Unselfish Service

For the males that take the time to read the posts made by myself and several fellow ladies,I have no doubt that you have seen mention of the term "selfless service",but for those that do not..you are missing the point behind service,so I thought it best to educate submissives as to what the words actually mean,and how they are so very difficult,almost near impossible to find when describing the majority of males in the scene this day.

Let's first take a look at the words separately,selfless per webster's definition "Having, exhibiting, or motivated by no concern for oneself; unselfish.". Now onto the definition of service which pertains best to D's "The performance of work or duties for a superior or as a servant." When we combine the words it equates to unselfish duties for a superior. I think somewhere along the way the seed of selfishness has taken root into the minds of males entering the bdsm scene,and this is what I hope to eradicate.

Selfless service is not enacted when a servant seeks only a means to their personal ends,how could it? To become selfless one must expunge the sentiments "I want" from their vocabulary when serving. It must become engrained within the psyche that the wants of the servant are not a primary motivator. I am not saying that a submissive should not enjoy serving,or that they should not take pride in the honor of it,but it should not be why they do it. The happiness and contentment of doing for your superiors should be based on their pleasure,rather than your own. The mindset should be "I serve because it pleases her,and that is what pleases me" Does this make sense? It does not sound fair does it? Well to be clearly upfront,it is not fair nor does it promote equality,and it never will. Being in service does not place you in the same bracket as your dominant:meaning that it is your dominant's will,drives,and desires which are in the forefront,and if it just so happens that your wants are fulfilled by them matching hers,then you are indeed fortunate,and have chosen well.

In conclusion,or if ever in doubt,just remember that the word "you" is not a part of the word selfless.