FemDom training of submissives

My dearest devoted audience,

I spent my day simply enjoying my life..the outdoors,and purchasing new plants which hopefully my green thumb will nourish and enrich with new life,such as you my gentlemen pets do when you serve me to the best of your ability :)

I devote my time and energy towards seeing that all I touch flourishes. I will never accept failure from myself (of course the fact that I am human does tend to add error to the equation lol)..so just as I will never attain pure perfection,so shan't you either. Do not think me unrealistic when it comes to my expectations for you in service. I realize that you can and will make mistakes. It is a learning process for you. Whilst some of you may possess vast experience serving a Domme..the majority of you do not,and I do account for this when I begin training males to my expectations.

In a scene of smoke and mirrors...eroticized fantasy..and an overflow of sensuality,I know that you will fall down at times...whether you remain on your knees remains to be seen. Sometimes being on your knees is the best possible place to be.

Fortunately for you..I already know that you are bound to err..and have no issue aiding you in the correction of your failings. Punishment is part and parcel of training a submissive. Mind you that I am not referring to "funishment". I am not one to pick a punishment that involves any type of pleasure for you,so please keep any bratty impulse in check which would goad you into being bad for the sake of receiving something fun. My punishments tend to consist of what you truly like least...

Time out is unfortunately necessary at times..especially for repeat offenses. You may be thinking "ok I can handle some corner time"..but that is not how I operate. Time out means that I will sever contact with you til such time as you are able to appreciate what you once had,which was my trust in your ability to please me in both word and deed. 

I have found time out to be an effective tool. No one likes to have something they value highly taken from them.

To be away from my presence is for some the greatest of punishments. To serve me is to be a part of my life,just as I am a part of yours,and when an essential aspect of your life falls away..you quickly become distressed,and do all within your power to set things right,which is what I am sitting back waiting for. The knife cuts both ways,and when I must send away one who has earned a place in my life,it hurts me as well. You would never want to hurt me would you?

Finsubs, victims or willing conquests

Unbeknownst to those ignorant of the intricacies pertaining to financial domination dynamics,there are real dominance/submission relationships forged out of the sight of public consumption. To the untrained eyes,findom appears a shallow game of victimization,wherein mentally and emotionally downtrodden males fall prey to voracious feminine predators intent upon devouring all viable assets. The reality though differs drastically from what is perceived. One must actually look beyond the surface appearance to truly see that real relationships are developed in this fetish.

Financial domination is not a vicious power struggle where one emerges the victor over the defeated,nor the ploy of a hustler running a scam. Most generally it is not even the alpha whom approaches the beta for service,in fact the inbox of an alpha female is typically overflowing with messages and pleas to serve her financially,so she has no need to "scam",for the line has already formed two feet deep with wallets opened.

Similar to any intimate(note I said intimate,not sexual) relationship,there is effort expended,and time spent developing a lasting bond,which is the foundation for any long term association. It is not entirely idyllic,but than what relationship is? Nor is it without the ups and downs which any two beings overcome as a unit,and make no doubt that they are a unit regardless of where the hand of control lays.

What exactly is it though that portrays financial domination relationships in a poor light? The financial aspect of course. Dirty money grubbing lazy sluts too stupid to get a real job(yup those are the typical insults to rear their ugly heads in my inbox) I wonder why that is though,atleast from my perspective,these types of relationships have much in common with what is commonly called marriage,the main differences being that most likely the duo will not dwell in a single residence,nor will progeny be born,but as in the structure of marriage,one partner will control the finances and make all monumental decisions(alpha),whereas the beta partner generally sees to the comfort,care,and happiness of their alpha. Not that different,now are they.

One may argue that it cannot be a "real" relationship since sex is not involved,but I would advise one to look to the latest studies pertaining to how much actual intercourse occurs within a marriage(hint,it is not that much) rather it becomes about companionship,and whilst I do not consider my slaves as friends,they are indeed a part of my life,and I am very much a driving priority within their lives. I give them reason to get up each day,to work productively in society,and to develop the traits most desired in a decent human being ie selflessness,generosity,dedication,loyalty,and devotion to something other than themselves.

As their alpha I am responsible for them,in that I ensure they maintain their physical health,that they conduct themselves with respect to others,that they are corrected when mistakes are made,that they develop self -control. The picture I am portraying is definitely far off from how outsiders view it,but it is a closer fit than what most think,so the next time you say that financial domination is only about ruining poor hapless,and helpless males,try to remember that if the males in question were not happy with their lot in the relationship,then they would not continue with it long term,as so many do,so save your pity and outrage for the true victims in life,rather than males whom come willingly, hell even beg on bended knee to be ensconced within a financial domination relationship.

Dismission of submissives

This day has been a bleak one for all but a single male pet of mine. On what is known to be a day of celebration,I chose to release all but the boy who has been with me the longest. Sounds crazy when you hear of a FinDomme kicking paying pigs to the curb,and it would be if I were not more than just a FinDomme. I have forever told those beneath me,or begging to be beneath me,that it takes more than money to remain mine. Complacency when under my consideration is a vast mistake,for truly I will replace you with a pet that values my time and energy in the ways I require.

An initial tribute to me will gain you my notice for a moment,but even that is not guaranteed if I do not believe that you are worth a second of my time. Yes monumental sums of tithe are glorious,but you must be willing to give of yourself as well as your wallet...oh and before any misinterpret my words thinking that "oh the money does not matter to her,so I will run my broke ass to her inbox",save yourself the time,for I have no interest in those that cannot afford financial power exchange in conjunction with the relinquishment of their ego,pride,and time.

It amazes me how few actually get it,and by it I am referring to what it means to serve,to devote your life to your owner,to recognize them as the guiding force in your life,a willingness to display your submission to them daily by following the rules and rituals set for you. Serving is an esteemed honor,which less than 1% of you deserve,and even then the majority of that single percentage will screw it up.

In short,what I am saying,is that none of you are indispensable,which is what I have just proven to the recently released/deceased to me. A D's relationship is hard work,and slacking off is not going to get it,so keep that in mind when you make a promise to always do your best then fall short or lazy.

"submissive" negotiators

This is something that some of you attempt to do,and truly you should not even have the thought of doing so. Negotiation is an action best suited to business matters,not service. To clear away any confusion,yes you are allowed to have soft and hard limits(this is a granted),but the rest is at the discretion and direction of your dominant. They are leading,you are following,so if you are trying to alter the steps they take,then you are not following. Make sense?

Negotiation reminds me of the word compromise,and compromise is not an action which I engage in. As harsh and unyielding as it may sound to you,I do things my way,and that is not going to change for any special little snowflake. Of course the same method of training,and terms of service do not apply consecutively across the board,for each circumstance,and D's relationship is unique,rather than a cookie cutter cutout,regardless though,once I have taken the lead,this is the path to be followed.

It comes down to this,yes you have free will,and choices,but once a command is given,you are narrowed down to 2 options. You may either comply,and remain in service to me,or you may bow out,and be banished. No negotiations,no second chances.

As of late I have dealt with entirely too many males whom play at the pretense of serving,rather like they are role playing,and I am not. I see no point in leading people on,which is why I am generally blunt in my speech with those applying to serve me,for if there is no order from the get go,then there will only be chaos later,and that will be a downfall of any efforts towards erecting a viable dominant-submissive relationship.

Basically it boils down to acceptance and obedience. You accept that you were created to obey,and refrain from ploys to get your way through negotiation. Examples=1)My previous Domme would have done things this or that way.2)Offering a tithe to your owner which you know is insulting,and far below what you have to give.3)Declaring that you will do "this" if she does "that". 4)I do not really like doing so and so,could you give me this task instead. Any of these actions are unacceptable,and without a doubt insulting,which is the very last thing you should wish to do.

Remember that a D's relationship is based on power exchange,and if you are not relinquishing it,then there is no foundation,nor future in the relationship,so don't quibble,and never try to negotiate.

Do you see what I see

Many times those we encounter in the scene are not exactly as they seem. Not that I am implying them guilty of deception,for human beings are capable of deluding even themselves,and then one must take into account self defense mechanisms set in place. The fetish scene is not known resoundingly for it's acceptance,but then there is judgement and condemnation permeating any group within society,and even though it is pleasant to pretend that fetish folks are beyond this type of behavior,they are not.

So I ask,do you ever truly delve into whom someone you are interacting with may be,and no I do not mean being a stalker to find out their legal name and place of residence. I am referring to probing beneath the shallow surface of what is shown to you. Is the cold hearted cruel beauty of a woman truly just that? Or is she merely a kind and caring being whom hides that aspect away? Of course this can be seen from the polar side ie is the male with the seeming overabundance of confidence honestly that sure of himself,or is he hiding a frightened of the world and it's disdain spirit behind the mask?

It is so much easier to place the focus upon aspects such as fetish interests and role play,out of fear of having another actually know us as human beings,and this I see as an unfortunate mistake. Whilst it is fun and invigorating to get caught up in the excitement of serving or being served,if that is all there is then can this really be called a D's relationship? I fear not.

Some of you sadly may not even know what a vanilla relationship entails,much less a D's one. A relationship of any type leaves one vulnerable. Vulnerable to being hurt,to being disappointed,to being left behind,but then if we do not take chances,we have already lost. There is no time like the present though,so open up your shells,click mute on the voice in your head which is screaming "no,people may not like me" and simply be you.

Dive into deeper waters,and stop swimming in the kiddie pool,lest you realize one day when you are drawing breath,that you held your walls so high,that no other could possibly connect with who you really are. Yes it is scary,but then anything new generally is. The rewards though are much sweeter,for to be respected,to be adored,to be understood and accepted as you are,is unlike any feeling in the world.