Is there meaning

One of the things I am forced to ask myself with some regularity,is if there is meaning in the search. I have no doubt that some of you have posed the same question. You log onto sites day in day out,dealing with all manners of idiocy(outright lies,vaguely disguised exaggerations,stringent demands,disrespectful dialogue etc..),and it seriously makes one wonder if the time invested is worth the headaches produced.

I have never been one to sugarcoat what must be said,nor do I skirt along the edges of mundane truth. One thing I have learned since joining the online fetish scene is that the disappointments will outweigh the highs. For every 1 male that knows what it is to be selflessly submissive to a female,there are approximately 100 that do not,nor care. The odds are not good,and if findom were a game that a booky took bets on,then I would deter from laying a wager on an enriching outcome. This is not me being a downer,this is a voice of realistic reasoning speaking out against the fantasies which are preferable to reality. Yes it is possible to connect with decent,worthwhile submissives,and of course they are the rays of sunshine within the dreary drought we all trek through,but they are not the norm of what you will deal with is what I am saying,so if you come into this with the expectation that you are going to be besieged by infinite numbers of paying males,then you will be sorely let down.

Findom is one of the most if not the most difficult fetishes to find completion in. In the bdsm scene outside of findom,the number of subs vs Dommes rises exponentially thereby ensuring greater odds of success in locating a servant,but here within this niche the numbers are reversed,and this leads to less than pleasing results if you are a Domme. What you will not find is males begging to serve you,least not financially,and unfortunately it attracts some of the worst sort of types.

It makes no sense why anyone would join,chase,or engage in interactions with someone that does not meet the criteria you seek,yet this is exactly what I see. Lack of education is acceptable,because brains can be taught,but the disrespect is a bit more difficult to swallow,rather like a bitter pill with no water to wash it down.

One point I wanted to look at is why this is happening. Could it possibly be that males are drawn to this fetish due to so many females engaging in it more than ever? Another reason may be that males with no understanding of findom come knocking in the hopes that they can cajole or shame Ladies into forgoing the financial aspect,thereby making a more concerted effort into the single domination realm. One other thing I see is males with no prospects of paying,insinuating themselves or attempting to,as a friend. I am going to assume that they reckon they can siphon off some on the side domination this way. Regardless of why it occurs,it is disagreeable. Answer me this,Ladies did you come here to make male friends,or conquests? Did you put in your time here to secure male allies,or to garner long term servants? I am not saying that you cannot be friendly with whomever you choose,but look at it this way,if you are spending your time upon those that do not financially adore and spoil you,then what dividends are you getting in return for your investment?

What can be done about this trend? To begin with,the change must come from the Dommes. Nothing will ever alter without the strong leading the weak. Clean your house daily,and by that I mean,never allow the rubbish in to begin with. If a male without doubt has no interest in being financially dominated,why give him a single breath from your body,unless you are not here to financially dominate,then by all means let me ask you this,why are you in the findom scene? This can be a cruelly cold niche to an outsider that is true,but I have found it a welcome haven for those that sincerely dedicate themselves to it.

Being a FinDomme is not a title sans responsibility though. In the beginning one may think "oh I don't have to worry about making the scene a better place for all",but that is erroneous. Leading means taking the lead role. It is a type of duty where you point the inexperienced in the correct direction,and the pretenders into the shitter. It is a lifestyle,not a game. I am not saying that it is not meant to be fun,but all fun and games it is not. Just as in life,sometimes,and some predicaments need to be taken seriously,otherwise is there truly meaning in the search?