Finsubs, victims or willing conquests

Unbeknownst to those ignorant of the intricacies pertaining to financial domination dynamics,there are real dominance/submission relationships forged out of the sight of public consumption. To the untrained eyes,findom appears a shallow game of victimization,wherein mentally and emotionally downtrodden males fall prey to voracious feminine predators intent upon devouring all viable assets. The reality though differs drastically from what is perceived. One must actually look beyond the surface appearance to truly see that real relationships are developed in this fetish.

Financial domination is not a vicious power struggle where one emerges the victor over the defeated,nor the ploy of a hustler running a scam. Most generally it is not even the alpha whom approaches the beta for service,in fact the inbox of an alpha female is typically overflowing with messages and pleas to serve her financially,so she has no need to "scam",for the line has already formed two feet deep with wallets opened.

Similar to any intimate(note I said intimate,not sexual) relationship,there is effort expended,and time spent developing a lasting bond,which is the foundation for any long term association. It is not entirely idyllic,but than what relationship is? Nor is it without the ups and downs which any two beings overcome as a unit,and make no doubt that they are a unit regardless of where the hand of control lays.

What exactly is it though that portrays financial domination relationships in a poor light? The financial aspect of course. Dirty money grubbing lazy sluts too stupid to get a real job(yup those are the typical insults to rear their ugly heads in my inbox) I wonder why that is though,atleast from my perspective,these types of relationships have much in common with what is commonly called marriage,the main differences being that most likely the duo will not dwell in a single residence,nor will progeny be born,but as in the structure of marriage,one partner will control the finances and make all monumental decisions(alpha),whereas the beta partner generally sees to the comfort,care,and happiness of their alpha. Not that different,now are they.

One may argue that it cannot be a "real" relationship since sex is not involved,but I would advise one to look to the latest studies pertaining to how much actual intercourse occurs within a marriage(hint,it is not that much) rather it becomes about companionship,and whilst I do not consider my slaves as friends,they are indeed a part of my life,and I am very much a driving priority within their lives. I give them reason to get up each day,to work productively in society,and to develop the traits most desired in a decent human being ie selflessness,generosity,dedication,loyalty,and devotion to something other than themselves.

As their alpha I am responsible for them,in that I ensure they maintain their physical health,that they conduct themselves with respect to others,that they are corrected when mistakes are made,that they develop self -control. The picture I am portraying is definitely far off from how outsiders view it,but it is a closer fit than what most think,so the next time you say that financial domination is only about ruining poor hapless,and helpless males,try to remember that if the males in question were not happy with their lot in the relationship,then they would not continue with it long term,as so many do,so save your pity and outrage for the true victims in life,rather than males whom come willingly, hell even beg on bended knee to be ensconced within a financial domination relationship.

Findom spoil backs

Spoil backs seem to be a popular catch phrase these days especially on twitter. The first time I seen it used,I scratched my head,and thought what the hell does that mean...okay I am not totally standing in the corner with the pointy cap on,but it simply did not make sense to me. I am well versed in the definition of financial domination,and no where in that did I see anything about spoiling back,did you...seriously cause if you did I want to know.

I actually took the time to research the phrase,and how it was being used. What I read comes across as a tit for tat type of interaction,with most of the spoils back being nude photos or videos. Now correct me if I am wrong,but isn't financial domination based upon dominating a submissive's finances? I am pretty sure that I am right,but it could be that the term financial domination has been redefined,and I missed the memo(note to self,check spam mail).

What I am having difficulty reconciling is how sending nude photos or videos falls under the line of financial domination. Of course I grasp the concept of gifting submissives that have excelled in their service to a dominant,but it appears to me that this is more of a business deal. Customer pays,and seller sends goods. Sound right? I guess some would attempt to group in like that of a tip,but still tips are received when service is provided,and if the sender is providing a service,then it still isn't financial domination,so yes here I sit,still going huh!

I guess that I am just not meant to get how it fits in,oh well. Anyways I should tell you that I abhor the phrase,and the ramifications of it. Now I know that to each their own is the motto right? Be accepting,unbiased,and non-judgemental...yup I sure am so long as it does not rain shit on my parade,then it catches my attention,and my ire.

One would say,why let what others do bother you? Well here is the thing. This phrase has infiltrated the scene,and has brought with it the ugly rearing head of entitlement,which needs lanced like an inflamed boil(nasty visual yes). I will give you an example of how this spreads like crabs in an unlicensed brothel. Exhibit A=new to the scene "submissive" who is just learning the ropes so to speak. He checks out twitter to see that woohoo smexy females are offering something called spoils back...wow he makes a bee line post haste to the DM box of a female offering it,and finds out that for a minute amount (generally under $25) he can get pussy and titty pics,OMG how sweet is that!!! Yup now he has some cheap prime spanking material,but dang a couple of days later he is horny again,and wants to try a little something different,so he contacts a woman with the title of Domme asking how much she charges for spoils back,and guess what,she is not liking it,not at all.

 Do you see where I am going with this line of reasoning? So,if an estimated 100 new submissives enter the scene daily,and if even a quarter of them jump right on the spoils back bandwagon,that means most likely that 25 Dommes a day are going to be dealing with this shit in their inbox(probably the number is higher,cause we all know how new submissives hit up several inboxes a day til they get what they came looking for),and what are the odds that some of them are going to make an appearance before me hmmmmm...so yes I detest this phrase,and all that it stands for,simply because it will affect me,and I am a domination Domme(I dominate submissives),not a spoils back entitlement providing provider(a pay for wank spank with a sprinkle of sugaring),so please do keep your spoiling back shit outta my inbox,Thanks!