Pot calling kettle

Ever heard that saying about the pot calling the kettle black? I heard it all the time growing up,and think it to myself everyday,how so many do exactly this. If you are like me,then you have been told on multiple occasions that FinDommes are just lazy bitches who need to get a job,and stop leeching off people. The irony of it being that this vile brew spills from the lips of those contacting me in the hopes of a freebie. The same ones whom flip out on me because they were too lazy to read my profile which states that financial tribute is required. The funniest part being that these males are also within a group of individuals that cannot even support themselves,much less feed my fetish...little sots working minimum wage jobs,dwelling in Mommy and Daddy's basement. They shroud themselves in a bubble of superiority that they do not have to scam people out of money,yet fail to recognize that by living off their parents,they are in essence a leech themselves.

I laugh to myself each time that I find comments such as I named souring in my inbox. Why...well it could be due to the fact that I entered nursing school at 18,and after having graduated and passing my boards,that I have been working,and clearing a high wage every since. I left home as soon as I got my first job(no sucking the hind tit for me)...and now my home and vehicle are paid off,so my money is for whatever I desire...hell I could be a sugar momma if I wanted to lol. I worked hard to get where I am,and yes I am arrogant,but believe me when I say that I have earned the right to be so.

Now do you see why I find the irony of the verbal abuse humorous? Ye who of no money,a pathetic job(if one could call it that),and little to no future and a barren existence,tossing out insults which in reality reflect your life,not mine. That is ironically funny :)

I do not even take the time to be offended by the insults,for life must truly be sad when you are broke and begging Mommy for movie money...perhaps it would be best if males like these took stock of their situation,and realize that a great many of the Ladies in the findom lifestyle are indeed well off financially,and in no need of their milk money. Of course there are some that are in dire straights,and actually do NEED the cash,but hopefully they are not the majority,else it is not them ruling,but them being ruled. There can be no pride if you are being ruled by a snot nosed brat,and if the money is necessary for your livelihood,then yes they have you by the balls figuratively speaking,and that is a bad situation to be in.

I encourage each and every Lady to get an education,better yourself intellectually and financially,so that you will not be forced into depending on males to pay your bills,cause the truth of the matter is,you cannot pin your hopes on males that bounce like a ball when they see a shiny new toy,so you gotta do what you have to do to take care of you!

Research is the key of the day. Listen and Learn

Tips and advice cont

Another lovely day all to myself! I do some of my best blogs when I am free from constant distractions lol. My poor brain does quite well multitasking,but when it comes to posting my thoughts and such,I would prefer that I not be juggling 3 or 4 other activities at the same time. Forward march onto my words of experienced lifestyle femdom and findom wisdom for the males whom occupy or desire a place within our world.

Ok yesterday I went over some basics,so I shall pick up from there. I do hope that you followed my advice about educating yourself a bit. If so then you should know the difference between the designations of slave,submissive,switch,fetishist,bottom. To some these terms are interchangeable,not for me,but perhaps they are in your mind. In my estimation a slave is one whom desires to become personal property. They have relinquished their rights to an owner. They obey,are task oriented,and live their life in a fully owner controlled manner. A submissive on the other hand is on a journey of exploration. They desire to please and serve,but they are not able or willing to dedicate their entire existence to doing so. Being a switch is a bit trickier. Some submit only in certain situations or to a specific sex. They may be submissive in their everyday life,yet in the bedroom they command,or vice versa. A fetishist is not a person that serves. They are generally geared toward feeding their personal fetish. These are the types that you see more as clients than servants. Bottoms to me equate with receptive play partners. They are not necessarily submissive,in fact they may be a switch,a masochist,or low and behold a dominant whom enjoys bottoming in certain defined activities. It is very important to know where you fall on this scale in order to begin your search. If you know not yourself,then how are you to find anyone compatible?

Once you have figured out what you are(there is even an online quiz which will aid you,google will bring it up for you). Now it is time to decide which activities you would most like to engage in. I have no doubt that there are plenty of fantasies playing out in your mind. Ones which stimulate your desires. Do you dream of being held tied down at the mercy of a dominant freed from the constant constraints of life? Does the thought of being stripped of ego and clothing just do it for you? Do you envision a more feminine you? Do you pray to reverse roles,and become a naughty little cock slut? There are too many kinks for me to name in a simple post,but I am sure that you understand the point I am trying to make. Now a key bit to keep in mind is that some fantasies are meant to remain that way elsewise you fall out of the entire realm of safe,sane and consensual. Whilst you may masturbate to the daydream of having a dominant castrate you,that is so not going to happen even in an unconventional relationship. It takes time and experimentation to figure out what you like. I mean I used to believe that I would enjoy bottoming in a bondage scene,but once tried,I found out that it was not for me. In fact an activity I at first found extremely distasteful soon became one of my favorites. Try being open minded to activities with the exception of those that are illegal.

That is all for the day boys,Goddess is going poolside :) TBC....