Daily, written moans and bitches blight my sight online. A never ending cycle always in motion repetitively,to no avail. What complaint could it be that I refer to,well I speak of the dreaded time waster sagas discussed and beaten like a dead nag.
I am going to feed you the brutal truth of the creation of the blackguard himself,and it is going to rankle some,but we cannot seek to please all,or sweep the truth under the proverbial rug,if alterations are ever to come through.
The surprising part for most is that I am going to lay the blame where it truly belongs,and that is on the females in this fetish,yup I said it,and I mean it. Males are not totally inept intellectually,and like pavlov's dogs they do learn when actions are repeated which produce positive results. Take your average fetish male new to the scene,he comes along after having been conditioned by femdom porn,or even a bit of vanilla porn(ugh),so he has in his mind already decided what he believes should be the course of action right? Now some of his thoughts might actually align with what occurs in a lifestyle bdsm relationship,or even of that with an escort who offers a little fifty shades of grey action,BUT findom is an animal of an entirely different sort,so he is forced to configure new ways to meet his wants.
So,what is a male to do that wants attention,wants humiliation,wants degradation,but does not want to pay tribute for it? He may scratch his balls for a quick minute til he sees that hey he can achieve this goal easily,with minimal effort on his part. Looking at twitter,kik,and fetish sites it becomes apparent that to receive the humiliation he so desperately wants,all he has to do is post a photo of his dick,and boom all kinds of attention comes his way FREE,yay him(and before someone irately speaks out that they do not fall for this,take a quick peek and see how many do). Degradation oh yes sweet degradation..this one is easy as well. Left and right insults are hurled(you are fake,oops someone fell for the cam verify cause they feared being called an insta or worse a man!!)..call a woman fat,old or ugly,and lightening fast females will respond with insult after insult..oh great globs of slimy sperm yes,degradation has been freely relayed and received! Wants met at no cost to their wallet. Wow see how simple that was for him? How do we as females shove a cork in the ass of these actions,by remaining silent of course. STOP feeding the bitches with comments on their little dicks,cause that will not produce your due worship or tribute. All it does is teach males that they can have their cake and eat it too. Cease giving them a rise when they hurl inane comments towards your person. A confident dominant female does NOT care for the opinions of sheep,she knows that she is worthy of worship,and disregards commentary to the contrary.
Since we have spoken of time wasters,let's move on to the miserly scrooges abounding around. Just as with the previous mentioned,these males behaviors have evolved once again due to actions on the feminine front. Open your eyes,and you will see scads of females offering sessions for pennies on the dollar,accepting $10 tributes(puke). Of course it all adds up,but here is the thing,you as a female are of more worth than any male will ever assign you,and by valuing your time and energy so low,you are merely encouraging other males to devalue your time and attention as well. See the point I am making? Findom is not about getting rich I know this full well,but it is a proven fact that males will take advantage of females if they are given the opportunity to do so,and no this is not a slight to males,merely the nature of the beast,so my question would be why do you as dominant women allow yourself to be treated shabbily,when you deserve so much more? Not every male in this fetish is a millionaire,but you surely know that they can do a hell of alot better than you are receiving! $10 is NOT a sacrifice..and please before someone gets pissy and says "oh yes it is if that is all they have in their pocket",well if that is all they have,then they need to save up,get a better job,or step away,cause what they are offering is an insult,so please do not fall prey to it.
The balance of power has shifted,and we as women have allowed it. Any female who allows a male to top from the bottom for a few bucks encourages it,any female who chases carrots encourages it,any female who feeds trolls encourages it...my point being that it is time to take command of the reins,and teach these males that they do not call the shots,they do not rule femdom or findom. Either take a stand,or lay down with the dogs,but most importantly quit bitching about time wasters,and cheap bitches if you are not going to be a part of the solution.
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I walk in your waking dreams..suffer..sacrifice...and worship your Goddess Sydney
Saturday, July 25, 2015
Second rate is a sacrilegious
How many of you gents have provided second rate service? I imagine quite a few. It is pretty much the standard for these days. I mean how hard is it to sit in front of a screen pledging to be all that your owner desires and requires,then in the next moment,log off of your pc and go about your everyday business never giving your owner a passing thought til it is time to log in once more? Pretty easy isn't it?
Those that lack internal discipline possess an ideal of service such as a passing fancy,an itch that you get scratched with the attention you crave at the moment,then disregard it til it rears it's needy head once more. What may not cross your mind is how very disrespectful your behavior is. I realize that life has a way of taking over minds and matters,but for a genuine subgent,his owner occupies his mind always,even if it is not the forefront thought when at work,or with family. He does not allow himself to forget her when the screen goes blank. He devotes time,effort and thoughts towards how he can become a better servant for her,in other words he works hard for the honor he receives. He does not rest on his laurels(past tributes,or atta boy acts). Always he seeks to improve the service he offers.
I daily read complaint after complaint on boards,sites,even twitter about the lack of decent subgents,and do you know why that is,second rate service. Second rate service as well encompasses those that do not serve at all. I am referring to the gargantuan force of fetishists inhabiting the findom scene. Those that do not want to serve,but will play at it during a cam session,or to obtain whatever it is they seek for their cock high,whether it be photos,clips,or attention. How does one differentiate between a fetishist playing servant,and a second rate service provider...basically you do not,for the end results are generally the same...neither wishes to tribute(give a gift),but atleast for the Ladies that offer services,they are most likely to get paid something(although that is not technically defined as findom).
Unfortunately the lovely Ladies who claim the title of FinDomme in my opinion are force fed the greatest amount of crap above any other Domme. Not so surprising actually. 1)They are prone to hatred and backlash from the lifestyle community who believes them to be whores,gold diggers,and sugar babies(all named are declared lower than a scat lover). 2)I have even seen them bashed by Pro-Dommes(as in those that work in dungeons) 3)They are subject to verbal abuse by males whom have no means to support themselves,much less gift a Domme(this is why they are single and prone to misogynistic outbursts,I mean would you not be angry with women,if you could not even afford a fast food date..yet sadly their anger should be directed internally rather than seeking an external target). 4)There is as well, catfights and backstabbing towards other Ladies within the findom community,and that is pathetic. What could be an opportunity to band together in support from the outsiders who detest all that findom stands for,is instead skewed into a dog eat dog competition...younger Ladies bash older Ladies,older Ladies bash younger Ladies...and do not get me started on the egos,and insecurities that eclipse the worst electoral mudslinging I have ever witnessed.
Points being 1)You must have the thick hide of a rhino to survive the onslaught of insults you receive. 2)You must have the patience of a Saint to make it through the days where all you hear are lies from males pertaining to serving and tributing. 3)You must be savvy in whom you place your trust even when it comes to other FinDommes,for today's bff may be tomorrow's worst enemy when you snag a prospective servant that she desired as her own,or a tribute amount that raised her hackles. 4)You must be intelligent enough to quickly recognize every single timewaster ploy,else you spend hour after hour,day after day, dredging through useless missive after missive,and receiving no intake for your output.
At the end of the day,and after all of the trivial trials,second rate service seems like a blasphemous slap in the face...and that is seriously one thing that could be done without,so gents please have yourself in order when you ask to serve.
*disclaimer* I am in no way stating or inferring that ALL FinDomme Females act in the above mentioned manner,nor that the entirety of Pro-Dommes or Lifestyle Dommes do either,so please take no offense,where none is intended.
Those that lack internal discipline possess an ideal of service such as a passing fancy,an itch that you get scratched with the attention you crave at the moment,then disregard it til it rears it's needy head once more. What may not cross your mind is how very disrespectful your behavior is. I realize that life has a way of taking over minds and matters,but for a genuine subgent,his owner occupies his mind always,even if it is not the forefront thought when at work,or with family. He does not allow himself to forget her when the screen goes blank. He devotes time,effort and thoughts towards how he can become a better servant for her,in other words he works hard for the honor he receives. He does not rest on his laurels(past tributes,or atta boy acts). Always he seeks to improve the service he offers.
I daily read complaint after complaint on boards,sites,even twitter about the lack of decent subgents,and do you know why that is,second rate service. Second rate service as well encompasses those that do not serve at all. I am referring to the gargantuan force of fetishists inhabiting the findom scene. Those that do not want to serve,but will play at it during a cam session,or to obtain whatever it is they seek for their cock high,whether it be photos,clips,or attention. How does one differentiate between a fetishist playing servant,and a second rate service provider...basically you do not,for the end results are generally the same...neither wishes to tribute(give a gift),but atleast for the Ladies that offer services,they are most likely to get paid something(although that is not technically defined as findom).
Unfortunately the lovely Ladies who claim the title of FinDomme in my opinion are force fed the greatest amount of crap above any other Domme. Not so surprising actually. 1)They are prone to hatred and backlash from the lifestyle community who believes them to be whores,gold diggers,and sugar babies(all named are declared lower than a scat lover). 2)I have even seen them bashed by Pro-Dommes(as in those that work in dungeons) 3)They are subject to verbal abuse by males whom have no means to support themselves,much less gift a Domme(this is why they are single and prone to misogynistic outbursts,I mean would you not be angry with women,if you could not even afford a fast food date..yet sadly their anger should be directed internally rather than seeking an external target). 4)There is as well, catfights and backstabbing towards other Ladies within the findom community,and that is pathetic. What could be an opportunity to band together in support from the outsiders who detest all that findom stands for,is instead skewed into a dog eat dog competition...younger Ladies bash older Ladies,older Ladies bash younger Ladies...and do not get me started on the egos,and insecurities that eclipse the worst electoral mudslinging I have ever witnessed.
Points being 1)You must have the thick hide of a rhino to survive the onslaught of insults you receive. 2)You must have the patience of a Saint to make it through the days where all you hear are lies from males pertaining to serving and tributing. 3)You must be savvy in whom you place your trust even when it comes to other FinDommes,for today's bff may be tomorrow's worst enemy when you snag a prospective servant that she desired as her own,or a tribute amount that raised her hackles. 4)You must be intelligent enough to quickly recognize every single timewaster ploy,else you spend hour after hour,day after day, dredging through useless missive after missive,and receiving no intake for your output.
At the end of the day,and after all of the trivial trials,second rate service seems like a blasphemous slap in the face...and that is seriously one thing that could be done without,so gents please have yourself in order when you ask to serve.
*disclaimer* I am in no way stating or inferring that ALL FinDomme Females act in the above mentioned manner,nor that the entirety of Pro-Dommes or Lifestyle Dommes do either,so please take no offense,where none is intended.
Monday, July 13, 2015
Til death do us part
I recently commented on a particular findom site in regards to marriage and dating in the financial domination scene,and decided to post a little write up comprised of my personal opinion upon the subject formed from my own experiences,observations,and thoughts.
Of late there have been many males approaching Dommes with the hope burning bright that they would somehow become a permanent fixture in her life,even to the point of holding legal status in a relationship,and this is where the train of thought is derailing into fantasyland. I as a mindful conductor of submission and reality check inspector must at this point hold up the naysaying hand. Aww poor males forcibly brought short with the realization that you are chasing your own tail.
Financial domination is not the realm where the dating show is hosted. Chuck Woolery does not dwell here. Of all the fetish arenas,this one is the LEAST likely to net you a girlfriend,fwb,or wife. It is not a bad thing,it just is. Yes of course long term bonds are forged,and fin relationships last years,but the outcome is not conducive to marriage,maybe if you are fortunate a friendship will evolve,or a connection of caring,and those should be what you aspire to,not a gold collar. I myself have grown quite fond of a couple of males that have served me,but not once did I consider dating them,much less marrying them(submissive is a sexual turn off for me),and I am not alone in this thought process.
This is not an absolute though,for I have known of a handful(within my groups) of Dommes that do date submissive males,so it does occur,but the odds are significantly lower(buy a lottery ticket for better odds). It does no male any good to set his eyes on a level which he cannot reach,even if he is a masochist. I am not one for blowing smoke up asses which is why I felt the need to post this piece.
Basically what I am saying,is that if you are on the hunt for a realtime fulltime FLR,the findom forums are not the place to pin your hopes and dreams. There are plenty of dating sites,even ones with a kinky twist,so do give that option due consideration before you make an ass of yourself trying to date Dommes that are here to dominate your finances,rather than saying "I do" to you.
Of late there have been many males approaching Dommes with the hope burning bright that they would somehow become a permanent fixture in her life,even to the point of holding legal status in a relationship,and this is where the train of thought is derailing into fantasyland. I as a mindful conductor of submission and reality check inspector must at this point hold up the naysaying hand. Aww poor males forcibly brought short with the realization that you are chasing your own tail.
Financial domination is not the realm where the dating show is hosted. Chuck Woolery does not dwell here. Of all the fetish arenas,this one is the LEAST likely to net you a girlfriend,fwb,or wife. It is not a bad thing,it just is. Yes of course long term bonds are forged,and fin relationships last years,but the outcome is not conducive to marriage,maybe if you are fortunate a friendship will evolve,or a connection of caring,and those should be what you aspire to,not a gold collar. I myself have grown quite fond of a couple of males that have served me,but not once did I consider dating them,much less marrying them(submissive is a sexual turn off for me),and I am not alone in this thought process.
This is not an absolute though,for I have known of a handful(within my groups) of Dommes that do date submissive males,so it does occur,but the odds are significantly lower(buy a lottery ticket for better odds). It does no male any good to set his eyes on a level which he cannot reach,even if he is a masochist. I am not one for blowing smoke up asses which is why I felt the need to post this piece.
Basically what I am saying,is that if you are on the hunt for a realtime fulltime FLR,the findom forums are not the place to pin your hopes and dreams. There are plenty of dating sites,even ones with a kinky twist,so do give that option due consideration before you make an ass of yourself trying to date Dommes that are here to dominate your finances,rather than saying "I do" to you.
Saturday, July 11, 2015
boys boys boys
Sit right down,cause I am gonna school you a lesson in submission. Okays then,here we go.
Saying that a Domme needs to do this or that to gain your submission is a bullshit ploy of yours to top from the bottom..no excuses,and no trying to deny it. It is what I said it was.
I have spoken to more males,than farts fly in the wind,and you are not going to tell me something that I have not heard before(seriously). Let's start with the most common ones. a)"I need to be made to suck cock to feel submissive"...yup heard that one alot,and my reply is simple,if you are setting conditions on your submission(other than absolute hard limits),then you are not actually submitting(you are just seeking a facilitator for your fantasies),and I have no use for you period. b)"I need you to force me to tribute" ack that one makes me gag. Do I or any other Domme look like your Mommy? Handholding is for parents,and high school sweethearts(I am neither),so do take that whiny manipulative shit next door. c)I need to be teased with your flesh in order to submit" *puke* yup you are just another misogynistic male seeking to objectify a woman's body for your visual gratification,and that seriously sucks ass.
Do you see the common thread in each of those examples? Clearly each one is about males(I will not honor them with the term submissive) getting what they want,claiming it as a NEED. Every one of those scenarios is about male wants,he wants to be forced,he wants to see flesh,so tell me how in the hell any of that is about what the Domme wants? It isn't.
I am not trying to devalue actual needs of subgents,but attempting to dress up a want's clothing as a need,is not cool,and is quite obvious. This behavior is exactly why Dommes get pissy and fed up with the lot of you. Submitting is not about getting off,or getting what you want. It is about letting go of self serving agendas,and focusing your energy on the wants of another. It is selfless,not selfish. Why is that such a difficult concept for so many of you to swallow?? I wonder about the educational systems of the world,if the majority of the male fetish scene population cannot decipher the difference between selfish and selfless. Serving can NEVER be about you the servant,else it would not be deemed serving.
Perhaps the issue stems from males seeking out the lifestyle for their own wants,and if so,then there is a solution. They will not run afoul or get blocked if they keep their inquiries contained to the boxes of service providers,and far from the door of Dommes who expect actual service. If you "need" to be flashed flesh,there are tons of cam sites just for that purpose alone,if you "need" to be forced to tribute(do not call it tribute though,tribute is a gift sans expectations,call it a payment) or to suck cock,once again there are providers who will happily take your cash,and make demands such as you want. Bottom line,unless you are selflessly seeking to serve a Domme,then do not contact a Domme.
Saying that a Domme needs to do this or that to gain your submission is a bullshit ploy of yours to top from the bottom..no excuses,and no trying to deny it. It is what I said it was.
I have spoken to more males,than farts fly in the wind,and you are not going to tell me something that I have not heard before(seriously). Let's start with the most common ones. a)"I need to be made to suck cock to feel submissive"...yup heard that one alot,and my reply is simple,if you are setting conditions on your submission(other than absolute hard limits),then you are not actually submitting(you are just seeking a facilitator for your fantasies),and I have no use for you period. b)"I need you to force me to tribute" ack that one makes me gag. Do I or any other Domme look like your Mommy? Handholding is for parents,and high school sweethearts(I am neither),so do take that whiny manipulative shit next door. c)I need to be teased with your flesh in order to submit" *puke* yup you are just another misogynistic male seeking to objectify a woman's body for your visual gratification,and that seriously sucks ass.
Do you see the common thread in each of those examples? Clearly each one is about males(I will not honor them with the term submissive) getting what they want,claiming it as a NEED. Every one of those scenarios is about male wants,he wants to be forced,he wants to see flesh,so tell me how in the hell any of that is about what the Domme wants? It isn't.
I am not trying to devalue actual needs of subgents,but attempting to dress up a want's clothing as a need,is not cool,and is quite obvious. This behavior is exactly why Dommes get pissy and fed up with the lot of you. Submitting is not about getting off,or getting what you want. It is about letting go of self serving agendas,and focusing your energy on the wants of another. It is selfless,not selfish. Why is that such a difficult concept for so many of you to swallow?? I wonder about the educational systems of the world,if the majority of the male fetish scene population cannot decipher the difference between selfish and selfless. Serving can NEVER be about you the servant,else it would not be deemed serving.
Perhaps the issue stems from males seeking out the lifestyle for their own wants,and if so,then there is a solution. They will not run afoul or get blocked if they keep their inquiries contained to the boxes of service providers,and far from the door of Dommes who expect actual service. If you "need" to be flashed flesh,there are tons of cam sites just for that purpose alone,if you "need" to be forced to tribute(do not call it tribute though,tribute is a gift sans expectations,call it a payment) or to suck cock,once again there are providers who will happily take your cash,and make demands such as you want. Bottom line,unless you are selflessly seeking to serve a Domme,then do not contact a Domme.
Thursday, April 16, 2015
Time waster tips for Dommes
One of the recurring questions you will see posed on any financial domination forum is,"how do I find slaves", and whilst I do not have a tried and true, absolute guaranteed methodology to offer, I can tell you how to spot the manure before it has time to ferment, thereby saving time, which would have otherwise been wasted.
Behavior of a time waster
1)They will effusively compliment you. Now of course it is simply good manners to praise a Lady, but it can be overboard, such as "you are the most gorgeous woman in the world"(overkill). Their compliments may as well include sexual undertones, or hints of sexually objectifying you ie "your tits, ass, pussy, make me so hard" "i want to jack off looking at you". I realize that some ladies enjoy using their bodies to ensnare the male senses ,and I say whatever works for you go for it, but remember this, if all they see you as is a sexual object, than they will not view you as a real human being, one that lives, breathes, gets ill, has bad days etc...and how can you expect or exact respect when all you are is a tool of sexual gratification in their eyes (wank fodder)?
2)They will brag about how much money they make, or possessions they have. This is a huge red flag, because this is not something people ordinarily bring up immediately, and those that boast tend to prevaricate. It is fairly easy to aver that one is flush with riches, all the while sitting in their parents basement, so be wary of those that attempt this ploy. The best way to avoid this trap is to operate under the saying of "money talks, and bullshit walks", so if they cannot offer even a token tribute for your time, then exercise your block button.
3)They will attempt to get you to cam verify. Of course there are exceptions to this, and yes there are some legitimate submissives who will ask you to verify, but they are also the ones that are willing to tithe you for the honor beforehand, so keep in mind that anytime you are asked to cam verify that you are possibly going to be wasting time as they sit back plucking their puke stick. One of the ways I judge the situation is, if the male in question has offered to do all sorts of activities for you prior to tribute being mentioned, but demands a cam verify once tribute is mentioned, than they are most likely a waster.
4)They will question you as to what you would do in a given situation, this is a classic ploy. "what would you do to my cock during cbt" "how would you tease and deny me". These males are best left to their own devices (rosie palm, and her 5 sisters), and far away from your inbox.
5)They will right out of the box insult you in some manner or form in the hopes that you will relinquish your control and tear them a new asshole, effectively providing them with humiliation and degradation. It is sincerely not worth the time you would spend typing up a scathing reply. I rarely respond to such, but I have been known to wish them a lovely day before I block them. Killing them with kindness is a bitch to their agenda.
6)They will send you unsolicited penis pics (just ewww). Any male that disrespects you, and yes this is disrespectful, is only playing to their own agenda, rather than seeking to serve, so it is best not to respond at all to them.
7)They will attempt to ingratiate themselves into your life as a "friend", and of course blatantly or subtly try to coerce details out of you, such as how you dominate males, or what you have done to other males. They want to live vicariously through those that have served, without ever serving.
These tips apply to all Dommes across the board, regardless of being into financial domination or not. Never forget that you are here to be served, rather than serve, and if you fall prey to a time waster, than you are serving them. Most of us have fallen prey to these scenarios when we were new so, do not beat yourself up if it has happened to you. All of us have been new at one time or another, and had to learn the hard way.
Behavior of a time waster
1)They will effusively compliment you. Now of course it is simply good manners to praise a Lady, but it can be overboard, such as "you are the most gorgeous woman in the world"(overkill). Their compliments may as well include sexual undertones, or hints of sexually objectifying you ie "your tits, ass, pussy, make me so hard" "i want to jack off looking at you". I realize that some ladies enjoy using their bodies to ensnare the male senses ,and I say whatever works for you go for it, but remember this, if all they see you as is a sexual object, than they will not view you as a real human being, one that lives, breathes, gets ill, has bad days etc...and how can you expect or exact respect when all you are is a tool of sexual gratification in their eyes (wank fodder)?
2)They will brag about how much money they make, or possessions they have. This is a huge red flag, because this is not something people ordinarily bring up immediately, and those that boast tend to prevaricate. It is fairly easy to aver that one is flush with riches, all the while sitting in their parents basement, so be wary of those that attempt this ploy. The best way to avoid this trap is to operate under the saying of "money talks, and bullshit walks", so if they cannot offer even a token tribute for your time, then exercise your block button.
3)They will attempt to get you to cam verify. Of course there are exceptions to this, and yes there are some legitimate submissives who will ask you to verify, but they are also the ones that are willing to tithe you for the honor beforehand, so keep in mind that anytime you are asked to cam verify that you are possibly going to be wasting time as they sit back plucking their puke stick. One of the ways I judge the situation is, if the male in question has offered to do all sorts of activities for you prior to tribute being mentioned, but demands a cam verify once tribute is mentioned, than they are most likely a waster.
4)They will question you as to what you would do in a given situation, this is a classic ploy. "what would you do to my cock during cbt" "how would you tease and deny me". These males are best left to their own devices (rosie palm, and her 5 sisters), and far away from your inbox.
5)They will right out of the box insult you in some manner or form in the hopes that you will relinquish your control and tear them a new asshole, effectively providing them with humiliation and degradation. It is sincerely not worth the time you would spend typing up a scathing reply. I rarely respond to such, but I have been known to wish them a lovely day before I block them. Killing them with kindness is a bitch to their agenda.
6)They will send you unsolicited penis pics (just ewww). Any male that disrespects you, and yes this is disrespectful, is only playing to their own agenda, rather than seeking to serve, so it is best not to respond at all to them.
7)They will attempt to ingratiate themselves into your life as a "friend", and of course blatantly or subtly try to coerce details out of you, such as how you dominate males, or what you have done to other males. They want to live vicariously through those that have served, without ever serving.
These tips apply to all Dommes across the board, regardless of being into financial domination or not. Never forget that you are here to be served, rather than serve, and if you fall prey to a time waster, than you are serving them. Most of us have fallen prey to these scenarios when we were new so, do not beat yourself up if it has happened to you. All of us have been new at one time or another, and had to learn the hard way.
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