Don't lie to a FemDomme,Don't lie to a FinDomme,Don't lie to a woman

Welcome pets..welcome to the sanctum of Mz Sydney

Do you know what the ugliest words ever spoken in the English language are? Lies..lies are ugly,profane,and abhorrent. Do you know why they are so very offensive to the recipient?

Honesty is a free of charge commodity. It will not cost you even one shiny nickel to gift someone with a grain of truth,so why go to the expense of wasting time (most valuable commodity) thinking up,and conveying a lie instead? It is senseless and insulting to do so. 

I have always wondered if perhaps that the males who have attempted (note that I employed the word attempted) to lie to me are just that ignorant,or thought me that ignorant. I guarantee you that at my mature age I am not  prone to swallowing BS. It does not go down well,nor taste lovely..so no,no I will not take a spoonful.

I have been told so many useless lies that I could pen a book full of them. Is that not horrid? I think so. As a woman I am subjected to lies..as a FemDomme I am the receiver of lies..as a FinDomme I am the designated heir to lies. Differing scenarios,and a multitude of untruths.

One of the most sacred rules of serving me is that the prospective servant be honest. Honesty is highly valued by me. Honesty with me,and with yourself is a gift,for it is selfishly hoarded in most relationships sadly. A single lie possesses the power to ruin any chance one has of serving me in any capacity for

The reasons behind lies are selfish ones. They are always self-serving,and that is not the behavior of a desired submissive. The world is chalk full of liars..do not allow yourself to emulate them. It dishonors you,and the one you hope to serve.

An example from today's list of lies
1)I am too poor to serve you financially,but I would love to serve you for free. 
Now sure you may be saying "he really could be too poor to serve",but allow me to ask you a few questions. a)how can he afford internet service? b)Why would he come to me knowing that I am a FinDomme if he has no intentions of serving me financially? c)Why does he admit with his statement that he is a lazy fuck unwilling to go out and earn the capital to serve me properly?

Of course those peeking in at the Findom mirror might concur that I am being cruelly selfish only considering myself,and my desires for tangible service,but then I would ask you,how can any male who lives on an entirely different continent than I, serve any useful purpose if not tributing? He certainly cannot mow my lawn,run my errands,scrub my toilet etc...so basically all he is offering me is that which he wants,and that dear readers is what selfish people do. They take and take,and never give as they should. Would you if you were a Domme want this male serving you? If you answered yes,then I am all too happy to lead you in his direction.

Do you know what really sucks about lies? You get caught in them,and how you respond at that point seriously calls your maturity into question.

I cannot count on fingers and toes how many times I have been verbally abused for calling someone out on their lies. Is it common for most people to act as if it never happened? If so,than I am sadly antiquated,for I believe in calling a spade a spade.

In conclusion pets..never tell a lie,but most of all NEVER tell a lie to a Domme that has been around the block a few times :)

Judgement by default is your fault

Have you ever wondered why people online treat you like a piece of offal,even when that is not your fetish, boys? Human beings are flawed in nature,and have a tendency to judge others,by their words,actions,hell even by their car,home,or clothing..but online the last few really aren't tangible factors,for who other than you truly knows which possessions are yours or made up? Yes shockingly it is true that people lie online,especially in the findom realm. They fabricate luxurious lifestyles like those of the rich and famous,all the while hiding out in their infested shanty. They claim bill gate's bank balance even though they lack 2 nickels to rub together,hard to believe isn't it!!

The sad part is that honestly no one is fooled,and if they are,then I have a bozo button for them. I understand why it is perpetrated though. Males in society are judged by their possessions or lack thereof,therefore when they encounter a situation where they believe that they can fudge and get away with it,the temptation rules their better senses. Doesn't that one song speak of how you can be anything or anyone online,after all who will know right lol.

Well the truth is that it is quite telling who is being dishonest. First,people that possess an abundance of money,do not announce it(it is considered low class to do so),so red flags should appear anytime a male claims to be rich,or promise a windfall of tribute. Second,when a male refuses to share a facial photo(even after a few interactions) is a huge clue that he is hiding something vital,and considering that most Ladies I know aren't seeking to make a romantic connection with their servants(with only the delusional thinking elsewise)so what could they be hiding other than a Quasimodo appearance? I am always skeptical myself when I have no visual of who is serving me,thoughts bounce through my head like(are they underage,are they a serial killer,a stalker,my next door neighbor lol)

Some even lie about their gender,as in attempting to impersonate a female character,all the while holding their ding dong in their hand..this one is perhaps the most pathetic,for women are divine creatures to be held in the highest regard,unlike those who swing freely in their pants. Yes I just said that. I do see you as inferior to women,I have never made a secret of that,and no it is not a game I play at online. Those that play this game tend to ask Dommes to be their mentor(teach them what they do)or ask them to share stories about how they dominate submissives(yup they get off on living vicariously through another's experience).

They lie about what they will do ie:I will send a tribute lol(a tribute isn't real til the gift card is in your account,or the gift is in your hands),or I want to serve you,yet all that encompasses their mind is what they can get from a woman to sate their raging hard on(oh me so horny thinking,all they want to talk about is what turns them on),they even lie about their very name...oh yes the fetish world is overpopulated with john doe's,and john smith's.

There is a gigantic list of deceit executed by masses daily online(both sexes,sorry)but those who live in reality see the truth beneath the facade,which just may be why you receive what you deem unfair treatment,but in my eyes liars deserve nothing but scorn and ridicule,sorry not sorry. Moral of this post,DO NOT LIE!! To receive decent treatment,then you must first be decent.

To any that feel my comments are oh so negative in nature,they truly aren't since they are based in reality,no need to sugar coat a turd(it stinks even when you sprinkle pixie sticks on it),and the promotion of integrity in my opinion is a positive notion :)

The richest qualities and traits of a servant

I have taken a moment to compile a list of the most desirable qualities and traits of which a servant/submissive/slave should possess if they are truly to be an asset to whom they serve.

Integrity
Loyalty
humility
discipline
honesty
generosity
Intelligence
Courage
Mental&emotional maturity&stability
sincerity
gratitude
consistency
selflessness

Notice that integrity is listed first,as I find it to be the most significant. The remaining are typed into the order in which they entered my thoughts.

Why is integrity of such importance? Integrity to me means that an individual will conduct themselves and their behavior in an honest and sincere manner. They adhere to a code of ethics which would instill self-discipline and loyalty due to morals. It takes one whom possesses a strength of character to act with integrity,for they are not swayed by temptation,nor susceptible to weakness which would lead them from the path they know to be correct.

Loyalty for the purpose of service means that one is faithfully devoted to their owner,and strictly adheres to their commitment.

Humility: A humble servant is modest in word and deed,knowing that he serves a superior woman,therefore boasting is ill received.

Discipline A servant whom is disciplined in mind(no I am not referring to corporal punishment or mind control) is one that possesses self-control,thereby allowing him to act with integrity.

Honesty is used interchangeably by many with integrity,but remember integrity is how you conduct yourself,and honesty is adherence to facts...meaning that an honest servant will not utter a lie,nor speak deceitfully. This is another huge one for you boys. Only those whom are dishonest make promises they knowingly or willingly will not keep.

Generosity is a trait most valued especially in financial domination,but it is not contained to it. A servant that is generous will give of his time,energy,and finances. He is not a scrooge that gives nothing,and expects it all.

Intelligence: According to the multiple intelligence overview there are 9 count them 9 types of intelligence. Intelligence is beautiful! An intelligent servant offers more than financial contributions(but one does not replace the other). Being able to converse with a servant upon absolutely non-fetish related subjects is refreshing and rare.

Courage: It takes courage to kneel before another. You are trusting them to lead you. You are giving up yourself(power) to them. Courage bows before their owner,whilst cowardice scurries away like a timid mouse.

Mental&emotional maturity&stability: What a mouthful :) It boils down to being able to deal with life and relationships even those of the D's variety without resorting to childish antics (brattiness ie throwing fits when you do not get your way,or worse yet passive aggressive behavior). Both behaviors are unacceptable and immature.

Sincerity is a virtue which promotes acting in a "real" manner,one that is true to how they feel and think(no hypocrisy). It is being both honest and pure.

Gratitude: The act of being thankful. A worthy servant is grateful to have the opportunity to serve. They display their gratitude willingly and without coercion.

Consistency is enacted through the everyday actions of a servant. They provide a continuity of service and tribute sans interruption not related to health or well being. They do not serve one Lady one day,then be off to another the next.

Last but certainly NOT least is selflessness. Selflessness is apparent when a servant serves with no thought of what they may get out of their actions,or in the case of findom,their tribute. They serve because it is who and what they are,not because they are looking to get something out of it,other than the honor of being of use,and their actions bringing happiness to another.


These are only but a few of the ones which came readily to mind. If you have others,then do feel free to enlighten me :)