Evolution

Today is in response to a prevalent query which I receive

1)What must I do to serve you?

You would think that a question such as this would never be needed considering all of the blogs I have composed and commentary I have posted on various sites,yet it remains a repetitive question put to me,so here I sit wracking my brain in order to make my thoughts and expectations more clear than previously.

To serve me is the greatest of honors for a submissive male,for my standards are elevated,and my requirements far above average. I would never accept just any schmuck beneath my feet(it should go without saying that I consider all males inferior to myself),which means that to be privileged enough to call yourself mine,that you are going to have to be someone special. Special means more than a thick wallet(that doesn't hurt though),nor does it refer to having overly large penile endowments(don't care about your penis).

You must be extraordinary. You must have already embraced the fact that to serve me is not to serve your own fetishes. I am not here to listen to the list of depravities which revolve around what excites your penis. I am beyond that,and so must you be if you are ever to serve me. Serving me requires an evolution of the male psyche. Submissives of mine are free from the burdens of patriarchal entitlement issues,nor are they any longer mired down in the stench and selfishness of self. They have come to the realization of true purpose,and altruistic giving of themselves.

They thrive upon my happiness. Their universe revolves around ME. They possess self discipline,and require not my every moment holding their hand,as they know fully what it means to serve. They are intelligent enough to know that serving can never be about them,for than it would not actually be serving(unless you count serving yourself,I don't). Are you catching of glimpse by what I mean when I say special?

Males in the fetish scene today are primarily not submissive,instead are what they style as "bedroom submissives" or hit and quit boys(they get in,get a nut off and go). I hold no interest in any male who is not about what makes me happy,and catering to a male's wants,or sexualizing his interactions with me,does not make me smile. It is the most rare of males who can reach the pinnacle I seek them to kneel upon,so if that is not you,then do not waste time with needless questions. Take some time to work through your flaws,and then come to me,not before.

Of course my words are not pleasing to a great many males,but atleast I am honest about my intentions,and employ no subterfuge. I make no claims that I am here to sate your sexual fantasies,nor that I want to ensure your satisfaction(I am not a customer service oriented business,not even a business at all). To me,femdom will always be about pleasing the female,in the manner SHE chooses. In my eyes it is not a fetishized pornographical scheme wherein the penis rules. I am not here to get you off,or see to your wants. Got it??

Hopefully I have answered the query in a concise manner..oh and I shall leave you with a quote that I am quite fond of,just in case you still didn't get it.

“The only gift I have to give,is the ability to receive.If giving is a gift,and it surely is,then my gift to you is to allow you to give to me.”  

The richest qualities and traits of a servant

I have taken a moment to compile a list of the most desirable qualities and traits of which a servant/submissive/slave should possess if they are truly to be an asset to whom they serve.

Integrity
Loyalty
humility
discipline
honesty
generosity
Intelligence
Courage
Mental&emotional maturity&stability
sincerity
gratitude
consistency
selflessness

Notice that integrity is listed first,as I find it to be the most significant. The remaining are typed into the order in which they entered my thoughts.

Why is integrity of such importance? Integrity to me means that an individual will conduct themselves and their behavior in an honest and sincere manner. They adhere to a code of ethics which would instill self-discipline and loyalty due to morals. It takes one whom possesses a strength of character to act with integrity,for they are not swayed by temptation,nor susceptible to weakness which would lead them from the path they know to be correct.

Loyalty for the purpose of service means that one is faithfully devoted to their owner,and strictly adheres to their commitment.

Humility: A humble servant is modest in word and deed,knowing that he serves a superior woman,therefore boasting is ill received.

Discipline A servant whom is disciplined in mind(no I am not referring to corporal punishment or mind control) is one that possesses self-control,thereby allowing him to act with integrity.

Honesty is used interchangeably by many with integrity,but remember integrity is how you conduct yourself,and honesty is adherence to facts...meaning that an honest servant will not utter a lie,nor speak deceitfully. This is another huge one for you boys. Only those whom are dishonest make promises they knowingly or willingly will not keep.

Generosity is a trait most valued especially in financial domination,but it is not contained to it. A servant that is generous will give of his time,energy,and finances. He is not a scrooge that gives nothing,and expects it all.

Intelligence: According to the multiple intelligence overview there are 9 count them 9 types of intelligence. Intelligence is beautiful! An intelligent servant offers more than financial contributions(but one does not replace the other). Being able to converse with a servant upon absolutely non-fetish related subjects is refreshing and rare.

Courage: It takes courage to kneel before another. You are trusting them to lead you. You are giving up yourself(power) to them. Courage bows before their owner,whilst cowardice scurries away like a timid mouse.

Mental&emotional maturity&stability: What a mouthful :) It boils down to being able to deal with life and relationships even those of the D's variety without resorting to childish antics (brattiness ie throwing fits when you do not get your way,or worse yet passive aggressive behavior). Both behaviors are unacceptable and immature.

Sincerity is a virtue which promotes acting in a "real" manner,one that is true to how they feel and think(no hypocrisy). It is being both honest and pure.

Gratitude: The act of being thankful. A worthy servant is grateful to have the opportunity to serve. They display their gratitude willingly and without coercion.

Consistency is enacted through the everyday actions of a servant. They provide a continuity of service and tribute sans interruption not related to health or well being. They do not serve one Lady one day,then be off to another the next.

Last but certainly NOT least is selflessness. Selflessness is apparent when a servant serves with no thought of what they may get out of their actions,or in the case of findom,their tribute. They serve because it is who and what they are,not because they are looking to get something out of it,other than the honor of being of use,and their actions bringing happiness to another.


These are only but a few of the ones which came readily to mind. If you have others,then do feel free to enlighten me :)