Commercialized fetish

Welcome to all who have found themselves here :)

Take a seat on my couch, relax, and prepare yourself for some hard cold truths today.

Day in, day out tends to blur into a revolving screen of repetitiveness when it comes to the fetish scene. The majority of what I see are complaints. Disgruntlements lodged by females and males alike. Of course they differ in the wording somewhat, but they all boil down to the same basis.

Before I get into the nitty gritty, allow me to share this disclaimer
*Not all women, and not all men*

Now that we have gotten that piece of business out of the way, let's delve into the pot shall we?

The findom, and a greater aspect of the femdom you see playing out online is commercialized. Meaning that it is a business. An occupation. A source of livelihood. It is about the financial return upon products advertised. In these cases, the product is a fantasy. Men are the customers, and women are the sellers of fantasies, whether that be via clips, or sessions. This is why broke and fetish do not mix. No money means no product purchased, and that negates the need for existence in the scene. 

This is reality, and regardless if you like it or not, it is just the way it is. You cannot change that which is inexorable. Accept, adapt, or give up. Those are your only options. 

The overwhelming majority of people do NOT work for free. Do you? Bills must be paid and food must be bought. Compensation for time spent and effort expended is not an option, it is a requirement, and anyone attempting to procure a service sans the intention of rendering payment is a scammer. Are you a scammer?


For those whom cannot afford to pay, you honestly have no place here. I realize that you do not want to hear the truth of it, but it has to be said. Fetish is a luxury, and luxury has never been cost efficient.

It is comparative to vanilla dating in a financial sense. No money equals no date. Women are not seeking out men who bring nothing to the relationship other than their cock. The desire to be spoiled with gifts is in the very nature of women, so if you are not gifting(paying), you are not getting anywhere with women. This is why you are single, and this is why you will remain that way til you are able to do so.

The worst thing you can do in this situation is to get angry with women over it. It is not a woman's fault that she prefers men who are financially able and willing to enrich her life. The fault lies with you. Work harder, do better, earn more. Go back to school, snag overtime, seek out a second job if you have to, but do something, cause sitting back being pissed off at women will get you no where.  Do you want to end up a lonely miserable misogynistic bitter incel?

Okay my Ladies, your turn.
Men in the scene do not give a flying fig about you, your circumstances, or your future. It doesn't matter to them if you are having a difficult time, or in desperate straights. They are here for the fantasy, and that is all. You exist to sate their desires, and when they walk away from the computer, you cease to exist in their minds. Sounds cold and sterile eh? It is the way of it though.

Do you think customers shopping in a brick and mortar store sit around thinking about how that business is doing financially, or even care if that business will be there the next time they want to shop, other than it being a minor inconvenience if they have to seek out a new store to shop at? This is the reality you face in the fetish scene. Men do not tend to be brand loyal. Their attention ebbs and flows when the market is saturated with an endless supply of shiny objects. Yes, you are more than that, but to men, you are not. They are just as happy to slip into someone else's inbox as they were yours. In fact, they thrill to the adventure of trying someone new, so please please please, do not place your hopes, dreams, and financial future in their single basket. Diversify :)

I am not going to get into the whys or hows the scene came to be this way, for it matters not since it would be damn near impossible to alter the course set at this point, and it would be cruel of me to mislead any of you as to the reality of how the fetish scene works right now. You can opt in, or opt out, but complaining about it serves no purpose. Accept, adapt, or give up.

The worst thing you can do at this point is complain about timewasters, advertise your inability to make rent, beg for money, or bitch about other women. You are selling a fantasy, not a sob story.

I hate to end posts on a negative note, so allow me to spread some positivity here. If you are a man, and you are willing to spend, you are golden, and if you are a woman who has a fantasy to sell, you are diamond!!

Tearing the veil

Good evening to all who enter my domain freely

Those who have come before will already know that my presence can be counted on to catch a glimpse of my intellect daily on social media. I am quite fond of twitter at this point in time, which means that the odds of encountering me there are a given. 

I am generally amiable towards those who interact with me respectfully, and sans the intent of using me for their own ill objective. As well you should take note that I do not make a habit of following male accounts. In fact, I find very few who spark my interest at all. Now the kicker for most of you, is that I do not have my DM's turned on for any individuals whom I do not follow. This in essence means that you are blocked from contacting me on a more personal level. There are reasons why I keep my inbox 

Allowing free reign invasion is tantamount to issuing an invitation to time wasters. I prefer to avoid the dregs of findom. You know exactly who I am referencing now don't you? Those broke, stingy, hands on dick dudes whom will never contribute a single cent towards my happiness or comfort. They are truly the enemy, and an enemy will always be denied access to my time and energy. 

Does that sound fair? Perhaps not, but my DM's = playing by my rules. This is not to say that I never grant access, but only that you will have to prove yourself above and beyond the ordinary dan. I refuse to settle for miscreants when there are decent malepets aplenty.

Your next question should very well be "Then how do I contact you to prove my worthiness?"

I have always made that mode of communication simple. You have the options of 
a)tweeting me publicly, and awaiting my notice
b)sending an email to mzsydney34@yahoo.com along with an amazon gift card for my consideration 

Of the two methods, your best chance of success is the second. I am more likely to look kindly upon those whom show me from the onset that they appreciate my time vs those who seek only their own self driven gratification. I tell you quite true when I say that tribute is the factor which allows me to discern who shall be rewarded with my presence. My time is most precious to me, and is gifted to the ones who have earned it.

To some of you who suffer from an inflated ego, you approach me as if you are entitled to my attention, and that your time is your gift to me, but that will never be the case in my estimation. Your time is meaningless to me. It brings me no pleasure, and I do not feel an iota of discomfort at the loss of it. Your duty is to attend me, not the other way around. I am the privileged one, not you, and it is you that shall dance at my direction if you desire to become a part of my existence. Take heed and do not allow yourself to forget it. There may be hundreds of females in the findom sphere, but there is only one ME, and there are thousands just like you. I am the extraordinary, whilst you are run of the mill ordinary. Respect, appreciate, and value my presence if you care to have us get along swimmingly :) 

You will remember all that I have conveyed won't you? If it did not penetrate the very first time, read my words over and over til they soak into your psyche! See you soon pet.

Judgement by default is your fault

Have you ever wondered why people online treat you like a piece of offal,even when that is not your fetish, boys? Human beings are flawed in nature,and have a tendency to judge others,by their words,actions,hell even by their car,home,or clothing..but online the last few really aren't tangible factors,for who other than you truly knows which possessions are yours or made up? Yes shockingly it is true that people lie online,especially in the findom realm. They fabricate luxurious lifestyles like those of the rich and famous,all the while hiding out in their infested shanty. They claim bill gate's bank balance even though they lack 2 nickels to rub together,hard to believe isn't it!!

The sad part is that honestly no one is fooled,and if they are,then I have a bozo button for them. I understand why it is perpetrated though. Males in society are judged by their possessions or lack thereof,therefore when they encounter a situation where they believe that they can fudge and get away with it,the temptation rules their better senses. Doesn't that one song speak of how you can be anything or anyone online,after all who will know right lol.

Well the truth is that it is quite telling who is being dishonest. First,people that possess an abundance of money,do not announce it(it is considered low class to do so),so red flags should appear anytime a male claims to be rich,or promise a windfall of tribute. Second,when a male refuses to share a facial photo(even after a few interactions) is a huge clue that he is hiding something vital,and considering that most Ladies I know aren't seeking to make a romantic connection with their servants(with only the delusional thinking elsewise)so what could they be hiding other than a Quasimodo appearance? I am always skeptical myself when I have no visual of who is serving me,thoughts bounce through my head like(are they underage,are they a serial killer,a stalker,my next door neighbor lol)

Some even lie about their gender,as in attempting to impersonate a female character,all the while holding their ding dong in their hand..this one is perhaps the most pathetic,for women are divine creatures to be held in the highest regard,unlike those who swing freely in their pants. Yes I just said that. I do see you as inferior to women,I have never made a secret of that,and no it is not a game I play at online. Those that play this game tend to ask Dommes to be their mentor(teach them what they do)or ask them to share stories about how they dominate submissives(yup they get off on living vicariously through another's experience).

They lie about what they will do ie:I will send a tribute lol(a tribute isn't real til the gift card is in your account,or the gift is in your hands),or I want to serve you,yet all that encompasses their mind is what they can get from a woman to sate their raging hard on(oh me so horny thinking,all they want to talk about is what turns them on),they even lie about their very name...oh yes the fetish world is overpopulated with john doe's,and john smith's.

There is a gigantic list of deceit executed by masses daily online(both sexes,sorry)but those who live in reality see the truth beneath the facade,which just may be why you receive what you deem unfair treatment,but in my eyes liars deserve nothing but scorn and ridicule,sorry not sorry. Moral of this post,DO NOT LIE!! To receive decent treatment,then you must first be decent.

To any that feel my comments are oh so negative in nature,they truly aren't since they are based in reality,no need to sugar coat a turd(it stinks even when you sprinkle pixie sticks on it),and the promotion of integrity in my opinion is a positive notion :)

Real Domme,the relative term

How many times have you used or seen used the term "Real Domme"? Once,twice,a hundred times(my hand is blowing in the wind). Real real real,true,true,true..used interchangeably,yet not really the sane.

What do people mean when they use the term though? Do they mean real as in alive and breathing? Do they mean real as in genetically born female? Do they mean a Domme that has 20 years experience under her belt? Do they mean a Domme who works in a dungeon,and handles a whip better than a roman soldier? It is a study in confusion at times to know exactly what someone means by "real".

Real is a term that is defined by each individual,but...most often when I see it on the fetish sites listed on a male's profile(and yes I have even asked the poster what their definition is)it is most generally a reference to a Domme that does not expect tribute. It is reasoned that to be a real or true Domme,then the "gift" of a male's submission should suffice as a tribute. My query to the poster at that time is "why does a Domme expecting to be appreciated,worshiped and adored financially make her any less real"? The responses do vary,but the overwhelming and most common being that Dommes who expect tribute are whores. This explanation never fails to astound me,because when I seek out the dictionary for the definition of the word whore,I fail to see any reference that does not include sexual relations,and I am not personally acquainted with any Domme who requires tribute,that will engage in intercourse for payment with those that serve them,so that insult does not fit properly...yet such ignorance and close mindedness continues to forge on regardless.

What else constitutes a real Domme in the minds of males? Cam verification of course. Dommes are expected to flip on their cams and prove that they are female,now unless I am mistaken,you are not going to get proof of that without dna or a cooch flash. Now which one of these options are most likely to occur? The biggest kicker in the entire equation is that the real Domme should do so willingly,and without expectations,rather selfish don't you think? Rather hits me like topping.

I have as well heard real used to mean a Domme that wants a 24/7 live in slave. This is one of the least likeliest scenarios to come true. I wish that males would take a serious look at what 24/7 entails. It can be like trying to swim with a concrete boot applied for a Domme. A male weighing you down with his wants,his needs,and his expenses 24/7...does not sound too appealing to me. To hear some speak,well it would not cost the Domme a thin dime to keep them,cause they can live in a cage outside,or a basement..hmm anyone that has ever had a pet knows that it is not free. Pets even basement gimps must be fed,watered(and no piss and shit are not enough to ensure health),and lands forbid that the gimp becomes ill! No matter what contract is signed,the Domme is still legally responsible. Does anyone in their right mind really think that if the authorities find out that someone has a human being living in their basement in a cage,that they will not be incarcerated,cause believe me they will. Society is not accepting of this type of behavior and circumstances already.

The last and final definition for real that I am going to touch on today,is a Domme is not real if she is not seeking a sub/slave husband,or bf scenario. Plenty of lifesyle Dommes do date and marry their servants,hell even some Pro's do as well,but this is not the rule for all Dommes. Many that I see already have a significant other in their lives,so unless they are going the polygamy route,I do not see how this is possible,not to mention that not all Dommes are attracted to submissive males,so....I guess these Dommes will fall into the pit of unrealness.

To top off this little piece of my thoughts,and observations,I am going to relay my thought on what is "real". To me real means taking responsibility for the health and well being of a sub/slave who serves you. A Domme who is safe and sane,who maintains control of herself,and how she treats those that serve her(yes even sadists can respect RACK).

Nothing worth having is free

I do not offer free slave training,that simply is not for me. This does not detract from the fact that I highly enjoy bringing a male to heel,but it comes at the exponential cost of my time and energy doing so. This is exactly why I bear zero tolerance for those seeking the easy way out(a free ride). Nothing in this life is free,and I do mean nothing,and nothing worth having would be free.

There is of course the argument that love is free,but is it really. Have you ever tried dating without spending a single cent, spent hours,days or weeks wooing a prospective partner,or even your personal energy devoted towards coming to know someone...I think not. Some relationships may be free in the sense that you are not paying for it financially,but none the less it does require time and energy,and those are priceless commodities,so tell me why is it that so many of you possess such a vehement distaste towards investing your finances along with your time and energy towards the development of a D's relationship?

Do you hold to the stance of high moral grounds such as "paying to serve is no different than engaging a prostitute" or the more pseudological theory that is if one loves an activity that they would participate simply for the love of it? Perhaps in your erroneously skewed view you are equating serving with the popular porn versions of femdom you see on the internet. If so,then allow me to educate you upon the fact that what you see is not real. No not as in what you see is one of your more detailed fantasies,but in essence yes it is a fantasy. Ask with your big head "Do I really believe that females run around all of the time in the bedroom breasts on display,corset applied,stilettos strapped up to match their strap on,just salivating at the though of having a male specimen there to play with his dick,and fuck him in the ass"? Seriously does that scenario even sound realistic? If your response is yes,then you need to double up on your medication today. The scene I described is merely a script written for entertainment value...to sell to a customer base. Sex sells especially to males which is something advertisers have known for eons,so why would you not grasp that the producers of femdom porn are playing to the weakness of males,and making massive bank from it. My point being that service is not sexually based,meaning that your expectations should not involve intercourse at all,and most likely you will never even view your owner in  flagrante,nor in the all natural state of undress either,which is what you pay a prostitute for. You pay a lady of the night for the fulfillment of sexual services. You tribute a Domina in the hopes that you please her in a non-sexual manner. No sex,no payment,just a contribution towards her happiness,and no sex=no prostitution.

In regards to the loving what you do,so why not do it for free angle. Let's be frank here. I absolutely love my outside job,but would I labor at it for free,no. Why,well because I value myself and my time,ergo why would I give myself away in such a manner? I see the role described as that of a slave. It is the position of a slave to toil for me and other superior women non gratis,not for us to do so for the pleasure of a lowly male. I am not the provider of free based male gratification,as that would designate myself to that of an inferior position,which would not suit me well. I am an alpha female. I lead,not follow. I command,not obey. I reign,not supplicate to actions which serve the libido of males.

It all boils down to you being the beta within the hierarchy structure,and it is your place to serve your superiors in a worshipful,and enriching manner,however that may be that they require. The decision is not yours to make as to how you please them,only whether you choose to serve,so if your pubescent intellect does not allow for you to comprehend the dynamics of enslaving yourself into the service of one whom expects to rule all aspects of your life(financial included),then run along and twiddle yourself in privacy whilst your submissive souled counterparts embrace the reality of actual service.