find that no one of serious intent wants to play with you.

Femdom or faux

There appears to be an entirely new generation of males scouring the internet daily for a femdom fix. Do they actually find kernels of legitimate female domination,or do they stumble upon pornographic photos and films depicting what another male envisions femdom to be? Judging from the misconceptions conveyed to me in correspondences,I would lay odds on the porn angle,simply because the majority impart that they are seeking some type of sexual scenario,which does not exist.

Common sense should tell one that their visions,and hopes are unrealistic. I mean seriously,does anyone truly believe outside of a bar that a sober stranger wants to sensually play with their sexual organs,or enact a scene which gets them off for the pure pleasure of it? If you honestly buy into the fantasy,then please get psychiatric guidance,because you are living in la la land.

Female domination is not based on sex,hell domination itself is not either,but things have become so dastardly convoluted that one cannot see beyond tits,ass,pussy,and cock. I ask myself if this is merely a phase,or is this the new face of the fetish scene,and if it is,then I have no use for it. I genuinely mourn the loss of interacting with gentlemen whom appreciate a Lady,and respectfully bow down to her wishes,sans hidden agendas.

One would hope that with age comes wisdom and life shaping experience(the reason why I do not consider any male under 30),but even the males I have exchanged missives with within my desired age range have become soiled and spoiled into thinking that bdsm is all about them,and their cock emissions.

I would love nothing more than to slap a certain popular female femdom writer in the face due to her portraying males as treasures to be treated as a godsend. Yes submission is a gift,but that does not make you a special snowflake. Ask yourself just how many submissives do you think are on the internet,hell in the entire world looking for a Domme? You would be astounded to learn that you are one of thousands upon thousands,so why should any Lady consent to training you? What do you have to offer which makes you of value,and no the size of your equipment,nor a hot body matters. Pretty boys are a dime a dozen,so do not bank on that either.

 As a submissve your submission is a commodity,so what makes it of worth? Are you attentive,are you capable of integrity,and devotion? Do you possess the maturity to recognize that it is not your will that matters? I am not saying that you do not have the right to choose whom you serve,but I am saying that this is where you must drop the attitude that you are entitled to call the shots. A power exchange involves you relinquishing control,not barking orders from the bottom. You can never forget your place in service. You are the one serving,not the one being served,which is an entirely different endeavor,so keep this in mind when you are looking around at what the monkeys are doing,and try your best not to ape them,for you devalue yourself by doing so.

Velcro makes me itch with a capital B

The latest and greatest in affordable accessories for the "submissive" who has it all is the velcro collar. For some, this honored piece of bdsm tradition can be yours for a mere $10 tribute. Wow what a deal! I see so many people acquiring one, that surely it has become the most fashionable trend in the fetish scene today right? Who really cares if it is as faux as the knock off coach bags they market on the street corners in every large city? I mean it adds to your status and kink cred doesn't it, and who can really tell that it is not legitimate?

Well little ones here comes your wake up call! Everyone that is anyone whom has been around the scene for awhile can spot your velcro collar a mile away, and are giving your existence that much berth to avoid you as well. A collar of that caliber is indicative of the fact that you do not know shit about bdsm tradition (nor does the one whom gifted you with it), or possess enough respect for yourself to earn a collar the old fashioned way (through time devoted, and hard work provided).

Now many of you are thinking to yourself that this is a new age, and tradition don't mean squat to individuals that want what they want, when they want it, and how they want it right? Is this not the era of instant gratification, and does not technology afford you the opportunity to acquire exactly that? Life would not be fair if you yourself could not instantly possess the very same thing that a submissive whom has spent years working towards receiving it. You as a supremely entitled being have put a new spin on the antiquated drudgery of earning a collar, doesn't that make you all warm and fuzzy inside? You have outsmarted them all haven't you?  Minimal effort and minimal expenditure and voila, you are now a bonafide owned male. Gosh that was easy cheesy.

Look how grown up you appear with your new fancy dancy neck attire. Wow everyone will respect you now, won't they? After all, cries for attention are always met with the utmost of praise aren't they?

Ready for it, because I am going to tear off the bandaid quick like, hope you shave closely. You are a fool in a collared jester's suit, and that is exactly how you are viewed by your superiors and peers. So many of the best things in life are worked for and earned, not merely given freely, such as respect, trust, paychecks, and yes even collars. You truly do get exactly what you pay for in some instances, so if you are not concerned about your latest and greatest neck adornment leaving behind a telling green ring, then by all means go for it, but just in case you are one of those rare gentlemen that believes in hard work, and earning your way, then do yourself a favor and just say NO to velcro collars. Save up that $10, and invest in something real.

The sacrifice

The word sacrifice can mean many things to many people,what does it mean to you? Sacrifice is a word widely used in the financial domination realm,but what part does it play in your life of service? Do you give 1%,10% or even 50% of your earnings to your chosen lady? For some they see buying clips as an indulgence worthy of tossing out a couple of dollars,whilst others indulge their fetish sweet tooth purchasing sessions for a nominal amount. Are either of these considered a sacrifice...NO,but why is that? How can they be considering that the only thing you are playing with is your fun money. Money that you will not miss. Look at it like this,most and I did say most clips will cost you the equivalence of a visit to starbucks,and the average cam session will run you less than a trip to the movies(mind you I am not referring to a session with a high end Domina),so how does this equate to a sacrificial offering?

Proferring your tender should involve a sacrifice. Whether it be that you will have to deny yourself dinners out,or the latest and greatest tech toy. If you find at the end of the week that you retain finances to splurge,then you are not truly sacrificing for the one you serve. I am not advocating that you go without the basic means of survival,but how do you define what you actually need? Think about it seriously. Do you need a high tech phone,no. Do you need five star dining and premium food staples,no. Do you need designer clothing,no. Do you need cable,or even netflix,no. All that you truly need is food,water,air,clothing,and a place out of the elements. It goes without saying that as well you need a way to keep in contact with the one you serve,which could be a pay as you go phone,and a library card since almost all of them offer computers for member's use.

Now this is where I may differ from what some of you would term a "real" finDomme. I will not take on a male whom barely keeps his head above water before tributing. It leaves an acidic taste in my mouth to even consider it. Yes I realize that males have uses outside of financial,but for me the financial is a big part of my pleasure(money is an orgasmic symbol of power),and if I believe that a male will starve due to serving me,then the appeal has flattened like an open can of soda.

Something that I do not share often is that I do not keep many of the tribute funds I receive. Gasp. I find enjoyment spoiling my family,and friends,therefore the majority of what I am given is given away. Is that the action of a "real" finDomme? Not to some. Now you may ask why I even bother if I am going to give my tithes away...well for me the excitement I consider bliss is the fact that males sacrifice for me. They gladly give,and that is what makes me tingle,not the money. Make sense? The more they give,the higher I fly from the power exchange. It is not my greed being fed when I am gifted,but rather enhancement of my pleasure,and I am like a ravenous animal in regards to my pleasure being fed,never sated,and never full of receiving your cash.

Financially is not the only way I expect males to sacrifice for me though. I want your time,your energy,and sometimes your physical pain. I want your free time spent thinking of me,your energy spent pondering ways to please me more,and your pain to feed my sadistic streak. Sounds like a tall order doesn't it? This is why I refuse to take on any with a lackadaisical approach to service. I expect,nay demand more than a bit time player can offer. If servitude outside of a session is not your thing,then you will not measure up to my standards,but I do wish you well in your journey.

Now that I have provided my definition of sacrifice,it is up to you whether you choose to take that monumental first step.