The shame game

One of the things Ladies will find running rampant in the fetish scene is the shame game. The shame game consists of tried and true techniques employed to shame you into providing for the wants of the one playing you. You should ask yourself these two questions when you take note of the game one is playing. Are you an instrument? Do you want to be played?

How to recognize the game,oh and I care not to hear the insipid dialogue regarding not all males do this, since I am generalizing here.

"I have been burned in the past, so I want to take the time to see if we connect before I tribute". Egads why is this line still gaining traction?? This is a clear cut attempt to use women for free gratification. If someone really wanted to get to know you, they would be all over your social media sites feeling you out, and not come to you til after they have been able to gauge whether they are a good fit for your domination style. They would then come into your inbox with tribute already sent. That is what a decent male does.

"If you really loved dominating males, you would do it for free". Wow gotta love the logic in that statement. Of course we have all heard the saying "do a job you love, never work a day in your life", but even that saying would not ring true if there were no tangible benefits to performing said job. The saddest part of this ploy is that you will see even lifestyle Dominas spouting it. Yet I ask you this, how would those same lifestyle women react if said male never once purchased them a gift, and expected said woman to supply all of the equipment used to dominate them? Would they then feel the same? I highly doubt it. The males who engage in this tactic are relaying distinctly that they have zero appreciation for a woman's time and effort. They are selfish slug entitled misogynists, so wrapped up in themselves that they could not care less about anything that does not pertain to their wants.

"Only whores charge for sexwork"..and yes FinDom is considered sexwork. This attempt is set to make you feel degraded due to the negative connotations surrounding the word whore. Many males denote a whore as the lowest form of being, therefore they toss this out to shame you into doing what you do for free, atleast with them. If the word did not have such negativity associated with it, than this ploy would fizzle out. I say Fuck that! You decide the value of your time, and the worth of your association, not some shithead male. Own that your time is precious, and should not be wasted upon anyone that does not value it! Make them pay for everything they receive from you, regardless if it is conversation, cam time, tasks, clips etc...

"I just want to be your friend" Now this one is really a trickster. You should feel bad for even considering charging a male who just wants to be your friend! He just wants to be there for you, and listen to your problems with tributing males. Oh yes tell him all about your sessions, about how you dominate males. There is no way that he is leeching off of your experiences with his dick in hand, ya right. Seriously here, the males who come to you claiming that they want to be your friend are the worst possible friend you could take on. They are out to use you, and that is NOT ok. They are simply taking up space and time that could be spent with someone who will benefit your life in a lasting manner, so kick that user to the curb before he hooks claws into you.

"You are too (old,fat,ugly,stupid) to be a FinDomme" This type is a real piece of work. Their intent is to absolutely demoralize you into getting their way. They hit hard at the most sensitive spots for most women. Unless you possess a super thick impenetrable skin shell, than these insults are going to sting, especially if you are receiving them on the daily. These tactics are meant to break you down, to make you feel undesirable, and unwanted, therefore you will be appreciative when any male wants to spend time with you. This is all BS! Do not, I repeat, do not fall for this. Knowing your worth is the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. Love yourself, preconceived flaws and all. Recognize that you are more than what is visible to the human eye, and never allow any male to shake the confidence you have in yourself, cause anyone that does not value you for you, is not worth a single thought!

"Such and such only charges X " Ya we have all heard this one. This one is called the haggler. He wants to shame you into devaluing your time. Most times Mistress X does not even exist, and even if she did, it is not your place to lower your standards just because someone else does not see their true worth. Stand strong, and advise this type to run back to  Mistress X than.

And that folks is all I have time for today..yup I gotta life to get back to, and bois begging to better it with financial sacrifice :)

Barter up

Bartering. *barter definition. The exchange of goods or services for other goods or services, rather than for money.*
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I do not do this!  Yes there are people in the fetish scene who will haggle and barter,but I am not one of them,so please refrain from attempting to barter with me.

I have had many males offer to clean my house,mow my lawn etc etc etc..in exchange for domination,not happening :)  I already have a male who performs those chores for me,and guess what,he PAYS me to do them for me,so I have no need to barter with you. Even contemplating bartering with me is ignorant and insulting. 

Everything in my life costs money out of my pocket,and it is the duty of a male to reimburse those amounts to me. I realize that many of you were raised to believe that you should not have to pay for a woman's time or attention,and if you do than she is a whore,but that is outdated patriarchal entitlement,which is not going to get you anywhere in a woman's world.

Here is the deal. If you are too "good" or too poor to tribute towards the financial comfort and success of a woman,than you need to stay away from women who know their worth,and are not accepting of selfish self-serving ingrates. It really is that simple. I promise that I will not come barging into your inbox begging for your cash or your attention,and ask that you do the same. There is absolutely no need to waste your time or mine when in the end you will never be serving me. 

Whether you believe it or not life is expensive,and so is fetish. Clothes,toys,make up,pedicures,polish,heels,computers,internet service,and on and on and on. Get my point? Every moment a FinDomme spends with a non-contributing male is a financial loss. That time could have been spent with a more deserving male who recognizes and joyfully embraces his duty to enrich her life in a tangible manner. 

I realize that many of you label yourself as a "true lifestyle slave" meaning that you do not pay shit for having your fetish fulfilled..yes I see your selfish assess,and they disgust me. Ask yourself this,"Why would any woman want to play with me for free?" "Why would any woman want to sate my selfish desires with no return?" Oh and you licking her ass,feet,cooch,whatever is NOT a valuable return! Yes yes I know that I sound so cold hearted,suck it up buttercup,cause the days of women having to cater to your dick are OVER. No truly dominant woman is going to bow down to your dick designs. Sure you can purchase custom clips from women,or get your rocks off in a cam room if you tip enough,but guess what shithead,that is going to cost you too...oops once again it comes down to paying :( so strap in,and open that wallet wide for the pillaging.

Your Goddess is your guiding star whose decrees should be followed unerringly.

where is Sydney

Have you missed me?? I imagine that some of you have noticed  my appearances online this past week have been sporadic at best,and why do you think that is? Have I been ill,Noooooo
Did I fall off the face of the planet,heck nooooo Was I abducted by aliens lmao nooo Have I joined the peace corp nope Da Da Da Da...the reason I have not been online,is that you have provided no reason for me to be online.

My greatest resource,asset,and treasure is my time. I have found that I am not willing to invest it where I see a lack of return. Why would I not rather devote my efforts toward my charity work,or my profession,if I am not receiving my due appreciation for my time from any of you? Let's face it,my real time boy exerts more energy mowing my lawn,than any of you do towards making a favorable impression on me,and that is pathetic. My greatest realization as a mature adult was that life is not infinite,which means that I do not want to waste any of it,and if you as a self proclaimed submissive are not displaying to me that you are worthy of a single moment,then you will not be rewarded with it.

Now unless you are going to take the initiative and prove to me that you are worth being the recipient of my words,my wisdom,my training,then you are SOL,cause I am all out of gives a fuck. Oh and have a nice day :)

Welcome to the world of Financial Domination Ladies

The most  sage advice I can and will offer to any new to the findom scene Ladies looking for guidance,as well as an anchor in a storm is 2 part.

1)Confidence
*We all have seen or read articles regarding the importance of self belief and purpose. Amazingly a simple quality,yet one that has defeated the masses in achievement. Not so difficult to believe that we as women in this day and age lack confidence,considering that we have been raised under the patriarchal society's definition of what is beautiful,and worthy in a woman,and yes the focus is based upon what is seen,rather than what is hidden to the naked eye sadly. In eras long past,women were regaled and lauded for their manners,their decorum,kindness,and consideration,yet today these fine examples have fallen to the wayside in favor of an obsession upon what is deemed provocatively sexually alluring(hence the overtly sexualized and objectification of a woman's body in media advertising),and it is no secret who empowers such campaigns(males),else the world as we see it,would not revolve around the oppression and suppression of a woman's worth,other than her physical attributes,and how they can be put to purpose for a male's pleasure.
*How does one then maintain a healthy level of confidence if they do not fit into the ideal,ie being a circle in a square pegged world. Easy,by not allowing your worth to be determined externally. We as women are our own worst critics(due to beliefs,insecurities, and ideals instilled within us since childhood). Yet those with strength of character are able to realize,embrace,and embody the acceptance of appreciating the differences between human beings. Whilst one may not fit within the parameters set by skewed misogynists,that does not mean that we cannot love and celebrate how we differ. I myself am not what would be labelled by the masses as a beauty of renowned proportions,yet here I sit knowing that I am gloriously lovely,and confident in the fact that my self worth is based upon the internal. I decide my value,therefore I suffer no setback due to outside judgment or commentary which harbors negativity. This you too can achieve. One of the rituals I adopted early on was positive affirmations(hibberty gibberty to disbelievers). The entire fake it til you make it concept is based upon a working reality. Doubt me,well then I challenge you to stand before your mirror each and every day picking out just one thing that you find beautiful about yourself,whether it be the curve of your jawline,the razor edge of a cheekbone,perhaps even the delicate flush of color across your face. Now I know that I encouraged up above to not focus upon what is seen,but if one is to possess confidence,then they must find love for the internal,as well as their external being to make that happen. Inner beauty is radiated without,once you accept it. Yes I know that many will doubt what I am saying,and that is ok,but if only a single fellow woman finds the realization that the power of her worth is held within her own hands,due to my words,then I am overjoyed.

2)Tenacity
*This is a word which I claimed as my middle name. Being tenacious means not giving up. To keep pushing on til you achieve your goals,not allowing outside influences to detract you from your purpose. The fetish scene can be cruel,and unkind,therefore you have to be prepared to overcome these obstacles,or atleast determined to circumvent them. This will require fortitude,for if you give up at the first hurdle,you may as well not have even entered the arena. You will be tested by those that play upon insecurities,and ignorance of the celebration of women as beings of power and influence,this I promise,which means that you must  dig deep,and develop the stubbornness of a mule. This is why I advise a high degree of confidence in yourself(hence my mention of it primarily),for to last you need to know your own worth first. In short,hold steady with your head held high,and your belief in yourself held even higher.


I sincerely believe in the empowerment of all women,and hope to see the fruition of it's evolution. Therefore I welcome all that are new,and hope to see you being worshiped for the Goddesses you are in the many years to come :)

Goddess worship photo

I walk in your waking dreams..suffer..sacrifice...and worship your Goddess Sydney

Goddess will always receive what Goddess desires. It is your duty as beta gents to ensure that I do. Now make yourselves useful,and display your appreciation of my divine self by gifting me with an amazon gift card to cover the cost of my latest desire http://www.amazon.com/Fitbit-Charge-Wireless-Activity-Wristband/dp/B00N2BVOUE/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1438808758&sr=8-3&keywords=fitbit

Dirty feet fetish photo

Make ready with your tongue little foot freak to clean my filthy sinful soles.

The only piggy that will ever make it into my bedroom

Thank you to my brat boy for the cute little gift :)

All natural,born blessedly BEAUTIFUL.

I am the Goddess. I am your way,your light,your life. Unto my temple shall you lay your offering.

Second rate is a sacrilegious

How many of you gents have provided second rate service? I imagine quite a few. It is pretty much the standard for these days. I mean how hard is it to sit in front of a screen pledging to be all that your owner desires and requires,then in the next moment,log off of your pc and go about your everyday business never giving your owner a passing thought til it is time to log in once more? Pretty easy isn't it?

 Those that lack internal discipline possess an ideal of service such as a passing fancy,an itch that you get scratched with the attention you crave at the moment,then disregard it til it rears it's needy head once more. What may not cross your mind is how very disrespectful your behavior is. I realize that life has a way of taking over minds and matters,but for a genuine subgent,his owner occupies his mind always,even if it is not the forefront thought when at work,or with family. He does not allow himself to forget her when the screen goes blank. He devotes time,effort and thoughts towards how he can become a better servant for her,in other words he works hard for the honor he receives. He does not rest on his laurels(past tributes,or atta boy acts). Always he seeks to improve the service he offers.

I daily read complaint after complaint on boards,sites,even twitter about the lack of decent subgents,and do you know why that is,second rate service. Second rate service as well encompasses those that do not serve at all. I am referring to the gargantuan force of fetishists inhabiting the findom scene. Those that do not want to serve,but will play at it during a cam session,or to obtain whatever it is they seek for their cock high,whether it be photos,clips,or attention. How does one differentiate between a fetishist playing servant,and a second rate service provider...basically you do not,for the end results are generally the same...neither wishes to tribute(give a gift),but atleast for the Ladies that offer services,they are most likely to get paid something(although that is not technically defined as findom).

Unfortunately the lovely Ladies who claim the title of FinDomme in my opinion are force fed the greatest amount of crap above any other Domme. Not so surprising actually. 1)They are prone to hatred and backlash from the lifestyle community who believes them to be whores,gold diggers,and sugar babies(all named are declared lower than a scat lover). 2)I have even seen them bashed by Pro-Dommes(as in those that work in dungeons) 3)They are subject to verbal abuse by males whom have no means to support themselves,much less gift a Domme(this is why they are single and prone to misogynistic outbursts,I mean would you not be angry with women,if you could not even afford a fast food date..yet sadly their anger should be directed internally rather than seeking an external target). 4)There is as well, catfights and backstabbing towards other Ladies within the findom community,and that is pathetic. What could be an opportunity to band together in support from the outsiders who detest all that findom stands for,is instead skewed into a dog eat dog competition...younger Ladies bash older Ladies,older Ladies bash younger Ladies...and do not get me started on the egos,and insecurities that eclipse the worst electoral mudslinging I have ever witnessed.

Points being 1)You must have the thick hide of a rhino to survive the onslaught of insults you receive. 2)You must have the patience of a Saint to make it through the days where all you hear are lies from males pertaining to serving and tributing. 3)You must be savvy in whom you place your trust even when it comes to other FinDommes,for today's bff may be tomorrow's worst enemy when you snag a prospective servant that she desired as her own,or a tribute amount that raised her hackles. 4)You must be intelligent enough to quickly recognize every single timewaster ploy,else you spend hour after hour,day after day, dredging through useless missive after missive,and receiving no intake for your output.

At the end of the day,and after all of the trivial trials,second rate service seems like a blasphemous slap in the face...and that is seriously one thing that could be done without,so gents please have yourself in order when you ask to serve.

*disclaimer* I am in no way stating or inferring that ALL FinDomme Females act in the above mentioned manner,nor that the entirety of Pro-Dommes or Lifestyle Dommes do either,so please take no offense,where none is intended.

Goddess has returned from vacation...yay for you that divinity will be available to brighten your life once more. My time was spent in utter relaxation with my family,and no I will not be posting photos,as they were shared only with those that contributed to the financial aspects of making this trip possible.

How I adored being back in my small town where you need never lock your doors,or concern yourself if you left your purse in plain sight while strolling downtown. There definitely are perks to small town America...such as beautiful firework displays,people waving as you go by(and no I do not mean the one finger salute)..couples in rocking chairs on their porches,parades with horses,and carnivals with huge corndogs and lemon shake ups!! Just being me was wonderful. No need to cake my face with the civility of make up,or check constantly that every hair was in place. No use for fancy tech or jewels...doesn't that sound amazing?? Trips to the lake,and an amusement park(definitely you should add six flags to your vacation planner).

Alas though,all good things come to an end,so here I am back in the big city. Your job is to scrimp and sacrifice to fund my next trip,so get to it minions! Labor day sounds like the perfect time for a weekend getaway. Plenty of time for you to make it happen.

Onto further news..a sweet little pet has drifted away due to personal issues(they always come back) but he did spoil me aplenty this month..to the tune of $620 in cash and $2400 in amazon gc's(too lazy to post pics of them all,but some of the spoils are on twitter)!! That is orgasmic :) The rest of you better step up your gifting.

Of course my little brat remains as faithful as ever to my happiness by funding my charitable projects,and keeping my lawn tidy,such a good boy. That is the extent of my stable at the moment,and honestly I am not sweating it. My goal was only to ever hold sway over 2-3 boys. Anymore and I would not have the time needed to train them. Drive by cash sluts are always welcome to visit the royal stables,but no permanent lodging :) Since I am rejuvenated and most pleased at the moment,I will be accepting applications for 1 single slot,so let the competition begin. Impress me,woo me,court me with your cash,not your compliments,and perhaps you shall be the honored boy to spend time with a Goddess :)

Goddess feet painted in grape

My happiness is your nirvana.

Pot calling kettle

Ever heard that saying about the pot calling the kettle black? I heard it all the time growing up,and think it to myself everyday,how so many do exactly this. If you are like me,then you have been told on multiple occasions that FinDommes are just lazy bitches who need to get a job,and stop leeching off people. The irony of it being that this vile brew spills from the lips of those contacting me in the hopes of a freebie. The same ones whom flip out on me because they were too lazy to read my profile which states that financial tribute is required. The funniest part being that these males are also within a group of individuals that cannot even support themselves,much less feed my fetish...little sots working minimum wage jobs,dwelling in Mommy and Daddy's basement. They shroud themselves in a bubble of superiority that they do not have to scam people out of money,yet fail to recognize that by living off their parents,they are in essence a leech themselves.

I laugh to myself each time that I find comments such as I named souring in my inbox. Why...well it could be due to the fact that I entered nursing school at 18,and after having graduated and passing my boards,that I have been working,and clearing a high wage every since. I left home as soon as I got my first job(no sucking the hind tit for me)...and now my home and vehicle are paid off,so my money is for whatever I desire...hell I could be a sugar momma if I wanted to lol. I worked hard to get where I am,and yes I am arrogant,but believe me when I say that I have earned the right to be so.

Now do you see why I find the irony of the verbal abuse humorous? Ye who of no money,a pathetic job(if one could call it that),and little to no future and a barren existence,tossing out insults which in reality reflect your life,not mine. That is ironically funny :)

I do not even take the time to be offended by the insults,for life must truly be sad when you are broke and begging Mommy for movie money...perhaps it would be best if males like these took stock of their situation,and realize that a great many of the Ladies in the findom lifestyle are indeed well off financially,and in no need of their milk money. Of course there are some that are in dire straights,and actually do NEED the cash,but hopefully they are not the majority,else it is not them ruling,but them being ruled. There can be no pride if you are being ruled by a snot nosed brat,and if the money is necessary for your livelihood,then yes they have you by the balls figuratively speaking,and that is a bad situation to be in.

I encourage each and every Lady to get an education,better yourself intellectually and financially,so that you will not be forced into depending on males to pay your bills,cause the truth of the matter is,you cannot pin your hopes on males that bounce like a ball when they see a shiny new toy,so you gotta do what you have to do to take care of you!

I expect,and accept only the very best .

Pray&Obey

Behold my Beauty,bow down to your knees in supplication,and beg to serve MzSydney,for you were meant to be used by me.

The gifts keep rolling in from my brat

Gifts I received yesterday and today courtesy of a gift card from my brat yay me!!