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Sit right down,cause I am gonna school you a lesson in submission. Okays then,here we go.

Saying that a Domme needs to do this or that to gain your submission is a bullshit ploy of yours to top from the bottom..no excuses,and no trying to deny it. It is what I said it was.

I have spoken to more males,than farts fly in the wind,and you are not going to tell me something that I have not heard before(seriously). Let's start with the most common ones. a)"I need to be made to suck cock to feel submissive"...yup heard that one alot,and my reply is simple,if you are setting conditions on your submission(other than absolute hard limits),then you are not actually submitting(you are just seeking a facilitator for your fantasies),and I have no use for you period. b)"I need you to force me to tribute" ack that one makes me gag. Do I or any other Domme look like your Mommy? Handholding is for parents,and high school sweethearts(I am neither),so do take that whiny manipulative shit next door. c)I need to be teased with your flesh in order to submit" *puke* yup you are just another misogynistic male seeking to objectify a woman's body for your visual gratification,and that seriously sucks ass.

Do you see the common thread in each of those examples? Clearly each one is about males(I will not honor them with the term submissive) getting what they want,claiming it as a NEED. Every one of those scenarios is about male wants,he wants to be forced,he wants to see flesh,so tell me how in the hell any of that is about what the Domme wants? It isn't.

I am not trying to devalue actual needs of subgents,but attempting to dress up a want's clothing as a need,is not cool,and is quite obvious. This behavior is exactly why Dommes get pissy and fed up with the lot of you. Submitting is not about getting off,or getting what you want. It is about letting go of self serving agendas,and focusing your energy on the wants of another. It is selfless,not selfish. Why is that such a difficult concept for so many of you to swallow?? I wonder about the educational systems of the world,if the majority of the male fetish scene population cannot decipher the difference between selfish and selfless. Serving can NEVER be about you the servant,else it would not be deemed serving.

Perhaps the issue stems from males seeking out the lifestyle for their own wants,and if so,then there is a solution. They will not run afoul or get blocked if they keep their inquiries contained to the boxes of service providers,and far from the door of Dommes who expect actual service. If you "need" to be flashed flesh,there are tons of cam sites just for that purpose alone,if you "need" to be forced to tribute(do not call it tribute though,tribute is a gift sans expectations,call it a payment) or to suck cock,once again there are providers who will happily take your cash,and make demands such as you want. Bottom line,unless you are selflessly seeking to serve a Domme,then do not contact a Domme.

There is no light without the dark

How can one appreciate the lighter aspects of the findom field,without acknowledging that a darker side exists? Sort of like the seedy side streets of a phenomenally beautiful city. Sometimes one must experience the not so lovely aspects in order to gain appreciation as well as to see the value of that which is worth pursuing.

Some will gloss over the disturbing facts that not all is happiness and sunshine in the findom fief,but why? I can only assume that we are advised to hush about that which does not evoke all of those delicious delights of the flesh,because the unsavory taste of such scares away the bees correct? Oh alas what a pity,it nearly breaks my cold heart,that my life is based upon a reality not erected upon catering to erections,one which deflates males jerking responses. Should I apologize,I think not.

By sealing our lips,are we not promoting the one dimensional persona that permeates and perpetuates that dominant women are not real people. Like an act affected,a role where the actress must look,and act in a predetermined manner. I ask you this,how the hell is it dominant being thrust into denying your humanity?

I dare one single individual to step up and deny that they have ever endured a moment of unhappiness,misery,physical pain,or plain emotional angst in their entire lifetime. It will never happen. Why? Because it would be a lie of monumental proportions...and after all who wants to be labelled a liar?

There are a multitude of reasons for developing a time of transitory displeasure within this often judged fetish.From without the glass peeking in,it all appears so shiny and awe inspiring,but upon closer inspection there is no denial that it is a roughly competitive arena to a great degree. How can something so very precious such as serving a dominant become so vile? Lets take an in depth look shall we.

I have seen profiles,and posts by the thousands,and interacted with roughly half that number,which if I were to take what I see and hear to heart,then I would have faded into the memories of past long ago. Obviously the fact that I am in my 30's makes me an undesirable potential Domme to the majority which seek out my young to life sisters,and that actually suits me fine,for why would I ever desire to be near those whom are so very close minded that they cannot see beyond their own eyes in regards to the beauty of experience and wisdom? It is only the juvenile mind which is hindered by the bedazzlement of the surface,and it is not a youth that I would take beneath my heel.

Services,services,services. Why is there a market for such? It comes back to the male mentality of entitlement,selfishness and insecurity. In a free market is there not movement to encroach into in demand areas? We call it customer-client exchanges. Do companies produce goods for the resale value,or for their own pleasure,well of course to make money dummy. Does this equate into you serving the company when you buy their product,NO. You may increase their bottom line profit,but you are not doing them a favor. You purchase the product for your pleasure only. Now how does this figure into findom? How many males buy clips or cam sessions? In fact how many of these same males feel entitled to calling the shots since they are paying for time and attention as a customer? I would love to see some actual figures,but I doubt that they would shock me,as I see this exact type of behavior daily. Can you see how this would be less than pleasing to a Domme whom offers no services,yet has need to explain it on a continuous basis that the words service and services are not interchangeable? I offer no services,but I expect service. Makes sense to a single celled amoeba,so why is it that it is not comprehendable to the majority?

Liar liar cheap pants on fire. What delight does one take in the repetitive rounds of worn out lose pocketed lies which befall from the lips of the hapless and hopeless? You cannot elevate your status with worth not your own,so for the love of all that you hold holy,cease and desist. Accept that poor is not a pretty adjective in a realm where coin has more meaning than willing flesh. There is a place for you,but it will not be named findom. Life is finite,so waste not yours where appreciation will not be yours.

For the faithless and oath breakers,they sincerely do reserve a seat for you in hades. Hurry before your spot is taken :) In olden days,your word was your bond,and truly some things never go out of style. Be honest,be real,and maybe one day redemption shall be yours,but along that road keep yourself true to that which falls from your tongue. Make not a commitment which you cannot or will not keep. It is your reputation that suffers with broken promises.

See you now why a bad day can be had for a lady of findom? The ugly truth is that just as in the vanilla setting,there are liars,losers,unfaithful,insulting and vulgarly demanding trolls,and yes being subjected to this behavior day in and day out is bound to produce a day of less than suzy sunshine happiness. The only redeeming glimmer is the hope that one day along will come those whom actually get what it means to be submissive. Ask yourself this,will your behavior bring to the equation light and smiles,or the darkest of frowns?