Calling All SynAddicts

Welcome my poppets, puppets, and pervs

Is today your first time sliding into Sydney Sphere? If so, than you should know right from the start that this is not a space for the average gooner. Jack and gos, just aren't going to get their fix up in here :)

This is the realm where you come to learn obedience to Sydney Claire. A place where you take that first step towards becoming a SynAddict. I am here to make you mine. Taking over your mind, cock, and wallet. Afraid?
You should be, because my claws will sink so deep into your psyche, that you will never fully be rid of your unquenchable desire to serve my every wanton wish.

Do you know what human beings have in common, other than the physical obvious? They want to belong. They want to feel as if they have a purpose. They want to believe that their lives have meaning. This is natural. It is completely normal, and nothing to be ashamed of. I get it, honestly I do.

It feels good to belong to ME. Being Sydney Claire's servant gives meaning to your life. Serving Sydney Claire provides you with a purpose and direction in life. All that you sought, all that you NEED, can be found at the feet of Sydney Claire.

Serving me is the most natural expression of self. No more feeling alone, divided, despised. Here you will know your place. You will feel accepted. You will know happiness. 

I love when the lost and misguided find their way to the fold. Aren't you tired of pretending to be something and someone that you aren't? Imagine how wonderful it would feel to finally be at peace with who and what you really are? You don't have to hide from me. I already know that you belong.

No more fear. You will find yourself fearless in your service to me. Every step forward is one step closer. You want this. You need this. This is where you belong.

Close your eyes my little puppet and imagine how good it will feel to just let go. Let go of your everyday struggles. Strip yourself of the chains society constrains you with. Allow yourself to relinquish that false ego weighing you down. You were not meant to stand before me, you were created to crawl at my feet. You are a servant, and I am your superior. This is your life. 

Giving your all, being your best. All of this is possible. The fantasy can become your reality when you are in my presence. No holding back. No turning back. You belong. You are mine! Say it out loud for your ears to hear, and your soul to accept. You belong to Sydney Claire. Sydney Claire is your most holy Goddess. Sydney Claire owns you.

Emotions must exist for longevity to persist

Long term service requires a stirring and persistence of emotional ties. I speak not of business arrangements..ie a purchase of virtual attention(sessions),literal(panties,socks etc),or media(clips,photos,or PS),for these are simply a satiation of male desires in exchange of currency,and that is NOT service. Service is what we seek is it not? If not,then feel free to disregard my words.

Emotional bonds of ownership evolve over time,much more than a moment,day or week. An eternal journey where lust blossoms into respect,and from there a consideration of tenderness. Lust on it's own is a fleeting fad,which fails to produce viability of anything other than orgasm,therefore deeper connections must be striven for. To remain in service lifelong,dare I say it,love must be evoked,for given time,flesh will not remain where the heart is not involved,so truly love does conquer,even that of the male beast.

What it all boils down to,is that even if a male desires a woman's flesh,and finds her utterly enticing sexually,eventually he will tire of the lust he has known,in order to spark it anew with another(nature of the beast),so the best of designs incorporates the silken trappings of love,and it is love which keeps them on a leash long term. Cage the heartfelt emotions,and you will have them eating out of your hand like the tamest of creatures.

Til death do us part

I recently commented on a particular findom site in regards to marriage and dating in the financial domination scene,and decided to post a little write up comprised of my personal opinion upon the subject formed from my own experiences,observations,and thoughts.

Of late there have been many males approaching Dommes with the hope burning bright that they would somehow become a permanent fixture in her life,even to the point of holding legal status in a relationship,and this is where the train of thought is derailing into fantasyland. I as a mindful conductor of submission and reality check inspector must at this point hold up the naysaying hand. Aww poor males forcibly brought short with the realization that you are chasing your own tail.

Financial domination is not the realm where the dating show is hosted. Chuck Woolery does not dwell here. Of all the fetish arenas,this one is the LEAST likely to net you a girlfriend,fwb,or wife. It is not a bad thing,it just is. Yes of course long term bonds are forged,and fin relationships last years,but the outcome is not conducive to marriage,maybe if you are fortunate a friendship will evolve,or a connection of caring,and those should be what you aspire to,not a gold collar. I myself have grown quite fond of a couple of males that have served me,but not once did I consider dating them,much less marrying them(submissive is a sexual turn off for me),and I am not alone in this thought process.

This is not an absolute though,for I have known of a handful(within my groups) of Dommes that do date submissive males,so it does occur,but the odds are significantly lower(buy a lottery ticket for better odds). It does no male any good to set his eyes on a level which he cannot reach,even if he is a masochist. I am not one for blowing smoke up asses which is why I felt the need to post this piece.

Basically what I am saying,is that if you are on the hunt for a realtime fulltime FLR,the findom forums are not the place to pin your hopes and dreams. There are plenty of dating sites,even ones with a kinky twist,so do give that option due consideration before you make an ass of yourself trying to date Dommes that are here to dominate your finances,rather than saying "I do" to you.

Finsubs, victims or willing conquests

Unbeknownst to those ignorant of the intricacies pertaining to financial domination dynamics,there are real dominance/submission relationships forged out of the sight of public consumption. To the untrained eyes,findom appears a shallow game of victimization,wherein mentally and emotionally downtrodden males fall prey to voracious feminine predators intent upon devouring all viable assets. The reality though differs drastically from what is perceived. One must actually look beyond the surface appearance to truly see that real relationships are developed in this fetish.

Financial domination is not a vicious power struggle where one emerges the victor over the defeated,nor the ploy of a hustler running a scam. Most generally it is not even the alpha whom approaches the beta for service,in fact the inbox of an alpha female is typically overflowing with messages and pleas to serve her financially,so she has no need to "scam",for the line has already formed two feet deep with wallets opened.

Similar to any intimate(note I said intimate,not sexual) relationship,there is effort expended,and time spent developing a lasting bond,which is the foundation for any long term association. It is not entirely idyllic,but than what relationship is? Nor is it without the ups and downs which any two beings overcome as a unit,and make no doubt that they are a unit regardless of where the hand of control lays.

What exactly is it though that portrays financial domination relationships in a poor light? The financial aspect of course. Dirty money grubbing lazy sluts too stupid to get a real job(yup those are the typical insults to rear their ugly heads in my inbox) I wonder why that is though,atleast from my perspective,these types of relationships have much in common with what is commonly called marriage,the main differences being that most likely the duo will not dwell in a single residence,nor will progeny be born,but as in the structure of marriage,one partner will control the finances and make all monumental decisions(alpha),whereas the beta partner generally sees to the comfort,care,and happiness of their alpha. Not that different,now are they.

One may argue that it cannot be a "real" relationship since sex is not involved,but I would advise one to look to the latest studies pertaining to how much actual intercourse occurs within a marriage(hint,it is not that much) rather it becomes about companionship,and whilst I do not consider my slaves as friends,they are indeed a part of my life,and I am very much a driving priority within their lives. I give them reason to get up each day,to work productively in society,and to develop the traits most desired in a decent human being ie selflessness,generosity,dedication,loyalty,and devotion to something other than themselves.

As their alpha I am responsible for them,in that I ensure they maintain their physical health,that they conduct themselves with respect to others,that they are corrected when mistakes are made,that they develop self -control. The picture I am portraying is definitely far off from how outsiders view it,but it is a closer fit than what most think,so the next time you say that financial domination is only about ruining poor hapless,and helpless males,try to remember that if the males in question were not happy with their lot in the relationship,then they would not continue with it long term,as so many do,so save your pity and outrage for the true victims in life,rather than males whom come willingly, hell even beg on bended knee to be ensconced within a financial domination relationship.

"submissive" negotiators

This is something that some of you attempt to do,and truly you should not even have the thought of doing so. Negotiation is an action best suited to business matters,not service. To clear away any confusion,yes you are allowed to have soft and hard limits(this is a granted),but the rest is at the discretion and direction of your dominant. They are leading,you are following,so if you are trying to alter the steps they take,then you are not following. Make sense?

Negotiation reminds me of the word compromise,and compromise is not an action which I engage in. As harsh and unyielding as it may sound to you,I do things my way,and that is not going to change for any special little snowflake. Of course the same method of training,and terms of service do not apply consecutively across the board,for each circumstance,and D's relationship is unique,rather than a cookie cutter cutout,regardless though,once I have taken the lead,this is the path to be followed.

It comes down to this,yes you have free will,and choices,but once a command is given,you are narrowed down to 2 options. You may either comply,and remain in service to me,or you may bow out,and be banished. No negotiations,no second chances.

As of late I have dealt with entirely too many males whom play at the pretense of serving,rather like they are role playing,and I am not. I see no point in leading people on,which is why I am generally blunt in my speech with those applying to serve me,for if there is no order from the get go,then there will only be chaos later,and that will be a downfall of any efforts towards erecting a viable dominant-submissive relationship.

Basically it boils down to acceptance and obedience. You accept that you were created to obey,and refrain from ploys to get your way through negotiation. Examples=1)My previous Domme would have done things this or that way.2)Offering a tithe to your owner which you know is insulting,and far below what you have to give.3)Declaring that you will do "this" if she does "that". 4)I do not really like doing so and so,could you give me this task instead. Any of these actions are unacceptable,and without a doubt insulting,which is the very last thing you should wish to do.

Remember that a D's relationship is based on power exchange,and if you are not relinquishing it,then there is no foundation,nor future in the relationship,so don't quibble,and never try to negotiate.

meat and potatoes please

It requires a male of exceptional quality to come under my consideration. I do not want to own them all or even a quarter of the males I see the likes of day in and day out. The privilege of being owned,and of owning merits more thought than a one night stand,you know the old game of dick is hard,dick is ready,lets just play real quick,nothing steady? I have never been a fb or fwbs type of gal,so why would I lessen my expectations in any area of my life? I wouldn't. Being true to myself is how I keep it real.

I understand that some simply are not mature enough or capable enough to commit to anything beyond a one tribute fling,and hey that is fine so long as all parties are agreeable to it,but baby I want the meat and potatoes,not just an appetizer when it comes to being served. Call me greedy,but what is the point of getting into it,if I am not going to "have it my way"? Yes I adore cash and gifts,but they do not fill my plate full. Being served,feted,adored,revered,and worshiped are the toppings on my D's cake,and believe me when I say that I have a demanding sweet tooth.

When I say that "I want it all" I mean more than the contents of your wallet,or the limits of your credit card. Do not get me wrong,cause I will expect your all in the financial arena,but I will not tolerate any less in other areas either. Service is more than the sum of your bank account,but it is not less than the devoted tribute you lay before my sovereignty. There is not domination without financial,and in the same coin,financial without domination is not half so filling. This is why "I want it all"

It is not enough to mouth the words,to type the correct terminology. You have to mean it,to live it. Anything less is just going through the motions of a fantasy which I did not script. Share with me the words which make your mind and soul stretch,not your dick. Make of your life what you will,but at the end of the day keep it real,cause a sticky dick cannot compare to a the bliss of a long term total power exchange,and that is the meat and potatoes!