Commercialized fetish

Welcome to all who have found themselves here :)

Take a seat on my couch, relax, and prepare yourself for some hard cold truths today.

Day in, day out tends to blur into a revolving screen of repetitiveness when it comes to the fetish scene. The majority of what I see are complaints. Disgruntlements lodged by females and males alike. Of course they differ in the wording somewhat, but they all boil down to the same basis.

Before I get into the nitty gritty, allow me to share this disclaimer
*Not all women, and not all men*

Now that we have gotten that piece of business out of the way, let's delve into the pot shall we?

The findom, and a greater aspect of the femdom you see playing out online is commercialized. Meaning that it is a business. An occupation. A source of livelihood. It is about the financial return upon products advertised. In these cases, the product is a fantasy. Men are the customers, and women are the sellers of fantasies, whether that be via clips, or sessions. This is why broke and fetish do not mix. No money means no product purchased, and that negates the need for existence in the scene. 

This is reality, and regardless if you like it or not, it is just the way it is. You cannot change that which is inexorable. Accept, adapt, or give up. Those are your only options. 

The overwhelming majority of people do NOT work for free. Do you? Bills must be paid and food must be bought. Compensation for time spent and effort expended is not an option, it is a requirement, and anyone attempting to procure a service sans the intention of rendering payment is a scammer. Are you a scammer?


For those whom cannot afford to pay, you honestly have no place here. I realize that you do not want to hear the truth of it, but it has to be said. Fetish is a luxury, and luxury has never been cost efficient.

It is comparative to vanilla dating in a financial sense. No money equals no date. Women are not seeking out men who bring nothing to the relationship other than their cock. The desire to be spoiled with gifts is in the very nature of women, so if you are not gifting(paying), you are not getting anywhere with women. This is why you are single, and this is why you will remain that way til you are able to do so.

The worst thing you can do in this situation is to get angry with women over it. It is not a woman's fault that she prefers men who are financially able and willing to enrich her life. The fault lies with you. Work harder, do better, earn more. Go back to school, snag overtime, seek out a second job if you have to, but do something, cause sitting back being pissed off at women will get you no where.  Do you want to end up a lonely miserable misogynistic bitter incel?

Okay my Ladies, your turn.
Men in the scene do not give a flying fig about you, your circumstances, or your future. It doesn't matter to them if you are having a difficult time, or in desperate straights. They are here for the fantasy, and that is all. You exist to sate their desires, and when they walk away from the computer, you cease to exist in their minds. Sounds cold and sterile eh? It is the way of it though.

Do you think customers shopping in a brick and mortar store sit around thinking about how that business is doing financially, or even care if that business will be there the next time they want to shop, other than it being a minor inconvenience if they have to seek out a new store to shop at? This is the reality you face in the fetish scene. Men do not tend to be brand loyal. Their attention ebbs and flows when the market is saturated with an endless supply of shiny objects. Yes, you are more than that, but to men, you are not. They are just as happy to slip into someone else's inbox as they were yours. In fact, they thrill to the adventure of trying someone new, so please please please, do not place your hopes, dreams, and financial future in their single basket. Diversify :)

I am not going to get into the whys or hows the scene came to be this way, for it matters not since it would be damn near impossible to alter the course set at this point, and it would be cruel of me to mislead any of you as to the reality of how the fetish scene works right now. You can opt in, or opt out, but complaining about it serves no purpose. Accept, adapt, or give up.

The worst thing you can do at this point is complain about timewasters, advertise your inability to make rent, beg for money, or bitch about other women. You are selling a fantasy, not a sob story.

I hate to end posts on a negative note, so allow me to spread some positivity here. If you are a man, and you are willing to spend, you are golden, and if you are a woman who has a fantasy to sell, you are diamond!!