Sometimes gents just cannot see that they are taking a left turn away from my possible attention,when a few simple word changes would suffice to sway my decision whether to reject,eject,or accept the option of follow up interactions.
One of the most typical ways males initiate conversation with me online is like this "I want to serve you"...seems straightforward enough yes? Is it enough though,NO. Why is it that I am less than enthusiastic about responding to this first move? It lacks personal depth that is why.
I want to know why it is that you want to serve me.What is it about me personally over all of the hundred other Ladies online that has drawn you to me. What is it in me that makes your soul scream out from it's depths YES YES YES this is the ONE!!! Is it because our fetishes match,or because you lust over my photos(fyi-both responses are wrong).
A greater percentage of the time,I will actually take a moment just to ask why? Why me? If it is because our fetishes match,that is not enough(I am more than the sum of my fetishes)...and Lord help you if you say that it is because of my photos(I am more than one dimensional) and appearances in the end cease to be of importance if you cannot stand anything else about the person you have promised to dedicate your service to.
Now how to make a u-turn in the right direction. Instead of saying right off the bat "I want to serve you"..say something like "I find you of interest,and would like to take the time to get to know more about you". This will get my attention far faster than any tired copy and paste line ever tried on any Domme.
To go one step further,ask yourself why I would want you to serve me,and relay that information to me. What is it about you that will enrich my life? Are you obedient,are you attentive,are you a gentleman? What makes you different than any other male that has contacted me in the past,present or future?
I have given you the correct directions gents,now it is up to you whether to take a left or a right.
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Sunday, August 9, 2015
Wednesday, April 22, 2015
No words needed
Not all of you are aware,but I actually have an account on more than one social media forum,especially those geared to fetishes. Now this means that I view multiple profiles daily,and have formed an opinion of who I desire to interact with,and who I do not,just by assessing words,and photos on a profile. This is not an esoteric practice,for we all do it. Can you honestly say that you do not? If not,then you are a fool of the grand order.
In fact most of those that contact me are dead in the water before they type a single word of greeting. It may seem counterproductive,but actually it is me being kind. You may ask how it can be considered a kindness to arbitrarily dismiss an individual before giving them a chance? Well, I consider wasting anyone's time to be cruel and unmannerly,so truly I am being nice enough to save us both time(valuable commodity).
What are the signs that you are unsuitable to be considered by me?
1)Your profile photo is a depiction of femdom porn(pegging or kitty licking)
2)Your profile photo is of a toilet(or scat play)
3)Your profile photo displays your penis
4)Your profile photo displays your ass
5)Your profile photo is of you dressed as a maid or sissy
6)Your profile words read like femdom porn(I want to be pegged or eat kitty)
7)Your profile words have a recurrent self-centered theme(I want,I want,I want)
8)Your profile words indicate that you are seeking sexual relations(blow jobs,foot jobs,JOI),or have marital designs
9)Your profile words indicate that you seek 24/7 live in,maid or toilet
10)You profile words relay that you NEED to be forced into service
11)Your profile words include,kidnap or blackmail
12)Your profile words indicate that you possess misogynistic tendencies(insults heaped upon women)
13)Your profile reads like an ad placed by a desperate puppy(pick me,take me,please,please,please)
14)Your profile shares team viewer log in details and passwords
15)Your profile indicates that you dislike those that employ financial domination as a form of power exchange.
Quite a list yes? I agree,but it does allow me to narrow down to the number of interactions I engage in daily,thereby not enslaving me to my keyboard,nor making you the target of my acidic wit(now that is pure kindness).
In fact most of those that contact me are dead in the water before they type a single word of greeting. It may seem counterproductive,but actually it is me being kind. You may ask how it can be considered a kindness to arbitrarily dismiss an individual before giving them a chance? Well, I consider wasting anyone's time to be cruel and unmannerly,so truly I am being nice enough to save us both time(valuable commodity).
What are the signs that you are unsuitable to be considered by me?
1)Your profile photo is a depiction of femdom porn(pegging or kitty licking)
2)Your profile photo is of a toilet(or scat play)
3)Your profile photo displays your penis
4)Your profile photo displays your ass
5)Your profile photo is of you dressed as a maid or sissy
6)Your profile words read like femdom porn(I want to be pegged or eat kitty)
7)Your profile words have a recurrent self-centered theme(I want,I want,I want)
8)Your profile words indicate that you are seeking sexual relations(blow jobs,foot jobs,JOI),or have marital designs
9)Your profile words indicate that you seek 24/7 live in,maid or toilet
10)You profile words relay that you NEED to be forced into service
11)Your profile words include,kidnap or blackmail
12)Your profile words indicate that you possess misogynistic tendencies(insults heaped upon women)
13)Your profile reads like an ad placed by a desperate puppy(pick me,take me,please,please,please)
14)Your profile shares team viewer log in details and passwords
15)Your profile indicates that you dislike those that employ financial domination as a form of power exchange.
Quite a list yes? I agree,but it does allow me to narrow down to the number of interactions I engage in daily,thereby not enslaving me to my keyboard,nor making you the target of my acidic wit(now that is pure kindness).
Saturday, March 28, 2015
Pitfall plunge
A chief complaint I hear on sites which are not essentially findom geared is how their messages tend to end up discarded,and that is even if they are read. Now this tends to be not the case on findom sites,but the information I am going to relay applies regardless of site.
To begin with lets address why these missives are disregarded.
1)How are you addressing the message? This can be quite important believe it or not. If you are starting it out with a canned title ie Miss,Maam,Mistress,then you are committing a faux pas that will not earn you a second glance. You may believe that you are showing deference,but by not reading the Lady's profile which should provide some indication of how she desires to be addressed,then you may in fact be insulting her. I know myself that I cannot stand being called Miss,Maam,or even Mistress,and believe me boys,I am not alone in that. Another reason why this is not in your best interests is that it is indicative of a chain post,meaning that one types up a single message,and spams it to 50 different females employing an umbrella term(see above titles) which they believe to apply to the mass rather than the individual. This type of message is not viewed in a positive light,and generally ends with the sender being blocked. Solution=do not do it. Take the time to read a female's profile,personalize your message by including her username,and what it was about her that led you to reach out ie her interests,fetishes. Do not,and I repeat do not convey that you contacted her based on her appearance,for that is shallow and selfish.
2)The body of your missive should not be comprised of vulgarity(wank spank language or bar behavior),text speak(lazy,immature),or sentences which begin with "I want,I like,I need" as this coveys to the reader that you are in the scene for you,that you come only to cum,to get yours,that you are concerned with only yourself(selfish sots are not submissive). The impression you want to impart is one of servile respect for her as a dominant woman,and human being.
3)Do not add photo attachments to your message. If the Lady in question desires to know what you look like,she will ask,so tamp down that impulse. It is presumptive,and rude.
4)End your missive with appreciation that she has taken the time to read it,and invite her to view your profile if she finds you of interest.
5)Do not contact her again until she has responded. Desperation,neediness,and aggression are the only things you are relaying with repetitive and redundant missives. Remember that you are here to serve her,on her time and schedule,and that she may be busy with others,so be a good boy and wait your turn.
6)Another huge and I do mean huge mistake you could be making is in the photo section of your profile. If and when a female does take a gander at your profile,she is going to be immediately soured on you if she is flashed with images of your penis,testicles,or asshole. I realize that some of you are not comfortable with your face being attached to your profile on a fetish site,but there are other options. Put up a photo of your pet if you have to,but do not comprise your photo album of dick picks,or vulgarity,and if you do not know what that word means,then google it.
7)Make sure to actually fill out your profile. Yes I realize that it is not a fun undertaking for many of you,but it is in your best interests to do it. List your limits,what you seek,and how you can be of value in a D's relationship,essentially what you bring to the table. It is wise to note your level of experience too,as well as interests outside of kink,yup we want to know you as a person.
8)I mentioned it up above,but it definitely needs prime attention! Read her profile before you contact her,and yes that means the entire thing,including her interests. This will save you wasted effort,in that if you are an adult baby,sissy,scat lover etc...and she happens to list these activities as hard limits for her,then you should not contact her...move along.
9)Last but not least. If your message looks like this "I wish you were closer","You are hot,beautiful,sexy" "hi,hello" then hit the backspace tab,and do NOT send it.
Now the next time you locate a female whom you believe that you would suit serving,think back on what I have said before you let your fingers run away with you and ruin any chance you may have had.
To begin with lets address why these missives are disregarded.
1)How are you addressing the message? This can be quite important believe it or not. If you are starting it out with a canned title ie Miss,Maam,Mistress,then you are committing a faux pas that will not earn you a second glance. You may believe that you are showing deference,but by not reading the Lady's profile which should provide some indication of how she desires to be addressed,then you may in fact be insulting her. I know myself that I cannot stand being called Miss,Maam,or even Mistress,and believe me boys,I am not alone in that. Another reason why this is not in your best interests is that it is indicative of a chain post,meaning that one types up a single message,and spams it to 50 different females employing an umbrella term(see above titles) which they believe to apply to the mass rather than the individual. This type of message is not viewed in a positive light,and generally ends with the sender being blocked. Solution=do not do it. Take the time to read a female's profile,personalize your message by including her username,and what it was about her that led you to reach out ie her interests,fetishes. Do not,and I repeat do not convey that you contacted her based on her appearance,for that is shallow and selfish.
2)The body of your missive should not be comprised of vulgarity(wank spank language or bar behavior),text speak(lazy,immature),or sentences which begin with "I want,I like,I need" as this coveys to the reader that you are in the scene for you,that you come only to cum,to get yours,that you are concerned with only yourself(selfish sots are not submissive). The impression you want to impart is one of servile respect for her as a dominant woman,and human being.
3)Do not add photo attachments to your message. If the Lady in question desires to know what you look like,she will ask,so tamp down that impulse. It is presumptive,and rude.
4)End your missive with appreciation that she has taken the time to read it,and invite her to view your profile if she finds you of interest.
5)Do not contact her again until she has responded. Desperation,neediness,and aggression are the only things you are relaying with repetitive and redundant missives. Remember that you are here to serve her,on her time and schedule,and that she may be busy with others,so be a good boy and wait your turn.
6)Another huge and I do mean huge mistake you could be making is in the photo section of your profile. If and when a female does take a gander at your profile,she is going to be immediately soured on you if she is flashed with images of your penis,testicles,or asshole. I realize that some of you are not comfortable with your face being attached to your profile on a fetish site,but there are other options. Put up a photo of your pet if you have to,but do not comprise your photo album of dick picks,or vulgarity,and if you do not know what that word means,then google it.
7)Make sure to actually fill out your profile. Yes I realize that it is not a fun undertaking for many of you,but it is in your best interests to do it. List your limits,what you seek,and how you can be of value in a D's relationship,essentially what you bring to the table. It is wise to note your level of experience too,as well as interests outside of kink,yup we want to know you as a person.
8)I mentioned it up above,but it definitely needs prime attention! Read her profile before you contact her,and yes that means the entire thing,including her interests. This will save you wasted effort,in that if you are an adult baby,sissy,scat lover etc...and she happens to list these activities as hard limits for her,then you should not contact her...move along.
9)Last but not least. If your message looks like this "I wish you were closer","You are hot,beautiful,sexy" "hi,hello" then hit the backspace tab,and do NOT send it.
Now the next time you locate a female whom you believe that you would suit serving,think back on what I have said before you let your fingers run away with you and ruin any chance you may have had.
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