Jerking is for jokers

The title is misleading,as I am in no way referring to jerking in the masturbatory sense,but rather discussing the behavior of being a jerk.

In the online realm as well as real time,relationships do not always go smooth,or even last. Some are even fated to fail from the get go,but that does not mean that they need to end with sour thoughts and hard feelings.

One of the defining qualities of being an adult is maturity. Now I know that everyone has heard that word at one point and time,but,and that is a big but,not everyone is capable of handling situations with maturity,especially ones that have the potential for uncomfortable emotional outbursts.

How you deal with such situations is up to you,but always be prepared for the repercussions if you do so with a juvenile approach. There are right ways,and wrong ways to break off a relationship,even a bdsm one.

The most common action for dissolution I have seen is the magical act of disappearing. In this scenario,the servant simply fades from existence(just like a deserter from the armed services). They may cease logging into the site where they met the other person,or even going so far as to block the one they served or close out their account,and make up a new one entirely. Now these are the juvenile actions I referred to. It is akin to closing the closet door,and pretending that the monster(problem) is no longer there,but where this will bite you in the ass,is that eventually you will run out of closet space,and all of your junk will be visible to the world(community)...then what shall you do? Believe it or not,dominants do speak with one another,even warn each other about the undesirable proclivities of certain males. You may even find yourself credited with a poor reputation,which will deter you from being taken seriously,or even considered for service at all,and that equates to game over for you.

I realize that it is a difficult feat relaying to a dominant that you no longer desire to serve them,but this is what separates the men from the boys. Men do not run from possible verbal confrontation. I mean seriously,what can someone actually do to you from the other side of a monitor,virtually nothing other than pointing out you are acting like a douche,and let's be honest,it most likely is not the first time you have been described as such,so man up.

There have been plenty of males that just did not work out when it came to serving me,for one reason or another,but the ones that hold my respect are those that came to me directly and stated in a polite and deferential manner why they felt that it was not working,and asked for release. By being honest,I had absolutely no reason to be angry,or whip them with a tirade of backlash. This type of behavior,also leaves the door open for a return to my feet if they are able to work through their issues.

The ones that behaved like asshats though by running without saying a word,are the ones I block permanently. As the saying goes "never burn your bridges",because then it is too late for reconciliation of your transgressions,and yes there have been quite a few who regretted jumping ship,but there was no way back for them,and no amount of tribute could alter my decision.

I am not saying that all dominants will accept an application to sever ties in such a manner(there are always exceptions),but you will never find out,especially if your modus operandi is tucking tail and burrowing out a hidey hole til the storm blows over,so in conclusion I will end this post with a spongebob quote "don't be a jerk".